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Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show

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Rank #24 in Parenting category

Kids & Family
Society & Culture
Parenting
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Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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Jamilah is great!

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I think that Jamilah is such a wonderful voice on the show.

Parenting is Tough

By Janis34 - Feb 10 2020
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Parenting is tough, this pod helps get me through. Jamilah’s perspective is refreshing and needed.

iTunes Ratings

816 Ratings
Average Ratings
625
80
52
20
39

Jamilah is great!

By r.i. - Apr 14 2020
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I think that Jamilah is such a wonderful voice on the show.

Parenting is Tough

By Janis34 - Feb 10 2020
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Parenting is tough, this pod helps get me through. Jamilah’s perspective is refreshing and needed.
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Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show

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Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

Rank #1: Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Be Present Edition

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Slate's Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the pros and cons of summer camp and are joined by blogger Carla Naumburg to talk about mindful parenting.

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Jan 16 2014

36mins

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Rank #2: Mom And Dad Are Fighting: I Am The Standard Edition

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Slate's Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss gap years before college and are joined by author Jennifer Senior to discuss "All Joy and No Fun", her new book about modern parenting.

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Jan 30 2014

37mins

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Rank #3: Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The City vs. Suburbs Edition

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Listen to Slate's parenting podcast about losing the Asperger's diagnosis, and the great debate: Where is it better to raise kids, in the city or the suburbs?

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Feb 27 2014

41mins

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Rank #4: Joyless Slog Edition

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Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Allison Benedikt discuss kid anger fails, reading getting in the way of basic life functions, the joy of barely passing German class, the joyless slog of the early parenting years, and what to do about teens and drinking and the friends they drink with. 

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Apr 26 2018

51mins

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Rank #5: Washing Dishes on an Infomercial Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Carvell, and Rebecca interview Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership, about her article in the New York Times, “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With,” and we answer a listener question about what to do about a mean teenager. And as usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. On Slate Plus, Rebecca explains why she hates Mother’s Day.

Dan recommends the movie, Being John Malkovich.

Rebecca recommends coloring books for me, such as Coloring Book for Me.

Carvell recommends watching things that your kids love.

Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. 

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May 09 2019

1hr 5mins

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Rank #6: Your Life Is Terrible Edition

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Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss carpool politics, daddy's girls, and how late capitalism makes fools of us all in listener questions, "Triumphs and Fails", and recommendations. 

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Oct 26 2017

47mins

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Rank #7: Parent Like it's 1985 Edition

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Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss whether to confront an overprotective daycare, how to make sure your kids aren't "the mean ones", Triumphs and Fails, "endorsements" and more. 

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Dec 06 2018

51mins

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Rank #8: Deathbed Sandwich Generation Edition

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Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss coping with a dying parent as a parent, plus charades, laid-back husbands, and listening to your kids in our weekly triumphs and fails and recommendations. 

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Apr 13 2017

51mins

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Rank #9: Your Child is Made of Meat Edition

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Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss Periscope's problem with online predators with Slate's April Glaser, Rebecca's big news, Carvell's creeping fail, and Gabe's three kiss accident in "Triumphs and Fails" and "Recommendations".

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Dec 14 2017

55mins

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Rank #10: Pretty White Boy Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Laura Tisdel to answer listener questions. A mom wonders how to deal with the privilege disparity between her biracial black daughter and her white son after she noticed her son getting preferential treatment at daycare. Plus, a mom asks about taking the fall for her daughter when her daughter feels uncomfortable standing up to a friend. For Slate Plus, the hosts talk about the parenting vices they won’t be giving up in 2020. Sign up for Slate Plus here.

Recommendations:


Laura recommends Rivers, Roads & Rails, a game where you collect pieces to make transportation pathways, plus Catherine Newman's list of her favorite games.

Dan recommends Azul, a tile strategy game where you pretend to be building Portuguese tile art.

Jamilah recommends Surviving R. Kelly Part II: The Reckoning on Lifetime.



Additional Reading:

The Color Complex by Kathy Russell, Midge Wilson and Ronald Hall.


In 2020, Skip Your Resolutions—Embrace a Vice by Slate Staff.


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Audio engineering by Merritt Jacob.


Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

Hosts


Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.


Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.


Laura Tisdel is a book editor at Penguin Random House. 

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Jan 09 2020

50mins

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Rank #11: Who's Your Mommy Edition

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Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss the effect of leather jackets on teen boys, why Sartre is so annoying for parents, questions about when it's OK for a kid to call a step-parent "mom" and if giving kids freedom also enables their tantrums. Plus, triumphs and fails and recommendations. 

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Nov 23 2017

52mins

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Rank #12: Pre-School Nemesis Edition

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On today's episode, Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about communicating with an ex-spouse's family after divorce and what to do about challenges between a stepdad and kid. They also share their triumphs and fails of the week and offer up some exciting recommendations. 

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Apr 04 2019

45mins

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Rank #13: Two Truths and a Lie Edition

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In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss why it is important to let your kids fail and foster parenting.

Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Frank Einstein and the BrainTurbo—the third installment in the hilarious New York Times bestselling children’s book series filled with inventions, science experiments, and baseball playing robots—by former National Ambassador for Young Peoples’ Literature Jon Scieszka and mad scientist illustrator Brian Biggs. That’s Frank Einstein and the BrainTurbo, on sale now from Amulet Books.

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Sep 24 2015

50mins

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Rank #14: You Need To Calm Down

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On this week’s episode, Rebecca, Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom who wants to know if it really makes a difference whether you yell at your kids and another mom who wants to make sure she doesn’t overshare her mental health issues with her kid. As usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. For Slate Plus, the hosts talk kid-approved scary movies. Sign up for Slate Plus here

Recommendations:

Rebecca recommends having fall-themed actives all fall long.

Jamilah recommends the recently released, The Addams Family movie.

Dan recommends visiting Crab Island

Also, if you’re interested in more about the conversation on yelling, check out this article that Dan references.

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Podcast produced by Jess Jupiter.

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Rebecca Lavoie, Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois

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Oct 17 2019

1hr 6mins

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Rank #15: Touchhole Edition

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In our first weekly episode Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss getting back to work after a long absence, post-vacation troubles, and disappearing nannies. Plus, hamster trouble in Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations. 

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May 04 2017

43mins

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Rank #16: Frivolous With Money Edition

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Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss questions about kids and divorce, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations. 

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Oct 04 2018

56mins

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Rank #17: Falling Piano Edition

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Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace are joined by Marlo Mack of the How to be a Girl podcast to discuss executive functions, when to badger your kids about hand-washing, disclosing sensitive information to soon-to-be-relatives, whether a mom should push her ex-husband to allow their transgender son to start taking hormones, and why it's so taboo to leave a baby alone in an empty house, even for a short time. 

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Apr 19 2018

58mins

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Rank #18: Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Two Kids in a Hot Car Edition

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Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on college dropout intervention and the ethics of intervening in other people’s parenting.

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May 22 2014

38mins

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Rank #19: Mom and Dad Are Fighting: This Job Sucks Edition

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On this week’s episode, Allison, Carvell, and Gabe answer questions from listeners about what to think of their unaccompanied teenage kids and what’s reasonable to expect from an 11 year old who struggles with writing. Plus: parenting triumphs and fails, recommendations, and more. And on Slate Plus this week: peeing in public, yay or nay?

Recommendations:

Allison recommends The Boxcar Children Mysteries & Jesse Kelley tweet: kids robotics competition

Gabe recommends Ruffles All-dressed Chips (From Canada)•

Carvell recommends @animalsdoingthings on Instagram

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Podcast produced by Max Jacobs.

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Jan 24 2019

49mins

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Rank #20: Teenager Under the Bed Edition

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On this week’s episode: Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about when to limit a five year old’s Batman intake and if parents should settle for second best when it comes to kid car seats. Yes, you read that right. And as usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. On Slate Plus, Rebecca dishes on her lavish time on a private jet.

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Apr 11 2019

49mins

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The Toddler On the Run Edition

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On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Dan, and Elizabeth weigh in with their best tactics to locate a young child in an emergency. They also answer a question from a mom who really wants to give her young daughter a sibling but is debating if the extra chaos is worth it. 


In Slate Plus: Summer camp-esk activities that kids can do independently. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:


Dan recommends Doodleville by Chad Sell.


Elizabeth recommends DIY tie-dye masks. 


Jamilah recommends You Were Born For This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance by Chani Nicholas. 



Additional Recommendations and Resources: 


Jamilah’s new Slate Live show: The Kids Are Asleep. Catch the first show on Thursday July 16 at 7:00 p.m. PST. Stream it on Slate’s Facebook page or YouTube channel. 


Taking Cara Babies


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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Jul 09 2020

51mins

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Goes Right Through Him Edition

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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan answer a question about a 3-year-old who forces himself to pee immediately after drinking water. We also have a follow-up question from a parent whose child recently came out to her as trans. Slate’s Evan Urquhart joins the hosts to help advise the parent on how to best support her son. 

In Slate Plus: We have a plethora of fun, achievable outdoor DIYs for you to try with your family this summer. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:


Dan recommends Perfect Tunes by Emily Gould. 


Jamilah recommends Women, Race, & Class by Angela Y. Davis. 


Elizabeth recommends the game Tiny Polka Dot.



Additional Recommendations and Resources: 


Catch “Living Single But With Barbies” on Jamilah’s Instagram. 


Get your kids hooked on Oliver’s favorite math game, Prodigy


My Parents Still Struggle to Know Me After I Transitioned Late” by Evan Urquhart


Check out PFLAG, which is a great organization for LGBTQ+ people, their families and allies. 


Watch Disclosure. The documentary is currently available on Netflix.


Read Hurricane Child and Felix Ever After by Kacen Callender.


Watch ContraPoints YouTube videos with your (probably older) kids as a way to prompt conversations about trans issues. Here are two to start with: "Transtrenders” and Gender Critical.  


Get creative outside with Buggy and Buddy free, printable scavenger hunts, Youth Squad badges, and Tinkergarten® activities


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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 

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Jul 02 2020

46mins

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Grandma Has a Favorite Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a parent wondering if it’s okay to benefit from the grandparent babysitting service when the other grandkids are left out. They also answer a question from a soon-to-be step-aunt who wants to make a good first impression on the pre-teen. 


It’s fireworks season and the hosts swap funny amature fireworks stories in this week’s Slate Plus segment. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

Recommendations:


Dan recommends The Sunday Read: ‘Facing the Wind’ by Carvell Wallace.


Elizabeth recommends constructing outdoor toy car ramps using deck railing


Jamilah recommends The DB Method, if you are looking to maximize your gluteus maximus. 


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Jun 25 2020

43mins

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Talk to Kids About Racism Edition

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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Rebecca are joined by Trina Greene Brown, the founder of Parenting for Liberation, to answer questions about race and police violence. The first question is from a parent puzzling over an appropriate age to introduce her kid to privilege and institutionalized racism. The second question is from a mom whose young son enjoys interacting with the police. Is there a good way to explain police violence to a toddler? 


We have a very special Slate Plus segment this week. Jamilah is joined by Dr. Kira Banks to answer a listener question about colorism and complexion bias. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:


Rebecca recommends laughing at really, really bad TV shows like Strange Evidence, Catfish, and Ancient Aliens


Elizabeth recommends two podcasts. For kids: So Get Me podcast by the Alphabet Rockers. For adults: The Black History Bootcamp by GirlTrek.


Jamilah recommends the McBride Sisters Wine.


Other Recommendations and Resources: 

Parenting for Liberation

Raising Equity

Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Dr. Beverly Daniel Tatum

The Color Complex: The Politics of Skin Color in a New Millennium by Kathy Russell, Midge Wilson and Ronald Hall.

A History of Policing, an online class by Freedom Lifted for young people. 

The “American Police” episode of NPR’s Throughline podcast. 

Rebecca Lavoie’s instagram post of Henry’s protest sign. 


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Jun 18 2020

1hr 9mins

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Visit From Mike Birbiglia Edition

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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan talk with comedian Mike Birbiglia about his new book, The New One: Painfully True Stories From a Reluctant Dad. They discuss what it’s like to not connect to your newborn right away, finally understanding parenting cliches, and comedy during quarantine. The hosts also answer a question from a parent who feels that their young one is transitioning from mommy to mom way too early.  


For Slate Plus, Slate Staff Writer Ruth Graham joins to discuss adoption influencers. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:

Dan recommends You Pick Tonight, a father-daughter double feature podcast from Dan and Lyra. 


Jamilah recommends It’s Just a Plant: A Children’s Story about Marijuana by Ricardo Cortés.


Elizabeth recommends learning to make balloon animals with your kids. 


Other Recommendations and Resources: 

Transgender Children & Youth: Understanding the Basics

Gender Identity Isn't Too Confusing For Your Toddler” by Kasandra Brabaw

Transwhat? A Guide Towards Allyship

In Our Gender Diverse Era, Parents Should Practice Humility With Their Kids” by Evan Urquhart

My Kid is Not Crazy

“Myka Stauffer and the Aggressively Inspirational World of “Adoption Influencers”” by Ruth Graham


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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 

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Jun 11 2020

1hr 6mins

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New to News Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about introducing kids to consuming news. What news sources are age-appropriate? How can parents contextualize current events for kids? The hosts also answer a question from a mom worried that getting a cat will cause tension in the house. 


For Slate Plus, they discuss J.K. Rowling’s new children’s story The Ickabog and the children’s illustration contest that’s accompanying the book.


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Recommendations:


Jamilah recommends Me and My Feelings: A Kids' Guide to Understanding and Expressing Themselves by NBCT Vanessa Green Allen, M.Ed.


Elizabeth recommends giving your kid a toolbox. It’s a great place to store all the little treasures that get picked up in the great outdoors. 


Dan recommends ditching your current lawn mower for an electric lawn mower


Kids News Resources:

KidNuz, a daily podcast for kids. 

The Learning Network from the New York Times. 

KidsPost from The Washington Post. 


Other Recommendations: 

People Who Hate Cats Live With Cats For A Week” from Buzzfeed. 


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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 

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Jun 04 2020

1hr 9mins

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At Home With Elmo Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth talk to Elmo about his new show, The Not-Too-Late Show, and how life at home is going for him and his family. Parents, if you want to listen to the family-friendly Elmo segment with your kids, zip ahead to 14:30. Autumn Zitani, curriculum producer for Sesame Street and the Not-Too-Late Show, joins the show to talk about what kids will learn from the new show and how this will fit into evening routines. They also answer a listener question from a mom worried her independent yet introverted preschooler is enjoying being home during the pandemic a little too much. 


For Slate Plus, Dan discusses using emergency paid leave through the Families First Coronavirus Response Act. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:


Elizabeth recommends signing up for the summer reading program at your local library, since quite a few libraries are running virtual programs.


Jamilah recommends the book Help Your Dragon Deal with Anxiety by Steve Herman. 


Dan recommends Netflix Party, as a way to facilitate the quintessential childhood experience of watching TV with your friends. 


Emergency paid leave reading and resources mentioned: 

https://www.militaryfamily.org

Emergency Paid Leave Helps Some Families, Leaves Others Adrift by Rebecca Gale

Paid Leave Law Tries to Help Millions in Crisis. Many Haven’t Heard of It by Claire Cain Miller and Jim Tankersley


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May 28 2020

48mins

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The Graduation-ish Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener who really wants to celebrate her son’s graduation. But her senior wants zero acknowledgement of the milestone. They also answer a question from a mother whose 9-year-old has a name that sounds vulgar when said aloud. 


For Slate Plus, beloved former Mom and Dad are Fighting co-host Allison Benedikt tells a wild story about a questionable neighborhood raccoon, a heartfelt shower song, and makeshift trap. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


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Recommendations:


Dan recommends You Must Remember This, a podcast about forgotten Hollywood history by Karina Longworth. 


Elizabeth recommends a free app called Seek by iNaturalist. 


Jamilah recommends cooking with Coconut Liquid Aminos Garlic Sauce


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May 21 2020

53mins

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Make Believe Murder Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a parent worried about pretend play that involves imagined violence. Plus, we have personalized game recommendations with Jessica Waldock from the homeschool and parent blog, The Waldock Way. It’s our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week, and it’s for all ages. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to about 35:50.


For Slate Plus, Slate’s Heather Schwedel explains the baby name that stumped the world. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:


Dan recommends signing up your kids for Outschool, which has Zoom classes for different age levels. Plus, the classes are really cheap! 


Jamilah recommends revisiting the classic, and relatively progressive, show: The Golden Girls


Elizabeth recommends ordering the Gottwals Books Survival Packs, from Gottwals Books in Georgia. Here's the order form for the personalized pack


Game Recommendations:

The Waldock Way’s Gameschool guide.

The 40 Greatest Family Games by Noel Murray

The Waldock Way’s printable family Game Night in a Bag


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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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May 14 2020

1hr 3mins

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Cut It Yourself Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener whose stepmother wants to be called grandma. While the letter writer is thrilled her stepmother wants to be so involved with her granddaughters, how will she explain to her daughters that their grandmother isn’t her biological mother?


On our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week: is it finally time to attempt an at-home haircut? The hosts talk to 9-year-old barber Neijae Graham-Henries and her mother Jamie. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to about 32 minutes.


For Slate Plus, how are systems like adoption and foster care are faring during the pandemic?

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Recommendations:

Dan recommends Zoom Pranks on Professors, Wild PowerPoint Parties, and a Billion Memes by Laura Bennett.


Elizabeth recommends reaching out to seniors in your community by sending cards. You can find a local organization or an organization like Love for the Elderly


Jamilah recommends I Don't Want to Die Poor: Essays by Michael Arceneaux 


Extra reading recommendations: How Coronavirus Is Affecting Surrogacy, Foster Care and Adoption by David Dodge


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May 07 2020

50mins

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Master of LEGO Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth revisit last week’s quarantine pod discussion and talk to Dr. Saskia Popescu about the risks of being in contact with another family during stay-at-home orders. Plus, LEGO Masters contestant Boone Langston joins to talk about awesome builds, the show and how kids can up their LEGO game. It’s our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week, and it’s for all ages. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to about 51:00. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 45:13.

For Slate Plus, are some kids happier during quarantine?

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Recommendations:

Elizabeth recommends being on top of your Mother’s Day plans. If you need an idea, this questionnaire is a great, free project to do with your young ones. 


Jamilah recommends What's the Big Secret?: Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown. 


Dan recommends Anomia, a card game similar to Scattergories on speed.  


Extra reading recommendations:

You’re single. You live alone. Are you allowed to have a coronavirus buddy? By Sigal Samuel

Why some kids are happier right now, and other unexpected effects of quarantine by Elissa Strauss.


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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 

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Apr 30 2020

1hr 15mins

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The Pandemic Pod People Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth debate the advantages and risks of adding families into their quarantine bubble. Social distancing guidelines and epidemiologists have warned about increased risk of catching Covid-19 with increased exposure to others. But what if absolute social distancing isn’t working for your family? 


For the Everyone is Fighting Now segment, the hosts answer a question from a listener who is worried her daughter is more convinced than ever that her imaginary dragon friend is real. Dr. Stephanie Carlson, Distinguished McKnight University Professor and Director of Research at the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota, joins the hosts to determine if the letter writer should keep interacting with the dragon. If you’d like to listen with kids that can handle a conversation about make-believe friends, zip ahead to about 41:00. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 35:45.


For Slate Plus, how helpful are coronavirus specials, like Elmo’s virtual playdate, in helping kids understand what’s going on?

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Recommendations:


Dan recommends An Embarrassment of Witches by Sophie Goldstein and Jenn Jordan. It’s a young adult comic, best suited for 13+, and you can order it on Bookshop.org as an alternative to Amazon that benefits independent bookstores. 


Jamilah recommends The Anger Management Workbook for Kids by Samantha Snowden, which has lots of activities for when young ones are trying to work through complex emotions. 


Elizabeth recommends The Big Life Journal for Kids, an interactive book that helps children develop growth mindsets. 


Extra reading recommendations: You’re single. You live alone. Are you allowed to have a coronavirus buddy? By Sigal Samuel. 


Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. 

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Apr 23 2020

58mins

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Dad Can Play Too Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a mom whose son’s “mommy-only” phase isn’t helped by the fact that her husband doesn’t like little-kid games. How can he engage while being entertained? Plus, Dan tells a story about theater, college decisions, and the importance—or unimportance—of due diligence. It’s our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week, and it’s best for teenagers. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to 33:30. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 27:37.


For Slate Plus, how do you respond when your child calls you stupid for the first time?

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Recommendations:

Elizabeth recommends creating a Covid-19 time capsule with your kids so, years from now, they can reflect on this period. 

Jamilah recommends EasyWash Mobile Washer to help remove dirt when you are hand washing your clothes. 

Dan recommends hanging a hammock, perfect for when you want to be alone. 

Extra reading recommendations: The Way I Feel and The Way I Act by Janan Cain.


Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. 

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Special appearance by Johanna Morrison.

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Apr 16 2020

1hr 12mins

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Going to the Zoo During Coronavirus Edition

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On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Rumaan Alam to discuss splitting custody during coronavirus. Can one parent, concerned about safety, keep the child without first discussing it with their co-parent? How can this issue be resolved without escalation? 

For our new family-friendly segment, Everyone Is Fighting Now, the hosts are joined by Megan Ryder Sanders, a zookeeper at the Cheyenne Mountain Zoo in Colorado. Megan answers questions from kids, including: how the animals are doing, if zookeepers are being paid, and how much elephants eat. To listen to the family-friendly segment zoom ahead to 39:00. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 34:30.

For Slate Plus, we answer a question from a listener whose three year old is NOT warming up to her new baby brother.

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Recommendations:


Jamilah recommends ensuring that the actions you take while staying at home benefits you in your current situation; instead of quarantine-free future you. 


Elizabeth recommends The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld.


Rumaan recommends Making Comics by Lynda Barry.


Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. 

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Apr 09 2020

1hr 9mins

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The Will We Overcome Boredom Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth discuss updating your will. It’s important to have an updated contingency plan in these uncertain times. But how can you be sure if you are leaving your kids to the right people? They also answer a letter from a mom who is going stir crazy after a few days at home with her child. How can parents be stimulated while playing, sometimes boring, games with their kids? For Slate Plus, we have quarantine schedule mutiny! We’ll hear from the mom who received a three page letter of protest AND the son who wrote the manifesto.

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Recommendations:


Dan recommends A Hard Day’s Night, the 1964 Beatles documentary.


Jamilah recommends dating apps, especially if you are looking for a male partner. Quarantine is forcing them to up their convo game. But steer clear of those looking for quarantine buddies.


Elizabeth recommends raising caterpillars, ladybugs, and praying mantises, oh my!


Additional Links:


“Yeah, We Should Have Our Wills Ready”: What Happens When Both Parents Get COVID-19 by Ruth Graham


Death Over Dinner, a resource for having difficult conversations.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Apr 02 2020

59mins

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The Cross Country Conundrum Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth discuss parenting anxiety. Is it OK for a letter writer not to be overprotective? Or does parenting anxiety keep children safe? They also answer a letter from a woman whose stepdaughter is struggling on the other side of the country. How can you help when you’re so far apart? For Slate Plus: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth turn their host mics over to THEIR KIDS! The mini-hosts tell us what they like and don’t like about staying home with their parents.

Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

Recommendations:


Jamilah recommends requests that you stay in the house and pay attention to the news. Please, please, stay in the house.


Elizabeth recommends A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood: The Poetry of Mister Rogers by Fred Rogers and Luke Flowers. Perfect for poetry tea time in your house.


Dan recommends reading to your kids, even if they may seem a smidge too old. He’s reading The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams.

Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes.

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Mar 26 2020

55mins

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We Are All Homeschoolers Now Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by official third host of Mom and Dad are Fighting… Elizabeth Newcamp! They discuss their new homeschool schedules and Elizabeth gives Dan and Jamilah tips on how to make their plans attainable, especially since they are also working from home. For Slate Plus: TV shows and movies for quarantine entertainment that will entertain kids and parents alike.

Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

Recommendations:

Elizabeth recommends practicing gratitude within the home by writing notes to your partner or writing down a few moments at the end of the day with your kids.

Dan recommends a label maker. Great for when your milk really needs to be labeled COW JUICE. 

Jamilah recommends reading “America Is a Sham” by Dan Kois.

Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes.

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Mar 19 2020

1hr

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The Quarantine’s a-Comin’ Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Carvell Wallace to discuss how the Coronavirus has been impacting their areas and what they are going to do if their schools resort to online learning. We also ask Carvell YOUR catch-up questions, as posted on the Slate Parenting Facebook page! For Slate Plus: a listener question from a parent worried about her teenage son and stepson’s not-so-friendly competition for her affection.


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Recommendations:


Carvell recommends family time, which we seem to be well on our way to, because we only really have each other.


Dan recommends wallpaper. Not the wallpaper that requires messy paste. No, we’re talking the wallpaper that’s essentially a glorified sticker. Patterns everywhere!  

Jamilah recommends getting your children involved in politics.

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Mar 12 2020

1hr 5mins

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The All Kids, All the Time Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Emily Farranto to answer a question from a listener who works with kids and is thinking about having her own. Is constant contact with kids overwhelming? We also have a question from a mom whose son was hospitalized at 4 months after getting sick. But now her husband’s germaphobia is making daily life difficult. For Slate Plus: what forgotten historical figures would make the best costumes? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.


Recommendations:


Jamilah recommends preordering the picture book Who Will You Be? by Andrea Pippins.


Dan recommends Love Letter, a fun, fast card game great for two to four people.

Emily recommends Cowboy Magic, a concentrated hair detangler great for horses...and HUMANS!

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Mar 05 2020

49mins

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The Hyphenation Headache Edition

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On this week’s episode: Dan is joined by Elizabeth Newcamp and Gabriel Roth to answer a question from a mom debating whether her son should take her last name or her husband’s last name. Or they could hyphenate, but will that burden her son later in life? We also have a question from a dad whose son plays travel hockey, even though he sucks at hockey. For Slate Plus, Elizabeth tells us the truth about homeschooling. Sign up for Slate Plus.


Recommendations:

Dan recommends the graphic novel Snapdragon by Kat Leyh, which is about a girl in a small town who finds a witch in her neighborhood.


Elizabeth recommends “Paint by Sticker” books, a great on-the-go activity.


Gabriel recommends Music Is My Life: Soundtrack Your Mood With 80 Artists for Every Occasion by Myles Tanzer and Ali Mac. A book that introduces kids to different musical artists.


Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.

Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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Feb 27 2020

48mins

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Jamilah is great!

By r.i. - Apr 14 2020
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I think that Jamilah is such a wonderful voice on the show.

Parenting is Tough

By Janis34 - Feb 10 2020
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Parenting is tough, this pod helps get me through. Jamilah’s perspective is refreshing and needed.