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The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

Each week on the Bad Girl's Bible podcast, your host Sean Jameson interviews experts and professionals and everyone in between to teach you the tips and techniques you can use to improve your sex life and relationship or marriage. You'll also learn powerful insights on how to improve your dating and love life.

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#29 Squirting Orgasms, Getting Turned On, and Real Foreplay for Women with Female Orgasm Expert, Jason Julius

Jason Julius is a world renowned sex coach and female orgasm expert and his goal is to help as many men, women, and couples achieve the amazing sex lives they deserve. In this episode we are going to discuss everything a man can do to give his partner more intense and satisfying pleasure inside and outside the bedroom. We also dive into how to really get your female partner aroused by communicating with her throughout the day, and building on the fantasy for her ultimate sexual readiness. Jason is very candid and shares all his tips and advice on stimulating your female partner’s G-spot and A-spot, ways to encourage her to let go towards ejaculation, and the real culprits behind premature and delayed ejaculation for men. So if you’re listening and have a male partner, you may want to get him to listen to this episode too! Key Points From This Episode Jason’s background and how he got to where he is today. Advice for getting your female partner aroused. Breaking down the arousal process for men and women. Understanding the concept of “sexy context”. What makes for good foreplay from a guy. The importance of quieting down your female partners’ mind. Simplicity and the general rules of dirty talk. Why it is critical to get to know yourself sexually. Advice for providing clitoral stimulation, manually and orally. How to find the G-spot, and why many people struggle to find it. Why using a lubricant is sometimes a must. Strategy for helping your partner achieve female ejaculation. The dangers of too much porn, and forming the wrong paths in your brain. And much more! Tweetables “I think that there’s a huge misunderstanding about female desire and how female desire actually works.” — @jasonjulius [0:05:37.1] “For guys, we need to understand that we need to be constantly flirting with our woman to create the fantasy that she desires to get her mind engaged.” — @jasonjulius [0:09:10.1] “The purpose of foreplay is to build up the fantasy.” — @jasonjulius [0:13:35.1] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Jason’s Squirting Tutorial Video - http://www.orgasmarts.com/ Jason Julius — https://www.jasonjulius.com/ Jason’s website — http://www.orgasmarts.com/ Jason on Twitter — https://twitter.com/jasonjulius Jason on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnJ25wY59ezVT3CXFunkuQQ Come As You Are — https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

1hr 1min

7 Jan 2019

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#7: Orgasmic Oral Sex - 12 Blow Job Techniques To Make Him Scream With Pleasure

This is part two of my three part series on how to give your man a perfect blow job. Throughout the series, you're going to learn a total of 37 blow tips, techniques and tactics that are so powerful, they will literally turn your man into your own personal stalker. If you haven't already listened to the first episode in the series (the first 11 techniques), then I'd advise you to go and download that right now from iTunes or the Bad Girl's Bible website. Show Highlights 1.05 Blow Job Tip 12 - An easy-to-perform blow job technique that delivers a huge amount of pleasure. 2.55 Tip 13 - Learn how to suck your man. That's right, I'm talking about how to suck him. Learn why so many women misunderstand this technique and how to do it right. 4.00 Tip 14 - "Awesome Sauce" - Discover how to change the texture of your blow job so that it feels completely new to your man and tastes great. It's an effortless way of changing up your blow job routine. 8.10 Tip 15 - Why you absolutely must use your hands AND more importantly, how to use them to double the amount of stimulation you give him. 11.30 Tip 16 - How to rub, caress and massage your man's testicles during your blowjob so that it's pleasurable and NOT painful. 14.55 Tip 17 - How to make eye contact confidently and effortlessly during your blow job to make it more intimate and intense. 16.50 Tip 18 - A counter-intuitive trick to build your man up to orgasm. He will literally beg you for more when you use this trick on him. 18.40 Tip 19 - Why taking the initiative is both easy and powerful. Your man will thank you for it. Listen and learn how to do it. 21.00 Tip 20 - Discover how to talk dirty BEFORE and during your blow job to build his anticipation and ultimately make it more enjoyable for both of you. 25.05 Tip 21 - A more advanced BJ technique to allow your man to take control and dominate you. Perfect if you enjoy being submissive. 26.25 Tip 22 - Why slowing down can make your blow job more enjoyable. This also has the added benefit of making oral sex easier for you. 28.10 Tip 23 - Why "wetter is better" Don't forget, this is part two of the 37 tips to give your man a perfect blow job. Get part one and part two by subscribing on iTunes. Find out more about the Blow Job Bible book at http://badgirlsbible.com/bible

31mins

14 Mar 2017

Rank #2

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#17: 10 Dirty Talking Tips To Keep Him Obsessed With You & Only You

Want to learn how to talk dirty with confidence? Well, today I'm going to teach you exactly how to do it and what to say to him to turn him, build sexual tension, make sex incredible and most importantly to keep him obsessed with you. 1.00 - The 3 reasons why you need to talk dirty. 5.15 - Tip 1 - Why you need to start in the 'shallow end of the pool' when learning to talk dirty. 6.05 - Tip 2 - I explain why the bedroom is the best place to start talking dirty to your man. 6.40 - Tip 3 - Tailoring your dirty talk to your man's tastes. 8.15 - Tip 4 - Tailoring dirty talk to YOUR tastes. 9.30 - Tip 5 - Why some dirty talking phrases and techniques work better than others on your man. 11.10 - Tip 6 - The great talking dirty lie. 13.15 - Tip 7 - Why 'context' is key. 15.30 - Tip 8 - Why your voice tone is vital when talking dirty to your man. 17.55 - Tip 9 - How quickly you talk when talking dirty plays a major role in it's effectiveness. Discover when to talk fast and when to talk slow. 19.40 - Tip 10 - It's more than just the words and I explain why. Learn more phrases at http://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases If you want a dirty talking masterclass, then you may want to check out the tutorial video I put together at badgirlsbible.com/dirty

22mins

23 May 2017

Rank #3

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#38 Using Sex Toys For Breathtaking Pleasure with Annabelle Knight

On today’s show we welcome Annabelle Knight. Annabelle is a dating, sex and relationship expert along with being a certified couple’s councilor. She’s also written a novel, The Endless Autumn, which has been featured by Cosmopolitan. Annabelle has her own range of sex toys available online and is a resident sex and love expert for online retailer, lovehoney.com. Our topic for today is sex toys. Thanks to Annabelle’s expertise on the subject she is able to share with us just how useful they can be and how they can cause breathtaking pleasure. We’re also talking about getting your partner on board with using sex toys during sex and the different types of vibrators and sex toys available. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode! Key Points From This Episode: Hear more about Annabelle’s background and how she started her own line of sex toys. How sex toys can improve your pleasure, whether you’re alone or with a partner. Annabelle’s favorite sex toys - the cock ring and the vibrating bullet. Advice to people wanting to buy their first sex toy. Why some guys are hesitant about using sex toys during sex. Ways to help your partner get on board with using sex toys. Why using sex toys has nothing to do with how good you are in bed. Different types of vibrators for clitoral stimulation. What to look for when buying a sex toy. Sex toys that are unisex or male specific that men can use. Learn more about prostate play and prostate massagers. Toys to use during sex that can give different sensations. Anal first-timers prep. Main types of lubricant: water based, silicon based and oil based. Using the right type of lube with your sex toys. What to do if sex toys just aren’t for you. And so much more! Tweetables: “Sex toys are like the cherry on the cake so you don’t need the cherry to make the cake tasty but it kind of gives you a third dimension, a little extra something.” — @missbelleknight [0:03:10] “Sex toys provide different type of stimulation and that’s not a better type or worse type, it’s just a different type.” — @missbelleknight [0:07:50] “The end goal for any sex toy manufacturer is pleasure and the better their toys and their products provide pleasure, the more popular they are.” — @missbelleknight [0:18:26] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Annabelle Knight — http://annabelleknight.com/ Annabelle on Twitter — https://twitter.com/missbelleknight Annabelle on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/annabelleknight/ The Endless Autumn — https://www.amazon.com/Endless-Autumn-Annabelle-Knight/dp/1786939606/ Love Honey — https://www.lovehoney.com/ Cosmopolitan — https://www.cosmopolitan.com/ Aneros — https://www.aneros.com/

28mins

10 Mar 2019

Rank #4

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#32 Struggling to Orgasm? Here's the Solution with Vanessa Marin

On the show today we are joined by Vanessa Marin, who is a sex therapist specializing in helping women achieve orgasms. Through her work, in person and online, Vanessa has coached countless clients towards more fulfilling sex and a greater understanding of their bodies. In our conversation we cover Vanessa’s early desire to become a sex coach and the challenges that she faced on her journey towards her current status. We then get into the nitty gritty of the big ‘O’, unpacking different types of desire, the dual control model, common myths on the subject and the helpful concept of curiosity. We also discuss sex toys, menopause, and some of the methods and resources that Vanessa offers. Highlights How Vanessa found herself in the job of orgasm coach. The basis of Vanessa’s program for helping her clients. The strong bond between desire and orgasm. Differences between spontaneous and responsive desire. An explanation of the dual control model. Female orgasms are complex, how can we simplify it? Where to start focussing your efforts when learning how to orgasm. A few of the myths around female orgasm. The courses, steps and guides that Vanessa offers on her website Rethinking orgasm through the idea of curiosity. The use of sex toys in this endeavour. Menopause and orgasm and comparing different perspectives. A more realistic idea of a healthy sex life for couples. And much more! Tweetables “I always knew that female orgasm would be a hot topic in this area but I was definitely surprised by how many women were really desperately seeking some sort of solution.” — @VMTherapy [0:03:38.7] “There’s a really powerful relationship between desire and orgasm and I think that a lot of women tend to neglect that relationship.” — @VMTherapy [0:07:50.3] “I think it’s equally as important to think about what are the things that get in the way of me feeling desire.” — @VMTherapy [0:13:28.8] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Vanessa Marin — https://vmtherapy.com/ Brown University — https://www.brown.edu/ New York Times — https://www.nytimes.com/ Oprah — http://www.oprah.com/index.html Real Simple — https://www.realsimple.com/ Finishing School — https://vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasm/ Emily Nagoski  — http://www.emilynagoski.com/ Come As You Are — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

37mins

28 Jan 2019

Rank #5

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#18: 11 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques For More Pleasure

This anal sex episode is quite in depth so you may want to listen to it more than once, BUT it has everything you need to know. You're going to learn the difference between having deeply satisfying anal sex that gives you full body orgasms. Show Highlights 1.35 Tip 1 - The pros and cons of anal sex. 5.05 Tip 2 - An important question you must ask yourself before trying anal. 6.10 Tip 3 - Why communication is the bedrock of great anal sex. 7.05 Tip 4 - The 4 types of lube you can use and which one is the the best (by far). 9.45 Tip 5 - How to ensure pain-free pleasure. 14.05 Tip 6 - The best position to use for the first time you try anal. 16.50 Tip 7 - Which positions give you the most pleasure. 18.10 Tip 8 - 7 separate advanced anal sex techniques. 21.55 Tip 9 - The key to maximum pleasure during anal. 23.30 Tip 10 - The dangerous mistakes some women make during anal. Make sure to avoid these. 25.35 Tip 11 - Why giving each other feedback makes anal sex better and better each time you have it. Show Notes Learn 13 girl-on-top sex positions here.  Learn 19 more anal sex positions here. How to prepare yourself for anal sex How to have anal sex

28mins

30 May 2017

Rank #6

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#13 How To Have Intense Clitoral & Vaginal Orgasms During Sex

Learn how to have intense clitoral & vaginal orgasms during sex with your man. You're going to learn the techniques, positions and tips you need to climax every time you have sex with your man. It's a lot easier than you think! In this episode, you'll learn: 1.40 - The one thing you must do to have clitoral orgasms. 2.10 - The Grind - A super powerful & super simple clitoral stimulation technique. 3.00 - How your man can use circular motion on your clit during sex to stimulate all of your vagina. 3.40 - The Vulcan will give you huge amounts of pressure on your clit during any girl on top positions. 4.50 - Why a vibrating cock ring is a good idea if you need more clitoral stimulation. 7.10 - The sex positions that make it easy to orgasm during sex. 12.15 - Why vaginal orgasms can be easy for some women but hard for others. 13.05 - Discover your A Spot and learn how it can lead to vaginal AND full body orgasms. 15.25 - The easiest way to have your first vaginal orgasm. 16.30 - Why the angle of penetration and the depth of penetration is so important. 18.30 - Learn what rhythm & speed is required if you want to experience a vaginal orgasm. 19.40 - Size matters. I explain why. Show Notes Here are all the links I talk about during the episode Sex Positions I mention http://badgirlsbible.com/coital-alignment-technique-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/missionary-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/thigh-tide-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/sliding-lady-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/drill-sex-position http://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions Other Links http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques http://badgirlsbible.com/a-spot http://badgirlsbible.com/episode-10-effortless-orgasms-use-techniques-orgasm-easily-powerfully-every-time

22mins

25 Apr 2017

Rank #7

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#12: Squirting 101 - How To Squirt Like A Pornstar During Sex & Masturbation

Learn how to squirt when masturbating alone AND during sex in today's episode. I'll explain how to squirt, why you may be having trouble squirting and I'll teach you techniques you or your man can use to have intense squirting orgasms. Show Highlights 2.25 - Why you must understand your own anatomy if you want to squirt. 3.00 - Exactly how to find your G Spot and learn why your Skene's gland is so important. 4.25 - Discover the scientific reason why some women have trouble squirting. 6.00 - A very simple, but vital secret you must know if you want to squirt. 7.40 - Why some women feel like they need to pee when trying to squirt AND why this is completely natural. 8.50 - The Hook technique is the best technique for squirting orgasms. Learn how to perform it. 9.35 - The Push the Button technique. 10.10 - How you or your man can use the Come Hither technique to experience squirting for the first time. 11.00 - Discover why the Arm Shaker technique often leads to the MOST POWERFUL squirting orgasms you can experience. 11.55 - Using sex toys like vibrators and dildos to make yourself squirt - What you need to know. 12.45 - How to squirt during sex. 13.30 - Positions that will help you squirt during sex. 15.45 - I answer some of the most frequently asked questions to problems that women often encounter when learning how to squirt. Show Notes The squirting article I talk about repeatedly in the podcast: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-make-yourself-squirt Other pages I mention: http://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

23mins

18 Apr 2017

Rank #8

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#9: Prostate Massage & Super Orgasms (Seriously) With Forrest Andrews of Aneros

Forrest Andrews joins me on the show today to discuss how prostate massage can lead to powerful 'Super' orgasms AND improve your man's health. If you are squeamish or nervous at the idea of exploring your man's backdoor, then you'll love this episode as Forrest explains everything you need to know, from hygiene to why your man may just adore it. Show Highlights 1.35 - Learn how Forrest started working for a sex toy company. 5.55 - Learn exactly what the prostate is and where to find it. 7.25 - Why prostate massage does NOT make your man gay. 11.15 - Why prostate orgasms (aka the Super 'O') are STRONGER than regular orgasms. 13.45 - How to suggest prostate play to your man. 17.10 - Vital things you must consider before you try any anal play with your man (these also apply to you). 19.15 - The reason why prostate play and anal sex can be painful and how to make it pleasurable for your man. 21.55 - One last thing to properly prepare your man (this also applies to you if you enjoy anal sex). 24.30 - The positions that make prostate play easiest (side lying, doggy style, lying on your back). 27.45 - We discuss why some people do and some people don't experience the Super 'O' AND how to train yourself to experience it. 34.05 - What happens between your ears is the most important part to having an orgasm, whether you are a man OR a woman. Forrest explains why. 36.40 - Women don't have a prostate gland. Instead, they have something else that leads to powerful orgasms AND squirting. Forrest explains why. Show Notes The sites mentioned by Forrest Visit the Aneros website here: https://www.aneros.com/ Visit the Anereos wiki here: http://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Main_Page Visit the Aneros forum here: https://www.aneros.com/community/

41mins

28 Mar 2017

Rank #9

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#10: Effortless Orgasms - Use These Techniques To Orgasm Easily AND Powerfully Every Time

Learn how to orgasm powerfully and effortlessly in this podcast. If you currently struggle to orgasm when masturbating or during sex, then listen and learn what you need to do and what you need to STOP doing to start having powerful orgasms with ZERO effort. It's surprisingly easy. Quick Note: This is the first episode of a five part series where you will learn how to have powerful orgasms when masturbating and during sex. Show Highlights 2.10 - Why having strong and effortless orgasms all comes down to being comfortable. 2.40 - A simple guide to masturbating and reaching orgasm easily. 3.55 - Learn why your clit is the most important part of your vagina when masturbating and trying to orgasm during sex. 7.25 - Why what happens between your ears is the most important part of having an orgasm. 8.05 - Why stress is a major issue that can prevent you from reaching orgasm AND how to overcome it. 9.45 - How to stop worrying about climaxing and start enjoying yourself...which will actually help you to reach orgasm. 11.00 - Discover how to get rid of performance pressure during sex. 12.40 - Learn why body confidence can impact your ability to orgasm and discover the solution. 13.30 - Sexual shame: This can act like a weight on your mind. Learn how to deal with it. 14.20 - The importance of experimentation and exploration: I discuss the importance of knowing your body and why this is vital for learning how to orgasm alone and during sex. Learn more on how to orgasm here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-orgasm

16mins

4 Apr 2017

Rank #10

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#31 How To Fix A Sexless Marriage & Reignite Fiery Passion with Laurie Watson

On today’s show we welcome Laurie Watson. Laurie is a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Couple’s Counselor and author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage. She is also the co-host of a podcast along with Dr. Adam Matthews called Foreplay: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples, designed to help couples keep it hot. In clinical therapy, she has helped thousands of couples recover sexual passion and make love again in joyful, intimate, creative and exciting ways, sometimes even after years of sexless marriage. Inside this episode we dive into the topic of people wanting to reignite their passion and the desire that’s lost in a marriages or relationships. Laurie shares some incredible strategies to help you get back that fiery passion, today. We also diving into Laurie’s 444 Solution and getting your SEX confidence back! Show Highlights Laurie’s background and how she came to writing Wanting Sex Again. How a good marriage becomes a sexless marriage. The power struggle between the pursuer and the “distancer” in the relationship. Examples of a pursuer and a distant person. Understanding the concept of Attachment theory. Detailed talkers versus bullet point talkers. Importance of secure attachment. Doing a self analysis to understand where you are at personally (and your relationship). Laurie’s 444 Solution and how to use it in your relationship. What birth control can do to a woman’s libido. The Madonna Whore Syndrome. Common issues affecting couples in their sex lives. Getting your self confidence and body confidence back. And so much more! Tweetables “Within two years of marriage, one third of all couples are sexless.” — @asklauriewatson [0:03:31.1] “If there’s no big bang, there’s no big deal.” — @asklauriewatson [0:09:12.1] “We need a talking avenue and we need a physical touching avenue to really have secure attachment.” — @asklauriewatson [0:15:53.1] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Laurie Watson — http://lauriewatson.com/ Laurie’s Website — https://awakeningscenter.org/ Laurie on Twitter — https://twitter.com/asklauriewatson Laurie on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/foreplayrst/ Laurie on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/foreplay_radiosextherapy/ Laurie on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-watson-436b551a/ Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage — https://www.amazon.com/Laurie-Watson-Wanting-Sex-Again/dp/B00G4GDCVI/ FOREPLAY: Radio Sex Therapy for Couples — http://foreplayrst.com/ Awakenings Center — https://awakeningscenter.org/ Love and Sex Quiz — https://awakeningscenter.org/love-sex-quiz/ Make Love Not Porn — makelovenotporn.tv

44mins

21 Jan 2019

Rank #11

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#37 Tantra 101 with Dee Dussault

Joining us today is Dee Dussault, a sexuality coach, Yoga Alliance® certified yoga teacher, the creator of Ganja Yoga, and author of the book by that title. She has taught partner yoga, vanilla tantra, and cannabis-enhanced yoga to thousands of people across the US, Canada, and Europe. She studied sexuality for over a decade and carries an honors degree in Sexuality Studies. Her training was in the tantric tradition of Swami Satyananda of Bihar, India. Dee tells us what got her into tantra and explains that the practice is about much more than sex. She highlights the spiritual value as well as the opportunities it offers to fuel the evolution of our consciousness. She further discusses mindfulness, the importance of slowing down your sexual encounters, and why the edge of your comfort zone is where you want to be. We talk about solo orgasmic experiences, Kegel exercises and the exhilarating dynamic that marijuana can bring to your yoga routine. So tune in to find out how Dee can help you tap into your radiant embodied self! Key Points From This Episode: Some of Dee’s background and how she became a sexuality coach. How tantra facilitates the whole human experience. Why tantra is for everyone, at any time.    The relationship between breathing and feeling. What to do when you feel awkward at first. How yoga can lead to arousal and orgasmic experience. The benefits of redirecting genital energy. How energy orgasms can be achieved. How tantric sex helps older people and those with sexual dysfunction. The importance of balancing Kegel exercises with stretches. How cannabis enhances your yoga routine. And so much more! Tweetables: “The idea is in Tantra that our sexual energy is the most potent energy we have as humans.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:04:05] “Tantra allows the whole range of human emotions and experiences.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:08:00] “You don’t need a partner to do tantra.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:08:22]  “As you slow down your breath, your capacity to feel increases.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:09:37] “I recommend people play at the edge of their comfort zone.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:11:09] “Pleasure is our birthright.” — @TheGanjaYoga [0:22:51] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Yoga Alliance® — https://www.yogaalliance.org/ Swami Satyananda — http://www.biharyoga.net/bihar-school-of-yoga/about-wyc/sri-swami-satyananda/ Dee Dussault — https://www.deedussault.com/ Ganja Yoga — https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062656841/ganja-yoga/ Ganja Yoga on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/ganjayoga/ Sting — https://www.sting.com/ Sting on Twitter — https://twitter.com/OfficialSting

29mins

4 Mar 2019

Rank #12

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#35 5 Sex Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have to Improve Their Sex Life, with Dr. Adam Mathews

On the show today we are joined by Dr. Adam Mathews. Dr. Mathews is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 15 years of experience working with couples and families. He’s an adjunct professor for both North Central University and Piper University and he’s also the cohost of the popular podcast, Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy. Currently, Dr. Mathews also serves as president of the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. In this episode we’ll be discussing the five sex conversations every couple needs to have to improve their sex life and address the regular problems that persist in relationships when sex is MIA or when your partner isn’t comfortable talking about it. Who better to talk on the subject of sex in relationships than the expert, Dr. Mathews! Highlights How Dr. Mathews came to be a therapist and started Foreplay Read Sex Therapy. Why some couples intentionally avoid difficult conversations about sex. Why when conflict grows: disconnection grows and your sex life follows suit. The first initial steps, what leads people to therapy and how to uncover the problem. What emotional and sexual disconnection does to your relationship. The right approach when you want to initiate the ‘sex’ conversation. Owning your part in it and focusing on one thing at a time. Laying off the pressure when making new requests. The “My parents did what?” conversation: what your family was like about sex. The “I’ll have what she’s having” conversation: getting away from assumptions. The “Indianapolis 500” conversation: what puts us in the mood for sex. The “I have a headache” conversation: How to deal with rejection, when you’re not in the mood. How to politely honestly and politely say, “Hey just not tonight”. The “The professor plum in the bedroom with the lights off” conversation. Not underestimating the soft skills: communication and how it can bring connection. And so much more! Tweetables “Just never force a sex conversation on somebody if they don’t want to have it.” — @MathewsCounsel [0:13:17.1] “Sex is the ultimate expression of love and connection.” — @MathewsCounsel [0:16:38.1] “You mention the soft skills and I think that is what they are and I would just say, don’t underestimate the power of this stuff.” — @MathewsCounsel [0:35:33.1] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Dr. Adam Mathews — https://mathewscounseling.net/ Dr. Mathews on Twitter — https://twitter.com/MathewsCounsel Dr. Mathews on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/dradammathews Dr. Mathews on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/dradammathews/ Foreplay Read Sex Therapy —http://foreplayrst.com/

37mins

18 Feb 2019

Rank #13

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#4: The 3 Dangerous Pitfalls That Will Test Your Relationship & How To Deal With Them With Dr. Corey Allen

In today's episode, I talk to family and marriage therapist Dr. Corey Allen on the three dangerous mistakes that can affect your relationship. We dive deep and discuss how to prevent all three from becoming a major problem: money, sex and the in-laws/kids. Show Highlights 5.00 - Why it's not money that causes problems, it's the meaning attached to money. 6.28 - What to do when you and your partner view money in a very different way so it doesn't become a problem. 10.30 - Why you don't have to agree with everything your partner says or does. 12.40 - Why committed relationships are designed to help us grow up and how we need to grow through problems we face with our partner. 17.55 - Possibly the most important question you can ask yourself before you get married or if you are already married: "Would you want to be married to you?" and then applying this question to specific aspects of your marriage. 18.20 - What to do if you and your partner have different sex drives. 21.20 - The mistake guys make who have a higher sex drive than their wife and how it turns her off. 24.30 - Being honest with your partner and it's amazing benefits. 28.25 - We talk about when making a compromise in your relationship is not really a compromise at all. 31.30 - The issue with the in-laws. 33.45 - Why having a great relationship only requires common sense, but the problem is that we attach emotion to relationship...which make things complicated. 36.50 - Why recognizing that your emotions are going to cloud your judgement in your relationship. 38.00 - The main issue to avoid with your in-laws. Show Notes You can find Corey at http://simplemarriage.net and pick up a copy of Naked Marriage at simplemarriage.net/naked-marriage You can also listen to his podcast at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-marriage-radio/id472302597?mt=2

41mins

21 Feb 2017

Rank #14

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#3: Swinging 101, How To Explore Swinging Safely With Your Partner & How To Make It Incredible For Both Of You With Cooper S. Beckett

In this episode of the Bad Girl's Bible podcast, I talk to swinger Cooper S. Beckett from the Life in the Swingset podcast. Cooper explains in detail what swinging is, the steps a couple can take to safely explore it, how it can help your relationship (or hinder it!) and more. Show Highlights 1.25 - how he got into the swinging scene. 4.55 Why monogamy, NOT SWINGING is the right choice for many people. 6.05 - The traditional definition of swinging 6.50 - What polyamory and why it's different. 8.15 - Why swinging and polyamory is definitely not cheating 9.45 - The problem with life's unspoken "social contract." 10.35 - How to start talking to your partner about swinging in a smooth way. 18.10 - Why non-monogamy has improved Cooper's communication skills. 18.35 - How to start your swinging journey with your partner and make sure it's a great experience, and why some couples have a bad first experience. 21.55 - Tips on how to spot and avoid fakers when using swinging sites 23.30 - How to make your first swinger date easy going and successfull. 25.10 - What to do if one partner has reservations. 28.40 - Dealing with jealousy. 33.55 - What to do if swinging doesn't work for you 43.55 - One of the most important benefits of non-monogamy Show Notes Kinsey scale - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale Cassidy - https://www.kasidie.com - the swinger site Cooper mentioned on the show More On Cooper If you want to get in touch with Cooper, you can find him online at: http://coopersbeckett.com/ https://twitter.com/coopersbeckett?lang=en https://www.facebook.com/coopersbeckett/ https://www.instagram.com/coopersbeckett/ Cooper's Podcast Podcast website: http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/ Podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/life-on-swingset-swinging/id354627460?mt=2 Cooper's Collection of Swinging Podcasts: swingset.fm Cooper's 1st book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/my-life-on-the-swingset-adventures-in-swinging-polyamory/ Cooper's 2nd book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/a-life-less-monogamous-a-novel-by-cooper-s-beckett/ Special Discount for Listeners Cooper kindly gave me a discount code that you can use to get 10% off anything you purchase on his site, coopersbeckett.com. Just enter the word bible in the offer code section and that 10% discount will be applied to your order.

58mins

14 Feb 2017

Rank #15

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#39 Better Sex Through Mindfulness with Dr. Lori Brotto

On today’s show we welcome Dr. Lori Brotto, a Professor in the department for Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of British Columbia and the Canada Research Chair in Women’s Sexual Health. Lori has also the author of the book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire. In this episode we are discussing sexual desire, and how a low desire or lack of interest in sex is by far the most common sexual concern, not only in women but in men as well. Many people struggle for different reasons, both psychologically and socially. Lori helps us today to uncover those struggles and those reasons and step beyond our negative beliefs to reignite our sexual desires through mindfulness. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode! Key Points From This Episode: Hear more about Lori and how she became a sex researcher and sex therapist. Researcher’s findings on reasons why women experience low sexual desire. Why low sexual desire is often confused. Understanding how mood and depression suppresses desire. How your beliefs can impact your desire. Cognitive behavioral therapy and how it can effectively treat sexual complaints. Physical conditions people can have that may interfere with sexual function. A female Viagra solution to fix female sexual arousal disorder, how terrible can it be? Struggling to reach orgasm during sex: whether you’re lacking desire or full of it. How mindfulness can help women and man be more present and reignite desire. Lori share some stories from her book on how mindfulness can be useful. Adopting a regular mindfulness practice and engaging the muscle of the mind. And so much more! Tweetables: “Low desire or lack of interest in sex is by far the most common sexual concern, not only in women but in men as well.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:04:01] “Negative beliefs in the brain can also stimulate certain brain path ways that interfere with desire and arousal.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:11:21] “Pretty much anything that impacts hormones has the potential to impact sexual response.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:14:35] “If you are going to have sex, you may as well show up for it.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:27:30] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Dr. Lori Brotto — http://www.loribrotto.com/ Dr. Lori on Twitter — https://twitter.com/DrLoriBrotto Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire — https://www.amazon.com/Better-Sex-Through-Mindfulness-Cultivate/dp/1771642351/ University of British Columbia — https://brottolab.med.ubc.ca/about/dr-lori-brotto/

32mins

17 Mar 2019

Rank #16

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#36 How Experiential Sex Coaching Can Revolutionize Your Sex Life & Relationship aka Somatica with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman

Today on the podcast we are joined by Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman. They are the cofounders of the Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching. Danielle Harel received her Ph.D. and Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality from The Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. She has a graduate degree in Clinical Social Work and a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Educational Counseling. Celeste Hirschman received her Master’s Degree in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University and her Bachelor’s Degree in Women’s Studies at the University of California at Santa Cruz. In their teaching, Danielle and Celeste connect with unconditional love, erotic energy, and presence to help their students and clients deepen their insight on self-awareness. They’ve also coauthored the books Making Love Real and Cockfidence, and this episode they share more about the importance of vulnerability and empathy in relationships, and how to be more mindful in your sex life. We also dive into ways to work through shame and fully embrace your sexual desires and fantasies without feeling judged. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode! Key Points From This Episode The story of how Danielle and Celeste met, and founded the Somatic Institute. Somatica: an experiential approach to sexuality and relationships. Importance of vulnerability for having a good sex life. Most common reasons why we often struggle to be vulnerable with our partners. How mindfulness plays a role in having better sex. Advice for couples who want to develop mindfulness. Learning to have embodied empathy when it comes to your relationship. Understanding how to process shame and embrace your sexuality. Key elements of a healthy relationship: attachment and individuation. Tweetables “The more that we can be vulnerable about our deepest desires and longings, the more that we can give each other the most hot, fulfilling sex.” — Celeste Hirschman [0:08:32] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Danielle Harel — https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/about-danielle/ Celeste Hirschman — https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/about-celeste/ Website — https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/ Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching — https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ Making Love Real — https://www.amazon.com/Making-Love-Real-Intelligent-Intimacy/dp/0692525483 Cockfidence — https://www.amazon.com/Cockfidence-Definitive-Guide-Being-Driving-ebook/dp/B004SV2DKC

30mins

25 Feb 2019

Rank #17

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#16: Tough Love with David Wygant

David Wygant joins me on the show today to dole out some tough love to listeners. His advice is top notch and he doesn't sugarcoat it. David is a relationship and dating coach who's been featured everywhere from Huffington Post to the New York Times. Show Highlights 1.35 - How David became a dating and relationship coach thanks to Whole Foods. 5.00 - Why it's important to understand and know yourself if you want to meet a great partner. 7.40 - David's tough love advice for a woman who wants a loyal man & why trying to 'fix' a guy is usually a bad idea. 9.25 - Why dating multiple people works in the beginning of a relationship, but not as the relationship progresses. 10.30 - David gives a woman some hard-to-hear, but powerful advice on how to deal with an affair. 14.25 - David explains why some women enjoy getting dominated during sex. 16.50 - David gives some really harsh (but fair!) advice to a woman who is being cheated on. 22.20 - Why there is no magic pill when trying to fix your relationship troubles. 26.30 - Discover how to reignite the passion and spark in your relationship. 28.55 - What to do to get your sex life back on track after having kids. 31.20 - The solution to starfish syndrome. 33.25 - David talks about his podcast that's blowing up. Show Notes Listen to David's podcast at: davidwygant.com/podcast or at mdrc10.com Get his podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/10-minute-daily-reality-check/id1213564830?mt=2 Visit his website here: davidwygant.com David talks about the 5 love languages on the show. You can find out more about them here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

35mins

16 May 2017

Rank #18

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#41 The Other Woman - A Listener Discovers Her Husband Got Another Woman Pregnant

On the show today we welcome Geanni, who is here to tell us all about her personal story and how she found out that her husband had got another woman pregnant while they were still married. This sort of situation is understandably distressing, but Geannie has a great perspective on it and offers amazing advice and insight that she has learned along the way. She gives us some of the backstory of how her and her husband got together and the marriage before explaining the period in which the infidelity came to light. She talks about her commitment to the marriage and how they actually managed to get over the issue for a period before the relationship ended. She also goes into her feelings on their relationship currently, how they share a child and the parenting process for her. For all of this and a fascinating interview from Geannie, be sure to tune in! Key Points From This Episode Some personal background on Geannie. Meeting her husband in high school and getting to know him.  The proposal and getting married soon after school. Confronting her husband about her suspicions.  Reconciling after the initial separation and the role of Geannie’s spirituality in this. Geannie’s husband’s fears of pregnancy with the other women. The decision to try and overcome this massive hurdle and the difficult first year.  Geannie’s current relationship with her husband and the family they have. Advice from Geannie to listeners in a similar situation. Geannie’s contact with her husband’s child and the mother.  And much more! Tweetables “We started dating early in 2006 and that was my senior year in high school. It was his junior year in high school. We were married in October of 2007.” — Geannie [0:03:32] “I just kept digging until I found something and so when I accused him, when I finally went to him, he denied it.” — Geannie [0:08:30] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Bad Girls Bible — https://badgirlsbible.com

24mins

1 Apr 2019

Rank #19

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#14 Using Vibrators & Dildos For Neighbor-Waking, Screaming Orgasms

This episode will teach you how to use vibrators and dildos to enhance your pleasure when masturbating and as orgasm 'assistant' during sex so that you experience the most powerful orgasms of your life. Show Highlights - Vibrator Section 1.25 - How to make sure you choose the right vibrator for you. 5.20 - The key thing you must know so that you experience maximum pleasure with your vibrator. 6.40 - Vibrator foreplay. Learn why 'vibrator foreplay' can make your orgasms way more intense. 9.40 - A secret way to use your vibrator to stimulate your entire vagina at the same time WITHOUT your hands. 12.15 - Discover how to use more than just your vibrator to enhance your orgasms. 13.25 - How to use your vibrator to enhance sex with your man. 15.30 - Discover to enhance your blow job by using a vibrator. 16.45 - A DANGEROUS warning about vibrators. Show Highlights - Dildo Section 18.50 - How to choose the right dildo for you. 21.55 - Rocking your dildo to stimulate the bottom of your vagina. 24.05 - Learn how to 'milk' your G Spot with your dildo for neighbor-waking, screaming orgasms. 27.10 - Discover how to have anal orgasms with your dildo. 27.40 - Double your pleasure! How to use your dildo for double penetration. 28.45 - How to use all the techniques in this episode during Skype sex. 33.50 - What to do after listening to this episode. Show Notes Check out the complete guide on using your vibrator here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-use-a-vibrator Get step-by-step instructions on using your dildo here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-use-a-dildo Learn about your A Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/a-spot Learn about your G Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot Missionary Position: http://badgirlsbible.com/missionary-sex-position Coital Alignment Technique: http://badgirlsbible.com/coital-alignment-technique-sex-position Spooning Position: http://badgirlsbible.com/spooning-sex-position Doggy Style: http://badgirlsbible.com/doggy-style-sex-position Get the Bad Girl's Bible newsletter here: http://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

34mins

2 May 2017

Rank #20