Dr. Reedy explores the difference between enabling and authentic behavior in parenting. He also talks about letting go vs. trying to control what others feel, think, and do. He explains how guilt and shame must be dealt with on our path towards greater mental health.

Is it Enabling or Not? (Q&A) - Ep 552

Max Lucado

Dr. Reedy explains attachment theory and how a secure attachment creates resiliency. He reads the children's book, "You Are Special" by Max Lucado to illustrate how a secure attachment is earned and how it helps us to see ourselves as whole and not needing external validation.

Attachment and Book Review of "You Are Special" by Max Lucado - Ep 551

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on parenting older children, medication management, and how family members (older siblings) can support someone while in treatment.

The Underlying Truths in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 550

Dr. Reedy discusses what makes Evoke’s Coaching program unique. He explores what to look for in a coach or a therapist. He also explores the process of therapy/coaching and how it promotes growth and mental health.

Evoke Coaching - Ep 549

Dr. Reedy takes live questions for the audience on questions of the role of medication, nature vs. nurture, epigenetics, and when is a boundary a boundary or when is it manipulation.

The Hardest Questions in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 548

Dr. Reedy travels back in time to present a parent seminar he would present for parents visiting their children for the first time in months. From 1996 to 2010, Dr. Reedy would teach this meeting focusing on letting go, communication styles and assertive communication, and the Cycle of Wholeness (as a basic model for therapy). He provides this updated version to share the information and his current perspective on the skills presented.

Evoke’s Parent Meeting - Ep 547

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses the challenges and the support needed when parenting children who struggle with mental health issues and addiction. He talks about how diagnoses help therapists understand the style of the person's defenses, but that the real task is to find the individual story that explains the symptoms.

Parenting and Mental Health (Q&A) - Ep 546

Dr. Reedy discusses transitions and how they expose our ways of emotional maturity or lack of it; how we can be inclined to regress into old, comfortable ways of dealing with stress. He talks about going home from wilderness and moving on to another program. He explains how family work is best done when we focus on our work rather than how the child or others are doing.

Transitions and Going Home - Ep 545

Dr. Reedy takes questions on various topics from the live audience. He talks about how to respond when children regress or relapse into old behaviors. He talks about not trying to control how the child feels and how letting them feel helps them to move through and let go of emotions.

Responding to Relapse and Regression (Q&A) - Ep 544

Dr. Reedy discusses the proliferation of 30-day, short term programs that are covered by insurance. He talks about the need for longer lengths of stays for best outcomes. He also talks about he unique aspects of wilderness therapy’s experiential approach and how it helps to bypass resistance. He explains that short term programs appeal to families due to their lower cost and shorter length of stay and how these aspects, while attractive, may not be the most effective and lowest cost for treatment in the end.

Wilderness Therapy and Other Short Term Treatment Options - Ep 543

Evoke Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving adolescents, young adults, parents, couples, and families. Email the host brad@evoketherapy.com

Just finished listening to your podcast on 13 Things to NOT Say to You Children and was saddened and inspired. Sad, because I have done every one of them and inspired to have a new vocabulary that will further build on a better connection with my children, especially my son. 

My teenage son has spent the better part of 2019 in and out of FFAS for treatment and is currently in a sober living home.

At his treatment center we also participated in weekly therapy sessions with our son and attended a parent interactive program. It was were I found the courage to reflect on my own behaviors and traumas in order to start the journey to healing. 

I love that I have found your book and podcasts to help further this terrifying and exciting new journey.

Thank You for sharing your experiences, insight and vulnerability with us!

I’m a 24 year old person in recovery from addiction and developmental trauma/codependency. I’m in AA and CoDA. I’ve been listening to your podcast for some time now. I appreciate your introspective insight. It’s thanks to you that I read Alice Miller’s The Drama of The Gifted Child. Your work has impacted me a lot. 
I think your work is sacred,
Thank you.

Appreciation & Gratitude

Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast

Dr. Reedy will discuss attachment theory and how it informs parents and therapists in treatment.  He will provide practical guidance regarding connecting with children and communication skills.  Dr. Reedy will explain how understanding our own history as parents leads to a greater capacity to respond to our children's needs rather than acting in response to our own childhood issues.

Attachment Theory - Ep 101

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about boundaries.  Many parents struggle with boundaries. What is an appropriate boundary? What is fair? What is best for my child? And even...What is a boundary? He will discuss and define boundaries based on the work of Salvador Minuchin and other family therapy pioneers.

Boundaries - Ep 89

Harriet Lerner

Dr. Reedy reviews The Dance of Anger and what it can teach us about boundaries. He talks about how boundaries are hard work and how we use threats, nagging, lecturing, and all other sorts of behaviors in parenting instead of setting boundaries. He also talks about how setting healthy boundaries is akin to developing and modeling a healthy sense of self and helps to foster that development in our children.

Healthy Boundaries based on "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner - Ep 205

Dr. Reedy discusses DBT, the history and foundation and how the principles can help in everyday parenting challenges. Mindfulness, skill building, attachment and radical acceptance are discussed.

Evoke and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) - Ep 128

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses Enmeshment.  He delves into the theoretical background of family system theory, highlighting how lack of boundaries and enmeshment affects relationships.  Specifically, he reviews Murray Bowen and Salvador Minuchin's Family Systems model on enmeshment and describes the the healthy tension of intimacy.

Enmeshment - Ep 87

Dr. Reedy talks about 13 things not to say to your children and the psychology behind the ideas, including things like "I would do anything for you" and "You're too sensitive."

13 Things NOT to Say to Your Children - Ep 290

Dr. Reedy explains Family Systems Theory and how it impacts therapy and treatment. Principles such as homeostasis, triangulation, boundaries, differentiation, and punctuation help us to understand how our children operate inside a system and how a family intervention can be more effective than an individual intervention.

Family Systems Theory - Ep 145

Dr. Reedy reviews the book by Shefali Tsabary, "The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children." He discusses mindfulness in parenting, learning how to avoid reactiveness, and how the foundation of optimal parenting is based in the practice of focusing on one's own work and healing.

Review of "The Awakened Family" by Shefali Tsabary - Ep 169

Dr. Reedy talks about how parents can be dismissive of their children's feelings, especially when feelings and directed at the parent. He describes the narcissistic wound that we all suffer from, to one extent or another. He explains how embracing our unacceptable parts lead to spiritual freedom.

Gaslighting, Parenting, and the Narcissistic Wound - Ep 265

Dr. Reedy talks about codependency and healthy detachment. He offers a definition of healthy detachment and describes the art of boundaries. He suggest healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy connection, attachment, and intimacy.

Healthy Detachment  - Ep 244

Dr. Reedy talks about the 8 Tools he has seen made the biggest impact on the children and families he has worked with for the last 23 years: I statements, listening, clarifying intent, avoiding imperatives and polarizing language, developing a practice of compassion, and taking time-outs. He shares stories and examples of each of the tools as well as how they help foster differentiation in relationships.

8 Tools For Transforming Relationships 2019 - Ep 226

Dr. Reedy give a fave review to Harriet Lerner's Dance of Connection. He summarizes many key points and tools and touts the book as a wonderful invitation to be your "highest self" and be kind to yourself along the way. He talks about how connection starts with Self work and boundaries.

Book Review of "The Dance Of Connection" by Harriet Lerner Ph.D. - Ep 292

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses 12 things not to say to your children.  He talks about understanding what is said versus what we mean to say.

12 Things Not To Say To Your Children Ep 52

Dr. Reedy explains the value of a mindfulness practice. Several readings from Melody Beattie's daily reader, "The Language of Letting Go" are offered and discussed. Topics discussed include letting go, self-care, pain, letting things happen, freedom, and honoring your roots.

A Daily Practice & "The Language Of Letting Go" - Ep 185

Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what to expect during transitions. He talks about how parents can focus on their own relapse and avoid addictive thinking. He explores various ways parents can utilize resources to prepare for the inevitable struggles that occur during and after transitions.

Preparing for Transition: Regression and Relapse - Ep 193

Tina Payne Bryson

Daniel Siegel

Dr. Reedy talks attachment and seeing your child. He talks about the barriers to seeing and hearing your child. And he talks about how the development of the parents' sense of Self is the key to the ability to provide the child with what they need.

Seeing Your Child based on an NYT article by Daniel Siegel M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson Ph.D. - Ep 276

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