Rank #1: Guiding Teenage Girls to a Healthy Adulthood: Insights and Tips from Dr. Lisa Damour
In her book Untangled, psychologist Lisa Damour, mom of two daughters and Director of Laurel School’s Center for Research on Girls, provides a rich framework for understanding the transitions teen girls face on the path to adulthood. Don’t miss her wisdom and practical guidance in this Mom Enough interview!
What are some of the major challenges your adolescent daughter confronts today? How do these issues tie to the seven transitions Lisa Damour described in this Mom Enough discussion? How have you tried to guide your daughter through these challenges and how might you improve your response?
For Untangled, click here.
For a discussion guide for Untangled, click here.
Sep 02 2019
Rank #2: Parenting a Teenager: How Technology Has Changed the Context of Parenting and What That Means for Parents, Children & Teens
Drawing on her experience as a longtime social worker and student advisor, Joani Geltman offers guidance on all this and more in her book, A Survival Guide to Parenting Teens: Talking to Your Kids about Sexting, Drinking, Drugs and Other Things that Freak You Out. Hear all about it in this week’s Mom Enough show!
What issues associated with parenting a teenager make you uncomfortable or hesitant to discuss them with your child? How do you oversee your child’s access to technology and how well do you think your approach is preparing your child to use technology carefully and wisely?
For Joani’s blog, click here.
For our interview with Dr. Laurence Laurence Steinberg, click here.
Apr 24 2017
Rank #3: Raising Your Spirited Child: A Conversation with Author Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Parent educator and author Mary Sheedy Kurcinka calls these children “spirited” and, in her popular book, Raising Your Spirited Child (now in its 3rd edition), helps us understand what’s going on in the brains and bodies of these children. In her interview in this week’s Mom Enough show, Mary offers practical, concrete tips for helping spirited children adapt and thrive. Marti & Erin have some stories and insights about the spirited children in their own family too!
How does this week’s guest, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, define what she calls the “spirited child”? Do you have or know a child who fits that profile? What in this Mom Enough discussion helped you better understand that child’s behavior and think about what you can do to help that child (and those around him or her) be more comfortable and adaptable?
For Mary’s resources, click here.
Aug 13 2018
Rank #4: Why Teens Behave That Way: A Conversation with Dr. Dave Walsh about the Adolescent Brain and Teenage Behavior
Psychologist David Walsh, author of Why Do They Act That Way?, joins Marti & Erin for an enlightening discussion of what’s happening in the adolescent brain and how that helps explain teenage behavior. And he affirms the importance of staying closely connected even when teens seem to push us away.
What did you learn in this Mom Enough discussion of the teenage brain that helped you understand the behavior of adolescents in your family or community? What creative ways can you think of to help teens find the thrills they desire in ways that are safe and positive?
Dec 31 2018
Rank #5: How to Raise a Boy: A Conversation with Psychologist and Author Dr. Michael Reichert about the Power of Connection to Build Good Men
BOYS AND GIRLS ARE NOT AS DIFFERENT AS WE SOMETIMES THINK.
If you listen carefully, you are likely to discover that boys and girls are not as different as we sometimes think. We all long for trust, respect, connection. We all long for our needs and feelings to be heard and acknowledged. And when we provide those things to both our sons and daughters, the world will be better for the men and women they become.
REFLECT ON HOW YOU WILL BEGIN RAISING BOYS DIFFERENTLY.
This week’s Mom Enough guest, Dr. Michael Reichert, says in this discussion, “The problem is not boys, but the boyhood we have built.” What examples can you think of that illustrate this point? What concrete steps could you take to begin to build a better boyhood for the boys in your life, whatever their ages? What one thing will you change in how you are raising your son(s), so they will grow up to be compassionate and caring adults?
WANT TO LEARN MORE?
❉ Check out Dr. Reichert's book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men, to learn more about raising boys.
❉ Helping Our Children Build Self-Compassion: Keys to Kindness, Gratitude and Compassion for Others, click here.
❉ Cut to the Quick: The Consequences of Relational Aggression Among Our Sons & Daughters, click here.
Nov 18 2019
Rank #6: Discovering What Will Help Your Child Develop Self-Regulation Skills: Different Strokes for Different Folks
This week’s Mom Enough guests, Robin Campbell and Cheryl Lundsgaard from St. David's Center for Child & Family Development, shed light on what self-regulation means, how we can help our children become self-regulated, and how important it is to discover what works best for each unique member of our family.
What challenges have you encountered with your children’s self-regulation with respect to sleep? Eating? Other routines and activities? What have you learned about each child’s unique style, needs and preferences for establishing healthy, predictable patterns? In this week’s Mom Enough show what ideas did you get about how to address any regulatory issues with your children (or even yourself!)?
For Possible Sensory and Regulatory Differences, click here.
For Sensory and Motor Strategies that Support Regulation, click here.
For How to Keep Food Fun, click here.
For Problem Feeder Warning Signs, click here.
For Setting the Stage for Sleep, click here.
For Suggestions for Picky Eaters, click here.
For Ways to Change Food, click here.
For St. David’s Mental Health Services, click here.
Aug 21 2017
Rank #7: Positive Parenting Strategies: Small Changes with Big Results
In this week’s Mom Enough show, Dr. Alan Kazdin from Yale University, discusses his ABC approach to handling parenting challenges (A for antecedents, B for behavior, C for consequences). What challenging behaviors would you like to change with your child? What steps could you take to apply Dr. Kazdin’s method, starting with small changes and moving toward the bigger goals.
For Parenting that Works from the American Psychological Association, click here.
For the principles and techniques of behavior change, click here.
Sep 23 2019
Rank #8: Positive Discipline: A Conversation with Author Dr. Jane Nelsen
Dr. Jane Nelsen, author of the well-known Positive Discipline book series (and a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother!) helps us move beyond a quick reaction to misbehavior, take a moment to consider the meaning of our child’s behavior and remember to help our child maintain a sense of connection and belonging. With practical examples drawn from her work and personal experience, Jane helps us move toward a new understanding of children’s misbehavior and arrive at discipline practices that support children’s growth and learning and helps us be the thoughtful, sensitive example our children need.
Think about a recent situation in which you needed to deal with your child’s misbehavior. What would you say was the meaning of your child’s behavior? To what extent did your response preserve the sense of connection between you and your child? Are there positive discipline tools that you would like to try the next time you encounter a similar situation?
Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Cards
The Whole-Brain Child featuring Dr. Dan Siegel
Teaching Children to Be Accountable for their Behavior and Choices tip sheet by Marti Erickson
What is a Parent’s Role in Brain Development? tip sheet by St. David’s Center
Mar 25 2019
Rank #9: Free Forest School: Empowering Parents to Help Young Children Learn and Grow in Nature
So Anna Sharratt, outdoorswoman and mom of two young children, decided to develop a simple, sustainable approach to bring parents and kids together in New York, Texas, Minnesota and elsewhere across North America. Dubbed “Free Forest School,” Anna’s model has helped thousands of parents and kids reap the benefits of nature play, come rain or shine. In this week’s Mom Enough discussion, learn how you can participate in a Free Forest School group.
The health and education benefits of nature play have been well-documented and widely publicized, yet too many American children still do not have opportunities to explore nature. Why do you think that is so? With your own children, what have you done to give them opportunities for free play and exploration in nature? What has helped or hindered you from making sure your kids (and you) reap the benefits of nature? Will you join a Free Forest School group or start a group in your community?
To learn more about Free Forest School, click here.
To find a Free Forest School near you, click here.
To contact Free Forest School, click here.
For an article about outdoor learning in Sweden, click here.
Oct 16 2017
Rank #10: The “Terrible Twos” Reconsidered: Practical Tips for Meeting the Challenges and Discovering the Joys of Terrific Toddlers
Judy Schumacher is a family educator, mom, grandma and author of the newly released Terrific Toddlers! She joins Marti for a rich discussion of how to understand your toddler’s behavior and guide her or him to use all that energy and newfound independence in more constructive ways.
Why do you think tantrums and negativism are so common in toddlers? What is the developmental meaning of those behaviors? What practical tips or helpful principles did you get from this Mom Enough discussion of terrific toddlers?
Dec 18 2017
Rank #11: Qualities of an Effective Parent and Child Relationship: A Study from Search Institute
Tune into this week’s Mom Enough show to hear Gene Roehlkepartain discuss how these strategies benefit children, which are most often missing in the families Search studied, and what you can do to apply these important findings for your child’s lifelong success.
What was surprising to you about the findings from this Search Institute study? Why do you think so many families have trouble sharing power? What practical ideas did you take away from this Mom Enough discussion of the parent and child relationship?
To read the report and other material from the study, click here.
For ParentFurther, click here.
To take the quiz mentioned by Gene, click here.
To read more about developmental relationships, click here.
May 21 2018
Rank #12: The Role of Parents in Early Childhood Social-Emotional Development: A Conversation with Paula Frisk from St. David’s Center for Child & Family Development
Paula Frisk, Senior Director of Birth to Age 5 Home Visiting at St. David’s Center for Child & Family Development, joins Marti for an important discussion of what parents can do to protect their children, what parents need for themselves and what therapeutic resources are available for parents and infants who need help with social-emotional development.
How does a secure parent-child attachment protect a young child when a very upsetting experience is unavoidable? What factors can make it hard for parents to provide that sensitive, responsive care? How has this played out in your own life, as a parent and as a former child?
To learn more about the Harman Center for Child & Family Wellbeing, click here.
For our Parent’s Role in Emotional Development sheet, click here.
For early childhood intervention services in Hennepin County, click here.
For our positive stress and toxic stress interview with Dr. Megan Gunnar, click here.
For our What is Toxic Stress? sheet, click here.
For our Understanding the Biology of Stress in Young Children sheet, click here.
Jan 08 2018
Rank #13: Early Puberty in Girls Today: Causes, Effects and Practical Tips
Dr. Louise Greenspan and Dr. Julianna Deardorff, authors of The New Puberty: How to Navigate Early Development in Today’s Girls, join Marti & Erin in this week’s Mom Enough show for an informative discussion of some of the reasons behind early puberty in girls and the consequences of this phenomenon. They also discuss practical steps parents can take to reduce the risk of early puberty and protect children from other possible harm from environmental toxins. Whatever the ages of your children, don’t miss this very important discussion.
What surprised you in this discussion of early puberty in girls and some of the likely causes? What has been your experience with helping a child in your life understand and manage the physical and psychological changes associated with puberty?
For the lavender and tea tree oils study from the New England Journal of Medicine, click here.
For the Skin Deep Mobile App, click here.
Jul 24 2017
Rank #14: Moral Development in Children : Practical Guidance on Promoting Morality and Character
This week’s Mom Enough guest, therapist John Driggs, brings a humble, reflective perspective to this important topic in human development, offering much-needed encouragement and hope for our children’s future.
What did you hear in this conversation that prompted you to reflect on how you are supporting your children’s moral development? What factors in today’s world make it hard to teach your children right from wrong? What have you found to be most effective with your children?
Character Matters: How to Help Our Children Develop Good Judgment, Integrity and Other Essential Virtues, book by Thomas Lickona
Discussing emotions with children tip sheet from the University of Minnesota
Fostering Compassionate Children tips from St. David's Center
The Parents We Mean To Be: How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children's Emotional and Moral Development, book by Richard Weissbourd
Jun 10 2019
Rank #15: Potty Training and Bed-wetting: Calm Guidance from Dr. Andrew Barnes
This week’s Mom Enough guest, University of Minnesota’s Dr. Andrew Barnes, helps cut through the confusion with both concrete tips and wise advice to remain calm and patient.
What different kinds of advice have you received about potty training and bed-wetting and how did that advice come to you? What was helpful and what was not? Are your children at an age at which toileting problems are still an issue? If so, what did you get from this week’s Mom Enough show to help you see or respond to the issue in new ways?
May 22 2017
Rank #16: Positive Parenting Strategies: Small Changes with Big Results
In this week’s Mom Enough show, Dr. Alan Kazdin from Yale University, discusses his ABC approach to handling parenting challenges (A for antecdents, B for behavior, C for consequences). What challenging behaviors would you like to change with your child? What steps could you take to apply Dr. Kazdin’s positive parenting method, starting with small changes and moving toward the bigger goals?
For Parenting that Works from the American Psychological Association, click here.
For the principles and techniques of behavior change, click here.
Feb 20 2017
Rank #17: Free Range Kids: A Conversation with Author and Activist Lenore Skenazy
Now, through her writing, speaking and working creatively with schools and communities, Lenore is leading a movement to back off from helicopter parenting and Let Grow, as she named the nonprofit she and colleagues created. Tune into her lively discussion with Marti & Erin and then reflect on how you can let the children in your life be free range kids!
In what ways did you roam freely in your childhood? How are things the same or different for your children, and why? What do you think are the risks of protecting and directing kids so strongly in childhood and adolescence?
Let Grow blog
Let Grow schools
Free-Range Kids book
Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone article by Lenore Skenazy
Unleashing the Instinct to Play featuring Peter Gray
Supporting Your Child’s Gradual Development of Healthy Independence by Marti Erickson
May 13 2019
Rank #18: Children’s Trust: How Children Decide Who Is Trustworthy and Why That Is Important for Parents and Educators to Understand
But Melissa Koenig, professor in the U of M’s Institute of Child Development, is part of a team of children’s trust researchers who are showing that even babies know how to be skeptics. These provocative findings raise important questions about how children’s trust enters in to learning and how parents and teachers can earn the trust of children and help them build their ability to recognize honesty at a time when it’s often hard to come by. (Thank you to the U’s College of Education and Human Development for providing this week’s guest.)
What was surprising to you about Melissa Koenig’s findings about young children’s trust? Marti & Erin and their guest talked about the need for parents to be “transparent” with their kids and to only make promises they can keep. Give some real-life examples of when this advice could be implemented.
For Can children save us from the fake news epidemic?, click here.
To watch Trust Through the Eyes of Children, click here.
For Melissa's Early Language and Experience Lab, click here.
For the U of M’s College of Education and Human Development, click here.
For Melissa's ME show discussing learning a second language, click here.
For more on the marshmallow experiment, click here.
Apr 23 2018
Rank #19: Childhood Anxiety: Possible Causes, Helpful Strategies and Effective Treatments
If your child’s anxiety is serious enough to interfere with learning, relationships and life enjoyment, a mental health professional can help find the most effective treatment. HealthPartners psychiatrist Dr. Elizabeth Reeve brings her knowledge and experience with childhood anxiety to this lively discussion with Marti & Erin, who share a few stories of how anxiety shows up on their own family tree!
Does someone in your family struggle with anxiety? How does it show up and what has been helpful at home, at school or work and in professional treatment, if used?
Oct 23 2017
Rank #20: Reflective Parenting: How Reflecting on Your Feelings and Your Child’s Can Turn Everyday Challenges into Breakthrough Moments
Think of a recent difficult situation with your child and how you handled it. What do you think might have been the purpose or meaning of your child’s behavior? What were your feelings at the time? Were your figures triggered only by your child’s behavior or did other factors enter in? Using these reflections, what, if anything, would you do differently in that situation?
For The Reflective Parent, click here.
For Dr. Pally's advice on parenting, click here.
Mar 20 2017