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Rank #32 in Self-Improvement category

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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Life-changing & heart-opening ❤️

By LuluBooo - May 11 2020
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Christine is an incredible healing presence on this planet. I am so grateful that she shares her gifts with such openness, compassion and deep wisdom. It would be impossible to listen to this podcast and NOT feel shifted afterwards!! Thank you Christine, my gratitude for you is infinite—you truly are one of my greatest teachers.

So much LOVE

By zuckaroo - May 03 2020
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I can’t even begin to express my love for the way Christine teaches. After years of therapy, I still wasn’t able to fully heal or use tools to help me through moments when I get triggered. While this podcast is a great resource, Christine’s other teachings is what leads to even greater breakthroughs. I am a believer and support what she teaches. She comes from such a genuine and compassionate place while also tapping into what you’re feeling at such a spiritual level that can only be described as from the divine.

iTunes Ratings

1010 Ratings
Average Ratings
953
30
11
6
10

Life-changing & heart-opening ❤️

By LuluBooo - May 11 2020
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Christine is an incredible healing presence on this planet. I am so grateful that she shares her gifts with such openness, compassion and deep wisdom. It would be impossible to listen to this podcast and NOT feel shifted afterwards!! Thank you Christine, my gratitude for you is infinite—you truly are one of my greatest teachers.

So much LOVE

By zuckaroo - May 03 2020
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I can’t even begin to express my love for the way Christine teaches. After years of therapy, I still wasn’t able to fully heal or use tools to help me through moments when I get triggered. While this podcast is a great resource, Christine’s other teachings is what leads to even greater breakthroughs. I am a believer and support what she teaches. She comes from such a genuine and compassionate place while also tapping into what you’re feeling at such a spiritual level that can only be described as from the divine.
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Over It And On With It

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

Rank #1: 65: Dealing With Challenges In Relationships with Andrew

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There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you.

In today’s coaching session, we bust through the limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today’s caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads  in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive to his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat.

Andrew shared he is working towards a growth mindset, and up until now his wife has had more of a victim mindset. While I only got to hear one side, I didn’t hear any blame or resentment from Andrew as he shared his story, so I sense his description of the situation is fairly accurate. That is why I coached him to love his wife, to support her and to hold space for her, as she and the entire family process this diagnosis. And in time, have a heart-to-heart with her about how they plan to journey through this Expectation Hangover together.

Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. I coached Andrew through the distinction of spiritual connection and spiritual bypass. It basically comes down to love and truth. Andrew loves his wife, but in truth, they may be growing in different directions. Does this mean the relationship should end? I don’t believe in shoulds. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path.

Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road.  We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we can not save anyone else, that is up to them.

Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle tips which include beauty, health, and wellness.

And, I will be in Sydney, Australia for another amazing Mastermind, possibly a training, and half- and full-day intensives. My visit will focus on the needs of small business owners or those of you transitioning into a new career. You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to Jill@Christinehassler.com ASAP for more information.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • What soul lessons are you currently learning from your relationship or relationship status?
  • Are you making your relationship with yourself or your higher power a priority?
  • Are any of your relationships at a point where you are growing in a different direction from each other?
  • Do you wonder if being there for someone else in a supportive way is putting your own needs at risk?
  • What is the difference between having a spiritual orientation to your relationship, and doing a spiritual bypass and becoming a bit of a doormat?  

Andrew's Question:

Andrew’s relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife’s recent thyroid cancer diagnosis.

Andrew's Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His wife’s hormones have been elevated due to a thyroid problem.
  • He feels spirituality calling him.
  • It’s not his responsibility to save his wife.
  • He has recently started a spiritual practice.
  • He doesn’t believe his wife is a willing participant in the relationship.
  • His current lesson may not yet be resolved.
  • It is now up to him to re-parent himself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • He should write his wife a letter to share what feels about her and how the diagnosis may be a wake up call to stay committed to working on their relationship. Also, let her know he can not do it alone.
  • He should hug his wife every day.
  • He needs to take 100% responsibility for his 50%.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Look back at your romantic relationships to see what lessons you have learned. Write down how each partner has been a soul mate.
  • Nurture a relationship with a higher power.
  • Do something intentional and devotional every day for someone you care about.
  • If there is a difficult conversation you need to have, write a letter and either read the letter to the person or give it to them.

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Dec 07 2016

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Rank #2: 71: I Am Afraid of Losing What I Love! With Nicole

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Today’s episode is about being confident in your current relationship. During this coaching session with Nicole, she tells me she is in her first serious romantic relationship, and she is afraid she is going to sabotage it. Nicole is to be acknowledged for her level of awareness and coachability during this call. It was fun to work with her to update her belief systems and to get her excited about learning how to be in a relationship. One thing we didn’t talk about was her possible “Upper Limits” issue. Nicole is getting more love and emotional availability than she ever has before, which is what she wants; she just doesn’t know what to do with it. I wanted to empower Nicole to enjoy the relationship she’s in, because it’s important to know the difference between when it’s time to go back into our past and chip away at something, and when it’s time to get over it and on with our lives. So, we worked on Nicole’s belief systems, and I allowed her to adopt a beginner’s mind. She didn’t have a healthy model for being in a romantic relationship, so I recommended she learn about what a healthy romantic relationship is. Get my guide, 6 Steps to Intuitive Decision Making, free when you check out my fresh and updated website. My Inner Circle membership community is growing quickly. It’s a place you can hang out with like-minded people, where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com, with any questions you may have.* There are only 2 spots left for my Women’s Spring Retreat March 10-12. Sign up today, so you don’t miss out.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is there something in your life you are afraid of losing? ● Do you feel new at something, and feel you should just know how to do it? ● Are you aware or think you have some limiting beliefs from your past that are negatively impacting your current situation? Nicole's Question: Nicole would like to know why she feels triggered to leave romantic relationships.   Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She’s afraid of losing the things she cares about. ● She felt her parents were emotionally unavailable. ● She feels it’s better to be alone than to feel disconnected when she’s with someone. ● She gets panicked in the moment. ● She will try enjoying her relationship more.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should reprogram her brain with her new belief system. ● When she feels panicked she should place one hand on her heart and one on her belly, and ask, “What do I need, right now?” ● She should get books to help her learn about love and relationships. ● She should have patience, get excited, and have fun.   Assignments: ● Are you having an Upper Limits issue? Check out The Big Leap, by

Gay Hendricks and listen to my Upper Limits Coaches Corner. Make a list of all the reasons you deserve the good things that are happening to you. ● Update and reframe your belief systems. Go to Byron Katie’s The Work for free worksheets. ● Have a beginner’s mind.   Sponsor: ONNIT: Get a 10% discount on your order by using this link. Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter “Over It and On With It” in the ‘How did you hear about us?’ section.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to Christine anytime. David Deida Alison Armstrong Harville Hendricks

Jan 18 2017

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Rank #3: 72: How to Commit and Take Action Toward Your Passion With Emily

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Today’s episode is about finding your true purpose, and how it relates to your career. Emily is longing for more confidence, and to show up more consistently in her work. She wants to feel more connected to her purpose and the people she feels called to serve. During the call, I switched roles with Emily, because when she felt like she was on the spot, her self-judgment took over, and she couldn’t get to the level of clarity she wanted to. She kept coming up with reasons why she’s not consistent and sharing scares her. Ask yourself, what are you not doing that you know you should be doing? With what are you inconsistent? Often, we are not all in, because we don’t have a big enough why. And, without a big enough why, or a big enough vision, we lack motivation and inspiration. We all have to process enough of our pain to re-orient to be pulled by a vision. If you really wanted to be doing something consistently, you would be doing it. The only true and pure purpose of life is to grow and become more aware of the love and the oneness that we are. But for most of us, that understanding is not fulfilling enough. We yearn to share and express our love in some way. And like Emily, we feel called to make a meaningful impact in the world. And, please, please, please give me some feedback. I created a special survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. Women with a Vision Mastermind features brilliant speakers, and will cover building a heart-based business, accessing your intuition, embracing your feminine power, and creating an action plan to drive your vision forward. May 5-8th, 2017 in N. Carolina. Early bird pricing is available until March 7th. Go here for more info: https://sacredplanet.samcart.com/referral/5ikUEXGB/739197 Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is consistency an obstacle for you when it comes to taking action? ● Does striving for perfection stop you from taking action? ● Do you know what you should do, but just aren’t doing it? ● What is your why? Do you have a vision that pulls you forward?   Emily's Question: Emily is looking for guidance on how to be more open with her clients.   Emily's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She feels people won’t take her seriously. ● She is inconsistent in her business. ● She is self-absorbed and lacks a why. ● She lacks self-acceptance. ● She has unresolved pain from her past. ● She’s on a mission to figure out who she authentically is.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to write out her why. ● She should commit to a consistent social media plan. ● She needs to meditate and create her ideal client avatar.   Takeaways: ● Be honest with yourself about which pains are still pushing you. ● Get clear about your why. ● Join my Inner Circle community.   Sponsor: Daily Energy — Get 30% off of Daily Energy. It’s the simplest life hack you can do for your health this year. Audible — Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I highly recommend Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to Christine anytime.

Jan 25 2017

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Rank #4: CC: Get it Done! How to Stop Procrastinating and Get Over Feeling Blocked with Samantha Bennett

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Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling, "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library). She is the creator of the www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals. Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, CA, Bennett offers workshops, keynotes and private consulting. She also makes a heck of a roast chicken.    Her latest book is, "Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers and Recovering Perfectionists" (New World Library, Nov. 2016)

Oct 15 2016

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Rank #5: 66: How to Feel More Confident and Take Action with Teisha

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Confidence is not something you can develop just by sitting in your house, thinking about all the things you will do when you feel more confident. Confidence is developed by going out and doing those things. Just like we gain courage by feeling fear, and then taking action anyway. We begin to feel more confident, when we actually do things we feel insecure about. In today’s coaching session with Teisha, she would like to know how she can gain more confidence, and how she can truly believe she is a prize. We also discover why confidence has been a struggle for her up until now. She wasn’t ready to learn the lesson of confidence. Having an understanding of our past is so important to move us forward. During our session, Teisha acknowledged she is safe. That was her key elementary lesson. After recognizing it, her entire energy shifted. She was able to release the judgment of not feeling more confident. It’s hard to develop a new quality, when we are judging ourselves so harshly about not being good at it. Coaches, managers, parents, and teachers take note — I got super specific with Teisha about the action steps she was committing to. When walking someone through behavior changes, you want to help them with clear, measurable steps they feel truly committed to. Is avoiding short-term pain preventing you from long-term happiness and fulfillment? What feels worse — experiencing failure and/or rejection, or never stepping into your full potential? Failure is not bad. Failure is necessary if you want to learn, grow, change, and get the things you want from life. So is perceived rejection; if you spend your life avoiding nos, you will never get yeses. Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Also, I will be in Australia for a Business Training/Mastermind on personal and professional development. This training is perfect for you if you are a health coach, a life coach or entrepreneur.  You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way, or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to Jill@Christinehassler.com ASAP, for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Would you like to have more confidence? Do you spend more time thinking about the things you would like to do, than actually doing them? ● Are you terrified of rejection and failure? ● Did you grow up not feeling safe, loved, or seen? ● How are you at keeping your word with yourself? When you commit to something, do you actually do it?   Teisha's Question: Teisha is constantly doubting herself, and would like to know how she can get more self-confidence.   Teisha's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Her self-doubt serves her by protecting her from the pain of failure. ● She has a lot of ‘what if’ questions. ● She didn’t feel safe growing up, but has kept herself safe as an adult. ● She will take action and go to a meetup group event, apply for employment outside of her comfort zone, and join a yoga class. ● She wants to be part of a movement to change perceptions about women and work. ● She knows she is a prize and a great person with a good heart.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should be curious about the people she encounters. ● She should be honest and vulnerable when she meets new people. ● She should give herself compliments and really mean them. ● She should ask herself if it serves her to believe the lies she told herself. ● She should give herself the spiritual and physical gift of yoga.   Assignments and Takeaways: ● Is there something you need to feel or experience, before stepping into confidence? Can you accept you are ready to move to the next lesson? Can you see you’ve done what you needed to do, and are ready for the next step? ● Write down a list of all the unique qualities and gifts that make you, you. ● Get out of your comfort zone. Do things you may not be good at, or that may be embarrassing. ● Commit to taking action steps to create the feeling and experience of confidence. Make the steps measurable, specific, and give yourself a timeline. ● Consider joining my Inner Circle, where developing confidence will be an upcoming project.   Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I’m reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Why not make this book your first download?   Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Dec 14 2016

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Rank #6: 52: Can You Change Someone? With Linsey

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Today’s caller, Linsey, is concerned her boyfriend may have an addiction to alcohol. She loves him and believes that if he can change they may be able to take their relationship to the next level. She thinks her problem is in her relationship but as our coaching session shows, it has very little to do with her partner and more to do with something deep within herself.  You cannot change other people. Your desire to change and heal yourself should not be attached to changing someone else. Focus only on yourself.    It is important to make healthy changes, even if it feels really scary. Unhealthy lifestyles feel familiar and safe because we have been in them for so long. It is crucial to find professional support and to be held accountable when we start making changes. It is difficult for us to do this on our own. Our ego doesn’t like it when we change because it craves certainty. And, as we start to grow in consciousness, the ego starts to hold on a little tighter. If listening to this call was uncomfortable for you or if it brought up some awareness around your own addictions, consider what you may be using to avoid feeling and dealing. This is why I am creating an Over It and On With It course to give you tools and resources to feel, deal and heal. Coaches — I could have coached Linsey to get out of her relationship. Personally, I hope she does distance herself from it to focus on her own healing. But, if I coached her in that direction she may have shut down. She said she loves him even though she knows he’s an addict. She feels safe being a co-dependent in the relationship due to her relationship with her mother. I didn’t want her ego to take over and for her to get defensive. It may not have been possible for her to get to the deeper awareness she reached during the call. It’s important to give someone the dignity of their process, instead of encouraging them to make a move they may not be ready to make. Would you like to connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce? There is a free video training series on my site to help you build your business or obtain your desires from the inside out. Your Secret Sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions, which can help you to feel a sense of belonging and confidence. Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss to get the free videos.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you in a relationship with someone and hope they will change? ● Are you in a relationship with an addict? Are you using an external coping strategy to distract yourself from dealing with something you don’t want to face? ● Do you acknowledge that you may have tendencies towards co-dependency? ● Is your ego feeling dark, and would you like to feel more connected to your soul?   Linsey's Question: Linsey is concerned her current relationship may be following the same path as her past relationships, and she is unsure about the future.   Linsey's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She realizes she has co-dependency issues ● She wants her partner to change ● She knows she has walked on eggshells around her mother ● She uses food and television as numbing agents ● She became super-independent because she doesn't believe she can count on anyone else ● She knows she should disconnect from her relationship but doesn't want to ● She can heal this issue   How to get over it and on with it: ● She should be honest about who her partner really is ● She needs to deal with the hurt inside herself ● She needs professional help by way of a 12-step program or a therapist ● She should make a 1-year commitment to not take actions that can’t be done ● She should incorporate a spiritual practice into her life   Assignments and Takeaways: ● Take a serious look at your coping devices. Are they addictions or in the danger zone of becoming addictions? ● Take an honest look at your relationships. Ask people close to you what they notice about your relationships. ● Write a list of the things you desire and what you think will make you feel better. ● Ask the universe to guide you to the help you need and want.   Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Secret Sauce Training Series Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Sep 07 2016

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Rank #7: 42: Dealing with Transitions and Figuring Out Next Steps

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We all go through different phases in life such as graduating, finding our first job, a mid-life crisis, marriage, having a child, starting a company, retiring, etc. There are also different seasons in life to go through which come more frequently than phases. Like the times when we are busy at work, slowed down because of an illness, distracted by a relationship or just going through internal growth; and things that require us to change our pace or priorities. Consider this, life of an athlete, metaphor shared with me by my friend Lewis Howes. You are not always in the play-offs. In fact, you would burn out if you were. There is a training season, game season, the play-offs and then of course, offseason. To play at their best, players respect the season they are in. It’s important that we respect the seasons we are in to be our best in life. As I have said before, we often wear our busyness like a badge of honor. Somehow we have made doing, doing, doing greater than being, being, being. We are constantly going for things as a distraction. When we are consistently going for the next big thing we don’t have to feel the little things (that are really big things) we sweep under the rug because we just don’t want to deal with them. AND, we are addicted to control. We are great at putting time and energy into the results we want. The more effort we put into getting what we want the more we feel entitled to get the results. When we get what we go after, we win. It brings a sense of security and accomplishment. We feel safe and on track and we want more. But why do we want more? Because it gives us the feeling of control and we love control because the unknown is downright scary. The truth is we really don’t have control over our lives. And nothing illuminates that truth more brightly than an expectation hangover. Today’s caller, Lisa, relates to being a doer and an overachiever. She wants to know what her next big thing is. Even though she may not have given herself time to experience some recent transitions and expectation hangovers in her life. As our souls grow, our higher self and our inner wisdom know exactly when the right time is to process something. Sometimes we are not ready to deal with something. Sometimes we don’t remember something until later. But when it does start to come up, it is so, so crucial that we respect it and be with it. Coach’s Tip - Coaches may notice my style is a bit different in this call. I could sense Lisa is a highly, intelligent woman who likes to figure things out. And, because I knew figuring things out was of value to her, I wanted her to have the experience of figuring things out but in a different way. It was important she connected to her own inner wisdom about what she really needed. It was simply my job to hold the space for her and to ask her questions. Remember, realizations people come to on their own are profound. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you going through a transition and trying to “figure out” your next steps? Do you respect the seasons of your life or are you consistently putting yourself in the play-offs? Have you ever been called or referred to yourself as a control freak? Do you relate to being more of a doer than a feeler?   Lisa's Question: Several major changes in Lisa’s life have her confused about where to go and what to do next.   Lisa's Key Insights and Aha’s: She identifies with being an overachiever She may be avoiding things she doesn’t want to deal with by keeping herself busy It’s uncomfortable for her to feel in a child’s role and not in control She is looking for validation She knows she needs to give her heart more space and honor her feelings   How to get over it and on with it: She should create a space so her higher self can come forward and feel She should parent herself to help her to deal with her many losses She should let her heart break wide open and start feeling Allow her mind to be a servant to her heart She should have deep gratitude for where she is right now   Assignments and Takeaways: Make sure you make time for yourself. The better parent you are to yourself the better parent you will be to your children. Be attuned to the triggers or memories your children may cause in you. Children are our spiritual teachers. Ask yourself if there is some healing you need to do. Don’t be scared of letting your heart break wide open. Remember that underneath anger or hurt is love. Let your mind be a servant of your heart. Don’t let your mind be your master. A meditation practice of just 5 minutes a day will help you attune to your own inner wisdom and heart.   Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Jun 29 2016

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Rank #8: EP 117: Moving From Awareness About Your Issues to Actually Making Changes with Natalie

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This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Todays caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life. Awareness is great but its only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings

Dec 06 2017

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Rank #9: CC: The Art of Letting Go

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In this episode of Coaches Corner Christine teaches you how to truly let go of what you want. She explains why to get what you want, you have to not want it. Learn how attachment to results happens and why it actually sabotages what we truly desire.

Apr 14 2018

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Rank #10: 46: Should You Stay or Go? When to End a Relationship with Corinna

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Today’s caller, Corinna, is deciding whether or not to stay in her marriage. Many of us often struggle with whether to stay or go in a relationship. Sometimes the answer is clear, but often it is not. First, there is the love and the history of a relationship including shared assets, children and pets. Second, there is the uncertainty that goes along with making the decision. Ending any type of relationship is not easy and making the choice to do it is hard. We often look for reasons to blame the other person. We collect evidence against them so our decision to leave is easier. We want to be happy and we think leaving the relationship is the answer. But, just leaving on the energy of blame and rebellion is not enough and does not give the opportunity to learn the lessons the relationship is there to teach us. If we end something out of fear annoyance or blame, we will have to learn the same lesson over again, with someone else.  I’ve heard people use the advice that the best way to get over someone is to get over someone else. That’s terrible advice. You only end up using the person you are getting over and once all the hormones wear off, you will be left with the same unresolved stuff you didn’t deal with in the previous relationship. You may then think you keep picking the wrong person, but in reality, the common denominator in the relationship is you. Don’t do a reactionary breakup. Don’t leave because you refuse to take an honest look at your side of the street. Stop resisting the learning and stop blaming the other person. When we feel blocked about making a choice, it’s often because we are not ready to make it. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you currently in a relationship and questioning whether to stay or go? Is there a big decision you are struggling with that you want clarity on? Are there similar patterns that come up in all of your relationships? Have you done self-work that makes you an incredible partner to yourself and consequently to another? Is there something in your life you are missing or not feeling and you are blaming your partner for it?   Corinna's Question: Corinna is having issues in her marriage. She feels she is isolating herself and is uncertain about her decision to stay married.   Corinna's Key Insights and Aha’s: She already knows what her decision is She limits herself but blames her husband She’s gotten lost in her roles of wife and mother She is scared but relieved to start knowing herself There’s a lot she hasn’t been facing   How to get over it and on with it: She should read the book Codependent No More Find a counselor or coach to look at how she can show up differently Give herself permission to not make the decision right now Invest time and energy into her own discovery Turn down the volume of the opinions of others  Look at her husband through eyes of observation instead of judgment   Assignments and Takeaways: If you are struggling with a decision, put it on hold. Make the choice not to choose. Stop talking about your struggles with other people. Focus on listening to your own inner knowing. If you are in a relationship, look at your partner through eyes of observation instead of judgement.   Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Jul 27 2016

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Rank #11: 30: The Fear of Being Alone: How to Get Over It!

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There is a difference between being alone and feeling the pain of loneliness. We do not have to suffer from the pain of loneliness if we are enjoying a connected relationship with our self and a higher power. We are never really alone, and the illusion of the separation of God, higher power source or universe, is one of the core misunderstandings we are all here to overcome. If we tell ourselves things like “I’m alone, I hate being by myself, something must be wrong with me, I really need to be with other people”, then, of course we feel the pain of loneliness. It’s very human to want to be connected and to make sure we are getting our soul food by spending time with people we love. Feeling isolated or disconnected is incredibly hard. But sometimes it is the pain of loneliness that inspires us to do the work to nurture a better relationship with our self, or to create or deepen a spiritual connection.    This is exactly what is on the soul agenda for today’s caller, Christina. Her question initially is about the assumptions she’s making that are sabotaging her relationship, but her core issue is fear of being alone. She has a track record of being in toxic relationships or relationships she truly doesn’t want to be in just because it was better than being on her own. Remember you are never truly alone. You are always connected to infinite and unconditional love from God. I invite all of you to join me September 16-22 for my retreat in magical Bali which  will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is your fear of being alone so considerable that you jump from relationship to relationship? ● Do you hesitate to do things alone? ● Are you terrified you will end up old and alone? ● Do you only feel safe when you are with another person? ● Are you longing for a deeper connection to yourself and a higher power so you do not have to experience the pain of loneliness or separation?   Christina’s Question: Christina feels she is sabotaging her relationship by assuming this partner will do the same things as her previous partner.   Christina’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She panics when she thinks of being alone ● She is trying to learn how to be in a relationship with herself ● She grew up with a fear of losing the people she loved ● She settles in relationships to keep herself from being alone   How to get over it and on with it: ● Redefine what being alone is ● Create a feeling of safety without having someone else there ● Have honest communication with her partner about taking a break ● Bring a spiritual practice into her life ● Apply her own calming tactics into her own life   Tools and Takeaways: ● Understand your default pattern when you feel lonely. What can you tell yourself instead of going into your default pattern?  ● Think of someone you speak highly of and then talk about yourself the same way. You deserve to be the recipient of loving, self-talk. ● Cultivate a spiritual practice. ● Make connections with soul friends and your soul family.   Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain).   Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Apr 07 2016

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Rank #12: EP 91: Stop Sabotaging Your Relationship with Samantha

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This episode is about being able to accept love.  Today’s caller, Samantha is in a new loving relationship but has anxiety about it which is causing her to push her partner away. Ultimately, she fears she will sabotage the relationship.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode91]

When we lack self-love and acceptance we doubt our own lovability. When what we really want is coming to us we get scared and push it away, because we doubt our own lovability. When we doubt our own lovability it makes us do some sabotaging things when it comes to relationships.

I gave Samantha some practical behavioral shifts, because awareness alone does not create change. If we think our past is part of who we are, we will never be truly free of it. We need to get the point where we realize the past is the past. It happened but it doesn’t have to be who we are.

Many times when we have a difficult experience in our past, we hold on to it because having it gets us pity, love, compassion, and attention from others. On an unconscious level, we hang on to it because we think it is how we can get compassion and be connected to people. When we hold on to our story too much, it gets us in a trap of consistently attempting to heal the past, rather than make the behavioral choices that create what we want in the present and for the future.

Eventually, you have to drop the story.

You’ll notice I used a tough-love approach when coaching Samantha. To understand why I did it and the profound shifts that can occur because of it, check out my Coaches Corner — Tough Love and People who Have Helped Me in Profound Ways.  In last week’s Coaches Corner, I interviewed my friend Amanda Steinberg, author of Worth It. The episode is about embracing your relationship with money. And, don’t miss this week’s Coaches Corner with thought leader Danielle Laporte.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you want love, especially in the form of a romantic relationship, but it scares you?

● Are you in a romantic relationship now, and engaging in sabotaging behavior?

● Have you talked about your past and your story, but things aren’t shifting for you? Is the anxiety you feel about being in a relationship still there?

● Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone to break some patterns? Even if it’s scary?

Samantha’s Question:

Samantha would like to know how to be free of the fear and anxiety she is feeling in her new relationship.

Samantha’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● She’s afraid of being hurt.

● She puts up a wall and shuts down when speaking with her new partner.

● She is trying to protect herself.

● She still identifies with her story.

● She is giving the people from her past too much power in her current life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She needs to go back and deal with her past.

● To move to the next phase she needs to change her behavior.

● She should do release writing when instead of zoning out.

● She needs to understand she is not alone.

● She needs to do the opposite of her current conditioned response.

Action Steps:

● Take a look at your old story about love; write it out. What are you still carrying around from your past, you keep playing out? Make a list of the things you think are protecting you.

● It’s time to break patterns and shift your behaviors. You have to lean in and get a little uncomfortable, if you want change to happen.

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Resources:

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Inner Circle Membership Community — This month’s focus is sexuality and sexiness.

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Jun 07 2017

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Rank #13: EP 157: Trust Yourself, Stop Caring What Others Think and Feel Your Feelings with Steve

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The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that’s because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode. It takes a lot of energy to

Sep 12 2018

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Rank #14: EP108: Trusting Your Intuition in Love & Relationships with Sandra

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This episode is about listening to your intuition and getting clear about what you want from a relationship. Todays caller, Sandra, realizes she may want to continue her current relationship due to familiarity or comfort and not because it is truly what she wants from a relationship. Be mindful of what you are scared of and what you are making your number one fear. Sandras fear of losing herself should have been the fear she is paying attention to.

Oct 04 2017

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Rank #15: CC: Breakup Recovery with Chris Seiter

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Chris Seiter is a professional relationship consultant specializing in breakups. He teaches men and women how to get over a breakup or even how to get back with an ex if the situation calls for it. He has been featured in publications like YourTango, Elite Daily, She Knows, Readers Digest and LifeHack. You can learn more about him at www.exboyfriendrecovery.com and www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com.

Nov 26 2016

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Rank #16: 51: Dealing with FOMO and Feeling Not Enough – Especially After a Breakup with Emma

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This episode is for anyone who feels like they are missing out, they are being left behind, they are not enough or they do not belong.

Today’s caller, Emma, is feeling left out and resentment towards friends who are continuing their relationships with her ex after their breakup. Her frustrations are  bringing up old issues she has been carrying around for a long time. We uncover the constant moving she went through as a child is still a core issue for her.

It’s important to remember not to minimize things from your past. As a human, there are things you have gone through that are challenging. Things that happen can create certain belief systems and misunderstandings that perpetuate patterns, behaviors and reactions you don’t like.

Resentment and anger protect us from our deeper feelings. It’s easier to feel mad about something than it is to feel the hurt of being left out. We all want to feel connected and that we belong. Feeling separate in any way is painful and it reinforces the core misunderstanding we are separate from God, separate from the universe or separate from each other. Healing that wound allows us to feel we are not separate and to feel we are connected.

If you have standards or conditions about what it takes for you to be good enough, know that you are good enough just the way you are.

Connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce with the 4-video training series I put on my site for you. Your secret sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions that can help you feel a sense of belonging and confidence.   Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss

I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How often do you experience FOMO (fear of missing out)? Have you just gone through a breakup and are having a hard time with all the transitions and all the loss?
  • Are you having challenges with sharing friends after a breakup? Do you want your friends to pick sides?
  • Do you feel the pressure to pick sides if you ARE the friend of a couple who recently broke up?

Emma's Question:

Emma is having difficulty releasing her emotions, which are triggered by her jealousy and frustration over shared friendships after her breakup.

Emma's Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She’s got a bad case of FOMO
  • She has always been hypersensitive about being left out
  • She has always felt like she needed to catch up
  • She feels frustration, anger and resentment
  • She feels relief being able to tie this experience back to core issues

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She can just be herself and be enough through self-acceptance
  • Let her younger self know there is nothing she needs to do to fit in
  • She should find a spiritual practice and talk to God and the Universe
  • She should free herself up emotionally so new soul friends can come into her life

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Look for ways you are trying to fit in or pretend to be someone you are not, and think of how you can show up as fully yourself.
  • Work with your limiting beliefs about being left out. Go back and talk to your younger self and make sure that part of you knows that you do belong.
  • Consider how your spiritual practice is not just about how you connect to a higher power inside you.  It’s about connection and love to the oneness we all are.
  • Practice the horseback rider technique from Expectation Hangover when you experience your limiting beliefs. Re-direct your thoughts to “I belong”.
  • If you are going through a breakup, don’t make your friends pick sides.

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@chrishassler on Snapchat

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Aug 31 2016

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Rank #17: Coaches Corner: How to manifest and co-create your year

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The New Year comes with the tradition of making resolutions, which are usually promises to do something “more, better, or different.” We vow to exercise more, get a better job, meditate regularly, fall in love, or find a different way to handle our stress. But does this really do us any good? Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions, yet by March (or even by the second week in January) we may not find ourselves so resolved. We revert back to old patterns and beat ourselves up for not sticking to our resolutions. Could there be a way to ring in the year that serves us better? YES! And it has been my New Year ritual for the past ten years which I share in todays’ Coaching Corner.  NOTE: you can do this process ANYTIME during the year because it is always a good time to consciously let go of what is not serving you so then you can intentionally co-create your dreams and desires.

Jan 09 2016

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Rank #18: 78: How to Know if Leaving a Relationship is the Right Thing to Do with Anna

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This episode is about being conflicted when making a choice. Today’s caller, Anna, wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is “the right thing to do.” [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode78] There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it’s hard or takes work is quitting, but opting out of something because it doesn’t align with your core values is a self-honoring choice. So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date? I believe any relationship takes work, and can be transformed, but sometimes it doesn’t serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment, if there is a drastic difference in values and vision. And, having guilt is useless. We feel guilty when we judge ourselves for doing something “bad or wrong,” and we think to suffer through the feeling of guilt somehow makes it better. If you are not married yet, my advice is to wait to marry until you are in a place where you are not looking for someone to fill a void or to meet a need, but rather someone to share your life with. Trusting ourselves is important. If you want to live in integrity, you have to have self-trust. You can learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community. Retreat Information — Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the next Bali Retreat in September. If you have objections, but you really want to do it. Don’t let excuses stop you. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you in a situation that has reached its expiration date? ● Are you paying more attention to the opinions of others, rather than your own voice? ● Have you left a situation, but feel tremendous guilt about it? ● Do you tend to jump from relationship to relationship, believing that it will be different?   Anna's Question: Anna wants to be sure she is not making a decision to leave her marriage from a place of fear.   Anna's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She doesn’t need someone to make her feel safe anymore. ● She doesn’t want her marriage to work out. ● She doesn’t know how to deal with the guilt of leaving. ● She needs to take ownership of her feelings. ● She felt she couldn’t trust her own voice.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should acknowledge and appreciate everything her husband has done for her. ● She should use listen to her inner voice and find her own truth. ● She needs to forgive herself for buying into the misunderstanding that she was a bad person. ● She should be clear about why she is leaving, and honor it by being a partner to herself.   Takeaways: ● If you are trying to stick it out in a situation out of pride, fear, or worry about what others will think, be honest with yourself, and make a self-honoring choice. ● Reach out to people who support you and can give you spiritual altitude. ● Make a list of all the qualities you want in a partner, and become all of those things. ● Find yourself during my retreat in Bali.   Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter “Over It and On With It” in the ‘How did you hear about us?’ section.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Marie Forleo’s B-School

Mar 08 2017

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Rank #19: EP 195: Are You in a Relationship with a Narcissist?

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This call is about being an empath, the type of people empaths attract, and about why empaths (or highly-sensitive people) attract narcissists. Today’s caller, Sara, is having trouble getting over her ex and would like guidance about whether her decision to break up with him was right for her and if she could consider going back. During our conversation, we discovered some qualities about him that make it a little easier for her to get over him.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode195]

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Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine on FacebookChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

Jun 05 2019

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Rank #20: CC: A conversation with my man, Stef Sifandos, about men

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This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a “conscious man” means and requires. Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/ A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and

Jul 21 2018

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EP 252: Why Do I Feel Like I Am Not Making Any Progress? With Anna

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This call is about doing deep inner child work. Today’s caller, Anna, is being blocked by a defense mechanism and doesn’t feel she is making progress in her personal development work. We talk about how she can come back to love and remove judgment. It is useful to reach out externally for support, however, we have to be our own internal support as well. The help she needs will come from within.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode252]

When you feel you are backtracking in your personal development, know that what is really happening is that a trigger is exposing a deeper layer so you can go to a deeper level of healing and love.

Our behaviors, coping strategies, and our defense mechanisms are all there to protect us from hurt and confirm our biases. People who have low self-worth and think their value comes from doing will be very critical of themselves and will constantly try to do and create a result.

When our ‘come from’ is “I’m broken,” “I hope this fixes me,” or “something is wrong with me,” it slows down our healing because the energy that our personal development is riding on is judgment rather than love.

As we learn to meet our own needs and tend to the little one inside of us and make the place inside of us that feels not enough, or not worthy, make it known that our needs ARE valuable and worthy. And, as we realize our needs are valuable and worthy, we then unconsciously train other people about how to meet our needs better and we are able to consciously ask people to meet our needs better.

Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

The last weekend of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you're backtracking or not making progress in terms of your personal development?
  • Do you experience great frustration with your life, work, relationships, or where you live?
  • Growing up, did you feel like your needs were met? Did you feel like your parents understood you, saw you, and knew how to meet your needs?
  • When it comes to yourself and your path, do you approach it with love, compassion, and acceptance, or with judgment and frustration?

Anna’s Question:

Anna feels that time is passing in her life but she isn’t making any progress; she would like guidance on how to move forward.

Anna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she is not making progress in life.
  • She feels other people judge her.
  • She is unhappy in her work, community, and relationships.
  • Her parents were emotionally unavailable.
  • She gets depressed when she is not accomplishing things.
  • She felt her needs didn’t matter and couldn’t be met.
  • She has consistently searched externally to get her needs met.
  • She helped raise a family member.
  • She feels angry and hurt that her parents weren’t there for her.
  • She has built a wall around her heart.
  • She adopted self-criticism as a defense mechanism.
  • She is not broken.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Realize she is the only one that can meet her needs.
  • Deeply connect with her little girl and feel her feelings.
  • Reflect internally without judgment and support and trust herself.

Takeaways:

  • Look at your ‘come from’ in your personal development. Up your self-compassion and talk to that little one inside.
  • Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Think of how you’d be with a child or animal. How would you meet their needs? How would you anticipate their needs? Use this to access how to meet your own needs.
  • Acknowledge your progress.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Jul 08 2020

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CC: Break Through Money Blocks to Live A Richer Life with Ramit Sethi

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Remit Sethi is the author of the NYT bestseller “I Will Teach You How to Be Rich” and is known as a financial guru to millions.  He is an expert on teaching how to break through psychological money blocks so you can live a rich life. In this episode Ramit shares some incredible tips for how to get out of panic around money during this stressful time as well as advice for how to lead a “rich” life (and you get to define what “rich” means to you!). Learn more about Ramit at: https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/

Jul 04 2020

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EP 251: Have I Outgrown My Relationship? With Sara

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This call is about personal growth and the effect it may have on a long-term relationship. Today’s caller, Sara, is working through her past trauma and childhood wounds and making a connection with her inner child. But, her relationship with her husband is not shifting. She is wondering if it is a relationship dynamic that will adjust.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode251]

Even though the person who is doing more growth work and has more consciousness in a relationship has more responsibility, we can never change anyone through our love. However, if we break the issue-based dynamic we are in with someone then it presents an opportunity for them to break free of their patterns and maybe deal with some of their stuff. Our love cannot save anyone, change anyone, or heal anyone. That is a job we have to do ourselves. We are all 100% responsible for changing, healing, and inspiring ourselves.

If we try to get someone to change, we are continuing to involve ourselves in the relational dynamic which perpetuates the unhealthy patterns and childhood wounding. Healing doesn’t come from trying to change another person. It comes from doing your own work within the context of a relationship.

Most of our wounding happens in a relationship and most of our wounding can be healed in a relationship.

If you are in a relationship and would like a couples coaching call on this podcast go to ChristineHassler.com/couples.

Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

At the end of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. If you can’t tune in for the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you still dealing with the pain of a chaotic or traumatic childhood?
  • Have you been doing a lot of personal growth work and now you’re concerned that you may have outgrown your partner?
  • Do you feel your relationship has an expiration date?
  • Do you really want your partner to change and you’re doing everything you can to get him or her to change?

Sara’s Question:

Sara is making significant changes in her life and is looking for more intimacy and connection in her relationship.

Sara’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been making personal development breakthroughs.
  • She is open to change and doing new things.
  • She is looking for connection and intimacy from her relationship.
  • Her husband has a different love language.
  • She needs to feel safe in a relationship.
  • There has been gaslighting in her childhood and marriage.
  • She is in an issue-based relationship.
  • She has an anxious attachment style.
  • She has an emotional addiction of going into Hopeless/Helpless.
  • She is in a soul contract.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Couples coaching is helpful.
  • Take care of little Sara, reassure her,  and give herself what she needs.
  • Love her husband for exactly who he is.
  • Lead her relationship with love.
  • Try interrupting rigid patterns with humor and lightness.

Takeaways:

  • If you are in a partnership where you are growing but you don’t think your partner is, instead of thinking you need to leave, give it your all unless the relationship is toxic.
  • Talk to the little boy or girl inside of you, ask them what they need, and give it to them.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Jul 01 2020

39mins

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CC: Spiritual Shit with Alea Lovely

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You'll love Christine's discussion with energy reader, medium, empath and energy coach Alea Lovely.  Alea uses her empathic and intuitive gifts to help people discover and move past their blocks. She also hosts an amazing podcast "Spiritual Sh*t" where she interviews guests and shares her compassion and wisdom.  You can learn more about Alea and her services here: https://thelovelyalea.com/bio

Jun 27 2020

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EP 250: Stop Pleasing and Start Speaking Up with Rhonda

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This call is about realizing the freedom of being your authentic self and setting boundaries. Today’s caller, Rhonda, is used to putting other people first but she wants deeper, more authentic relationships. She feels stuck in the limiting beliefs and fears of her childhood. We work through her gift of discernment and how she can give her authentic self an outlet. It’s a perfect conversation for what is going on collectively right now.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode250]

To some degree, I think we are people pleasers or at least invested in making sure other people like us a large percentage of the time. But, more and more, we’re living in a world where that simply doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because it stifles our authentic expression and it also doesn’t work because we have too many people pleasers and not enough changemakers. How can we create a better world if we are afraid of upsetting other people?

A great leader cares more about the truth then people's feelings. It’s not a permission slip to be a jerk, however sometimes the truth does hurt, and that’s okay. We have to be willing to receive the truth, allow it to sting a little bit but then go, all right what can I learn. And, we have to be willing to give the truth and be okay if people are upset with us. It’s okay, their upset is their responsibility. Your responsibility is to speak the truth with love. We need people who see injustices and call them out.

If you are feeling stuck, reframe it. You are not stuck. You are waking up. You may be in a bit of uncertainty because you are breaking free of old patterns but you are not stuck!

Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified retreat in Austin, Sept 24-27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a people pleaser? Are you often more concerned with being liked and having people be okay than you are with actually speaking your truth?
  • Did you grow up in a home where you had to take care of your parents and parent them so they were happy and your own needs weren’t met?
  • If you are a parent, are you able to be Mama or Papa Bear to your child but often have trouble giving yourself that same fierce love?
  • Do you have the gift of discernment but you often don’t speak up and use your gift to be able to see the truth? And, are you willing to make the truth more important than the need to be liked?

Rhonda’s Question:

Rhonda feels stuck in people-pleasing mode. She wants deeper relationships where she can truly be seen.

Rhonda’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She doesn’t feel lovable or let people love her.
  • She is driven to please other people.
  • She feels tired and wants to regain her energy.
  • In her childhood, she felt the need to make peace between her parents.
  • She is waking up from a limiting belief about her worthiness.
  • She wants to be her authentic self.
  • She is passionate about her children.
  • She supported her son through his cancer treatments.
  • She feels powerful and strong.
  • She is going through marriage therapy.
  • She is aware when other people take advantage.
  • She doesn’t want to hurt people.
  • She has the gift of discernment.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Let go of the belief that she is stuck.
  • Connect with her inner child and provide the unconditional love, trust, and validation she is seeking through people-pleasing.
  • Use her gift of discernment and access the part of herself that is committed to love, life, and connection.
  • Discover things she is passionate about.
  • Speak up for her wants and needs with truth and love.
  • Give her authentic self an outlet.
  • Speak with her husband about her love for him.

Takeaways:

  • Speak the truth.
  • Look at your relationships — where do you need to set boundaries or reinforce them?
  • Find the fierce warrior inside of you and give support to the little boy or a little girl inside of you.
  • For help finding your voice, check out my Love Amplified retreat.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Jun 24 2020

33mins

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CC: We're In This Together with Mike Robbins

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Christine chats with longtime friend and colleague, Mike Robbins about how to learn, grow, and just be an overall better human.  His new book

WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER: Creating a Team Culture of High Performance, Trust, and Belonging is incredibly timely.  For the past 20 years, he’s been a sought-after speaker and consultant who delivers keynotes and seminars for some of the top organizations in the world. 

He and his work have been featured in the New York Times and the Harvard Business Review, as well as on NPR and ABC News.  He’s a regular contributor to Forbes, hosts his own podcast (called We’re All in This Together), and his books have been translated into 15 different languages.

Jun 20 2020

42mins

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EP 249: Let Go of Guilt for Good with Lynn

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This incredibly touching call is about forgiveness and letting go of guilt. Today’s caller, Lynn, feels she was partially responsible for her son’s death and wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn his passing. Lynn is very brave to be vulnerable and share her story. In this session, we work through a tough topic, especially for mothers. Be prepared.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode249]

When something happens, we can blame ourselves so much that we become the judge and the jury that crucifies us. We can get stuck in a thick soup of guilt.

And, when we have a big trauma, like the passing of someone, we can think that we’re only upset about that event especially when it is something big like losing a child. However, most traumas, massive expectation hangovers, or losses trigger past things that made us feel in similar ways. We can get stuck in a loop that we can’t get out of in terms of the guilt cycle. It’s difficult to process grief when you are stuck in guilt.

Grief is hard and when we add guilt to it, it can feel unsurmountable. When you lose someone, especially a child, I don’t know that the pain ever goes away. However, going through the grief process helps to heal it enough for you to be able to move forward.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you suffer from guilt? Have you done something and you think that you did something terribly wrong and you just can’t forgive yourself, even if it’s years later?
  • Are you a parent, especially a mother, who thinks no matter what you do you are never doing enough?
  • Have you had a break up that you never really got over? Specifically a break up where you were left for another person?
  • Do you know things spiritually but have a hard time accepting them on a human level?

Lynn’s Question:

Lynn has been grieving over her son’s death but hasn’t been able to forgive herself for his suffering.

Lynn’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels divided between her emotional and spiritual self.
  • She is stuck in feelings of grief, guilt, and regret.
  • She sought help from grief groups and through multiple healing techniques.
  • Her son was the victim of a violent crime.
  • She feels she should have done more to help her son.
  • Her ex-husband left her and their three children for another woman.
  • She may be keeping her son’s memory alive through her guilt and shame.
  • She has a limiting belief that she could have done better as a mom.
  • She wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn her son.
  • She doesn’t feel supported in her current marriage.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Do deep forgiveness work and process anger from her past.
  • Give herself permission to open her heart and to be happy again.
  • Resist punishing herself.

Takeaways:

  • If you are feeling guilty about something, do some journaling. Ask yourself, ‘What is this bringing up from my past that I need to forgive myself for?’
  • Forgive yourself for buying into any judgments you have made against yourself.
  • Mothers, it’s OK to have boundaries with your children.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Jun 17 2020

46mins

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CC: Shift Your Mindset with Topsie Vandenbosch

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Mindset coach and clinical therapist Topsie Vandenbosch joins Christine to talk about how to have a healthier mindset. We talk about getting out of unhealthy situations, getting over imposter syndrome and Topsie works with female entrepreneurs who are str

Jun 13 2020

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EP 248: Be Yourself No Matter What Anybody Else Thinks with Ram

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This call is about identifying what is blocking you from stepping into your power. Today’s caller, Ram, has something to say but fears the judgment of others. He is repressing anger about never being seen for who he truly is. How many of us identify with that?

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode248]

When we have stuck emotions we feel stuck in life because it takes a lot of energy to suppress repressed emotions. Repressing our emotions robs us of our creative expression and our creative energy. So, unless we deal with our anger and rage it’s going to leak out in other ways and it’s going to sabotage us.

When men, in particular, don’t deal with their anger and hurt in healthy ways or they don’t step into their power in a healthy way, they try to overpower others. Men who don’t take the more aggressive route generally become passive and neither help us because we need strong men to fight this fight with us. I acknowledge men who are willing to learn to process anger in a healthy way.

Sometimes we give too much power to people who can’t see us and that is what is beautiful about the awakening happening right now. So much is coming up and out in our world as more and more people are speaking their truth. We need awake people and lightworkers in all fields to bring consciousness and love into the world. No one else can give us permission to be ourselves.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you’re in limbo — like you know what to do and feel called to do it but just can’t seem to make it happen?
  • Do you feel disconnected from either your masculine or feminine energy?
  • Are you scared, even terrified, of judgment from others, which keeps you from moving forward?
  • Do you feel like a fish out of water in your culture, country, or family?

Ram’s Question:

Ram thinks he is in healing limbo. He feels disconnected from his masculine energy and is scared to show his true self to the world.

Ram’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He is sensitive and empathic.
  • His previous career/identity was frantic and Madmen like.
  • He is afraid to share his true nature.
  • He feels disconnected from his culture.
  • He doesn’t feel he can be his true self.
  • He becomes deeply invested in his work.
  • He is tapping into the collective frustration.
  • He lives vicariously through other people.
  • He feels the way to survive is to mute himself.
  • There is anger in his body and it wants attention.
  • He feels wronged, suppressed, and disempowered.
  • He is breaking a paradigm.
  • Managing his anger is taking all his energy.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Work to change external circumstances to shift internally.
  • Find the anger within and release it to become empowered.
  • Work with anger in a healthy way.
  • Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for my Temper Tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or join the Personal Mastery course.
  • Move into self-forgiveness.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Jun 10 2020

33mins

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CC: We Are in the Great Awakening. How to Navigate and Understanding Your Role

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In this episode, Christine speaks about how to navigate this challenging time with love. She also shares her insight on how and why this is the "Great Awakening" we have all been preparing for. Christine shares how we can all heal racism and how being anti-racist is truly about being a loving and awakening human being along with action steps you can take. Learn how you can step into your unique role in this changing ecosystem. Receive a prayer you can use to help shift mass consciousness.

Jun 06 2020

43mins

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EP 247: I Feel Like a Failure with Alex

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This call is about self-compassion and empowerment. Today’s caller, Alex, judges herself for not being where she feels she ‘should’ be in life and for not breaking free from a toxic relationship. She wants guidance on how to move forward but must first work through her unresolved wounding. No one makes significant changes by beating themselves up. True transformation and true change come from love.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode247]

When we judge ourselves as a failure we continue to feel like a failure because adding judgment only creates more self-loathing and it lowers our self-worth. It’s important to know that at any given moment we are doing the best we can at the time.

 It’s not an excuse not to do better. It is like Maya Angelou says ‘the first time you didn’t know any better, the second time you know better, so do better.’ We always have the opportunity. There is always another time. The amazing thing about life is that as time keeps going on we are consistently presented with additional opportunities to do better. But, if you look back and only see yourself as a failure you’re not going to have the confidence and self-love you need to actually do better the next time you will just keep repeating the same ‘failure.’

It is important that we feel empowered so we don’t give our power away to others or exert our power over others.

Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you’re failing at life and not where you should be?
  • Do you have an alcoholic or addict parent and maybe did you have another parent that you were close to — maybe even a little too close?
  • Is it hard for you to break free of toxic relationships or situations even though you know that they are not healthy for you?

Alex’s Question:

Alex is tired of feeling like a victim and would like clarity on how to move forward in her life.

Alex’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She walked away from a toxic relationship but keeps in contact with him.
  • She is looking for a new job.
  • She feels like a failure and has hit rock bottom.
  • Her father is an alcoholic and a workaholic.
  • Her father didn’t pay much attention to her.
  • She lost touch with herself at a young age.
  • She feels alone.
  • She didn’t find value in therapy.
  • She is very close to her mother and doesn’t want to disappoint her.
  • She carries around shame.
  • She wants to learn to love herself.
  • She is love-starved.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Research codependence and work to break free of her codependent patterns.
  • Focus on self-compassion and empowerment.
  • Remind herself daily that she is enough and she doesn’t need anyone else’s approval.
  • Believe that she can take care of herself and meet her own needs.
  • Consider getting a coach or therapist to guide her.
  • Reparent herself and speak to herself in a more loving way.
  • Investigate her spiritual life more.

Takeaways:

  • Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.
  • Look where you might have codependent patterns. Do some online research or check out Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie.
  • Make a list of all your perceived failures or mistakes and reframe them. For every single one, I want you to write down at least three things you learn from them to start to see your failures and mistakes from a different perspective.
  • Do something that fills your cup. Do something that makes you feel safe and nurtured, something that calms that inner child.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Jun 03 2020

52mins

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CC: The XX Brain with Dr. Lisa Mosconi

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Enjoy this information rich episode where Christine speaks with one of the thought-leaders in women's brain health. Learn how you can protect your memory and avoid Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Lisa Mosconi, PhD, is the director of the Women's Brain Initiative and associate director of the Alzheimer's Prevention Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College, where she serves as an associate professor of neuroscience in neurology and radiology. In addition, she is an adjunct faculty member at the NYU Department of Psychiatry and the author of Brain Food and The XX Brain.

May 30 2020

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EP 246: Break Through Intimacy Blocks with Jasmine

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This call is about overcoming a desire for control to feel safe. Today’s caller, Jasmine, is wondering why she has a strange relationship with her boyfriend and her sister and why she sabotages her work experience. What it comes down to is an issue with control and fear of intimacy created to protect herself due to her early experiences with an emotionally unavailable parent.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode246]

During a time when we feel out of control or too controlled we develop a compensatory strategy of ‘I have to be in control of everything to protect myself to avoid intimacy.’

Attachment styles are developed based on our early experiences in relationships. In the avoidant attachment style, we avoid or fear emotional intimacy because usually had a parent who was aloof, emotionally removed, unaffectionate, rejecting, or not attuned to our childhood emotional needs.

Maybe the parent provided food and shelter but children need affection and nurturing as well. When a child doesn’t have emotional availability or affection they can develop an avoidant attachment style. In adulthood, this can show up as being extremely independent and self-directed, controlling, and often uncomfortable with intimacy.

Those with an avoidant attachment style often get the rap of being commitment-phobes but it’s more that they have difficulty with commitment. They either rationalize themselves out of deep intimacy or they have certain complaints when in a relationship.

Grounding ourselves in the present moment and breathwork are great for people who have an avoidant attachment style.

Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to discuss what may be blocking you from joining in.

To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a habit of pushing people away?
  • Do you give too much advice to certain people?
  • Do you remember, as a child, having a lot of affection being hugged and feeling safe and nurtured in your home or do you remember feeling kind of alone?
  • Do you often sabotage an opportunity or relationship professional or personal even if it’s something you really want?

Jasmine’s Question:

Jasmine has a difficult time connecting in her relationships and pulls away before she gets what she wants.

Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is trying to change the role she plays in her sister’s life.
  • She shrugs off affection when her boyfriend reaches out.
  • She wants things done a certain way.
  • She has adopted a protective pattern of control.
  • She has had very little intimacy in her life.
  • Her mother was emotionally unavailable.
  • As a child, she learned that loving other people meant telling them what to do.
  • Her father wasn’t around.
  • She doesn’t recognize the progress she has made.
  • She may have a deep fear of rejection.
  • She has a body memory of being rejected when giving love.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Research the avoidant attachment style.
  • Check-in with herself, with love, to see how she is doing.
  • Be more compassionate with herself.
  • Release self-judgment and add unconditional love.
  • Ground herself in the present because intimacy happens in the present moment.
  • Adopt the mantra of ‘I am safe. That was then. This is now.’ and ‘It is safe to let love in.’

Takeaways:

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

May 27 2020

37mins

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CC: Inquire within with IN-Q

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You are in for a treat a very talented and inspirational guest joins Christine on the podcast.  IN-Q is a National Poetry Slam champion, award-winning poet, and multi-platinum songwriter.  He is on Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He inspires audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops.
 IN-Q brings his words to paper in his heartfelt and entertaining debut book Inquire Within. His poetry contemplates themes of love, life, presence, forgiveness, and social issues including climate change, gun violence, racism and more. After hearing IN-Q and reading his poetry, you’ll never look at poetry the same way again.    Learn more and grab a copy here: https://in-q.com/

May 23 2020

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EP 245: Stop Trying to Prove Yourself with Britney

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This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today’s caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245]

What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us.  

If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here.

When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we’re not hitting as many roadblocks.

I don’t want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place.

Tap into your inner knowing and intuition with this gift from me. It offers help with intuitive decision making and how to navigate the unknown with 6 Steps to Bypass Your Practical Mind. Text ‘Christine’ to 444999.

Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more?
  • Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you?
  • As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it?
  • Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can’t shift it?

Britney’s Question:

Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose.

Britney’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She disassociates and has self-worth issues.
  • She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it.
  • She is having trouble taking her career to the next level.
  • She feels she is not where she is supposed to be.
  • She pushes away love because she feels she doesn’t deserve it.
  • She was told she wouldn’t succeed in the arts.
  • She craved support and validation from her parents.
  • She feels like she doesn’t matter and has to prove herself.
  • Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success.
  • She is breaking a generational pattern.
  • She wants to play more.
  • She consistently looks for something external to heal internally.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself.
  • Perform the Empty Chair Process.
  • Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing.

Takeaways:

  •  Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th.
  • Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are.
  • If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail.
  • Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

May 20 2020

43mins

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CC: Staring Down the Wolf with Mark Divine

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Influential thought-leader, lifelong martial-artist, dedicated Yoga and meditation practitioner, retired Navy SEAL commander, successful serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, selfless mentor and teacher—Mark Divine joins Christine on the podcast today.   We discuss how to be courageous during this challenging time.  Mark teaches us the 7 Commitments essential to building elite teams (and just being a great leader of yourself!) that are part of his new book, Staring down the Wolf. Learn more here: staringdownthewolf.com

May 16 2020

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EP 244: Finding the Right Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy With Mark

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This is a call about discovering your purpose by healing past wounds. Today’s caller, Mark, is feeling confused about his purpose after his divorce. He is struggling with his identity as he obsesses about his ex. After discussing his childhood, his wounding may have come from a family member long before he got married. Moving forward is clearer when you clean up the past.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode244]

There are so many ways we can be disconnected from our purpose. One of the main ways we become disconnected is when we play the role of peacekeeper. Our unconscious mind starts to become more concerned with being a peacekeeper than fulfilling our soul’s destiny. We believe that being a peacekeeper keeps us safe and gets us validation. But being a peacekeeper or being what other people want us to be, drains a lot of our energy.

And, it’s important when finding our purpose that we deal with our anger, resentment, sadness, and shame because often our purpose is underneath those things. Once we see through the unconscious programming, we understand better who we really are.

When you clean up the past, the future becomes clear. And in the clarity, you know what your next steps are. You know what to do about your job or relationships because old wounding and unconscious programming are no longer blinding you from seeing your path.

All human beings have both feminine and masculine energies they need to nurture. Our masculine energy thrives on the muse-like energy that is feminine. Feminine energy is inspiring, evocative, innovative, encouraging, and temptress.

We are in an unprecedented time of uncertainty and worry and overwhelm are running rampant. Do you have the tools to rise to your full strength, wisdom, and power? Please join me on May 13–16 for the Resilience Summit hosted by Ashley Turner. There are 24 interviews, including mine, about the science, spirituality, and psychology of resilience and best practices to build your inner strength. Visit ChristineHassler.com/ResilienceSummit.

Join Stefanos and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you ever feel depressed, frustrated, or lack motivation?
  • Do you question what your purpose is and often feel like you’re destined to do great things but you just don’t know what they are?
  • Growing up, did you feel you had a good balance of masculine and feminine behavior modeled to you?
  • Do you have an ex or any person in your life that is not in your life anymore that you just keep obsessing about or can’t quite seem to let them go?

Mark’s Question:

Mark recently got divorced but is still obsessing about his ex and would like guidance on how to move forward and find purpose in his life.

Mark’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He is critical of himself.
  • He says he is depressed.
  • He is searching for his purpose.
  • He married his ‘mom.’
  • He has never felt accepted by the women in his life.
  • He considers his mother and ex strong women.
  • His mother emasculated him when he was younger.
  • He spent his life trying to please and appease the feminine.
  • His father is his best friend.
  • He feels he was destined to lead.
  • He had to be the peacekeeper in his family.
  • He is afraid of his anger.
  • He craves love and acceptance.
  • He wants permission to be himself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • He needs to find a healthy release for his anger and resentment.
  • He needs to find a healthy model of feminine energy.
  • He needs to write letters to his ex and his mother he doesn’t intend to send.
  • He needs to tap into his feminine energy and find the muse inside himself.
  • He has to stop making getting a woman’s approval his purpose.
  • He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Takeaways:

  • Journal about what your parents modeled for you around masculine and feminine energy.
  • Are there any F-U letters you need to write to release some anger?
  • Go to ChristineHassler.com/AngerRelease to get the Temper Tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover.
  • Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 13 2020

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CC: Get in the Flo with Alisa Vitti

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This is a MUST listen for all women and men who want to understand women better. Functional medicine and woman's hormone expert Alisa Vitti joins Christine to discuss how our "infradian rhythm" which is tied to our menstrual cycle impacts all aspects of your life.  You'll learn what to eat, how to exercise, and how to work depending on what phase of your cycle you are in. By tapping into your biological rhythm, you'll get more done with less effort, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs and enjoy the freedom that comes from living in FLO.   Alissa Vitta is also the author of Woman Code and In the Flo.  The is the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app.  Learn more at floliving.com

May 09 2020

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EP 243: Are You Sabotaging Yourself Because of Low Self-Worth? With Odysseus

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This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today’s caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to ‘fix’ his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode243]

A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we’ve got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they’re going to get rejected and doesn’t feel safe. It holds us back and that’s why we often feel like we’re taking one step forward and one step back.

And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don’t call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they’re doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them.

In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn’t want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift.

Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on navigating uncertainty and dealing with expectation hangovers on May 6th and the upcoming call on imposter syndrome. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting?
  • Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family?
  • Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way?
  • Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development?

Odysseus’s Question:

Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career.

Odysseus’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn’t put forth much effort.
  • He is a personal growth junkie.
  • He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends.
  • He battles with his limiting beliefs.
  • He has a pattern of low self-worth.
  • He doesn’t feel worthy of having a good relationship.
  • He didn’t feel wanted by his brothers as a child.
  • He was bullied when he was young.
  • He has Crohn’s disease.
  • He has a distant connection with his father.
  • His parents didn’t know how to parent his energy.
  • He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through.
  • He feels like his time is running out.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself.
  • He needs to search inside for who he really is.
  • He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting.
  • He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says.
  • He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments.
  • He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Takeaways:

  • Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation.
  • Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself.
  • Celebrate your progress even if it’s just a small step in the direction you want to go.
  • Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 06 2020

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CC: A Meditation to Calm You During COVID19

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In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

May 02 2020

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By LuluBooo - May 11 2020
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Christine is an incredible healing presence on this planet. I am so grateful that she shares her gifts with such openness, compassion and deep wisdom. It would be impossible to listen to this podcast and NOT feel shifted afterwards!! Thank you Christine, my gratitude for you is infinite—you truly are one of my greatest teachers.

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By zuckaroo - May 03 2020
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I can’t even begin to express my love for the way Christine teaches. After years of therapy, I still wasn’t able to fully heal or use tools to help me through moments when I get triggered. While this podcast is a great resource, Christine’s other teachings is what leads to even greater breakthroughs. I am a believer and support what she teaches. She comes from such a genuine and compassionate place while also tapping into what you’re feeling at such a spiritual level that can only be described as from the divine.