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Parenting Doctors Podcast

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In five minutes or less, get powerful strategies for effective parenting. Dr. van Ingen illustrates evidence-based parenting strategies through stories and clear-cut examples.

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In five minutes or less, get powerful strategies for effective parenting. Dr. van Ingen illustrates evidence-based parenting strategies through stories and clear-cut examples.

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Parenting Doctors Podcast

Latest release on Sep 18, 2020

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Rank #1: The Topic of Spanking & 5 Ways to Make Sure Discipline Lasts

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1. Reward desired behavior- reward behavior in the direction of the desired behavior.

2. Praise effort more than results.

3. Count to 10, breath, take a step back – be like an eagle taking a broad perspective, not a snake that strikes out.

4. Identify clearly want you want the child to do with clear expectations.  Communicate everything, assume nothing….

5. Take time to discuss how all actions have consequences; my favorite intervention for poor behavior is behavioral rehearsals – asking children to re-do their response or behavior.  

Sep 08 2015

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Rank #2: Are you dealing with a child with an anger problem and you don’t know what to do?

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Check out the following videos at our Parenting Doctors youtube channel:

The Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show on Anger.

(Dr. Dan and Professor Dr. Sarah present together) on Loving Angry Children: 5 Golden Coin Insights to Working with Anger in Families

This week's podcast presents 5 techniques, 5 ART's: Anger Reduction Techniques, that can help both parents and their children (kids, preteens, teens) when they are experiencing a cross over the threshold and into the therapeutic zone.  

Check out Dr. Dan's new parenting book available at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Aug 03 2018

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Rank #3: Mindfulness Skills For Teenagers

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I'm back from a trip through Illinois speaking to psychologists, counselors, social workers, marriage & family therapists, teachers, speech pathologists, and occupational therapists.

Today's podcast focuses on building mindfulness skills for teenagers.  Research shows that our attention is on something other than what we are doing 1/2 of our awake time.  We live in a culture that reinforces rushing, restlessness, multi-tasking, speedy information, quick fix instagram, snapchat quick drops, and sleep deprivation.  One of the things young people (and all of us) need is mindfulness.  Mindful attention, mindfulness grounding, mindful eating, and taking time.  

See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Mar 29 2019

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Rank #4: Stop Pathologizing Childhood With Specific Problem Solving

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Many parents pathologize childhood using terms like "He's an attention seeker," OR "She's so oppositional," OR "He's a tormentor," OR "He's A defiant kid!"  

These kinds of vague descriptions may help us cope, but they do nothing to help children help.  We need to help kids recognize that behavior is based on choices.    

We offer a 5-step specific problem solving method that is the answer to these behavior problems that all kids have.  

See Dr Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Aug 24 2018

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Rank #5: Loving Angry Children

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We have an extensive video on our youtube channel that articulates the five golden coins of loving angry children!  Check us out at www.parentingdoctors.com

This podcast focuses on the key points in a few minutes.  

Dec 04 2017

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Rank #6: Valuing & Sharing Our Failure Stories

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I share some of my failures in life, mostly growing up.  In my book: You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

I mention that parents should know their top 10.  I share some of my top 10 and other minor failures.  

I'm a big proponent of being unafraid of anxiety.

Likewise I'm a big fan of being unafraid of failure.  To help our kids learn to be unafraid of failure, we should share our failures.  Sharing failures builds connections because kids want us to be vulnerable, which does so much more than lecturing does.

Of course, we use wisdom to choose our moments when to share our failure stories.   

Jul 16 2018

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Rank #7: Flourishing Families Have Vulnerable Relationships: Vulnerability VS Fear

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In today's podcast, I provide an example where a Dad made a mistake by communicating a negative assumption about his kid.  The kid went on to speak out of her hurt by being passive aggressive.  The answer in this scenario is vulnerability.  We walk through the steps on how family members can express how they feel and others can receive those expressions.  

Jan 11 2019

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Rank #8: Your Prescription for Passive & Aggressive Behavior

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Dr. Dan explores the key solution to manipulation and passive aggressive behavior.  He says that parents need to name it.  And encourage (even expect) direct and honest communication.  

Check out Dr. Dan's new book:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Oct 05 2018

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Rank #9: Sibling Conflict Is Good!

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Conflict is Good

Since the beginning of time, siblings have fought.  Everybody in my generation who had siblings
understands sibling rivalry and arguing. 

Arguing is a part of life. 

I’ve taken some time to look at sibling conflict from a
different parenting angle.

I see conflict as good and I encourage arguing.   

Sep 08 2015

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Rank #10: Building Optimism In Teenagers

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Building Optimism in Teenagers requires 5 steps.  The goal is to learn how to deal with setbacks with optimism.  Some of my greatest failures helped me to reinterpret and view setbacks optimistically.  I share some of those at the end of today's podcast.  

The main focus of today's podcast is to help teens see setbacks and disappointments not as permanent, but temporary, not as pervasive, but specific, and not as personal (or pathological - "this is an imminent catastrophe"), but as empowering.  Building optimism is a very important cognitive skill.  So, I describe in detail the kinds of exploratory questions that can help teens process through their experience.  

Gone are the days of just letting teens wallow in pain and "then they will get over it."  You know - soon they will come out of their room.  No, the research is clear that we can help people more than that.  Of course, give them time, but finding ways to promote the reflective life can build optimism.  

See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Apr 05 2019

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Rank #11: Respectful Disagreement

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Many parents inquire about "encouraging disagreement."  It might sound better if I emphasize "allowing disagreement."  Many ask, "What does that mean?"

The new generation of healthy families consists of multiple ideas and perspectives.  If teens don't feel heard, they feel shut down.  If pre-teens aren't respected, you come across as a tyrant.  If young children aren't encourage to think on their own, their ability to think for themselves is dimnished.  These individuals might then be easily moved and manipulated by a charismatic personality, for example.  

This podcast discusses key aspects of respectful disagreement in the family.

See Dr. Dan's new book - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20#customerReviews

Sep 21 2018

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Rank #12: I Make A Lot Of Mistakes

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How do we teach children humility?  It starts with us.  Check out this week's parenting podcast.  There are lots of things to apply from the latest research on parenting including addressing manipulation and the keys to allowing disagreement in the home while maintaining respect for authority.

Then there are things that make life better for the family like turning off the TV.  

One of the things that is most needed is HUMILITY.  "I make a lot of mistakes" is about us, as parents.   

See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Feb 08 2019

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Rank #13: Anger Solutions For Your Kids

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We need strategies for our kids' anger.  Of course, parents need to work on their own stuff.  The more parents are calm, cool, and collected, and can self-soothe and handle stress with poise, the more are kids will respond well.  Our stuff is for another day.

This podcast is about key strategies for our kids.  This podcast presents anger scaling, helping kids with categories, and the use of visualizations and role plays for handling future scenarios.  

See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Jan 25 2019

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Rank #14: Two Family Techniques for Dealing with Household Chaos & Overwhelm: 5 Senses Strategy and the Mindfulness Grounding (Countdown) Technique

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed as a parent?  Do you ever feel like you have lost control or are on the verge of "losing it" in the face of chaos?  If that is you, you seem normal to me!!  But, we know that maintaining poise is key in the face of the pressures of life and parenting.Here are two techniques that can help you keep it together and regain control.  Most importantly, these techniques can help your kids regain control of themselves.  The 5 Senses Strategy is useful in bringing down the sympathetic activity and anxious energy.  It increases focus and reduces anxiety.  The mindfulness grounding (countdown) technique helps kids (and parents) regain control when things seem chaotic, overwhelming, and out of control.  This technique can help kids regain control and get grounded again.

Oct 09 2015

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Rank #15: Top 10 Considerations When Addressing A Child's Tantrum During Family Pictures

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This 7-minute podcast focuses on the Top 10 considerations when addressing a child’s tantrum during family pictures 

(1)   When parents take the short cut and reinforce the child’s refusal beahviors and tantrums with sour patch candy, a snickers bar, a twix, or some kind of gummy, this has the following consequences: 

a.     Reinforces tantrums and other misbehavior.

b.     Teaches a child that candy is the only solution to stress management.

c.      Delays a child’s learning about how to delay gratification.

d.     Delays a child’s learning of key tenets of Emotional intelligence such as self control. 

e.     Sets a precedent that a family is unwilling to communicate with creativity.  This can cause problems for siblings who ideally want to learn creative ways to solve problems. 

Dec 10 2015

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Rank #16: Pivotal Moment Involvement

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We have seen the devastating effects of parental uninvolvement.  And, we have seen the research and media identify the concerns regarding over-involvement (i.e. snow plow parenting, helicopter parenting).  What about Pivotal Moment Involvement?  Common sense parenting tells us that Pivotal Moment Involvement (PMI) is critical in child development.  This podcast emphasizing the value of pivotal moment involvement in parenting.  These are those important moments in the life of your child.  The idea "you won't get that moment back" is true. Listen to today's podcast and be reminded, encouraged, and stimulated with five simple reminders on how to approach pivotal moment involvement.

Sep 25 2015

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Rank #17: Five Action Steps To Help You Teach Your Child To Never Quit

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Today's podcast is Five Action Steps to Help You Teach Your Child To Never Quit!  In My practice, I am seeing quitting happening quite frequently on the sports field or court.  It is not uncommon for kids to quit family games, from monopoly to the wiffle ball game, or the chess game with Grandpa.  Parents have to put forth some effort to reverse this trend. Here are some action steps parents can take to address this problem in their own homes.

Jan 15 2016

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Rank #18: The Triple D Strategy for Manipulation When Attempting to Problem Solve

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It is common to deal with manipulation when you are attempting to address another problem.  It is common to see eye roles or receive back talk when addressing aggression between siblings.  First of all, address everything and assume nothing.  Second, you need a strategy.  The following podcast is a Triple D Strategy when you are dealing with a second level of nonsense.  

Check out our new website at www.parentingdoctors.com

And See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Jan 18 2019

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Rank #19: Failure Reflection Exercise

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Have you ever taken the time to reflect on your failures?  Have you ever taken the time to go down the road of your life and identify failures at different times in your life.  

I know, in my life, I have failed often.  I failed during an important spelling contest when I was young.  I failed trying out for my eighth grade baseball team.  My dream of playing college basketball was crushed with two failures.  I failed in two personal relationships in college.  I failed at different aspects of my career.  I laugh talking to colleagues about a study I worked on for two years and received rejections from four different journals with the fourth journal editor writing me that this "paper has nothing to offer to the field."  That my friends, is a beautiful failure.  If you are going to fail, go down like that my friends!   

More recently, I have experienced significant personal failure.  I have realized that as I long as I breathe, the failures will continue to come.  In this social media obsessed digital world where it's all about putting our best foot forward, this exercise will cleanse you from the personal marketing gunk that can stick on you.  Let's get real!  We all fail.  One of the best gifts we can give our children is an honest reflection on our failures and an explanation of how we didn't let that stop us from getting back up and moving forward.    

See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Nov 01 2019

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Rank #20: Coping With Grief

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Family dinners remains one of the best predictors of healthy families.  Discussing grief at dinner time includes accepting feelings and self care.  Other practical things to do in honoring the legacy of the loved one include: 1.  Slideshow 2.  Small remembrances 3.  Humor 4.  Identifying positive attributes 5.  Gratitude

Feb 12 2016

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