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On The WetCoast Podcast

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Welcome to On The Wet Coast, a blog & podcast about sexuality and ethical non-monogamy of every variety. We talk polyamory and swinging, monogamish and open relationships; from dirty, dirty sex to heartbreak.We share our personal experiences and philosophy, observations and theories, what works for us...and where we messed it right up.

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Welcome to On The Wet Coast, a blog & podcast about sexuality and ethical non-monogamy of every variety. We talk polyamory and swinging, monogamish and open relationships; from dirty, dirty sex to heartbreak.We share our personal experiences and philosophy, observations and theories, what works for us...and where we messed it right up.

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Ric Koehn

By Ric Koehn - Mar 25 2018
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I like the open and honest discussions Kat and Flick have about there adventures into non-monogamy.

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Ric Koehn

By Ric Koehn - Mar 25 2018
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I like the open and honest discussions Kat and Flick have about there adventures into non-monogamy.
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On The WetCoast Podcast

Latest release on May 29, 2020

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OTWC 041: Tristan Taormino and Telling Your Story as Resistance

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Our sex-negative culture pushes us to repress and feel shame about our sexuality or lifestyle. Stepping out of the shadows and telling your story becomes an important act of rebellion.

There are risks involved in telling your story. More than just the frowning disapproval of judgy relatives at holiday dinners, living an openly atypical life can lead to risks to employment, housing, medical care, and child custody. This is why it's doubly important that those who can live out loud do since their open existence is a powerful 'fuck you' to the status quo.

Our guest today has been openly flipping off the establishment for more than 25 years since beginning the magazine 'Pucker Up' shortly after finishing college. She continues to do so as she works on a memoir telling her story from childhood through to her relationship with her father as he battled AIDS in the early years of the epidemic.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are joined by Tristan Taormino to discuss her upcoming (as yet untitled) memoir and to talk about Telling Your Story as Resistance.

Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, sex educator, speaker, and media maker. She is editor of 25 anthologies and the author of eight books on sex and relationships including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She is founder of The Open List, a list of professionals (therapists, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, consultants, relationship and life coaches, doctors, lawyers, etc.) who are experienced and knowledgeable about alternative sexuality and lifestyles, including open relationships, polyamory, and non-monogamy. She is the host of the long running podcast Sex Out Loud. 

Find Tristan at @TristanTaormino and @SexOutLoud on Twitter and her patreon at https://www.patreon.com/tristantaormino

Buy Kat Stark's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - Now Son by Poddington Bear

May 29 2020

1hr 3mins

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OTWC 040: Novelty, Being in the Moment, and Gangbangs - On The Wet Coast

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One of the most exciting things about non-monogamy can be the novelty of new adventures and new people in our lives. At the same time, one of the many sources of stress in our world is an excess of choice. How can we make the right decisions with so many options as we try to decide who to date, who to make advance plans with, and/or who to hook up with at play parties or the swinger club?

Due to that excess of choice we're often looking over our shoulder to see if there's anything else/better coming along rather than focusing on being where we are and who we're with. The FOMO  - Fear Of Missing Out - can make it that we're not able to be present in the moment and we don't ever truly enjoy the experience we're currently having.

We can also get so caught up in comparing what we have with what others have that we never really appreciate the experiences we have and the people we have them with.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are discussing Novelty, Being in the Moment, and Gangbangs.

Buy Kat Stark's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Happiness Lab Podcast available here

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Feb 29 2020

53mins

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OTWC 039: Texting, Sexting, and Messaging - On The Wet Coast

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There's a certain art to crafting the right kind of message to convey what we're feeling via characters on a screen. Since so much of modern communication is done on said screens it can be a lot of work figuring out your personal style and mode of messaging. 

Non-monogamous people spend extra time communicating with multiple partners in multiple forms, from the simple 'good morning' to setting up dates to having sexy chat time to talking about challenging feelings and even breaking up.

Without audible tone or nonverbal cues, it can sometimes be hard to convey your thoughts or truly understand what someone else is saying to you via text message so today On The Wet Coast Kat Stark and Flick Morrison are discussing Texting, Sexting, and Messaging.

Buy Kat Stark's new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Dec 30 2019

1hr 2mins

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OTWC 038: Accountability and Consent - On The Wet Coast

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Accountability and Consent can feel like the least fun topics to discuss when it comes to sexy lifestyles but when we really focus on building these factors in a way that lets go of the definitions used by the justice system and focuses on the subjective experiences of the parties, our kink and sexytimes can be much more fun.

In an era of social media call-outs, it might feel risky to take part in activities where consent factors strongly, which means quality negotiations and being accountable to the consent rules of others (as well as our own) are more important than ever.

Today Kat Stark & Flick Morrison talk to Victor Salmon, an educator and host of Intimate Interactions Podcast who has created the VOICES framework for Best Practices of Consent. Victor will help guide us through some of the ways we can make our consent negotiations lead to "high quality" consent so our playtimes can be great for everyone involved.

@intimateVictor on Twitter and Instagram and Facebook

Buy Kat Stark's new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Nov 02 2019

1hr 11mins

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OTWC 037: Disappointing Dates - On The Wet Coast

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It's always a bummer when dates don't go as planned or don't happen at all. There can be all kinds of reasons why things don't turn out as you'd hoped from unrealistic expectations, lack of connection, poor communication, uncooperative bodies, life circumstances, or just plain not being in the mood.

Bouncing back from a disappointing date is an important skill in non-monogamous dating. More dates definitely makes for more opportunities for disappointment so we need to get comfortable learning from these experiences and figuring out how to have things go better the next time.

I'm Kat Stark, and on this Episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and I will be discussing Disappointing Dates. We'll share some of our own experiences and what we did to get back into the swing of things after some less than ideal experiences.

Buy Kat Stark's new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Sep 30 2019

1hr 4mins

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OTWC 036: Strapping It On - On The Wet Coast

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It's no secret that On The Wet Coast, we love our sex toys. Using those toys for strap-on sex is one of our favourite ways to engage with partners, or watch our partners engage with others. Though in some ways it is as simple as popping a dildo in a harness and getting to work, strap-on sex tends to be a bit more nuanced than we expect when starting out.

Finding the right equipment, the right harness and dildo combinations can be more challenging than we expect, especially since what is right for one partner or act isn't so right for another. And positioning yourself as the thruster as well as finding the right position for your receiver can be incredibly awkward, especially at first.

I'm Kat Stark, and on this Episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and I are discussing Strapping It On. We've got lots of tips and suggestions to help you get up and thrusting and feeling like the sexual rock stars you are.

Find out more about the gear we mention (and links to purchase) in this episode on our website - onthewetcoast.com.

Buy Kat Stark's brand new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Aug 19 2019

1hr 3mins

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OTWC 035: Sexual Confidence - On The Wet Coast

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We're always told that confidence is sexy, but how do we find the confidence to be our true sexual selves? How do we embrace our bodies and our kinks so we can enjoy the kinds of sex we desire?

Finding the confidence in ourselves while living in a society that is all about tearing us down is incredibly challenging. Figuring out how to put ourselves out there as confident sexual beings is a lot more difficult than simply deciding to do so.

Learning to get comfortable with awkwardness is one of the keys to sexual confidence, another is knowing that just about everyone else out there feels the same way as you do. Learning to shake off negative body thoughts and embrace the things that you bring to the table can help. Listening to tips from the smartie we're talking to today is another great way to build that confidence. 

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark and Flick Morrison discuss sexual confidence with the extremely fabulous Luna Matatas.

Find Luna on Twitter, LunaMatatas.com, Youtube, and Etsy

Buy Kat Stark's brand new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers.

Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible Itunes

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Jul 29 2019

1hr 4mins

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OTWC 034: Chosen Family - On The Wet Coast

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Finding your people can be one of the most important things you do as you make your way in the world, and when you find them, it feels like coming home. Feels like family. Many of us have found a group or groups of people we consider to be family. Chosen family as opposed to biological or family of origin can be essential especially for those of us in alternate lifestyles.

The people we end up sharing our lives and experiences with can be extensive--not just our partners and close friends, but their partners, our former loves, casual sex friends, and fellow pervs and kinksters can make up our chosen family. They’re the people we can truly be ourselves with, maybe for the first time ever.

Much like our families of origin, however, there can be issues within our chosen family. We’re not always going to love the people our people love and may end up spending time with those we wouldn’t choose to on our own. And when relationships end, the devastation and loss can be amplified since we sometimes lose an extended network of people because we’re no longer connected with the partner that was the nexus between us.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are discussing chosen family.

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Jun 23 2019

43mins

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OTWC 033: Get Your Flirt On - On The Wet Coast

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Figuring out how to express our interest in someone can be one of the most challenging things in dating, especially if we find them really attractive, fun, or interesting. What do we say? What if they're not into it? Why is it so hard to express ourselves in a fun, clear, non-creepy way?

If what everyone we know reports about themselves is true, no-one is good at flirting. How the hell are any of us hooking up if this is a skill no-one has?

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark & Flick Morrison are joined by Marcia Baczynski, master of the art of asking for what you want and dedicated flirt who is here to share her humour, wisdom, and creativity in how to navigate the world of flirting.

Find Marcia on Twitter @AskMarciaB & website https://www.askingforwhatyouwant.com//

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

May 12 2019

57mins

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OTWC 032 - Sex Work Matters - On The Wet Coast

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Since the passage of FOSTA/SESTA in the US, sexual content on the internet has been progressively quashed, starting with shutting down places sex workers could advertise but flowing forward until Tumblr was all but shuttered when they were no longer allowed to have sexual content.

Various agencies drop the scare words ‘sex trafficking’ and the changes are made under the guise of protecting the vulnerable but has had the opposite effect by forcing many sex workers onto the streets and taking away the resources they used to have to vett and screen clients.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark chat with Carrie Hill, a sex worker activist and professional dominant (among many other things) who is here to talk to us about Why Sex Work Matters and how the rules and restrictions around sex work will affect your life more and more.

Find Carrie on Twitter @empoweringsex & their website https://empoweringsexuality.ch/

Dominatrix on Trial: Bedford vs Canada - Terri Jean Bedford - Buy on Amazon.ca

Peg The Patriarchy - Luna Matatas - Etsy Shop

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Apr 15 2019

1hr 8mins

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