2021 is giving 2020 a run for it’s money… sorry we’ve been away, but want to point you to a investigative podcast Nas put out recently for BBC Radio 4. It’s called The Orgasm Cult and looks at a Californian wellness company focusing on female sexuality called One Taste. Gwyneth Paltrow and Tim Ferris were fans. Except there are allegations it may be a sex cult. And the FBI is making enquiries.The podcast goes into questions about why women turn to wellness, the search for community and purpose in a secular age, and where exactly is the line between healing and harm. It’s on all major podcast platforms, or get listening right now here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08xzk5h

2021 is giving 2020 a run for it’s money… sorry we’ve been away, but want to point you to a investigative podcast Nas put out recently for BBC Radio 4. It’s called The Orgasm Cult and looks at a Californian wellness company focusing on female sexuality called One Taste. Gwyneth Paltrow and Tim Ferris were fans. Except there are allegations it may be a sex cult. And the FBI is making enquiries. The podcast goes into questions about why women turn to wellness, the search for community and purpose in a secular age, and where exactly is the line between healing and harm. It’s on all major podcast platforms, or get listening right now here: <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08xzk5h" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08xzk5h</a>

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We’re back with a bonus hiatus episode and we’re talking about victim blaming, especially as it pertains to sexual assault. This is when a victim of an alleged assault is blamed, ranging from being asked what they were wearing, if they’d drunk alcohol, all the way to people not believing their story. Sometimes friends also don’t know how to handle the situation so either engage in victim blaming or simply disappear.Nas recently made a documentary exploring the reasons behind victim blaming, and interviewed the NY Times’ Megan Twohey and Jodi Kantor, who broke the Harvey Weinstein story, as well as Gender Knot favourites Dr Mithu Sanyal and Dr Jackson Katz. Check it out here for background: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3csyv0qIn this episode Nas and Dan talk about ways we can help victims instead. We’d also like to know your experiences if you’ve been in this scenario, as either a victim or someone being told of an assault, and any tips you have for how to help victims.We also talk about an excellent podcast from Slate you should check out called Man Up... check it out here: https://slate.com/podcasts/man-upWe’re on hiatus and will be back with a new season in March. Keep writing to us until then.Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellWrite to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com https://www.thegenderknot.com/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We’re back with a bonus hiatus episode and we’re talking about victim blaming, especially as it pertains to sexual assault. This is when a victim of an alleged assault is blamed, ranging from being asked what they were wearing, if they’d drunk alcohol, all the way to people not believing their story. Sometimes friends also don’t know how to handle the situation so either engage in victim blaming or simply disappear. Nas recently made a documentary exploring the reasons behind victim blaming, and interviewed the NY Times’ Megan Twohey and Jodi Kantor, who broke the Harvey Weinstein story, as well as Gender Knot favourites Dr Mithu Sanyal and Dr Jackson Katz. Check it out here for background: <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3csyv0q" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3csyv0q</a> In this episode Nas and Dan talk about ways we can help victims instead. We’d also like to know your experiences if you’ve been in this scenario, as either a victim or someone being told of an assault, and any tips you have for how to help victims. We also talk about an excellent podcast from Slate you should check out called Man Up... check it out here: <a href="https://slate.com/podcasts/man-up" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://slate.com/podcasts/man-up</a> We’re on hiatus and will be back with a new season in March. Keep writing to us until then. Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Victim blaming: how to not do it and how to be supportive instead

Liz Plank

We close season 6 with journalist Liz Plank. She’s just written a book about mindful masculinity and tells us about the general scripts we have about men and if these help or hinder our wider conversations. We then delve into her thoughts more.We will be back with a new season in March 2020, and will pop up for some bonus episodes in January and February – share the show, leave reviews and write to us until then! And happy 2020!Guest:Liz Plank, journalist and author of ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ http://www.elizabethplank.com/Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellWrite to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com https://www.thegenderknot.com/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We close season 6 with journalist Liz Plank. She’s just written a book about mindful masculinity and tells us about the general scripts we have about men and if these help or hinder our wider conversations. We then delve into her thoughts more. We will be back with a new season in March 2020, and will pop up for some bonus episodes in January and February – share the show, leave reviews and write to us until then! And happy 2020! Guest: Liz Plank, journalist and author of ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ <a href="http://www.elizabethplank.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.elizabethplank.com/</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Liz Plank: are we too mean about men?

We revisit this important topic just once more to really hammer out the purpose of an apology and some dos and don’ts.We get some tips and insight from Harriet Lerner’s book ‘Why won’t you apologize?’ https://amzn.to/38hWsBzAs well as some wisdom from Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg’s powerful twitter threads which you can delve into further here http://bit.ly/344bnMg and here http://bit.ly/38nOszcHosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links:Write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.comwww.thegenderknot.com Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We revisit this important topic just once more to really hammer out the purpose of an apology and some dos and don’ts. We get some tips and insight from Harriet Lerner’s book ‘Why won’t you apologize?’ <a href="https://amzn.to/38hWsBz" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://amzn.to/38hWsBz</a> As well as some wisdom from Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg’s powerful twitter threads which you can delve into further here <a href="http://bit.ly/344bnMg" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://bit.ly/344bnMg</a> and here <a href="http://bit.ly/38nOszc" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://bit.ly/38nOszc</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Write to us at <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="http://www.thegenderknot.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.thegenderknot.com</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Apologies – final round

Esther Perel

We talk a lot about what men can be doing right now, but we revisit a chat with Esther Perel on what women can be doing right now, and how we can all best be allies to one another. Guest:Esther Perel, therapist, author of ‘Mating in Captivity’ and ‘The State of Affairs’, host of the podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s work? Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links:Write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.comwww.thegenderknot.com Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We talk a lot about what men can be doing right now, but we revisit a chat with Esther Perel on what women can be doing right now, and how we can all best be allies to one another. Guest: Esther Perel, therapist, author of ‘Mating in Captivity’ and ‘The State of Affairs’, host of the podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s work? Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Write to us at <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="http://www.thegenderknot.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.thegenderknot.com</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Esther Perel on what women can do

Ellen Friedrichs

Everyone’s talking more about consent but where does this start? Educator Ellen Frederichs joins us to chat about how consent starts with kids and why we all need to be more specific about our experiences. Guest:Ellen Frederichs, educator and author of ‘Good Sexual Citizenship: how to create a (sexually) safer world” https://www.sexedvice.com/good-sexual-citizenshipHosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellWrite to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com https://www.thegenderknot.com/Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Everyone’s talking more about consent but where does this start? Educator Ellen Frederichs joins us to chat about how consent starts with kids and why we all need to be more specific about our experiences. Guest: Ellen Frederichs, educator and author of ‘Good Sexual Citizenship: how to create a (sexually) safer world” <a href="https://www.sexedvice.com/good-sexual-citizenship" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.sexedvice.com/good-sexual-citizenship</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Consent with Ellen Friedrichs

Hussein Kesvani

Journalist Hussein Kesvani writes a lot about the internet, and about masculinity, and about the intersection of the two. He recently interviewed people about apologies in a piece for The Huffington Post, focusing on men and their understanding of an apology and if many men have been taught how to give one. He was inspired after Aziz Ansari’s attempt at one with his recent Netflix show ‘Right Now’, which is when we at The Gender Knot also delved into this same question a few weeks ago.He joins us to explore this further, and we also re-visit Eve Ensler’s book ‘The Apology’ during our conversation.  Check out Hussein's article on men and apologies for the Huffington Post http://bit.ly/2CSjn8g Guest:Hussein Kesvani: journalist, Europe editor at Mel magazine, and author of 'Follow me, Akhi: the online world of British Muslims' - buy it here: https://amzn.to/2OnMgOK and more on Hussein here: https://twitter.com/HKesvaniHosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links:Write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.comwww.thegenderknot.com Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Journalist Hussein Kesvani writes a lot about the internet, and about masculinity, and about the intersection of the two. He recently interviewed people about apologies in a piece for The Huffington Post, focusing on men and their understanding of an apology and if many men have been taught how to give one. He was inspired after Aziz Ansari’s attempt at one with his recent Netflix show ‘Right Now’, which is when we at The Gender Knot also delved into this same question a few weeks ago. He joins us to explore this further, and we also re-visit Eve Ensler’s book ‘The Apology’ during our conversation. Check out Hussein's article on men and apologies for the Huffington Post <a href="http://bit.ly/2CSjn8g" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://bit.ly/2CSjn8g</a> Guest: Hussein Kesvani: journalist, Europe editor at Mel magazine, and author of 'Follow me, Akhi: the online world of British Muslims' - buy it here: <a href="https://amzn.to/2OnMgOK" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://amzn.to/2OnMgOK</a> and more on Hussein here: <a href="https://twitter.com/HKesvani" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/HKesvani</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Write to us at <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="http://www.thegenderknot.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.thegenderknot.com</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Apologies with Hussein Kesvani

Dan Savage

We re-visit some wisdom from the sex and relationship advice columnist and host of the Savage LoveCast Dan Savage, who tells us what straight couples can learn from same sex couples. Guest:Dan Savage, sex and relationship advice columnist and Savage Lovecast host Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links:Write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.comwww.thegenderknot.com Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We re-visit some wisdom from the sex and relationship advice columnist and host of the Savage LoveCast Dan Savage, who tells us what straight couples can learn from same sex couples. Guest: Dan Savage, sex and relationship advice columnist and Savage Lovecast host Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Write to us at <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="http://www.thegenderknot.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.thegenderknot.com</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Dan Savage’s tips for straight couples

Journalist and author of the book ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ tells us about meeting women who support who Trump, and what this tells us about our attitudes towards men and the role women play in upholding these. We also find out about Dan’s backstory on this show, and how we can all take things a bit less personally.Also, the Grace Digital Founders Campus app has all the tools female business founders need to succeed. Go and pledge your support here: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/grace-digitalcampus/grace-digital-founders-campusGuest:Liz Plank, journalist and author of ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ http://www.elizabethplank.com/Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellWrite to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com https://www.thegenderknot.com/Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Journalist and author of the book ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ tells us about meeting women who support who Trump, and what this tells us about our attitudes towards men and the role women play in upholding these. We also find out about Dan’s backstory on this show, and how we can all take things a bit less personally. Also, the Grace Digital Founders Campus app has all the tools female business founders need to succeed. Go and pledge your support here: <a href="https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/grace-digitalcampus/grace-digital-founders-campus" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/grace-digitalcampus/grace-digital-founders-campus</a> Guest: Liz Plank, journalist and author of ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ <a href="http://www.elizabethplank.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.elizabethplank.com/</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Liz Plank on women who support Trump

Jeannie Vanasco

We’re back with Season 6. We talk to author Jeannie Vanasco who interviewed a friend from her teenage years who raped her 15 years ago. Vanasco got in touch with him to find out if and how the rape impacted him, and wrote about it in her new book ‘Things we didn’t talk about when I was a girl’. We talk to her about the role we all play in supporting victims, holding perpetrators accountable and how to make apologies. Also, support the Grace Digital Founders Campus app with all the tools female business founders need to succeed https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/grace-digitalcampus/grace-digital-founders-campusGuest:Jeannie Vanasco, author of ‘Things we didn’t talk about when I was a girl’ https://www.jeannievanasco.com/Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellWrite to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com  and https://www.thegenderknot.com/Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We’re back with Season 6. We talk to author Jeannie Vanasco who interviewed a friend from her teenage years who raped her 15 years ago. Vanasco got in touch with him to find out if and how the rape impacted him, and wrote about it in her new book ‘Things we didn’t talk about when I was a girl’. We talk to her about the role we all play in supporting victims, holding perpetrators accountable and how to make apologies. Also, support the Grace Digital Founders Campus app with all the tools female business founders need to succeed <a href="https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/grace-digitalcampus/grace-digital-founders-campus" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/grace-digitalcampus/grace-digital-founders-campus</a> Guest: Jeannie Vanasco, author of ‘Things we didn’t talk about when I was a girl’ <a href="https://www.jeannievanasco.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.jeannievanasco.com/</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> and <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Author Jeannie Vanasco interviewed her rapist

A Time Magazine Top 50 podcast: “The show serves an important purpose: Encouraging men and women to enter a productive dialogue with one another”. Hosted by Nas and Dan (aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll). Contact: thegenderknot@gmail.com

Great discussions on the evolving roles of men and women in the modern world.  Listen in!

Refreshing perspectives, necessary topics. Listen!

So good!

A Time Magazine Top 50 podcast: “The show serves an important purpose: Encouraging men and women to enter a productive dialogue with one another”. Hosted by Nas and Dan (aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll). Contact: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a>

The Gender Knot

This is the century where men need to rethink their identities at home and at work, says world renowned therapist Esther Perel, and that things will only change for women once men do this. We hear about her experiences working with couples and the unique challenges men face when trying to navigate their inner lives, and she advises us on how men and women can better communicate with each other. Guest:Esther Perel, therapist, author of ‘Mating in Captivity’ and ‘The State of Affairs’, host of the podcast Where Should We Begin? https://www.estherperel.com/podcastHost and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Jonathan FreemanCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Sponsor:The Economist  Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

This is the century where men need to rethink their identities at home and at work, says world renowned therapist Esther Perel, and that things will only change for women once men do this. We hear about her experiences working with couples and the unique challenges men face when trying to navigate their inner lives, and she advises us on how men and women can better communicate with each other. Guest: Esther Perel, therapist, author of ‘Mating in Captivity’ and ‘The State of Affairs’, host of the podcast Where Should We Begin? <a href="https://www.estherperel.com/podcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.estherperel.com/podcast</a> Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Sponsor: The Economist Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Esther Perel: What’s next for men

You’ve heard of Leaning In but how about Leaning Back? Over the past few years a lot of women have undertaken Sheryl Sandberg’s advice to assert themselves more, to speak louder and to sit at the table. But some women are questioning this and are thinking about the bigger picture of what success means to them and how exactly they want to go about it. Enter: Leaning Back!Leaning Back is about looking at the bigger picture. It’s about listening to yourself and doing what's right for you. We discuss the pros and cons of Leaning In, what’s worked and what’s hindered us, and we explore the cultural and gender dimensions of success and the workplace.Host: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarGuests:  Nomi, journalist and TV producer Bianca Praetorius, co-editor and co-author of The Lean Back Perspective https://www.ixds.com/the-lean-back-perspective-the-bookRelated Links: The Gender Knot www.thegenderknot.comMusic: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

You’ve heard of Leaning In but how about Leaning Back? Over the past few years a lot of women have undertaken Sheryl Sandberg’s advice to assert themselves more, to speak louder and to sit at the table. But some women are questioning this and are thinking about the bigger picture of what success means to them and how exactly they want to go about it. Enter: Leaning Back! Leaning Back is about looking at the bigger picture. It’s about listening to yourself and doing what's right for you. We discuss the pros and cons of Leaning In, what’s worked and what’s hindered us, and we explore the cultural and gender dimensions of success and the workplace. Host: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Guests:   Nomi, journalist and TV producer  Bianca Praetorius, co-editor and co-author of The Lean Back Perspective <a href="https://www.ixds.com/the-lean-back-perspective-the-book" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.ixds.com/the-lean-back-perspective-the-book</a> Related Links:  The Gender Knot <a href="http://www.thegenderknot.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.thegenderknot.com</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Leaning Back & Lean In

Many men seem to struggle with expressing their feelings, and with generally dealing with their feelings in the first place. It’s a complaint women often have, but how much truth is there to this? What’s the deal with men and their feelings? Why do so many men struggle, and what can be done about it?Note: Live show in London on Monday 26th February – get your tickets here https://bit.ly/2tNUlT6Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellGuests: Rotimi Akinsete, psychotherapist, Director of Wellbeing at the University of Surrey, Founder of Black Men on the CouchShad Tembo, early years teacher, leadership team at the Bristol Men in Early Years Network https://www.bmiey.co.uk/Sponsor: White and Green – makers of luxury organic bed linen. Get a 15% discount with the promo code: GENDER https://www.whiteandgreen.ie/Recommended podcast: Burst Your Bubble http://www.burstyourbubblepodcast.com/**Related links:The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Many men seem to struggle with expressing their feelings, and with generally dealing with their feelings in the first place. It’s a complaint women often have, but how much truth is there to this? What’s the deal with men and their feelings? Why do so many men struggle, and what can be done about it? Note: Live show in London on Monday 26th February – get your tickets here <a href="https://bit.ly/2tNUlT6" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/2tNUlT6</a> Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guests: Rotimi Akinsete, psychotherapist, Director of Wellbeing at the University of Surrey, Founder of Black Men on the Couch Shad Tembo, early years teacher, leadership team at the Bristol Men in Early Years Network <a href="https://www.bmiey.co.uk/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.bmiey.co.uk/</a> Sponsor: White and Green – makers of luxury organic bed linen. Get a 15% discount with the promo code: GENDER <a href="https://www.whiteandgreen.ie/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.whiteandgreen.ie/</a> Recommended podcast: Burst Your Bubble <a href="http://www.burstyourbubblepodcast.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.burstyourbubblepodcast.com/</a> **Related links: The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Men and feelings: what’s the deal?

We just made Time Magazine’s list of 50 best podcasts - http://time.com/5178078/best-podcasts-2018/ - and they recommended this episode from earlier in season 2, which is also one of our favorites, so we’re replaying it now.We explore the best things men can do if they want to help feminism, and the things they should avoid. We also look to the push for racial equality to see what lessons can be learnt and applied to the movement for gender equality.We are on hiatus and back with our next season in June, though we will have mini-episodes every few weeks, with the next one in a fortnight.Note also: Nas will be taking part in a salon with the website and social network Ideapod" rel="noopener"&gt;http://ideapod.com/), discussing this topic Salon: Why men need to spend more time with just men" rel="noopener"&gt;https://ideapod.lpages.co/webinar-why-men-need-to-spend-more-time-with-just-men/). It takes place on Monday 2nd April, 11pm BST / 6 pm EST / 3 pm PST with Ideapod founder Justin Brown. Follow the link to join.Host &amp; producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guests:Jackson Katz, author and educator, TED talk on 'Violence against women - it's a men's issue' http://www.jacksonkatz.com/Eugene Ellis, psychotherapist, director of The Black, African, Asian Therapy Network Related links:Jackson Katz’s Ted talk: ‘Violence against women, it’s a men’s issue’ https://bit.ly/1iXu34BMusic: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We just made Time Magazine’s list of 50 best podcasts - <a href="http://time.com/5178078/best-podcasts-2018/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://time.com/5178078/best-podcasts-2018/</a> - and they recommended this episode from earlier in season 2, which is also one of our favorites, so we’re replaying it now. We explore the best things men can do if they want to help feminism, and the things they should avoid. We also look to the push for racial equality to see what lessons can be learnt and applied to the movement for gender equality. We are on hiatus and back with our next season in June, though we will have mini-episodes every few weeks, with the next one in a fortnight. Note also: Nas will be taking part in a salon with the website and social network <a href='&lt;a href="http://ideapod.com/' rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ideapod</a>" rel="noopener"&gt;<a href="http://ideapod.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://ideapod.com/</a>), discussing this topic Salon: <a href='&lt;a href="https://ideapod.lpages.co/webinar-why-men-need-to-spend-more-time-with-just-men/' rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Why men need to spend more time with just men</a>" rel="noopener"&gt;<a href="https://ideapod.lpages.co/webinar-why-men-need-to-spend-more-time-with-just-men/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://ideapod.lpages.co/webinar-why-men-need-to-spend-more-time-with-just-men/</a>). It takes place on Monday 2nd April, 11pm BST / 6 pm EST / 3 pm PST with Ideapod founder Justin Brown. Follow the link to join. Host &amp; producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guests: Jackson Katz, author and educator, TED talk on 'Violence against women - it's a men's issue' <a href="http://www.jacksonkatz.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jacksonkatz.com/</a> Eugene Ellis, psychotherapist, director of The Black, African, Asian Therapy Network Related links: Jackson Katz’s Ted talk: ‘Violence against women, it’s a men’s issue’ <a href="https://bit.ly/1iXu34B" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/1iXu34B</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

How can men best help feminism?

It’s a big cliché that men are scared to commit, don’t want to be tied down, are always ‘hitting the road’ and leaving promising relationships with women. Today’s guest thinks this is a simply not true and actually leads to us all suffering and having worse relationships. We dive into the nuances. Note: The Gender Knot will be back in early October - we are taking a break during September but will be back in a few weeks. Write to us in the meantime! Guest: Dan Carroll, co-host of the podcast Fine and Dandy with Dan and Andy https://fineanddandypod.com/Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links: Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knotThe Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ and Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

It’s a big cliché that men are scared to commit, don’t want to be tied down, are always ‘hitting the road’ and leaving promising relationships with women.  Today’s guest thinks this is a simply not true and actually leads to us all suffering and having worse relationships. We dive into the nuances.  Note: The Gender Knot will be back in early October - we are taking a break during September but will be back in a few weeks. Write to us in the meantime!  Guest: Dan Carroll, co-host of the podcast Fine and Dandy with Dan and Andy <a href="https://fineanddandypod.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://fineanddandypod.com/</a> Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell   Additional links: Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot</a> The Gender Knot podcast <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Men and commitment issues: fact or fiction?

Matt Stadlen

LBC radio host Matt Stadlen joined us to chat vulnerability recently. This time we go into men talking about sex: how much and how do men really talk about sex and how does this impact their relationships?Guest: Matt Stadlen, journalist and LBC radio host, tune into his show here: https://www.lbc.co.uk/radio/presenters/matt-stadlen/Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

LBC radio host Matt Stadlen joined us to chat vulnerability recently. This time we go into men talking about sex: how much and how do men really talk about sex and how does this impact their relationships? Guest: Matt Stadlen, journalist and LBC radio host, tune into his show here: <a href="https://www.lbc.co.uk/radio/presenters/matt-stadlen/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.lbc.co.uk/radio/presenters/matt-stadlen/</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Matt Stadlen on men talking about sex

Mark Manson

We end season 5 by hearing Mark Manson’s tips for men during these confusing times, including how men can help each other out and his predictions about how we'll all get along in the future. Check out his new book ‘Everything is fucked: A book about hope’ and catch him on his speaking tour, more details here https://markmanson.net/speaking-tourWe are going on hiatus until October, and we'll be back with a bonus episode every few weeks until then. Have a great summer!Guest: Mark Manson, author https://markmanson.net/New book ‘Everything is Fucked: A book about hope: order it here https://markmanson.net/booksHosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We end season 5 by hearing Mark Manson’s tips for men during these confusing times, including how men can help each other out and his predictions about how we'll all get along in the future. Check out his new book ‘Everything is fucked: A book about hope’ and catch him on his speaking tour, more details here <a href="https://markmanson.net/speaking-tour" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://markmanson.net/speaking-tour</a> We are going on hiatus until October, and we'll be back with a bonus episode every few weeks until then. Have a great summer! Guest: Mark Manson, author <a href="https://markmanson.net/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://markmanson.net/</a> New book ‘Everything is Fucked: A book about hope: order it here <a href="https://markmanson.net/books" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://markmanson.net/books</a> Hosts: Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll Producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Mark Manson’s tips for men

Being understanding, empathetic, seeing the other side of the story, being compassionate: these are many very classic feminine traits. But the upside of someone who is too compassionate is often also someone who lets others walk all over them, or someone who doesn’t hold other people accountable for poor behaviour.Women are often expected to be compassionate and to keep the peace in social situations. Why is this, and what are the consequences if they don’t? And should women simply stop being so compassionate if they want to live more fulfilled lives and help others too?Note: Live show – coming up on Monday 26th February, join our Facebook group to find out more – details will be announced soon.Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellGuests:Lindsey Adler, journalist https://twitter.com/lindseyadlerElizabeth Gray, Jungian AnalystRecommended podcast: Out There http://www.outtherepodcast.com/Related links:Lindsey Adler’s article: ‘Harvey Weinstein wouldn’t take no for an answer’ https://bit.ly/2EKFNdmLindsey Adler’s article: ‘Why would this time be any different?’ https://bit.ly/2GXUCLSThe Broad Experience podcast: ‘2018: a year for women?’ https://bit.ly/2NMEvS1The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) and 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Being understanding, empathetic, seeing the other side of the story, being compassionate: these are many very classic feminine traits. But the upside of someone who is too compassionate is often also someone who lets others walk all over them, or someone who doesn’t hold other people accountable for poor behaviour. Women are often expected to be compassionate and to keep the peace in social situations. Why is this, and what are the consequences if they don’t? And should women simply stop being so compassionate if they want to live more fulfilled lives and help others too? Note: Live show – coming up on Monday 26th February, join our Facebook group to find out more – details will be announced soon. Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guests: Lindsey Adler, journalist <a href="https://twitter.com/lindseyadler" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/lindseyadler</a> Elizabeth Gray, Jungian Analyst Recommended podcast: Out There <a href="http://www.outtherepodcast.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.outtherepodcast.com/</a> Related links: Lindsey Adler’s article: ‘Harvey Weinstein wouldn’t take no for an answer’ <a href="https://bit.ly/2EKFNdm" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/2EKFNdm</a> Lindsey Adler’s article: ‘Why would this time be any different?’ <a href="https://bit.ly/2GXUCLS" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/2GXUCLS</a> The Broad Experience podcast: ‘2018: a year for women?’ <a href="https://bit.ly/2NMEvS1" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/2NMEvS1</a> The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) and 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Are women too compassionate?

As a man, who do you talk to about sex?  What about feelings?  How about everything else?  This week Dan and Jonny are hosting a Men Only episode with guest German Villegas to discuss who men can talk to about what’s going on in their lives.  And yes, we make sure to plug mens groups!  Be sure to check out German’s podcast Modern Manhood https://modernmanhood.org/ and his organization Next Gen Men https://nextgenmen.ca -- Also, we are on hiatus until 15th April when we'll have a new season. Sponsor:Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot Hosted by: Daniel Carroll and Jonathan Blackwell Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

As a man, who do you talk to about sex? What about feelings? How about everything else? This week Dan and Jonny are hosting a Men Only episode with guest German Villegas to discuss who men can talk to about what’s going on in their lives. And yes, we make sure to plug mens groups! Be sure to check out German’s podcast Modern Manhood <a href="https://modernmanhood.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://modernmanhood.org/</a> and his organization Next Gen Men <a href="https://nextgenmen.ca" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://nextgenmen.ca</a> -- Also, we are on hiatus until 15th April when we'll have a new season. Sponsor: Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: <a href="http://www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot</a> Hosted by: Daniel Carroll and Jonathan Blackwell Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Write to us at: <a href="mailto:thegenderknot@gmail.com">thegenderknot@gmail.com</a> The Gender Knot podcast <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Men Only

We explore some differing experiences: from a young man who tried to get respect from men through sleeping with women, to sex in a long term monogamous relationship, to the in-betweens. And can we ever really get self-worth from sex in the first place?Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellGuests: MattRose and Gail Reid, hosts of the podcast  Details Please http://www.detailsplease.org/Related links:The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We explore some differing experiences: from a young man who tried to get respect from men through sleeping with women, to sex in a long term monogamous relationship, to the in-betweens. And can we ever really get self-worth from sex in the first place? Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guests: Matt Rose and Gail Reid, hosts of the podcast Details Please <a href="http://www.detailsplease.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.detailsplease.org/</a> Related links: The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Sex and self-worth

Should men be involved in feminism, and if so, how?Men are super involved in feminism these days – and there appears to be a cultural trend in getting men involved in the fight for gender equality.We’re seeing this daily: be it the UN’s HeForShe campaign which is all about this, or male celebrities like Pharrell Williams and Ashton Kutcher talking about rights for women (and of course, tennis player Andy Murray’s recent stand against casual sexism), and it seems like everyday there are articles in the world’s leading publications about all this too (a recent hit being the New York Times looking at how to raise feminist sons). It makes sense; men also need to change their attitudes and biases if we are to live in a world with gender equality, so of course they need to be part of the fight.But what about when some men mean well but end up doing more harm than good? This episode explores that.We look at male feminists – do they actually help the cause of feminism, or do they end up making everything about them, and in essence do they just talk over women, whose voices aren’t heard as much in first place? And should women ask for help from men to increase gender equality, and if so, how should they ask for this help so that it’s carried out most effectively? Or is catering the message so as not to upset men a problem in itself? We explore and untangle all this. And we also hear about the darker side too: the things that even progressive men don’t want to share publicly about their fears and resentments towards feminism…Host: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarGuests: Anonymous male essay writer from England Lucy, woman from England Michelle Lim, Relationship coach from the US and based in Sweden https://www.michellelim.coShea Wilson, American male living in SwedenRelated links: The Gender Knot www.thegenderknot.comJackson Katz’s Tedx talk “Violence against women, it’s a men’s issue” https://www.ted.com/talks/jacksonkatzviolenceagainstwomenitsamensissueSheila Kelley’s Tedx talk “Let’s get naked” http://tedxamericanriviera.com/sheila-kelley-lets-get-naked/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Should men be involved in feminism, and if so, how? Men are super involved in feminism these days – and there appears to be a cultural trend in getting men involved in the fight for gender equality. We’re seeing this daily: be it the UN’s HeForShe campaign which is all about this, or male celebrities like Pharrell Williams and Ashton Kutcher talking about rights for women (and of course, tennis player Andy Murray’s recent stand against casual sexism), and it seems like everyday there are articles in the world’s leading publications about all this too (a recent hit being the New York Times looking at how to raise feminist sons). It makes sense; men also need to change their attitudes and biases if we are to live in a world with gender equality, so of course they need to be part of the fight. But what about when some men mean well but end up doing more harm than good? This episode explores that. We look at male feminists – do they actually help the cause of feminism, or do they end up making everything about them, and in essence do they just talk over women, whose voices aren’t heard as much in first place? And should women ask for help from men to increase gender equality, and if so, how should they ask for this help so that it’s carried out most effectively? Or is catering the message so as not to upset men a problem in itself? We explore and untangle all this. And we also hear about the darker side too: the things that even progressive men don’t want to share publicly about their fears and resentments towards feminism… Host: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Guests:  Anonymous male essay writer from England  Lucy, woman from England  Michelle Lim, Relationship coach from the US and based in Sweden <a href="https://www.michellelim.co" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.michellelim.co</a> Shea Wilson, American male living in Sweden Related links:  The Gender Knot <a href="http://www.thegenderknot.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.thegenderknot.com</a> Jackson Katz’s Tedx talk “Violence against women, it’s a men’s issue” <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/jacksonkatzviolenceagainstwomenitsamensissue" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.ted.com/talks/jacksonkatzviolenceagainstwomenitsamensissue</a> Sheila Kelley’s Tedx talk “Let’s get naked” <a href="http://tedxamericanriviera.com/sheila-kelley-lets-get-naked/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://tedxamericanriviera.com/sheila-kelley-lets-get-naked/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Men and feminism

Male Shame lies at the root of so many problematic dynamics between men and women, whether on an individual or a society-wide scale. The problem is many men have a very limited space where they can explore their shame, if they even have that space at all. How can women play a role in this and what’s the best way to make a man aware of the consequences of his shame based behaviour? A coach and consultant helps us figure this out.Guest: Rob Kandell, coach and consultant, host of the podcast Tuff Love https://robertkandell.com/episodes/, co-founder of One TasteHost and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Sponsor: The Economist Additional links: The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/Financial Times review of The Gender Knot https://on.ft.com/2IPHObYMusic: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Male Shame lies at the root of so many problematic dynamics between men and women, whether on an individual or a society-wide scale. The problem is many men have a very limited space where they can explore their shame, if they even have that space at all.  How can women play a role in this and what’s the best way to make a man aware of the consequences of his shame based behaviour? A coach and consultant helps us figure this out. Guest: Rob Kandell, coach and consultant, host of the podcast Tuff Love <a href="https://robertkandell.com/episodes/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://robertkandell.com/episodes/</a>, co-founder of One Taste Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far  Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Sponsor: The Economist  Additional links:  The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Financial Times review of The Gender Knot <a href="https://on.ft.com/2IPHObY" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://on.ft.com/2IPHObY</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) 5 Pieces by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Male Shame and women's roles

Former dominatrix and Taoist nun Kasia Urbaniak teaches women about power and influence at her school The Academy. She walks us through this unique time where women are finally speaking openly and honestly and expressing their rage, and how we can best get men and women to support each other through the necessary but transformative mess ahead.Guest:Kasia Urbaniak, women’s power and influence coach and founder of The Academyhttps://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknotGender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Sponsor: E-squared Fitnes – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London.https://www.esq2.com/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Former dominatrix and Taoist nun Kasia Urbaniak teaches women about power and influence at her school The Academy. She walks us through this unique time where women are finally speaking openly and honestly and expressing their rage, and how we can best get men and women to support each other through the necessary but transformative mess ahead. Guest: Kasia Urbaniak, women’s power and influence coach and founder of The Academy <a href="https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/</a> Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot</a> Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot</a> The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Sponsor: E-squared Fitnes – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London. <a href="https://www.esq2.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.esq2.com/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

How women can ask for what they want

We’ve heard a lot about the dilemmas surrounding men and their feelings on this podcast: how boys are raised with little acknowledgement of their feelings or disallowed from expressing or exploring them, to the destructive impact this has when they grow up, be it through high rates of depression and suicide in men or potentially violent behaviour. And then there's the huge amounts of emotional labour that many women end up performing in many areas of life as a result. Last time we tried to discuss this topic, the co-hosts had an argument! This time around, we’re joined by another podcast host to help us see what we can all do going forward: what are things we can all do to help men who want to explore their feelings, and how should we be having these conversations in the first place? Note: we are on hiatus and will be back with a new series in June. We will have a few more mini-episodes coming up for you before then. Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guest: Dan Carroll co-host of the podcast Fine and Dandy with Dan and Andy Related links: The Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ and Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/?ref=br_rsMusic: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We’ve heard a lot about the dilemmas surrounding men and their feelings on this podcast: how boys are raised with little acknowledgement of their feelings or disallowed from expressing or exploring them, to the destructive impact this has when they grow up, be it through high rates of depression and suicide in men or potentially violent behaviour. And then there's the huge amounts of emotional labour that many women end up performing in many areas of life as a result.  Last time we tried to discuss this topic, the co-hosts had an argument! This time around, we’re joined by another podcast host to help us see what we can all do going forward: what are things we can all do to help men who want to explore their feelings, and how should we be having these conversations in the first place?  Note: we are on hiatus and will be back with a new series in June. We will have a few more mini-episodes coming up for you before then.  Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell  Guest: Dan Carroll co-host of the podcast Fine and Dandy with Dan and Andy Related links: The Gender Knot podcast <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> and Facebook group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/?ref=br_rs" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/?ref=br_rs</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Men and feelings: How to go there?

Gender neutral clothing is all over the news at the moment. Just a few examples include school children protesting why girls and boys have to dress differently from each other and therefore encouraging their schools to change dress codes, and department stores who are doing away with gendered sections for clothing.We talk to two guests who work in fashion and the clothing space. We talk the relationship between how they dress and their own gender identity, and how other people in society have responded to them. Both guests were born female, and one identifies as female while the other identifies as non-binary. How has clothing shaped their own gender identities? Should there be gendered sections in clothes shops? And what will happen if clothing becomes gender neutral?Host &amp; producer Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-producer Cady VogeGuests Laura Kanaplue, producer of the London Queer Fashion Show Santina Sorrenti, founder of Gender SwapRelated links:London Queer Fashion Show https://londonqueerfashionshow.com/Gender Swap https://genderswapblog.wordpress.com/The Gender Knot https://www.thegenderknot.com/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Gender neutral clothing is all over the news at the moment. Just a few examples include school children protesting why girls and boys have to dress differently from each other and therefore encouraging their schools to change dress codes, and department stores who are doing away with gendered sections for clothing. We talk to two guests who work in fashion and the clothing space. We talk the relationship between how they dress and their own gender identity, and how other people in society have responded to them. Both guests were born female, and one identifies as female while the other identifies as non-binary. How has clothing shaped their own gender identities? Should there be gendered sections in clothes shops? And what will happen if clothing becomes gender neutral? Host &amp; producer Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-producer Cady Voge Guests Laura Kanaplue, producer of the London Queer Fashion Show Santina Sorrenti, founder of Gender Swap Related links: London Queer Fashion Show <a href="https://londonqueerfashionshow.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://londonqueerfashionshow.com/</a> Gender Swap <a href="https://genderswapblog.wordpress.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://genderswapblog.wordpress.com/</a> The Gender Knot <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Does clothing shape gender identity?

Dizraeli had a breakdown last year. The MC and poet found it hard to talk about what was going on with him, and also found little support from men when he did reach out. He managed to seek help and is now focused on exploring why men don’t talk and how to get men to open up and to communicate honestly.Dizraeli tells us about how masculinity leaves little room to explore the inner life, and to even have a language to describe what they are going through, and helps us delve into the question: Why don’t men talk?Host &amp; producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellGuests: Dizraeli http://www.dizraeli.com/, MC and poetRelated links: The Gender Knot https://www.thegenderknot.com/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Dizraeli had a breakdown last year. The MC and poet found it hard to talk about what was going on with him, and also found little support from men when he did reach out. He managed to seek help and is now focused on exploring why men don’t talk and how to get men to open up and to communicate honestly. Dizraeli tells us about how masculinity leaves little room to explore the inner life, and to even have a language to describe what they are going through, and helps us delve into the question: Why don’t men talk? Host &amp; producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Guests: Dizraeli <a href="http://www.dizraeli.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.dizraeli.com/</a>, MC and poet Related links:  The Gender Knot <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

Why don’t men talk?

Why is shame such an issue for men despite the privileges men still have in almost all societies? Is privilege itself part of the problem, and what can be done to tackle this issue? Women are also being vocal about their experiences due to toxic masculinity and also male shame. Where does this leave men as they try to grapple with their own experiences?Guest: Rob Kandell, coach and consultant, host of the podcast Tuff Love https://robertkandell.com/episodes/, and co-founder of One TasteHost and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host: Jonathan FreemanCo-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links: The Gender Knot merch by TeePublic https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knotThe Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ and Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Why is shame such an issue for men despite the privileges men still have in almost all societies? Is privilege itself part of the problem, and what can be done to tackle this issue? Women are also being vocal about their experiences due to toxic masculinity and also male shame. Where does this leave men as they try to grapple with their own experiences? Guest: Rob Kandell, coach and consultant, host of the podcast Tuff Love <a href="https://robertkandell.com/episodes/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://robertkandell.com/episodes/</a>, and co-founder of One Taste Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Jonathan Freeman Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: The Gender Knot merch by TeePublic <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot</a> The Gender Knot podcast <a href="https://www.thegenderknot.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.thegenderknot.com/</a> and Facebook Group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/</a> Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

The roots of male shame

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