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The Big Wedding Planning Podcast

2 fun-loving, wildly experienced Wedding Consultants share their deepest, darkest secrets to help you plan your wedding. You'll learn a lot. Laugh even more. And most importantly get the inside scoop on how to make the most of your big day. Inclusivity is of the utmost importance to us, so this podcast is for EVERYONE.This is not your traditional wedding blog. Trust us. You can't make this stuff up. Email us your questions and we will answer! thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.comIf you love our show, please call us and leave a message! You might hear yourself on the show. (415) 723-1625

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#94 10(ish) Things Wedding Planners Want Clients To Know

We’re getting personal on this one! We’re wedding planners. You know that, right? But what do we WEDDING PLANNERS really think about our clients? What do we wish you knew? What drives us crazy?! We’re gonna tell you. Buckle up. Big Takeaways 10(ish) Things Wedding Planners Wish Clients Knew **Listen to the episode for our elaborations! Come Prepared to a wedding meeting. Especially if it’s an initial consultation. Look at the vendor’s website at the VERY least. Communication is VITAL. We’re talking about between the client and planner, but it goes for life generally too. Be open, be honest. Make decisions! In a timely fashion. When you hem-and-haw, you frustrate everyone and you slow down the process of wedding planning. Yes, there are big decisions...there are also deadlines. Embrace the deadlines Once you find what you are looking for, stop looking. Instead of a hard number for your budget, have a range. Make sure you have the funds for the TOP of your budget range. You don’t need to let your vendors in on your entire decision-making process. Vendors need final decisions. Emailing them everytime you change your mind is probably not necessary and could muddle and confuse things. Keep it simple. Be smart about how you display your seating assignments! And don’t worry if someone cancels the day before the wedding...no need to mark up that perfect seating chart sign that you printed. BUFFER time. Know it, love it. You need it. Definitely consider the hair/makeup micro-timeline, and definitely consider the shuttle/transportation schedule. Be prepared for an extra 10-30 minutes of buffer time. Hair and Makeup stylist should stay past the ceremony if possible! 9.5. Embrace every moment. This is a challenge, so choose to practice mindfulness during the wedding planning process so that you are ready to live in the moment on your wedding day! Your wedding party shouldn’t act like assholes to your wedding planner. Links we referenced http://www.dreamalittledreamevents.com Quotes “We wouldn’t have done this at the beginning of the podcast, because it’s a little bit ‘circle of trust.’ We’re giving you OUR opinions about this wedding planner / couple relationship. We’re giving you the inside track.” - Christy, with the CliffNotes preface for today’s episode. Warning! It’s about to get candid. “It’s so important that you keep an open line of communication with your planner, whether it’s positive or negative. You’re not going to piss them off...and if you do, maybe you shouldn’t be working with that person.” - Michelle “You can go on to Pinterest and you can go down a black hole. Yes, be specific about what you want. Yes, aim high. But also...when you find it...say yes and turn the page. Once you find it, please stop looking.” - Christy on decision making “There’s Pinterest, and then there’s reality.” - Michelle - oh man, if we had a dime for everytime we said this… “Don’t you put your time constraints on me, wedding planner! I am a lash expert. And I have to make this perfect!” - Christy, imagining what makeup artists really want to say to us Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

58mins

4 Jul 2018

Rank #1

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#82 Financial Planning And Your Wedding

If you have listened to the podcast for a while, you know we talk about money A LOT. We have an entire episode dedicated to the budget breakdown and we discuss money/fees/costs/value with wedding industry pros we have on. We generally encourage you, our dear listeners, to create a realistic budget, temper insane expectations, stop comparing yourself to the Pinterest Joneses, follow your hearts, and to keep your eye on the prize. We do NOT think it’s a wise idea, or a worthwhile venture, to go into massive debt for your wedding. We try to remind you all to stay connected to your partner throughout the planning process and to strengthen your communication skills. All of this is to lay a foundation for a successful MARRIAGE - not just an awesome party. It’s stressful. It’s expensive. We get it! We’re here to help and today, we are taking a broader look at planning...wedding planning and financial planning. Life planning. Together. Dan wrote a guide titled ‘How to talk about Money with your Spouse: The Ultimate Guide.’ His business is called ‘Adulting With Money.’ Links below! Big Takeaways Dan is a financial COACH - that’s very different from an advisor, banker, stock broker…He is a professional that helps people (couples) create good habits and teaches the skills necessary to make good decisions financially. He helps couples learn how to lay the foundation and communicate with each other so they can collaborate on financial planning. Working together, playing on strengths. The work of financial planning and record keeping doesn’t have to be 50/50. One partner might be better at keeping track of expenses than the other. The ‘work’ can be 90/10, but the BIG expenses and decisions need to be 50/50. Joint accounts. Dan emphasizes that there are happy marriages all over the spectrum on this. But here is the typical successful situation that he’s seen: All the paychecks go to the joint account, and all the bills get paid from the joint account. Then have separate accounts to use for the "fun money" or "spending money". Often, many couples will also set up a few, smaller accounts to park money for a down payment or emergency fund. Fun money: do it! If you opt to combine bank accounts and have one main pool from which to draw from for big monthly bills, it’s a great idea to still keep a small account individually. It helps make people feel independent. You have may have to tweak the amount after some trial-and-error, but as a general rule, it’s a good idea. Where to start? Let’s say you’re engaged and you have about a year until your wedding. You want to start talking about budgeting and long term financial planning. Expect it to take about 3-4 months of trying and tweaking the numbers until you get to a do-able sweet spot. It takes some getting used to! Remember that the plan will evolve and that you will make mistakes, but keep your eye on the prize! You can’t predict the future. So start with some estimates and then keep track as best you can so that you can adjust as you go. Apps help! The links below are all budgeting apps and tools that couples can use to keep track of expenses and stay on the same page. Links we referenced Mint: https://www.mint.com/ (the gateway drug for budgeting) YNAB: https://www.youneedabudget.com/ EveryDollar: https://www.everydollar.com/ Mvelopes: https://www.mvelopes.com/ GoodBudget: https://goodbudget.com/ https://www.adultingwithmoney.com/bigwedding - This is Dan’s FREE guide! Quotes “The first thing you need to do is just sit down and have a conversation...Now that you’re together, what are your goals as individuals and how are you going to combine those now that you are going to be a family?” - Dan “If you’re worried about your partner hiding money from you...that’s not my wheelhouse.” - Dan “The good news is, there is no perfect way to budget. So you’re not doing it wrong!” - Dan, coming through with some optimism! “The skill becomes planning ahead, but when something goes wrong... sit down, have a 5 minute conversation, flip some things and then move on. Give yourself and your spouse some grace and some room to make mistakes.” - Dan, with advice we love Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcastSpecial Guest: Dan Hinz.Sponsored By: Promo Code: BIGWEDDING

58mins

18 Apr 2018

Rank #2

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#176 The Ceremony Layout

This is a learning episode! Today we are going to role-play our way through meeting with a month-of planner to perfect the ceremony layout! Everything from where to seat your guests, and how to format the processional. Big Takeaways Usually around 6-8 people fit in a row on either side of an aisle. Don’t stress about filling the front row. The photographer won’t capture an empty row, and they’ll be focusing on the couple and their parents. There are lots of dynamics to consider when filing the assigned seats. The planner can be a great guide to making sure you don’t have to think about these things last minute. Reserved seating does not need to be even on each side. While there is no right or wrong way to do things, your planner will have lots of info on how to make sure things work smoothly. Ask questions! Let them know your plans. Links we referenced zola.com/bigwedding - for your free personalized paper sample, and use code: SAVE50 to get 50% off your Save The Dates! Quotes “Somebody else, that has never seen anything about your wedding could run through the rehearsal with the ceremony layout in hand, that’s the goal. That’s how detailed and succinct it is.” - Christy “Adults do tend to get their shit together for one day, when it involves a really big day in their children’s lives. But sometimes, they don’t and you (the person getting married, who this day is all about) might have to just make the decision to not give it any of your attention.” - Christy Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

1hr 10mins

1 Jan 2020

Rank #3

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#143 Wedding Aesthetic. Where to begin?

The idea of designing a wedding is stressful! We’ve all been down a Pinterest hole or two, consumed with ideas and inspiration that just lead to more confusion and anxiety. Thankfully, there’s Kasey Kyprianou, a wedding designer, to help bring your significant other and your authentic selves into your big day. Through getting to know you on a more personal level, Kasey is able to transform your wishes into beautiful designs for everything from invitations to signage and more. Big Takeaways It is so important to have elements of what you love in your wedding. Even if you are bound by a budget, or by desires from family that is helping pay. The imagery and designs that Kasey makes can come with you to your florist and your cake designer and be used in every element to create a cohesive day. Custom design is around 5-10% of the overall budget. This number gives Kasey an idea of what and how much she can do. The baseline includes a three piece standard invitation, and there are many options for add-ons up to a full service custom design suite. Tips Think about what you love as a couple Reflect on experiences together that bring you joy Every element could matter, be yourself and enjoy the process Don’t let yourself be shamed, if you love it, use it, it’s your big day Links we referenced https://www.revelryandheart.com/ facebook.com/groups/tbwpp instagram.com/revelryandheart/ facebook.com/revelryandheart pinterest.com/revelryandheart/ https://www.facebook.com/revelryandheart/videos/vl.1491326007642819/691910450997725/?type=1 Quotes “A lot of couples get stuck, initially, on approaching it from the wrong direction and that’s what really gets them tied up.” - Kasey “Getting to know my couples is really where I get every ounce of my inspiration.” - Kasey “My mantra is that we follow hearts, not trends.” - Kasey “When you get something that’s an invitation, that is so the couple without it being a physical picture of the couple, like damn I have done a good job.” - Kasey “I’ve given you all the tools, now fly out of the nest yourself. You can do it.” - Christy Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcastSpecial Guest: Kasey Kyprianou.

57mins

22 May 2019

Rank #4

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#37 Rehearsals do NOT suck!

The rehearsal. Necessary? Yes! Fun? Totally! Well, maybe more necessary than fun, but hear us out. There are lots of reasons why a rehearsal is important, and it’s not just to run through the actual ceremony ‘script’. You need to do that, in some way, at a rehearsal, sure. But it’s also super important to gather your VIPs (wedding party, officiant, parents, readers…) Big Takeaways Religious or cultural ceremonies are sometimes ‘run’ by the church lady, or the priest or rabbi. For these weddings, planners have less to do, technically, but it’s still an opportunity for everyone in your wedding party to get on the same page. And it’s the planner’s job to distribute information, answer questions, and help wrangle and line everyone up. The first part of the rehearsal can feel a little like herding cats. But...better on the rehearsal than on the wedding day! We’re seeing more and more couples resistant to the idea of rehearsals. Smaller wedding parties, less religious ceremonies...busier couples? Some couples think that the rehearsal will take away from the wedding day, like it will feel robotic or something. Maybe rehearsals have just gotten a reputation for being boring and a waste of time. But we assure you, they aren’t! Trust us, we’re professionals. Rehearsals are particularly important if your officiant is not a ‘professional’ - and a lot of weddings these days are in this category. It will make the officiant feel more comfortable on the wedding day, and muscle memory will kick in on the wedding day. It’s good for everyone, we promise. Rings! Don’t let kids handle the rings. Just don’t. Not at the rehearsal, not at the wedding. Not on a train, not in the rain... Elements of a rehearsal 10 minutes - gather, wrangle, introduce everyone 30 minutes - ceremony cue to cue. Beginning with butts-in-seats in the first row or two (have your dad stand where he will sit on the wedding day. The flower girl’s mom needs to be in an aisle seat. Map it out and put people in their places physically. Make a ceremony seating chart. (You should write this down ahead of time.) Then you basically go through the beginnings and endings of the ceremony paragraphs...do NOT read verbatim the whole thing. Anytime there is a physical action - like exchanging rings - you practice it. You rehearse, get it? Practice lining up for the processional and walking in, and then practice the recessional. 30 minutes - Powwow. Share information so that everyone is on the same page on the wedding day. Arrival times, ‘getting ready’ plan, who is doing the first toast and when, etc. Remind the bride to eat and drink lots of water! Also, take time to make sure that ushers or greeters know their job. 10-30 minutes - STUFF. It’s your wedding, you’ll have stuff! Probably about a trunk-load, give or take. (Including but not limited to - toasting flutes, signage, jars filled w candy, your marriage license in it’s utilitarian manila envelope…) What if the venue isn’t available for a rehearsal? What if your officiant can’t come to a rehearsal? We still suggest you have a rehearsal - you need some space, and as many VIPs as possible. Have it at the time that the most people can come. Others can be brought up to speed on the wedding day. If possible, it helps to have 8 or so folding chairs to outline the space, the width of the aisle Hint - a rehearsal is smoothest if: There are as many people from the VIP category as possible. If ‘extra’ people are NOT there. If you have 5 bridesmaids and they have 5 boyfriends that are not in the wedding party...request that the boyfriends don’t attend the actual rehearsal. Links we referenced none Quotes “You’re a kiss ass, you brown-noser.” ~Michelle, to Christy, with love “I always tell my couples, if you want to hold hands, hold hands! If you want to wipe her tear away, wipe it away. And when you say your vows, do not worry about the last person in the last row….if they can’t hear your vows. Your vows are the only part of the ceremony that are from one person to another. Just say them!” ~Christy, on the magnetic power between people in love! “To the couple - do what feels right. Everybody else - do what I told you to do.” ~Christy, spoken like a true wedding planner “I mean, what three-year-old hasn’t swallowed a precious jewel?” ~Christy, if she had a dime… “If you can get 6 chairs and an empty room, we can rehearse. You can do it anywhere, as long as your VIPs are on board.” ~Christy, a statement that is true for many situations! “There are always people that run late...as long as it’s not the couple...you have to start on time.” ~Michelle, on the inevitable and the necessary Get In Touch Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

39mins

14 Jun 2017

Rank #5

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#53 Big Ideas, Little Budget

A listener with a 10K Budget that was shot down by a wedding planner / Michelle tells you all about a wedding she worked last weekend / Yoga and morning routines. Before we jump into an awesome listener’s question about how to make the most of her small wedding budget, we discuss the MANY virtues of yoga! It’s good for your body, good for your mind, and good for keeping things nice and grounded during wedding planning! We are especially fond of a nice, relaxing, mindful morning routine...even if it’s only 5 minutes, it matters. So, your friendly neighborhood planners recommend Yoga. Take it or leave it! After some yoga talk, we delve into an email from ‘Hopeless in San Diego’, a listener and bride planning her wedding on the West Coast. She’s got 10k, a bad taste in her mouth from a wedding planner she contacted, and we’ve got ideas! And a little encouragement. You can do this, Hopeless! We’re here for you. Big Takeaways Since it’s smack dab in the middle of wedding season as we record this episode, we have some big plans for our Quick Focus episodes. Short, informative episodes that break something down...guest books and wedding ceremony scripts are on deck for upcoming episodes. If you are working with a modest wedding budget - don’t despair! You can still have a nice wedding. Breaking down a wedding budget is all about allocation. With a full budget of 10k, you don’t have enough money to allocate some for every single vendor. So, the word of the day is COMPROMISE. You need to figure out which elements are most important to you and which elements or vendors can be nixed. Maybe you don’t need a DJ, maybe you can do your own flowers, maybe you serve drinks and apps instead of dinner to your guests. There are ways to do this, but the truth is, you are not going to get everything you may want with a 10k budget. The easiest way to cut money out of your wedding, is by cutting the guestlist. Consider having a small ceremony with close friends only - maybe at City Hall - and then you can have a party later with more guests. This might save you lots of money because the party can be after dinner, and if you can do it on a Friday night, you’ll probably save money that way too! Keep in mind that there are lots of reasons why a wedding vendor may be willing to negotiate...you won’t know for sure if you don’t ask. Be polite, and maybe you’ll land on someone that is willing to go down in price for your wedding. Pull some strings! If you have a cousin that makes cakes, ask them to make yours! Consider it a wedding gift. Does your best friend’s husband have the hook up for some sound equipment or uplights? Can all of your aunts put together the crafty centerpieces? If you are asking someone to do a professional job when they aren’t a real professional...make sure you do something that is totally within their wheelhouse. A wedding sometimes calls for calling in favors. If you can’t afford a wedding planner, you should absolutely be listening to our podcast! We have an episode about wedding budgets and it’s not all fluff, we’re really breaking it down and we base it on percentages. We also have 3 episodes all about the wedding day timeline...this is work that a wedding planner would take on. It’s detail oriented and it’s not sexy, but you can do it! The more organized you are, the more you’ll be able to stretch your budget. Our podcast is like having a wedding planner in your pocket throughout the planning process...if you have questions, we have answers! Listen, learn, plan that wedding! Links we referenced Yoga from home! Here are Michelle's suggestions. Oroboros Yoga - Michelle goes to his Yoga classes regularly and you can listen in and practice at home. Yoga With Adriene on YouTube - Michelle's brother recommends this one. How to DJ your own wedding A past episode you should listen to if you are looking for ways to cut costs for your wedding. Quotes “The main word here is priorities. Priorities and Compromise...you and your partner have to sit down and decide what really matters to you.” - Christy “Remember, this is seasonal for us!” - Michelle, one reason why wedding vendors seem expensive “When you have a lower budget, if you can call in favors...Great.” - Michelle “These people are there to celebrate you. So you can do it YOUR way.” - Christy “It’s crazy, it’s wonderful. We are so blessed!” - Michelle, on being a wedding planner Get In Touch>/B> Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

42mins

27 Sep 2017

Rank #6

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#38 Wedding Fatigue

Is wedding planning this stressful for all couples?! Short answer: Yes, yes it is. Listen, planning a huge party is a big endeavor. Layered into that, is a LOT of money, a LOT of emotions and some crazy expectations. Family. Emotions. History. It can feel very weighted. It feels overwhelming. Totally normal! In this episode, Michelle and Christy share the experiences of some of our clients - past and present, and discuss the elements of wedding planning that seem to be universally stressful for couples. How can you manage it all? We’re here to help. Big Takeaways Here are the stress commonalities we discovered: Venue: The is a very big decision when you are planning your wedding. Two main things are in play here - 1) The venue is often the biggest part of the budget. 2) You have to make this decision very early on in the planning process. Those two things are stressful by nature! Making a big decision like this will inform a lot of other decisions you have to make, so it’s a big deal. It feels like a big deal, and you may have to begin to hone your lifelong compromising skills at this point. The venue decision will set you on certain paths...the wedding date, the max amount of guests you can invite, even the style and theme. Our advice is to stay grounded. The best way to do that is to work out your budget ahead of time. Then stick to it and be realistic. Budget: We all know talking about money is a no-no at dinner parties. Money is one of the main things married couples argue about. Not surprisingly, deciding how to spend your money is a huge stress for a lot of couples planning their wedding. When in doubt, try to make decisions on how you can best represent yourselves as a couple on your wedding day. Let your wedding reflect your couple-ness. Yes, couple-ness. It’s a made-up word and we love it. Surprise Stress: Often, a ‘normal’, organized, ambitious, reasonable, adult human can turn into a crazed crying lunatic spinning out about a linen color, or a canceled florist appointment. We suggest yoga, taking ‘planning breaks’ and above all, keeping yourself and each other COOL. Stay connected. Keep your eye on the prize. It sounds pep-talky, but it’s legit advice for wedding planning! Guest list: Compromising on the guest list - both size and specifically who to invite (and not invite) is a conflict that MANY couples find themselves locked in. Listen to our Guest list episode; we go into detail about how to organize and curate your perfect guest list. Spoiler alert - we suggest an A and B list. Who is steering this ship anyway? The more people involved in planning your wedding, the messier if can be (the planning process, not the wedding itself. We know lots of couples have parents contributing financially to the wedding, and this often means that the parents reserve the right to invite who they want to, and to make decisions about the wedding that they otherwise wouldn’t be involved in. Family drama happens with every wedding. Trust us. We validate you. You are not crazy. Everyone else is! (Kidding. But not kidding about how family drama being very common. Try to remember that emotions are high and it won’t always feel like this.) Mini Rant: The decision to invite or not invite children to a wedding is a tough one for couples. Lots of factors go into this decision, and couples feel pressured to cater to their guests. Here’s our take: if you get an invitation that says ‘adult only’ (or the couple has made this clear in another way) - don’t push back. Don’t be an asshole. It’s rude to ask a host if you can bring your kid if kids aren’t invited. Period. The only exception is an infant that is on the boob. As an invited guest, figure out your own stuff for that night and don’t contact the couple about it. You RSVP yes or no - you don’t get to make the rules. Tbh - the same goes for plus-ones. If your boyfriend isn’t invited, don’t call the host/bride and try to bend the rules for yourself. Links we referenced Manly Bands! - https://manlybands.com. Remember to use the promo code TBWPP to get a 15% discount on any order! Our Guest List Episode: http://www.thebigweddingplanningpodcast.com/the-guest-list Quotes “How can we help? We’re here for you, buddy.” - Christy and Michelle, at your service “Despite having been to many weddings in the last couple of years, he can’t seem to recall details. Like when toasts happen.” - Bride Listener 1, on how details seem to elude her fiance “It’s the biggest decision, it’s the most expensive decision and it has to be done early on. It’s daunting!” - Christy, on picking a venue “Shit gets real when they are going to hold your credit card for $9000.” Christy, on your venue budget “My fiance’s stepmother is wearing white. And I’m like, are you F-ING KIDDING ME?” - Bride Listener 2, on how something becomes a big deal “Tell your listeners, the moment I got engaged, I got a therapist.” - Bride Listener 3 dropping some GREAT advice “This is a celebration of her love and she doesn’t want to look at a stranger’s face. She only wants the people that are most important to her!” - Michelle, about a bride dealing with very rude guests! “It’s so hard to negotiate and compromise with your partner, with your parents, with your budget. The guest list is huge.” - Michelle, on how stressful a guestlist is for couples Get In Touch Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.comSponsored By:Manly Bands: These stylish, quality, affordable bands are brilliant! Manly Bands is offering our lovely listeners a 15% discount. Check them out! Promo Code: TBWPP

50mins

21 Jun 2017

Rank #7

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#114 Brunch Weddings

So many of you have emailed and asked us questions regarding brunch weddings. Timelines, logistics, menu, layout, micro-events...pros, cons, lessons learned. We’re sharing it all with you in this episode, including some incredibly detailed insight from a recent ‘brunch bride’ listener. Her post-wedding-day notes are a great retrospective about all things brunch. Let’s get ourselves a bloody mary and dive in! Big Takeaways Let’s talk about the easy part first: Food and Drinks. Early lunch, or full brunch. Everyone loves a boozy brunch! Carving station, omelettes, frittatas, quiche, breakfast foods, fresh fruits and veg and cheese, sweet treats like pastries and donuts, smoked salmon, small bites, chicken and waffles, limited bar - people still drink beer and wine. Spiked hot drinks, bloodies, mimosas - all sorts! Champagne and coffee are a must. An espresso bar? Yes Please. Timeline example: (Be ready for an early morning!) o 6am-8am, makeup and hair (makeup for 4 people, hair for 1) o 8am-9am, get dressed + getting ready photos with photographer o 9am-10am, First Look, Wedding Party, and ½ of family photos o 11am-11:30am, Ceremony o 11:30am-12:30pm, Cocktail Reception (ceremony room flipped) o 12:30pm-4:00pm, Reception Challenges of a brunch wedding: Skewing things early, and making sure everyone’s expectations are in line with the earlier day you have planned - your wedding party, VIPs and guests. Keeping things flowing during the reception - do people dance? Will people stay until the end or cut out early? Apparel - brides have told us that they have had trouble picking a wedding dress for their brunch nuptials. Too formal? Too ‘garden party’? Is strapless ok? Tea length or floor length for the bridesmaids? Our advice is to pick the venue and the date before even beginning to start the outfit-hunt. Just like an evening wedding, your clothes will (ideally) ‘fit’ the scene. At the end of the day, remember what we always say - do you! If you love it and you’re comfortable, it’s fine. Hair and Makeup could be VERY early if you have a lot of ladies lined up for services. Might want to think about having your rehearsal dinner on the early side so everybody is ready for an early wedding day! Light! It’s going to be light out, you won’t get a sunset, or have to race against darkness. We strongly suggest you visit the venue during the time that your wedding will be so you can get a good idea of the light - inside and out. You probably won’t need to spend a lot of money on an AV company lighting vendor because the room will be bright enough. Maybe you need to think about draping if the light is too bright in the windows. Don’t fight the light - know what you are going to get and harness it! Use what you have to your advantage. Outdoor garden wedding at 10am - perfect! Small wedding parties and live musicians are perfect for brunch. We see those two things in almost every brunch wedding we’ve planned or been to as a guest or ‘friendor.’ Our Brunch Bride’s hindsight: · We saved money on food and the venue. Because it was daytime, I felt like we got away with having a simpler menu (i.e., one entrée). Our families enjoy their beverages, so we went more typical alcohol estimates, but we could have saved more by returning what wasn’t opened (mostly rose and cava for the mimosas). Finally, our venue base cost was $3k. It was double for a Saturday evening, but it seemed like rates of at least $10k-$15k were the average at other places. Spending less money on the venue meant I didn’t have to skimp in other areas. · It’s well suited for a Sunday. If an evening wedding was a priority for us, I would have chosen a Friday or Saturday. But Sunday meant that people in NorCal did not have to take off work, which they appreciated. · Creativity! I enjoy evening weddings where there’s a fancy dinner, starry skies, and a lot of dancing. But brunch forced us to reimagine many aspects of our wedding, especially décor and music. The vibe I wanted was hip, relaxed, light, and airy. A “garden party” was the closest thing I could think because of the daytime and floral nature. I like what we came up with overall. The flowers and greenery really made it work, even though I know a lot of couples steer away from that. The DJ also did a great job with music; he understood our eclectic but rather chill taste and picked songs appropriate for the setting. And the florist killed it, absolutely loved her work. · A perk of a Sunday wedding: we got our first picks for vendors. We had a 10-month timeframe and although people were already booked on the Saturday, 10/6, they were free on Sunday, 10/7 to help us. Links we referenced none Quotes “I’ve learned that I cannot actually handle an unlimited mimosa brunch. Boozy brunch...not for me.” - Christy, on being an adult “You think of brunch, you think of being sober. You’re not putting on a little black dress. You’re more proper. It’s not going to last as long as an evening wedding would.” Michelle, on the elements of brunch “Something needs to happen every thirty minutes...that’s just a rule of thumb. And that is definitely true for a brunch wedding.” - Christy “Brunch food smells so good. I think it’s because the syrup is on heaters a lot of the time. Delicious.” - Christy loves pancakes “You can have anything at brunch. It’s an in-between time, anything goes!” - Michelle - freedom! “Good energy. We were way less exhausted than we thought we’d be; with an evening wedding, we would have been dragging by 9pm.” - Our brunch bride Gen, you have to be a morning person! Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

52mins

21 Nov 2018

Rank #8

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#105 Venue Visits - How To With Lynsie Blau

Lynsie Blau joins Christy on this episode to break down VENUE basics for us. Site visits, vibes, and contracts...all important! Picking your wedding venue is one of the biggest and arguably most important decisions you will make during wedding planning. Here’s how to avoid the pitfalls! Lynsie is the owner, manager and everything-person for BRIK Venue in Fort Worth, Tx. Brik is a stand alone industrial beauty - 2 stories, original hardwood, exposed brick and pretty white painted walls, a graffiti courtyard and a gorgeous studio to get ready in. It is a premier venue for North Texas - for all these reasons and more. Namely - Lynsie herself. Now, let’s talk money, dolls! (Forgive Christy - she sounds a little sick on this one!) Big Takeaways Priorities for Lynsie when she bought Brik and began the transformation into a wedding venue: 1- two seperate indoor spaces that don’t require a ‘flip’ - it has 2 full floors so you can do ceremony on one floor and the reception on the other floor. 2 - Location - close to downtown 3 - Capacity - bigger than 200 guests (Brik is 300 max) 4 - Open, versatile and flexible Brik is not an ‘all-inclusive’ event space - but it does include the tables (super cool custom tables), chairs (chivaries!) and bars (also custom and very cool). But the rest is up to the clients. Lynsie hopes that the ‘blank space’ element is what draws couples to book her space over a different venue. It’s a pro, not a con. Every couple makes Brik their own for the wedding day - no two weddings there look the same. This is something that a lot of venues claim to have, but just don’t! Whatever a venue offers - make sure you see it all before you book. Not all inventory is created equal. It doesn’t matter is chairs are included, if the chairs are horrible and you don’t end up using them. And if you do have to bring in a bunch of rentals, make sure you know the venue’s policy for set up and strike - and if rentals can be brought in early, or left overnight, etc. Why do people book Brik? Because Lynsie says ‘YES’. But if that’s overwhelming, Lynsie will give her personal recommendations for vendors and designers. People book Brik because the site visit and booking process are organized and cohesive. Lynsie is accessible. She answers emails. Her contract is detailed and in plain English. The business side of Brik is solid...and they want to help. They want to say YES. All event venues should be like this. They aren’t. Site visit advice: Know your date, or at least the month you want your wedding Is there a budget limit you have worked out for the venue? How many hours do you want the venue? For pricing - make sure you ask if the numbers they give you are the FINAL quotes, or if there are hidden fees Look at the bathrooms at the venue! See if you have to work with a set vendor list, or if it’s a ‘preferred vendor’ list. Ask questions about how open their policy is Does the venue have insurance requirements? Required valet or security? Is the set up and strike time included in the rental time? Do you get an extra hour for the rehearsal? What about for engagement photos before the wedding? The ‘getting ready’ room is very important! Look for room, the light, the mirrors… Look down at the floors and look up at the ceilings...remember to include full perspective in your vision when you are thinking about how you would ‘transform’ a room. Look into the transportation, parking and proximity to hotels/civilization when you are looking at venues. The fact that Brik is 5 minutes from downtown FW is a HUGE draw for couples - and it’s a big reason why Lynsie took the plunge and bought the place. She doesn’t worry about guests driving drunk, cause everyone can Uber! Links we referenced www.brikvenue.com https://www.instagram.com/brikvenue/ http://www.thebigweddingplanningpodcast.com/fall-in-love-with-your-wedding-photographer Quotes “Mostly, my outdoor space is used for photos. Which is something that is a big deal that I didn’t think about when I started.” - Lynsie on Brik’s rad outdoor shoot locations “We’ve talked about venues like this a lot because they are that sweet spot...they are made for events.” - Christy - on how Brik hits the spot “People might say, you’ve thought of everything! Yes, I have!” - Lynsie on how she navigates the ‘yea, buts’ “I get a lot of people that say they’ve liked other venues as much as Brik, but that they thought I was so nice, they wanted to work with me. That’s the biggest compliment.” - Lynsie “If you have a planner, I don’t have to worry about half the stuff I usually would...I love planners.” - Lynsie “Altar pieces are where people get super creative. We’ve had a mantle, different arches, candelabras, floral installations. A bar with floral hanging down is so so pretty.” - Lynsie “If a venue owner is worth their salt, they have a really good contract. Read that contract. Everything should be laid out in the contract. A good contract makes all the difference.” - Lynsie “Be nice. Being nice gets you so much further than being an ass hole.” - Lynsie (Christy agrees!) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcastSpecial Guest: Lynsie Blau.Sponsored By:Modern Love Event: Our first live event together at last! Promo Code: BigWedding

58mins

19 Sep 2018

Rank #9

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#97 You Ask, We Answer - 8

YAWA time! You ask, we answer. We’re tackling a few questions this week! Keep ‘em coming, yall! And don’t forget to leave us a review on iTunes as well. We appreciate you! Big Takeaways Christy has mono. Michelle has an endless supply of optimistic energy. Welcome! In summary: 1 Email “I want to taste the food before I book the venue!” Ask: At what point can we taste the food and does it have to be after we've decided on the venue? As we are starting to look at venues and pare down based on pricing, as food lovers, we want to make sure that we don't go for one venue over the next because it's more affordable, but then the reason it is more affordable turns out to be that the food is not as up to par. Answer: As far as the tasting goes - most venues (like hotels) do make you sign the contract and pay the deposit before you taste the food. This is because they want to book out the date way in advance, and the tasting is usually much later. Some clients don't love this system, though, because they want to know what the food tastes like before they commit to the venue! Understandable. Often, venues will offer open houses for this, although you may not taste exactly what you would put on a wedding menu - you can still get a pretty good idea of what the venue offers, and their general presentation style. Or, you can inquire about doing a paid tasting, before you book the venue. This is something that some venues/caterers offer -- basically, you pick a few things to try and you pay like you would if you go out to dinner. It's a little pricey, but worth thinking about if the food is very important to you. And it sounds like it is! Do your research too - look at their reviews and see if you can get referrals to talk to other couples that have recently been married there - then you can ask them what they thought about the food. Keep in mind that the official tasting for your wedding menu will be about a month or two before the wedding - they want you to taste what's in season and to work with the chef that you will be working with on your wedding day. 2 Email “Absentee Dad Issues” Ask: Will I regret not inviting my father? My mom is my best friend. She loathes my father, but she also thinks that I may regret not inviting him. So. What do I do? Invite him and hope for the best, while anticipating the worst? (The best being he shows up, behaves, and goes through the motions with me. The worst being he shows up and ruins the day.) Or do I just... not invite this person who I have a history of a toxic relationship with and maybe regret it? Answer: The good news is, you have people that love you and seem to understand the incredibly difficult position you are in. Here's my advice - a way you can maybe come to the decision through a different way of thinking about it. Imagine it's a year after your wedding, May 2020. You are looking through your wedding album and sort of re-living the big day. Imagine seeing photos of your dad in the album...how do you think that will make you feel. What would the circumstances be...the first that come to mind? Now imagine your dad being completely absent from the album...you're flipping through photos of you and your husband, of you hugging your mom, of you maybe walking down the aisle alone... How does this make you feel? Are you happy in the photos? Does it make you happy to look back on the wedding day? Know this - a person is not defined by one day. If you invite your dad and he shows up...you are going to get your dad. He isn't going to change just because it's your wedding day. I am not sure it's possible to invite him and then just go forward knowing he may not even come and then being perfectly ok with that...is it? Are you that unattached and flexible? And if he does show up and it's the best case scenario that you outlined in your email...does it resonate with you and feel authentic, or does it feel a little fake and shallow? It's your wedding, this decision is yours and there will be consequences either way... Implore your mom and your fiancé to give you a little space and to respect the decision you make, and ask that they help support you on the wedding day. Remember to be grateful for all the non-toxic people you have in your life. 3 Email “2 Quick Questions” Ask: I want my fiance to wear a nice black and white tux instead of wearing the same colors as the groomsmen. My questions is, if my fiance wears a black and white tux, will it seem like he doesn't fit with the groomsmen? AND How do I let people know what our wedding registry is and where to find it at? We aren't having a wedding website. I was thinking to put it on the invitation but I don't want to seem like I'm only inviting them to get gifts. Answer: We're all for the groom standing out! And we love a classic black and white tux. It's totally appropriate for the groom to wear something different from the groomsmen, but just try to coordinate and stay within the same range, stylistically. Different color or pattern bow tie and pocket square? How about all the grooms in black and white tuxes and the groom in a white dinner jacket?? (We LOVE a white dinner jacket.) Match formality: the groomsmen can't be in khaki pants if the groom is in a tux. Nice dark navy suits though? Perfect! If you aren't having a wedding website, do include an insert about your registry in the invitation suite. And make sure that your moms have the links to the actual registry sites and they can help anyone that asks about it. Guests want to know this information! It’s not awkward, we promise. Just make sure the insert isn’t as big as the actual invitation. 4 Email “How to communicate a ‘semi-kids’ wedding?” (4 emails this week?! Yes, that’s right. We love you!) Ask: I am having a semi kids wedding. I have two kids myself, and we are allowing family who is out of state to bring their children to our wedding. My mother always said that was etiquette but I am not sure about that. How do I word this on my invitation for my in state family that has kids, so they are aware that they aren’t invited. I don’t want to say ‘No Kids’ in some and then kids on the other. Any advise on how to handle? Answer: As always - we think you should do what you want on your wedding day. But know there may be consequences! And that’s ok! Try not to worry a lot about what other people think...lay down the ‘law’ and then just stick to it and move on. People will figure it out! Couple of hints - include exact full names on the invitations you send out. If you’re sending an invitation to a family of four and you want them all to come - include all the names or the wording “Smith Family” - and don’t do that when you are just inviting the parents, and not the kids. Also, get your moms and aunts to help spread the word and enforce the rule. Get some babysitters on the hook to help with your guests that have to travel with their kids, but make other plans for them since they aren’t invited to the wedding. It is possible to do a wedding like this - Michelle and Christy both did for their own weddings! But some people will definitely push back, and some people might not ‘let it go’ after the wedding. Pick your battles! Links we referenced www.zola.com/bigwedding *Quotes * “I’ll be the upper and you can be the downer.” - Michelle, to Christy “I’m recording a podcast. Everyone is dead.” - Christy, on interruptions “Yes - Paid tasting. I think it’s totally worth it as opposed to a group tasting. And that should not come out of your wedding budget - it should be a date night!” - Michelle, on catering tastings. Bring your wedding planner for a nice three-some date night! Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

49mins

25 Jul 2018

Rank #10

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#35 Rentals Guru - Kathy Newby

Kathy Newby is an Event Specialist at Abbey Party Rentals in the San Francisco Bay Area. Kathy and Michelle started working together on events almost 2 decades ago! Kathy got her degree from the ‘school of hard knocks’ - moved around a lot, has a ton of experience, and settled in the Bay Area and began her events career on the hospitality side. She started working for a big rental company in 1994, and eventually landed at Abbey. She is a networking guru, she gives back to the industry, mentors young people in the industry and she is a wealth of knowledge on all things rentals! Big Takeaways Tenting is intense! You have to think about dimensions, sunlight, flooring, lighting, generators, restrooms, connectors, weather...basically, if you need tenting for your outdoor wedding, you need to hire an experienced professional. Like Kathy! She talks about how to tent a wedding without breaking the bank - tricks of the trade to glam up a basic tent: lighting, swagging, pre-fab ceiling liners (as opposed to hand-pleated). Covering a pool - a flooring and rental company can do it! Plexiglass, staging, raised walkway above the pool, boarding it and putting astroturf down, lots of options. Backyard weddings, private estate events...just because you get a ‘free’ space, doesn't mean you’ll save money. In fact, typically, it costs more to transform a space into a venue. Michelle and Kathy break down the logistics for a 75 person backyard wedding...for example, a clear tent may be a hard NO, depending on the location and weather - they act like greenhouses and can get super hot and uncomfortable. Kitchen generators, lux porto potties, distances that the set up techs will have to load -in, permits, noise ordinances... There are many variables and everything is customized, so getting a price estimate isn’t a simple formula. Plan B. The Bad Weather Plan. You have to decide this plan in advance (not a week out), and then 48 hours beforehand, you can decide if you’re using the plan B or not. And then, fingers crossed. (A deposit will be required to hold the inventory, and have a crew standing-by.) Delivery and Strike - these times have to be arranged when you book your rentals. The prices depend on the time allotted and the crew/equipment needed. This can be expensive. Labor is the biggest cost in the rental industry. Just a quick example of basic inventory from the Abbey website - rental prices vary, but you can get an idea of overall pricing by checking the website Silver Chiavari Chair - $8/ea 3’x3’ square of dancefloor - $15 60” round table - $10 Links we referenced Abbey Party Rentals SF website The Water CottageThe luxury portable restroom company Kathy recommends One True Love Vintage The vintage furntiure rentals and sister company Kathy works with at Abbey Kathy's Instagram Page @askforkathy Quotes “You don’t have a normal 9-5 life. You’re like, weekend city.” - Michelle, breaking the news to Kathy “I’m very passionate about what I do. I eat, live and breathe this industry. If I’m not at events on the weekends, I’m in the office, or I’m meeting clients, or I’m going to networking events, or finding new venues that we can work with.” - Kathy, on her 24/7 gig “Use us as a resource if there is something that you really want but don’t know how to source it...pick our brains, walk our warehouse. See something and think, hey, maybe I can repurpose this.” - Kathy, on how a rental company can join the collaboration team for your wedding “Remember about the special needs of your clients.” - Kathy, discussing the virtues of port-o-potties “I’m not going to tell you if it looks ugly. That’s not my job. My job is to make you happy.” - Kathy dropping some TRUTH Get In Touch Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

53mins

31 May 2017

Rank #11

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#92 What Straight Couples Can Learn From Gay Weddings

It’s PRIDE month and we’re so stoked to talk more about gay weddings in this episode! Big Takeaways First things first - Congratulations Michelle! She’s an Auntie! Baby Viviana Michelle was born just one day before we recorded this episode. Mama and baby are doing fine and Michelle is thrilled to be an aunt and Godmother. Some Pride history / facts Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month (LGBT Pride Month) is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall riots in Manhattan. The Stonewall riots were a tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the United States. In the United States the last Sunday in June was initially celebrated as “Gay Pride Day,” but the actual day was flexible. In major cities across the nation the “day” soon grew to encompass a month-long series of events. Today, celebrations include pride parades, picnics, parties, workshops, symposia and concerts, and LGBT Pride Month events attract millions of participants around the world. Memorials are held during this month for those members of the community who have been lost to hate crimes or HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the commemorative month is to recognize the impact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals have had on history locally, nationally, and internationally. The SCOTUS ruling: Obergefell v. Hodges, June 26, 2015 - a landmark civil rights case in which the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that the fundamental right to marry is guaranteed to same-sex couples. The ruling requires all fifty states to perform and recognize the marriages of same-sex couples on the same terms and conditions as the marriages of opposite-sex couples, with all the accompanying rights and responsibilities The quote: Justice Kennedy: “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.” This is the quote we are seeing included in most gay wedding ceremonies - all or part. It is important and it is beautiful. Here’s some exciting CEREMONY stuff we are seeing as more gay couples plan their weddings...ways to express themselves and their relationship with their loved ones: Aisles - Gay couples are scrapping the traditional walk down the aisle, for a lot of reasons! So, as wedding planners, it’s a super fun challenge to get creative with the processional. How you design the entire ceremony space depends on if you want an aisle, or two, or a ceremony in the round...do you walk in together? Do you meet in the middle? Are you given away by a loved one? Tons to think about! A Ceremony Toast - one thing gay couples are doing during the ceremony that is considered a ‘new tradition’ is a toast during the ceremony. Champagne can be passed as guests arrive for the ceremony, or (Christy’s personal favorite) you can have the caterer tray pass champagne down the aisle in the middle of the ceremony. A toast - by the officiant - or a guest (like a reader) is proposed and everyone says cheers. It’s a way to acknowledge the chosen friends and family that support the couple. It’s something you don’t see a lot of during straight weddings and it’s a hit, trust us! The pronunciation! Pronouns are important - for trans couples, the moment the officiant ends the ceremony with a pronunciation of marriage and an introduction Links we referenced: Great Article on the history of PRIDE: https://www.bustle.com/articles/166925-the-origins-of-pride-month-what-you-should-know-about-its-history Gay Wedding Planning EXPERT: https://gayweddinginstitute.com Planning Tool via Wedding Wire: http://gayweddings.com Photographer Steph Grant: http://www.stephgrantphotography.com/blog/ Photographer Tony Valadez: http://tonyvaladez.com Photographer Cindy and Sharon: http://www.samesexweddingphotographers.com Our episode with Bernadette Smith (gay wedding expert): http://www.thebigweddingplanningpodcast.com/gay-weddings-with-bernadette-smith *Quotes * “Rules and traditions are changing...working with what is important to you to include in your ceremony and not necessarily what you are ‘supposed’ to do or what you’ve been told you should do...weddings are evolving.” - Christy, on ways that straight couples can express themselves...inspired by gay couples “That was one of my very favorite wedding ceremonies. Every word that they said to each other felt weighted and elevated at the same time because they had already had a lifetime together.” - Christy sniff Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

55mins

20 Jun 2018

Rank #12

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#187 Spend Your Money Where It Matters

Petronella Lugemwa is an international wedding and marriage proposal photographer, speaker, writer and storyteller based out of the New York area who specializes in helping multicultural couples celebrate their love in a modern way and believes that what makes you different makes you beautiful. As a wedding photographer, Petronella sees it all and has put together a list for us all about how she sees couples spending money on elements at the wedding day that really don’t ‘matter’ to guests. We’re talking about impact, priorities, and putting the money where it really matters on your wedding day. Big Takeaways Top ways couples spend money that doesn’t matter to guests *1. Investing in decor that’s trendy that will “look” good for Instagram or social media but doesn't mean anything to you. * This list includes: attire, shoes, decor, wedding traditions like garter toss, diamond encrusted cake cutting knife engraved with your name. Decide why you’re doing something. Don’t do something because you feel like you’re supposed to do it. There is no “must have." What does it mean to you as an individual vs couple? Story: Sweetheart tables with all the things - initials, candlesticks, signage, florals, sparkly linens = Innate ability to tell when something is intentional. Guests want to see you happy. If you're doing something purely out of obligation and it doesn’t mean much to you, it’ll show in your photos & guest experience. Who are the most important people: family, out of town guests traveled far, grandparents, who might not be there much longer. How can I make the most important people feel special 2. Too much Cocktail Hour or Dessert Food A room overflowing with cocktail food means no one will eat dinner & cake. A room with too many desserts but most of your guests aren’t into dessert or because it’s a Sunday wedding, guests head out soon after speeches, so the food goes to waste. Think about who your guests are & when you’re having wedding - what makes sense in terms of food. What day & time of day - will my guests enjoy this & actually eat this? 3. Ceremony Chair cover upgrades Invest in comfortable, good chairs that look good on their own Most ceremony are short Ceremony chair cover takes away overall decor. 4. Favors: A grab bag filled with a hodgepodge of random favors chosen because that’s you feel like you need to put together 1. a. Story: I’m sorry our favors were so cheap vs expensive favors like some friend’s wedding - Robes & lotion & makeup Think about your guests Story: rum cake = ties back to person’s culture Better to have 1 intentionally curated, thoughtful favor OR nothing 5. A specific shot list of specific Pinterest images curated for “the Gram” Curate a list of 25 Pinterest images in 3 different locations that end up making guests waiting for hours during cocktail hour for you to show up Your guests won’t care that you have Most of my clients love the images that happen organically So much can’t control on day, it’s hard to say I want this specific Pinterest image Decide if it’s worth it to you to get ready several hours earlier or the day after the wedding to do a shot list of 25 Pinterest images in different locations before the wedding 6. Ambient Lighting vs Uplighting vs Upgraded Laser Lighting from DJ My recommendation is always continuous, clean, white or yellow lighting on the dance floor and colored lighting as uplighting on the sides vs on dance floor Opt for clean, natural light from lighting professionals = colored lighting can look cool for reception dancing but during first dance Story: couple hired lighting team who put up blue lights but her look was all white Make sure lighting will not overpower decor and color or theme Story: colored spot lighting during first dance Guests: the DJ & MC make the wedding celebration fun. If the entertainment isn’t great, strobe lighting isn’t going to make the wedding more fun for the guests. 7. Drone Footage Sounds cool but it’s only worth it if the location is spectacular or has scenery. If you’re getting married in a building or barn Upgrading to have 1 - 2min of drone won’t make guests go wow STORY: Make sure you have permission to fly a drone. Might upgrade to get a drone and then find out you need a permit or your location is within 10miles of an airport, so the drone won’t even go up. 8. Fancy Escort Cards Most are immediately looked at & thrown away Invest in an overall escort card display vs each card Use the escort cards to educate the guests about who you are, make it into a game to network with other guests or share info a charitable cause If it’s a fancy escort card, have the escort card do more than just find a seat 9. Luxe Stationery for Invitations for all guests Go all out on stationary for your family and a select key guests For everyone else, opt for stationery that conveys the vibe of your wedding but doesn’t have all the bells & whistles of the luxe, upgraded stationary = most guests won't notice Note that additional details like wax seal, on the stationery will cost extra shipping but it’s worth it to create a keepsake for family and yourself, maybe not for those who won’t appreciate it as much 10. Guest List Are the people attending your wedding important to you and your families Tricky subject: inviting people out of obligation could mean an awkward guest experience Guests can impact the vibe of the wedding & your experience of your wedding - choose wisely Key Takeaways: What You Should Do Create a list of all the things & then agree on the 3 things matters to you and focus on that. Be intentional about a few things Figure out who’s coming to the wedding & create an experience caters to them vs “Gram or what supposed to do How to make most important people feel special What the Guest Experience about Entertainment a. Entertainment b. Food c. Flow of the day d. Most important people Getting to spend time with you on dance floor e. Have visuals that bring to life the story of your day through photography & videography f. Hire a team armed with information about what matters to you & who will stand up for you knowing what matters too you hired with your best g. Invest in Your Own Planner & Designer vs Venue Coordinator Venue coordinator is there to ensure day flows according to what’s best for the venue Links we referenced: instagram.com/petronellaphotography bypetronella.com Quotes: “Please don’t do chair covers.” - Michelle “Spend your money where you want, but just pick something that makes sense for you.” - Petronella “A venue coordinator is not a planner. They are there to make sure the venue’s needs are met.” - Petronella “I really think people should just have fun, be themselves, be authentic. You don’t have to do anything.” - Petronella “If you’re having fun, your photos will be wonderful.” - Christy Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/ INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcastSpecial Guest: Petronella Lugemwa .

51mins

11 Mar 2020

Rank #13

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#83 You Ask, We Answer - 5

It’s time for another #YAWA! This week, we are tackling 3 listener emails (and they’re all multi-question emails) regarding wedding day timelines, photographer’s plan B’s, ‘friends’ you don’t want to invite anymore, how to schedule formal photos for a morning wedding ceremony, bridal shower hostess drama, ceremony-to-reception-commutes, and confetti exits! So many things to discuss. Let’s go! Big Takeaways In summary: 1 Email “Plethora of Small Questions” Ask: How long does it take to light 70 votive candles? How long does it take to do 20 tables visits during dinner? Where can I find a comprehensive wedding day checklist online? And more... Answer: It takes 2 people less than 10 minutes to light 70 candles. Get the long lighters with the curve in them if you want to be very quick. Also - check with your caterer, sometimes they can do this for you, no biggie. Table visits take a long ass time. Check out the Martha Stewart Weddings link for a comprehensive checklist! 2 Email “Bridal Shower Invite Dilema” Ask: Long story short, is it appropriate to invite someone to the bridal shower - in this case because they are close with the hostess of the shower - when they are NOT going to be invited to the actual wedding? Answer: It’s not ideal, but it’s your wedding and the circumstances can get a little messy...stick to your guns and don’t invite someone to your wedding that you don’t want to invite! If it’s a distant relative that you never see, they’ll get over it. And in the meantime, you won’t be hanging out with them anyway! 3 Email “Long Commute” Ask: What to do in terms of formal photos when the wedding starts in the morning, the reception is a brunch reception and the drive from the ceremony to the reception takes 40 minutes? Answer: Utilize the time in the limo driving from one location to the other! Make sure you are organized and communicative with your photographer - draft a detailed shot-list for the post-ceremony formal photos, have a matriarch of the family help you out during this time by wrangling people that need to be in photos...we have LOTS of advice for this one, because it’s about the day-of timeline. And that is our wheelhouse, babes! Links we referenced www.zola.com/bigwedding https://www.marthastewartweddings.com/600838/wedding-day-checklist?slide=832789 *Quotes * “We are now coming to you with hands at heart’s center, prayer, whatever you want to call it, and we are asking for your support on Patreon.” - Michelle “We’re asking for some money, y’all. Drop us a latte’s worth of coin once a month.” - Christy, we’re not too proud to beg! “The Big Wedding Planning Podcast really separates itself from the masses by offering truly practical and easily applied info on timeline creation and budgeting. They have episodes dedicated to exactly how to create certain excel worksheets.” - Reviewer, See? We don’t just shoot the shit on this podcast! “I was put in an uncomfortable situation today by my family and could use your advice.” - Listener “You cannot control others, you can only control your reaction to others. You keep on doing what you are doing. Enjoy this magical time in your life and focus on the positives as they definitely outweigh the negatives.” - Michelle, giving a listener permission to NOT invite a distant relative “It's so frustrating when you have things planned and you have goals and then a family member just kind of pulls the rug out from under you with one inconsiderate move.” - Michelle, we’re with you, girl! “We're planning a confetti exit. Any tips on making sure that guests throw it appropriately? I think this could look great or be a disaster.” - Listener, with a good question. It absolutely can be a disaster! Let’s avoid that. “You have to give people hugs! People want to say something to you! Of course.” - Christy, on why table visits during dinner take a while “The bottom line is: Whatever you decide, once the decision is made, be at peace with it. Move on...do not lose sleep over it any more.” - Christy, summing up the advice this week Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcastSponsored By:Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. Promo Code: www.zola.com/bigwedding

1hr 3mins

25 Apr 2018

Rank #14

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#3 Firsts

In this episode, we discuss the FIRST things couples experience when planning a wedding. We share the lessons learned by real couples, and we offer our guidance & advice for navigating this exciting, often anxiety-inducing time. This episode features lots of quotes from Real Couples that we surveyed. Hindsight is 20/20 y'all! Big Take Aways Christy and Michelle are veritable technological geniuses. The world of podcasting is lucky to have them. Take time to enjoy being engaged and celebrating that milestone. When you are ready to jump into planning, consider the big ideas first…budget, venue, guestlist. Shotgun weddings are pretty common! Christy talks about her own. We believe that the universe always has a way of working out – even with wedding planning! The main similarities between the engaged couples we surveyed – in terms of the first things they thought about and dealt with during wedding planning: concern and confusion over the overall budget, figuring out the guestlist, managing the expectations of parents and friends, whether or not they can/should hire a planner Hiring a wedding planner is a luxury for some and a necessity for others. VERY helpful for anyone that can swing it. VERY. Links we referenced None (accept to mention the Apple store class offerings) Episode Quotes “At the end of the night, when I was exhausted, I had to take off my shoes and pick all that shit up.” - Michelle, lamenting the fact that she didn’t have a wedding planner for her own wedding “If a female cousin of mine is getting married and she’s NOT pregnant, it’s a surprise. We’re all like, ‘You’re getting married?! Why? You aren’t even pregnant!’ “ - Christy, from a family of Fertile Myrtles Get In Touch Let us know if you have questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

59mins

2 Nov 2016

Rank #15

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#148 Small Details, Big Impact - Valley & Co.

Weddings are a special day, and though you want them to be beautiful and picturesque, it is also important to create a unique experience and long lasting memories. Aleah and Nick Valley of Valley and Co share about their favorite wedding experiences, their coffee table book "Storied Weddings," and give loads of great advice on how to make a great day no matter how big the wedding. Big Takeaways You are not planning just a photoshoot, you're planning a memory. Great pictures are the ones that are taken at a great event. You want to enjoy the memories for life. It's so helpful to make the event for everyone. Help your guests find the lay of the land right away. Where are they sitting? Where are the bathrooms? Where should they hang their coats, etc? Maybe have greeters who provide a beverage upon arrival and answer all these questions. If you are planning on giving favors at your wedding, think about whether the guests can use it or eat it. If not, then think about using the money on something else to make the big day special. Small mementos are not make or break and should be an enjoyable possession after the wedding is over. Links we referenced https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/storied-weddings-aleah-valley/1127704592#/ https://www.valleyandco.com https://www.instagram.com/valleyandco/ https://www.facebook.com/valleyandco/ *Quotes * “Every wedding of ours, we really strive for them to look and feel completely different than the last wedding. We want our weddings to reflect our couples.” - Aleah “We really wanted to create something that anyone could pick up and they could read it now and look at the pictures now. And take our sage advice and advice from fellow pros that we included in the book.” - Aleah “The more fun the guests have, the more fun you have, the more successful the event is.” - Nick Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TBWPP/ INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

53mins

19 Jun 2019

Rank #16

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#4 Budget - How Much?

You’re engaged. You know you want a wedding. How much does a wedding cost? How do you figure it out? We school you on how to create your wedding budget. Big Take Aways Michelle and Christy have a special formula to figure out the budget: Geographic Location + Number of Guests + Style of Wedding = Wedding Budget Always have a range for your budget instead of a firm number. But BE REALISTIC and honest with each other about this range and your individual priorities. Everything is negotiable! Venue managers want your business. Don’t be shy - tell the venue manager what your budget is (for room rental, food, beverage) and they will tell you if they can make it work. Lots of articles and resources out there can tell us what an ‘average’ wedding costs. Here is what most of them mean by ‘average’: 125 guests, hotel ballroom or wedding venue with basic rentals included in their wedding package, DJ (no band), centerpieces and personal flowers. No elaborate floral installation, etc. You get the point. Links we referenced www.theweddingreport.com - Plug in the zip-code of where you want to have your wedding and find out the average cost for a ‘typical’ wedding in that geographic area. (Under ‘Market Search’) Wedding Wire Budget Guide: http://publications.weddingwire.com/i/644940-weddingwire-budget-guide-2016 Episode Quotes “There are ways to plug in numbers and get some information on the front end so that all the math trickles out and you can see how it all affects everything else and where you need to move some money around. So we are advocates of spreadsheets and Excel formulas. We are into that. “ - Christy, on what turns wedding planners on “And please, please make this the first thing you do in the planning process: Come up with a budget. Please don’t call vendors before knowing your budget. Figure out your budget first and foremost, before anything. “ - Michelle, begging you to decide on the big numbers! “No matter what your budget is, just make this wedding about you. Customize it to you. “ –Michelle, Don’t get her started on cookie-cutter weddings… Get In Touch Let us know if you have questions you need answered on the show or want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

33mins

4 Nov 2016

Rank #17

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#63 Set-up & Breakdown

This is an educational episode! We are zooming in on two specifics parts of the wedding day timeline - the set-up and the breakdown. How much time do you need to allocate for these parts of the day? What exactly happens during set-up anyway? Can’t we ‘breakdown’ in 10 minutes if we get all of our friends to help at midnight? (NO.) We answer these and many more questions as we address two important parts of your wedding day. Don’t forget about these details...they start to add up and being organized as you go will help relieve some wedding planning stress! Big Takeaways First, we had a listener leave an awesome iTunes review! Michelle and Christy LOVE these reviews - thank you! The more you rate and review, the more visible we are to people searching for a new podcast to listen to. We invite you all to send us your questions - thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com. The more specific, the better! Can we talk about how awesome ugly UGGs are? So comfy. So warm. Ok - that’s all we have to say about that. In the most basic terms: you need at least 2 hours for set-up and 1 hour for breakdown is pretty standard. Some venues will give you a 12 hour block, some venues will make their clients cram everything into a 5 hour window - hard stop. Make sure you carefully read this part of the venue rental contract, or the venue package contract. Some venues let couples add (pay for) extra hours. This may even be a negotiable term. A tiny set-up window can cost you extra money because vendors may raise prices in order to load in during that small, specific window. Staffing, trucks, parking, traffic...vendors have to consider a lot of factors when they book an event with a ‘tricky’ set-up policy. ‘Getting Ready’ is a big part of the wedding day timeline. Hair, Makeup, First Look, Family Portraits...lots goes on in the couple of hours before your ceremony begins. And none of this fun stuff counts as ‘set-up’! If your venue lets you get ready there, you will be getting ready while vendors are taking care of the set-up of the venue. If you don’t have a planner, you will need someone to lead the charge. If you are getting your makeup done in the dressing room while the DJ is setting up the ceremony speakers, you don’t want to be the one answering the DJ’s questions! Tables have to be set on the floor before the linens can be set up. Linens have to be on the tables before the florist can set up. The cake baker needs her cake table in place, dressed and needs the flowers from the florist ready to go when the she arrives with the cake. Lots of moving parts, y’all! This is a strategically timed event. Hiring a wedding planner will make scheduling all of this infinitely easier. You are going to have many tangible items that you want set up at your wedding ceremony or reception. Start a list! For example: escort cards, table numbers, chuppah, toasting flutes, pictures, cake knife and server, flowers, decorations, linens, favors, programs, signage, lawn games… Consider how long it will take to set these up. Make sure every item has a plan - who, where, when. And make sure you designate which items you want back at the end of the night. If your DJ or musicians or AV company recommend you book a dedicated sound technician for a couple hours, do it. Consider it insurance. Links we referenced Our Podcast, Eps 17, 18, 20 - the 3-part Timeline Series - listen to this for a greater scope of how to create your wedding day timeline Quotes “We’re just happy that we are helping people here! And that people are listening.” - Michelle, giddy from another iTunes review! “There was no rush and no stress for these two brides, because we just had so much time.” - Christy “What time does everything have to be out at the end of the night? You need to know that before you get all these grand ideas about what visuals you want happening at the wedding.” - Michelle “You can do it in 2 hours. But it’s a lot easier to do it in 5 or 6 hours!” - Christy “I’m doing a lot of lawn games for cocktail hours. And those are a bitch to set up and they can’t just be thrown out ready to play.” - Christy “Put on your Type-A hat and just solve the problems.” - Christy “You’re going to have multiple timelines that layer over each other.” - Christy Get In Touch Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK:@TBWPpodcast

46mins

6 Dec 2017

Rank #18

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#130 Must-Ask Photographer Questions With Kathy Thomas

Kathy Thomas is AWESOME. We love talking to photographers on the podcast and we’ve had a few episodes with guests that are professional wedding photographers. Kathy has great advice for hiring a wedding photographer - stuff we haven’t heard before. She even surprised us with some of her tips and tricks - specifically for couples heading to their initial consultation with a photographer. You know, the meeting where you decide if you want to hire this photographer or not! It’s important! We talk a lot about how this decision isn’t just about budget. There’s more to it, much more, and Kathy is showing us the way...she’s wise. We loved having her on the podcast. Kathy Thomas Photography began 5.5 years ago after Kathy moved from NYC to Orlando. She has been named one of the Top 3 photographers in Nashville, and only wedding photographer by Nashville Scene while also having been nominated twice for RangeFinder Magazine 30 Rising Stars of Wedding Photography Worldwide 2 years in a row. Kathy’s photography is influenced by 17 years in luxury fashion retail. She brings her love for fashion, beauty, architecture and the art of craftsmanship into her wedding style. Her goal is to never be trendy, yet timeless, modern, stylish and romantic. She has shot weddings in seven countries and over 14 states. Kathy also mentors a number of wedding professionals and believe in building other up and when we all win that is the real success of this industry. Big Takeaways A photographer’s ‘ideal client’ for weddings is a couple that trusts the photographer. Kathy knows she will be a great fit with the client when there is an immediate connection between her and the couple. You can’t fake that connection. She takes the initial interview as a way to really get to know them. She is clear that a client (couple) has to let her in for the relationship to work, and the product to be what the client wants. Nashville is a cool mix for wedding styles - there are places that elicit pride for locals, or people raised in Nashville. There are historic venues, the music industry, high budget minimalistic wedding style, huge wedding parties and elaborate entertainment at weddings. You are HOSTING a wedding...implement the skills of your favorite hostess in life. How does a great party feel? How can you ensure that your wedding feels that way? In Nashville, the weddings are more traditional (and bigger) than other places in America...and a value is placed on the idea of ‘hosting’ - people take pride in how a guest experiences the wedding weekend. Families are involved. Heirlooms and family traditions are present...and a photographer needs to know about these things so that they can make sure to shoot them! Pricing...we know it’s vague with wedding vendors and we know that it’s frustrating! Kathy has a starting price for packages that she is transparent about with clients upfront. Pricing can go up from there. In general, if a couple reaches out and the first thing they talk about is pricing, Kathy knows that they likely won’t book her. Not a good fit. (Good rule of thumb...if the photographer you want is more than the event rental fee, you may not be able to afford that photographer.) An engagement session is important! It allows the photographer to get to know the couple. It helps to start with a cocktail! (She is not the first photographer that told us this.) But Kathy doesn’t consider the engagement session totally necessary. But the face-time is what’s really important. So if you aren’t going to have an engagement session for some reason, make sure you at least get to have one face-to-face meeting with the photographer. You need this familiarity. Things you can ask your photographer (before you hire them!) And do a little research ahead of time so that you are prepared for different answers... What camera equipment does she use? How does she back up her files? Does she bring extra equipment and backup batteries etc on the wedding day? What’s up with the assistant? Is the assistant a second shooter? Will Kathy review and oversee the assistant’s photos after the event? Does the assistant have their own company? Can you see the assistant’s work too? Do you edit the photos or outsource that service? How will the time be spent during the wedding day? (Like half and half with bride and groom each getting ready, for example) Will you create a wedding day timeline for us? The important thing is to be forthcoming and honest! Links we referenced http://www.kathythomasphotography.com/ https://www.instagram.com/kathythomasphoto/ Quotes “We’ve been very efficient here in Nashville. We’ve been getting shit done.” - Michelle “We keep hearing that Nashville is the place to come for weddings!” - Christy “Millennials are into unique experiences and I am too. I don’t blame them one bit. You do this once, you hope. You do it once... and this is that one big kabam to get everyone together to celebrate in a big way. And with everything going on in the world, it’s becoming more and more important. My couples specifically care about the experience and they care about what the experience is like with my photography team. They want to entertain their guests. So everything tends to be a little over-the-top.” - Kathy Thomas, on priorities “I love the dynamic of a huge wedding party. I love it. I live vicariously through their weddings a little bit.” - Kathy doesn’t want to shoot an intimate ceremony on a mountain top...she wants a huge ass wedding in a gorgeous church with lots and lots of bridesmaids! (I mean, she loves big weddings is the point.) “I have a pretty lengthy interview process. I either want to meet with them in person, or we’ll have a good hour long talk on the phone. This is your opportunity to talk to me, and for me to talk to you. I tell them often that the imagery of mine that they see, I can’t achieve that unless there is trust there.” - Kathy on booking clients. There has to be a connection. “If a couple doesn’t really touch each other in the hour that they meet me, they probably aren’t my people.” - Kathy, intuition! “Most of my weddings have a full planning planner and the planner and I are getting paid about the same.” - Kathy, as a reference point for budgeting Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast Special Guest: Kathy Thomas.

1hr 5mins

6 Mar 2019

Rank #19

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#17 The Wedding Day Timeline - Part 1 of 3

Big Takeaways Spreadsheets. Live them, love them. Don’t fight them! We break down our basic techniques for drafting your initial wedding day timeline - the rows, the columns, the hints and tricks. Rome wasn’t built in a day, people! The Wedding Day Timeline takes time...little by little, it all comes together....in a spreadsheet. :) Who, what, when, where...getting all this info into a timeline makes it really easy for you to answer questions that your vendors will ask you the weeks leading up to the wedding. You’ve already done the work - now you can systematically pass it on. The first thing to input into your timeline is the basic MAIN EVENTS - these frame out the entire thing, and you plug everything else in around these events. Ceremony, Cocktail Hour, Reception, Last Dance. Boom. You will put together a vendor team and they should be able to help you create this timeline. If you have any questions about how long something usually takes, or what a ‘typical’ order is - ask your vendors. Enter in arrival times as you figure them out. When/where is the wedding party arriving? The parents? Guests? Vendor arrival times will probably be entered later in the planning process, as you work out the details with them. Sometimes the exact times for vendors aren’t set in stone until a few weeks before the wedding. Links we referenced none Quotes “Excel sorta turns you on a little bit. All those boxes just waiting to be filled with formulas...so hot.” - Christy, while Michelle sexily whispers yes-yes-yes in the background “I’ll be honest. As I get older, I have been known to throw out a 1000 piece puzzle on the dining room table.” - Michelle. “I can’t not believe you do puzzles!” - Christy “You got this. You can handle this. Keep it simple. On wedding days, people tend to pull it together. Everyone is working for the greater good on the wedding day and that is YOU and your fiance and your giant life event. Weddings magically come together.” - Christy and her timeline pep talk Get In Touch Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com

26mins

25 Jan 2017

Rank #20