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The Adoption Connection | a podcast by and for adoptive parents

If you’re an adoptive parent looking for hope, practical tools, and friends who understand, this podcast is for you! Between the two of us, we represent all three parts of the adoption triad. We’ve been around the block a couple times with kids by birth, adoption, and foster care. And lived to tell about it. Don’t worry. We get it. And we’re here for you. Gain confidence in your parenting and hope for your family’s future.

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#61: A Transracial Adoptee’s Thoughts on Growing Up Black in a White Family

If you could have a candid conversation with a transracially adopted young black man, what would you want to ask him?This is the question we asked members of our Facebook group prior to Lisa's interview with Derek Hamer. He shares his story with vulnerability that helps us see through his eyes.Relevant Resources and Links:Waking Up White: and Finding Myself in the Story of Race* by Debby IrvingThe Skin I'm In* by Sharon FlakeNo One Ever Asked* by Katie GanshertThe Color of Us* by Karen KatzWhy are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? * by Beverly Daniel TatumThe Adoption Connection Facebook Group*affiliate link

1hr 4mins

5 Nov 2019

Rank #1

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# 41: Mentally Preparing For Your Adoption or Fostering Journey – The 11 most important things you need to know

If you've ever wanted to ask experienced adoptive and foster moms what they would recommend you do before bringing new children into your family, this episode is for you.If you are in the midst of fostering or adopting, you'll get fresh ideas to help you as you parent and love your kids.Today we're talking about 11 things you can do to prepare mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually for being an adoptive/foster parent.The 11 Most Important Things You Need to Know1. Take care of yourself and your marriage.2. Have realistic expectations.3. Understand what you can control - and what you can't.4. Be flexible.5. Educate yourself.6. Define success appropriately.7. Remember that what's normal for you may not be normal for your kids.8. Be mindful that your kids' perception is their reality.9. Embrace radical acceptance.10. Understand your history and how it affects your parenting.11. Remember it's a marathon and not a sprint.Serenity Prayer:God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;Courage to change the things I can:And wisdom to know the difference.Links Relevant to this episode:The Adoption Connection Facebook groupEpisode 09: Are Newborn Adoptions Easier? (with Rebecca Vahle)Episode 31: 7 Ways for Parents to Relieve a Stressed-Out BrainEpisode 40: Parenting Kids with FASDs and Invisible Disabilities Successfully with Eileen DevineMelissa's post that shows the pyramid where we need to be the solid foundationThe Connected Child * by Karyn PurvisBooks by Dan Siegel *Books by Daniel Hughes *8 Ways to Help an Adoptive or Foster Mom*This is an affiliate link. Thanks for supporting our work!

40mins

4 Jun 2019

Rank #2

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[Refresh Rewind] A Transracial Adoptee’s Thoughts on Growing Up Black in a White Family with Derek Hamer

If you could have a candid conversation with a transracially adopted young black man, what would you want to ask him?This is the question we asked members of our Facebook group prior to Lisa's interview with Derek Hamer. He shares his story with vulnerability that helps us see through his eyes.Relevant Resources and Links:Waking Up White: and Finding Myself in the Story of Race* by Debby IrvingThe Skin I'm In* by Sharon FlakeNo One Ever Asked* by Katie GanshertThe Color of Us* by Karen KatzWhy are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? * by Beverly Daniel TatumThe Adoption Connection Facebook Group*affiliate link

1hr 5mins

3 Mar 2020

Rank #3

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#51: The Truth About RAD with Karen Buckwalter

Are you coping with really challenging behaviors with your child and searching for help? Often, as parents, we're looking for a diagnosis that will give words and validity to what we're seeing in our kids.If you have questions about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), the impact of trauma, or similar issues, you'll appreciate hearing from Karen Buckwalter, a therapist with decades of experience specializing in trauma and attachment.Relevant Resources and Links:Karen on LinkedInChaddock on FacebookChaddock's websiteParenting from the Inside Out by Dan Siegel*Daniel Hughes, Ph.D. and Dyadic Developmental PsychotherapyThe Theraplay InstituteEMDRThe Safe and Sound Protocol

51mins

20 Aug 2019

Rank #4

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#40: Parenting Kids with FASDs and Invisible Disabilities Successfully with Eileen Devine

If your child's brain has been affected by prenatal exposure to alcohol, drugs, extreme stress, or other factors, there are 8 areas of brain function that may be affected:Developmental level of functioning: Social skills and adaptive behaviorSensory systems, sensory-motor integrationNutritionLanguage and communicationProcessing paceLearning and MemoryAbstract thinkingExecutive functioningDon't miss this interview with Eileen Devine, LCSW, an expert on FASDs.She discusses the challenges for kids with brain differences and their parents and offers helpful strategies that really work!Links Relevant to this episode:Visit Eileen's BlogConnect with Eileen on FacebookConnect with Eileen on InstagramTrying Differently Rather Than Harder: Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders* by Diane MalbinVideo for Teachers by Nate SheetsIra Chasnoff's WebsiteThe Mystery of Risk: Drugs, Alcohol, Pregnancy, and the Vulnerable Child* by Ira ChasnoffFacebook group: Shifting the paradigm: towards a neuro-behavioral approach to FASD*This is an affiliate link

54mins

28 May 2019

Rank #5

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#67: An Unexpected Open Adoption with Tonya Dixon

What would you do if your young child asked you to find her birth father? Our guest today experienced that exact situation when her young daughter told her she wanted to see her birth father.The relationship with her daughter's birth mom had already evolved from being nearly closed to completely open. But this was a big step.Listen as Tonya shares her story of listening, trusting God, and putting her child's needs above her personal comfort.Books Tonya Recommends:In Their Own Voices*In Their Parents’ Voices*In Their Siblings’ Voices*All By Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda*The Open Adoption: A Birth Father's Journey* by Darrick C. RizzoGod Found Us You*  by Lisa Tawn BergenTween magazine, For Girls Like You, had an issue on adoption.  March/April 2019.Relevant Links:The Adoption Connection Facebook Group*Affiliate links

43mins

7 Jan 2020

Rank #6

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#49: Talking Honestly about Adoption with Mike Berry

Do you ever wish you had an experienced adoptive/foster parent available to answer your questions night or day? If you do, you're going to love hearing from Mike Berry about the new book he and his wife, Kristin, wrote.Honestly Adoption: Answers to 101 Questions about Adoption and Foster Care is being released today, August 6, 2019! Each question is its own chapter so it's easy to find answers right when you need them.Don't miss this fun and interesting interview as Mike shares their purpose in writing this book and even also tells us a little about the process.Relevant Resources and Links:Order the book and get some bonusesMike and Kristin's webiste#22: Winning the Heart of Your Child with Mike Berry#38: Fostering and Adopting Teens with Kristin Berry#24: My 2 Parts in the Triad: Melissa’s Story of Being an Adoptee and Adoptive Mom#47: Lessons in Parenting from Adult Adoptee and Adoptive Mom Jeri Lea Kroll

35mins

6 Aug 2019

Rank #7

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#60: [Mentor Moment] How Do I Increase My Child’s Felt Safety?

Mentor Moments give you a chance to join the conversation as we answer a listener question. These episodes guarantee we're providing the most helpful tools and resources for exactly where you are.This week's question is:My child seems nervous and worried a lot. How can I increase his felt safety?Be attuned.Name it to tame it.Give voice.Validate emotions.Offer appropriate control.Match arousal energy in a controlled way.Stay playful.Remain curious.Be consistent.Keep it concrete.Less is more.Speak your child's Love Language.Consider the Safe and Sound Protocol.Share your experience and advice in our private Facebook group. Click here to join.Do you have a question you'd like us to answer on a future episode? Call our listener hotline, 24 hours a day, at (208) 741-3880 to record your question.Relevant LinksFaith, Hope, & Connection Devotional5 Love Languages QuizSafe and Sound Protocol

20mins

29 Oct 2019

Rank #8

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#77: Accepting Our Kids Without Giving Up on Them with Eileen Devine

Do you ever wonder if you're expecting too much from your child? Or maybe too little? How can you support your child and have appropriate expectations? Eileen Devine, LCSW, joins us today to talk about radical acceptance from a neurobehavioral model. She offers practical tips you're doing to love.Relevant Links:FREE Parenting Reflection JournalEileen's WebsiteConnect with Eileen on FBConnect with Eileen on InstagramRising Strong by Brene Brown*The Adoption Connection Facebook GroupThe Village*This is an affiliate link

48mins

24 Mar 2020

Rank #9

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#42: Practically Preparing For Your Adoption or Fostering Journey – The 6 most important things you need to do

If you've ever wanted to ask experienced adoptive and foster moms what practical things they would recommend you do before bringing new children into your family, this episode is for you.If you are in the midst of fostering or adopting, you'll get fresh ideas to help you as you parent and love your kids.This is the second half of a discussion we began last week about preparing to become foster or adoptive parents.Last week, we discussed internal preparations: mental, emotional, and spiritual.Today we're talking about the 6 most important practical things you can do to prepare for being an adoptive/foster parent.1. Simplify your life - your stuff and your schedule.2. Get all the "things" done beforehand.3. Build your tribe.4. Prepare answers for hard or ignorant questions.5. Consider all of your children's safety.6. Plan some fun while you wait.Links Relevant to this episode:The Adoption Connection Facebook groupEpisode 04: How to Talk to Your Kids About Their StoryEpisode 41: Mentally Preparing For Your Adoption or Fostering Journey – The 11 most important things you need to know8 Ways to Help an Adoptive or Foster MomWhat to Look for in a Mental Health ProfessionalVideo Melissa used to prep her friend's tribeW.I.S.E. Up! Book

32mins

11 Jun 2019

Rank #10

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#43: Setting Realistic Expectations to Help Your Child Succeed with Deb Jones

Today's episode is for every mom with kids from "hard places" and especially moms whose children have brain differences due to trauma, prenatal exposure, or other factors.Debbie Jones is the adoptive mom of a young adult son with FASD. Today she shares her wisdom and wealth of experience with setting realistic expectations for our children in order to help them succeed.Her story is honest, real, and filled with hope. Don't miss it!Links Relevant to this episode:Connect with Deb on FacebookGod, Are You Nice or Mean?: Trusting God . . . After the Orphanage* by Deb Jones#40: Parenting Kids with FASDs and Invisible Disabilities Successfully with Eileen Devine*This is an affiliate link *If you’re already on our email list, you automatically receive each week’s download in our Quick Connection email.

44mins

18 Jun 2019

Rank #11

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#66: Can Neurofeedback Help Your Adopted Child? (with Sarah Jordan)

What if you could understand more of how your child's brain functions? What if you could even map it?Today's guest, Sarah Jordan, is a therapist and neurofeedback practitioner. She does a great job explaining neurofeedback and answering questions about how it can be used to help children.Relevant Resources and Links:Big Boo Cast: Episode 161 – Holiday Gift Guide Volume 1Big Boo Cast: Episode 162 Part 2 of the Gift Guide for Men and WomenNeurotherapy Northwest WebsiteNeurotherapy on FacebookBiofeedback Certification International AllianceRecommended Insurance Code: 90901Join us for 30 Days of Hope in JanuaryBuy Faith, Hope, & Connection.Join our Facebook group.

38mins

17 Dec 2019

Rank #12

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#71: Creating Daily Practices for Strong Family Relationships with Beth Guckenberger

Sometimes you have a guest who can speak to so many topics, you don't know where to start. Lisa had the privilege of interviewing author, speaker, and minstry leader, Beth Guckenberger.Beth shares wisdom and a unique perspective on marriage for all parents, especially those with demanding schedules and/or parenting kids with unique needs.Relevant Links:Join the Compassion ChallengeSome of Beth's books:Start with Amen: How I Learned to Surrender by Keeping the End in Mind*Reckless Faith | A 40 Day Journey to Saying Yes *Tales of the Not Forgotten*Connect with Beth on her website.Connect with Beth at Back2Back Connect with Beth on Instagram*This is an affiliate link.

45mins

4 Feb 2020

Rank #13

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#52: [Mentor Moment] What Are The Best Ways To Bond With An Adopted Toddler?

Mentor Moments give you a chance to join the conversation as we answer a listener question. These episodes guarantee we're providing the most helpful tools and resources for exactly where you are.This week's question is:My biggest parenting challenge is bonding with my toddler. Can you give me some suggestions?Share your experience and advice in our private Facebook group. Click here to join.Do you have a question you'd like us to answer on a future episode? Call our listener hotline, 24 hours a day, at (208) 741-3880 to record your question.Related ResourcesI Love You Rituals by Becky Bailey**this is an affiliate link.

8mins

27 Aug 2019

Rank #14

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#59: Avoiding Hidden Triggers in Media for Adoptive Families with Darren Fink

Parents are often caught by surprise when they stumble upon themes of children being separated from parents, death of parents, adoption, and similar themes in media.If we had only known, we could have prepared our kids and talked with them about it. We could have made an informed choice about watching that movie or reading that book.Don't miss today's interview with Darren Fink who, together with his wife, Margie, has created a resource for parents with trauma-informed reviews of book, movies, and other media. Their reviews equip parents to connect with and understand their children from traumatic backgrounds.Relevant Resources and Links:Try Transfiguring Adoption Reviews for free*Transfiguring Adoption on InstagramTransfiguring Adoption on Facebook*affiliate link

44mins

22 Oct 2019

Rank #15

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#47: Lessons in Parenting from Adult Adoptee and Adoptive Mom Jeri Lea Kroll

If you're anything like us, you love adoption stories, especially when told by different members of the adoption triad.You'll especially love hearing today's guest, Jeri Lea Kroll, tell her story of being an adoptee and later becoming an adoptive mom. We were captivated. Jeri Lea is also a therapist; you can imagine how rich this interview is.Don't miss this one if you want to understand the adoptee perspective, and how her experience impacts that way she parents her daughter.Relevant Resources and Links:#24: My 2 Parts in the Triad: Melissa’s Story of Being an Adoptee and Adoptive MomJeri Lea's websiteVisit Jeri Lea on Facebook

46mins

23 Jul 2019

Rank #16

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[Winter Rewind] Parenting Teens and Young Adults with the Future in Mind

Do you have teens or young adults? We get more questions about parenting this group than any other. We both currently have teens at home and have launched several of our young adults. Parenting teens and young adults has unique rewards and challenges, especially when our teens have experienced trauma and adverse experiences. We’ve learned from our mistakes and successes.In the end, it all comes down to one key thing and we can’t wait to tell you about it. Don’t miss this episode about parenting with the future in mind!Additional posts about parenting teens and young adultsOlder Child Adoption | What I Would Have Done Differently10 Disastrous Mistakes Parents Make in Older Child AdoptionOlder Child Adoption | What We Did RightMore Lessons in Older Child Adoption12 Practical Tips for Parenting TeensA Three-Point Plan for Parenting Middle Schoolers

35mins

31 Dec 2019

Rank #17

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#70: [Mentor Moment] What Do We Do When Kids Don’t Care About Consequences?

Mentor Moments give you a chance to join the conversation as we answer a listener question. These episodes guarantee we're providing the most helpful tools and resources for exactly where you are.This week's question is:What Do We Do When Kids Don't Care About Consequences?Share your experience and advice in our private Facebook group or ask your own question for a future episode. Click here to join.Relevant LinksThe Compassion Challenge

14mins

28 Jan 2020

Rank #18