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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."

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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."

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Great listening

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Recommend this to fellow parents and grandparents

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Awesome podcast. Taught me a lot about parenting

iTunes Ratings

88 Ratings
Average Ratings
63
6
4
7
8

Great listening

By HassanImame - May 06 2019
Read more
Recommend this to fellow parents and grandparents

Knowledge

By julian kimm - Apr 22 2019
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Awesome podcast. Taught me a lot about parenting
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The We Turned Out Okay Podcast

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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."

Rank #1: Bonus: Join the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

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If you want to: – Handle afterschool activities, bedtime routines, and homework like a ninja parent – Work better with everyone who looks after your child – Deal with the time crunches and scheduling issues that come with the parenting job – Feel better within yourself

I've got a 21-day challenge to help you!

Streamline your whole life during these 21 days (which begin as soon as you join, no need to wait at all), work closely with me on your toughest parenting conundrums, and feel like a new person at the end!

I'm running a holiday season special, so you get the benefit of the challenge at half off the normal cost… But only for a few more days, the special ends Tuesday, November 28.

Click here for details and to sign up for the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

Nov 26 2017

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Rank #2: "When they misbehave the most, that's when they need us the most." Speaking with Dr. Laura Markham for podcast episode 255!

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When a coaching client of mine recently

posted an article by today's guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham.

As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too!

Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids.

I hope our conversation helps you gain a better understanding of this whole parenting thing. It sure helped me!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer. While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/255 for:

  • Links to Dr. Laura's website, which contains tons of resources for you
  • Information on my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out in the world!!
  • The video of the week: "How to get my kids to stop fighting with each other"

And thank you so much for listening!

Dec 19 2018

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Rank #3: The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent's Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)

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Working with parents of young children,

one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase.

It's dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids, which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it.

You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have.

Today I share: – Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent's vocabulary are – Why these words get used so often – What you can say instead for good behavior from your child

Today's episode helps you get past the bad behavior so you can fulfill your ultimate goal of truly enjoying family time!

Read more about these two dangerous words and what to say instead… Find every back episode of the We Turned Out Okay podcast… Sign up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class… All at weturnedoutokay.com/219.

Happy listening!

Apr 03 2018

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Rank #4: 026: 3 Ways to Make No Sound Like Yes

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Did you know that, by the time we are five years old, we've heard "no" 40,000 times? And that in that same span of time, we've only heard "yes" 5000 times? (I learned that reading The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson, a great book by the way.)

While it's true that "no" is important – for safety, if nothing else – this n-word can really bring us down… As Jeff puts it: "Eight times as many noes as yeses. Eight times the force holding you down, compared to the force lifting you up. Eight times the gravity against your desire to soar."

Today, I share with you the primo ninja parenting tactic of them all… Make no sound like yes! Here's how:

1) Actually say yes. When they ask "Mom, can I have an ice cream?" you respond "sure! Right after dinner." If it's "can we play play dough?" and if there isn't time at the moment, you respond "absolutely – as soon as we get home from the doctor." This works in so many situations, and have the added bonus of making us parents feel somehow lighter and happier… because no sucks and yes is nice.

2) Keep your cautions to yourself. If your mouth says "yes" but your body language, facial expression, and tone communicate fear and worry, your child won't hear the yes. Worse, if you say yes and then come up with 10 reasons why your child shouldn't climb that tree, or go barefoot, or eat the Halloween candy you just told him he could eat, are you really saying yes? Not really… This is where we need to be angels, not balloon poppers.

3) Use "yes, and…" A great turn-no-into-yes tactic for transitional times, try this one when your child wants to do one thing and you know that you need to do another… "Mom, can we play play dough?" "Yes, we can play now for a bit and will keep going with it when we get back from the doctor."

If you take just one thing from this episode, I hope it is this: our words matter. The more yeses we can squeeze into a child's day – more noes we can eliminate – the lighter and happier we will all be.

How are you changing "no" to "yes"? Please share! Either go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact or leave a comment right at the bottom of this post. I can't wait to hear your innovations!

Sep 22 2015

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Rank #5: 014: How to Take Great IPhone Pictures with Andre Nguyen of iPhoneographyinsiders.com

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I'm so excited about this episode, part of our Summer Camp series in which we are setting aside our usual four themes (3R's, Unplanned Adventures, Kids through the Ages, and Risky Business), pouring a nice tall glass of iced tea – or Long Island Ice Tea, depending on your age and what time of day it is – and going on vacation! We will return to our regularly scheduled programming in September, but for now… Let's just enjoy summer!

Great news! During our interview today iPhoneography teacher Andre Ngyen offers you a week's free coaching by email! You can find out how to get this bonus by listening to the episode. Speaking as a student of his I know you're not going to want to miss out; his great ideas will help you take fantastic family vacation pictures!

If you want to see the pictures I took with Andre's guidance, click here – that will take you to last week's blog post in which I previewed the pictures we talk about in today's episode. Enjoy!

If you have any desire at all to capture great summer memories, great photographs of your kids and family – and pets – using just your iPhone, then you are going to love today's guest. Andre Nguyen of iPhoneographyinsiders.com is first and foremost a talented photographer, but most importantly he really wants to help the rest of us take great pictures.

Today's conversation includes lots of fun stuff: summer memories, dog stories, my excitement about sharing when I got to go see this amazing art installation in Boston on the Rose Kennedy Greenway… and because Andre gave us so many tips and apps, I'm going to list them here:

  • the first, easy and fun, is to simply tap the light source on your phone to completely change the amount of light in the picture; in other words, if you want a picture of your husband kissing the top of your baby's head with his son in the background, tap the sun – you'll end up with a silhouette picture! Really, really cool
  • next, be playful – take a variety of pictures of the same scene, in which you have tapped different places on the screen (which left in different amounts of light), try different poses, see if you can capture your kids jumping in the picture, use your imagination
  • when indoors, capturing enough light can be tough for the iPhone which results in grainy photographs where you literally see many pixels; Andre recommends using a strong light source and once again tapping on that light source on the iPhone screen
  • a great app: photographer's ephemerist, which tells you the angle of the sun, and exactly where it will be setting in the sky, on any given day; Andre uses this to plan his sunset photography, knowing exactly where and when the sun will be passing specific buildings, and then he can pull out his iPhone and play
  • another great app, Slow Shutter Cam,which allows you to let more light in and thus get cool blurry effects – if you take Andre's suggestion of doing a selfie on a merry-go-round with your children, please send it along! This sounds like the coolest idea in the world, my boys are too old for merry-go-rounds, I gotta see this in action :-)
  • Andre's favorite website for getting prints of his photos is called artifactuprising.com, where he's gotten beautiful print of his pictures at decent prices
  • on instagram, Andre goes by@AndreHarrison, and I just know you're going to want to head over to instagram and check out his artwork, which is amazing! You can also find it at his two websites: techminimalist.com and iPhoneographyinsiders.com

Once you start taking amazing pictures using Andre's tips, please email me some pictures! You can do that by going to weturnedoutokay.com/contact, or just emailing Karen@weturnedoutokay.com. I can't wait to see what you come up with!

Jul 14 2015

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Rank #6: Bonus: How Children Learn to Read

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Here at the beginning of the school year, teachers are doing their initial assessments, figuring out who of their students is how far along the literacy timeline.

It can be a worrisome time for us parents – what if our kids don't read when they're supposed to? What if they tell you "reading is boring"? What if they hate reading?

We all know that reading is THE key to our children's future success… but how do you get them to want to read?

Today's bonus episode digs into the two most important factors in getting children to be happy readers.

Click here to listen, and to sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge, which starts Monday, October 2!

Sep 21 2017

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Rank #7: 056: How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum

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Today's episode is a little different: I read a key chapter from my forthcoming book! The chapter, called Handling Tantrums With HEART, is going to help you keep your cool even while your toddler or preschooler is melting down. Here I share my method for dealing with tantrums, which I came up with to help you retain your sanity even when the tantrums are flying fast and furious in your home.

Today, I read it aloud because I want to know how you feel about it. What did I miss? What would help you more in dealing with your child's temper tantrums?

Also, I tell you how you'll be able to get the book – Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics – for free when it launches on April 3!

Click here to get the full show notes at weturnedoutokay.com/056.

Feb 16 2016

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Rank #8: 005: Four Risks To Our Kids' Well-Being That We Take Far Too Often

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Sometimes as parents, we think we are limiting the risks to our kids by taking an action – or backing away from an action – when instead, their well-being and happiness would be better insured by doing something completely different. In this episode, I highlight four common things parents do (I know this, because I did them too!) where it would be better to go in the exact opposite direction.

Listen for:

  • the dangers of sticking close by your child's side at all times; when we do this, we take away his or her chance to develop independence, creativity, and problem-solving capabilities
  • the risks of using antibacterial soap; this one keeps me up at night, and it's pretty clear that it also keeps scientists and other super-smart people up at night too
  • how we fail our children when we don't question a teacher or other authority figure who insists that our child has ADHD or ADD; while there is some risk that our son or daughter may have these or other learning disabilities, I share that during my years of teaching young children – and earning my Masters in Early Childhood Education – these diagnoses are given out far more often than they should be; increasingly, kids are put in an environment that is far too restrictive… In short, it is my opinion that schools, and not children, are often the problem when it comes to kids' misbehavior
  • the importance of comics – yes, cartoons, graphic novels – in a kid's journey towards becoming a reader; when adults ban comics, or even disrespect them, we run the risk of limiting our kids' ability to thrive as readers

Whether you agree or disagree, I encourage you to really give some thought to the above Four Risks. Reasonable and intelligent adults can disagree, but the biggest risk of all that we can take is not giving consideration to any big issue that affects our children while they're young, because the effects of our choices compound when they are grown up.

May 12 2015

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Rank #9: 192: How to diminish your child's bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Listen to today's episode for a quick and easy way to cut down on your child's bad behavior : )

– – – New Course Offering: It's agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life; getting called a mean name or crybaby; getting "broken up with" by a friend, encountering sibling strife. It upsets us parents because 1) our heart breaks for our beautiful child, and 2) we don't know what to do to help.. I'm offering something new and different that will create a new opportunity for you: The Surviving the Social Stuff course. It's tailored to participants' needs, so whatever social stuff is going on in your child's life – THAT'S what you'll learn how to handle. It's super helpful as we get into the high-emotion holidays, with weekly class meetings starting Tuesday, November 7 and running right through into January. Space is limited!! So, if you're struggling with anything social in your child's life, Click Here to sign up.. Then you'll be feeling less alone and learning new ways to Survive the Social Stuff! – – –

For key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/192!

Oct 26 2017

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Rank #10: When to potty train, How to potty train? Podcast Episode 245

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When should you start potty training your child?

[caption id="attachment_1787" align="alignleft" width="150"] Don't you wish your kid looked this happy sitting on a potty?[/caption]

How should you potty train your child?

I've done some research on these two questions, and let me tell you, they are asked really often in Google.

Is this on your mind? Or, are you already trying to potty train, but hitting serious roadblocks? Then, today's episode is for you!

In it I share 3 ways to know if your child is ready for potty training, and also 3 tips on how to actually accomplish this feat.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/245 for:

  • A positive way forward in potty training your young child
  • The intro video to this epic course I just created, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure. You can watch the intro and see if the course would be helpful for you!
  • The 3 most important things to remember about potty training

And thank you so much for listening!

PS Today I share about a course I just finished that I'm really proud of! It's called Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, a comprehensive guide to potty training your young child in even the most difficult of circumstances, and you can check it out by clicking here. Or if you'd rather, get the first lesson FREE! Click here to have Lesson 1, "How to make this take the shortest amount of time possible," dropped right into your inbox!

Oct 02 2018

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Rank #11: 166: Tell Don't Ask – A Ninja Tactic That Really Works

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Have you ever had it happen where you're asking your child to do something, and he or she is saying "no"?

Depending on your child's age or developmental maturity level, I bet you hear that word – "no" – an awful lot.

Today's ninja tactic digs into one way to cut down on the noes!

It's all about giving kids directives instead of asking, which sounds simple but in reality can be pretty complicated: when do we give them choices, ask questions, and when is it time to give a directive and communicate to them that "this is not a choice"?

Click weturnedoutokay.com/166 for show notes and key links to this episode!

Jun 27 2017

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Rank #12: 177: Ever Tempted to Spank Your Child? Here's Something that Works Better. (A Your Child Explained Episode)

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"My wife doesn't want me to spank them, I get it – I don't want to either but what else can I do?" These words come from a listener's email, a desperate plea to figure out how to discipline kids and keep order during the daily grind.

This listener goes on to say "I got spanked, and turned out okay… I got more than spanked to tell you the truth, and I know what the constant barrage of words being screamed at me feels like. To be honest, I'd rather have had the spanking."

This listener deftly identifies two things that do not work with kids: 1) a "constant barrage of words" 2) spanking.

So, what do you do instead?

Listen to this episode to find out!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/177 for key links, and Click here to sign up for the Streamline Your Mornings challenge, if school days are looming and those weekday mornings are looking frightening. This FREE challenge starts in just a few weeks, and once it starts the sign-ups are closed. So to make sure that you get an email every day of the challenge, entry into our We Turned Out Okay private Facebook group, and access to the Facebook live back-to-school Ask Me Anything I'll be doing on the last day of the challenge (September 8), jump in now.

Aug 17 2017

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Rank #13: How to handle your child's tantrums and bad behavior: Bonus Podcast Episode

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Reminder: join my Ninja Parenting Community for $1 for your first 30 days! But only by joining before October 1!

“Thank you for all of your help! You have truly changed our lives and helped navigate some massive life changes and I am so grateful!” – Mama Llama, Mom of a three-year-old boy and NPC member

"Karen helps me feel like I actually know what I am doing.” – Steve, Dad of 3-and-5-year-old boys, 1-to-1 Parent Coaching Client

Click here for details – or check out the fancy-pants button I made by going to this episode's show notes : )

In this bonus We Turned Out Okay episode I offer 3 tools to help you cope with your child's aggressive, bad behavior:

  • The first helps you put your child's behavior in perspective so it does not overwhelm you
  • The second helps you create the best conditions for positive behavior from your child
  • The third helps you feel good about your parenting journey

I hope you find it helpful!

Click here for the show notes for this episode, which include the video version of today's episode, a full transcript, and the aforementioned fancy-pants button so that you can join the Ninja Parenting Community at the Friends and Family membership rate!

Sep 26 2019

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Rank #14: "There's just not enough time to do everything" – Part 2 of the Taming Weeknight Chaos Series! (Podcast Episode 233)

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Welcome to Part 2 of our Taming the Weeknight Chaos series!

Today we address a huge challenge in every parent's efforts to create enjoyable, smooth family weeknights: there's just not enough time to get everything done.

In fact today is a troubleshooting episode, because we tackle that problem – and also the "I'm always the bad cop" problem that comes up for tons of parents!

You'll find this episode really helpful if weeknight chaos is a problem for you.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/233 for:

A video covering these two common problems with weeknights;

And: A free 6-Point Checklist and Video Guide to help you truly enjoy weeknights with your kids

Happy listening : )

Jul 10 2018

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Rank #15: 213: The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting

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Are the frightening and persistent questions of life weighing on you right now?

Today I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn't leave me alone…

Today I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too.

This minicourse is all ready for you over at weturnedoutokay.com!

It's called The Three Secrets of Happy Parenting, and today's episode is also the intro to the course.

Sign up by going to weturnedoutokay.com/213!

And thank you so much for listening : )

Feb 20 2018

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Rank #16: 017: Our First Q&A, and 4 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Challenging Situations

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This week, we take a temporary break from We Turned Out Okay's Summer Camp series so that I can help you know how to talk with your children when a challenge arises.

Sometimes, even in beautiful summer, bad things happen, and today I share about the tough situation my family and I have found ourselves in over the last several weeks. But rest assured – we've still got three lovely, golden August weeks left to enjoy summer and we will do so!

One last thing before we get into the notes, this show has an epilogue, so after I have said "thanks for listening, see you next time" you still want to keep listening – I have something to share about both the Q&A, and about our dogs.… Not exactly a Hollywood ending, but a better one then I had ever thought could happen!

A Breakdown of Today's Show

Today's show is split into two parts, but before I get to those there is a really neat thing I wanted to share – friend-of-the-podcast Muttaqi Ismael, an amazing whiteboard video artist, has turned a favorite part of We Turned Out Okay: episode 5 – Four Risks That We Take With Our Children's Well-Being Every Day into a fantastic whiteboard video! He's a very talented guy, and to see the video just go to weturnedoutokay.com/017, where it is embedded… My plan is to give the video its own blog post during this month of August. Meantime, enjoy! And thank you Muttaqi – you did a great job!

Our First Q&A!

And now on to the Q&A – Jill asks: "why are my three kids awesome at swim lessons when daycare brings them, but when mommy brings them I'm practically holding their hand in the water (and that's if they actually get in the water) – we've been doing swim lesson since March BTW"

We've all noticed this at some point in our parenting lives, haven't we? Why do they behave incredibly well for somebody else, and freak out for us? Jill, I'm so glad you asked this question because it is such a common concern. My answer dives (pun totally intended) into my experiences with how my kids behaved when they were small at Grandma's versus how they behaved with me – and I recorded the epilogue because, almost as soon as I hit stop recording this episode, I realized that I had been in a very similar situation to yours!

I hope you find my answer helpful, and that it helps you think of other questions to ask. I love Q&A's, I think they're so helpful and also they help us know we are not alone. To submit a question, you can email Karen@weturnedoutokay.com, go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact, friend me on Facebook, find me on twitter@StoneAgeTechie, on instagram@weturnedoutokay… Heck, you can even snail mail me! My address is PO Box 61, Bellingham, MA, 02019.

4 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Challenging Situations

The main part of this show focuses on the four ways you can help your child cope with challenging situations. This came up because my family has been in a very challenging situation: about six weeks before this episode aired for the first time, we adopted two amazing, awesome dogs… And then the stress of caring for them caused a relapse in tendinosis, this condition that I live with that, at times, has left me unable to walk (which I've since relearned) and with extremely limited upper body and hand use.

Long story short, these wonderful dogs entered our lives and within a very short time, we had to give them up. Truly, it was either them or my health and sanity.

In this episode, I share about how heartbreaking and difficult this has been. But I also share about how grateful I am to have had them in our lives, and how amazed I am by the strength and gentleness of both my husband and our two boys.

Most importantly for you, I share about how we got through this. Because when you are in a tough situation and you don't know how to help your kids get through it as well, it's really helpful to have a guide. I hope you will think of this podcast as your guide!

Here are my four steps to coping with challenging situations, and helping your kids cope as well:

1) communicate with your kids; they WILL know that something is wrong, and consequently you will notice, if you try to keep everything from them, an uptick in bad behavior, anxiety, and tears; sharing with them what you can on their level reassures your kids and helps them trust you

2) help them understand that you are all in this together; be there for tears, questions, reassurances

3) find a way for them to help; children need to be needed, and when you give them a job – a truly meaningful job that truly helps you, however small – they become part of the solution

4) cherish the time we have with our loved ones; because challenging situations often include the absence of a person that they used to see a lot – whether through divorce, or death, or a cross-country move – it is really helpful to talk with our kids about how people come in and out of our lives; sometimes, people are not meant to be with us for long, or not without long intervals between seeing them, and the most important thing is to appreciate the time we have with our loved ones, and cherish the memory of them when we are not with them

Giving up our dogs due to my illness is one of the hardest things we've faced as a family. I'm sharing this experience with you today because I really hope it will help you with the challenges that inevitably come up in your life. Kids are amazingly resilient, and cope well with life's challenges, especially when we grown-ups take the time to communicate with them, share in grief together, find meaningful ways for them to help, and above all teach them to enjoy the time we have with the people we love.

Aug 04 2015

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Rank #17: Want successful kids? They'll need this. | Podcast Episode 268

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If you've been listening to our Successful, Fulfilled Kids series (of which this is part 7), I know you're implementing some great tactics, like making sure your child does chores, and doing something besides "parenting." But today's episode gets into a concept that is really key. It's a mindset shift that parents need to make, if only to show our kids what is possible.

Yup: we've finally come to the topic of Grit.

Listen in to find out why it's important and how you can make sure your children have it!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/268 for:

  • A cheat sheet on Grit
  • Key links from today's episode
  • The video of the week: Off this week! Returning March 28

And thank you so much for listening!

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Learn: – The keys to finding the best child care for your young child – To avoid one crucial factor that can derail your efforts to find good childcare – Which questions to ask – and which not too – to assure your child thrives in others' care

We cover this and more in the FREE online class I'm teaching on Thursday, March 28! Sign up today – even if you can't be there live, the replay will be available for several days after.

Get the best child care for your kiddos by taking this class, for free! Sign up here and I will see you on March 28: )

Mar 05 2019

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Rank #18: Where is my child, developmentally? | Podcast Episode 280

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Welcome to another installment of Educating Little Kids! (When it's a book, it will have a better title, promise.) We dive into development today, and if you're wondering "why should I care about child development," I hope this episode makes that clear.

Really and truly, it's a good thing to know.

Today we dive into the stages of development – stages all of us humans are going through – to give you a sense of where your child is developmentally.

Plus in Parenting News: How our own biases can stop us from seeing what is actually right in front of us.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/280 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the first 3 stages of human development
  • The video of the week: "Why should I care about child development?"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children? Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)? You're in luck! On THIS coming Thursday, May 30, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community! I'm taking you right inside, and showing you: – What our members love about it – How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day" – And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around! It's live… But even if you can't be there live at 2PM EST, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like. It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting… Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

May 28 2019

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Rank #19: 028: YCE - Listener Q&A, and Your Child Explained, The Screen Time Edition

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I love shows like today's, when a listener has written in and I get to respond on the air!

Today, Melissa asks how to help give her young kids the support they need in the outside-of-school hours. Here's what I suggest: that Melissa and her husband give their children some control over what they do in their out-of-school time. Listen in for more details!

The other reason I love today's episode is that it is a Your Child Explained! This is where I get to do something I'm pretty good at, which is understanding what's going on inside your child's head and giving you tools to use in your quest to be a less-worried, more-happy Old-School Parent.

In this Your Child Explained we get into screen time; episode 27, which aired this past Tuesday in real time, featured the postmortem (finally!) with journalist and mom Heather Kempskie. Heather was on over the summer to share about her amazing family trip in an RV, and I went and blew it by accidentally deleting the second half of our interview about the trip… So this past Tuesday, Heather came back on – our first returning champion – to share about the ups and downs of RVing. A big part of our conversation centered on shutting off the Wi-Fi and how that felt for her kids during their trip, and it resonated so much with me that I wanted to talk more about what happens inside our kids' heads both during screen time, and after screen time.

Oct 01 2015

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Rank #20: How we parents can stop feeling anxious, with author and dad Charlie Hoehn (Podcast Episode 230)

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I'm so happy to share

this wonderful conversation with Charlie Hoehn, dad, podcaster, person who helps people publish books, and (most important for our conversation today) author.

Charlie's book, Play It Away, shares his experience with soul-sucking anxiety, and the simple cure he found.

The thing about this cure is, it's something humans all do naturally, and it's as important to us as sleep.

But yet we often grow up and forget how important it is; the lack of this crucial element in Charlie's life is what caused his terrible anxiety.

If you're feeling anxious, you are going to love our conversation.

And if you're not feeling anxious, you'll still love it because it will help you see the importance of this element in your child's life.

Shout out this week to new patrons of We Turned Out Okay: Steve, and Sue, who are supporting WTOO in Patreon and getting access to exclusive content, like EXTRA Magic Words for Parents, and Behind-the-Scenes videos!

You can get these great extras too, just by going to Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay!

This week's Magic Words for Parents video shares a quick phrase you can use to help when your child is feeling overwhelmed by too many choices. Watch by clicking here to join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, or by clicking here to watch in YouTube, where there's a whole playlist of Magic Words!

Thank you for listening to today's episode! Key links and show notes – and THE CUTEST picture of Charlie with his little girl! – at weturnedoutokay.com/230.

Cheers!

Jun 19 2018

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Boundaries with Grandparents | Podcast Episode 314

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"My dad and stepmom are, simply put, selfish and controlling. They guilt me about not seeing my son more often, and usually want us to drive an hour out to their very not-kid-friendly house. How do I find a line of how often to see/talk to them that works for me and my kid?" So writes one of our most beloved ninja parents, known in the Ninja Parenting Community forums as Mama Llama. Maybe her feelings are familiar to you? In this episode, I outline 5 ways for you to get control of your relationship with your folks (or your in-laws) – on your terms. Join us! Cheat sheet of the five ways, plus key links and other good stuff, are located at: weturnedoutokay.com/314

PS This subject is covered far more deeply in the community that I run, NPC. During January 2020 you can spend your whole first month in the community for just $1! Click here for details.)

Parenting News that Matters as You Raise Your Kids

Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. I've written newsletters on everything from remaining calm when they are throwing dirt at each other, to last week's, on handling hangry meltdowns and what that has to do with our own self-worth. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Jan 21 2020

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The challenges of feeling worthy while raising little kids | Podcast Episode 313

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My wellness coach is here for YOU today!

"Linda," who's going incognito for our conversation, shares about so much: – Her own wellness journey – What it was like for her to raise a child with special needs – How to get what you want out of life

Hope you enjoy this conversation and find it helpful!

Here is the link to the show notes for this episode : )

PS One place where you can get help with your own challenges while raising little kids is the online community that I run, NPC. During January 2020 you can spend your whole first month in the community for just $1! Click here for details.)

Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter

Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. I've written newsletters on everything from remaining calm when they are throwing dirt at each other, to what to do when you feel like a failure. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Key Links

Click here for the VIA Character Institute website. Linda and I have used their Character Strength Tool and talk about it in today's conversation.

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group.

Jan 14 2020

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How to get what you want out of life | Podcast Episode 312

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Happy New Year!! In 2019 I had two goals: 1. To fit into my ski pants 2. To be in control of my food intake

If my ski pants fit, that meant I could go skiing and spend wonderful, exhilarating time with loved ones! And if I could be in control of my food intake, that meant I wouldn't inadvertently hijack other goals that I had about health and weight loss. Today I share about how I met those goals, through a 5-step process that I hope will be helpful as you work to achieve your goals!

Links and other stuff I share in this episode are located at weturnedoutokay.com/312

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. We're doing a series right now on what to do when you feel like a failure, and who among us hasn't felt like that at some point? Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Cheat sheet of the 5 steps to get what you want out of life:

1. Declare yourself worthy. This is a tough one! I do it with something that I call "mirror chats."

2. Decide what you want. This one feels deceptively easy, but sometimes it can take a while to figure out what we actually want.

3. Decide where you want to be with that goal… By a certain date.

4. Take one small step most days, or weeks.

5. Assess how it's going once a week. Also, as part of this, find something to celebrate each week.

My One Word is: ENOUGH this was such a tough one, I had to choose between two words and the people in my email newsgroup were so helpful as I made my choice! If that was you, thank you so much!

Jan 07 2020

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Controlling behavior, consequences, and connection with your young child | Podcast Episode 311

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Continuing in this end-of-year "big idea" line of thinking, one of our beloved Ninja Parenting Community members recently asked a huge, and great question:

"How can I relax and enjoy our relationship more and not feel like I'm always on the edge of discipline mode or like I should have handled things differently [with my 3-year-old]?"

Effectively she's asking: do I have to control my young child's behavior all the time, or is there anything else besides that?

Today's episode is my response.

Video, the notes I posted in NPC, and links to everything we talk about are located at weturnedoutokay.com/311

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. We're doing a series right now on what to do when you feel like a failure, and who among us hasn't felt like that at some point? Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Dec 31 2019

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When your little asks HUGE questions | Podcast Episode 310

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"He asked me tonight who God was…" When Ninja Parenting Community member Mama Llama shared about this conversation with her three-year-old, I knew you were going to want to hear about it too.

This is a short-and-sweet episode (and it's topsy-turvy, with the other stuff coming after the main part of the show, rather than before.)

But don't be fooled by its brevity. We talk about something big! So big, maybe it can only be glimpsed at by us. I am excited to share, somewhat different, episode with you.

Plus in Parenting News: I read from a recent Miss Conduct column on in-laws, and parents, and boundaries – and how you can feel good about yours. (Ninja parents: click here for the live, members-only call which comes up in today's Parenting News! If you're not yet a member, but you would like to become one, click here.)

PS If this is a holiday celebration time of year for you, I hope it's wonderful!

Join us!

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. We're doing a series right now on what to do when you feel like a failure, and who among us hasn't felt like that at some point? Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/310

Dec 24 2019

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Where life takes you, with Sunny Gault, mom and creator of the Parents On Demand podcast network | Podcast Episode 309

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I love this conversation. It's different from many of the others I've done, a little less focused on children and family… And more focused on how today's guest, Sunny Gault, found fulfillment within herself and built a career in helping other parents find fulfillment.

Consequently Sunny is able to love and support her family, as they love and support her.

Come with me on a deep dive into one mom's journey. You may, as I did, recognize yourself in Sunny's choices, thoughts, and actions.

You may also, as I did, learn a good deal about how you might build that fulfilling life yourself!

Join us!

Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter

Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. We're doing a series right now on what to do when you feel like a failure, and who among us hasn't felt like that at some point? Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created some great resources to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks and activity books.

Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/309

Dec 17 2019

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"It's the middle of the night and my child is awake. What do I do?" | Podcast Episode 308

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This question came directly from a ninja parent with this problem: "I can't identify a trigger but [my three-year-old] wakes up sometime around 1 to 3 AM and is just wide-awake and mad that it's not morning yet. Any tips on sleep stuff?"

In this episode we talk about what to do when your child wakes up in the middle of the night and doesn't want to go back to sleep.

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. Past editions have included how to make it so your child wins the parent lottery (even if you did not), and helping when your child is frightened. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/308

Dec 10 2019

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How to stop school from screwing up your child, part 4 | Podcast Episode 307

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Welcome to the fourth and final installment in our series about school, and how it can screw up your child, and how to make sure that that does not happen! Today we discuss the dangers that come with someone feeling continually assessed, judged, and evaluated. I work really hard to give you ideas to overcome this challenge.

Plus in Parenting News: I share about this documentary that I first watched in college as a human development major. (Based on this documentary… Some of what's in the other is also here, but there is more here that is not covered in the other. I recommend watching them both!) Recently it came up again, and I'm excited because I get to share with you today!

Also! If you can be at the Bancroft Memorial Library in Hopedale, Massachusetts this coming Saturday 12/7 between noon and 3 PM, come say hi - I'll be there as an author in their local authors book fair : )

Join us!

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. Past editions have included how to make it so your child wins the parent lottery (even if you did not), and helping when your child is frightened. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/307

Dec 03 2019

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The right age for soccer | Three-year-old tantrums!! | Night Terrors | Disrespect | A Q&A for Episode 306!

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It's almost time! -- NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday!

In this episode find out: – What's the right age for starting soccer – What to do with your three-year-old's tantrums – How to handle night terrors in your young child – How to deal with disrespect We're bringing you some GREAT questions from the parents I work closely with in our private, online community! (If you're not a member, but you would like to become one, click here.) I hope it's helpful as you head into this Thanksgiving week! Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/306 <3

Plus in Parenting News: Since Max and Jay were very small, we have made Arlo Guthrie's 18-minute, recorded-live song Alice's Restaurant part of our Thanksgiving tradition. Today I explain why. (FYI – You may want to listen on your own before introducing this song to your children, as it does get into some themes you may not deem them ready for yet.)

Join us!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Nov 26 2019

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How to have best Thanksgiving Day ever | Bonus Podcast Episode

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Surprise! Bonus episode on how to have a happy Thanksgiving!

Special thanks to Graham Smith and Kirsten Dunlap of the Welcome Home podcast, and Desirae Endres of Minimal-ish, for sharing in this edition of We Turned Out Okay… We are connecting our shows, each of us with a "Best Thanksgiving Day Ever" in a pod hop, similar to the blog hops of old!

FYI: NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday! (I literally don't even mention this in today's episode, but I wanted you to be aware of it in case you were interested : )

To have your best Thanksgiving day ever, you must deliberately focus in – choose – what you want more of.

How do you have a happy Thanksgiving? It'll depend on your focus.

Today I share 4 ways I'm thinking about, 4 things I'm choosing. Maybe you'll want to focus on them too!

Links to the Welcome Home and Minimal-ish versions of how to have the best Thanksgiving Day ever, as well as all the links I talk about today, are available at: weturnedoutokay.com/bestThanksgiving !

Nov 21 2019

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Are academics good for young children? Podcast Episode 305

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NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday!

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As a preschool teacher I used to get asked all the time about when we would be teaching reading. Or writing. I could see the stunned disbelief on parents' faces when we'd tell them "we don't teach formal academics, children learn everything they need through play." It's patently awful, and damaging, to force kids into academic learning too soon. And yet it's done all the time. In this episode we discuss why, and what to do about it.

Plus in Parenting News: I have been getting a lot out of the Live Above the Noise podcast, and so I want to highlight that for parenting news this week!

Join us!

(Links to everything talked about in this episode, plus a cheat sheet about the ideas we discussed, at weturnedoutokay.com/305 : )

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Nov 19 2019

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How to stop school from screwing up your young child, Part 3 | Podcast Episode 304

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"Fortunately the children have no words to define the panic and anger they feel at constant violations of natural order and sequence fobbed off on them as quality in education." – Jon Taylor Gatto, Dumbing Us Down

Everyone likes to know what is going on, we like to have some context in our lives.

So do our kids! In this installment of our "How to stop school from screwing up your child" series, we discuss what aspects of school can sew confusion in children, how detrimental that truly is, and what we can do about it.

Cheat sheet on helping kids feel secure, sure of themselves – as well as the key links that come up in today's episode – are available at weturnedoutokay.com/304

Plus in Parenting News: This fantastic documentary about the life of Fred Rogers. As I share here, I couldn't understand why it would be rated PG-13. And then I started watching it. (Here is the newsletter I wrote about this documentary: How I frightened my three-year-old.)

Ninja parents: I mention in today's Parenting News segment that I just created a forum post in NPC inviting you to share a piece of news that you would like to see featured in this space. Click here to read the post, and to share your Parenting News!

Join us!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Nov 12 2019

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"What we resist persists": Talking with Mindful Mama, Hunter Clarke-Fields | Podcast Episode 303

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We talk with the Mindful Mama Mentor, Hunter Clarke-Fields, in this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Hunter is a parent coach who found real solutions to her own anger and frustration with meditation and mindfulness. She is a force for good, and I am so excited to bring her on the show!

The title of this episode was very nearly "Mindfulness: A Cool Parental Brain Hack," which is how today's guest characterizes this state of mind in the latter part of our conversation. I love this idea, that mindfulness can help us wrap our brain better around child-rearing and everything that comes with it.

I hope you get tons out of this conversation with Hunter Clarke-Fields, of the Mindful Mama Podcast. I know I did!

Plus in Parenting News:

I plan to be at an event that might interest you, if you can be at the Newton Community Farm in Newton Massachusetts on Saturday, November 9: A movie screening, and author signing! Ken Danford, author of Learning is Natural, School is Optional, a book I am currently reading and loving, will be on hand to sign copies! And us attendees also get to see a movie about self-directed learning and how cool it is. Hope to see you there! (Click here to sign up for the event : )

And we talk about social-emotional learning in schools, and how it's positively impacting not just the kids, but their families, teachers, administrators, and guidance counselors.

Join us!

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Here is the link to this episode: weturnedoutokay.com/303

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Nov 05 2019

1hr 27mins

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Why does my young child talk about killing and death? | Podcast Episode 302

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"This morning we were reading a space book and [my three-year-old] was talking about how he was going to kill the astronauts. Aggressive talk really freaks me out."

When one of the parents I mentor in the Ninja Parenting Community posted this recently, I knew that you might be hearing "aggressive talk" with your child as well.

Why DO kids seem to talk and think so much about death, and killing?

We get into that today, and I share 3 ways you can address what might seem an unhealthy obsession with the macabre.

Plus in Parenting News: We discuss this recent Boston Globe article, about young schoolchildren not being given enough time to eat their lunch, the problems parents are seeing as a result, and what they are doing to try to make it better.

Also! I plan to be at an event that might interest you, if you can be at the Newton Community Farm in Newton Massachusetts on Saturday, November 9: A movie screening, and author signing! Ken Danford, author of Learning is Natural, School is Optional, a book I am currently reading and loving, will be on hand to sign copies! And us attendees also get to see a movie about self-directed learning and how cool it is. Hope to see you there! (Click here to sign up for the event : )

Join us!

Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter

Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. Past editions have included remaining calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other, and helping when your child is frightened. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Access the cheat sheet on the three ways to help when your child seems overly excited by death and killing; plus links to everything we talk about today, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/302

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Oct 29 2019

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301: How to Not Let School Screw Up Your Child, Part 2 | Podcast Episode 301

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There are lots of reasons why we want our kids to become independent, in their actions and their thinking. (If for no other reason than, when our kids are independent, we do less for them. This means we are happier, and also it helps help our children understand the joys of being part of a system in which we all work together.)

Today's episode is about how, if we're not careful, we might be teaching in the opposite.

Today we discuss the possibility that simply attending school could make our children dependent on others for their intellectual and emotional well-being – and how truly dangerous that is.

Plus in Parenting News: My latest book, Educating Happy Kids: 9 Ways to Help Your Children Learn What They Need to Know, is available for you to buy! And it has the CUTEST cover! If you want to learn about educating your child in the way that will help them be happiest, click here and read this book.

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Access the cheat sheet on fostering your child's inner intellectual and emotional development, plus links to stuff discussed in this episode, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/301

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Oct 22 2019

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Episode 300 Extravaganza!

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We're celebrating today, 300 episodes of We Turned Out Okay! I am super excited to welcome back beloved guests Tricia Tomaso, preschool teacher extraordinaire, and Janine Halloran, coping skills expert, for a roundtable discussion talking about social and emotional learning, and if schools actually do screw up kids… And we're also answering your questions in this tri-centennial episode!

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/300 for the bazillion links we discuss today… And FYI Parenting News, and Magic Words for Parents, will be back next week.

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Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Oct 15 2019

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Is it ADHD or normal behavior? Podcast Episode 299

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"I am still just so scared these challenges are going to last forever, and school and daily life will always be a struggle. It's so hard to see the stuff other kids can do that [my three-year-old] just can't."

If this lament – if these fears – sound familiar, I hope today's episode will help.

Raising children is a hard job, especially when you're worried about a child's behavior, and if it's normal or not.

In this episode we've got 5 ways for you to feel better about the bad behavior, and how you're doing as a parent!

Plus in Parenting News: A wonderful, funny, sweet TED talk by comedian Julia Sweeney on her chat with her eight-year-old about the birds and the bees. Watch it – without the kids around, at least at first – to determine if it might be useful to you, when it's time for you to have that same talk. And also to smile.

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Read more about the 5 ways to feel better (mentioned above), and check out the links for this episode, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/299

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Oct 08 2019

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298: How to Stop School from Screwing Up Your Kid, Part 1 | Podcast Episode 298

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This episode almost didn't make it. Not because I don't think it is wicked important. I do think that. But because I worried about hurting your feelings.

Ultimately (as you'll hear in the first five minutes or so) I decided to bring it to you, because from everything I'm seeing, school is broken. Systemically. In the long-term, I hope we can work together to fix it. But in the short-term, we need to make sure that it's not screwing up our kids.

Plus in Parenting News: This TED talk by Allison Legerwood, "A Simple Trick to Improve Positive Thinking." Much-needed and much appreciated!

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Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

(Here is the link to the show notes for this post: weturnedoutokay.com/298)

Oct 01 2019

46mins

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How to handle your child's tantrums and bad behavior: Bonus Podcast Episode

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Reminder: join my Ninja Parenting Community for $1 for your first 30 days! But only by joining before October 1!

“Thank you for all of your help! You have truly changed our lives and helped navigate some massive life changes and I am so grateful!” – Mama Llama, Mom of a three-year-old boy and NPC member

"Karen helps me feel like I actually know what I am doing.” – Steve, Dad of 3-and-5-year-old boys, 1-to-1 Parent Coaching Client

Click here for details – or check out the fancy-pants button I made by going to this episode's show notes : )

In this bonus We Turned Out Okay episode I offer 3 tools to help you cope with your child's aggressive, bad behavior:

  • The first helps you put your child's behavior in perspective so it does not overwhelm you
  • The second helps you create the best conditions for positive behavior from your child
  • The third helps you feel good about your parenting journey

I hope you find it helpful!

Click here for the show notes for this episode, which include the video version of today's episode, a full transcript, and the aforementioned fancy-pants button so that you can join the Ninja Parenting Community at the Friends and Family membership rate!

Sep 26 2019

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Talking with Biz Ellis and Theresa Thorn of One Bad Mother! | Podcast Episode 297

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I am super excited to bring you a conversation with two of the most beloved people in podcasting, Biz Ellis and Theresa Thorn of One Bad Mother!

Take note: there WILL be swears, so listen away from your kiddos…

Also I totally mess up in describing a genius moment of my own! (I guess that's a fail at a genius moment : ) So in the preshow I try to rectify that.

Biz and Theresa are such generous people that, while I'm sure they were looking at each other with extremely confused "why is this a genius moment?" looks on their faces, they pressed on and shared so much amazing support for you. For me. For us. For any parent who feels shamed, unappreciated, like a monumental screwup. Biz and Theresa want you to know: you're doing a great job! And I want you to know: they are right <3

Watch my video on what to do when your young child is super aggressive, and how to keep your cool when the going gets tough, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/parentingtools

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where I took questions for Biz and Theresa – and where you can ask questions of future guests! (It's also where I do a Facebook live every Monday called Magic Words for Parents, sharing a quick word or phrase for you to take into your parenting week : )

Plus in Parenting News: My new favorite TED talk is called "Where joy hides and how to find it." It's amazing, and illustrates a factor that's crucial to enjoying family life.

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Click weturnedoutokay.com/297 for lots of links from our conversation!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Sep 24 2019

1hr 22mins

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Great listening

By HassanImame - May 06 2019
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Recommend this to fellow parents and grandparents

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By julian kimm - Apr 22 2019
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Awesome podcast. Taught me a lot about parenting