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Queer Sex Ed Podcast

Each month, Sara and Jay explore topics in sex health, relationships, queer identities, BDSM, kink, sex work, and more. This podcast is only for listeners 18 and older.

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Dominance, Orgasm Denial, and Kink Self-Care - Queer Sex Ed: Episode 14

Sara and Jay discuss all things dominance! This episode dives deep into the kink role that has the control in a BDSM scene and all of the different facets of dominance that don't usually get talked about in kinky conversations. Also discussed: Playing with orgasm denial, dealing with sub drop and dom drop, and interrupting toxic masculinity in dominance. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 42mins

23 Feb 2018

Rank #1

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Femme - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 27

Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 47mins

10 Jun 2018

Rank #2

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Butt Stuff 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 52

This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play. Segments: 3:16 - Word of the Show, Lube 29:43 - Patreon Message 33:19 - Basics of Ass Anatomy (Ass-natomy) 48:05 - Ass Play Examples 1:02:23 - Butt-Specific Safety Tips 1:26:48 - What We Like About Anal Sex and Ass Play Show Links: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32887307-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-t-shirt?p=classic-tee https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32890343-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-tote-bag?p=tote-bag&size=large https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/buttsex/ http://www.newnownext.com/ive-contracted-my-third-gastrointestinal-parasite-from-rimming-and-i-cant-be-the-only-gay-man-suffering/01/2018/ Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 40mins

6 Apr 2019

Rank #3

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Boundaries - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 36

Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what you need to feel safe. Useful links:  https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamorywithoutrules.html https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 37mins

12 Oct 2018

Rank #4

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Body Changes on Hormones - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 59

This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone. Segments: 3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing 13:13 - Patreon Message 14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT 25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex 36:26 - Effects of Testosterone 49:17 - Effects of Estrogen 1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone 1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone 1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy 1:26:12 -  Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week Show Links: www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.) Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 33mins

27 Jul 2019

Rank #5

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Jealousy, Compersion, and Building Inclusive Spaces - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 6

Episode 6 is finally here!   We talk about what jealousy actually is, how jealousy is a second-order emotion, and how you can reverse engineer your jealousy to discover more about your own needs, insecurities, and unmet desires. This discussion draws deeply from this article on More Than Two: https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html   This show also includes a conversation about how you can help make all spaces more intersectionally inclusive. There is also a short segment about compersion, a word that describes the joy poly people feel when they see their partners have pleasure and joy with another person.   Finally, we have an amazing announcement! Thanks to our supporters on Patreon at www.patreon.com/queersexed, QSE will now be a weekly podcast! We're so excited to bring you more content, interviews, live shows, and collaboration with other shows.   We still need your financial support, so if you believe in this work and you're in a position where you can help, any amount is meaningful for making this show sustainable for a long-term future. When we reach $1,000 a month, we will launch a queer-focused media discussion podcast!   Theme Music by: The Platypussies Additional music provided by: Secession Studios . . . This episode of Queer Sex Ed was brought to you by: Emily, Sophie, and 20 other generous Patreon Subscribers. You can check out more from our supporters below   You can submit your work to Tooth N Nail Vol. 2 here: submit@bytoothnnail.com   You can support Sophie Labelle here: https://www.etsy.com/shop/AssignedMale

1hr 21mins

27 Nov 2017

Rank #6

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Impact Play, Safe Words, and Pain Calibration - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 40

Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

2hr 11mins

24 Nov 2018

Rank #7

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Fisting and Edge Play - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 43

This week Sara and Jay talk about topping and bottoming fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual. Show links: https://crashpadseries.com/queer-porn/queer-porn-meets-sex-ed-in-crashpads-guide-to-fisting/ http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2017/5/31/queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-2-kink-and-bdsm-101 http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/10/submission-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-16 Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 30mins

14 Dec 2018

Rank #8

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Switching Roles in Kink Play - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 42

Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 49mins

10 Dec 2018

Rank #9

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Sex Toys 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 32

Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE. Show links: http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/ https://grapeshotmq.com.au/2016/11/the-ovipositor-the-infamous-egg-laying-dildo/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wOGqyYFjf0 Sex toys shops we trust: www.toolshedtoys.com www.smittenkittenonline.com www.tantusinc.com www.bad-dragon.com/shop www.selfservetoys.com www.vixen-creations.myshopify.com www.myspare.com Get your own #buttbase sticker here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32901037-buttbase-sticker?p=sticker&size=small&size=small You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 55mins

13 Jul 2018

Rank #10

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Ethical Communication - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 17

Jay and Sara talk about talking! How can you communicate with your partners, friends, and fuck buddies in a way that is direct, honest, and kind. Also discussed: metamours, sexual communication, and mental health in relationships. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 34mins

16 Mar 2018

Rank #11

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History of Transgender Medicine - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 49

Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizing Segments: 8:22 - Word of the Show (Pathologize) 34:59 - Patreon Message 36:48 - A Quick History of Transgender Medicine (Genital Invert, Transvestites, Harry Benjamin, and the DSM) 1:18:05 - What is the "Medical Model" of Trans Identity 1:38:10 - White Supremacy, Colonialism, and Transphobia 1:43:26 - Current Trans Medicine (ICD 10, ICD 11, and Autogynophilia) Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

2hr 1min

10 Mar 2019

Rank #12

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Bisexual is not Transphobic and Other Responses to Memes - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 28

This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference and a response to past trauma. (As a side note, we recorded this before the hoax campaign to "drop the B" was started by 4chan and spread by other false social media accounts, but yeah... that's crap and don't share it or give them any more spotlight than it takes to debunk the memes when you see them on a friend's wall.) Other links:  Does Race Affect Your Dating Life? | Decoded | MTV News: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reuxx06KgMw Racism in Gay Dating?!? Ft. Dylan Marron | Decoded | MTV: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTyDGiFZk98 You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 55mins

16 Jun 2018

Rank #13

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Identifying Desire, Asexuality, and Aromanticism - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 9

Hey friends! Sara and Jay discuss desire, exploration, and how you can identify what you want, learn more about sexual activities you may want to try, and how you could pursue those desires alone or with other folks. Also discussed: Asexual/aromantic identities and a discussion of poly friendships and asexual relationships. Bex Talks Sex Yes/No/Maybe list: http://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/ Scarleteen's Yes, No, Maybe sexuality checklist: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire by Jamie Grant (leader of the Desire Mapping session discussed in this episode) http://www.mappingyourdesire.com/book/

1hr 19mins

19 Jan 2018

Rank #14

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QSE Quickies - Kink

Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, dominance, and submission, enjoy!

40mins

30 Aug 2018

Rank #15

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The History of Queer Criminalization - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 30

Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people. Show links: https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=622972320 https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker-ebook/dp/B004KPLWHG https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-Warriors-Making-History-Dennis/dp/0807079413/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1530395938&sr=8-1&keywords=transgender+warriors+feinberg http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2008/02/transgender_history_trans_expression_in.php http://www.transadvocate.com/so-what-was-stonewall_n_8424.htm You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 30mins

30 Jun 2018

Rank #16

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Solo Polyamory, Transition, and Kink with Lisa from the Elephant Talk Podcast - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 3

This week we are cross-posting an interview Sara did on the Elephant Talk Podcast! She will be on an upcoming episode in Elephant Talk Season 2, but Lisa and Kim wanted us to post the full, unedited Director's Cut version of the interview here, since we recorded way more content then they will be able to use in their shorter format. Sara dives deep in this episode into her own experience of her trans body, her current relationship style of Solo Polyamory, and her thoughts on kink, communication, and consent. You can subscribe to Elephant Talk on Apple Podcasts or any podcasting app of your choice (and I'd highly recommend it). You can also follow them on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ElephantTalkPodcast and online at www.elephanttalk.org

1hr 16mins

12 Aug 2017

Rank #17

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Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 5

Sara and Jay are BACK from a two month hiatus and we're talking about one of our favorite topics, group sex! What is a unicorn? How can you find more group sex in your life? What does aftercare look like when you've had group sex? Answers to these questions and more, including your voicemail questions, on QSE this month! We also discuss helping a partner work through past trauma, kink on a budget, hooking up 101, and a ton of other things. You can follow us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/QueerS3xEd and on Twitter @QSEpodcast If you have learned something from this show and you want to support Sara's work with QSE and out in the world, please consider giving a monthly gift to us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Thank you!

1hr 44mins

25 Oct 2017

Rank #18

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Sensory Deprivation - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 48

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind). Segments: 2:33 Word of the Show, Dungeon Master 19:07 Patreon Message 20:21 Sensory Deprivation Intro 33:38 Why do folks like Sensory Dep? 46:36 Sensory Dep Safety 1:01:00 Fun stuff, toys, and personal stories! 1:23:21 Negotiation tips Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 34mins

22 Feb 2019

Rank #19

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Sharing Your Desires - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 11

Sara and Jay discuss how you can share your sexual and intimate desires, including strategies for starting the conversation, tools you can use to find where your desires overlap, and ways you can build communicative relationships in every aspect of your life. Also discussed: fetish, fetishization, and a question about being in polyamorous and kink communities as a therapist. . Bex Talks Sex Yes/No/Maybe list: http://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/ Scarleteen's Yes, No, Maybe sexuality checklist: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire by Jamie Grant (leader of the Desire Mapping session discussed in this episode) http://www.mappingyourdesire.com/book/ . Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

1hr 48mins

6 Feb 2018

Rank #20