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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."

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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."

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Great listening

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Recommend this to fellow parents and grandparents

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Awesome podcast. Taught me a lot about parenting

iTunes Ratings

92 Ratings
Average Ratings
65
8
4
7
8

Great listening

By HassanImame - May 06 2019
Read more
Recommend this to fellow parents and grandparents

Knowledge

By julian kimm - Apr 22 2019
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Awesome podcast. Taught me a lot about parenting
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The We Turned Out Okay Podcast

Latest release on Jul 07, 2020

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What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."

Rank #1: Bonus: Join the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

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If you want to: – Handle afterschool activities, bedtime routines, and homework like a ninja parent – Work better with everyone who looks after your child – Deal with the time crunches and scheduling issues that come with the parenting job – Feel better within yourself

I've got a 21-day challenge to help you!

Streamline your whole life during these 21 days (which begin as soon as you join, no need to wait at all), work closely with me on your toughest parenting conundrums, and feel like a new person at the end!

I'm running a holiday season special, so you get the benefit of the challenge at half off the normal cost… But only for a few more days, the special ends Tuesday, November 28.

Click here for details and to sign up for the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

Nov 26 2017

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Rank #2: The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent's Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)

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Working with parents of young children,

one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase.

It's dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids, which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it.

You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have.

Today I share: – Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent's vocabulary are – Why these words get used so often – What you can say instead for good behavior from your child

Today's episode helps you get past the bad behavior so you can fulfill your ultimate goal of truly enjoying family time!

Read more about these two dangerous words and what to say instead… Find every back episode of the We Turned Out Okay podcast… Sign up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class… All at weturnedoutokay.com/219.

Happy listening!

Apr 03 2018

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Rank #3: 175: "How can I get my kids to listen to me the FIRST time I ask?"

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Today we take on one of the toughest issues of all: getting our kids to listen to us.

This is something every parent deals with and in recent weeks I've been asked about it more than once.

Stephanie says "they seem to have come to me without the ability to listen;" Jocelyn says she struggles with "kids not listening and obeying the first time I ask (or the first ten times)"…

Is this you? Do you find yourself standing in the kitchen sometimes, with your son or daughter in the next room, and your voice is getting louder and louder and you're clenching your fists and rolling your eyes… And still you're not getting the response you need?

Well then, today's episode is for you.

Listen by going to weturnedoutokay.com/175 – that is where you can also sign up for the Streamline Your Mornings challenge, starting September 4 and helping you quell the weekday-morning chaos!

Aug 08 2017

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Rank #4: 046: How to Really Hear Your Child – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Carey Andersen, Tuesday's guest in episode 45, had so many wonderful and inspiring things to say; we can learn a lot from her positive approach to balancing family and work – and the fact that she does it all with multiple sclerosis. Our chat this past Tuesday isn't a prerequisite to today's Your Child Explained episode, where we always get right into the minds of our children and see what makes them tick. But go back and give it a listen if you can; posted during one of the busiest weeks of the year for many of us, the lead up to Christmas, my talk with Carey Andersen will have you remembering why we do everything that we do!

Today, I'm thinking about a story Carey told regarding the terrible lottery placement her five-year-old ended up with for his kindergarten year, and how the appeals board allowed him to move to a more suitable school based on his very simple declaration:

"I don't have enough time to play."

Carey and her husband heard that simple sentence and knew they needed to make a change for their son, and it got me thinking about what can happen when we really hear our children.

Even when they are pre-verbal, they might be trying to tell us a simple truth – and it's up to us to hear it.

In real time, this episode drops on Christmas eve, and if your life is full of Christmas crazy, and you still made the time to listen, I hope that today's episode gives you something that you really need. For my part, I want you to know how much I appreciate that you listened! I wish for you a peaceful and wonderful time as we start to say goodbye to 2015.

Dec 24 2015

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Rank #5: "When they misbehave the most, that's when they need us the most." Speaking with Dr. Laura Markham for podcast episode 255!

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When a coaching client of mine recently

posted an article by today's guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham.

As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too!

Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids.

I hope our conversation helps you gain a better understanding of this whole parenting thing. It sure helped me!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer. While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/255 for:

  • Links to Dr. Laura's website, which contains tons of resources for you
  • Information on my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out in the world!!
  • The video of the week: "How to get my kids to stop fighting with each other"

And thank you so much for listening!

Dec 19 2018

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Rank #6: 055: How Kids Look at Challenges: A Your Child Explained Episode

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In this Your Child Explained episode, where we always try to get into the heads of our young kids, we look more closely at how kids face challenges. Today's show digs more deeply into one aspect of episode 54, which dropped Tuesday and features mom and New York Times best-selling author Jessica Lahey. While episode 54 is not a prerequisite to today's show, take a listen back if you get the chance because our conversation will really help you wrap your mind around the idea of what works – and what doesn't – in helping your kids overcome setbacks and challenges.

For the full notes to today's episode, click here click here to go to weturnedoutokay.com/055… If you're listening on your iPhone and that link is not clickable, here's what you do: tap the three little dots on the right, opposite the title of this episode, which pulls up a very useful menu. In that menu, click View Full Description, and that will make the links clickable. Enjoy!

Feb 11 2016

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Rank #7: 026: 3 Ways to Make No Sound Like Yes

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Did you know that, by the time we are five years old, we've heard "no" 40,000 times? And that in that same span of time, we've only heard "yes" 5000 times? (I learned that reading The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson, a great book by the way.)

While it's true that "no" is important – for safety, if nothing else – this n-word can really bring us down… As Jeff puts it: "Eight times as many noes as yeses. Eight times the force holding you down, compared to the force lifting you up. Eight times the gravity against your desire to soar."

Today, I share with you the primo ninja parenting tactic of them all… Make no sound like yes! Here's how:

1) Actually say yes. When they ask "Mom, can I have an ice cream?" you respond "sure! Right after dinner." If it's "can we play play dough?" and if there isn't time at the moment, you respond "absolutely – as soon as we get home from the doctor." This works in so many situations, and have the added bonus of making us parents feel somehow lighter and happier… because no sucks and yes is nice.

2) Keep your cautions to yourself. If your mouth says "yes" but your body language, facial expression, and tone communicate fear and worry, your child won't hear the yes. Worse, if you say yes and then come up with 10 reasons why your child shouldn't climb that tree, or go barefoot, or eat the Halloween candy you just told him he could eat, are you really saying yes? Not really… This is where we need to be angels, not balloon poppers.

3) Use "yes, and…" A great turn-no-into-yes tactic for transitional times, try this one when your child wants to do one thing and you know that you need to do another… "Mom, can we play play dough?" "Yes, we can play now for a bit and will keep going with it when we get back from the doctor."

If you take just one thing from this episode, I hope it is this: our words matter. The more yeses we can squeeze into a child's day – more noes we can eliminate – the lighter and happier we will all be.

How are you changing "no" to "yes"? Please share! Either go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact or leave a comment right at the bottom of this post. I can't wait to hear your innovations!

Sep 22 2015

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Rank #8: 014: How to Take Great IPhone Pictures with Andre Nguyen of iPhoneographyinsiders.com

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I'm so excited about this episode, part of our Summer Camp series in which we are setting aside our usual four themes (3R's, Unplanned Adventures, Kids through the Ages, and Risky Business), pouring a nice tall glass of iced tea – or Long Island Ice Tea, depending on your age and what time of day it is – and going on vacation! We will return to our regularly scheduled programming in September, but for now… Let's just enjoy summer!

Great news! During our interview today iPhoneography teacher Andre Ngyen offers you a week's free coaching by email! You can find out how to get this bonus by listening to the episode. Speaking as a student of his I know you're not going to want to miss out; his great ideas will help you take fantastic family vacation pictures!

If you want to see the pictures I took with Andre's guidance, click here – that will take you to last week's blog post in which I previewed the pictures we talk about in today's episode. Enjoy!

If you have any desire at all to capture great summer memories, great photographs of your kids and family – and pets – using just your iPhone, then you are going to love today's guest. Andre Nguyen of iPhoneographyinsiders.com is first and foremost a talented photographer, but most importantly he really wants to help the rest of us take great pictures.

Today's conversation includes lots of fun stuff: summer memories, dog stories, my excitement about sharing when I got to go see this amazing art installation in Boston on the Rose Kennedy Greenway… and because Andre gave us so many tips and apps, I'm going to list them here:

  • the first, easy and fun, is to simply tap the light source on your phone to completely change the amount of light in the picture; in other words, if you want a picture of your husband kissing the top of your baby's head with his son in the background, tap the sun – you'll end up with a silhouette picture! Really, really cool
  • next, be playful – take a variety of pictures of the same scene, in which you have tapped different places on the screen (which left in different amounts of light), try different poses, see if you can capture your kids jumping in the picture, use your imagination
  • when indoors, capturing enough light can be tough for the iPhone which results in grainy photographs where you literally see many pixels; Andre recommends using a strong light source and once again tapping on that light source on the iPhone screen
  • a great app: photographer's ephemerist, which tells you the angle of the sun, and exactly where it will be setting in the sky, on any given day; Andre uses this to plan his sunset photography, knowing exactly where and when the sun will be passing specific buildings, and then he can pull out his iPhone and play
  • another great app, Slow Shutter Cam,which allows you to let more light in and thus get cool blurry effects – if you take Andre's suggestion of doing a selfie on a merry-go-round with your children, please send it along! This sounds like the coolest idea in the world, my boys are too old for merry-go-rounds, I gotta see this in action :-)
  • Andre's favorite website for getting prints of his photos is called artifactuprising.com, where he's gotten beautiful print of his pictures at decent prices
  • on instagram, Andre goes by@AndreHarrison, and I just know you're going to want to head over to instagram and check out his artwork, which is amazing! You can also find it at his two websites: techminimalist.com and iPhoneographyinsiders.com

Once you start taking amazing pictures using Andre's tips, please email me some pictures! You can do that by going to weturnedoutokay.com/contact, or just emailing Karen@weturnedoutokay.com. I can't wait to see what you come up with!

Jul 14 2015

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Rank #9: Controlling behavior, consequences, and connection with your young child | Podcast Episode 311

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Continuing in this end-of-year "big idea" line of thinking, one of our beloved Ninja Parenting Community members recently asked a huge, and great question:

"How can I relax and enjoy our relationship more and not feel like I'm always on the edge of discipline mode or like I should have handled things differently [with my 3-year-old]?"

Effectively she's asking: do I have to control my young child's behavior all the time, or is there anything else besides that?

Today's episode is my response.

Video, the notes I posted in NPC, and links to everything we talk about are located at weturnedoutokay.com/311

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Dec 31 2019

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Rank #10: 005: Four Risks To Our Kids' Well-Being That We Take Far Too Often

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Sometimes as parents, we think we are limiting the risks to our kids by taking an action – or backing away from an action – when instead, their well-being and happiness would be better insured by doing something completely different. In this episode, I highlight four common things parents do (I know this, because I did them too!) where it would be better to go in the exact opposite direction.

Listen for:

  • the dangers of sticking close by your child's side at all times; when we do this, we take away his or her chance to develop independence, creativity, and problem-solving capabilities
  • the risks of using antibacterial soap; this one keeps me up at night, and it's pretty clear that it also keeps scientists and other super-smart people up at night too
  • how we fail our children when we don't question a teacher or other authority figure who insists that our child has ADHD or ADD; while there is some risk that our son or daughter may have these or other learning disabilities, I share that during my years of teaching young children – and earning my Masters in Early Childhood Education – these diagnoses are given out far more often than they should be; increasingly, kids are put in an environment that is far too restrictive… In short, it is my opinion that schools, and not children, are often the problem when it comes to kids' misbehavior
  • the importance of comics – yes, cartoons, graphic novels – in a kid's journey towards becoming a reader; when adults ban comics, or even disrespect them, we run the risk of limiting our kids' ability to thrive as readers

Whether you agree or disagree, I encourage you to really give some thought to the above Four Risks. Reasonable and intelligent adults can disagree, but the biggest risk of all that we can take is not giving consideration to any big issue that affects our children while they're young, because the effects of our choices compound when they are grown up.

May 12 2015

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Rank #11: 156: Letting Kids Experience "Natural Consequences" – A Parent-Coaching Call for Today's Your Child Explained Episode

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Today, we're bringing you another great parent-coaching call with one of our Ninja Parenting Community members!

Like many children, Sabrina's youngest daughter struggles with the family's morning routine. She likes to be independent, she doesn't like "to be told," and oftentimes she is not hungry for breakfast before school.

Sabrina brings up a whole host of issues having to do with routine, following the rules, and the natural consequences of a child's actions.

If you're experiencing any concerns in any of those areas – and with kids, who isn't? – you're going to love today's episode!

Click weturnedoutokay.com/156 for the show notes and key links in today's episode, including the link to a book Sabrina has found helpful, It's Okay Not to Share.

May 11 2017

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Rank #12: 166: Tell Don't Ask – A Ninja Tactic That Really Works

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Have you ever had it happen where you're asking your child to do something, and he or she is saying "no"?

Depending on your child's age or developmental maturity level, I bet you hear that word – "no" – an awful lot.

Today's ninja tactic digs into one way to cut down on the noes!

It's all about giving kids directives instead of asking, which sounds simple but in reality can be pretty complicated: when do we give them choices, ask questions, and when is it time to give a directive and communicate to them that "this is not a choice"?

Click weturnedoutokay.com/166 for show notes and key links to this episode!

Jun 27 2017

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Rank #13: 017: Our First Q&A, and 4 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Challenging Situations

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This week, we take a temporary break from We Turned Out Okay's Summer Camp series so that I can help you know how to talk with your children when a challenge arises.

Sometimes, even in beautiful summer, bad things happen, and today I share about the tough situation my family and I have found ourselves in over the last several weeks. But rest assured – we've still got three lovely, golden August weeks left to enjoy summer and we will do so!

One last thing before we get into the notes, this show has an epilogue, so after I have said "thanks for listening, see you next time" you still want to keep listening – I have something to share about both the Q&A, and about our dogs.… Not exactly a Hollywood ending, but a better one then I had ever thought could happen!

A Breakdown of Today's Show

Today's show is split into two parts, but before I get to those there is a really neat thing I wanted to share – friend-of-the-podcast Muttaqi Ismael, an amazing whiteboard video artist, has turned a favorite part of We Turned Out Okay: episode 5 – Four Risks That We Take With Our Children's Well-Being Every Day into a fantastic whiteboard video! He's a very talented guy, and to see the video just go to weturnedoutokay.com/017, where it is embedded… My plan is to give the video its own blog post during this month of August. Meantime, enjoy! And thank you Muttaqi – you did a great job!

Our First Q&A!

And now on to the Q&A – Jill asks: "why are my three kids awesome at swim lessons when daycare brings them, but when mommy brings them I'm practically holding their hand in the water (and that's if they actually get in the water) – we've been doing swim lesson since March BTW"

We've all noticed this at some point in our parenting lives, haven't we? Why do they behave incredibly well for somebody else, and freak out for us? Jill, I'm so glad you asked this question because it is such a common concern. My answer dives (pun totally intended) into my experiences with how my kids behaved when they were small at Grandma's versus how they behaved with me – and I recorded the epilogue because, almost as soon as I hit stop recording this episode, I realized that I had been in a very similar situation to yours!

I hope you find my answer helpful, and that it helps you think of other questions to ask. I love Q&A's, I think they're so helpful and also they help us know we are not alone. To submit a question, you can email Karen@weturnedoutokay.com, go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact, friend me on Facebook, find me on twitter@StoneAgeTechie, on instagram@weturnedoutokay… Heck, you can even snail mail me! My address is PO Box 61, Bellingham, MA, 02019.

4 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Challenging Situations

The main part of this show focuses on the four ways you can help your child cope with challenging situations. This came up because my family has been in a very challenging situation: about six weeks before this episode aired for the first time, we adopted two amazing, awesome dogs… And then the stress of caring for them caused a relapse in tendinosis, this condition that I live with that, at times, has left me unable to walk (which I've since relearned) and with extremely limited upper body and hand use.

Long story short, these wonderful dogs entered our lives and within a very short time, we had to give them up. Truly, it was either them or my health and sanity.

In this episode, I share about how heartbreaking and difficult this has been. But I also share about how grateful I am to have had them in our lives, and how amazed I am by the strength and gentleness of both my husband and our two boys.

Most importantly for you, I share about how we got through this. Because when you are in a tough situation and you don't know how to help your kids get through it as well, it's really helpful to have a guide. I hope you will think of this podcast as your guide!

Here are my four steps to coping with challenging situations, and helping your kids cope as well:

1) communicate with your kids; they WILL know that something is wrong, and consequently you will notice, if you try to keep everything from them, an uptick in bad behavior, anxiety, and tears; sharing with them what you can on their level reassures your kids and helps them trust you

2) help them understand that you are all in this together; be there for tears, questions, reassurances

3) find a way for them to help; children need to be needed, and when you give them a job – a truly meaningful job that truly helps you, however small – they become part of the solution

4) cherish the time we have with our loved ones; because challenging situations often include the absence of a person that they used to see a lot – whether through divorce, or death, or a cross-country move – it is really helpful to talk with our kids about how people come in and out of our lives; sometimes, people are not meant to be with us for long, or not without long intervals between seeing them, and the most important thing is to appreciate the time we have with our loved ones, and cherish the memory of them when we are not with them

Giving up our dogs due to my illness is one of the hardest things we've faced as a family. I'm sharing this experience with you today because I really hope it will help you with the challenges that inevitably come up in your life. Kids are amazingly resilient, and cope well with life's challenges, especially when we grown-ups take the time to communicate with them, share in grief together, find meaningful ways for them to help, and above all teach them to enjoy the time we have with the people we love.

Aug 04 2015

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Rank #14: 080: An Awesome Parent Ninja Tactic for When You Are At Your Wit's End

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Today, I share possibly my all-time favorite ninja tactic for parents! This is the one to bring out when you are ready to go and have a meltdown of your own.

Instead of doing that… Do this: use the First/Then ninja tactic to make transitioning your child from what he wants to do to what you need him to do easily understandable – and a lot smoother!

Today's episode is the first of two chapter studies, where we focus on one chapter of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics: Key Tools to Handle Every Temper Tantrum, Keep Your Cool, and Enjoy Life With Your Young Child.

I hope you get a lot out of this study of Chapter 5: Use First/Then, a tool I used all the time to keep sane when my boys were small.

Click here or go to weturnedoutokay.com/080 to listen, and click here  or go to weturnedoutokay.com/episode-80-first-then to download your FREE guide, all about how to create a First/Then chart to bring out when you need a concrete tool to help you help your child!

Jun 07 2016

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Rank #15: When to potty train, How to potty train? Podcast Episode 245

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When should you start potty training your child?

[caption id="attachment_1787" align="alignleft" width="150"] Don't you wish your kid looked this happy sitting on a potty?[/caption]

How should you potty train your child?

I've done some research on these two questions, and let me tell you, they are asked really often in Google.

Is this on your mind? Or, are you already trying to potty train, but hitting serious roadblocks? Then, today's episode is for you!

In it I share 3 ways to know if your child is ready for potty training, and also 3 tips on how to actually accomplish this feat.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/245 for:

  • A positive way forward in potty training your young child
  • The intro video to this epic course I just created, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure. You can watch the intro and see if the course would be helpful for you!
  • The 3 most important things to remember about potty training

And thank you so much for listening!

PS Today I share about a course I just finished that I'm really proud of! It's called Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, a comprehensive guide to potty training your young child in even the most difficult of circumstances, and you can check it out by clicking here. Or if you'd rather, get the first lesson FREE! Click here to have Lesson 1, "How to make this take the shortest amount of time possible," dropped right into your inbox!

Oct 02 2018

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Rank #16: 028: YCE - Listener Q&A, and Your Child Explained, The Screen Time Edition

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I love shows like today's, when a listener has written in and I get to respond on the air!

Today, Melissa asks how to help give her young kids the support they need in the outside-of-school hours. Here's what I suggest: that Melissa and her husband give their children some control over what they do in their out-of-school time. Listen in for more details!

The other reason I love today's episode is that it is a Your Child Explained! This is where I get to do something I'm pretty good at, which is understanding what's going on inside your child's head and giving you tools to use in your quest to be a less-worried, more-happy Old-School Parent.

In this Your Child Explained we get into screen time; episode 27, which aired this past Tuesday in real time, featured the postmortem (finally!) with journalist and mom Heather Kempskie. Heather was on over the summer to share about her amazing family trip in an RV, and I went and blew it by accidentally deleting the second half of our interview about the trip… So this past Tuesday, Heather came back on – our first returning champion – to share about the ups and downs of RVing. A big part of our conversation centered on shutting off the Wi-Fi and how that felt for her kids during their trip, and it resonated so much with me that I wanted to talk more about what happens inside our kids' heads both during screen time, and after screen time.

Oct 01 2015

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Rank #17: 209: Surviving Your Child's Toddlerhood – A Conversation with Heather Spohr of the "The Spohrs are Multiplying" Blog

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Today's guest has a new book out, The Toddler Survival Guide, that I know you'll love because it is practical, funny, and endearing.

And, as soon as I heard author Heather Spohr's voice on the day of our interview, I knew that it would also be those three things… But it turned out to be a lot more.

We talk about Princess Leia, potty training – and grief. Heather and her husband Mike lost a child to illness, when their daughter was just three years old, and what I love about Heather is her ability to share about the tough stuff while staying extremely positive.

So, listen for the laughs, listen for the connection, and read Heather's new book to remember that you are not alone, if you are (or have ever been) the parents of toddlers.

But also listen for Heather's description of the support that a strong community brings, whether real-world or virtual.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/209 – and thank you for listening!

Jan 23 2018

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Rank #18: 195: What to do about endless whining and when they waste food – a Parent-Coaching Call for today's Your Child Explained Episode

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Today is one of my very favorite kinds of shows, a Parent-Coaching Call with an NPC member!

– – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor'easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic "How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind" mastercourse. The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll! If you can't make it to the modules live, you'll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom - plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.… To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – –

In each parent-coaching call, NPC members disclose their struggles and I put my years of experience with young children and degrees in early childhood education and human development/family relations to work, figuring out exactly what steps will help most (and fastest). It's an exclusive benefit for members of my private coaching community, and the great thing is that even if you're not a member, you get answers to mind-bending parenting conundrums as well!

Here are the issues that Jen is seeing with her 5-and 3-year-old daughters: 1) What to do about endless whining, when all the tools in the toolbox have been tried – redirection is not working, making no sound like yes is not working, and her head is about ready to explode?

2) What to do when the girls take one or two bites out of an apple and then want to throw the rest of the apple away, or similar food conundrums, usually having to do with snacks, especially those that "don't portion out well"

If either of these seems familiar, you are going to LOVE this episode.

NPC members: view the expanded notes and action steps – and read about how Jen did with these issues – by clicking here (just remember you must be logged in to view). Not a member of the Ninja Parenting Community? Click here.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/195 key links : )

Nov 09 2017

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Rank #19: Bonus: How Children Learn to Read

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Here at the beginning of the school year, teachers are doing their initial assessments, figuring out who of their students is how far along the literacy timeline.

It can be a worrisome time for us parents – what if our kids don't read when they're supposed to? What if they tell you "reading is boring"? What if they hate reading?

We all know that reading is THE key to our children's future success… but how do you get them to want to read?

Today's bonus episode digs into the two most important factors in getting children to be happy readers.

Click here to listen, and to sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge, which starts Monday, October 2!

Sep 21 2017

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Rank #20: 213: The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting

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Are the frightening and persistent questions of life weighing on you right now?

Today I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn't leave me alone…

Today I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too.

This minicourse is all ready for you over at weturnedoutokay.com!

It's called The Three Secrets of Happy Parenting, and today's episode is also the intro to the course.

Sign up by going to weturnedoutokay.com/213!

And thank you so much for listening : )

Feb 20 2018

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338: When they don't want to wear clothes; square one with sharing; talking about death with kids; when they push each other's buttons just for fun – it's a Q&A today!

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Today we're answering your GREAT questions! – "[My young daughter] is going through a phase of not wanting clothes on. Do I just not battle it? What's appropriate at 4? How do I instill the importance of being careful without taking away her sweet innocence? Or am I totally overthinking this?"

– "This week's hot topic is sharing and temper around that. The minute [my three-year-old's] little brother walks in the room (even if he hasn't messed with her stuff yet) she goes right to screaming at him and throwing stuff… I'm struggling with getting her to react in a bit calmer way. "Understandably, she is having a lot of trouble letting other kids play with any of her toys. I get it, we haven't had to share in a long time. I'm just wondering if there are some good strategies or advice for starting back at square one was sharing, and also talking nicely to others even when angry."

– "My four-year-old was playing with her toys saying "this one is dead, it's in the dead place" (inside the toy garage) then when I needed a shower "Mummy you need to go to the shower and be dead"… How can I talk about death at an appropriate level for children?"

– "They don't stop fighting with each other – they push each other's buttons just for "the fun of it."

(I said they were great questions : )

If You're Struggling to Keep Going During this summer I'm using my newsletter to share about my own journey, trying to find peace and stop feeling so guilty while working, running our household, and keeping going sustainably. Last week I shared about my first step (stopping "obsessively checking" on the Internet, and (as I share in this episode) it's going well! But I know I've got a long way to go… If you want to come along on this journey with me, I'm sharing about it in my newsletters. Click the link below to get them automagically delivered to your inbox! Weturnedoutokay.com weekly

Tons of links today! You'll find them - as well as a cheat sheet of answers to these questions - at weturnedoutokay.com/338

Jul 07 2020

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337: Addressing our own burnout, AND beloved parenting author Audrey Monke is my guest today!

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As a child development expert, I want to help you keep going in our new reality! This conversation, recorded during March 2020 (in other words at the very beginning of the pandemic here in the US), I know will be super helpful for that.

I am excited to bring you my conversation with the author of one of my favorite parenting books (it's called Happy Campers) – Audrey Monke of sunshine-parenting.com is today's OkayCon 2020 guest!

Audrey shares: - How to stay positive, even while everyone is cooped up together – Some great family-focused activities you can do to make your stuck at home time more enjoyable – What lessons Audrey, her family, and counselors and campers (who attend the summer camp Audrey owns and runs) are learning from this time

Learn how to keep going: In my (free) Weekly Parenting Newsletters I am taking you on my journey of recovering from burnout, exhaustion, and huge feelings of guilt. I am working to feel at peace with myself – to keep going, raising my kids, keeping our household running, and feeling happy inside – and if you want some tools to help you accomplish those miracles, click this link! Weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

NPC Summer Camp registration ENDS Wednesday 7/1 One way parents have been feeling way better, recovering from exhaustion, handling their kids' fears, clinginess, and potty training issues: the Ninja Parenting Community. Get access to everything in the community and enjoy a summer camp program created just for you, if you are looking for connection and positivity in our new reality! I am closing registration to NPC on Wednesday, July 1 at 9 PM EST – enroll today, and take that first step toward being able to feel at peace with yourself and (sustainably) keep going! Here is the link, jump in while there is still time: weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

(go to weturnedoutokay.com/337 for notes to this episode) We will get through this together! Cheers - Karen

Jun 30 2020

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336: Listener Q&A – Sibling jealousy and Adoption

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"Would you have any recommendations for books or anything that might help with learning the best ways to integrate an older adopted child into a family, or good books on adoption and advice?" "How to divide my attention between my 1 YO and my 4 YO… I try to give exclusive mummy daughter time but it's never enough."

These are the first two questions in our Q&A series… I hope they are helpful!

A Summer Camp program for you Towards the end of the episode I mention NPC Summer Camp, a new program I'm offering to help parents of young children not just get through, but live IN, summer 2020. Opening Ceremonies are this coming Friday!

Spend your whole first month in my online coaching practice for parents (NPC) for FREE – exclusively for podcast listeners and folks in my email group – by clicking here (offer ends Wednesday, June 24, so enroll today!)

Then you'll be all set for summer camp! We'll have lots of fun, keeping each other company and taking control of our family's direction in this, a summer like no other.

Camp activities are aimed at helping you enjoy family time even in this year's difficult circumstances. Join now, spend your whole first month in NPC for free. I can't wait to see you in our community forums!

For the adoption and sibling jealousy links that come up today, click the following link: weturnedoutokay.com/336

And hang in there. We will get through this together!

Jun 23 2020

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335: Why bother

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I am super excited to bring you this conversation with Jennifer Louden, whose extremely helpful books (including the one we dive into today, Why Bother?), have sold nearly a million copies! Jennifer has been featured in hundreds of podcasts, magazines, and TV and radio shows – even appearing on Oprah.

In today's conversation you will learn: – How to really give a hoot about your life again – Why it's crucial to LIVE in tough times, instead of just trying to live through them – Appropriate discipline for when your child gets into mischief (specifically writing on walls with magic marker, but what we discuss applies to whenever a kid gets into trouble)

Go to jenniferlouden.com for answers to this question, posed there: "How do you bother after heartbreak, after creative and career defeats, after loss, after sidelining your dreams to pay off the debt, raise kids, or take care of aging parents?" But first, listen to our conversation!

Need something positive in your life this summer?

I'm excited to share a new program I'm offering: we are having summer camp in the Ninja Parenting Community! In addition to the courses, challenges, and other great stuff to keep you sane while raising your little kids, NPC Summer Camp includes: – Weekly camp activities that help you be a better parent, like making a vision board, or a "house rules" sign, or a treasure hunt to take kiddos on, or a "no occasion needed" fun family surprise – Supportive and fun Members-Only Campfire Nights – The sense of belonging to a community of people who get it, and who are along on this parenting journey with you

NPC Summer Camp dates: Friday, June 26-Friday, August 7, 2020. Enroll now to enjoy family life this summer!

Exclusively for podcast listeners and folks signed up for my weekly newsletters, click here to get your whole first month for free!

(Offer ends Wednesday, June 24, and NPC Summer Camp begins Friday, June 26, so jump in now!) Can't wait to see you at summer camp!

Click here to see this post in your browser : )

Jun 16 2020

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334: How to raise anti-racist kids

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"It's as if we are going through the 1918 flu pandemic AND the Great Depression AND the Civil Rights era, all at once." That's what James Arthur said on his podcast, Minority Korner, in (and about) Spring 2020. I think he's right. To get through it all we are going to have to work together! That's the spirit in which I bring you this episode. In this conversation on racial justice between my friend Shane Sams, and his friend Talaat McNeely, Talaat shares that we each must "Make change within our sphere of influence." Well, my sphere of influence is in teaching parents like you how to get your family going in the direction you want. Today I link that idea up with getting this nation going in the direction we want: one in which everyone is treated fairly, and where parents don't have to worry about their children being harassed, assaulted, or murdered because of how they look. I hope this episode, all about raising anti-racist kids, will help you make these crucial changes within your sphere of influence.

FYI: Free live training course on raising good, kind kids – This week I'm doing not one but two live trainings, teaching on how a parent can change a child's bad behavior to good… and one common mistake that well-meaning parents often make when trying to raise good, kind kids. (In other words, something that ups the bad behavior, when they're trying to reduce it. It's not a mistake you want to make.) Click weturnedoutokay.com/kind to sign up for the live trainings, this coming Thursday, June 11 and Sunday, June 14!

Because of my white privilege, I have been able to insulate myself. I've been able to not see some important truths that have been right in front of me. I have remained ignorant, when I should have been seeking education.

This week one of my friends, a white man from Kentucky, had an amazing conversation with one of his friends, a Black man from Chicago. Talaat McNeely and Shane Sams spoke for an hour and 45 minutes, and I was astounded and ashamed at the stories Talaat told. Things that have personally happened to him and his kids, just because of the color of their skin.

I was: – astounded by the differences in our experiences, Talaat's and mine, which only came about because he happens to be Black, and I happen to be white. No one should ever, EVER be treated the way Talaat and his family have been treated.

– ashamed because I let it happen. The simple fact that it is happening means that I have not done enough to stop it.

Talaat shares five key steps that we can take to stop racism. (I don't remember to bring up the first and most important one until we're almost at the very end of today's episode, so all along you'll hear me talk about four key steps… But that first one is most important. Talaat brings it up right at the beginning of his conversation with Shane. It's something you hear me talk about on the show again and again, and I still can't believe it took me until the last part of this episode to talk about it in connection with stopping racism.)

There are about a million links today, so for those and a description of the five key steps we can take to stop racism – to raise anti-racist kids – click the following link: weturnedoutokay.com/334.

We need each other now, more than ever. If you are reading this and you're a person who (as the Black Panthers used to say) is Black or oppressed, you have my empathy, and my pledge to become educated instead of remaining ignorant about what has happened to you, and the part I have played in your troubles. If you're a person of privilege, I hope that like me, you're open to moving forward on the path from ignorance, to education. And from there to support. We will get through this together <3

Jun 09 2020

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333.5: When you feel small, helpless, and afraid, listen to this.

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(FYI: about 10 or so minutes in, I use the word "jackass" once or twice... it's not enough for an E-rating, but I want you to be aware just in case you want to listen away from sensitive ears.)

Hi Friends,

I had planned for, and drafted, a very different kind of post today for you (I got about a dozen spider bites while sleeping Saturday night, and we've got a very large ant invasion going on in our kitchen; my abandoned draft was largely about these.)

But as I wrote I realized how truly small and insignificant these concerns of mine are.

There is a lot going on in the world, and a lot going on in the news.

And I wanted to start the week off with a simpler message.

I wasn't sure what that message would be, except somehow I wanted to transcend the fear, the worry, and the struggles that we are seeing in the news, and even in our own homes.

My family and I just finished virtually attending the closing ceremonies for the year at my son's school, and the Executive Director George Popham teared up saying the following:

"If there's one important thing we should be doing, it is to put good, kind people in the world."

Immediately I knew that that was the message I wanted to share.

This morning when I woke up, and even as I began to write this email, I was feeling helpless and small and afraid. (And itchy from spider bites, if I'm being honest.)

Hearing George's words made me feel much, much better.

We have a really important mission, us parents: It's to put good, kind people in the world.

If we do nothing else – absolutely nothing! – besides this, I believe it will be enough.

And if I can be helpful to you, as you are working on this mission, that would fulfill something deep in me.

I have lots of ideas and experience working with young children, and spent nearly a decade working in an outstanding, cutting-edge preschool program. I earned my bachelor's degree in Human Development and Family Relations, and later my master's degree in Early Childhood Education.

I've spent the last six years helping parents rein in their children's bad behavior and truly enjoy family life.

I know a lot about what makes kids tick, and how we can alleviate their bad behavior, and thus connect with them and feel happy within ourselves as we raise them.

If we're going to raise kind people, we can do that best by making our environment is positive and kind as possible. If you're struggling with that, I hope I can be helpful for you!

I just built a page on my website, weturnedoutokay.com/bias, where I gathered many of the resources that have been helping me learn to combat racism – a huge part of raising good and kind kids.

I've also got lots of other free resources, including 332 back podcast episodes, and an entire Virtual Summit that I put on in response to the pandemic this past April. You can spend more in depth time with me each Wednesday evening by joining the WTOO Book Club, which is free to join, and can be free to read the book if the purchase cost is a barrier for you. And I am running a special right now, until this coming Wednesday, June 3, on entry into the virtual coaching practice where I personally help parents with their biggest challenges, trying to make this as affordable for you as possible.

Lastly, if you've got any parenting questions at all I hope you'll go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact and ask. We will get through this, together.

Cheers, Karen

Jun 02 2020

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333: How are you holding up? 3 ways to keep going

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"I feel like I'm completely alone trying to meet completely insatiable needs for days on end." That is what one of the moms in my online coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community, wrote early last week.

She's not the only one. Not by a longshot! In this week's episode I share my best ideas for getting through a crisis. Even a slow-motion, simultaneously-terrifying-and-tedious, pandemic-induced crisis like the one we're in now in June 2020.

If your energy, patience, and/or well-being is flagging, first of all let me offer HUGE hugs! Listen to this episode for some practical things you can do to get through the toughest of these tough times.

Join us!

Links that come up today:

Parenting Masterclass For the all-summer-long live Masterclass series, "Parenting in Place," which features lots of WTOO beloved guests and friends, like Audrey Monke, Jessica Lahey, and Devorah Heitner, click here! (I'm signed up for it, and I hope you'll sign up too!)

Ninja Parent Playbook! Want to be a part of the (extremely limited) first-ever issue of the Ninja Parent Playbook? This is the brainwave I mentioned briefly in last week's episode – a newsletter to help you keep going, anchored by a calendar that gives you some small step to take every day. But it's so much more than that. It's part workbook, part inspirational thinking, part marching orders to keep you on track. It's packed with informative and thoughtful ideas to help you not just "live through" this (or any) crisis – but really, truly LIVE. If you want to bring your family safely through hard times, while feeling not just as if you're scraping by but as if you are happy within yourself and in your family, you need this newsletter! It's a monthly publication that comes in your mailbox! (If you're outside the US at this point it needs to be a PDF into your email, although I'm hoping that will change in the future : ) Click the link below to sign up: weturnedoutokay.com/playbook

WTOO Book Club Click the following link for the WTOO Book Club (we are reading Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book and one that really gets to the heart of how to have a happy family life) weturnedoutokay.com/bookclub

Grand Reopening sale ends Wednesday, June 3 Earlier I mentioned the Ninja Parenting Community, my online private coaching practice; Wednesday, June 3, 2020 is your LAST day to get a special quarterly rate – 3 months for the price of 2! Click this link for details: weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

Click weturnedoutokay.com/066 for my conversation about consent, with Amy Anderson.

Click weturnedoutokay.com/332 for last week's conversation with special needs preschool teacher, and close friend and colleague of mine, Tricia Tomaso (the episode comes up today because I shared last week about the brainwave that has become the Ninja Parent Playbook : )

Click weturnedoutokay.com/333 to view this post in your browser.

And again huge hugs! We will get through this together <3

Jun 02 2020

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332: Helping your child through the pandemic, with special needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso

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FYI: NPC Grand Reopening sale : ) I have been working hard behind the scenes, creating a 5-module course on “How to keep going” and a training on “how to handle your child’s angry outbursts,” not to mention spring cleaning in the Ninja Parenting Community… the response from NPC members has been wonderful! I'm excited to reopen NPC registration so you can get the help you need coming through the pandemic <3 Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC – and save 33% when you sign up by Monday June 1!

I am so excited to bring you this installment of OkayCon 2020 with beloved WTOO guest, special needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso!

Tricia helps us: – Work out a routine to make our days a little easier right now – Help our kids through what they’re struggling with – Keep going, even when we feel like we kinda can’t

I hope you find our conversation as helpful as I did!

Click this link for this in your browser: weturnedoutokay.com/332

Also: Join the We Turned Out Okay book club!

I wrote a newsletter recently on how to handle it if you’re feeling anxiety in the pandemic (and after). Click the link below to read it: https://weturnedoutokay.com/it-is-normal-to-be-anxious-when-everything-is-changing/

To watch the Free Virtual Summit I created in response to the 2020 coronavirus pandemic – this conversation today was recorded for OkayCon 2020, when Tricia (along with 8 other presenters volunteered their expertise and time to help us through) – go to: weturnedoutokay.com/OkayCon2020

We will get through this together <3

May 26 2020

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331: How to handle your child's rage

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"My biggest struggle is with my five-year-old. When she is angry she scratches, bites and sometimes hits. She also yells very loudly. I would love some advice on how to get her to stop."

A listener wrote in with this question, and I knew it would probably resonate with many listeners.

Like us adults, kids are experiencing lots and lots of angry feelings – more so than pre-pandemic, without the usual outlets or often even the ability to leave the house and get a change of scene.

It can be difficult for adults to deal with our own rage, after years and decades of experience… It's so much harder for kids to deal with their rage.

They need our help! Today I share a 3-part formula that I hope you find helpful in handling your child's angry outbursts.

We've also got an impromptu Parenting News, featuring the following: The Forge article "Your Only Goal Is to Arrive," about how only one thing really matters right now in bringing our families through the pandemic.

A new book – Why are You Still Sending Your Kids to School? – from friend-of-the-podcast and expert in raising self-directed learners Blake Boles. I share the Amazon link here, but Blake asks that you consider purchasing it through "local bookstores, which could certainly use the business right now." (I share about this book both in the Parenting News, and also in the main part of this episode. I think it's required reading, not just in handling your young child's rage, but also in raising resilient and happy kids. Highly recommended!)

Join us!

Notes, including tons of links and a cheat sheet of the 3-part formula to handle your child's angry outbursts, are at weturnedoutokay.com/331 : )

Also: I have been working hard behind the scenes, creating a 5-module course on "How to keep going" and a training on "how to handle your child's angry outbursts," not to mention spring cleaning in the Ninja Parenting Community… and in this episode I share when registration opens once more for NPC! The response from NPC members has been wonderful, and I'm excited to open up the community for those of you who want the extra support coming through the pandemic. Listen in to this episode to find out when registration opens, if you need that supportive community, and help from an expert in child development.

Join the We Turned Out Okay book club!

I wrote a newsletter recently on how to handle it if you're feeling anxiety in the pandemic (and after). Click the link below to read it: https://weturnedoutokay.com/it-is-normal-to-be-anxious-when-everything-is-changing/

To watch the Free Virtual Summit I created in response to the 2020 coronavirus pandemic go to: weturnedoutokay.com/OkayCon2020

We will get through this together <3

May 19 2020

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330: What should kids be learning during the pandemic?

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FYI if you want some company, some learning, and some stories, join the WTOO Book Club! During our first meeting I am sharing about a truly low point in my own parenting, and asking the question "how do we come back from crummy parenting moments? Join us Wednesday, May 13 at 9 PM EST – click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get the link to the meeting! Hope to see you there : )

I am so excited to bring you this conversation today, which will be so helpful as these weeks of confinement and social distancing spool out… Today I get to share my conversation with Terry Louison. Terry is an educator, a self-directed learner, and the program director for Baystate Learning Center (morethanjustaschool.com) – the school my son goes to!

During our conversation you will learn: – What’s most important for kids to be learning right now, during the pandemic – Why that learning doesn’t have to be stressful, for you or your child – Concrete ideas taken from Terry’s own curriculum and plans for virtual teaching

Join us!

Terry's presentation is one of many from OkayCon 2020, the Free Virtual Summit I recently wrapped up! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/OkayCon2020 for all the presentations!

Also: go to weturnedoutokay.com/330 to watch Terry's video presentation.

Hope you are staying well and safe during the pandemic. We will get through it together <3

May 12 2020

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329.5: What is working right now in getting you through this pandemic

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WTOO Book Club – Starting Wednesday, May 13 at 8 PM EST we are doing a chapter-by-chapter weekly read of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics. We will learn to get good behavior from kiddos, share some stories, and spend some time each week together. If that sounds good to you, Click here to join the WTOO Book Club!

Working closely with parents of young children during this pandemic, I’ve seen so many examples of bad behavior:

– Kids smearing peanut butter on walls, dumping vinegar in beds, destroying furniture – Kids pulling pets’ tales, chasing them with scooters, threatening the pets, and their own safety (when the animals retaliate) – Kids getting overly clingy, going back and forth in terms of emotions between overexcited and happy, to abjectly despairing and melting down – Kids reverting from potty training, showing immature behaviors that hadn’t been seen for weeks or months or years – Kids unable to control their rage and angry feelings

And it’s not only kids reacting to the situation with heightened emotions. We are doing it too!

The questions I hear from the people I work most closely with: “I feel so lost. How do I live through this? What do I DO?”

This presentation comes directly from the solutions these parents have found. I am excited to bring them to you!

Today I share 7 things you can do to feel better – these are the ways I'm seeing parents use successfully to LIVE in this right now, as opposed to just living through this. Click weturnedoutokay.com/329 to read the cheat sheet of these steps.

We will get through this together!

In previous episodes I've mentioned how appreciative I am of my town's weekday Emergency Meetings which they post in YouTube. This past week I was invited on the show! (Click here to view!) I talk about how to get kids to wear masks, what to do when you are absolutely at your wit's end, and more. I'm posting it in here because I hope it will be helpful for you, even if you do not live in my town <3

Free Help for Parents in the Pandemic – in April 2020 I created the OkayCon Free Virtual Summit, 10 conversations with experts in fields of crucial importance to you right now (kids' behavior, finances, finding a job, home security, and lots more). These conversations are all available for free, for ever, at this link. I hope the Virtual Summit is helpful for you!

May 07 2020

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329: "How do I say "no" to my child's physical aggression without losing my calm?"

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The pressures of home and family life during lockdown play a big part in today's conversation. Like you, my guest Anne and her family are sheltering in place. Like you, Anne has her good days and bad days – as does her 5-year-old son. But several weeks ago something happened in their family life that caused Anne's son to erupt into angry outbursts: the accidental death of Dilly, the baby bird the family had taken in.

Today, you get to listen in on a coaching exercise to help Anne bring her son back from the brink. (It's the process that I use frequently in my online coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community, to help members figure out what is really going on, and how to start addressing it, to make everyday family life better.) As you'll hear, getting good behavior from her five-year-old means: – Recognizing that her instincts are sound, and that she is doing a great job! – Working with the other adults in the house as a team – Remaining calm and positive, even in these very difficult circumstances

If you need some inspiration and ideas for getting through tough times, during lockdown and beyond, this is the conversation for you!

Join us! And huge thanks to you Anne!

Click weturnedoutokay.com/329 for notes and links!

WTOO Book Club – Starting Wednesday, May 13 at 8 PM EST we are doing a chapter-by-chapter weekly read of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics. We will learn to get good behavior from kiddos, share some stories, and spend some time each week together. If that sounds good to you, Click here to join the WTOO Book Club!

May 05 2020

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328: "What should I do with my stimulus check?" – Money Expert Raeshal Solomon joins me today!

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FYI: I am starting a WTOO book club, a chapter-by-chapter read of my parenting books! If you want to learn to get good behavior from your kiddos, and share some stories, and spend some time each week with me, you can do that starting in May : ) Click here to buy Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, the book we'll start with, so you can get reading!

I am so excited to bring you this conversation, with returning champion, mom, and money expert Raeshal Solomon of mylittlebanker.com! Raeshal knows so much about money and getting out of debt – firsthand; in our first WTOO conversation, in episode 215, she shares how she successfully got herself out of debt.

In our conversation (recorded for OkayCon 2020, the Free Virtual Summit taking place during April 2020; go to OkayCon.com to check out all the presentations!) Raeshal shares: – 6 steps you can take to get your finances under control, during and after the pandemic – How (and why) to "take the emotion out of money" – What you actually should do with your stimulus check

This is a wonderful and extremely helpful conversation. Join us! (Go to weturnedoutokay.com/328 for links and Raeshal's 6 steps outlined : )

I believe that challenging times call for dramatic measures. So I'm upping the WTOO game!

Free Parenting Advice – Click the following link to sign up for my Free Newsletter, where each week you'll get tons of advice and ideas for parenting through the Covid-19 crisis: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Parenting Support Every Step of the Way – We're facing one of the most challenging times of our lives. Like me you are probably feeling all kinds of fear, anxiety, and worry right now.

Besides which, you are also likely sheltering in place with kids – whose behavior is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment!

That's why I've got special help for you during (and beyond) the Pandemic.

For a limited time, I am offering NPC membership at a special rate: $1 for your first month, and then the Friends & Family Monthly Rate, 25% off standard membership : )

So you can get the help and support you need during this crisis, click the link below: weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

Apr 28 2020

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327: Can I train my child to play independently?

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OkayCon FREE Virtual Summit happening now

If you're not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take, go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each Monday and Wednesday evening throughout April! We will get through this together <3

I recorded this before our current "double pandemic" (of Covid-19, and Fear). But it seems especially relevant now:

Can you, or should you, train your child to play independently? Do you negatively impact a child by playing with them often? Do you feel guilty, whether you say "yes, I'll play," or "no, not right now"?

One member of our Ninja Parenting Community brought up these, and many other questions regarding independent play (her questions reference an only child... but this applies to all parents.)

Join us today to listen as I share the answers to these questions! (Click weturnedoutokay.com/327 to view the video and see the notes.)

Key Links:

What we're doing here at WTOO to help you through the pandemic:

All during April's OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we're having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that! Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Find out details about the summit itself: http://okaycon.com

Like me, you are probably feeling all kinds of fear, anxiety, and worry right now. Besides which, you are also likely sheltering in place with kids – whose behavior is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment!

That’s why I am offering a special membership rate, just $1 for your whole first month! It's the Friends & Family rate, available for a limited time at the following link: https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

Our first Pandemic Parenting News:

Click here for the NYT parenting article in which a bouncer, a referee, and a therapist all help you stop your kids from fighting.

Click here for the hilarious and wonderful essay "We, The Hard-Working, Newly Homeschooling Parents of America, have Rewritten the Common Core Standards."

Click here for the Boston Globe article "Seven activities keeping my family sane during isolation."

Click here for @childlifesaver's wonderful post, "How to help kids wear masks," in Instagram.

Wishing you well throughout this unprecedented time! We will get through it together <3

Apr 21 2020

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326: Get good behavior from your child even during the coronavirus outbreak, with Dr. Heather Maguire

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Today's conversation is part of the OkayCon Virtual Summit! - Not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take? Go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each of those weeknights! We will get through this together <3

Dr. Heather Maguire's day job is that of professor, teaching graduate students how to shape children's behavior. My day job is that of parent coach, teaching moms and dads how to, well, shape their children's behavior.

Today we interview each other – so you get the best ideas on how to shape your child's behavior to what you want (and need) it to be, as well as the best ideas on how to homeschool and keep it together during this whole crisis. Even, how to make this into a positive experience, something you and your kiddos can look back on as an adventure that you were on together.

Join us!

Special Parenting Help for You during the Pandemic

Get the help and support you need during this crisis!

I'm bringing Ninja Parenting Community members: – Support through these tough weeks and months – My child-development expertise, so you can cut the chaos in your home – Steps to take that you can feel confident in, right from the start!

I am offering NPC membership at a never-before-seen rate: $1 for your whole first month … and then a 50% discount off the standard monthly rate : )

Join the Ninja Parenting Community today: https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

Go to okaycon.com to watch Heather, and to watch for upcoming presenters at OkayCon 2020!

Click weturnedoutokay.com/326 for notes and links we discuss today : )

Apr 14 2020

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325: Your most important asset in times of trouble

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How, you might be wondering, are we actually really going to get through this time?

You're not alone in wondering that. I have been wondering about it too.

I've also been feeling terribly guilty, any time that I forget we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and find myself enjoying something, or laughing at a joke, or feeling contented.

So today I want to bring you an episode that defines our most important asset, the single most important thing we need to get through this (or any) time of trouble.

I hope you find it helpful! (Click here for this post in your browser.)

Here are all the links I share about today:

1. Click here for the poem that brought me to tears, and also gave me permission to not feel guilty, but to embrace good feelings.

2. Click here for episode 188, my conversation with Mark McGuinness of the 21st century creative podcast.

3. Click here for the McElroy Family YouTube channel, where you'll find the wonderful series Stories From Your Gaffer, read each evening at 5:30 PM Eastern by Clint McElroy, one of my favorite podcasters ever.

4. Click here for The Adventure Zone, where I first heard Clint McElroy – but please, not with kiddos around!

5. Click here for my conversation with Audrey Monke, broadcast last Friday (in real-time) at Audrey's Sunshine Parenting Facebook page.

6. Click here for episode 273, my second We Turned Out Okay conversation with Audrey, about her wonderful book, Happy Campers.

7. Click here for my conversation as a guest on the wonderful #Am Writing Podcast; I share about my experience doing everything digital by voice, after losing the ability to use my hands to accomplish digital – and lots of analog – tasks.

8. If you are a Ninja Parenting Community member, click here for member Jen's success story, about helping her daughter overcome fears about coronavirus and house fires. She did this in such a cool way (I read out the success story today in this episode). Not a member? Click here to become one.

9. Click OkayCon.com for OkayCon 2020, the FREE Virtual Summit going on right now here at We Turned out Okay!

10. Click here to join the Facebook group – that way you can be part of the OkayCon 2020 watch parties every Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM Eastern!

11. I share HUGE news today, about the Happy-in-Place Challenge going on in The Ninja Parenting Community (it starts on April 16, my birthday : ) Right now you can join NPC for just $1 for your first month and each consecutive month thereafter at 50% off the standard monthly rate! You can cancel at any time, so there is no risk… Only the hope, support, and accountability that membership brings. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc for details and to sign up!

Apr 07 2020

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324: Why your child's behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC

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Today we are bringing back – for the fifth time! – beloved guest, an expert in teaching kids coping skills, Janine Halloran LMHC of copingskillsforkids.com. We discuss: – How Janine is thinking about school work and all this extra time at home with kids and family – The kinds of questions her clients are bringing to her right now, in spring 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic – Why a child's behavior is most likely worse than usual right now – What you can do about that, if that's the case in your home

Join us! (Click the following link for the video of our talk, and also notes from today's conversation: weturnedoutokay.com/324)

How are you staying positive? Let me know!

In our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1607987166145505/

in Instagram: http://instagram.com/weturnedoutokay

in Twitter: http://twitter.com/weturnedoutokay

All during April's FREE OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we're having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that!

Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where the watch parties are happening each Monday and Wednesday all through April, by clicking here.

Find out details about the summit itself: http://okaycon.com

We will get through this together : ) Cheers! Karen Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com

Helping parents change kids' behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : )

PS Join my email newsgroup for lots of useful, free parenting tools, as well as lots of info on OkayCon, our Virtual Summit that is ongoing right now: sign up at weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

If you need some extra support, especially right now with all the madness, I'm offering special membership rates if you want to join our private coaching community, NPC. Click here for details and to join, so I can personally help you through this extremely challenging time!

Mar 31 2020

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OkayCon 2020 FREE Virtual Summit starts tomorrow : )

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Hey friends! I hope everyone you love is doing okay. And if you're going a little stir crazy, I hope I can help!

I've been working hard behind the scenes to put together a Virtual Summit, bringing you the best ideas, from experts in their fields, to help you through this double pandemic – of Covid 19, and Fear.

So! Each Monday and Wednesday at OkayCon.com during April 2020 I'm releasing presentations by experts in: – Children's behavior – Home and family security – Helping children through this time – How to find a job if you've been laid off – and lots more!

Each Monday and Wednesday I'm posting the presentation at OkayCon.com, and simulcasting in YouTube and Facebook.

And each Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM EST we're having a watch party in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group – click here to join our group (and use that link to invite anyone you think needs a boost!)

Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get notified automagically about the presentation for that day, and the watch party for that night!

I know this is a scary time. It's scary for me too! But we will get through this together.

I'm so grateful for you, and I am hopeful that I can bring you some help and support right now.

Cheers and I'll see you each Monday and Wednesday (starting tomorrow!) in April for OkayCon 2020 <3

Karen

Mar 29 2020

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323: 32 Ways to occupy stuck-at-home kids (organized by amount of adult input!)

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During our Ninja Parenting Community live members only call last week, many members expressed frustration with all the list of activities coming at us, but the lists are often in a somewhat disorganized fashion.

So I wanted to give you a list, organized by how much time/input required by us parents!

Read the complete list at: weturnedoutokay.com/323

Announcing OkayCon, We Turned Out Okay's FREE virtual summit! All the first week of April 2020, and into the second week of April 2020 (and possibly beyond : ) I am bringing you, completely free, presentations by people with answers you need right now: – How to keep your family and home safe and secure – How to foster the coping skills necessary to get through all this – How to stock up and what to cook right now – How to occupy the hours that you are stuck at home with your kiddo – And lots more! Go to okaycon.com for details (and also to watch starting next week!)

You are not alone. If you've got questions or just feel like you cannot go on, email me and we can talk about it (I share my email address in today's episode)!

Join my Weekly Parenting Newsletter group for support, good information, and ideas for staying sane right now: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Get the extra support and encouragement you need right now by joining our private coaching community, the Ninja Parenting Community – at the Friends & Family rate, $1 for your whole first month - at weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

Also, lots of hugs coming your way for me! We will get through this together <3

Mar 24 2020

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322 Coronavirus anxiety, and How to regulate screen time (new ninja tactic!)

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So, I say I'm going to drop an F bomb in the beginning segment of this episode, but we decided to edit it out, so no worries about earmuffs :-)

Re coronavirus: I had an anxiety attack this morning, before I was even fully awake. To help you in case you are experiencing heightened anxiety right now as well, I start off today’s show with audio from a video series I’m doing on how to feel better during this time of fear, worry, and coronavirus threats.

The video has its own post, with a cheat sheet of the ways I’m finding to alleviate the anxieties, available at https://weturnedoutokay.com/cv2

Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get these videos automagically delivered right into your inbox. We will get through this together 💕

———————- Re the new ninja tactic:

I am SO excited to share this with you, a new ninja tactic that is absolutely great for regulating screen time! Do you struggle with getting your kids to stop watching TV, or the tablet, or stop using your (or their) phone? This is the show for you. I lay out exactly what words to say, to make this work – to get your kids to listen to you and actually control the screen time! Join us : )

Here is the link to this post

Links that come up in this episode: – weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, where you can sign up for the newsletters I send out each week! They are extremely useful, like this one about what to do when your child is disrespectful, and plus I love corresponding with you!

The original post by our NPC member, who first brought this ninja tactic to my attention

creatingchampionsforlife.com, the place our NPC member first learned of this tactic

– Bonnie and Thomas's video, outlining the tactic

Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book, which contains lots more tools you can use in the stressful moments of parenting to get your kids to do what you want them to do : )

weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc, where you can become a member of the Ninja Parenting Community (just as this member did) and learn to overcome the challenges that are stopping you from truly enjoy family time

Thanks for reading, and listening!

Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

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Awesome podcast. Taught me a lot about parenting