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Rank #96 in Relationships category

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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

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Friends I’ve never met

By OBoaz - Apr 29 2020
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I always look forward to new episodes. Minx especially is a wonderful interviewer. Warm yet thorough. I appreciate the diversity of guests. The friendly tone of the podcast makes me feel less alone, and helps make even challenging content easier to digest. I still remember listening to the podcasts about abuse in polyamory while dealing with my own abusive relationship. Thanks for all your work on this podcast over the years Minx & co.

Informative and Important!

By MorgTaranto - Jul 31 2018
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I absolutely love this podcast, highly recommended!

iTunes Ratings

344 Ratings
Average Ratings
290
30
7
7
10

Friends I’ve never met

By OBoaz - Apr 29 2020
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I always look forward to new episodes. Minx especially is a wonderful interviewer. Warm yet thorough. I appreciate the diversity of guests. The friendly tone of the podcast makes me feel less alone, and helps make even challenging content easier to digest. I still remember listening to the podcasts about abuse in polyamory while dealing with my own abusive relationship. Thanks for all your work on this podcast over the years Minx & co.

Informative and Important!

By MorgTaranto - Jul 31 2018
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I absolutely love this podcast, highly recommended!
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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

Rank #1: 505: How do I know if poly is right for me?

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We are trying poly for the first time; it was his idea. I like the idea, but I'm having a hard time. At what point do I decide if poly just isn't right for me? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Feb 19 2017

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Rank #2: PW 285: Advice for poly newbies

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Advice for poly newbies from Anita Wagner at Polycamp Northwest! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit our Facebook page or blog.

Aug 30 2011

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Rank #3: PW 441: How to have a threesome

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Wanna have a threesome? Sexpert Reid Mihalko shares his tips for getting past the awkward and to the fun! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Aug 07 2015

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Rank #4: PW 430: Don't try polyamory before listening to this

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Know what everyone fears about polyamory--jealousy, being displaced, change? Those aren't what destroy relationships. Koe Creation and Cunning Minx review what does frak up relationships by referencing Veaux's and Rickert's Relationship Bill of Rights. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Apr 27 2015

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Rank #5: 540 Jealousy Survival Guide with Kitty Chambliss

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Kitty Chambliss shares her insights on jealousy and the Jealousy Survival Guide

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Intro and host chat

We’re on Spotify!

1:50 Poly in the news

Polyamory in Sicilon Valley

4:10 Interview: Kitty Chambliss, author of the Jealousy Survival Guide

Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon best selling author, relationship coach, polyamorous and sex-positive speaker, activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). Since 2012 LWB has over 200 blog posts and 70 podcasts to date. Kitty’s work has been featured in Stories From the Polycule, Multiamory, Swingtowns, PostModern Woman, the upcoming book It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships, and other publications around the globe.

Kitty is a professional dual-certified (CPC and ELI-MP) relationship coach. Lastly Kitty is thrilled to be bringing her first book: Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship out to the world. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. Find her on her website.

33:40 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Dec 08 2017

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Rank #6: 569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell

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Sex therapist Dr. Liz Powell rejoins us to talk about how she became a sex therapist and why she wrote her new book, Building Open Relationships.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:15 Host chat

We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th.

2:45 Poly in the news

Non-monogamous relationships are normal, and the stigma needs to end

7:35 Interview: Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell

Dr. Liz Powell shares how and why she got into sex therapy, including her stint and internship in the army dealing with combat stress and families, moonlighting in private practice in Savannah, GA serving the LGBTQIA community, and continuing to do sex therapy work afterwards.

Misconceptions about sex therapy: it’s not all about the sex. It’s about the relationship people have with their own bodies, with their partners, and to the stories of sexuality and pleasure. Many therapists only get two days of training on sexuality issues, if at all.

What is the most common communication issue that you see? Expectations of mind-reading and letting things go unsaid rather than communicating your wants and needs openly and honestly.  

Why Building Open Relationships? It’s less about theory and more nuts and bolts of how to make a relationship successful with full respect for individual autonomy and consent. For example, think about how your message will land or be perceived rather than just the way you want to say it.

Find it at www.buildingopenrelationships.com or www.sexpositivepsych.com or www.drlizpowell.com. Find her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Her previous episode on this podcast was 554 Grief and loss in relationships.

31:50 Happy poly moment

Geoff and Sylvie share happy poly moments.

34:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Mar 18 2019

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Rank #7: PW 296: Open relationship versus polyamory

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What's the difference between an open relationship and a polyamorous one? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Nov 21 2011

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Rank #8: 546 Hierarchies and power dynamics in poly

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Erich Viedge interviews Chris Deaton about polyamory and BDSM

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:15 Announcements

2:00 Poly in the news

The tabloids are loving poly story packages

6:30 Interview: Chris Deaton on hierarchy and power dynamics in polyamory

Our South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews researcher Chris Deaton on hierarchy and power dynamics in polyamory. He is doing a survey on how power exchange in BDSM poly relationships are reflected in poly relationships that might otherwise be egalitarian.

279 Polyamory and BDSM with Raven Kalera

538 Coming out to your kids with Casey Blake

28:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Feb 05 2018

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Rank #9: 527 Establishing relationship patterns

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What behavioral patterns do you establish at the beginning of your relationships, and why does that matter?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Announcements

If you want to have us speak at your event outside the US and are willing to host a fundraiser to finance our travel, we are happy to donate classes, signed books and even relationship coaching to help you out! Interested? Email lustyguy@polyweekly.com

5:10 Poly in the News

The third edition of their seminal book, The Ethical Slut!

6:20 Topic: behavioral patterns in your relationships (and how to establish them)

Sarah from Australia asked for Lusty Guy to elaborate on his comment about patterns at the start of relationship establishing what will happen later on in the relationship. What patterns do you establish when you start dating? Any red flag behaviors? What the hell is Lusty Guy talking about?

  • A pattern is the behavior you adopt in the face of differing styles or approaches to stuff in relationships
  • The way you establish a pattern is to ask yourself how you ideally want to respond to conflicts or conflicting patterns (such as who plans a date)—and those will often persist throughout the duration of the relationship
  • What do you want your partner to learn?
  • LG likes to look for ways to be his very best self in the first relationship conflict. “Whenever you want to reach someone, you have to be reachable.” Be vulnerable!
  • Red flags: pay attention to the nature of the stories people tell about themselves. Are they the avenging hero? Martyr? Berserker? Affable buffoon? And look for the differences between the behavior you observe and the stories they tell
    • Also, do they share?
    • How do they talk about their past relationships? Are they respectful of past partners and relationships?
    • What comments do they make about strangers?
24:25 Feedback

Thanks for having Goody Howard on the show!

26:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Aug 17 2017

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Rank #10: 539 Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women

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Pepper Mint discusses his new book, Playing Fair: Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Intro and host chat

Minx apologizes for not publishing the last two weeks due to work and family obligations, but yay, we have an interview with Pepper this week!

2:00 Interview: Pepper Mint

Pepper Mint is an activist, educator, and community organizer in the polyamory and BDSM communities in San Francisco.  Over the years, he has been responsible for many fun adventures, including Poly Speed Dating and the OpenSF conference.  You can find his writings at freaksexual.com and pepperminty.com, and you can buy his new book Playing Fair: a Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women on Amazon here or at Thorntree Press here.

24:30 Feedback

Nick writes in about how the episode 535 on asexuality was a revelation for him.

28:40 Happy Poly Moment

Catharina shares a happy poly moment about being an awesome partner and metamour!

31:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Dec 01 2017

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Rank #11: PW 412: Relationship "rules" of order

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LustyGuy shares relationship best practices for relationships that kept him and L together in polyamory for 30 years. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Dec 12 2014

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Rank #12: PW 490: Boundaries vs rules

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Poly 101: what is the real difference between boundaries and rules? And do hierarchies work in poly?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Oct 14 2016

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Rank #13: PW 369: Getting over the poly hump

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How do you come to accept and embrace polyamory when it wasn't your idea? Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, who are currently crowdfunding a new poly 101 book, give advice! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Sep 19 2013

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Rank #14: 552 My wife chose her lover over me

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Cesar's wife told him she missed him and then left to be with her lover. Is the solution to tell her not to say she misses him?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Announcements

7:45 Poly in the News

A poly quad was on the Today show on March 1 and holy crap it was great

10:00 My wife chose her lover over me

Cesar called in to ask for advice. His wife opened up their relationship and has a “fuckbuddy.” Cesar has four jobs; she has one. Time together is at a minimum. When she picked him up one night, she told him she missed him and then left to spend the night with her other partner. Cesar got mad, asked her not to tell him she missed him if she was going to leave. He feels she should have spent the evening with him having makeup sex instead of with her other partner.

  • Was her date a surprise? If so, talk about minimizing surprises by discussing scheduling and changes to the schedule in advance.
  • Did you decide together to open up the relationship, or did your wife make the decision to open up? If the latter, you will have a lot of additional feelings to unpack.
  • Let her be the expert on her. Believe your partner when she expresses her feelings and vulnerability. Accusing her of lying is responding to her vulnerability with aggression.
  • Never tell a partner to stop telling you how they feel! Try responding to her “I miss you” with “I miss you, too. When can we make time for each other?” Or try using the “when you _, I feel ” structure to share your feelings about what she just said.
  • Don’t borrow trouble. Stop imaging the worst.
  • Ask for what you want. Have you asked for more time with her?
  • She didn’t skip makeup sex with you because you hadn’t made up! You’ve made up when you both have a shared understanding of the conflict, you’ve both apologized for your contributions to it, and you have both agreed on specific actions to prevent it in the future.

27:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Mar 26 2018

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Rank #15: 534 Janet Hardy and the Ethical Slut third edition

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Janet Hardy on the last 20 years of polyamory and the latest edition of the Ethical Slut.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Host chat and announcements

The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science!

2:45 Interview: Janet Hardy on her life and The Ethical Slut’s third edition

Janet Hardy, author of over a dozen books on sexuality, BDSM and polyamory, joins us for a life and editorial update. She’s sharpening her illustration skills for a brand-new, fully-illustrated edition of The Sexually Dominant Woman and working with her grown sons on their early poly lives, working title “Slut and Sons.”

We talk about that great write up in Rolling Stone, the first headline about geeks making the best lovers that opened the door to talking about poly in the 90s and how that has changed. And we talk about what is new in ES3—consent culture, more inclusiveness and more. Plus, Janet’s favorite musical!

Buy the book from Janet’s Facebook page or book Janet through her website

26:15 Happy poly moment

New listener Sarah shares a happy poly moment about her partners collaborating to make her day.

27:45 Thank you!

Welcome Meiyi to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

28:15 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Oct 12 2017

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Rank #16: PW 477: What's the trick to triads?

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What's the trick to triads? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

May 05 2016

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Rank #17: PW 281: Infidelity will keep us together

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Dan Savage's take on nonmonogamy: infidelity will keep us together. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Jul 17 2011

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Rank #18: PW 355: Does penis size matter?

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Does penis size matter? The study. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Apr 21 2013

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Rank #19: PW 330: From two to three: advice on opening up a couple

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From two to three: how to open up a couple--advice from your potential third. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Aug 09 2012

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Rank #20: PW 379: Owning your shit

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What does it mean to "own your own shit"? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Dec 30 2013

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587 Love in the time of coronavirus

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How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation?

0:00 Introduction and host chat
  • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
  • Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes!
  • We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome!
3:00 Poly in the news 10:45 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

11:25 Topic: should we move my metamour in with us while we socially isolate?

If you’re considering cohabitation that you wouldn’t have considered due to coronavirus social isolation requirements, some advice:

  • As always, make sure your existing relationships are relatively healthy first.
  • Ask everyone involved what they need to be happy and healthy in a communal space. Consider personal space, alone time, sexual, and physical needs.
  • Discuss how finances will work in terms of rent, groceries, and other bills.
  • Discuss expectations for chores and other responsibilities.
  • Ask your kids how they feel about your metamour moving in.
  • Have the pets been introduced? Is there a danger that they might attack each other?
  • Set up regular check-ins after the move-in. These provide opportunities to bring up what it working well, what isn’t, to express gratitude and appreciations, and to bring up issues before they become bigger.
  • Take a break from news coverage if it increases anxiety or feelings of depression.
17:00 Join the conversation

To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

17: 05 Feedback
  • S from the Boston area calls in to share a personal neologism, “schmeeling.”
  • Phenom calls in to ask how to get her partner to date more and make sure everything is OK. She keeps encouraging him to date, but he’s not getting out as much as her.
    • There is no issue here except that maybe you feel guilty. Deal with your own guilt and stop pressuring him to date!
24:45 Pervy bird throuple

Oops! Accidentally skipped this one: Perverted Illinois bald eagle threesome threatens sanctity of marriage. What’s next, hawk orgies?

26:00 Happy poly moment

Finding unexpected commonalities with your metamour!

28:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Mar 24 2020

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586 Feast or famine

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What do you do when you have one romantic partner and your partner has none?

0:00 Introduction and host chat
  • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
  • What were your favorite shows of 2019?
    • 569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell--March 18--17,397
    • 572 When your partner’s jealousy precludes your polyamory--April 28--14,392
    • 568 A framework for consent--March 3--13,440
    • 576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners--July 1--13,019
    • All-time downloads: 7,261,446
5:15 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

5:40 Topic: Feast or famine: when you have more partners than your partner

Oliver is in his first non-mono relationship with S. S had said she wouldn’t date him if he were monogamous, so he gave it a try. Now he is in a relationship with T, and S has decided that “meaningless sex with strangers” aren’t what she wants. Oliver is afraid S will ask him to stop seeing T, since S has no relationship partners.

Has anyone of you ever come across a situation where you've been frustrated with non-monogamy? How can you manage a situation where one partner has other partners while the other one doesn't?

  • It’s the people involved, not the relationship style you should question.
  • Relationships don’t have to be equal; they only need to be fair. Your polyamory isn’t contingent upon your partner having a certain number of relationships/partners. 
  • Relationship ruler: is it making you a happier and healthier version of yourself?
  • You can be gay and not dating. You can be poly and only dating one person (like Minx)
  • You get to decide who you date and how you date them. So does she. She doesn’t get to say who you date (although she can certainly establish a boundary that if you date other people, she won’t be with you).
17:05 Join the conversation

To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

17:20 Happy poly moment

C writes in to share a happy poly moment about opening her relationship due to a long-distance move, and things went well!

18:50 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to our new PW Playmate, Tom, for his subscription! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Feb 05 2020

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585 Poly for the holidays

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Advice from six different therapists, relationship coaches, and body workers on navigating family events as a poly person over the holidays

0:00 Introduction and host chat
  • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
  • My Thanksgiving Happy Poly Moment
5:25 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

5:45 Topic: Poly for the holidays 32:00 Join the conversation

To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

32:30 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to our new PW Playmate, Tom, for his subscription! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Dec 04 2019

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584 Dealing with abandonment issues

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I have abandonment issues, but I don't know what I need when they come up. How do I ask my partners for what I need?

0:00 Introduction and host chat
  • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
  • Thanks to the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!
  • Poly for the Holidays contributions
1:55 Poly in the news 5:25 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

5:55 Topic: Dealing with abandonment issues

Katie has abandonment issues and asks how to better cope with them when poly. She knows she has them but doesn’t know what to ask for when they arise.

  • Knowing and identifying is half the battle.
  • Explain to your partners what you shared with me—how it feels. Ask for their help with comfort might you need in the moment. Do the full analysis when you’re not in the midst of the issue.
17:15 Join the conversation

To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

17:30 Feedback

Joe writes in with additional advice to the listener in episode 567 on how to find poly community near you.

20:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to our new PW Playmate, Tom, for his subscription! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Nov 24 2019

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583 Poly Weekly live from Portland!

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We interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon

0:00 Introduction and host chat
  • If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com
  • We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!
2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah

Lessons learned include:

  • poly and kinky people are everywhere
  • it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group
  • “Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!”
9:00 Poly Weekly live!
  • What advice would you give to solo polys?
  • 12:45 How to come out to folks who aren’t familiar with poly?
    • Anticipate questions, be prepared, be calm, don’t take it personally, give them a year to freak out
    • Folks will match your tone, so adopt one of calm, easy compassion
  • 16:00 How has poly changed in the last 14 years?
  • 17:45 And now there are terms for everything!
  • 19:05 How do I bring up the birth control discussion?
    • Be brave and bring it up. Or leave a birth control pamphlet in the toilet for leisure reading! J
    • Use regular relationship check ins as a space to bring up any issues
  • 22:15 What is your take on hierarchies?
    • If it works for everyone involved and it’s transparent, fine. But it doesn’t work for everyone (or me).
    • The challenge with hierarchies is that it sets up a permission model.
    • Be aware if you are talking about power structure or entanglement levels? If the latter, “nesting partner” might be more useful than “primary.”
  • 26:15 My mom thinks my polyamory is a phase. Do you know folks who have lived out their lives as poly?
    • Allena Gabosch, Oberon Zell-Ravenhart, and many others.
    • Just as with child-rearing, having an extended network to help you in your old age is valuable.
31:15 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

32:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Nov 06 2019

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582 When you break up with your metamour

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J broke up with her metamour because she was triggering J's PTSD, but the metamour still "butts in" on J's dates with her partner. How does she handle this poly situation?

Oct 23 2019

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581 I'm tired of the restrictions my mono husband puts on me

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After four years, listener Newseeker is tired of asking her husband's permission every time she wants to go on a date with her partner of three years. How long should she accommodate his slow pace?

0:00 Introduction and host chat 4:00 Poly in the news 5:25 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

6:10 I’m tired of the restrictions my husband is putting on me

Newseeker (married 10 years, open for four, with a partner of three years) writes in to say she is tired of the objections her husband has to how she practices poly. He’d prefer she have more random sexual partners and not be in another loving relationship. Even though opening the relationship was her idea, it’s taxing on her to constantly have to ask when she can see her partner and wait until the last minute to make plans to accommodate hubby.

  • The permission model doesn’t work for adults, only with kids
  • No one can maintain an unnatural pace indefinitely
  • The Relationship Bill of Rights refers to agency: you have a say in how many partners to have, which ones, and how often you see them.
16:50 Join the conversation

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17:05 Happy Poly Moment

This week’s HPM is from a gay triad with no one feeling left out!

19:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Oct 09 2019

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580 Should I still marry my now-straight partner?

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A listener is engaged to her fiancée, who just came out as straight. How does she cope with not having sex with her soon-to-be wife?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Content warning and why you can’t find our podcast on Apple Podcasts in India.

Let’s celebrate Dixie De la Tour, Bawdy Storytelling, and the Bawdy Storytelling podcast that you can subscribe to on Apple Podcasts. There is also a Facebook group of Bawdy fans that is super fun.

5:30 Poly in the news

Couple-centric and non-diverse article in Cascadia claiming Portland is the center of Pacific NW poly

9:45 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

10:45 My fiancée now identifies as straight and doesn’t want sex with me

Emily writes in to say that her fiancée recently identified as straight and will no longer have sex with her. She says they are poly, so it doesn’t mean that there won’t be any sex for her, but she is confused. She says she their love is unconditional, so it shouldn’t matter, but what does this mean for their relationship?

20:00 Join the conversation

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21:00 Happy Poly Moment

This week’s HPM is multinational and tech-assisted!

22:10 Feedback

SLT writes in in response to episode 519 on the issue of poly-friendly housing and

23:30 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Oct 02 2019

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570 On writing inclusive fiction with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan

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Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan, coauthors of For Hire: Operator and the soon-to-be-released For Hire: Audition, talk about why they write a queer poly superhero universe.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Thanks to Anita Wagner for introducing me to the term “petamour

1:30 Poly in the news

Vice has a great new article about poly families and poly parenting

3:05 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

3:35 Interview: Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan on writing inclusive fiction

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan join us to talk about their next soon-to-be-released queer superhero book, For Hire: Audition. You may remember their last interview with us on episode 563 around For Hire: Operator or Kevin’s interview around his book, Love’s Not Color Blind.

26:30 Join the conversation

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27:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

Sep 08 2019

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578 How do I avoid feeling like a homewrecker?

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Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Aug 21 2019

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577 When love IS a zero sum game

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A listener asks what to do when love does feel like a zero sum game; his wife took a lover, and our listener felt like he got even less sex than before.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Intro and host chat
  • Minx recorded an episode of D&D Dads podcast with J.R. Blackwell, but the podcast hasn’t yet launched. Stay tuned!
  • We had fun in Copenhagen!
3:00 Poly in the news 9:00 When love IS a zero-sum game

Listener Micah writes in to ask what to do now that his wife brought up the idea of poly, started dating someone half her age, and is now having much less sex with Micah.

  • If we are painting a rosy, easy picture of poly, we need to change, because the emotional development required for polyamory (or any relationship) takes time and effort.
  • Lusty Guy wonders about the use of the word “affair”—is this a reflection of your jealousy, or do you feel she wasn’t being honest?
  • The issue is likely some preexisting issue in your relationship (perhaps the libido difference, perhaps something else). This sounds like “relationship broken, add more people.”
  • To strengthen your relationship, have an honest conversation with your wife. Stop comparing before and after the metamour and start talking about the behaviors you want to see to feel better in your relationship. And ask for the same of her.
19:00 Happy poly moment

A monogamous listener writes in to share a happy not-poly moment about not panicking when her fiancé shared that he was attracted to a colleague, and our listener could accept it without jealousy or drama!

20:45 Feedback
  • Soft Shell Crabby wrote in a follow up after we address her question in episode 574 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour (spoiler: it helped, and they are better now!)
  • Reama says some really nice things about the quality of our content.
23:40 Thank you!

Thanks to our new Poly Weekly Playmates, Mirjam, Syncione, Quinlan, and Melvin!

24:10 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Aug 05 2019

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576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners

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A listener asks if her new boyfriend is emotionally unavailable, will poly help?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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2:10 Poly in the news 7:50 Is poly a solution for emotionally unavailable partners?

A listener writes in to ask if polyamory is possible when her partner seems to be currently emotionally unavailable. Our listener  met a guy five months ago, when she was a newly-single mom not looking for commitment. They never talked about what their relationship was, but our listener knew she wanted something casual and honest. Then he planned an all-day romantic date, felt relationshippy, which followed up by not reading her text messages, which led her to feel insecure and question her own behavior. They talked, and he mentioned he didn’t want to replicate a previous codependent relationship, and things were fin for a while. Then polyamory came up in a dinner with friends, and he mentioned it might work if she was his primary, but he wasn’t involved with any others.

  • Good for you for realizing both you and he have boundaries and needs that need to be considered
  • Short answer is no, a relationship can't be healthy if both you and he are more concerned about enforcing boundaries than letting the relationship develop organically
  • This falls into the "relationship broken; add more people" paradigm, which typically does not work out well
  • This is a great opportunity for both of you to negotiate the relationship you each need. Ask for what you want (not to negatively affect your daughter but to still feel appreciated) and listen to what he wants (to have good quality time and lots of space). 
  • Both of you should ask for specific behaviors--what specific things can he do make you feel appreciated? what specific things can you do to make sure he has "space"? 
  • And one last thing--relationship conversations are best in person. Avoid having these discussions over text if at all possible.
15:30 Feedback

Laura from episode 588 When to give up on polyamory wrote in to give us a happy update, a year later!

19:30 Happy poly moment
  • Laura ends up her feedback by sharing a generous happy poly moment on the part of her husband
  • A poly newbie in Germany shares a happy poly moment about her partner and metamour providing a bathroom shelf and toothbrush for her!
24:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Jul 01 2019

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575 We love Allena Gabosch

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Celebrating the amazing sex-positive activist Allena Gabosch, who gave us a big scare last week.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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Last week, we nearly lost an amazing sex-positive educator to cancer. Allena Gabosch has pulled through, so this week’s episode is a replay of my 2010 interview with Allena.

In Bawdy Storyelling podcast episode 78, Dixie de la Tour shares her feelings about nearly losing Allena Gabosch.

4:30 Interview: Allena Gabosch

The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares the origin story of the Center in its current state and her own experiences with polyamory. Recorded in 2010 from Paradise Unbound!

50:25 Poly in the news 55:30 Thank you!

Welcome Camilla to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

56:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Jun 17 2019

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574 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour?

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My boyfriend and I transitioned from a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship to full honest, transparent polyamory. Now I want to meet my formerly DADT metamour when she comes to visit him next month. Is that OK?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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We’ll be in Copenhagen next month; let us know what we should do/see!

1:50 Poly in the news 6:10 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour?

Soft Shell Crabby writes in to say she’s 43 and her boyfriend is 42, and they’ve been together for four years. They did a don’t-ask-don’t-tell (DADT) style of nonmonogamy for a while, but they ended up becoming so deeply involved that they talked about being more open, honest, and transparent with each other. He confessed that he’d been poly before but had avoided bringing it up to avoid the tough conversations that would inevitably follow.

He also has a pre-arranged sexy-time visit set up with a girlfriend who was flying in from New York, and Soft Shell Crabby now wants to meet that metamour. She asks if it’s unreasonable to ask for to meet her formerly DADT metamour, and by the way what should she do about the fact that the metamour is cheating on her husband with SSC’s boyfriend? SSC feels like her boyfriend gets to call all the shots.

  • Everything you feel is reasonable and OK.
  • He isn’t getting to call all the shots. You get to call your shots; your boyfriend gets to call his shot; your metamour gets to call her shots.
  • It’s not a good idea to ask a partner to deliver a message to another partner. Direct communication is better.
  • It IS a good idea to ask for what you want (to meet her), with the understanding that she has the right to say no.
  • Is there something within the power of your partner to give that would alleviate your feelings? Do YOU want a threesome/group sex like he’s having with her? Ask him to arrange it for you!
  • How do you forgive your boyfriend for this unethical behavior? First, focus on your limits, not his behavior. Can you be in a relationship with someone who facilitates cheating? If not, you have the right to leave. Second, the way you “forgive your man for conducting his relationships in an unethical manner” is to exercise understanding of the pattern of behavior (he also hid his desire for poly from you) and to exercise compassion. Third, most people have cheated at some point. Consider exercising more compassion and less judgment.
  • This is a good time to decide what you need at the very minimum in terms of contact from your metamours. You may need a higher or lower level of contact, but this is a good time to explore that and figure out what you need to be happy.
19:15 Happy Poly Moment

Johnny shared a moment in which he picked out his girlfriend’s birthday gift with his wife. And his girlfriend’s husband reached out to Johnny as a poly newbie to see if Johnny needed anything for the big birthday get together!

20:30 Feedback

Jessica gives feedback on episode 573 about using the term “nerd blackface.” We address two concerns: (1) that by using the term “blackface” to refer to nerds, we devalue the power of the original term, which we agree with and (2) that the term doesn’t apply to The Big Bang Theory, which we disagree with. The latter is based on a large group of people who self-identify as nerds and do find the term applies, and we are not comfortable dismissing the critique of that group of people.

25:25 Thank you!

Welcome Camilla to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

25:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Jun 03 2019

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573 Should I live with my metamour

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My metamour and I get along great, and I need a roommate. Will it muck things up if I ask them to move in?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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2:10 Poly in the news 9:55 Topic: Should I live with my metamour?

Olipoly writes in about the possibility of living with her metamour; she doesn’t want to live with her partner and gets along with them great. She’s considering asking her metamour to move in to the room that her roommate is moving out of.

  • Don’t ask us; ask them!
  • Ask them all the questions you just asked us and think through the possibilities to discover hard limits.
  • Practice by spending a weekend together.
  • Treat them professionally, like a client you need to keep happy.
  • Get a dishwasher.
16:15 Happy Poly Moment

Bunz in Knoxville originally had a negative impression of polyamory. But she and her husband read, talked out it, did exercises, and even started a meetup group in Knoxville!

18:00 Feedback

Mike gives feedback on episode 572 about one person not taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions.

23:35 Thank you!

Welcome Susan to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

23:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

May 19 2019

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572 When your partner's jealousy precludes your polyamory

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What do you do when your partner gets so jealous that you feel compelled to give up your boyfriend, while your hubby happily dates away?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:25 Poly in the news

Study could explain why people choose to have multiple relationships

3:25 Topic: what do I do when my partner agrees to be poly but gets jealous when I date?

Debby writes in to ask what to do when polyamory doesn’t work for a couple. She and her husband are in their 50s, four years into their second marriage, and did the research before opening up 18 months into their relationship. He was into no-strings-attached sex but got very jealous when Debby would date. She finally had to dump her boyfriend (in a poly marriage of 15 years) due to her husband’s inability to cope with his jealousy. She asks what to do when polyamory doesn’t work for a couple.

  • We both think it DID work—he liked the sex, and you loved your boyfriend. The question is, does monogamy work for you?
  • Debby might be confusing behaviors with relationship labels. You’re still having to deal with all the risks and tasks of polyamory—jealousy, scheduling, emotional issues—but you somehow don’t get to date and experience the benefits.
  • What steps did he take to address his jealousy? It was a mistake to stop giving him the opportunity to practicing his jealousy coping mechanisms.
  • There must be a middle ground between “I must live half a life” and “we get a divorce.”
  • Someone else’s emotions require for them to change behaviors, not yours. It’s not for Debby to take responsibility for her husband’s jealousy. His emotions are his and require action from him, not from her. Don’t let your partner’s emotional reactions control your actions.
  • So now it seems that Debby feels forced to give up a perfectly healthy relationship due to her husband’s inability to deal with his jealousy. If they do revert to monogamy, how will she take steps to avoid resentment?
18:15 Feedback

Katie gives feedback on scheduling from episode 565—no one with kids has that kind of availability!

21:00 Happy Poly Moment

Heather wrote in to share when one of her partner's besties said to her about Heather (who is happily married) today, "can't you two just be together forever? She is so perfect for you!" Good validation!

23:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Apr 28 2019

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571 Growing up poly

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On the launch of their new book, Koe Creation shares what it was like growing up in a polyamorous household. 

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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We had fun at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK!

3:00 Poly in the news

On the opposite site of the earth, is poly on the rise? Collection of media coverage in NZ over the last few years

5:15 Interview: Koe Creation, author of This Heart Holds Many

We talk about Koe’s new book, This Heart Holds Many, and the challenge of writing a semiautobiographical book about growing up in a poly family. Find them online at their website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram as @koecreate.

23:00 Happy Poly Moment
  • Kim writes in to share TWO happy poly moments about her metamour getting married (One Family Podcast)
  • Olivia writes in to share a Thanksgiving happy poly moment with her asexual partners
26:35 Thank you!

Welcome to our new Poly Weekly Playmates, Chris and Alisha!

27:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Apr 17 2019

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570 Poly erotica

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We chat with Laura Zielinsky, author of a new poly erotic novel

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat 3:30 Interview: Laura Zielinsky, author of We Are Three

We interview Laura Zielinksy, author of new poly erotic novel We Three: One and One and One Makes Three.

Book summary: Eric and Elena Tanner have been enjoying their lifestyle membership at the Club Caliente for years. Swinging fulfills their desire to meet new people and engage in group sex.

When the new bartender, Jess, flirts with them and agrees to play in a threesome, Eric and Elena make plans for a single night of pleasure. All three are satisfied, so Jess is invited to come again. And again.

For months Elena, Jess, and Eric meet up for lots of sex, and dinners. There are casual nights in Netflix and chilling. It's heady, addictive and no one wants it to end.

However, they all know that's the deal in the lifestyle. Swingers move out of each other's lives all the time. Complication is the enemy. So what happens when they start to fall in love?

18:25 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Apr 04 2019

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569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell

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Sex therapist Dr. Liz Powell rejoins us to talk about how she became a sex therapist and why she wrote her new book, Building Open Relationships.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat

We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th.

2:45 Poly in the news

Non-monogamous relationships are normal, and the stigma needs to end

7:35 Interview: Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell

Dr. Liz Powell shares how and why she got into sex therapy, including her stint and internship in the army dealing with combat stress and families, moonlighting in private practice in Savannah, GA serving the LGBTQIA community, and continuing to do sex therapy work afterwards.

Misconceptions about sex therapy: it’s not all about the sex. It’s about the relationship people have with their own bodies, with their partners, and to the stories of sexuality and pleasure. Many therapists only get two days of training on sexuality issues, if at all.

What is the most common communication issue that you see? Expectations of mind-reading and letting things go unsaid rather than communicating your wants and needs openly and honestly.  

Why Building Open Relationships? It’s less about theory and more nuts and bolts of how to make a relationship successful with full respect for individual autonomy and consent. For example, think about how your message will land or be perceived rather than just the way you want to say it.

Find it at www.buildingopenrelationships.com or www.sexpositivepsych.com or www.drlizpowell.com. Find her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Her previous episode on this podcast was 554 Grief and loss in relationships.

31:50 Happy poly moment

Geoff and Sylvie share happy poly moments.

34:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Mar 18 2019

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568 A framework for consent

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Joseph Pred shares the Consent Framework, a tool for community organizers to get and enforce consent at events.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat 2:30 Poly in the news 11:30 Interview: consent framework with Joseph Pred 32:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Mar 03 2019

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Friends I’ve never met

By OBoaz - Apr 29 2020
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I always look forward to new episodes. Minx especially is a wonderful interviewer. Warm yet thorough. I appreciate the diversity of guests. The friendly tone of the podcast makes me feel less alone, and helps make even challenging content easier to digest. I still remember listening to the podcasts about abuse in polyamory while dealing with my own abusive relationship. Thanks for all your work on this podcast over the years Minx & co.

Informative and Important!

By MorgTaranto - Jul 31 2018
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I absolutely love this podcast, highly recommended!