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Let's Talk Bruh

Let's Talk Bruh is a podcast on Black Masculinity. We have conversations on mental health/therapy, black male privilege, vulnerability, patriarchy's impact on black women, friendship, sex and much more with a type of vulnerability rarely heard in the podcast space. Our conversations are designed to create a space where Black Men can have deeper conversations, vent, laugh, cry, celebrate each other AND call each other for problematic behavior. With each episode we try to do our part in considering and suggesting new visions of black masculinity. Tune in every Wednesday.

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Quarantine Kuts with Eric "KleanKut" Dixon (Live Show)

Quarantine got you looking like RGIII? Say no more. We'll talk about haircare and how to maintain your shape up right now with some quick and easy tips in this virtual tutorial provided by Eric "KleanKut" Dixon. He's a barber that also specializes in providing mental health services for his clients.       Watch this episode on our youtube channel: Quarantine Kuts with Eric "KleanKut" Dixon [Discussion + Virtual Shape Up Workshop]       Keep up with Eric by following him on IG and Facebook       Register to our virtual support group:   Creating Freedom in Confinement [Virtual Support Group - Black Men Only] w/ Jarrick the Floating Yogi - 5/28 @ 6PM EST Do you have any questions for us? Did you learn something during today's episode? Did you change your mind about a particular topic?  Let us us know. Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.  Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

1hr 24mins

27 May 2020

Rank #1

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You're More Than Your Dick | The Fetishisation Episode

This week on Let's Talk Bruh we talk about the revolving door of fetishisation.  Often times, if our masculinity revolves around sex, we unintentionally become complicit in our own fetishisation. There is a history in this country going back to slavery of both white men and women using our bodies for labor, sex included. When we weren't in control of our bodies, we subsequently lost control of the portrayal of our bodies in media. Thus creating a particular narrative, stereotype, and racist sexual fantasy for both white men and women.  This stereotype prioritizes a certain type of black men over others due to the amount of physical labor he can endure, inhumane sex drive, and above average dick size.  When we fast forward to the present day we still see this fetishisation play out in media and in real life. We talk about a few on screen examples of white women fetishing black men in both Insecure & He Got Game.  We also talk about why this happens in real life and what we can do to be more aware of these scenarios in order to prevent them from happening. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 9mins

5 Feb 2019

Rank #2

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2 Black Men Talking About Love

When's the last time you sat down and talked about love? When's the last time you talked about love more than the romantic type? Today we dive deep into love and relationships and we do so with a little help from licensed therapist Bashea Williams. This week on Let's Talk Bruh we talk about love, relationships and what all this means for us as men in both romantic and platonic relationships. Most of the time, girls are socialized to think about love at a much earlier age than boys so by the time we are of age we have no idea how to love. We have no idea to define love and we have no idea why love is something important for us to consider. In addition to a lengthy conversation on love, we talk about relationships AND Jeremy starts the show with a slight monologue on something called, "The Relationship Escalator." This Week in Masculinity: Jidenna, Snoop, and Reese & Faith A few resources used in this week's episode: Riding the Relationship Escalator Follow Bashea on Instagram Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 19mins

28 Aug 2019

Rank #3

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The Orgasm Gap, Consent, & Sex Stories | The Sex Episode Pt.1

Yall thought we'd go all year and NOT have an episode about sex? As we wrap up 2018, we're hitting yall with a 2-part series on that 3 letter word that so many of us love. From consent, to losing our virginity, to our current feelings about sex, we cover it from all angles in this episode.  This episode was important because we wanted to not only break down sex & intimacy but also discuss those sometimes taboo subjects. C'mon fellas we've all been there. We know those 2 letters all too well. Shoutout to PE & ED for blocking our blessings.  And what about sex toys for men? Because why should ladies get to have all the fun?  We even discuss every straight man's favorite subject: The Orgasm Gap.  If you're unfamiliar, do a quick google search.  It's exactly what it sounds like.  This episode was a lot of fun and we hope that the listeners take away the importance of listening to your partner and exploring EVERY way to make each other feel good.  Because as the studies show, we have a LONG way to go to close that gap.  Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 13mins

5 Dec 2018

Rank #4

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Men Are Trash. Not Me Though. Yes, Definitely You.

We've all seen the phrase, #MenAreTrash, so need for a long introduction.  And for many of us men folk, we have a tendency to either 1) dismiss the phrase completely or 2) assume those tweets ain't talking about us because we know we ain't trash.  And if that's your response? We're challenging you to change your perspective. Today I was joined by my good friend Backpack Matt from the Over The Shoulder Podcast to tackle all things related to the men are trash movement, where it stems from, why we can't resort to, "Not all Men" or "Not Me", our experiences embodying trash behavior and how we can collectively hold ourselves accountable to not be trash.   A few resources mentioned in this week's episode: "Straight black men are trash": Do I have to agree? - Salon Here's Why Women Really Say "Men Are Trash" - Refinery Straight Black Men Are the White People of Black People - Very Smart Brothas A Woman’s Response To ‘Straight Black Men Are The White People Of Black People’ - Huffington Post “Men are trash”: the surprisingly philosophical story behind an internet punchline - Prospect RW Connell's Masculinities Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 9mins

23 Oct 2019

Rank #5

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The Relationship Between Gay & Straight Black Men

When talking about brotherhood, how often do we include gay brothers into that conversation? As a society we've made progress in terms of LGBTQ rights, but we certainly have a long way to go in order to be better brothers to gay men especially in our community.  On today's episode we talk with The Great Jayden aka Jayden Hollywood about the relationship between gay and straight black men.   On Let's Talk Bruh we talk a lot about masculinity from a straight male perspective, but it's important to talk about the differences from our gay brothers as well.  We bring back some concepts from our Black Male Privilege episode and even touch on what Black Male Privilege looks like from a gay black man's perspective.  There's no way we could cover it all in one episode, but without a doubt there's a ton we can learn from each other. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Follow Jayden and his podcast, Unapologetik Podcast Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

56mins

28 Nov 2018

Rank #6

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I Put My Lifetime In Between The Paper's Line's (Journaling Workshop Live Show)

Writing and journaling can be a very healing, therapeutic, and self-reflective process, but sometimes it's hard just staring at 2 blank pieces of paper in your notebook. We'll get you started with Howard University English professor Kyr Mack in this masculinity and manhood journaling discussion + workshop. This week's show is a journaling workshop and throughout the episode we talk about the power of writing down our thoughts and processing our feelings through the exercise of journaling. What's the story you tell yourself about your life? Through journaling we're able to reflect on the past, meditate on the current, and create the future.  We discuss the following prompts: What are three major emotions that you’re carrying right now? What’s one thought that has been getting the best of you lately? How has it been influencing your behavior? What are some of the earliest messages you can recall receiving about masculinity? Who were/are some of the key influences in your understanding of masculinity? How did these messages impact you? Do you still believe in these messages? Why or why not? What are you grateful for at this moment? What do you love most about yourself? So get your pen and pad out, your phone's note app or use a word document and join us in today's workshop.  Watch this episode on our youtube channel: I Put My Lifetime in Between the Paper's Line's Journaling Workshop (YouTube) Register to the rest of our Live Shows! From We Real Cool to We Just Real w/ Jason Rosario - 5/21 @ 7PM EST Creativity, Imagination, & Mental Health w/ Expressions Untold - 5/26 @ 7PM EST Creating Freedom in Confinement [Virtual Support Group - Black Men Only] w/ Jarrick the Floating Yogi - 5/28 @ 6PM EST Resources for today's episode: Kyr's Journaling Advice from This Session My Son Keeps a Daily Gratitude Journal — Maybe We All Should - Level Mag James Baldwin’s Advice on Writing Audre Lorde Questionnaire to Oneself What’s All This About Journaling? - NYTimes May is Mental Health Awareness Month 💚 Journaling is cool. Prompts for those who want to start.  When Men Should Keep a Journal Do you have any questions for us? Did you learn something during today's episode? Did you change your mind about a particular topic?  Let us us know. Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.  Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

1hr 42mins

20 May 2020

Rank #7

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A Black Man's Guide for Self Care

Self Care is defined as "the powerful commitment to constantly choose activities and situations that make you feel healthy and good about yourself”.  It's a very simple concept in theory, yet for some reason it's very difficult to put into practice for many of us.  Well for starters, let's take into account how much time we spend at work, time spent supporting family + friends, time wasted on social media, time committing to our side hustles, time trying to make relationships work, trying to get 2.5 meals in per day, the list goes on and on. And we haven't even started talking about how hard it is just surviving being a Black man every day.  That's a full time job with no days off in itself. With all that being said, self care is extremely important.  It's not a luxury, it's a NECESSITY for our emotional, physical psychological, and spiritual health. It's also not something to feel selfish about. So for the next hour, we break down what self care looks like for us and provide some easy ways to implement self care into our lives today. It's no one's responsibility to heal you, except for you. So start with some self care today to make this life thing a little easier. A list of resources mentioned in this week's episode: Self Care: A Help Guide by Harley Therapy You Feel Like Shit - An Interactive Self Care Guide All About Love by bell hooks The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden 31 Day Self Care Calendar by Bashea Williams Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 1min

4 Jun 2019

Rank #8

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Why Do You Love Black Women?

Why do you love Black women? How do you support Black women? How do you protect Black women? A few simple questions with not so simple answers?  This week I was joined by my good friend Taylor. Tune in for our discussion. A few resources used in this week's episode: Bystander Intervention - Collective Action for Safe Spaces DC You can follow Taylor on Twitter & IG Visit her website here: Love & Light Intuitive Readings with Taylor Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode

1hr 12mins

29 Jan 2020

Rank #9

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Sex Talk w/ The Experts | The Sex Episode Pt. 2

We're back for round 2 and this time we brought the professionals with us. This week we were joined by Tasnim Sulaiman from Black Men Heal. She's a therapist who comes across sex and sexuality related issues with her clients so we had the great opportunity to ask her all the questions that we couldn't get to the bottom of in last week's episode like: Can sex be considered successful without an orgasm? Who's really responsible for your orgasm? We also get to the bottom of PE because what does it really mean to finish "too early"? Taz also talked about the importance of consent and added some clarity around the differences in sex drives between men and women. Taz was joined by her Black Men Heal co-founder and fellow therapist Kevana Nixon who also hopped on the mic to drop some gems of her own. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram To learn more about Black Men Heal follow them on Instagram Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 14mins

11 Dec 2018

Rank #10

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A Black Man's Guide for Anxiety

Welcome to Part 1 of our Black Man's Guide for Mental Health series. First up? Anxiety. As your hosts, you've heard us joke a lot about how we're both introverts and experience slight to moderate to sometimes extreme cases of social anxiety in various spaces of our lives. But along with social anxiety, what are some other types of anxiety? How does anxiety show up in our lives as Black men? Can anxiety ever go away? Our guest Dwayne James aka Waynes_Ambition, a licensed Social Worker specializing in mental health joins us to today to answer a few of our questions.  We break down the clinical definition of anxiety as well as Dwayne's personal definition of anxiety and he offers several insightful strategies we can all implement today to improve our anxiety.   Tune in next week for Part 2 of our Black Man's Guide for Mental Health series as we tackle Depression. A list of resources mentioned in this week's episode: Men Hide Their Anxiety Behind These Tell-Tale Behaviors (Vice) A look at how anxiety affects African-Americans (NBC News) The Link Between Experiences of Racism and Stress and Anxiety for Black Americans (Anxiety.org) Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

42mins

21 May 2019

Rank #11

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Men Like Affection Too | Desire & Intimate Photoshoots w/ Expressions Untold

When it comes to intimacy, how far are you willing to go? How open could you get? Would you bare it all with your partner on camera? Maybe that's not your cup of tea. But for many it is.  Today my guest, Aaron aka Expressions Untold, is someone who captures those intimate moments on camera for a living and he joins us to talk about his beautiful art as well as how intimacy plays a major role in his work.  We also discuss how as men, we often want to feel desired by our partners, because who doesn't love a good ego boost every once in awhile? But because of strict gender roles we find ourselves in positions to always be the initiator, to not express this desire for words of affirmation and end up feeling less than attractive. Moral of the story, we like compliments too. We wanna get chose too. Gas us up babe! But it also takes us expressing that need to our partners. "I want you, but I want you to want me too." - Marvin Gaye Tune in now to hear Aaron and I discuss it all. Additional Resources from This Episode: 5 Ways to Help a Man Feel Desired - Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray Follow Aaron on IG: @exuntld & Twitter: ExpresionsUntld Visit his website (a little NSFW): Expressions-Untold And when you're finished with all that, check out my interview with We Inspire:  Jeremy Herte's Podcast Helps Black Men Deal With Their Masculinity Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

53mins

20 Nov 2019

Rank #12

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Interracial Dating, Love, & Redefining Black Masculinity

There's a stat from the Pew Research Center stating that 24% of Black men marry interacially whereas only 12% of Black women marry interacially. Today we talk about why. Later in the conversation we also ask Dil of Redefining Black Masculinity (RBM) how and why he started RBM.  A few resources used in this week's episode: Trends and patterns in intermarriage - Pew Research Center An Interracial Fix for Black Marriage - Wall Street Journal Myth Busting the Black Marriage Crisis - The Root Don't forget to follow Dil and Genesis on Instagram as well as Redefining Black Masculinity. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode

1hr 1min

5 Feb 2020

Rank #13

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Pull Up On The Homies, It Might Save Your Life | Male Isolation & Loneliness

Happy new year LTB fam! We're back and hitting yall with another episode.  This time we're talking about the silent epidemic considered to be the biggest threat to public health over heavyweights like heart disease, diabetes and cancer.  We're talking about loneliness. It's something that impacts many of us, but few of us are openly talking about it, and why would we? As a man, we're forced to follow the "rules of masculinity" which forbade deep emotional connections with other men.  And technology these days has made it so easy to stay in contact digitally with folks that there's virtually no reason to actually pull up.  Well, because we know better, we know the importance of intimate connection with each other and we also know about the major health consequences associated with loneliness.  So we invite friend of the show Dr. Justin Hopkins to break down how we can overcome this isolation epidemic.  A few resources used in this week's episode: The Bromance Myth: How Men’s Health Suffers from Their Lack of Friends Men Can Have Better Friendships. Here's How The Terrible Price of Our Epidemic of Male Loneliness Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode

1hr

8 Jan 2020

Rank #14

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Hoteps, Noteps, Fauxteps, & The Ankh Right feat. Preston Mitchum

Hoteps, Noteps, Fauxteps, & The Ankh Right: Why Some Black men find liberation in these movements It's 2019 and if you've been on the internet at all in the last few years you probably know how to identify what is commonly referred to as a modern day hotep. Afrocentric. Pro Black. Anti LGBTQ. Anti Feminist. Fear of the destruction of the Black family. Fear of the Black masculinity being under attack. But let's rewind and actually understand that the word "hotep" is a greeting and roughly translates to, "To be at peace or satisfaction." But at what point did the word hotep lose its original meaning and become appropriated to something more negative? We talk briefly about the history of hotep, and really try to investigate why some Black men (& some women) find liberation in these modern day hotep movements.  It's important to note that many of the modern day hotep talking points directly mirror language used by white supremacists and the alt-right.  We close the conversation by discussing what liberation looks like for us and interrogate our usage of the word hotep. Should we use fauxtep, notep, or anhk-right instead? Tune in to find out.  Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

59mins

19 Mar 2019

Rank #15

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It's Officially Cuffing Season | The Relationships Episode

According to the calendar, Cuffing Season is officially upon us. Dating, relationships, situationships, swiping left and right is in full swing so it was only right to break down our thoughts on relationships. We talk about love languages, how we want to be loved, and what's important for us in relationships. We talk about the dreaded "C" word and what compels us to commit to someone. By no means do we claim to be relationship experts, but with our experiences we offer some keys to happy relationships as well as getting pretty candid with areas we need to improve upon in our relationships. Relationships are hard work and we can't make any guarantees, but hopefully after listening you'll be better prepared for this year's Cuffing Season. Follow Let's Talk Bruh: Twitter Instagram Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

1hr 26mins

14 Nov 2018

Rank #16

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Intimacy, Attraction, & Cuddling | Let's Talk Bruh Podcast Group Conversations

This week we're giving yall a one time pass into the Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group on for a particular discussion that set the group on fire last week. One of our members, who you'll be hearing from shortly, posed the following questions shared from an Instagram story: Is two guys cuddling gay? Is two girls cuddling gay?" So we break down the differences between intimacy and attraction as well as the importance of platonic touch in our lives.  The conversation produced several different sides and angles and what better way to include yall into the conversation than to speak with a few of the guys on their perspectives. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

38mins

11 Sep 2019

Rank #17