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How to Be a Girl

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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.

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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.

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Such an amazing and original podcast!

By Alexandra505 - Feb 26 2020
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I love this podcast so much! It’s the first podcast that I ever binged on, and I always finish an episode wanting more. Marlo is a beautiful storyteller, and I feel so grateful to get a window into life with her daughter and the thoughtful, genuine, and vulnerable conversations they have with each other. Amazing mama, and amazing daughter! Thanks to you both for sharing your story.

Love this podcast

By Jesster816 - Feb 18 2020
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Love this podcast. Can’t wait for the return.

iTunes Ratings

805 Ratings
Average Ratings
757
13
5
5
25

Such an amazing and original podcast!

By Alexandra505 - Feb 26 2020
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I love this podcast so much! It’s the first podcast that I ever binged on, and I always finish an episode wanting more. Marlo is a beautiful storyteller, and I feel so grateful to get a window into life with her daughter and the thoughtful, genuine, and vulnerable conversations they have with each other. Amazing mama, and amazing daughter! Thanks to you both for sharing your story.

Love this podcast

By Jesster816 - Feb 18 2020
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Love this podcast. Can’t wait for the return.
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How to Be a Girl

Latest release on Sep 23, 2019

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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.

Rank #1: Episode III: How Old is Gender?

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Am I insane?  How can I be so sure that my young child is transgender?

Music credits: "Her Love Comes in Air" by soundZcapa, "Gato" by Rod Hamilton, "Kaikou" by Satori.

Jul 08 2014

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Rank #2: Episode XX: The Betrayal

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Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually.  But that didn't make it any easier when it did. 

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“Chicxuclub” and “Transient” by Podington Bear

“Undaunted” by Kevin MacLeod

“Dormir rien de plus” by Monplaisir

Apr 26 2018

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Rank #3: Episode IV: Tom Boy Trans Girl

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How girlie do you have to be to secure your spot in the girl club?  And what happens when your own mother questions your girl credentials? 

Bonus: The Origins of Acrobat Girl:


Music credits:  "Action" and "Eastern" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Xena: Warrior Princess - Main Title" by Joseph LoDuca.

Aug 24 2014

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Rank #4: Episode XIX: Red State Mama

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I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state.

Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence  

Feb 22 2017

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Rank #5: Episode V: Looking for Love

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She's six years old and transgender.  I'm a single mom.  This is what happens when we both hit the dating scene and compare notes about it.

Music credits: "Night Owl" by Broke for Free, "Is This What Mama Meant" by Michaela Anne.

Nov 20 2014

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Rank #6: Episode VII: THE FACTS (about transgender kids)

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When my "son" first started saying that "he" was actually a "she," I went looking for information. I wanted hard numbers.  I wanted data.  I wanted science to tell me to do. This is what I discovered. 

If you'd like to watch a condensed, 5-minute animated version of this episode, check this out:

Music credits: "Arboles" by Podington Bear; "Outside the Terminal" by Blue Dot Sessions; "March of the Mind," "Oppressive Gloom," and "Unseen Horrors" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com); animation scored by
Jonathan Hirsch (www.arrvls.com).

Jun 30 2015

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Rank #7: Episode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl

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It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time.  What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager?

Music credits:

Andy G Cohen, "Land_Legs" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

David Mumford, "Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

Loch Lomond, "Elephants and Little Girls" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

Kevin Macleod, “J.S. Bach, Prelude in C” (licensed under CC BY 3.0)

Dec 21 2016

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Rank #8: Episode X: School (Part II)

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This is a continuation of Episode IX. It tells the rest of the story of what happened when my transgender daughter started second grade at a new school.

Music credits: "Light Thought Variation 2," "Thatched Villagers," and "Relaxing Piano Music" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Moonlight Sonata (Ludwig van Beethoven)" by Dr. Phibes and The Ten Plagues of Egypt,  "Bagatelle (Ludwig van Beethoven)" by Circus Marcus. 

THANK YOU to my generous supporters on Patreon.com

Nyssa, Nicholas Harrigan, Sebastian Riisgaard, Krystal, Andrea Sackett, Andy Moore, David, Dustin Andres, Myrna Bohan, Emily Savin, David Rosenthal, Jo-Hanna Read, Meghan O'Hara, Allison Mulcahy, Maraia Ener, Gil Rich, Hampus Jakobsson, Tammy, Sonali Bhagat, Debby Swayne, Clare Jones, Gene Gibson, Nathan Jones, and Brookie Judge.

Mar 24 2016

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Rank #9: Episode IX: School (Part I)

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This episode has been six months in the making, because that's how long it took for this story to play out. It's the story of my daughter entering second grade at a new school where we knew no one, almost no one knew her secret, and I had no idea how I was going to keep her safe.

Music credits: "Blackbird" and "Light Thought Variation 2" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Chiaroscuro" by Zé Trigueiros, and "Piano Symphony No. 1" by Miss M.

Thank you to my generous supporters on Patreon.com

Three cheers for Nicholas Harrigan, Sebastian Riisgaard, Krystal, Andrea Sackett, Andy Moore, David, Dustin Andres, and Mary Anne Sedney! 
 

Mar 09 2016

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Rank #10: Episode VI: The Interview

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This episode is a little different from the others I've made. It's mostly just my daughter talking, answering my questions about what it's like being a transgender six year old.  

Dec 25 2014

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Rank #11: Episode XV: Just Maybe

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She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy.  How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother? 

Music credits:

"Child Come Home" by Michael Howard (Licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0)

"Flagger" by Blue Dot Sessions (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)

“That Old Harpoon” by Gillicuddy (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)

Nov 30 2016

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Rank #12: Episode XIV: My Friend Lauren

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When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I'm terrified. She's the bravest woman I know. 

My friend, "Lauren," in 1979. 

Music credits:

“George Street Shuffle” and “In Your Arms” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com

“Evenhanded” by Podington Bear

“From here to Iceland" by Loch Lomond

“I Enjoy Being a Girl,” performed by Christine Jorgensen

"Mars Landscape: Moon Set” by Julie Maxwell (Source:  Free Music Archive, CC License)

Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.comBrady Houck, Shaleece Haas, Rona So, Jennifer Zuber, Emily Hoff, Andrew Weisner, and Damiana Day. 

Nov 09 2016

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Rank #13: Episode XVIII: Big Sister

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I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me:  A transgender big sister. 

Music credits: 

“Dormir Rien de plus” by Monplaisir (public domain

Feb 01 2017

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Rank #14: Episode XII: How to Be a Dad

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When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I've never really asked him how he feels about this.  So I did.  And this is what he said.  (I asked him a few other questions, too.)  

Music credits: “The Father’s Name” by  Gianluca Sgalambro

Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com:  Chris Wright, David Roswell, Laura Kivlen, Britt Tanner, Robyn Kanner, Nicole Villacres, Henry Richardson, Natasha Mooney, Spokane Trans* Map, Krystal Barrett-Jones, Remi Taylor, Michaela Friedman, Avery Shroeder, Ashley Page, Bergie and Brandon, Lindsey Wallace, Lily Krueger, Jonty Levine, Sam Calandra, Andreas Moesch, Genie Gratto, Michael Nessa

Sep 28 2016

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Rank #15: Episode XVII: The Window

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In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close.  I hadn't been in much of a rush to change my 9-year-old transgender daughter's Social Security record, but I sure am now. 

MUSIC CREDITS:

“Dubakupado” by www.incompetech.com

“Homeless California” by Monplaisir (public domain

“King Thumbscrew The Third” by Doctor Turtle (CC-BY-NC 4.0

Jan 11 2017

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Episode XXX: Emma at last

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I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I'm so glad she's here now.

(Note: I recorded this interview early this year, when my daughter was still in elementary school. She just started middle school. Please stay tuned for an episode soon(ish) about that!)


MUSIC CREDITS:

“Dust in Sunlight,” “Frosted Glass,” “Boardwalk,” and “Clair_De Lune Solo Piano” by Podington Bear

"The Wah-Watusi" by The Orlons

“In the Garden (instrumental)” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“Like a Movie” by Nicole Reynolds (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

Sep 23 2019

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Episode XXIX: Eleven

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I sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween.

MUSIC CREDIT: “Little Girl” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

Jan 25 2019

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Episode XXVIII: The Tell

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A new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan.

MUSIC CREDITS:

“Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair” by Steve Rice (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“Chill Wave” by Kevin MacLeod

“The Reckoning” by Podington Bear

Please consider checking out our Support Page. Your help keeps this podcast going!

Dec 31 2018

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Episode XXVII: Playdates with Christians

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Are the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she's transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I seek expert advice from a new friend in the Bible Belt.

MUSIC CREDITS:

“Morning” by Nicole Reynolds, “Shall We Gather at the River” by Pat Holmberg, “Amazing Grace Solo Piano” by Lana Palmer (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

"Canoe" by Podington Bear

"Amazing Grace," piano and vocals by Miss M. Mack

Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It really helps keep this podcast going!

Nov 29 2018

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Episode XXVI: Sarah McBride

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Need to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here's the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me hope (and is my personal pick for the first transgender president).

MUSIC CREDITS: "Halflight," “G Piano," “Across the River, and "Triste" by Podington Bear; “Asturias” by Isaac Albeniz (Courtesy of Audiosocket).

Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It really helps keep this podcast going!

Nov 06 2018

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Episode XXV: To Tell or Not to Tell? (Advice from HTBAG listeners)

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In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she's transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over.

MUSIC CREDITS: “Den," "Floating in Space," "Surface Tension," and "Threshold" by Podington Bear; "You Are a Memory" by Message to Bears (Courtesy of Audiosocket); and "Leave Them" and "Telling Me So" by St. Paul de Vence.

Please consider supporting us. It really helps keep this podcast going!

Oct 30 2018

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Episode XXIV: Moving & Marrying, Part III - New School

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My daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month.  It's a fresh start, where no one knows that she's transgender.  How do I handle this? How do I advise her?  Should she keep her transgender status to herself or be more open? At the end of this episode, I'll be asking for your advice: What should I do?

MUSIC CREDITS: "Sensitive" and "Constellation" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0).

Aug 20 2018

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Episode XXIII: Moving & Marrying, Part II - Won't you be my neighbor?

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We've moved.  To the suburbs.  We're getting to know the new neighbors, and we're wondering: Will they accept us here? 

MUSIC CREDITS:  "Glitter" and "Chauncy" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0).

Jul 31 2018

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Episode XXII: Moving & Marrying, Part I - The Prince

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Did you know there's a wedding coming up, uniting an Englishman with an American bride?  Listen now for ALL the juicy details on this intercontinental couple's forthcoming nuptials! (And hear what my daughter thinks of her soon-to-be stepdad.)

MUSIC CREDITS: "Lord of the Land," "Evening Melodrama," "Master of the Feast," "The Rule," and "Bossa Bossa" by Kevin MacLeod

May 17 2018

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Episode XXI: Going First

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In this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes.  Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famous transgender teen in the world.  Her mom Jeanette is as brave as they come.

MUSIC CREDITS: 
“Springtime,” “Quartrefoil,” and “Blue” by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0)
“Helice” by Monplaisir (licensed under CC0 1.0)
“Comedie” by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0)

May 10 2018

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Episode XX: The Betrayal

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Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually.  But that didn't make it any easier when it did. 

Music credits: 

“Chicxuclub” and “Transient” by Podington Bear

“Undaunted” by Kevin MacLeod

“Dormir rien de plus” by Monplaisir

Apr 26 2018

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We're back! Welcome to a new season!

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After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back!  The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week.  Here's a little taste of what's to come.  

Music credits:  "Lode Runner" and "Sorrento" by Podington Bear.

Apr 19 2018

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We Shall Overcome

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Jan 15 2018

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A little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!

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This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! 

Music credits:

Dee Yan-Key,  "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0)

Borrtex, "Buying Presents" (licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)

Dec 25 2017

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When it rains it pours

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How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite. 

M. tries her hand at TV journalism.

Music credit: David Mumford, “Singing in the Rain (Instrumental)" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

 

Jul 06 2017

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Episode XIX: Red State Mama

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I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state.

Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence  

Feb 22 2017

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A little update from Marlo

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This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious.  I also have some news.  Plus, cat videos. 

(KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-listening-party)

MUSIC CREDITS:

"Quirky Dog" by Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)

"Mama" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence (Thank you, Benjamin Doerr!!) 

Feb 18 2017

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Episode XVIII: Big Sister

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I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me:  A transgender big sister. 

Music credits: 

“Dormir Rien de plus” by Monplaisir (public domain

Feb 01 2017

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Episode XVII: The Window

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In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close.  I hadn't been in much of a rush to change my 9-year-old transgender daughter's Social Security record, but I sure am now. 

MUSIC CREDITS:

“Dubakupado” by www.incompetech.com

“Homeless California” by Monplaisir (public domain

“King Thumbscrew The Third” by Doctor Turtle (CC-BY-NC 4.0

Jan 11 2017

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Episode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl

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It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time.  What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager?

Music credits:

Andy G Cohen, "Land_Legs" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

David Mumford, "Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

Loch Lomond, "Elephants and Little Girls" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

Kevin Macleod, “J.S. Bach, Prelude in C” (licensed under CC BY 3.0)

Dec 21 2016

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iTunes Ratings

805 Ratings
Average Ratings
757
13
5
5
25

Such an amazing and original podcast!

By Alexandra505 - Feb 26 2020
Read more
I love this podcast so much! It’s the first podcast that I ever binged on, and I always finish an episode wanting more. Marlo is a beautiful storyteller, and I feel so grateful to get a window into life with her daughter and the thoughtful, genuine, and vulnerable conversations they have with each other. Amazing mama, and amazing daughter! Thanks to you both for sharing your story.

Love this podcast

By Jesster816 - Feb 18 2020
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Love this podcast. Can’t wait for the return.