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The podcast that helps you break free from the bondage of self-doubt, self-sabotage and small thinking. Pour truth into your mind with The Confidence Podcast so that you can live the calling God has put on your heart with more courage and confidence. You have purpose, a God-given one; it’s time to rise up, shine brightly, think on what is good and contribute to the world in a way that matters as you life life a beautiful, confident and abundant life.

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The podcast that helps you break free from the bondage of self-doubt, self-sabotage and small thinking. Pour truth into your mind with The Confidence Podcast so that you can live the calling God has put on your heart with more courage and confidence. You have purpose, a God-given one; it’s time to rise up, shine brightly, think on what is good and contribute to the world in a way that matters as you life life a beautiful, confident and abundant life.

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I love this podcasts! I have been listening for three year.

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Thanks for your encouragement and inspiring attitude! Great mindset shift. <3

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825 Ratings
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782
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Thank you

By Lissette E. - May 28 2020
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I love this podcasts! I have been listening for three year.

Wonderful and inspiring

By AnnieFocusd - May 05 2020
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Thanks for your encouragement and inspiring attitude! Great mindset shift. <3
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The Confidence Podcast

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The podcast that helps you break free from the bondage of self-doubt, self-sabotage and small thinking. Pour truth into your mind with The Confidence Podcast so that you can live the calling God has put on your heart with more courage and confidence. You have purpose, a God-given one; it’s time to rise up, shine brightly, think on what is good and contribute to the world in a way that matters as you life life a beautiful, confident and abundant life.

Rank #1: #187: HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK

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When you stop caring about what people think you can find freedom to take the narrative of your life back & live life to the fullest with peace & confidence . Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/187

Nov 08 2016

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Rank #2: #212: LOVING YOURSELF WHEN YOU FEEL LOST.

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Love heals everything, and when you feel disconnected from yourself, you will find joy and happiness again - connection again - when you start with love. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/212

May 02 2017

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Rank #3: #137: TAKING THE PRESSURE OFF YOURSELF

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Taking the pressure of yourself can give you the ability to live with more joy. Here are 3 strategies you can implement into your life have more peace. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/137

Nov 24 2015

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Rank #4: #138: KNOWING YOUR WORTH

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Know your worth with the wise words of Jessica Vaughn >>> get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/138

Dec 01 2015

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Rank #5: #155: HOW TO DETOX INSECURITY

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Detox insecurity > get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/155

Mar 29 2016

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Rank #6: #244: HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT ABOUT WHO YOU ARE

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Being confident in who you are is a three-step process: knowing who you are, accepting and celebrating who you are, and rocking who you are. Wherever you are on your confidence journey, this episode is for you and will help you elevate how you rock who you are to the next level! Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/244

Dec 12 2017

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Rank #7: #262: 5 SIMPLE WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK 

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Caring too much about what other people think can be debilitating in life. Find freedom what caring too much about other people's opinions by listening to this week's coaching conversation; get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/262

Apr 17 2018

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Rank #8: #194: SQUASHING SELF-DOUBT

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Doubt kills more dreams that failure ever does... give your dreams life and power by squashing self doubt with these 7 tips and approaches. #podcast Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/194

Dec 27 2016

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Rank #9: #272: 7 EASY HACKS TO INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE IN THE WORKPLACE

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Take the pressure off yourself and start trusting the impact you can make through what you do by activating these 7 confidence hacks for the workplace. This episode is for entrepreneurs and anyone in a traditional workplace setting who want to stop overthinking, get paid more and enjoy what they do with less stress. Get the hacks and the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/272

Jun 26 2018

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Rank #10: 361: 15 WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

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15 WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK
PODCAST #361 
Caring too much about what other people think about you is the fastest way to play small with your life. You can stop yourself from being negatively affected by this psychological fear by learning some practical and proven ways to give yourself permission to not care about what people may or may not say and instead to just be who God created you to be. 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about

practical ways to stop caring about what others think
how to fire up your heart so that you take more action now to change than you ever have before 

The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for high-achievers who crave deeper, more fulfilling success. In each episode, internationally acclaimed Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will coach your mindset and your heartset to help you step confidently and courageously into your God-given calling. If you have ever struggled with insecurity, self-doubt, impostor syndrome, perfectionism, body image issues or overwhelm, you'll feel understood and encouraged by The Confidence Podcast. Learn how to create a life you love and love the life you live by training your confidence with Blackwell's faith-based teachings. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass
 
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
A New Life - 5 Stars, by Ally Behling
Wow. Just wow. This is the first time in my life that I've actually loved myself. I always thought I was this confident person but deep down, I really wasn't. I started listening to this podcast and it made me feel known and understood. Thank you for all of the encouragement and love! Trish, you've changed my life. 

SPONSORSHIP NOTE: 
If you're going to do anything for your confidence and your mindset, then the first thing I tell everyone I work with is to journal.  
I get it, it's an easy thing to think about and just not do.  But, if you commit to it, it can change your life.
That's why I want to offer my 21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, also called the Freedom Journal, to anyone who wants to finally establish a healthy and effective journaling process in their lives.
The beautiful thing about the Freedom Journal is that it takes just 8-minutes/day to do. So, as you think about the change you want to see and experience in your life - let me ask you, is it worth committing 8-minutes/day to? 
You can grab the journal for free, and also get bonus access to my 7-Day Journaling Coaching Video Course, which will help you successfully establish a productive new journaling routine.  To get the journal and get started, go to www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal 
15 WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK: 

Humanize others - everyone is broken and beautiful in diverse ways
Know what everyone actually wants: love and acceptance
Address your own judging eye and pride and work on it
Embrace your awkwardness
See where your pride is making you fall (pride can sometimes be displayed in the perceptions we crave for others to have of us)
Get clarity on what you actually want - happiness or perceived happiness
Explore yourself and learn to like yourself, when you like yourself it's okay when other people don't
Relinquish your control issues 
Stop fantasizing that you can get everyone to like you or agree with you 
Remember, more than likely, the thing you are worried about people judging about you never crosses their minds
Be thankful for all the things that make you you, and then do your best with them as a gift back to God
Start doing bold things that you've always wanted to do
Try new things and be happy not being good at them
Become a master of your words, knowing how to use them to help you, not handicap you 
Stop hurrying - rushing your timeline is about other people, not about you

WHAT DID CARING TOO MUCH STEAL FROM ME?
When you realize this fear steals life from you,

Nov 04 2019

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Rank #11: #214: BECOMING A TIME MANAGEMENT MASTER

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Becoming a time management master is possible for anyone, just follow these 5 simple steps and watch the quality of your life transform. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/214

May 16 2017

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Rank #12: #301: 33 PRACTICAL WAYS TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU

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PODCAST #301:
33 PRACTICAL WAYS TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast  we are talking about:

How I've struggled with worrying what people think about me in my past (and how I've learned to move past it)
Sign to help you know if you struggle with this
33 practical ways to stop worrying about what people think of you
SPONSORSHIP
This podcast is sponsored today by my online membership, The College of Confidence, the one-stop membership site for increasing confidence. Enrollment and access has been closed for months, but we are now opening the doors and inviting you to join us for the most affordable and engaging coaching services around. Join us for as low as $20 and get the coaching you need to equip you with confidence as you pursue your calling.  Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com

And of course, y'all know I love me some Beautycounter. If you're into clean eating and tidying up your life, then adding clean beauty is going to be your jam. Go shop and see why I love it so much at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
Mrs. ZQD 

I started listening to Trish's podcast after going through a really tough time in my life, mentally. Trish's podcast along with her book have allowed me to work through that in a possible way. I love the different tips, and "homework" she gives you. This par helps the most because you get to journal about your feelings and really think about what you really do want in life. I also LOVE how it is all connected to God. Trish makes you feel comfortable and she doesn't make you feel alone, she is in this with you! I definitely recommend giving it a listen, you won't regret it!
HOW I HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THIS IN MY PAST

The first time I heard "I beat Trish Blackwell" in the locker room - I realized people talked about me behind my back
I wanted people to think I was special - a superstar in swimming; I wanted to be someone people talked about positively
Friendships; being an elite athlete, and also homeschooled made me different, I was desperate to fit in and have people like me so I turned into a huge people pleaser.
High school; I was the poorest kid in a prestigious boarding school. I relied on kindness and my social leadership skills to be a "social floater" and it worked - everyone "liked" me, but it all felt superficial and I spent enormous amounts of energy managing these relationships, and more importantly, my image.
College; wanting to be cool and to be the perfect balance of a Division I student-athlete sorority perfect student with both party friends and Christian friends.
Scholarship pressure; fear of not deserving it, impostor syndrome, pressure to perform, worry that people would think I didn't deserve it.
Adulthood; dating the wrong men because I wanted status (models, pro athletes), and compromising my values in the process. Partying and acting out someone I wasn't in order to have the respect of cool adults - I wanted the status and image that I was carefree and successful.
Body Image; thinking that if I had a perfect body - in high school, college and also as a trainer in my career - that then people would think higher of me or have more respect for me, and for the times (which was most of the time) when I felt like I failed living up to that image, I want to hide from the world and felt like a failure.
Hair; my natural insecurity with hair (stemming from a moment I was too sensitive with something my mom said) - fear that I am not pretty and that people are judging me by my hair.
Business and my first book / building my brand; putting yourself out vulnerably is terrifying, but in order to help people and serve the audience I felt God was calling me to serve, I knew I had to get over my fear of what people where going to think. I had to focus on who I was helping and put blinders on to the rest.
Comparison in general - we can always find pe...

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Rank #13: #337: HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE WHEN YOU’RE TIRED

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PODCAST #337
HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE WHEN YOU'RE TIRED
Self-sabotage is the biggest hurdle keeping you from the results you want. Breaking the cycle of self-sabotage doesn't come from "trying harder" but rather from "thinking differently" and with more clarity and confidence.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:

Why self-sabotage happens
The role shame plays in perpetuating self-sabotage
10 tips to break the cycle for good
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
I am proud to bring this podcast to you in part thanks to my partnership with Beautycounter. Beautycounter is more than just a company I believe in, it is the only company I trust fully for myself and my family.  Beautycounter has brought a new level of health to my household, reduced our toxic exposure, and increased my self-care routine and how beautiful and clean my skin is. I can honestly say that I feel more beautifully me, thanks to Beautycounter.

Oh, and we are more than just a beauty company. We are a movement. We are on a mission to get safer products into the hands of everyone. We work because we can’t stand by idly as harmful chemicals cause our loved ones to get sick, struggle with fertility, and give birth to children with significant health issues. We work towards cleaner beauty everywhere because this is personal to all of us.

Shop for your own Beautycounter collection at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
Courtneya0730 - Big Changes - 5 Stars

Thanks to this show and Trish Blackwell, I am a more confident person. I have been listening to past episodes every day for around a month and I have noticed a huge change in my mindset. I'm thinking more positively and openly. But, I have to say, the biggest change I have seen is my smile! I'm no longer fake smiling for pictures! I feel so good listening to someone who "gets" me and points me in the right direction. Thank you, Trish, for all you are doing!
WHAT IS SELF-SABOTAGE AND WHY DOES IT HAPPEN?
Self-Sabotage manifests itself in a variety of ways, including but not limited to:

Over-eating

Over-drinking

Over-watching TV

Over-exhaustion

It also can be expressed by mindsets and lifestyles of:

An attitude of giving up

Believing that it doesn't matter

Will-power exhaustion

Numbing through scrolling and comparison

Overwhelm over how far one has to go
THE ROLE OF SHAME IN THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE
Self-Sabotage is Black/White Thinking ... All or Nothing Mindset and the pressure of perfectionism and perfectionistic thinking perpetuate the cycle.

It is driven by guilt and shame.

"I choose peace, not pressure."

Putting more pressure on yourself never works and never will.

To listen to coaching on exactly how to go into recovery and to enter "rehab" for perfectionism, be sure to listen to episode #335 of The Confidence Podcast on "Why Perfectionism Prevents You from Being Confident."  (www.trishblackwell.com/335)
10 TIPS TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE FOR GOOD:

Stop depriving yourself!  (Deprivation sets us up for failure)
Create a strong "Last 90 Minutes Routine"
Camp out around the concept of grace
Growth is everything - find gratitude for the lessons and nothing is wasted
Overcome overwhem by not over-focusing on the finish line
Get in the habit of champagne moments and momentum celebration
Shatter your belief ceilings
Choose peace, not pressure
Be here, now (not in the future, not in the past, not in comparison)
Recharge yourself intentionally and know your capacity

Real change doesn't come from behavior modification but from heart transformation. Our habits are birthed from the beliefs we have and hold in our hearts.
ANNOUNCEMENTS: 
School is starting back up - Summer is coming to a close ... it's time to shed the things holding you back and to lean into what you anticipate is waiting you in the future.

You're busy getting everyone else ready for the Fall, but what about you?

Well, I've got you covered.

Aug 13 2019

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Rank #14: #341: THE MINDSET THAT IS REALLY KEEPING YOU STUCK, AND HOW TO MAKE A MINDSET CHANGE

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PODCAST #341:
THE MINDSET THAT IS REALLY KEEPING YOU STUCK, AND HOW TO CHANGE IT 
Your mindset is the narrator of your story and will determine the outcome and impact of your life. Change your mindset, change your life. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about: 

How a mindset keeps you stuck and how to make a mindset change
Which one is the most dangerous?
The 5 most important steps to take to start thinking differently
SPONSOR NOTE: 
MY FREE MASTERCLASS ON CONFIDENCE. 
Here's what's different:

It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!)
It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!)
It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)

And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!

Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along wiht the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.

I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
Shey11112222

"One of the most influential podcasts on the airwaves" - 5 Stars

It took me a long time to do this as I've been an active listener for almost a year but I have to say this. Trish Blackwell is one of the reasons I was able to take accountability and grab a hold on my life. Life can be so chaotic and unpacking all the layers can become so overwhelming. Having Trish's podcast is like having a therapist at the touch of a finger. No matter what you might be dealing with she has enough content for you to align with whatever it is you're dealing with. She has taught me so much about the importance of honoring your process and taking action with faith as your warranty. This does not necessarily mean "god" but more trusting that what is beyond you and your control with aligning with what you're trying to accomplish. Trish Blackwell is the reason why I stepped up and created my own podcast Vitamins for Breakfast, aiming to connect people through real-life conversation. Trish always expresses her real-life experiences and how she is using them to be a light to others. Knowing this, I decided to create a podcast that gathers people of all walks of life and allows them to use the bumps in their journey to serve a lesson for others. This is a concept that was born from me listening to Trish EVER.SINGLE. DAY. Now that I have created and launched my podcast I sit back overwhelmed with how far I've come and I have to come on here and honestly say Trish is a big part of this accomplishment. Trish, thank you so much for choosing this to be your purpose, God makes no mistakes and I'm sincerely and forever grateful.
HOW A MINDSET KEEPS YOU STUCK:
Your mindset is either a key or a lock to your future.

Show me a mindset and I will be able to see a measurement of how far that person is capable of going or able to go.

Our minds create the atmosphere in which we live and narrate the story of our lives.

Which "mindset team" will you play for?

Powerful mindset teams:

Limited or Limitless

Pouting or Praising

Grumbling or Grateful

Victim or Victorious

Complaining or courageous
WHICH MINDSET IS THE MOST DANGEROUS FOR SUCCESS?
The "I am not doing enough" mindset.
It makes you feel always behind and constantly overwhelmed.

It keeps you from having joy, being present, or successfully thriving wherever you are.

It drives comparison and scarcity deep into your brain.

It robs you from any chance to consistently progress towards what you want (because deems you incapable, shame-filled and busy)

Are you willing and ready to give up the hold you have on this mindset?
Going into recovery will feel -
vulnerable, scary, weird, wrong, unnatural, radical

What do you have to lose?
5 IMPORTANT STEPS TO CHANGE HOW YOU THINK:

Identify and take ownership of the thought o...

Aug 27 2019

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Rank #15: #220: 5 REASONS REJECTION CAN BE THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU

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Rejection is part of life, and it can be a good thing. There are 5 specific reasons why rejection might be the best thing that could ever happen to you. Learn more and get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/220

Jun 27 2017

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Rank #16: #224: 15 SIMPLE WAYS YOU CAN BECOME A HAPPINESS MAGNET

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You can become a happiness magnet in life, attracting happiness to you by following these 15 simple "happiness habit" suggestions. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/224

Jul 25 2017

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Rank #17: #351: 5 MINDSET DECISIONS YOU MUST MAKE TO BE CONFIDENT

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In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about mindsets, more specifically:
Mindsets that keep us stuck (I've identified 12 of them!)5 mindset decisions that will make you more confidentHow to actually train your mindset, in real life
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
FREE WEBINAR! "LEARN HOW TO BELIEVE BOLDLY IN YOURSELF"
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register.
I'll send you a free workbook to go along with the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence. I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Lori, Life-Changing Podcast, 5-Stars
I have worked with Trish for many years now and can't say enough about how much she has changed my life for the better. Her upbeat attitude and positivity are infectious. I recently joined the College of Confidence and am loving all the courses she offers for self-improvement. I am also really enjoying her new weekly podcast that is more faith-based. She has so much to offer and is the most joyous person I've ever met. If you want to start to move your life in the right direction, she is the person to seek out to make that a reality. 
MINDSETS THAT KEEP US STUCK: 
Mindset of comparison
Mindset of criticism
Mindset of scarcity
Mindset of fear
Mindset of inadequacy 
Mindset of not-enough-time
Mindset of being behind
Mindset of ingratitude
Mindset of blame
Mindset of unawareneess
Mindset of business 
Mindset of victim / the-world-is-against-you
MINDSET DECISIONS TO MAKE TO BE CONFIDENT 
Mindset 1: I control my thoughts and my thoughts are powerful. -Know your power
-Know why you have been stuck in the past
-Know that it's your thoughts, not your circumstances that determine your future
Mindset: I am thriving because I am growing.-I prioritize my growth strategically and daily
-I don't need to compare myself because I am on my own way
-I am doing better than I have ever done, so I can walk in peace 
Mindset 3: I am thankful for my mistakes and challenges.-I love growth and need resistance to grow
-I live with gratitude, not self-criticism
-I am free from the expectations of perfection and instead I show up in life
Mindset 4: I am where I need to be today.-I accept where I am with awareness and I lean into the future, I don't dwell on the past or stay stuck because I am distracted by comparing myself
-I bloom where I am planted, whether or not I like where I am
-I believe in the changing of seasons and that I'm being prepared for my next season
Mindset 5: I am who I am supposed to be and I am free to be me.-I thank God for creating me so uniquely and with purpose
-I accept the things about myself that I don't understand or wish I could change
-I don't waste time wishing I was someone that I'm not or being jealous 
HOW TO MAKE TIME TO TRAIN YOUR MINDSET
1. Prioritize it. It's as important as your workouts and eating healthy.
2. Schedule it. Create a routine and a daily pattern.
3. Be coached in it. Join a membership community like the COC.
4. Track it. Journal and pay attention to your growth, the more change you see and feel, the more easily you will be able to keep making time for continued training.
5. Share it. Share what you're learning with others - we learn most deeply when we teach and lead others. 
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
I am cheering you on - if you've been thinking about getting a coach, or about taking this confidence thing / personal development thing to the next level, then I want to personally invite you to join us in The College of Confidence (www.collegeofconfidence.com).  
Membership is cancel-at-anytime,

Oct 01 2019

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Rank #18: #156: HOW TO GET OUR OF YOUR OWN HEAD

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Overthinking leads to stagnation and stress - find freedom! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/156

Apr 05 2016

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Rank #19: #386:HOW TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE

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HOW TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE 
PODCAST #385
To become someone who exudes confidence, you become someone who also becomes a magnet to success and happiness. This episode breaks down exactly how to train your confidence and thoughts about yourself in order to exponentially grow your confidence to that "exude" level that is contagious. Your contagious confidence has the power to encourage the world; it's worth the work it takes to get there. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/386 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

What makes someone exude confidence 
The fundamentals to being more confident - how to start exuding yourself (training)
The difference between "capability confidence" and "character confidence"

You exude confidence - and I want to know how to have that.

The answer? It's a commitment to curiosity, challenging myself and congruency. 
SPONSORSHIP: 
My partnership with Beautycounter. If you've never purchased Beautycounter before, this is the time to do so. This month only when you go to www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell and opt-in to Beautycounter's email address, you'll receive a 20% off coupon code to use on your first purchase. 

My family and I are rounding out day #24 of our COVID-19 quarantine, and since we live in Virginia, we know that we're in this thing for the long haul - until June 10th. I do appreciate how slowing down and simplifying have really brought the small things of life to light.

One small thing that just made my week was my Beautycounter delivery that just arrived. Getting packages right now feels wonderful, but getting clean beauty packages? That's next level loveliness. And another way to exude confidence. You better believe that I have a few hours of pampering ahead of me, thanks to Beautycounter.

I suggest that you might want to do the same!

Go ahead, indulge in something lovely for yourself and exude confidence at the same time.

Click here to shop > www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Do yourself a favor - 5 stars, by Kirsten

Trish is the best!!! Always what I need to hear when I need to hear it. The enthusiasm, the encouragement, the positivity and different perspective she gives is such a blessing and so empowering! So grateful to have found this. podcast. Trish, you are so loved and appreciated girl!
TRAIN YOUR THOUGHTS TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE 
How we think in general determines how we feel about ourselves and our capabilities. Which contributes to how we exude confidence.

Take the training of your thoughts seriously:

Journal
Add openness to your life.
Get a coach
Read and study
Notice and celebrate growth

KNOW WHAT'S NORMAL & WHAT'S NOT 
It's normal to have a little voice of self-doubt.

It's normal to care about the opinions of others.

It's normal to feel awkward and quirky being yourself.

It's normal to self-sabotage and create blocks in your own path 

It's what you do with what's normal that makes you confident. 

Don't allow these normal things make you freeze or not move forward. 

"Being yourself" doesn't always come easy or feel natural - in the same way that starting a workout never really "feels good" - but it gets easier, feels amazing and is always worth it once you get past that. 

The key to confidence is to take action no matter what.

Become an "action-taker" and you will naturally build your courage muscles, which lead to more confidence and capability, which renders results and which then ultimately perpetuates a new cycle of more action-taking, courage, confidence, and results. 
DEEPEN YOUR FUNDAMENTALS TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE

Love is everything. When you are loved you bloom.
Love gives me all the acceptance I need.
Love releases you from needing to prove yourself.
Love inspires you to have courage beyond yourself.
Love invites others in.

I was told I was loved most of my life, and when I felt it, my confidence shone.

Apr 14 2020

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#398: How to Believe You’re Smart Enough

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How to Believe You're Smart EnoughPodcast #398
Having confidence in your intelligence has nothing to do with how "smart" you are and everything to do with how you think about yourself and your brain. When you embrace a mindset of being a lifelong learner, reestablish your relationship with failure and stop worrying about what people think, you can learn to trust your intelligence and your ability to do anything you set your mind to. 

In this episode, we're diving into:

How to believe you're smart enough
The trap of intellectual comparison
The trick to trusting yourself, your capability and your potential
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think Webinar

Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring

Our most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think.  So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before. 

What you'll learn....

In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people *might* think about you. 

When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people *might think* the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to  write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement 

If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you.  In class we'll cover...

The real issue and how to tackle it.  You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped in this toxic pattern of thinking. 
The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people think 
The easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence. You'll get advice on the exact next steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed, by comparison, overthinking, or self-doubt.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Can't get enough! by mhammond2020

I found this podcast when I needed it the most. I moved to a new city and the pandemic hit.  I've always tried to be more confident but gave up because I didn't know how to break the "I'm not good enough" thought cycle. Trish is the voice inside my head now! I really enjoyed just listening to her at first but to my surprise, I realized that I'm being kinder to myself now. Thank you so much, Trish!
WHY DO WE DOUBT OUR INTELLIGENCE ANYWAYS?
What I've noticed:

High achievers often have the lowest sense of self-esteem with their intellect. Collecting degrees, certifications, and checklists don't make you feel any smarter. Everyone who struggles with this usually thinks they're the only ones.

What do smart people do?

They train their brains. They exercise. They eat a brain-healthy diet. They work with coaches, leaders, and teachers. They read and invest in their mindset growth. 

We have 60,000 thoughts per day.

Intelligence isn't stagnant. It's perpetually in growth.
 
HOW TO BELIEVE YOU'RE SMART ENOUGH:
First, it's imperative to know that intelligence is not stagnant. -It's fluid, and flowing, and changing, and expresses itself differently.-We actually only tap into about 10% of our mental capabilities.  You are as smart as you need to be as long as you are willing to grow and learn something every day.You are as smart as you need to be as long you believe that you will find the teachers you need at the right time.You are as smart as you need to be as long as you trust the magnificent way God created you.
 
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Jul 07 2020

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#397: HOW TO KEEP GOING AND HAVE CONFIDENCE WHEN YOU’RE TIRED

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HOW TO KEEP GOING AND HAVE CONFIDENCE WHEN YOU'RE TIRED 
PODCAST #397
Knowing how to not feel discouraged when you're tired, and how to keep going when the going is tough, long, hard or boring, is one of the key elements of staying confident in the face of challenge. If your year has been filled with curveballs, or if you're feeling intimidated and overwhelmed with just how much longer you need to keep going, keep climbing and keep trying, then these confidence strategies are for you. Nothing will feel too big for you when you learn to think with confidence.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be covering:
How to not get discouraged when you are feeling exhausted or something feels too bigPutting 2020 into perspective and pivoting with power10 ways to strengthen your confidence when something feels too big ahead of you
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DON'T FORGET:
 
You can support the show, just click the button on the show notes, or go to Patreon and search for The Confidence Podcast.
 
A special shout out of thanks to listener Marlisa Hostetler, our newest patron supporter, who went above and beyond the $5, and edited her pledge to $20. 
 
RIGHT, SO HOW LONG WILL THIS KEEP GOING?
 
We don't get to know how long things will take
-Choose to be responsive, not reactive
-Choose to be accepting, not anxious
-Choose to be growing, not grumbling
-Choose to be without all the answers, not speculating
 
2020, what a year! 
-Keep a journal of the good things
-Keep a historical record of what we're walking through
-Keep a mindset of openness and flexibility
-Keep focused on what matters
-Keep your routine simple and habits high-level 
-Keep asking yourself what this now makes possible
 
It's okay that everyone reacts differently
-This is hard for everyone
-Everyone hard is hard
-You can do hard things
-Not everyone needs to agree with you
-It's okay to be different
 
THERE'S POWER IN A PIVOT
What does this now make possible? 
Go on, make a list for what you can now see are possible that weren't before now. (Maybe this is relation to 2020 itself, or maybe a broken relationship, a personal loss, a disappointing outcome, etc.) 
10 WAYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CONFIDENCE WHEN YOU FEEL TIRED
 
1. Ground yourself in gratitude
2. Get excited about the growth potential 
3. Fight for your faith - strengthen your mind against fear
4. S3: Super, Simple, Steps - focus on one foot forward at a time 
5. Create micro-milestones to look forward to
6. Look ahead but not too far ahead: get an ariel view, but then go be where you are
7. Get outside more- Vitamin D - it helps with energy and happiness
8. Prioritize sleep - good sleep hygiene will not only energize you but will boost your metabolism and help you resist emotional fatigue and the onset of overwhelming sadness
9. Know that you are not alone in how you feel; talk to someone
10. Fill your soul with the substance that strengthens you
If today encouraged you, you'll also like last week's episode, #396 on Being Happy Where You Are and Not Feeling Behind, you can listen anywhere you listen to your podcasts or directly here at: www.trishblackwell.com/396
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Podcast listener and College of Confidence Member Kimberley Guess. 
ANNOUNCEMENT:
Next week, we'll be talking about how to believe that you're smart enough for what you want to do in life. 
Ready to go next level in your mental happiness,

Jun 30 2020

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#396: BEING HAPPY WHERE YOU ARE AND NOT FEELING BEHIND

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PODCAST 396
Being happy where you are is an internal decision that can change the course of your life and life-satisfaction. When you learn how to be happy where you're at, you're able to release the self-doubting thoughts that creep in suggesting to you that you're behind or not enough. This podcast episode will help you learn how to rest well, live with joy, and bloom right now where you're planted, all while still growing and expanding towards the goals that you have for your future. To get the full show notes, go to www.trishblackwell.com/396
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to claim confidence for where you are, and stop feeling so behind. 10 mindset shifts and tiny habits to help you be happier nowThe small ways you can start to change your brain (which changes your life) 
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think WebinarSave your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaringOur most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think.  So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before. 
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people *might* think about you. When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people *might think* the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to  write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement 
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you.  In class we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it.  You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped into this toxic pattern of thinking. The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people think The easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence. You'll get advice on the exact next-steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed by comparison, overthinking or self-doubt. 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
This girl knows what she's talking about! - 5 Stars!
by Sydnie Anne
New listener here! :) Your positivity, genuine care about others and passion for what you talk about makes this podcast worth the listen in and of itself. What I love the most is that you talk about training your brain. It's incredibly real for any skeptics out there! I've done it since I was a teenager after being diagnosed with a chronic illness and became quickly covered is psoriasis from head to toe. This past winter it was worse than its ever been before and my headspace got really dark and I was stuck there for a while. This podcast is helping me tap back into that mindset again and I'm excited to listen to all of them! 
THOUGHTS TO GET YOU STARTED:
Being behind isn't possible. You simply are where you are.Feeling behind is a mindset you can choose to release.Our feelings are dictated by our thoughts (head, heart, hands) - do thinking, don't let thinking do you. Being present is the antidote to drinking the "I'm behind" kool-aid. Believing that you are behind is simply lazy thinking. You are not behind, you are where God has placed you for now.Peace is a proactive state of an engaged thought life.  Change your brian, change your life. 
YOUR BRAIN IS THE START OF EVERYTHING
Change your brain, change your life.
When your brain works right, you work right.
When your brain has trouble, you have trouble in life.  
Things you can do now (tiny habits) that have big changes in your bra...

Jun 23 2020

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#395: HOW TO STOP THINKING ABOUT FOOD ALL THE TIME

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PODCAST #395
Thinking about food all the time is a challenging hurdle for most people who want to lose weight or who are fighting to create a healthy relationship and their body image. When you can learn to stop thinking about food all the time you are able to step into a place of freedom and balance with your diet and calorie intake. Ultimately, when we stop thinking about food all the time we are free, more confident and we have an increased sense of self-trust. Get the full coaching and show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/395
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to stop thinking about food all the time, and why we do it in the first placeWhat big feelings around food looks like and feels like - and why we get stuck there8 very practical things you can do right now to stop being controlled by your thoughts about food
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think Webinar
Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Our most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think.  So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before.
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people *might* think about you.
When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people *might think* the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to  write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement 
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you.  In class, we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it. You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped into this toxic pattern of thinking.The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people thinkThe easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence.You'll get advice on the exact next-steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed by comparison, overthinking or self-doubt.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
By Kelsey VL
Trish, I just wanted to thank you so much for your podcast. I am going through a really hard time in my life with my career and feeling stuck and scared for the future. I found your podcast when I needed it the most. I am a struggling perfectionist and struggle wiht always not feeling good enough. Your podcast has helped me considerably to change my mindset and attitude! You have an infectious kind spirit and a genuine personality! I 'm so thankful I found your podcast and highly recommend for anyone struggling to find their way in life and with their capabilities. There are so many insightful and helpful topics you discuss! Thank you again and your story and background give me hope I can change my life for the better as well.
WHY ARE WE ACTUALLY THINKING ABOUT FOOD ARE THE TIME?
We buffer.
We have a distorted sense of self-care.
We have created unnecessary rules, fears, and restrictions.
We believe that the "good life" isn't available to us.
We are too busy for basic enjoyment of food and rush through it.
We are spiritually hungry for more and for meaning.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN OUR LIVES ARE DETERMINED BY FOOD?
I can speak from first-hand experience, and from that of the hundreds of women I have worked with privately over the years ... it is like living in an invisible prison.
Your thoughts are consumed.
Your joy is conditional.

Jun 16 2020

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#394: YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC? HERE’S HOW TO STOP.

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PODCAST #394
Being your own worst critic is a recipe for low self-esteem, heightened anxiety and a life of frustration. You can learn how to stand up to your inner bully and how to start talking back to the bully in an effective way. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/394
This week on The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What is actually going on when you are hyper-self-critical or have mean internal self-talkHow to stop being so self-critical and your own worst enemy - 10 things you can start to do right away8 sample sentences that work when it comes to talking back to the inner critic or bully
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think Webinar
Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Our most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think.  So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before.
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people *might* think about you.
When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people *might think* the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to  write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement 
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you.  In class we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it. You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped into this toxic pattern of thinking.The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people thinkThe easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence.You'll get advice on the exact next-steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed by comparison, overthinking or self-doubt.
HISTORICAL NOTE:
I live in Virginia, close to DC, and at the time of this recording, the cornavirus is hitting my area exceptionally hard, and the streets are flooded at night with both peaceful protests and violent riots. Conflict is everywhere - pain is rampant - people are trying to do the right thing and being upturned by opportunists who are looting and destroying towns. We are desperate for racial reconcilation and equal rights - for proper judiciary justice and for the abolition of racial profiling. Good and love are pouring out from all ethnicities - and in the same areas, those groups also have representatives spewing hate.
Hate destroys everything.
I record today with the thought of what bullying does - what hatred does.
Our world is groaning in pain. It feels like it's swirling and intensifying, making it easy to feel uncertain of how to move forward. I ache alongside you, and simply hope to offer a few notes of encouragement for you to tuck into your heart this week. 
Confidence is the state of heart of being able to walk with certainty in a life that is filled with uncertainty. So, with that in mind, here are some simple reminders of ways to remain confident and secure no matter what swirls around you or what tomorrow brings.
The one thing that is certain is that we have absolutely no idea what will happen tomorrow, or next week or next month. To create certainty in your life, create habits and thoughts that make you better, and that makes those around you better.
Love wins, and the love you put out into the world is needed now more than ever.Repair the despair around you by living with an op...

Jun 09 2020

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#393: HOW TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT

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HOW TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
PODCAST #393
Asking for what you want is a confidence skill that can transform every element of your life. Learning how to ask for what you want can be a key tool. The more you practice this 4-step process, you more proficient you will be at asking. Most people don't know how to ask for what they want because they don't know what they want and because they don't feel capable or courageous enough to ask. In this podcast episode you'll learn the framework you need to start feeling confident enough to courageously start asking for what you really want in life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/393

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

Why we chicken out when we want to ask for what we want
How to figure out what you actually want anyways
4 steps to start asking for what you want

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Perfect balance of faith + self-help
by LeahRKole

For those of us with inner demons that try to sabotage our potential, Trish is the voice and guide that cuts through all the lies and recenters you in truth. Thank you, Trish, for your unique perspective in all areas of confidence, success, sports + fitness, female leadership, and living the vibrant abundant life we were all made for. I have so appreciated your vulnerability and your confidence - especially in speaking about faith and the hope of heaven. It's hard to find speakers and coaches who walk the tightrope between self-help and Christian faith and you do that so incredibly well! If you need a pick-me-up or a life-makeover, Trish is your gal!
If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission!

The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don't. -Zig Ziglar

Go for it now, the future is promised to no one. -Wayne Dyer

I'm a big believer that life changes as much as you want it to. -Martin Freeman

Not getting what you want either means you don't want it enough, or you've been dealing too long with the price you have to pay. -Rudyard Kipling

The most effective way to do it, is to do it. -Amelia Earhart

You can't just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden dream. You have to go out there and make it happen for yourself! -Diana Ross

The world needs dreams and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do! -Sarah Ban Breathnach

The great secret of getting what you want from life is to know what you want and to believe you can have it. -Norman Vincent Peale

You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for.

We don't get what we deserve.
We get what we design.

Confidence is at the root of being able to get what you want in life, in your relationships, in your career, and in your opportunities.
WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN WAITING FOR TO HAPPEN?
Are you waiting for permission?
Are you waiting to be called out?
Are you waiting to be ready?
Are you waiting for someone to tell you you're enough?
Are you waiting for the right time?
Are you waiting for "other reasons?"

Other reasons ...
-I'm not supposed to ask
-Who I to think
-Why would they discount that for me
-Does that opportunity even exist
-What if they think I'm pushy
-Will I come off arrogant or ungrateful

Maybe you want to ask for a raise, an opportunity, for a chance, for a mentor, for a discount, for help, for support, for chocolate milk for breakfast ... you will only get it if you dare to ask for it.

Maybe it feels too hard, or you feel lazy, or you've convinced yourself that your "woe-is-me" storyline is just too strong...whatever it might be, you are only ensuring that nothing happens.
STEP ONE:
WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT?
Most people don't know what they want because they are so afraid of being disappointed that they won't even give themselves permission to think of all of their possibilities and potential.
Be emotionally and creatively brave with yourself as you answer this question:

What is it that I actually want?

Jun 03 2020

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#392: BEING CONFIDENT EVEN THOUGH YOU AREN’T YET WHERE YOU WANT TO BE

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PODCAST #392
If you value progress more than perfection, then it's possible to feel confident and capable, even if you don't yet feel like you "deserve" to. Confidence has no finish line or destination. It is a muscle that we work and strengthen through how we choose to think about who we are and where we are at as we progress along the journey of life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/392

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

The questions about being confident that I am most often asked
How to really, really believe that you can do something and feel confident, even if you aren't "there" yet
The 3-steps to progressing towards anything you want with more confidence
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Just the best podcast ever - 5 stars

by Liv'in'progress

A long-overdue review here, I just wanted to express how grateful I am for Trish and her amazing energy, positivity, and ability to be inspiring every day. I sincerely look forward to my commute so that I can learn from Trish and get guidance for those tricky issues in life. Every time I listen, I immediately feel as though I'm entering into a "me time" moment that I don't want to be interrupted and I become centered and inspired to be a better version of myself. I frequently rewind over and over to re-listen to a little phrase that hit hard for me - there are so many. Trish feels like the friend that I wish I had, someone who will actually call me out in an effective yet nonjudgmental way. I just listened to an episode where she suggested that certain things or behaviors in life you have to realize that you've outgrown. This was a little reality slap that I needed today. I also really love the faith-based episodes. As someone who grew up with parents always bickering about their interpretation of the Bible, I really align with your insights on faith. Thank you, Trish, for showing up for us all - your love and goodwill is overwhelmingly evident. Much love.
Questions I am often asked:

How can I feel confident if I am not even close to where I want to be?
How can I stay confident if I keep having these setbacks?
How can I act confident if I know I don't have the experience that I wish I had?
How can I remain confident if I fail visibly or embarrass myself?
How can I walk confidently if I've gained the weight back or if my business regresses or must pivot?
How can I be confident if I feel keep beating myself up or feel like I'm behind or making the same mistakes over and over again?

Ultimately, we are asking:

How do I have confidence in progression, not perfection?

We must change what soul ties we make.

We must pay attention to the agreements we make with our beliefs.

We must decide that since our thinking can change that we also can change.
CONFIDENT ANTICIPATION
Mindset of optimism
-Looking at what could go right, not wrong

-Seeing your commitment, not the inevitable challenges

-Believing there will be joy and adventure along the way
Eagerness to learn
-Freedom from the belief that you need to know it all

-Release from the pressure to execute perfectly
Grounding in gratitude
-Gratitude is your propeller

-Gratitude journaling, flash gratitude

-Perspective flexibility
CONFIDENT PROGRESSION
Simple steps and slowing down
-Forward is a pace

-Champagne moments and micro-milestones

-Resist the rush (why are you rushing anyways?)
Be completely where you are
-Release competition and comparison

-Repair rotting bones - rid your heart of jealousy or envy

-Protect your joy
Express joy and enthusiasm
-Celebrate others' prosperity and wins authentically

-Deepen your belief in your vision (and go next level by saying God, I trust you. I invite you into this).

-Grow in your understanding of your emotions, feelings, thoughts and, desires
WANT TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE AND HAPPINESS?

May 25 2020

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#391: 37 WAYS TO HAVE MORE JOY AND PEACE

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PODCAST #391
When you learn how to have more joy and more peace in your life, you will naturally begin to overflow with confidence. Here are 37 simple and practical ways to help you have more joy and peace in your life, starting today. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/391

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

How to get more peace in your life, more specifically, 37 ways to do so
The shifts I have made that helped me turn my anxiety into joy
Why joy and peace will make you more confident

REVIEW OF THE WEEEK:
Time well spent! 5 stars, by Ashtyn C

This review is long overdue. Trish is an amazing source of light and encouragement! She gives practical advice and incredible insight. As an avid reader myself (and forever the knowledge seeker), I appreciate the work she puts into her content. This has been a podcast staple for me for several years now. Listening to her podcast is always time well spent! Highly recommend!
WHY JOY & PEACE WILL MAKE YOU MORE CONFIDENT:
Joy is sustained, deep happiness; radiance, if you will. It takes something beautiful and makes it magnetic.

Peace is confidence. It is security, safety, presence, and an absence of anxiety, strife, turmoil, pressure, or anything that is typically related to insecurity or self-criticism.

The core issue of most confidence challenges is a lack of peace. I struggled with confidence because I didn't have peace in who I was, in my body weight, in my place in the world, in whether or not I was loved and belonged, etc.

You will live in peace and joy.
The mountains and hills will burst into song and the trees of the field will clap their hands.
Isaiah 55:12
37 WAYS TO GET MORE JOY AND PEACE IN YOUR LIFE
Joy and peace are the opposite of how I would have described my life prior to my work in confidence coaching. They are not adjectives I would have ever chosen to describe myself.

I didn't have joy - I was focused and self-critical.
I didn't have peace - I was always pushing myself harder.
I didn't have joy - I wasn't sure how to be myself, or if I was allowed to be.
I didn't have peace - I felt like I was behind.
I didn't have joy - I thought life was supposed to be super serious.
I didn't have peace - I worried that God was disappointed in me and He felt far from m.
I didn't have joy - I was stuck in addiction and numbing, and didn't have full access to full emotions
I didn't have peace - I didn't know how to accept love and be present

1. Journal daily
2. Intentionally detox my toxic thoughts
3. Remember that if I'm growing, I'm going
4. Mindfully choose peace, not pressure
5. Spend more time laughing
6. Sit on the floor more
7. Frequent outside walks without technology
8. Meditate and proclaim the phrase: God, I trust You.
9. Gratitude journaling
10. Flash gratitude.

11. Less TV at night
12. Established nighttime routine
13. Consistent mental wellness with my therapist
14. Patience by focusing on progress, not perfection
15. Celebration of progress with champagne moments
16. Permission to do less
17. The daily goal of learning, not accomplishing
18. Reduced exposure to things that drive comparison in my mind
19. Writing out my prayers, increase conversation with the Lord
20. Exercise to feel alive, not to burn calories

21. Dates with family members - making time for people
22. People over projects (needing to remind my self of what often should be obvious)
23. Explore creative expression - dance, writing, songs, organization, coloring
24. Hopeful confidence in what doors God will open (focus, not a feeling; focus on his faithfulness)
25. More attachment to the process than the outcome.
26. Renewed willingness to fail, fall or have a setback - because it's all ultimately a setup
27. The enthusiasm that flows freely, without fear judgment (I uber-embrace the little things)
28. Focus on faithfulness - trust that God will provide (Isaiah 58:11)
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May 19 2020

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#390:OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS: HOW TO DEVELOP A THICKER SKIN

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#390: OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS: HOW TO DEVELOP A THICKER SKIN
You can learn to not be bothered or swayed by other people's opinions when you learn how to develop a thick skin. Developing a thick skin comes when you know who you are, how to be yourself, and from lots of practice of being in uncomfortable situations and learning how to have the mindset to focus on the right thing. You can develop a thick skin when you learn how to train your thoughts and your focus. This podcast episode will help you with exactly that. 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we care so much and how to start letting goThick skin ... how to get it, especially if you consider yourself a sensitive personHow to move forward and stop caring what people think
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: FREE WEBINAR ON HOW TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING
If you have a dream that God has stirred in your heart and aren't sure where to start, save yourself a spot on my newest free webinar. Unlike other online classes I have offered, this webinar will only be available the first few days of May, so save your spot now. 
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/dream to save your free spot.
In the webinar, you'll learn
The 5 Secrets of Having Confidence How to Achieve Anything How to Know if Your Dream is Achievable How to Take the "Dream" and Do It. 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
An encouraging listen - 5 stars! 
by Allimandy
I have been listening to this for a couple of months now. I can feel the difference in my mood shift when I listen to an episode. I love to listen on walks and feel encouraged after listening. I like that she is vulnerable enough to put herself out there and she challenges you to do the sam.e I would like to be a part of the College of Confidence one day! Than you for showing up Trish. I am encouraged to show up in my life every day. 
OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS 
God never told you to impress other people, just to love them. So love them. 
You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!
– Olin Miller
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
– Eleanor Roosevelt 
here is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.
– Aristotle
Other People's Opinions
There will always be conflicting opinions.There will always be an option for you: let them matter or don't.
Opinions change as often as the wind.
Opinions are not relevant - and they're fickle. 
Opinions should never keep us chained or bonded from life.
What have you let other people's opinions take from you or keep you from?
For me...caring too much made me...
-get into wrong relationships
-say things I didn't want to say
-do things I didn't want to do
-spend money I didn't have
-put off writing my first book for a few years
-almost didn't launch my podcast or business
THICK SKIN: HOW TO GET IT
Y'all. I'm a sensitive person.
I'm the girl that likes to cry by intentionally watching sad movies.
When I was a kid I was the only emotional one in my family, and a black sheep because of it. I once cried so hard that my mom told me she might have to send me away.
Think about callouses, they come with time, pressure, and exposure. Now, I'm not trying to get my hands all calloused, but I do like a baseline of callous protection since I lift frequently.
I've had to develop a thick skin, and the truth is that the toughening of one's mental thick skin never ends or stops. Just the other week I had a deep conversation with an influential mentor and investor ... and I hung up the phone - not sure whether or not to smile or cry. I spoke to Brandon about it and he and I agreed that this person, knowing that I am a world-renown confidence coach, assumed that I had the confidence to take straight talk and open criticism. Which, technically, I do. But, that doesn't mean that I don't have to do the mindset work behind tak...

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#389: BEING CONFIDENT WHEN LIFE IS FILLED WITH UNKNOWNS

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PODCAST #389
It is possible to have confidence even when the future is unknown. Finding peace and confidence when life is filled with so much unknown, especially when life feels tumultuous, is the cornerstone of being able to have joy in all circumstances. In this podcast episode, we're talking about how to have confidence and peace when the unknowns of life feel too big and also how to release your need to know about what is to come in the future.

Comparative suffering and ambiguous grief - the unknown vortex we are in
Can you really live with confidence and peace if life really is all unknown?
How to release your need to know
ANNOUNCING: NEW FREE WEBINAR!!!!
Have you ever wondered if you could write a book? Or maybe you're daydreaming about being a successful entrepreneur? Maybe you've got an idea for a charity stirring inside you or possibly a desire to share your art - whether it is your canvas, your words, your music or your voice - with the world?

I want you to know that whatever is stirring in your heart is stirring for a reason. I believe it was breathed into you by God and that when you show up and go all-in on where you're feeling led, that you will light the world up in your own important way.

You don't have to keep wondering if your dream is possible. You don't have to keep making excuses about why you're not "ready" to start. You don't have to believe the critics or the comparison that is holding you back.

You just need to learn how to believe in yourself - to really believe in yourself. I want to teach you the mindset behind how the most confident and most successful people think. You can think that way too, and when you do, you'll take that dream on your heart, and you'll start to actually do it.

Join my free, limited-time webinar today, I'll get you started on the mindset you need and I'll give you all the next steps needed to take that God-given potential and bring it to life.

Click here to save your free spot > www.trishblackwell.com/dream
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
I love this podcast!!! [5 Stars]

by Deemoflowers

It's been a great topic and good encouragement. Thanks for sharing your ideas!

LET'S THINK ABOUT ALL UNKNOWNS THOUGH:
Relationships, finances, the economy, health, whether or not people like you, what kinds of things your kids are interested in, the outcome of projects you pour yourself into.

COVID-19

Death toll counts.

Desensitization.

Isolation.

Guilt over happiness.

Desperation for life to resume.

Speculations - divisions, and unity.
ULTIMATELY ... 
It's a giant unknown in the world.

If you want some positive perspective and haven't yet listened to the podcasts I have already don't specifically on how to stay confident and filled with peace during COVID-19, here are the direct links:

#381 - How to be positive during the coronavirus pandemic (not panicked)
#382: Psychological immunity and perspective shifts for a pandemic
#383: How to stay nice when you feel stressed
#385: Staying motivated when you are sad or scared

I have found peace and release by learning how to let go of the outcome and become more interested in the process.

For example, I just poured my last six weeks - every free waking minute of them - to the creation of my newest program, The Dream & Do Project. I have big goals for how many people's dreams I want this program to launch and awaken (and how many I know it can help) ---- but ultimately I can't make you or anyone click the register button. I can do all the marketing and promotion that I know how to do and that the industry recommends, but ultimately, I cannot make someone take my program.

Therefore, I find my confidence and pride in the power and passion-infused into the program --- and the knowledge that when someone knows it's right for them, that then it will be life-changing for them.
BUT, REALLY, THE SECRET TO BEING CONFIDENT WHEN LIFE IS UNKNOWN IS HOW TO TAP INTO PEACE.

May 05 2020

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#388:CAN YOU REALLY DO ANYTHING?

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PODCAST #388                      CAN YOU REALLY DO ANYTHING?
Can you really do anything you set your mind to? And if you can, how do you "set your mind' and really do anything? This podcast will help you break down the behind-the-scenes of the mindset of achievers so that you can also learn how to set your mind and belief that you can really do anything. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/388

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

Can you really do anything?
How do you figure out what to do and what not to do?
What is the magic difference between those who achieve and those who don't?
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: FREE WEBINAR ON HOW TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING
If you have a dream that God has stirred in your heart and aren't sure where to start, save yourself a spot on my newest free webinar. Unlike other online classes I have offered, this webinar will only be available the first few days of May, so save your spot now. 

Go to www.trishblackwell.com/dream to save your free spot.

In the webinar, you'll learn

The 5 Secrets of Having Confidence
How to Achieve Anything
How to Know if Your Dream is Achievable
How to Take the "Dream" and Do It. 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
This is exactly what you need in your life! 5 Stars.

I had been looking for an encouraging podcast to listen to while I run and this one is beyond perfect. I've listened every day for the past few weeks in hopes to increase my confidence. Not only has it helped me in my journey of growing confidence but it has also improved my overall happiness and relationship with God. It had made me realize that I'm not alone in my personal growth journey and thata God is with me every step of the way. He continues to heal my eyes so I can see my true beauty, which I have struggled with in the past, and guides me to love myself and others as much as He does. Trish is the perfect person to spend time with everyday to focus on myself and growth. She's such a positive light in this world and a true gift from God.
LIFE IS SHORT: LEAN INTO THAT DREAM ON YOUR HEART
Life is precious. Thank you to my dear friend Amy for deepening my love for life.

Amy was relentlessly humble, private, and positive.

Cancer took her life after years of battling.

Amy, I pay you honor and tribute today. You will not be forgotten.

Amy, you have impacted my heart. I will live with an intimate understanding that life is short. I will not be afraid of what people think of me. I will not worry about being cheesy or too nice and I will reach out and love with every opportunity I get. I will stay centered, positive, and present the way you so valiantly demonstrated as I had the privilege of watching you live out your last painful, yet incredibly beautiful years. I will save the photos we have and the videos of the kids jumping in puddles in the pouring rain and the lazy afternoons we spent just intertwining hours of non-descript life-moments together. Those moments matter and I love them. I love you and I thank you for reminding me of the hope we have in Heaven. I will see you again soon dear friend in that beautiful place with Jesus where every tear is wiped away. 
CAN YOU REALLY DO ANYTHING?
“To achieve the impossible, you must attempt the absurd”
― Jon R. Michaelsen

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.

-Albert Einstein 

You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.

-Aristotle

We can do anything we want if we stick to it long enough.

-Helen Keller 

If you're not making mistakes you're not doing anything.

-John Wooden

I never did anything worth doing by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident, they came from work.

-Plato 

Yes, we can achieve that which we are capable of believing.
To believe something, we must step into faith - and faith is active.
Activated faith means work, commitment, resilience, and courage.

Apr 28 2020

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#387:HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS WITH CONFIDENCE AND WITHOUT COWERING

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HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS WITH CONFIDENCE AND WITHOUT COWERING EPISODE 387
You don't have to cower from having difficult conversations anymore. This podcast episode will coach you on exactly how to be confident when having intimidating or difficult conversations.  Learn how to have difficult conversations. No more avoiding, no more buffering, no more sweeping things under the carpet - it's time to confidently connect better with the humans in your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/387
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

How conflict can lead to confidence
The 10 fundamental things to remember before having hard conversations
Turning the table: how to have hard conversations with yourself
How to have difficult conversations with confidence
How to have difficult conversations without cowering

SPONSORSHIP: 
My partnership with Beautycounter. If you've never purchased Beautycounter before, this is the time to do so. This month only when you go to www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell and opt-in to Beautycounter's email address, you'll receive a 20% off coupon code to use on your first purchase.

My family and I are rounding out day #24 of our COVID-19 quarantine, and since we live in Virginia, we know that we're in this thing for the long haul - until June 10th. I do appreciate how slowing down and simplifying have really brought the small things of life to light.

One small thing that just made my week was my Beautycounter delivery that just arrived. Getting packages right now feels wonderful, but getting clean beauty packages? That's next level loveliness. You better believe that I have a few hours of pampering ahead of me, thanks to Beautycounter.

I suggest that you might want to do the same!

Go ahead, indulge in something lovely for yourself.

Click here to shop > www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Thank you Trish! 5-Stars.

By Sophia abc. / I have been listening to this podcast for a month or two by now and DANG!!! It has helped me improve my everyday life by appreciating what I have and how to use it. Her wise words have helped me become a much more confident woman everywhere, every day and around everyone. I think that everyone needs a little Trish in their life so I totally recommend this podcast!!!
HOW CAN CONFLICT LEAD TO CONFIDENCE?
Conflict > Conversations > Communication > Connection > Confidence
10 FUNDAMENTALS ON HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS

Value bravery. (Being emotionally brave is more impressive than being physically brave.)
Remember conflict leads to connection.
Honor other people's perspectives.
Seek to understand and not always be understood.
Release expectations (let go of trying to control their feelings and reactions)
Use The 5-Second Rule (Mel Robbins)
Speak from the heart and be humble.
Listen as well as you talk.
Seek connection, not your own resolution.
Define a purpose (objective to be transparent, to express oneself, etc.)

HOW TO HAVE HARD CONVERSATIONS WITH YOURSELF

These are perhaps the most important conversations to be having in the first place.
You don't have to go these alone - use prayer, and your journal to guide you.
Braindump onto paper - and stop using the excuse that you're worried that someone will look at what you write; y'all people are not interested in what you're thinking about, you're safe.
Pay attention to your own avoidances and what you are resisting.
We all run away in our own ways - seek emotional maturity enough to look at what is actually going on within yourself.
Each month I like to ask myself - what do I need to modify? What am I allowing or permitting that I need to pay more attention to? How can I be a better wife? How can I be kinder to myself? How can I be a more engaged and patient mother? How can I be a more present and encouraging human in my circles and comings and goings?

Apr 21 2020

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#386:HOW TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE

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HOW TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE 
PODCAST #385
To become someone who exudes confidence, you become someone who also becomes a magnet to success and happiness. This episode breaks down exactly how to train your confidence and thoughts about yourself in order to exponentially grow your confidence to that "exude" level that is contagious. Your contagious confidence has the power to encourage the world; it's worth the work it takes to get there. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/386 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

What makes someone exude confidence 
The fundamentals to being more confident - how to start exuding yourself (training)
The difference between "capability confidence" and "character confidence"

You exude confidence - and I want to know how to have that.

The answer? It's a commitment to curiosity, challenging myself and congruency. 
SPONSORSHIP: 
My partnership with Beautycounter. If you've never purchased Beautycounter before, this is the time to do so. This month only when you go to www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell and opt-in to Beautycounter's email address, you'll receive a 20% off coupon code to use on your first purchase. 

My family and I are rounding out day #24 of our COVID-19 quarantine, and since we live in Virginia, we know that we're in this thing for the long haul - until June 10th. I do appreciate how slowing down and simplifying have really brought the small things of life to light.

One small thing that just made my week was my Beautycounter delivery that just arrived. Getting packages right now feels wonderful, but getting clean beauty packages? That's next level loveliness. And another way to exude confidence. You better believe that I have a few hours of pampering ahead of me, thanks to Beautycounter.

I suggest that you might want to do the same!

Go ahead, indulge in something lovely for yourself and exude confidence at the same time.

Click here to shop > www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Do yourself a favor - 5 stars, by Kirsten

Trish is the best!!! Always what I need to hear when I need to hear it. The enthusiasm, the encouragement, the positivity and different perspective she gives is such a blessing and so empowering! So grateful to have found this. podcast. Trish, you are so loved and appreciated girl!
TRAIN YOUR THOUGHTS TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE 
How we think in general determines how we feel about ourselves and our capabilities. Which contributes to how we exude confidence.

Take the training of your thoughts seriously:

Journal
Add openness to your life.
Get a coach
Read and study
Notice and celebrate growth

KNOW WHAT'S NORMAL & WHAT'S NOT 
It's normal to have a little voice of self-doubt.

It's normal to care about the opinions of others.

It's normal to feel awkward and quirky being yourself.

It's normal to self-sabotage and create blocks in your own path 

It's what you do with what's normal that makes you confident. 

Don't allow these normal things make you freeze or not move forward. 

"Being yourself" doesn't always come easy or feel natural - in the same way that starting a workout never really "feels good" - but it gets easier, feels amazing and is always worth it once you get past that. 

The key to confidence is to take action no matter what.

Become an "action-taker" and you will naturally build your courage muscles, which lead to more confidence and capability, which renders results and which then ultimately perpetuates a new cycle of more action-taking, courage, confidence, and results. 
DEEPEN YOUR FUNDAMENTALS TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE

Love is everything. When you are loved you bloom.
Love gives me all the acceptance I need.
Love releases you from needing to prove yourself.
Love inspires you to have courage beyond yourself.
Love invites others in.

I was told I was loved most of my life, and when I felt it, my confidence shone.

Apr 14 2020

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#385: STAYING MOTIVATED WHEN YOU ARE SAD OR SCARED

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PODCAST #385 
How can you stay motivated when things feel like they're falling apart around you? If you're overwhelmed by the circumstances of your life, or learning how to process ambiguous grief or the uncertainty of the unknown, then this episode is for you. You'll learn how to stay motivated when you are sad or scared and how to make the most of what you have available to you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/385
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Ambiguous grief in the time of COVID-19 and how to process itHow to stay motivated when you are sad, mad or scared at this timeMaking the most of the hand of cards you have
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
Blissful Encouragement - 5 Stars
by TravelerSB
Trish gives me such encouragement with her amazing energy and loving spirit. The content she provides shifts my mindset into a positive place,  often when I need it the most. Thank you, Trish,  for sharing your light and your gifts with the world in this way!
AMBIGUOUS GRIEF: GIVE IT SPACE
-Loss of control
-Upturning of big life events
-Balancing deep sadness with deep gratitude to be alive and healthy
-Feelings of unrest and wasted effort
Ambiguous loss is a loss that occurs without closure or clear understanding. This kind of loss leaves a person searching for answers, and thus complicates and delays the process of grieving, and often results in unresolved grief.
You might be experiencing ambiguous grief for the following reasons as a by-product of COVID-19:
Missed athletic championship, missed athletic season, canceled graduations, isolated Easter holidays, loss of a job, furloughed family members (and potential guilt for not being in the same position), uncertain global economic conditions, rescheduled vacations, postponed weddings, inability to connect with loved ones to mourn the loss of life, missed birthday plans, compromised family Spring traditions, closed gyms and training facilities, rescheduled major tests or opportunity for promotion, lost progress on financial goals, or just loss of general sense of normalcy. 
ACKNOWLEDGE THE LOSS
Nothing is wasted - not your work, not your planning, not your efforts leading up to this point. Whatever it is that you are letting go of and grieving, allow yourself the space to feel what you feel.Journal and express what you feel into sentences; put words to your heart. Honor what is lost and decide what matters most to you moving forward. Remember that with loss always comes life and a gift of deeper appreciation. 
HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED: DECIDE HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT IS PRESENT
Enjoy - thrive - live today well.
Create a schedule - everything has a place: workouts, creative time, cleaning, food prep chill time, etc. Differentiate between weekday schedules and weekend schedules and identify what days you do certain things versus what days you don't. Identify your daily transition points- use music, fresh air, a Netflix break, a phone call to your mom, etc. to create a sense of daily normalcy; which will increase your overall productivity. Utilize social media effectively, not obsessively.Set time limits to your scroll, unfollow certain people and use apps that connect you in real-time socially with others.  Ground yourself in gratitude.When you use gratitude effectively it reminds you of all the things that are going right and going well right now. Set monthly goals and micro-milestones.For me, April is a month of 8-hours of sleep. I have "connection" goals with my husband. I have quality time and creative goals with my kids. I have writing goals for my next book. 
It's imperative that you remember that we are not on "pause" with life. This is life, right now, as it is. If you aren't sure where to start or what to do, you can pray a prayer I like to pray: "Lord, thank You for this new normal.

Apr 07 2020

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#384:GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU

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In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:

Getting the right people to like you is a result of learning how to stop caring what people think. This podcast episode will teach you how to let go of caring what people think about you. You'll also learn how to find and create the right friend group for yourself. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/384

How to get the right people to like you and how to 
The two major types of people and how to distinguish between them
A challenge to help you let go of caring too much
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
5-Stars - 5 Stars by jaylaBillions

This is an awesome podcast. It changed my life.
GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU
Well, we can't control people's opinions of us, but we can control whose opinions we esteem and who we spend the most time with. 

How are you supposed to confidently make good friends with good people?

How do you break the cycle of trying too hard to get people to like you?

How do you learn to figure out who will be life-giving or soul-sucking in your life?

It all comes down to learning how to assess what type of person someone is. Or, more accurately, what season of growth they are in in their lives. We are humanly capable of being both types, but to be the type that builds great relationships and thinks beyond themselves, we have to do some soul growth and work. 
COVID-19 REVEALED TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE:

Self-focused people.
Other-focused people.

This is non-age-discriminate, non-gender based and not socio-economically tied. 
SELF-FOCUSED PEOPLE
Interested in self-promotion, in getting attention, in getting praise

Thinks about proving themselves and wanting to stand out from the crowd

Driven to be better than others because they want to be special or famous and noticed

Mindset of scarcity and competition - always thinking about what's next
OTHER-FOCUSED PEOPLE
Interested in making a difference, in having authority, in living out their purpose

Thinks about how they are loved and how to share that with others

Driven to have influence over others because they want to make a positive difference

Mindset of abundance and collaboration - working to be present and grateful
THE "THEY'RE ALLOWED TO NOT LIKE ME" & GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU CHALLENGE

Write out the names of 3 people who you worry might not like you
Then write out what it would really mean if they didn't?
Ask yourself if you even really like them, and why their opinion of you matters.
Be honest - does their opinion of you challenge your overall happiness or life?
Repeat out loud: people are allowed to not like me. 

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For just $5/month you can become an official supporter, a patron, we call it, of The Confidence Podcast. But hey, I don't take asking for money from you lightly - you better believe that becoming a patron means that you'll get extra bonus podcast episodes and other encouraging content from me. Yep, exclusive, podcast episodes that I call "faith takes," are released 2x/month for our patrons.

To start supporting the show just go to www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
MICRO COACHING SESSIONS FOR CRISIS MANAGEMENT
If you've ever considering hiring a life coach, a mindset coach, a career coach or a confidence coach - this is the most important time, now more than ever to do so.

I understand that investing in yourself, particularly in a time of uncertainty, feels intimidating, and it might have you second-guessing yourself. But, I assure you,

Mar 31 2020

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#383:HOW TO STAY NICE WHEN YOU FEEL STRESSED

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PODCAST #383
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to not loseyour cool - your confidence, your joy, and your sanity - while stuck at home or living a new norm in your work or home lifestyle
How to not beat yourself up for the moments that you don't like yourself in how you react with the people close to you
How to keep life engaging even if it feels dull, monotonous and isolated - how to not believe the fear that this will last forever.

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

HOW TO STAY NICE WHEN YOU FEEL STRESSED 
When things dramatically change in a short period of time, it's important to remember that:

-Adjusting to the new normal will take time, and comes with a learning curve

-Feeling an overwhelming and varying amount of emotions is normal

-It's natural to behave in ways that are less than your ideal

-Your people are on the same team as you - and working through their own adjustments as well

-Each situation is a learning opportunity for personal growth, you don't need to beat yourself up

-These are defining moments, they are growth moments.
New temporary normal:
My family unit of 4.

Extraverts, staying in.

Two people working from home.

Unpacking and cleaning new house.

No gym; working out happening at 6:30 AM

No friend time for my kids.

No doggie play dates for my dog.
STIR CRAZY TIME CHEZ LES SYNANS
Temper tantrums.

Kids jealous for my attention and fighting constantly.

Free time trying to organize new home and clean up messes left by previous owners.

Dog with anxiety at new transition.

Social life altered.

Family gatherings suspended.
If you were my husband you would see:
A woman waking up energized at 6AM

A woman feeling alive and filled with peace after time with God and journaling

A woman using music to lift the mood of the house

A woman motivated to create a beautiful home

A woman determined to have a positive attitude about the opportunity of this season

A woman thankful for curbside delivery and the gift of technology

A woman who sometimes cries out of frustration

A woman who feels shame when she breaks and raises her voice at her kids

A woman who hurts for her kids who see new friends they can't meet

A woman who feels conflicted for wanting to use screen time too much and also to do every mom craft that her friends post about

A woman irritated that she has to keep Amazon packages on the front porch to air out

A woman who hates having to wipe down what was purchased at curbside pickup
My point, y'all?
Humans are multilayered, multifaceted, complex and deep feelers. Now, throw us into unknown territory and uncertainty, take away any sense of control we ever thought we had and these natural ups and downs we are all inevitably going through makes sense.

Please look at the facts in every situation.

Please give yourself space to feel the feelings you have.

Please extend yourself - and others - extensive grace like never before.

Please get connected with a coach or a community.

Please remember that this too shall pass.

Please determine to ground yourself in gratitude.

Please be extra kind and encouraging to others.
HOW TO STAY NICE WHEN STRESSED?

Put self-care at the top of your to-do list.
Ask for help.
Modify your expectations.
Increase your communication.
Get more sleep.
Eat clean, healthy food.
Limit alcohol consumption/sugar consumption.
Make exercise a daily priority.
Journal every day no matter what.
Set micro-goals to keep you focused on what you can control.
Stretch and do breathwork for 5-minutes/day.
Refuse to be a victim - this is not happening to you; don't feel sorry for yourself - feel thankful for the strength you have.
Don't overidentify with a stress reaction you have had.
Drink more water.
Use gratitude on the go as often as needed.

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Mar 27 2020

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#382: PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY AND PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS FOR A PANDEMIC

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PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY AND PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS FOR A PANDEMIC
PODCAST #382
Fuel your faith in the face of fear by paying attention to your psychological immunity and wellness. Here are 10 things you can do to build your psychological immunity and also the single most important phrase that can help you have a powerful perspective shift that will keep you positive, not panicked, during a pandemic or time of crisis. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/382

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:

How to have faith and power during chaos
Psychological immunity in a time of psychological overload
The perspective shift that comes from saying: this is my time.
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Amazing - 5 Stars, by MissCocoDerp
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HOW TO BUILD YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY
This new normal of distanced, isolated and cautious living is filled with unknowns, but it is also seeping with opportunity. As we all tiptoe around one another, mindful of our physical immunity, it's important that we talk about our psychological immunity.

We are all going through this together, and so instead of focusing on all that could happen, why don't we focus on what we can control - and on what we can get from this that is positive? 

Here are five simple things you can do right now to improve your psychological immunity:

Pay attention to your media input - don't get pulled into the fear-spiral of the news cycle.
Put your heart at ease- fill it with peace with prayer, time with God, or uplifting music.
Pursue thoughts that serve you- train your thoughts and use this time to mature mentally.
Prioritize self-care at home - create a routine that promotes your mental wellbeing.
Participate in a structured coaching program, like the College of Confidence, to keep your mindsethealthy and strong so you can be a pillar of hope for the long-haul of this new normal.

We can all mature in our psychological immunity. There is no better time than now to train your thoughts and master your mind. You don't have to do this on your own. Come alongside me and become a student at the College of Confidence. (www.collegeofconfidence.com)

I am so blessed that I serve my students virtually, and you can rest assured that I will continue to do so and to show up more than I ever have, in this time of global need. What a gift that we have a digital community that's permitted to meet socially online to connect and spread positivity and love.

Please enroll here (www.collegeofconfidence.com) and then check our virtual campus for the many added classes and coaching opportunities. Together we will get through this and come out stronger.
10 WAYS TO BUILD PYSCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY

Create some structure to your daily routine, even if you don't leave the house
Set up weekly group video chats with friends to maintain a sense of social normalcy
Exercise every day, in some way - even if you have to get creative, move for 20-minutes.
Make time to journal about your anxieties and fears to prevent any spiraling negative thoughts
Limit your screen time outside of work - and consider putting a...

Mar 23 2020

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#381: HOW TO BE POSITIVE DURING THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC (NOT PANICKED)

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HOW TO BE POSITIVE DURING THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC (NOT PANICKED) PODCAST #381
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about how to be positive during the coronavirus pandemic and:

25 ways to be and stay positive, not panicked during the COVID-19 coronavirus worldwide pandemic
A gratitude challenge for this season of uncertainty
How to make sure that your social distancing and this new season of life doesn't isolate you / how to combat loneliness during this time
Focusing on staying positive during the coronavirus pandemic
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
Ann Brousseau - In Honor of International Women's Day! 5 Stars.

An inspiration in my life is someone I’ve never even met in person!  Trish Blackwell is an online life coach/personal trainer who built and grew her coaching business from scratch, through persistence and grit.  She now has hundreds of thousands of followers across the world.  I found her on iTunes over a year ago, when I stumbled across one of her podcasts on how to live your life with more purpose.   During that time, (probably not unlike others!),  I was constantly “running”,  juggling a corporate job, trying to stay healthy, remodel our house, be a good spouse, daughter, friend, aunt, dog-mom, God-mom, HR leader, you name it….and at times, felt overwhelmed in the day-to-day aspects of life.  I never had enough time in a day, yet always felt I should be doing more.  Trish explains how to “get off the busy-bus” and step into the gift of the present.  She coaches on the power of “thoughts” and how to find happiness in every single day. Her recommendations not only opened my eyes to new ways of thinking - they broadened my perspective on life. She’s showed me how to slow down, act with courage, think bigger, find my purpose (work in progress), celebrate my progress and live my best life – professionally and personally.   #BeYouBeFree

I think I’ll go write her a 5-star review on iTunes now…
25 WAYS HOW TO BE AND STAY POSITIVE AND ENCOURAGED DURING  A PANDEMIC AND COVID-19

Will my children look back at this season and remember a time when their momma was walking in faith or will they remember this as a season their momma walked in fear?
When it all comes down to it, we have one choice: will we choose fear or faith? If you prefer, you can make the choice of peace or panic. 
It's vital that we find ways to stay positive during the coronavirus pandemic

Here are things to remember and ways you can stay positive during the face of the coronavirus pandemic, not panicked: 

Remember: Slowing down is a gift - there are things from this season that we would not have otherwise experienced without this global crisis - and a slower, more simple life that comes with social distancing and isolation is one such gift.
Take Action: Reduce your media exposure - the fear is often worse than the virus - this is good life shift as the average social media user spends 2 hours and 33 minutes on social media per day. (According to TechJury.net) This is an opportunity to change fundamental habits that increase your life happiness.
Take Action: Post only what is positive and be a leader of encouragement and light in this dark. How you speak matters and how you encourage others will be remembered. There is an overabundance of negativity in people's newsfeeds right now, so ask yourself how you can add sunshine or something of substance to it instead.
Take Action:Connect deeper with yourself and make this a time of journaling and deep reflection. So many people stay so busy that they don't have time for basic self-care and also fundamental self-exploration. This can be your time to really get to know yourself so that you can learn how to be yourself - and when you learn how to be yourself, you can then start to fully pursue your calling in this world.
Remember:You can be the anti-strand of anti-fear - your positivity is as viral as the virus.

Mar 15 2020

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#380: WHY HIGH ACHIEVERS BINGE EAT AND HOW TO STOP BINGE EATING

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WHY HIGH ACHIEVERS BINGE EAT AND HOW TO STOP BINGE EATING PODCAST #380

This week on The Confidence Podcast we're getting vulnerable. We'll be talking about something often considered taboo and shameful, and my prayer is that by opening dialogue, it will remove the stigma and help set you free to pursue healing and hope, if not just for you, for someone you know. This week we talk about how to stop binge eating.

What is the relationship between high achievers and binge eating - and while we're at it, what exactly qualifies as a bingeHow do these stats relate on how to stop binge eatingThe real thing that binge eating behaviors are indicators of5 ways how to stop binge eating

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

Humbling & Grounding - 5 Stars, by SustainingSara

I recently went through a lot of changes in life - a new job and a new city of residence. During that time, I lost a lot of myself and my relationship with God started to lack. I started listening to Trish and not only does she help me find parts of myself to fall in love with again, but also she reminds me to love God and his ever-watching eyes of grace. Thank you, Trish. Most of all, thank you for not being afraid to be honest and real about the struggle in life, especially not being afraid to remind everyone of God's greatness.

HIGH ACHIEVER: WHAT IS IT AND HOW DOES IT RELATE ON HOW TO STOP BINGE EATING? 

Perfectionist, type-A, go-getter, someone striving, wants to be seen, eager to please, on-the-go, focused and disciplined. It's no wonder we fall into binge eating and want to know how to stop binge eating.

For me, I wanted to stand out, be exceptional - be worth being loved and seen. I was convince that I was forgettable - but wanted to be remembered and for me, as an athlete, being stand out meant that my body had to be stand out. I was the little girl with ab muscles that popped through her Speedo one-piece when she was 8-years-old; I got a lot of comments on that. If I wasn't her, then who was I?

EXCEPRT FROM MY NEWEST BOOK (IN PROGRESS)

It started with a comment from a friend. We were ten-years-old at our neighborhood pool. I was wearing my Speedo one-piece and she and her gorgeous twin sister donned skimpy string bikinis that I would never have been allowed to wear. Every boy in Lake of the Woods wanted to date those twins, I was happy to be friends with them to get cool points by association.

She didn’t mean to hurt me. But her words stung my heart in a way that burned deeply into my identity for over a decade later.

“Your brother is so hot,” she started. “You look nothing like him. Are you sure you have the same parents?”

Laughs were had. I waited desperately for the whistle to blow, the lifeguard being my salvation to escape underwater into the pool. I remember diving in, trying to run away from the shame. Everyone wanted to see and be seen with my brother. And, if according to her words, I truly was nothing like him, that meant that I wasn’t worth looking at.

I was embarrassed of myself and how I looked.

There wasn’t anything I could inherently point to either – my body was athletic, ripped actually for a little girl, and I was well-liked for being a good swimmer. But being liked for what I could do felt very different than being liked for who I was or how I looked.

In high school and college, I convinced myself that I was forgettable. Sure, my teammates, classmates, and friends knew who I was, but in general? I felt like I looked so average that I was easily confused with other people.

Since no one could see me, there was only one way to stand out: by doing everything in a way that I would be seen.

Perhaps you are like me. I believed I had value for what I could do, not necessarily for who I was. I desperately craved to matter, but how could I matter if I couldn’t be seen or if I was merely average and forgettable?

Before you ever believe that God sees you,

Mar 10 2020

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#379: HOW TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD

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HOW TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD PODCAST #379
The secret to knowing how to get out of your own head, and how to stop your thoughts from spiraling negatively in your mind is more accessible than you might think. Even if you've had a lifetime pattern of negative thoughts, self-doubt, comparison, overthinking, or mental self-sabotage, you can be free and you can learn how to get out of your own head. This podcast episode will teach you some tangible tools on how to do just that, and we've brought on expert Jennie Allen to share her wisdom on this incredibly important topic. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

How to get out of your own head --- and the fact it can actually be done
Expert Jennie Allen is on board with us today
Believing in your ability to change and be changed
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Grab your seat today for FREE at www.trishblackwell.com/framework
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 
Christine Coughlin - Life Changing - 5 Stars

Hi Trish, I can't thank you enough for how much hope and encouragement you have been giving me. I started listening to your podcasts a couple of weeks ago and I haven't been able to stop since. No one has ever spoken in a way that resonated with me and encouraged my heart and my faith in such a deep way. I've been struggling with depression and body dysmorphia for years after an extremely traumatic surgery. But God has been faithful and He's healing me more and more every day. Listening to your story of overcoming trauma and body dysmorphia and now helping so many people through your pain has inspired me to fight even harder for victory over this struggle. I know I will use my story to help others like you have. Thank you for giving me the hope and courage to walk in confidence in the calling God has for me.
ABOUT JENNIE ALLEN:
Jennie Allen is an award-winning and bestselling author of Anything and Restless, as well as the Bible studies Stuck, Chase, and Restless. The founder and visionary for the IF: Gathering, she is a passionate leader following God's call on her life to catalyze a generation of women to live what they believe.

Jennie's website:

https://www.jennieallen.com
LIKE HOW MANY OF GOD’S BEST STORIES START
I didn’t plan for this part of my life. I would have laughed if you told me years ago I’d be here blogging, writing, and speaking. There was a lot of wrestling with God at the beginning, questioning things he’d placed in my heart that I couldn’t seem to shake. I was caught between feeling like my life was already so full and not wanting to miss the “even more” God had for me.

As we get to know each other, you’ll learn quickly that I’m a catalytic leader and the type to take risks. Because God has an impeccable sense of humor, I married an even crazier, riskier leader- my husband Zac. Along came four crazy, risky dreamer kids who’ve never stopped surprising us. Even the one who grew in my heart (instead of my tummy) came hard-wired to rule the world. As a crazy, risk-taking family, we love God with everything we have and are on a daily mission to give that crazy love away.

With every word I write, I hope the underlying message will ring out loud and clear: God sees you. He loves you. He has invited you into the beautiful story He's written for this world. And, because He is a God of abundance, He wants to use you to bring more of His love into a world that desperately needs it. I’ve seen for myself the crazy and miraculous that Jesus does when we release the grip of control and step fully in. It’s never a mistake to step into where He’s leading you. Let’s do it together. You in?
ABOUT GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD: 
Get Out of Your Head:
Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts

Amazon Link for Book:

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Mar 03 2020

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