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Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQIA Podcast for Everyone!

Hosted by New York City-based comedians Carolyn Bergier & Melody Kamali, Dyking Out is a podcast about lesbian / queer life, news, and pop culture. Each week, Carolyn and Melody invite a special guest (comedians, musicians, actors, crushes) to dyke out with them about a topic that's relevant to the LGBTQIA world. But really, it's just another way to advance the gay agenda.

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Lesbian Sex Scenes w/ Erica Rose – Ep. 70

In this new episode, we’re getting down to business. Lady on lady business. Talented Director/Writer/Producer Erica Rose (Sour Peach Films, Girl Talk) helps break down the do’s and dont’s of a lesbian love scene, as we talk about the good, the bad, and the spit. Which steamy sapphic scenes have you hitting rewind again and again? Which ones feel the least authentic? How many do you think Sarah has even seen??? We tried to cover as much ground as we could, so don’t be upset if we didn’t get to your favorite! Before we dive into our topic, there’s some podcasting foreplay with an Ellen vs. Ellen discussion, a download on Russian Doll, and a recap of the worst part of our first live show at Stonewall. Will we see you at the next one on February 25? Plus, Sarah delivers some tough love in response to this week’s listener question. -Come see us live in NYC at Stonewall on February 25! -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 35mins

11 Feb 2019

Rank #1

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Making Your Move w/ Robby Hoffman – Ep. 62

What are you even doing with your life if you’re not taking advantage of Uniqlo’s cashmere sale and dyking out with comedian Robby Hoffman (The Chris Gethard Show, Just For Laughs)? We invited Robby to talk about how to make a move on someone you’re interested in, a topic that several listeners have asked about. We explore the dynamic between masc and femme women, and how different the dynamics are for femmes seeking femmes. What’s the best way to know if that chick you’re digging is into you? What went down in Carolyn’s sister’s room? Robby explains why Carolyn is no longer allowed to be friends with women, but not before she makes a pitch to Wild Fang about the perfect bathing suit. Also, Carolyn shares a DYKONIC moment that she never knew was in store for her. Plus, we (really Sarah and Robby) give a listener some excellent advice on how to handle her flirty but straight (?????) roommate.-Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.-For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!-Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 20mins

4 Dec 2018

Rank #2

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Masturbation w/ Melody Kamali – Ep. 94

Fire up that incognito browser and settle in for this squirtastic episode on masturbation with comedian Melody Kamali! From anecdotes, to survey data, to things we don’t want our moms to hear, we bare it all. Did you know that queer women masturbate more than straight women? Or at least we’re more willing to admit it! Frequency? Toys? Location? We go there. Did Jamie Lee Curtis’s striptease in True Lies make you crave some alone time? We also discuss whether or not Missy Elliott is out and the creepiness of (male) magicians. Plus, we answer a listener questions about dental dams!!! –Dyke Out with us at The Stonewall Inn on August 26, where you can see Melody perform! (standup, not masturbation) -Get extra episodes by joining out Patreon community. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 19mins

13 Aug 2019

Rank #3

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Relationship Regrets w/ Glo Butler – Ep. 112

It’s the last episode of the year so why not look back on all of our regrets, or lack there of? Relationships can be so confusing, it’s hard to know what’s worth fighting for or when to let go. Guest co-host Lorena Russia and comedian Glo Butler join the pod to talk about the past, present and future of their respective relationships. May all of your yuletide’s be merry and gay, and we can’t wait to see what 2020 brings for us and our Susans. -Get extra episodes by joining out Patreon community of becoming a member on Himalaya. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song by There Is No Mountain? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 26mins

17 Dec 2019

Rank #4

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Baby Gay w/ Allison Ponthier – Ep. 74

You just stepped out of the closet. NOW WHAT? Musician and model Allison Ponthier took a break from making TikToks to dyke out with us about what it’s like being a BABY GAY! Allison left her home in Texas and moved to New York City thinking she’d stay in a long-distance relationship with her boyfriend, but after a few Tinder swipes and an L Word binge, she started two-steppin’ out of the closet. We talk about how being a baby gay is like going through a second puberty, and discuss why everything feels so freaking epic. We also talk about the struggle and pressure to figure out your queer aesthetic and what it’s like to make friends once you’re out. But before we get to revisiting our past (Allison’s present), we rip on chatty Uber drivers and ponder the best way to signal to other lesbians in the wild. We also answer a listener question from a married mother who is just now coming to terms with her bisexuality, AKA a later-in-life baby gay. -Check out Allison’s music! -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 12mins

18 Mar 2019

Rank #5

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Cabarets w/ Eliot Glazer – Ep. 113

We’re kicking off the new year with an episode about some of the queerest entertainment of all! No, not Saoirse Ronan’s lesbian-energy-fueled portrayal of Jo March in Little Women. We’re dyking out about Cabarets with the funny and talented Eliot Glazer (Broad City, You’re Making It Worse podcast) and guest co-host Courtney Rada (Carnivorous on Food Network). Recorded the day after our holigay spectacular at NYC’s Joe’s Pub (the site of so many queertastic cabarets), we talk about the icons who have built their reputations with this medium, and why Cabarets are inherently gay. Plus, we talk about Eliot’s super popular live show, Haunting Renditions. We also talk about Pete Buttigieg, our body temperatures, Howard Stern and Celine Dion. Eventually, we end with a messy question from a listener who is suspicious of her partner’s friend. Strap in and strap on because we hope to make 2020 our dykiest year yet! -Get extra episodes by joining out Patreon community of becoming a member on Himalaya. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song by There Is No Mountain? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 15mins

7 Jan 2020

Rank #6

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Raised By Gay Moms w/ Lucas Connolly – ep. 45

Comedian Lucas Connolly (Seeso’s New York’s Funniest Comedians) has FOUR gay moms, so we overlooked his affiliation with the patriarchy to have him come on the show and dyke out about his upbringing. We knew Lucas had a lot of moms, but what we didn’t know is that one of them is a well-known LGBT activist and politician (research fail)! We had so many questions, like what’s it like growing up in a queer household in Laramie, Wyoming, how did this affect his dating life, and what does he do on mother’s day??? But before we dig into gay mom territory, Carolyn talks about seeing Janelle Monae live, and Sarah wants the New York Post to LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE!!! Plus, we take a question from a listener who wants to explore the world as a lesbian, but her boyfriend is not onboard.-Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.-For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!-If you’re in NYC on August 6, come to Queer Film Theory 101 at House of Wax Bar to see Carolyn dissect all of the queer subtext in the movie My Girl. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 12mins

30 Jul 2018

Rank #7

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Lesbian Stereotypes w/ Sarah Hallonquist - Ep. 123

Gather your adopted cats, gas up the U-Haul, head over to your best friend's house (who is also your ex), and stay in for the night while listening to this episode about Lesbian Stereotypes! We're joined by the awesome Sarah Hallonquist, an organizer and activist for NYC Dyke Bar Takeover who is well versed in dyke spaces and the reality of what it means to be a dyke. What stereotypes still ring true? Which are the most harmful to the community? Which make us want to scream "mind your heterosexual business!" We also discuss how coronavirus is changing our lives (everything is cancelled), and how not to be an asshole during a pandemic. Plus, Melody roasts Carolyn for her possible hormone-induced weirdness. Finally, we end with a question about how to support a partner with kids during complicated situations. We're so sad to miss seeing you Susans up in Alaska and out on the West Coast, but we'll do our best to reschedule when things (hopefully) return to normal.-Get extra episodes by joining our Patreon community or becoming a member on Himalaya. We use the money for equipment, studio rentals, editing, mixing, travel for live shows, and more! If you can't support the pod on a monthly basis, please consider tipping us through Paypal. We truly appreciate it!-For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!-We've got new MERCH.-Like our theme song by There Is No Mountain? Subscribe to our composer/mixer's youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 48mins

17 Mar 2020

Rank #8

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Femme Invisibility w/ Jacq The Stripper – Ep. 36

Queer Bimbo(TM) Jacqueline Frances aka Jacq the Stripper graces the Dyking Out studio with her presence to talk about Femme Invisibility. Is it still even a thing? What kind of pressures do baby dykes face to look or conform to certain lesbian ideals? Do we all go through the vest phase? We revisit our Strippers topic as Jacq dishes about why women are terrible strip club patrons, and how the gig has helped her be true to her own identity when she’s off the stage. We also talk about Canada because when you have two Canadians in the same space, by law, they have to talk about. Plus, Carolyn rants about the terfs who attacked her on Twitter.Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!Check out Sudio, our sponsor for this episode. Use the code DYKE for 15% your purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 21mins

22 May 2018

Rank #9

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Cheating w/ Caitlin Reese – Ep. 105

TRIGGER WARNING (see topic for reference). Comedian Caitlin Reese came by to talk about one of the unfortunate realities of being in relationships: cheating! Unfortunately, most of us have experience with this act, whether we were the perp, victim, or the side piece. Or perhaps you have people in your life whose cheating has affected you even though you aren’t romantically involved. We talk all about physical and emotional cheating, why we do it, and how to cope with the aftermath. There was so much to cover here and impossible to tackle it all. Before we re-opened all our relationship wounds, we talked about Halloween and a real-life monster that past guest Amber Rollo unexpectedly encountered and confronted. And as always, we end on a listener question about mental health in relationships. –Get tickets to Dyke The Halls: A Dyking Out Holigay Spectacular at Joe’s Pub, December 16! -Get extra episodes by joining out Patreon community. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 11mins

29 Oct 2019

Rank #10

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Sex w/ Emma Willmann – Ep. 29

She plays the new girlfriend of the non-crazy ex-girlfriend on the CW’s Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, comedian Emma Willmann (Late Show, Sirius XM, NPR, HBO’s Crashing) drops by the Dyking Out studios to talk about sex…and comedy, and dating, and exes, and podcasts…but also sex. How do you figure out sexual boundaries? What role do toys play? What’s the right way to bring up STDs? Lesbian bed death? WHO’S THE MAN??? (SPOILER: It’s always Emma). Take a listen to this wild ride of an episode, and find out why Emma is a force on the comedy scene. Also…Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 36mins

27 Mar 2018

Rank #11

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Asexuality w/ Janeane Garofalo – Ep. 72

Reality does not bite here at Dyking Out because we are joined by ICON Janeane Garofalo! Yes, we’re talking about Carolyn’s #3 crush, in studio to dyke out about asexuality and so much more. Janeane lets us know why she’s not watching the Oscars, tells us how the TV sausage is made, gives valuable life advice, dishes on past roles…and we are HERE FOR IT. As we get into the topic, she shares that people have always mistaken her for a Jewish lesbian, which she OF COURSE takes as a compliment. And we discuss why asexuality as an identity may be different for everyone because there are no hard an fast rules. Finally, we wrap it all up with a question from a listener who identifies as asexual but doesn’t know how to tell for sure if she’s also queer. -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 50mins

26 Feb 2019

Rank #12

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U-Hauling w/ Sophie Santos – Ep. 49

Comedian, writer, and actress Sophie Santos (UCB, The Lesbian Agenda, Handmaid’s Tale: The Musical) joins us to talk about the answer to the classic setup, “What does a lesbian bring to a second date?” Hint: It’s not a dental dam.  We dissect the urge to merge and whether or not we’re really that much quicker to sign a lease with our ladies than hetero couples. We also talk about what kind of girlfriend with think Cara Delevingne is, what Pink’s life could have been had her career not taken off, and whether or not it’s weird that Carolyn would totally get with Madonna (in theory) no matter how insufferable she is. You’ll have to listen to the whole episode to find out whether or not we all move in together by the end (or whether or not we figure out the VMAs). Oh, and this episode is definitely NOT sponsored by Norwegian or Spirit airlines.-Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.-For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!-Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 17mins

28 Aug 2018

Rank #13

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Tinder w/ Lane Moore – Ep. 60

We’re SWIPING RIGHT on this episode with the girl you wish you were best friends with in high school, the supremely talented Lane Moore (HBO’s Girls, Tinder Live, GLAAD Award recipient). Lane teases us with the queerest details of her new book How To Be Alone (out now), including her dabbling with witchcraft and crushes on best friends. Then we talk about her live Tinder show where she engages in ridiculous conversations with the straight men of Tinder to see just how much nonsense they’ll tolerate. You definitely don’t want to miss this episode! We end with a question from a trans listener who is considering sexual reassignment surgery. HAPPY DYKESGIVING! -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

55mins

21 Nov 2018

Rank #14

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Style w/ Stray – Ep. 63

We’ve talked about hair, hats and flannel at length, but this episode takes a wider look at style. And who better to dyke out with us about it than fashion blogger and influencer, Stray! We cover everything from how to dress for a first date to where to shop to how to find what style works best for you. Carolyn can’t shut up about suits, but why should she? We also talk about the celesbians who inspire our fashion choices. Plus, we answer a listener question about bed death and whether or not she should call off her engagement – that’s a high stakes question! Be sure to follow Stray on Instagram for some seriously cool outfits and adorable photos of her and her lady. -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 16mins

11 Dec 2018

Rank #15

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Sex With Dudes w/ Vivianne A. Njoku – Ep. 38

Queer multimedia artist, activist and educator, Vivianne A. Njoku, joins us for one of the funnest episodes to date! Don’t be fooled by the topic (but do have your vomit bags ready if even the mere mention of dick activates your gag reflex), because we are dyking out hard on this one. We talk about everything from Mellisa Etheridge’s weed farm to the aging royal family, to a maybe murderous grandmother. Then, we guess why queer women who mostly date women resort to sleeping with men, and discuss the perils involved. What kind of men are queer women attracted to? Are their guidelines to sexual fluidity? If you could have virtual reality sex with a man, would you? ARE WE LIVING IN A SIMULATION?! Seriously though, this episode is wild and fun and one of our favorites for sure. We hope you enjoy it! PLUS, learn more about all the cool things Vivianne has going on: YouTube: Vivianne A. Njoku (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMlMF6A6Vm39h-vH1Kn1vdg) SHIFT: https://www.shiftthetrends.com Willie Mae Rock Camp: http://williemaerockcamp.org -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! –Check out Sudio, our sponsor for this episode. Use the code DYKE for 15% your purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 25mins

5 Jun 2018

Rank #16

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The Lesbian Label w/ Courtney Rada – Ep. 84

Courtney Rada (Food Network) joins us for a wild episode about artful nudes and so much more! This episode has everything, from Alanis Morissette covers, to AMAZING band name pitches, to Anne Lister…oh, and eventually we make it to the topic. “Here’s my lesbian daughter” or “This is the lesbian I’ve been telling you about!” are things that have been said about us over the years, and we attempt to figure out why that is. Or how about cis het men who act like it’s totally cool that they’re buddies with you because you’re a lez? When does the lesbian label help and when does it hurt us? Finally, we wrap it up with a listener question from Paraguay. We hope you have as much fun listening to this episode as we had recording it! -See us record a live episode for pride in NYC on June 23 at 7pm. Tickets here! -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 20mins

28 May 2019

Rank #17

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Breakups w/ Ashley Gavin – Ep. 7

You are in for a treat this week as actor and standup Ashley Gavin (Gotham Comedy Live on AXS TV, FOX’s Laughs, SeeSo, SiriusXM Comedy Central Radio) dykes out with us about breakups! Should you try to be friends with your ex, skip a generation of exes, or cut them out like a cancerous tumor? Does the ‘winner’ or ‘loser’ get the stuff? How do you handle joint custody of pets? Could lesbianism saved Lindsay Lohan? We tackle all of this and more, as Carolyn questions her place in the studio with two alpha lesbians. Catch Carolyn and Sarah live at The Box Show’s season premiere at Littlefield in Brooklyn on Saturday, October 28, 2017.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review!Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 34mins

3 Oct 2017

Rank #18

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The L Word w/ Gwynna Forgham-Thrift – Ep. 22

We tried to hold out as long as we could, but alas, it’s time to talk about the show that – love it or hate it – revolutionized the way the LGBTQ women were portrayed on TV. Comedian and filmmaker Gwynna Forgham-Thrift (UCB Maude Night) recently rewatched the entire series and could not wait to dyke out with us about it. How does the show hold up? What did it mean to us? How realistic was it? Where did they go wrong? Which sex scenes made us feel uncomfortable to watch with our moms in the room? What are our hopes for the reboot? If you haven’t seen the show, take a listen anyway as we tackle topics still relevant to all things LGBTQ like consent, transphopia, biphobia, butchphobia…so many phobias! And if you have seen the show, this episode is your chance to relive some of the highlights without having to listen to that damn theme song.Hey there! Don’t be a breeder, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! (kidding! breeders welcome!)And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 28mins

6 Feb 2018

Rank #19

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Dating Straight Women w/ J. Fox-Jones – Ep. 25

Comedian and dater of straight women, J. Fox-Jones joins us this week to tell us why some lesbians end up with women who used to exclusively date men. Do lesbians seek out straight women as a challenge, or are these ladies hunting us down while we’re just minding our own business? If you date a straight woman, does that mean you have to *GULP* watch The Bachelor????!!! Does she assume you’ll handle things like installing shelves and killing bugs? We also give tips on how to watch Black Panther with a queer eye, and Sarah comes up with a radical alternative to watching movies…that just happens to sound a lot like TV.Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1hr 18mins

27 Feb 2018

Rank #20