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We’re Leslie and Laura Camacho. We created the Glimmering podcast to help ourselves - and others - to think and talk about The Big Stuff. Join us as we learn out loud together on subjects ranging from marriage and mental health to politics and parenting. We’re committed to help each other love deeply, grow successfully, and live justly.

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We’re Leslie and Laura Camacho. We created the Glimmering podcast to help ourselves - and others - to think and talk about The Big Stuff. Join us as we learn out loud together on subjects ranging from marriage and mental health to politics and parenting. We’re committed to help each other love deeply, grow successfully, and live justly.

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Thinking

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You teach us about things we didn’t now we didn’t know. I’m truly grateful.

Grandmama

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It just gets better and better.

iTunes Ratings

36 Ratings
Average Ratings
32
3
0
0
1

Thinking

By kmelsayed - Oct 11 2017
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You teach us about things we didn’t now we didn’t know. I’m truly grateful.

Grandmama

By gailluann - Nov 04 2014
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It just gets better and better.
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Glimmering Podcast

Latest release on Apr 21, 2020

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Rank #1: Episode 87: A Dramatic Turn of Events!

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In this episode, we’re talking about what’s new in Camacho World - turns out, it’s a lot! Leslie talks about being let go (getting fired) while maintaining friendships; Laura talks us through Alana's vision issues, and... well, that's more than enough really.

This is a super casual, barely scripted chat about job stuff, health stuff, new adventures, stress, and hope. If you like to hear about our personal stuff, this is the episode for you! ;)

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  • Growing Pains: Transitioning from an Entrepreneurship to a Professionally Managed Firm: Eric G. Flamholtz, Yvonne Randle: 9780787986162: Amazon.com: Gateway — Since it was first published in 1986, Growing Pains has become a classic resource for understanding how start-ups can make the transition to become large, professionally-managed organizations that maintain the special spark that launched them. In the fourth edition of Growing Pains, authors Eric Flamholtz and Yvonne Randle have thoroughly revised and updated the book to include new ideas and concepts including information about strategic planning, Sarbanes-Oxley, family businesses, and overcoming growing pains, as well as new examples and cases of companies.
  • Leslie Camacho | LinkedIn — Leslie is the espresso-swilling, D&D-rolling, latino nerd of the Glimmering team. By day he's helping agency owners succeed by improving every aspect of their operations and processes so the owners and talent can have better lives, increase profits, and create happier clients. After hours, he's into hiking, cycling, playing obscure board games, WoW with Laura, and chilling with the kids and dog. He likes his metal like he likes his politics, progressive.

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Apr 01 2019

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Rank #2: 062 – Emotional Labor Pt. 2: The Great Divide, What Makes Division of Labor Difficult for Entrepreneurs

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We do our best to figure out why we work together so well in our business but why we revert back to a terrible, draining, backwards 1950s style when it comes to home & family. In part one we succeeded in figuring out what the big picture problem was and in part two we take a deep dive into what may be causing it so we know where to improve.

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  • Arlie Hochschild created the term ’emotional labor’ in 1983 in her book, “The Managed Heart.
  • Will It Fly? by Pat Flynn (Amazon Affiliate link)
  • Living Forward by Michael Hyatt (Amazon Affiliate link)
  • Crafting a Rule of Life by Stephen A. Macchia (Amazon Affiliate link)
  • A (kind of silly) online estimator of who does what around the house: “Chore Wars.”
  • A helpful guide on how to “Negotiate a Fair Division of Household Work” from the University of Rhode Island.
  • A fun and insightful video by “Song a Day” maker, Jonathan Mann (he and his wife overcame this issue with kanban!)
  • “Among couples we studied, on average, men worked longer hours outside the home, yet even in families where women worked equivalent or longer hours and earned higher salaries they still took on more household responsibilities. When our data were merged with the Chicago Sloan Study of 500 working families, we learned that men spent 18 percent of their time doing housework and took on 33 percent of household tasks, whereas women spent 22 percent of their time on housework and carried out 67 percent of household tasks. Women performed over twice the number of tasks and assumed the burden of “mental labor” or “invisible work,” that is, planning and coordination of tasks. Moreover, leisure was most frequent for fathers (30 percent) and children (39 percent) and least frequent for mothers (22 percent).” ~ From an excellent article in The Atlantic, “The Difference Between an Happy Marriage and a Miserable One: Chores.”
  • Another nicely toned article from the Atlantic on spousal chore distribution: “Spouses Probably Shouldn’t Try to Split Household Tasks Exactly Evenly.” “Husbands help wives (and wives husbands) not because they “owe” each other, but because that is what spouses do. In fact, if you are out the point where you are figuring out who owes what to whom in terms of hours or percentages, something has already gone wrong. Counting hours is a sign of a problem, not a potential solution. …housework is a feminist issue—and why both men and women need to work to stop it from becoming the whip that makes one spouse the master and the other the dog. But I don’t think you keep this from happening by splitting housework equally. Rather, you keep it from happening by remembering that your spouse is not your debtor, but your spouse. The goal is not to clear your ledger, but to live with each other, and love each other, day in and day out for the rest of your lives.”

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Mar 05 2016

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Rank #3: Episode 86: Kids and Media Consumption 101 - Let’s Start with the Science

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In this episode, we’re talking about kids and media consumption - what does science say about screen time? How do we sort out the fear mongering from the useful data? What are our own practices in the Camacho household, and what might we want to change?

Leslie introduces the topic with some thoughts on the balance of screen time and other activities. We talk about how we want our kids to enjoy a wide variety of activities without relying on digital media to keep themselves entertained.

Laura presents her thoughts on the research on screen time. The data is inconclusive. While scientists have made some observations in some populations, even those are not consistent across all populations. Laura rants about the tons of junk "science" reports acting like correlation is causation, and villifying screen time as the source of all evil and unhappiness in the world. The bottom line is, this is a new area of research and it's going to take probably another decade to be able to make any conclusive statements.

The only evidence that shocked Laura was that across many studies, kids are apparently averaging around 6-8 hours of entertainment (not including in-school or homework-related) screentime per day. The Camacho household limits kids to 2 hours of screen-based entertainment on most days, so this left us feeling like maybe our concerns about how much time our kids are on screens are misplaced!

If you read nothing else on the subject of screentime, this NPR interview with Jordan Shapiro, a Temple University professor whose background is in philosophy and psychology, is golden. Shapiro's guiding principle of parenting in the digital age is engagement and relationship.

Laura loved this because it goes back to the basics of episode 80: the most important indicator of raising successful adults is parents who created a warm, trusting, emotionally-connected/involved relationship with their kids. We need to do this for our kids within the digital world.

We have to engage digital content alongside our kids, and teach them when they are very young how to be discerning of the content they consume, compassionate in their treatment of the people hidden by their avatars, etc.

Leslie takes a turn ranting about privacy issues, brain hacking, and the general evilness of Big Tech - knowledge from which we should not shelter our kids.

We circle back to a sense of optimism: This isn't as fraught as it seems; we just have to be realistic about our situation. We have entered the digital age, we are parents of the digital age, and our parenting is going to have to evolve if it’s going to be effective. Ironically, that evolution only needs to widen the same basic principles of good parenting (connection, trust, conversation) to include the digital world.

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Mar 21 2019

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Rank #4: 061 – Emotional Labor Pt. 1: What are we even talking about?!!!

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In this episode, we are dig into Emotional Labor, a major issue that impacts our relationships at home and work in deep, unexpected ways. This is a complex topic, often weighed down by years of bad habits, gender equality issues, and uninvestigated family of origin issues. The only way through is to talk it out, so we get the conversation going with many tears and lots of kindness.

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Feb 27 2016

1hr 2mins

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Rank #5: Episode 84: Soul. Food. - From Food Shame to Mindful Eating

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CW: This episode has references to personal experiences with disordered eating and calorie and food restriction, and includes us eating (no sounds!) and responding to food.

Thank you for listening to the Glimmering Podcast! Help support us by leaving a star rating or review in iTunes, sharing our posts on social media, or becoming a patron. Supporters on Patreon will get a sneak peek of Leslie's new podcast!

In this episode, we talk about our own hangups with food consumption and explore how mindfulness could help us bring our Love Deeply ethos into meal time.

Mindfulness is defined as the act of focusing attention on present-moment experiences. Mindful Eating would then be: focusing the whole of your attention on the details of your food/eating experience.

Leslie initially hates this idea, but Laura explains it a bit and he adjusts. Laura talks about how she's discovered that instagramming her food has become the way she prays before a meal, and how that in itself is an act of mindfulness and intentional gratitude.

Laura briefly goes over the emerging scientific evidence of mindfulness being an important health practice, and mindful eating sharing some of those benefits. She reminds us that Zen Buddhism has been teaching this for thousands of years and that it can be a good thing without Western scientists telling us "why." Leslie admits his love of Western medicine-backed empirical evidence.

Then we do a little mindful eating practice with actual food. Here are the questions we ask each other as we partake. We were both surprised by some of our responses!

  1. What if food is an expression of love - for each other and our bodies?
  2. What if we saw each bite was a gift to our bodies?
  3. What if we gave ourselves permission to just enjoy what we eat when we eat it, instead of thinking about how we can rid our bodies of its calories later?
  4. What if we loved our bodies enough to listen to their needs:
    what food they wanted
    when they wanted it
    and when to stop

If you try eating mindfully after listening, or are a veteran of mindful eating yourself, we would love to hear about your experience!

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Feb 06 2019

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Rank #6: Episode 83: Food Waste

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Thank you for listening to the Glimmering Podcast! Help support us by leaving a star rating or review in iTunes, sharing our posts on social media, or becoming a patron. Supporters on Patreon will get a sneak peek of Leslie's new podcast!

This is the second episode in a quarter-long deep dive into the general theme of Consumption. This episode is headed up by Laura about Food Waste - a look at the food we don’t eat: why we don’t, where it goes, and how to do better - all through a “Live Justly” lens.

In this episode, Laura talks about how an estimated 40 percent of food in the United States goes uneaten, and according to even the most conservative estimates, Americans waste 160 billion dollars worth of food each year. One of the biggest wastes of food happens at the farm - overproduction, weather or insect damage, and perfectly good crops left to rot because of labor shortages.

At the consumer level, confusion about sell-by dates contributes most to food wastage. We take some time discussing how arbitrary and unscientific sell-by/use-by dates are, and then have a quiz based on real-life questions from Laura's secret food group friends.

Next, we discuss two big areas of injustice happening with regards to food waste.

Human justice: people are still hungry. 15 million American households in 2017 experienced food insecurity. That’s almost 12% of our population. While food banks do valuable work for communities, the root of the problem is a political one. Overproduction is possible because it's so cheap to produce food - because we underpay our food workers from farm to table.

In "The High Cost of Cheap Labor," Philip Martin, a professor of agricultural and resource economics at the University of California, Davis, concludes that raising farmworker wages 40 percent across the board would add a mere $21.15 to the annual budget of every American household. (Remember, we supposedly waste almost $2000 worth of food per family of four, per year.)

We touch briefly on the atrocity of prison labor. You can find more articles on that in the show notes.

Secondly: Climate Justice. Carelessness with overproduction is causing great harm to the environment. The energy that goes into the production, harvesting, transporting, and packaging of food that ends up in the trash, generates more than 3.3 billion metric tons of carbon dioxide. Then once it is in the trash, food waste in landfills is responsible for 23% of all methane emissions and 4.5% of all U.S. greenhouse gas emissions [source].

Finally, we talk about what we are doing in our household to reduce our food waste; what's happening at a local level; and what needs to happen globally. Packaging waste is a big problem, especially since Americans are bad at recycling properly, and we talk about a new initiative to eliminate single-use product containers for big brands in many households.

Ultimately, it's up to us to do what we can, where we can.

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Jan 29 2019

51mins

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Rank #7: Episode 82: Dry January

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In this episode Leslie talks about his decision to forego alcohol for 31 days as part of "Dry January." After a brief explanation of what Dry January is, he answers Laura's questions about how it's going, what he hopes to gain from the experience, and to what charity he's donating the money he's saved on not buying alcoholic drinks.

We also talk about the new (hopefully more emotionally sustainable for Leslie) structure we are testing out: Keeping a broad, quarter-long theme, we will offer a handful of shorter more explainer or interview-style episodes about one aspect of the theme, capstoned with a longer, maybe heavier conversation episode like you’re used to us doing. Will it work out for the long run? Who knows! But we're going to give it a try.

So, this is the first episode in a quarter-long deep dive into the general theme of Consumption. The next few episodes will be about Food & Drink - how we consume, what we consume, etc. Our goal is to have conversations that invite all of us to be more mindful and intentional about our consumption.

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Jan 15 2019

28mins

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Rank #8: Episode 81: Identity Wrap Up + 2018's Top Ten Extravaganza!

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In this episode, we share a few last thoughts on the Identity series, including our experience attending the UU fellowship two weeks in a row. Leslie reports that he's quite confident about his choice to no longer call himself a Christian - it feels like an act of protest.

We talk a little bit about what has changed for us, and for the podcast, in 2018 since we moved our identity from Marriage Startup to Glimmering, and added the "live justly" aspect to our focus.

Next is a back and forth "Top Ten Extravaganza" of stuff that impacted our lives in 2018. Laura's autoimmune brain fog is fully on display, as Leslie mentions several major highlights of the year that she didn't even think of, like our trip to Italy and getting a dog.

Finally, we look forward to the New Year and what 2019 will bring both professionally and personally. Leslie's working on a new project just for fun (and self-edification), and Laura is excited to announce that Wild Goose Guidance is baaaaack! And New Moon cards are going to be free again. You can read all about it here.

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  • What it’s like to get fired for being gay in 2018 – Jeremy Gimbel – Medium — This wasn’t the year I expected to become a target of homophobia. Not in 2018, not anymore, not since we’ve come so far. But indeed that’s precisely what happened. And so without further introduction, here is the story of a very special Christmas gift that American Bible Society delivered to its staff in December 2017.
  • John Leguizamo's Latin History for Morons | Netflix Official Site — In this one-man Broadway show, John Leguizamo finds humor and heartbreak as he traces 3,000 years of Latin history in an effort to help his bullied son.
  • Syllabus found in the playbill for Jon Leguizamo's Lation History for Morons — All the books from the official Latin History for Morons playbill conveniently collected at Goodreads.
  • Headlong Podcast: Surviving Y2K — December 31, 1999: The world braced for disaster as midnight approached. Then, nothing happened. The hysteria over the Y2K computer bug quickly became an afterthought; a punch-line. In Surviving Y2K, Dan Taberski takes you back to the turn of the millennium to meet the people for whom it was anything but a joke — computer coders, conspiracy theorists, survivalists, and true believers — as they each face their own version of the apocalypse.
  • Good Christian Fun Podcast — Good Christian Fun is a comedy podcast delving into the strange upside-down world of Christian pop culture. Hosts Kevin T. Porter and Caroline Ely are your tour guides through the weird and hilarious world of faith-based entertainment. GCF is a show for skeptics and believers alike, all are welcome. Don't worry, we won't make you go to church. ;)
  • Postcards To Voters — Postcards to Voters are friendly, handwritten reminders from volunteers to targeted voters giving Democrats a winning edge in close, key races coast to coast.
  • Home - Resistance Labs — We leverage technology and our army of passionate, remote volunteers to help progressives run and win everywhere.
  • Seeing White – Scene on Radio — Where did the notion of “whiteness” come from? What does it mean? What is whiteness for?

    Scene on Radio host and producer John Biewen took a deep dive into these questions, along with an array of leading scholars and regular guest Dr. Chenjerai Kumanyika, in this fourteen-part documentary series, released between February and August 2017.
  • Panda Planner® Weekly — The planner that Laura is using this year.
  • The Hate U Give — One of the most memorable books Laura read (listened to) this year.
  • Potion Explosion — Laura's favorite family game of 2018.
  • My Little Scythe — The board game Leslie mentioned at the top of the show.
  • The Essex Serpent — Set in late nineteenth-century England, about an intellectually minded young widow, a pious vicar, and a rumored mythical serpent that explores questions about science and religion, skepticism, and faith, independence and love.
  • Esther Perel's books and podcasts — Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. We agree!
  • MaryRuth's Vegan Liquid Morning Vitamin — I didn't end up listing this in my top ten, but want to put it out there. This is the most effective daily vitamin our family has ever used! We mix it with a shot of Young Living's NingXia Red (an antioxidant juice blend) and even the supertaster kids love it. We've just started the kids on the K2+D3+Calcium gummy supplement, too. The texture is like a soft, silky Starburst and the peach/apricot/mango flavor is fantastic. These are affiliate links directly to MaryRuth's, because we are trying to stop supporting Amazon as much as possible. We understand what a privilege it is to be able to distance ourselves from Amazon, and if you can't do that, no worries; you can purchase them there as well. :)
  • Resistbot — Text the word congress to Resistbot on Messenger, Twitter, Telegram, or to 50409 on SMS* and I’ll find out who represents you in Congress, and deliver your message to your two Senators and representative in under 2 minutes. No downloads or apps required
  • Dot All Conf | The Craft CMS Developers Conference 2018 — The official Craft CMS Developer conference
  • The Unheavenly Creatures [Explicit] by Coheed & Cambria on Amazon Music - Amazon.com

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Dec 30 2018

1hr 13mins

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Rank #9: Episode 78: Identity part 2 - The Parent Trap

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In this series, we’re learning about identity by asking a foundational question, “Who am I?” We want to better understand how culture and social conditioning have influenced our understanding of ourselves and the world around us. What should we embrace at our core? What lies do we get rid of? And perhaps most importantly, what do we pass on to our kids?

In this episode we’re talking about Laura's answer - and the response that many straight, white, cis, neurotypical, able-bodied people would give - to the question, “Who am I?” (Spoiler alert: it’s not about race.)

Leslie apologizes for using a culturally insensitive metaphor in the last episode, by inadvertently using an ableist term. So sorry! We are still working on offloading these deeply ingrained language norms.

We talk about how racial identity didn't factor into Laura's self-construct because she's white and was raised "colorblind" (or, a less ableist term for it: race-evasive). Leslie gives a quick explainer on the origin of the term "grandfathered in," which, unsurprisingly, has racist connotations. Laura tells an embarrassing story about how she didn't count herself as a white person one time, and shares an excellent quote about race-evasiveness from Shannon Sullivan:

"It’s almost like a pride in being completely clueless about the world in which we live as white people, as if we can’t see how our own whiteness, along with other races, is operating in it. And that actually allows white supremacy hum along quite happily and unchallenged. If you can’t see race, then how in the heck are you going to see racism?"

The meat of the episode is Laura talking about how parenthood completely took over any other sense of her identity for a very long time, and her evolution in embracing the identity of "Parent of Child with Special Needs." While parenting is still her most all-consuming job, she also feels like she's coming out of the woods of early childrearing and can focus on the true joy of having kids: enjoying authentic and interesting relationships with individuals you've helped shape since they were born.

We finish off with a teaser for the next episode in this series: Spiritual Identity.

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  • Indigenous Corporate Training: Use these culturally offensive phrases, questions at your own risk — There are a couple Canada-specific items, and some American atrocities are left out, but this is a good resource from Bob Joseph, a Gwawaenuk Nation member who is a certified master trainer, with a background in business administration and former associate professor at Royal Roads University.
  • Autistic Hoya: Ableism/Language — You're not automatically a bad or evil person/activist if you have used random language on here, but if you have the cognitive/language privilege to adjust your language, it's definitely worthwhile to consider becoming more aware/conscious of how everyday language helps perpetuate ableist ideas and values.
  • 7 Reasons Why 'Colorblindness' Contributes to Racism Instead of Solves It - Everyday Feminism — Colorblind ideology takes race off the table. But for many people of color – as well as for White people who work to dismantle systems of privilege – race is very much on the table. Racism forces it to the tabletop.

    Colorblindness just pretends the table is empty.
  • Revealing Whiteness: The Unconscious Habits of Racial Privilege (American Philosophy): Shannon Sullivan: 9780253218483: Amazon.com: Books — Revealing Whiteness explores how white privilege operates as an unseen, invisible, and unquestioned norm in society today. In this personal and selfsearching book, Shannon Sullivan interrogates her own whiteness and how being white has affected her...As it articulates a way to live beyond the barriers that white privilege has created, this book offers readers a clear and honest confrontation with a trenchant and vexing concern.
  • Seeing White – Scene on Radio — Where did the notion of “whiteness” come from? What does it mean? What is whiteness for?

    Scene on Radio host and producer John Biewen took a deep dive into these questions, along with an array of leading scholars and regular guest Dr. Chenjerai Kumanyika, in this fourteen-part documentary series, released between February and August 2017.
  • The Racial History Of The 'Grandfather Clause' : Code Switch : NPR — But like so many things, the term "grandfather," used in this way, has its roots in America's racial history. It entered the lexicon not just because it suggests something old, but because of a specific set of 19th century laws regulating voting.
  • Leslie's Orc Hunter — Casually bad-ass.
  • Laura's Orc Rogue — Casually lethal.
  • Potion Explosion 2nd Edition — This is the game we refer to at the end of the episode. Our whole family loves playing it! It says ages 14+, but we have an 8.5 year old who plays quite well independently, and our 5 year old likes teaming up with one of the adults for help.

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Nov 26 2018

57mins

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Rank #10: Episode 69: Things We’re Thankful for, Like Successful Family Vacations, but We also Talk about Tax Reform

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In this episode, We talk about our family vacation to the Great Wolf Lodge, vacations for depressed parents, Magda’s holiday sanity project called Coffee & Eggnog, the Holiday Survival Plan, and some other random things that are making life easier or bringing us joy.

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Nov 22 2017

49mins

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Rank #11: Episode 66: Waking Up to Social Justice, a Family History

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This is part 1 of the Awkward Social Justice series, where we explore our history as non-activists; trace our inroads into civic engagement and social justice issues; and finally offer a encouragement and resources for others who are just getting started. We talk a lot about race as the prevalent example for social justice, because our early Awareness Moments came in that context, and because this is a very alive topic for Leslie. This is an invitation to expand your own awareness - of your biases, your privileges, your assumptions and actions. There are some great resources in the Show Notes to help you, and we are always an email away.

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  • 7 Reasons Why 'Colorblindness' Contributes to Racism Instead of Solves It - Everyday Feminism — Since it’s the responsibility of White folks to educate ourselves and each other (and not expect people of color to be our trainers), I encourage you take to heart the seven reasons I’ve already been taught:
  • Colorblind Ideology Is a Form of Racism | Psychology Today — Colorblindness creates a society that denies their negative racial experiences, rejects their cultural heritage, and invalidates their unique perspectives.

    Let's break it down into simple terms: Color-Blind = "People of color — we don't see you (at least not that bad ‘colored' part)."
  • Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood by Trevor Noah — Leslie's favorite book from 2016. He recommends getting the audiobook read by Trevor Noah himself. You need to hear Trevor read the Hitler story to you. It's not what you think. You'll die laughing.
  • Raising Race Conscious Children | Resource for Talking About Race & Diversity
  • National SEED Project - White Privilege and Male Privilege — Dr. Peggy McIntosh’s excellent paper, from which many iterations of “Unpacking the White Privilege Backpack” have been taken. Read the original. As Dr. McIntosh says in her footnotes: “Some people "get" the idea of systemic privilege and ask "But what can I do?" My answer is, you can use unearned advantage to weaken systems of unearned advantage. I see white privilege as a bank account that I did not ask for, but that I can choose to spend. People with privilege have far more power than we have been taught to realize, within the myth of meritocracy. Participants can brainstorm about how to use unearned assets to share power; these may include time, money, energy, literacy, mobility, leisure, connections, spaces, housing, travel opportunities. Using these assets may lead to key changes in other behaviors as well, such as paying attention, making associations, intervening, speaking up, asserting and deferring, being alert, taking initiative, doing ally and advocacy work, lobbying, campaigning, protesting, organizing, and recognizing and acting against both the external and internalized forms of oppression and privilege.”
  • Safety Pin Box — One of the best ways for white people to begin learning how they can use their power to dismantle systemic racism. It’s a subscription program that gives you weekly assignments that progressively move you through being a better ally and actor for racial justice.
  • Helenita Frounfelkner gets $50,000+ in donated goods for Houston Flood Victims — Helenita is amazing. Check out her great work and support it if you are able.

    "We received a 5500 lbs of baby essentials valued around $50K from these brands. I have to say that these brands aren’t huge conglomerates. These are family-owned and operated companies run by teams of less than 5-6 people who came together out of the extraordinary goodness of their hearts to help some of the tiniest flood victims. My heart is SO full. This is the Lord’s work. I am so grateful."

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Oct 08 2017

1hr 1min

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Rank #12: 060 – Cold & Flu, Winners & Losers

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In this episode, we catch up from being sick for weeks on end. We’ll also announce the winner of the Baron Fig notebook give away and our last giveaway of the “new year.” You don’t want to miss it, especially if there is a business you’re starting or want to start.

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Feb 16 2016

26mins

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Rank #13: 056 – Happy 2016! It’s Okay to Start Slow. Really.

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In this episode, Leslie talks about his plans to go slow and build momentum in the New Year. There’s no need to beat yourself up with resolutions and goals in the first couple weeks of January! We invite you to take the time to understand who you are, who you want to be, and build the momentum to get there. Because you will.

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Jan 04 2016

27mins

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Rank #14: 046 – Marriage Kaizen & Fighting in Front of the Kids (or not)

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In this episode we dig into an old but new-to-us concept called Kaizen that helps us streamline our approach to life, business, and marriage. We’ll let you know briefly what we’ve been up to since the last episode, and we’ll answer a listener question about fighting in front of the kids.

Marriage Kaizen

Our “first pass” without much explanation (yet).

  1. Listen & Rest
  2. Improve
  3. Do
  4. Check-in
  5. Repeat

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Sep 08 2015

55mins

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Rank #15: 032 DISC Profiles for Better Marriage Communication

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We take a look at our DISC Assessment Profile results and see if it helps us understand each other better. SPOILER: It does! Go take it! This information would have saved us a lot of miscommunication and frustration if we had when we got married 12 years ago!

Bonus, we discover who created Wonder Woman!

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Mar 27 2015

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Rank #16: 026 – Glimmering – the Company We’re Starting and its Messy, Wonderful, Beginning

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In this episode, we pull the curtain off Glimmering way before it is done so you can see all the stuff we go through in the process of starting our new businesses. It’s raw, honest, and this week Laura cries.

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Feb 05 2015

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Rank #17: 025 Living the Miracle Morning, Every Morning, at 5am

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In this episode, we use the 5 Minute Journal writing prompts as a framework to discuss how the implementation of our Miracle Morning practice is going. Leslie experiences a huge, emotional breakthrough live on the show and begins his Cry Count early in 2015. And of course, we’ll end by telling each other what we’re going to do for each other this week.

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Jan 29 2015

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Rank #18: 013 How to Change Your Life Part 4: Choosing is Hard When You have Depression

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We’re in the process of changing our lives and we have the audacity to do it publicly as podcast series. We’ve been using Essentialism by Greg McKeown as a loose guide. One of the main tenets of the book is that we have to exercise our power of choice. Last week, Laura chose to quit her day job as full-time homemaker. This week we’re bringing clarity to what that actually means and how we can start supporting her in that transition. Our first step is simply making a list of what her job as a homemaker was and then also creating a list of things she chooses to keep doing. It was a lot harder than it sounds because what we do gets so mixed up with who we are. Then you throw depression into the mix and the difficulty hits ten.

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“Laura’s Lists”

Things I do that no one else can do but me

  • Nurse Ethan

Stuff Laura is Quitting as full-time homemaker

  • Make breakfast
  • Get kids dressed
  • Change Ethan’s diaper
  • Oversee homework/schoolwork
  • Make snack
  • Wipe bottoms
  • Do laundry – wash, fold, put away
  • Clean bathroom
  • Make lunch
  • Take Sophia to school
  • Make supper
  • Kitchen cleanup
  • Oversee house tidying
  • Put Ethan to bed
  • Where everything is/is kept
  • Car maintenance
  • Kid hygiene
  • Camacho family website

Stuff Laura doesn’t want to do but is afraid to let go of

  • Health information/doctor’s appointments
  • Brush kids’ teeth
  • Put Ethan down for his nap
  • Household maintenance (inside and out)
  • Yard maintenance (other than mowing)
  • Garbage days

Things Laura Chooses to keep doing (in order)

  1. Close, private friendship stuff
  2. MarriageStartup
  3. Support/Peer Group
  4. Read to kids (the current extent of homeschooling)
  5. Cooking when everyone is leaving me alone
  6. Finances
  7. Homeschool planning/kids’ education
  8. Spiritual Side project
  9. HeyLauraWhat
  10. Menu planning
  11. Grocery shopping
  12. Organizing/purging the house
  13. Seasonal clothes transitioning
  14. Clothing sizes/needs for kids
  15. Clothing needs for adults

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Sep 29 2014

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Rank #19: Quarantine Check-in: We Ask These Questions Three - Stop? Continue? Start?

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In this episode we’re breaking from the norm to help each other survive the present. That means we need some real heart talk with each other. We're using the Agile technique of asking and answering these four questions: 
  • What have we tried
  • What are we stopping
  • What are we continuing
  • What will we start
Hopefully this inspires you to check in with yourself, your partner, your quaranteam, or other support systems. Writing down your answers helps you keep track of your progress, which is especially important when it's hard to keep track of what day of the week it is!

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Apr 21 2020

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Rank #20: Help for the Newbie Work at Home Parents During the Pandemic Pandemonium

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After an introductory plea to take it easy on yourself and your family, and to focus on Love First, Fix Later, we answer the following listener questions:

  1. How do I prevent losing my motherhood mind while at home full time with my toddler?
  2. How do I keep my not-independent 6 year old busy all day while I work?
  3. What are some good non-candy rewards/motivators?
  4. What might an appropriate meal plan look like?
  5.  How can I get some time for my own brain? 
  6. Are there free online educational resources I can use? Yes! Here!
  7. How important is it to limit recreational screen time?
  8. What are some exercise ideas that won’t bore me to death?
  9. How do you balance/negotiate the needs of 2 working parents, especially when he refuses to stay home and help? And are there ways to achieve long blocks of focus or do you just always chunk out the day in bits?
  10. What are good resources for pre-k (4yr old) and 1st grade (6 year old)?

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Laura's post on: How to occupy your kids during the pandemic (the academic version)

BusinessInsider post on: Here's how much work your brain can handle before needing a break

Reward items our kids love
Amazon affiliate links - thanks for helping us pay the bills!
Toy Advent Calendars
Japanese erasers
Mochi squishies

Laura's friend Graeme Seabrook does 1-1 coaching for moms and runs a support community called The Mom Center. Graeme’s coaching focus is to dismantle the cultural and systemic structures that keep co-parenting relationships from being equitable. If you need help navigating these negotiations with your partner, we highly suggest you check out her work. Her website is graemeseabrook.com

Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics - please support your local bookstore. This link is to ours, which is providing free shipping during the pandemic lockdown!

Stephen Colbert on breakfast for dinner.

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Mar 16 2020

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