Responding to a Narcisssist
In this episode, we discuss how those in relationships with a narcissist can respond appropriate while taking care of themselves. We explain narcissism from a biblical perspective and discuss practical ways that those in abusive relationships can move on and heal. Resources Mentioned Narcissism from a Biblical Perspective (Blog and Podcast Episode) Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend The Christian's Guide to No Contact: How to End Your Relationships With Narcissistic, Psychopathic, and Abusive Family and Friends, and Still be a Good Christian by Sister Renee Pittelli When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing With Narcissism and Emotional Abuse by David Hawkins Support for our show comes from Faithful Counseling where you can talk to a Christian licensed therapist online today. Take 10% off your first month.
15 Feb 2018
Dealing with Toxic People
In this episode, Tres discusses how to approach and interact with toxic people—those who are critical, manipulative, and destructive in the way they relate with others.
21 Jul 2015
In this episode, Tres describes how we can rebuild trust after it has been broken. He talks about how forgiveness and trust intersect, and the process a couple can take as they recover from a major breach of trust. A rundown of this episode: 0:03 - New music for the intro! 0:20 - More recordings on the field in future episodes. 2:09 - Relax to the sounds of an Arizona monsoon rainstorm. 2:56 - The 5th anniversary of the podcast is coming soon. 5:10 - How the issue of trust comes up a lot in couples counseling. 9:15 - An analogy that explains how trust grows. 13:09 - Tres gives an illustration on trust by telling the story of how he adopted his cat, Majerle. 16:10 - Surrendering to God. Resources mentioned: Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken by Cindy Beall
24 Jul 2017
Can a Narcissist Change?
On this episode, we interview Brooks Gibson, a pastoral counselor with Arizona Christian Counseling. We discuss personality disorders, with an emphasis on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and approach the subject from a Christian perspective.
27 May 2020
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Recovery from Verbal and Emotional Abuse
In this episode, we discuss how survivors of abuse can find hope and healing. We focus on the effects of emotional and verbal abuse and how they can affect a person years after the abuse has ended. Faithful Counseling provides online counseling with Christian licensed therapists. For 10% off your first month, visit here: https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/acc
26 Sep 2019
Wisdom for Dating
In this episode, Tres tackles some controversial opinions around Christians and dating. He provides some practical suggestions as well as a step-by-step guide for discerning what to look for in a future spouse. Resources Mentioned Wisdom for Dating Worksheet Joshua Harris' Ted Talk: Strong Enough to Be Wrong Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
25 Jan 2018
Dealing with a Dysfunctional Family
Holidays can be stressful for those with dysfunctional families. In this episode, we discuss family dynamics as well as ways to set boundaries with difficult family members. We also discuss how a family genogram can help one learn more about one's family background and dynamics. Resources Mentioned: Genograms for Beginners by Tres Adames How to Set Boundaries (article) Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Generation to Generation by Edwin Friedman Support for our show comes from Faithful Counseling where you can talk to a Christian licensed therapist online today. Take 10% off your first month.
21 Dec 2018
Boundaries in Relationships
In this episode, we discuss how to set boundaries in a romantic relationship. We talk about red flags that come up when a couple becomes too enmeshed, and how to use boundaries to strengthen relationships.
17 Nov 2016
Falling in Love Again
In this episode, we discuss how married couples can rekindle the flame and feel more connected. Often it's easy to feel love when we are first in a relationship, but what to do when the feeling fades and resentment threatens to extinguish the spark? We discuss how to address negative cycles and establish more healthy ones that invite connection. Resources Mentioned: Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud/Townsend Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson For Men Only and For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn The Self-Centered Marriage by Hal Edward Runkel The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller Interested in learning more? Check out our courses in biblical counseling.
7 Feb 2018
How to Improve Self Esteem
In this episode, Tres discusses how to improve your self esteem by looking at yourself through God's eyes. He shares his own story of transformation and how he improved his physical and spiritual health. Follow Tres' health and wellness account on Instagram.
27 Sep 2018
Happiness in the Here and Now
How can someone find happiness? Is it something we have to go out and attain, or is it something we can experience now? Tres answers these questions and also gives hope and practical insight for those struggling with anxiety and depression. Are you looking for a Christian counselor? Check out our Christian counseling directory. Want to learn more about training in Christian counseling? Check out the Biblical Counseling Master Course™
30 Nov 2018
Hope for Depression
In this episode, we give a broad overview of depression from a Christian perspective. We discuss the physiological, emotional, and spiritual aspects of depression and ways to find hope. Resources Mentioned: -10 Days to Self Esteem by David Burns: https://amzn.to/2sEOkuA -Faithful Counseling (10% off your first month): https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/acc
19 Dec 2019
What It Means to Be Happy
In this episode, we discuss what it really means to experience happiness. We look to philosophy and theology and ask: Is happiness just mere pleasure or good feeling? Or is there a deeper explanation of what it means to find lasting satisfaction and fulfillment? Bibliography Adler, Mortimer. Aristotle's Ethics - Book I: The Theory of Happiness. Encyclopaedia Britannica Films, 1962. Adler, Mortimer J. “Happiness and Contentment.” Ten Philosophical Mistakes, Touchstone, 1985. Aristotle. “Nicomachean Ethics.” The Internet Classics Archive, translated by W. D. Ross, classics.mit.edu/Aristotle/nicomachaen.1.i.html. Katz, Josh. “Drug Deaths in America Are Rising Faster Than Ever.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 5 June 2017, www.nytimes.com/interactive/2017/06/05/upshot/opioid-epidemic-drug-overdose-deaths-are-rising-faster-than-ever.html. Rothman, Lily. “American Happiness Index 2016: Exclusive Data on Mood in USA.” Time, Time, 1 July 2016, time.com/4389726/harris-poll-happiness-index-2016/. Townsend, John. “Leadership Beyond Reason: How Great Leaders Succeed by Harnessing the Power of Their Values, Feelings, and Intuition.” Leadership Beyond Reason: How Great Leaders Succeed by Harnessing the Power of Their Values, Feelings, and Intuition, Harper Collins, 2011, p. 87. Warren, Kay. Choose Joy: Because Happiness Isn't Enough. Revell, 2013.
29 Nov 2017
This is a special episode where Tres gives an important update about his ministry and also tells his story.
30 Oct 2019
Relationships in Conflict
In this episode, Tres discusses how to approach marital and family relationships that are in conflict. He talks about settings boundaries, communication, and the difference between forgiveness and trust.
29 Feb 2016
In this episode, we discuss how to set boundaries with those we love. We talk about the biblical foundation of boundaries and go over a step-by-step process for setting boundaries with loved ones.
3 Nov 2016
Medication and Mental Illness
In this episode, we discuss how to view medication and mental illness from a holistic rather than overly-simplified perspective. We also discuss how to set boundaries with others who are invasive with opinions about your health.
31 Jul 2018
Understanding Mental Illness
Many struggle with understanding how mental illness and spirituality connect. In this episode, Tres discusses how we can understand mental illness theologically and compassionately respond to those who struggle.
1 Dec 2015
The Most Important Thing You Can Do for Your Marriage
In this episode, Tres shares what he's learned from working with couples in counseling. He dives deep into many elements that make a marriage work, and addresses some often overlooked factors. The online courses mentioned can be found here.
17 Jun 2015
Happy Again: Freedom from Anxiety and Depression
In this special episode, we share a free audio course on finding hope for anxiety and depression. In years past, this course was a paid resource, but in light of the COVID-19 pandemic, it has now been made available for free to our listeners. Download the notes and worksheets on our website.
2 May 2020