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Not How but When

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 40 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, chemical dependency counselor, executive coach, and organization coach.jerrywise5@gmail.com |jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com | (317) 919-6264 | Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

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"Resists the Forces to Fit in with the Group" 6 of 7

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy mature inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Resists the forces to fit in with the group ethos when it contradicts their values"  Number 6 of the 7 part series  Our aim is to resist group think, group feel, the family superself, the workplace superself, and following the herd.  Stating I-positions without reactivity, with calmness, and focusing on Self when dealing with others and the group ethos (values, morals, opinions).  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which we disagree with others.     Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and life and relationship coach.  He and his team work with individuals, couples, and families and businesses to become strong self-differentiating people and leaders.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's YouTube Channel,   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/ Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work.  "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise  https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

12mins

8 Dec 2020

Rank #1

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"Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others." 5/7 and 7/7

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?    Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.    KEY POINT: "Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others."  Number 5 of 7 part series  Jerry Wise Life and Relationship Coach explains what it means to be rescued by others and taking over for others.  Using Bowen Family Systems Theory he describes the sharing of Self with others.  Giving and taking of self is common in dysfunctional relationships.  He explains how we can identify and avoid this so we can be self-differentiated.       Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com   Join Jerry's YouTube Channel,   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/ Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work.  "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise  https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

10mins

8 Dec 2020

Rank #2

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"Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset" 4 of 7

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset"  Number 4 of the 7 Part Series  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which others are upset or are upset with us.     Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at  www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

12mins

4 Jun 2020

Rank #3

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"Improves themselves without blaming others" - No. 3 / 7

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Improves themselves without blaming others". This is Number 3 in the Seven Part Series Focusing on ourselves and how we function in the troubled relationships.  Blaming keeps the focus on others and will keep us stuck. Jerry offers helps to resist SELF-blame and OTHER-blame.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

12mins

4 Jun 2020

Rank #4

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Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort No. 2/7

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort" Number 2 of the Seven Part Series Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

18mins

1 Jun 2020

Rank #5

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Getting Feelings in Line with Our Values No. 1 of 7

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

15mins

1 Jun 2020

Rank #6

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Over-seriousness Kills Self Differentiation

Self differentiation expert Jerry Wise explains how over-seriousness is a way to maintain enmeshment and emotional fusion.  To break free we need more playfulness, more flexibility in our emotional responses, and less over-seriousness.   When others make things heavier, we must make things lighter.  The world will thank us for this.  (The exception when there is a grief or loss or tragedy), most things people get over-serious about are over nothing or small things.  For more help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com or 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

26mins

25 May 2020

Rank #7

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The Problem is Not the Problem

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is an international relationship coach and self-differentiation specialist and teaches family systems approach to healing and recovery.  In this video Jerry presents a family systems perspective of relationship problems.  Problems are symptoms of deeper problems.  Often we use the same thinking that got us into the problem.  Jerry Wise offers the viewer a way to think 'outside the box' and zoom out to see the deeper sources of our problems.   Listen to his podcasts on Spotify, Itunes, and all the major streaming apps.  Sign up for his May 30, 2020 workshop on his website.  You can contact or work with Jerry Wise by reaching him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com or 1-317-919-6264 (USA) or jerrywise5@gmail.com   Jerry Wise has clients all over the world, if you are looking for a new kind of help contact him.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

14mins

25 May 2020

Rank #8

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The Power of Intentional Disappointment and Staying-Self Differentiated

Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

18mins

21 May 2020

Rank #9

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Letting Everybody Around You Grow Up

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a self expert for 40 years.  He offers 12 steps to allowing other people to grow up.  Over-functioning is a serious problem along with Codependency resulting in supporting the immaturity of others.  Jerry Wise stresses the importance of allowing others to grow up we have to get out of their way.  This builds self-differentiation as well as maturely placing the responsibility on others to grow themselves up.  To work with Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, Self Expert contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 (US) | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

24mins

19 May 2020

Rank #10