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Hi! I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage! Join us, as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and marriage experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice, and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive! Check out www.delightyourmarriage.com for your free gift!

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Hi! I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage! Join us, as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and marriage experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice, and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive! Check out www.delightyourmarriage.com for your free gift!

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So helpful! It is difficult to find someone that I can agree with when it comes to marriage and family. Thank you

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What a blessing you have been to me! Thank you so much for helping us wives! 💜

iTunes Ratings

202 Ratings
Average Ratings
160
17
11
4
10

Wow!

By Closeststingray - Jan 06 2020
Read more
So helpful! It is difficult to find someone that I can agree with when it comes to marriage and family. Thank you

Delight your marriage

By jaybugsmom - Jul 05 2019
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What a blessing you have been to me! Thank you so much for helping us wives! 💜
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Delight Your Marriage | Sexual Intimacy, Relationship Advice, & Christianity

Latest release on Feb 14, 2020

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Hi! I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage! Join us, as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and marriage experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice, and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive! Check out www.delightyourmarriage.com for your free gift!

Rank #1: 141-Oral Sex Is Not Dirty. Or Is It?

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Hi there! Belah here and it's just me this time. I talk about the taboo topic of Oral Sex. Yes, we need to start talking about this. And answering questions, like is it: bad? wrong? gross? And what does it mean to your marriage. And more importantly what does it mean to your husband. Listen in to hear why I think it is dirty and the change that needs to be made. You'll probably be surprised at my responses about it.

Check out delightyourmarriage.com/14 to sign up for the webinar happening where I get very specific! (Only open to wives!)

Apr 11 2017

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Rank #2: 36-Understanding the Female Orgasm with Dr. Jessica McCleese

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Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Dr. Jessica McCleese of enhancingthedance.com where she mainly talks about the wonders of the female orgam, how it works, and why it is the way it is. You might think that something is off whenever you don’t feel like engaging in the act of sexual intimacy with your husband, but there’s actually nothing to worry about because that’s completely normal, according to this psychologist and sex therapist. She discusses the reasons on this episode! Join us as she shares helpful tips and tricks that could be helpful in delighting your marriage.

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/36

Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/35

Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Jun 04 2015

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Rank #3: 156-Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) Part 1

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(Part 1) You may want more sex. You may want her to want you more. You may want her to care more about your drive. Maybe all of the above and a whole lot more...

Well, the biggest barrier women face is insecurity. An insecure wife can't take off her clothes, can't seduce, can't enjoy physical intimacy. But isn't that her problem? Isn't that something she needs to go do, with the guidance of her husband? NO! Please stop pushing/teaching/correcting/criticizing... your wife on sexual things. 

It is not helping it is hurting---your cause AND your wife. So today's episode is all about getting you dear husband, to understand 1) your wife's mind 2) her biggest barrier to love making 3) what you can do about it

Why did I have to make this episode? I hear far more from husbands than I do from wives. And it's time I gave these hurting husbands some help. Its not that they don't care about their wives and which is why they treat them this way. Not in the least. It's that they don't feel loved by their wives through sex and they don't know what to do about it. Here's some guidance that I believe will turn things around in your marriage. 

This is part 1 in a 2 part series. Second part coming out next week. 

If this has blessed you, please share with a friend and leave a review on itunes---here's how (it helps spread the show further).

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Sep 05 2017

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Rank #4: 131-T: Husbands: How To Make Love To Your Wife with Ruth Buezis

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She and her husband teach a class to help husbands understand how to love their wife better. Here's her practical advice for men in the bedroom. Ruth Buezis helps men understand women's hearts and their bodies and how those interact. Generally men are expected to be experts in the sex department, but there's so much misinformation and inappropriate stereotypes. She says that men really do want to know what to do. She compares the specific equipment of men's bodies with the female genitalia and shares the parallels in sensation and how to use them.

See all the show notes at delightyourmarriage.com/131

Jan 31 2017

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Rank #5: 53-Why Peni (Oral Sex) Matters to Your Marriage

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Hi there! Belah here. It’s just me today. And I will be talking about one of the most important, yet oftentimes frowned-upon, aspect of marital intimacy: oral sex. I have previously tackled the issue of oral sex and whether or not it is dirty or sinful in episode 14. That was where I first coined the term peni, as a sort of euphemism for oral sex. My dear listeners, it is important that we pay attention to your husband’s high priority needs, and guess what… Peni is one of them! On this episode, I discuss, point by point, the importance of peni in your marriage and how it affects your relationship in general. Listen in and let’s work together to bring delight into each of our marriages!

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/53

Through research and study, I've discovered the secrets I wish someone told me years ago! Receive my free gift: "The 4 Stages To His Best Oral Orgasm" by going to delightyourmarriage.com/4stages

Jul 30 2015

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Rank #6: 5-What Sex Means To A Husband with Jay Dee

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Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jay Dee talking about his story. Part II

Jay Dee founded sexwithinmarriage.com/ to help Christian spouses in two ways:

1) to dispel the stigma often associated with talking about sex within the Christian context, and

2) to use that new freedom to discuss sex within marriage, facilitating positive change in Christian marriages in order to further glorify God. He’s been married 13 years, has 4 kids and 1 new baby almost here(!).

He shares the truth about how men feel about sex and even how long a husband can go without it. You’ll hear about the meaning men associate with lovemaking! So, we’re coming into the conversation where Jay is telling me about the role he played in turning his marriage around.

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/5

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 19 2015

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Rank #7: 3-How Sex Can Be Great For Her Too with J Parker

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Hi there! Belah here. Today I have J Parker talking about her story.

J Parker has been married for 22 years and has two teenage sons. Her mission is to encourage sex & marriage by God’s design was inspired by her personal story and God’s beautiful nudging.

She shares about the key things she has learned through her many years of marriage. J also gives tips on sexual intimacy. J reveals the issues she sees most often with women on her blog and what they can do to feel great about sex!

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/3

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 16 2015

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Rank #8: 223-Make Intercourse More Pleasurable for Her. Interview with Ruth Buezis Part 1

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I'm so excited to chat with Ruth Buezis (author of Awaken Love) about how to transform your sex life  into something much deeper. 

Ruth started out her journey by talking about sex to 8 of her closest friends! Word spread and she's now sharing her journey to hundreds of women who used to be in the same boat as she was. 

We talk about Christian couples and the usual questions we get from them:

-How do I help my wife orgasm?

-How do I orgasm during intercourse (from wives)?

-How long should I last (from husbands)?

-What EXACTLY should I do (from both!)?

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

And as Ruth says, men can get so caught up in the mechanics -- but there is so much more to sex than just mechanics!

What are the things that husbands and wives can do DURING and AFTER intercourse instead of feeling pressured and worried?

There are actually SO MANY things couples can do to help remove the pressure!

Whether or not there's orgasm during intercourse, there are lots of things that CAN be done so it's always mutually enjoyable during intercourse. 

Other things we talk about:

- What if a husband finishes earlier?  

- What about gentlemen who last way longer than the women? 

- What makes sex better for HER?

- How God wants us to be excited about sex with our spouses

Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value -- she is offering that free to her audience. Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

Sep 24 2019

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Rank #9: 111-S: How to Seduce Him with Belah Rose

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What You Will Discover:

  • How seduction can be so fun and exciting in your marriage-bed.
  • The specific steps of seduction and how you can apply it to your intimacy.
  • What seduction what means to him (compared to being in the dark with the lights off).
  • Why intimacy can feel so much better when you're having an active role. 
  • How to have confidence in the bedroom.

Watch the free 1st video of the DYH video course, here

Find all the resources mentioned at delightyourmarriage.com/111

Sep 06 2016

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Rank #10: 120-Orgasm--Learn to Enjoy This Gift with Julie Sibert

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This is our first post in the topical series Orgasm. My guest today Julie Sibert from intimacyinmarriage.com talks about how sexual intimacy is a gift from God and that includes orgasm. He wants us to enjoy this gift. There's plenty we can do to get there. If you're a wife and have never experienced this gift, you'll want to give this a listen and try out Julie's suggestions. 

Go to delightyourmarriage.com for all the show notes.

Nov 08 2016

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Rank #11: 25-Sex Toys Are Okay? with Covenant Spice

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Hi there! Belah here. Today I have founder of Covenant Spice talking about her married life and how intimacy changed when she opened herself up to really enjoying it. She and her husband founded Covenant Spice, an online shop featuring intimacy products for married Christian couples. She shares about her wildly conservative upbringing and how it has required a journey through the Bible and discover that there’s a lot more to enjoy than she thought! Listen in as she talks about how it is perfectly okay for a married couple to use more interesting means and make sex exciting for you both!

Shop at the adult toy store here and receive free shipping for this week! Just type in the coupon code: delight (Offer ends 5/5/15)

Or go directly to Covenant Spice to spice up your intimacy! 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/25

If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Apr 28 2015

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Rank #12: 178-Stoke His Desire

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The specific steps to seduce:

  1. Get him to want it
  2. Tease him
  3. Give him a little bit
  4. Pull away
  5. Give him what he wants

Why Seduction is important, helpful tips on what will help you seduce and next steps.

The Seduction Course P1 will be released next week! Purchase now to have the most discounted price! (It will go up on Tuesday!)

I am SO excited to share this content with you. I think it will really get you to the place of implementing and doing, practically, those things that will really make you feel powerful. Because you will know that you know how to drive him wild.

Feb 13 2018

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Rank #13: 185-Surrendering 2.0. with Laura Doyle (Part 1)

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Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions answered like... 

-What about when you have fundamental differences?

-What about different parenting styles?

-Marriage therapy ever a good idea?

-What about when he's nasty but you don't want a huge issue by saying "ouch" and leaving the room?

-When you're vulnerable but he hurts you because you're vulnerable

-How do you share your feelings (that are negative) on big things? (Assuming your surrendering the small things)

-What if your husband has Low self esteem?

Find out more at delightyourmarriage.com

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Ensure that you’re infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy:

I’ve released the first 4 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

  • The 3 Components of of Seduction
  • Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!)
  • Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically)
  • Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs
  • How is it Steamy & Sacred

Apr 12 2018

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Rank #14: 55-Take Your Intimacy to the Next Level with Dr. Corey Allen

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Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Dr. Corey Allen of simplemarriage.net and the Sexy Marriage Radio pocast. We are back with a more interesting conversation on intimacy. On this episode, he goes takes us into lots of serious stuff---he talks about premature and delayed ejaculation, femininity and masculinity, and the importance of learning the human anatomy! You’ve got to get to know your spouse’s body! Listen in as he gives out tips and advice that will surely up your bedroom game.

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/55

Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/54

Through research and study, I've discovered the secrets I wish someone told me years ago! Receive my free gift: "The 4 Stages To His Best Oral Orgasm" by going to delightyourmarriage.com/4stages

Aug 06 2015

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Rank #15: 224-Make Intercourse More Pleasurable for Her. Interview with Ruth Buezis Part 2

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Hi there! This is part 2 of my chat with Ruth Buezis, author of Awaken Love. You can listen to part 1 here. If you loved listening to part 1, part 2 delves deeper into the specifics of lovemaking and Ruth and I's thoughts about the different types of orgasm that women would love to experience. 

Other things we talk about:

  • Just having sex vs. getting to know each other through sex
  • The dynamics of who leads during intercourse
  • The in and out movement for a man, it's good for him. But how about the woman?
  • The three ways women can have orgasms
  • What does the Bible say about sex
  • Is the intercourse you're having with your spouse the kind of intercourse that leads to orgasm?
  • The clitoral alignment technique: what is it exactly?

Some helpful things for the wives:

  • What you can do to allow you to discover new and interesting feelings during intercourse
  • The journey you can take to learn more about the orgasms you can experience
  • Understanding new concepts and ideas that are related to orgasms
  • G-spot vs clitoral orgasm
  • The common anxiety wives experience before intercourse

Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value -- she is offering that free to her audience. If you’re a man or a woman and are seeking for things to be transformed in your marriage and intimacy--this is for you! Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Oct 01 2019

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Rank #16: 4-How One Marriage Kicked Porn For Good with Jay Dee

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Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have Jay Dee talking about his story.

Jay Dee founded sexwithinmarriage.com/ to help Christian spouses in two ways:

1) to dispel the stigma often associated with talking about sex within the Christian context, and

2) to use that new freedom to discuss sex within marriage, facilitating positive change in Christian marriages in order to further glorify God. He’s been married 13 years, has 4 kids and 1 new baby almost here(!).

He shares the difficulties of his marriage, from years of sexlessness and pornography addiction to an incredible and passionate partnership with his wife!

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/4

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 16 2015

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Rank #17: 137-T: Orgasm--Discover Your Body with J Parker

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What You'll Discover:

  • How to surrender to pleasure and feel that entirely
  • Learn to feel you deserve to orgasm
    • Does it make you feel too sexual?
    • Do you feel selfish?
    • Do you feel sex is just for him?
  • How to have a "Discovery Session" with your husband
  • Give yourself permission to learn
  • What daily practices you can do that will help in the moment
  • What ideas you can try in the bedroom to get there

delightyourmarriage.com/137

Mar 14 2017

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Rank #18: 96-T: How To Initiate--Heart & Body with Keelie Reason

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If you’re not comfortable starting things off in intimacy, this is a discussion you don’t want to miss. Keelie Reason is on a second time to talk about what initiating has meant in her life and how she made a change. We dive into the practical realities of your husband’s sexuality and erections. We also talk about how to dismantle your hesitancy. And give you practical how-tos to get started.

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/96

May 10 2016

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Rank #19: 132-The Most Important Part Of Amazing Intimacy

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  • Why is amazing intimacy so important?
  • Why should your sex-life be amazing?
  • How do you make your sex life as exciting as it's displayed in our culture?
  • The biggest barrier for women to amazing intimacy
  • Why your attitude matters
  • What your attitude means to your him
  • Actions to take to become sexually free
  • Why it matters to God for you to have an amazing sex life

delightyourmarriage.com/132 for the shownotes

Feb 07 2017

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Rank #20: 128-Orgasm--Focus On Your Body with Keelie Reason

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This is the 3rd installment of our Orgasm Series (click to check out the rest). For far too many women, orgasm is not a source of pleasure and joy it should be. Today's show is talking candidly about how to orgasm, what it takes to orgasm, what can disrupt your orgasm and what you should focus on to orgasm. My guest Keelie Reason gives a great amount of insight and help and you don't want to miss it, listen in!

Find all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/128

Jan 10 2017

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237-Heal From Sexual Trauma, Interview with Catherine Wilson, Part 2

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Why did she heal? 

What motivated a woman who was a size 0, undernourished, had been abused horribly to decide it was worth the challenge to heal?

How did she heal and now have a thriving intimate life with her husband?

Catherine gives us insight, hope and practical tools for you. You too can be healed, by God's grace.

Whether you were abused or your spouse, this will be helpful to understand the process and know that complete healing and restoration is possible for you!

Catherine is incredibly inspiring and has used her story to bring light and safety to so many through her organization Stop Trafficking Us (stoptraffickingus.org) which helps people out of being trafficked. 

If this resonates with you and you'd like some additional tips on how to stay present during intimacy, I'd love to also give you a free resource: "8 Secrets to Stay Present during Intimacy".

You can get it here: delightyourmarriage.com/present 

Feb 14 2020

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236-Heal From Sexual Trauma, Interview with Catherine Wilson, Part 1

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Today's interview is a story of resilience and hope. 

Catherine goes into her story lightly because her full story is extremely difficult to take in. 

HOWEVER, there is hope. Catherine is a living example that God can heal you. 

1 in 4 women AND 1 in 6 men have suffered some form of sexual trauma. So, the healing needs to happen for SO many of us. 

What can you do as a wife or husband to heal? 

What can you do to help your spouse heal?

What are the underlying causes for pain for the person who is trying to help their spouse heal?

There's a lot of great insights even for practical and fun ways to heal... yeah it doesn't have to be another exercise in pain to heal.

God can help even when the mood is light!

To find out more about Catherine Wilson's work, visit: https://www.stoptraffickingus.org/

If thoughts are inhibiting you in the bedroom and you're a wife, I'd like to get my 8 Secrets to Staying Present in Intimacy for FREE, you can go to this link!

Part 2 is coming out next week, I hope you'll come back for that on Thursday!

Feb 06 2020

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235-Is Fantasy Bad?

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So this is one of those topics that even when we're talking about intimacy we don't talk about. 

But because I have the honor of speaking to women and men about some of the stuff they have never told ANYBODY, this comes up. 

I want to share this episode because I want to help you. I don't want you to feel alone and icky and like you're sinning. Maybe you're not OR what are the specific Biblical boundaries?

Maybe there are small tweaks you can make to your thought-life that will align them with God's will. Maybe there are wees growing in the garden of your mind and they need to be pulled up and we'll talk about that. 

But you may be surprised by some of my thoughts even around homosexuality. It starts in the mind and what we focus on grows. Just because someone has same-sex attraction doesn't make them gay. I want to clear about that because that's an insecurity a lot of people have. 

I believe we all have proclivities, it's what we do with those proclivities that matter. Some of us are more violent, some of us easily lie and some of us have other proclivities we need to keep in check. What you focus on grows. So if you're focusing on the ways God wants you to be attracted and turned on by your spouse, I think you might be quite surprised by the way God will redirect your thoughts, feelings and even stimulation just by directing your fantasy-life.

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I am SO excited to invite you to my 3-part FREE Online Seminar, people had amazing things to say about it!

www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew

There's only a couple of days left to go and get the replay! 

"Belah, your webinar was absolutely amazing, we both enjoyed it and can't wait for the other 2! You have such an incredible insight on the male - female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert!

Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction. Where were you 25 years ago!!!!!!!" - Husband

"Thank you so much, Belah, for the distilling a lifetime of wisdom and teaching about God's plan for marital happiness, family harmony and personal fulfillment into one webinar!!!" -Wife of 32 years

Feb 01 2020

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A prayer for you

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"Belah , your webinar was absolutely amazing , we both enjoyed it and cant wait for the other 2!

​You have such an incredible insight on the male -female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert !

​Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction . Where were you 25 years ago !!!!!!! Lol"​​​ -Husband

I was very grateful to receive this review!

Hope you can make it to TOMORROW's PART 2 and bring your spouse! www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew

You can see Part 1 for a LIMITED TIME here!:

www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew_replay

Jan 23 2020

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Free, LIVE Online Marriage Seminar - Renewed Connection: Deeper, loving relationship and TRUE intimacy

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You and your spouse are cordially invited to this free and LIVE online marriage seminar coming up THIS Wed, Fri & Mon! 

This is a 3-part Seminar for couples to watch together I give some secret sauce of those I train in my coaching programs  and I want to give it to you free!

this short podcast episode here, I share the story & read the testimonial of a man who had a sexless marriage for a few years and his hope was almost gone  it pained him even to “flirt” with the idea that there may be a reason to have hope... well thanking God, things have CHANGED!

Go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew to sign up for the online seminar and invite other friends who might benefit!

This seminar is a very low-key introduction to the foundations of DYM principles, this is a very easily digestible opportunity to share DYM with friends and your spouse  

If you’re there live, you’ll get in on some free content that won’t be on the replay (as a thank you for going through all the extra effort of being there live!)

Jan 21 2020

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234-Oral Sex: Why He Cares (SO Much) & Why She's Not Comfortable

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Wives:

As a wife who was bewildered by his desire and feeling grossed out by it, I get it!

But more than that... my hangups included, it's dirty, wrong, sinful, perverted, from the pornos, etc etc etc.

But he kept caring about this. And he wasn't the only one.

And now I hear from husbands all the time about how important this is to them. 

And these guys aren't jerks, pigs, or abusers. 

They're God-honoring gentlemen, who love their wives, they're good fathers and they want to enjoy their lives and their marriage and LOVE HER THE WAY SHE FEELS LOVED TOO!

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Husbands:

On this episode I have some practical (VERY ehemmm practical) tips for you. This can be something for you guys in your marriage even if you've been married many years!

If you're tempted to ask your wife to listen to this... consider for a bit. Will it make her feel forced? 

Instead, I want to invite you to my live, free webinar series coming up!

This is an awesome opportunity to get your wife introduced to my work.

It'll have intimacy sprinkled in but it won't be as focused (and possibly alarming to someone not really on board with my concepts).

But you'll want to attend the webinar too because it'll have golden nuggets for you two! What can YOU do to encourage your wife in this?

ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy!

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The other free resource I mentioned is The 7 Blocks to Her Libido resource!

Looking forward to having you at the Webinar Series. (Also, if you are seeing this in the future, you can go to the same link and gain some kind of helpful material!)

ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy!

Jan 16 2020

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233-CONFLICT is... good? Interview with Larry Shushansky

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Oh man! You're going to get a lot out of this one. Larry Shushansky (from https://www.independentenough.com/) has 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist. We dig into what conflict is, why it happens and how to deal with it. But also that it is GOOD for your marriage.

However, MOST couples do conflict WRONG---thus it's BAD for theirs. Don't let yours be in this category!

He has been featured on: Psychology Today, Fast Company, Chicago Tribune, The Huffington Post to name a few... and it shows!

Some things may SURPRISE you.

  • How could conflict be good?
  • How do you MAKE conflict good?
  • What does it mean to be independent but also dependent in your marriage?
  • Aren't you supposed to be vulnerable with your spouse? So, why would you also be independent? Is there some kind of manipulation here?
  • My hope is it will challenge you to think way differently about conflict and your connectedness with your spouse. 

Oh, and Larry and I have a conflict about something. I think you'll be really interested to hear! Neither of us backed down and he says we did it right.

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Also, I mentioned that I'd like to invite you and your spouse to attend my Live and Free webinar series:

New Year, ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy! Sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew2020

This is for couples (or people to watch on their own) and a ending segment JUST for wives. If you're looking for an easy segue-way to invite your wife to be interested in my work THIS IS IT.

Or if you have friends that need this work but you don't know how to talk to them about DYM because you know... sex. I get it!

This is a easy to digest and hints of truths about intimacy but nothing as strong and explicit as I have on my podcast or other material. Its a super easy intro as well as extremely helpful relationship tools.

Looking forward to having you!

Love,

Belah

Jan 09 2020

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“Honey, for my Christmas present, would you...?”

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If you’ve listened for a while you may be at a spot where you’re really hoping your spouse would tune into the content. 

Especially if you’re a husband there is a way that may be really effective around the holiday. 

“Honey, for my Christmas present would you [read this book, watch this video training with me...]?”

I have seen this be an effective way to encourage your spouse towards listening and recievubg some of this content that isn’t always the easiest to invite her to listen to or read. 

If you’d like to sign up for the free, limited offered 3-part video series go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/video

If you’d like to read my book Delight Your Husband: The Christian Wife’s manual to confidence, passion and oral sex, you can find it onAmazon in ebook or paper book. I’m working on the audiobook so that’ll be available soon!

God bless you this Christmas season!

Belah

Dec 21 2019

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232-Reflect On This One, For Your Next Best Year

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The new year is just about upon us! But how are you prepping for it? How are you making sure you're growing in the ways God wants you to?

In this podcast, I invite you to think about the ways God may be asking you to reflect on the year you've had. I encourage you to have a pen and paper handy so you can jot down what comes up for you. 

Why is this a difficult task? I discuss the 3 reasons people don't reflect, but then the way it's vitally important if we're going to be the people God wants us to become. 

Don't go through a difficult season and NOT learn the lessons He wants you to. You'll just be doomed to repeat that same sad, painful situation. 

But when you reflect effectively, it gives you hope, peace and faith that God is going to guide you in the next season as well. 

When you go through this exercise you'll be able to know how you should focus for the new year. I encourage you to spend the time before the new year focusing on what He wants you to. 

With that in mind, I'll be taking 3 weeks off from the podcast so I can focus and listen and plan for 2020. During this time I hope you'll prep yourself for the new year (feel free to relisten to podcasts you may have missed or wanted to listen to again!). 

I'll speak with you in the New Year! Merry Christmas and God bless!

Dec 12 2019

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231-Happiness

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It's that time of year. Happiness and fun and joy is expected. 

Is it reality for you? 

Do you have joy in your heart? 

CAN you have it? 

I want to talk about this because the holidays can be extremely difficult. And I want to invite you to think about the things you can do even today that will change your perspectives. 

How do you make your life aligned with your deepest values and highest vision? I speak specifically about tools that will help you get there.

If you'd like the Prioritize Your Life chart I talk about you can email me at belah at delightyourmarriage.com

If you'd like to listen to an extremely inspiring story of marriage and love, check out this podcast with Joni Eareckson Tada - When Disability Challenges Your Marriage

I'd love to have you on my 3-part Video Training that will be up for a limited time: The 3 Keys To Seductive Confidence

Happy Thanksgiving!

PS Don't forget to sign up for the video training! The 3 Keys To Seductive Confidence

Nov 27 2019

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230-"I Don't Know What to Do"

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I’ve been asking women about hope they feel about seduction because 1-that’s what I hear so often from the husbands I coach. They crave to be seduced by their wives. 2-that’s what I hear so often from wives... 

I’m not comfortable.

I don’t know what to do.

Is God even OK with it? 

We have been married for so many years, how do I start? 

How do I get over feeling silly?

I want to encourage you. Because the third reason I wanted to record this is because this is how I have felt MANY times over. 

It’s only since I’ve understood where my husband is coming from that I began to prioritize this. And when I started to see the holiness and God’s approval of more fierce intimacy did I seek to walk in this with confidence. I want to give you encouragement in this podcast. And I want to give you practical tools.

You can get that from my favorite 5 tips: www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips then when the email gets to you, respond to me with “I want in” and you’ll get on the list to receive my 3-part video training on seduction. 

Nov 21 2019

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A prayer for you

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Nov 18 2019

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229-Arguments Affect Your Sex: My husband's awesome conversation

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We argued yesterday. Knives were involved. Well truthfully, it was a disagreement at a restaurant. But the actual emotions happened way before the restaurant. My husband is on the show again (back by popular demand!) to tell how he was feeling and what he did and why.

Why is this important for your intimacy? A wife wants to make love to a man she feels safe with. If you're arguing in a way that makes her feel unsafe, then you're repelling her from the very thing you crave.

I want to share this podcast because I think we have HORRIBLE examples of marital conflict. We take our cues from movies, dramas, chick flicks and sitcoms. All of which have very unhealthy and hurtful aspects.

I want to give you a vision of a REALLY GOOD conflict. One where each of us weren't "perfect". But each of us allowed our value of intimacy, connection and love to be higher than our emotions and impulses.

I hope this gives you encouragement and inspiration in your next emotional challenge between the two of you. There's another way and there are specific tools you can use to NOT leave you or your spouse bloody and bruised rhetorically.

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If you're a wife and interested in the 5 Tips To Amazing Seduction go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips

If you're a husband and interested in transforming your marriage to one of friendship and PASSION, go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/call and sign up for a FREE 40 min call ($500 value) and we will dive deep into what is blocking your intimacy and what are next steps for you! 

Nov 14 2019

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228-Stretch Yourself to Enjoy Lovemaking

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Your first time having sex, was it just like my experience? A bit awkward, NOT like how the movies portrayed it, and maybe even a BIT uncomfortable?

So now that you've done it a lot more, I bet what was uncomfortable in the beginning has started to feel a lot more comfortable, right? So, would you like to ENJOY it more?

Have you ever asked yourself these questions:

  • Should I initiate? 
  • Should I just go for it and stretch myself and seduce him?
  • Is it okay for me to suddenly change and just go ahead and seduce him and be sexy?

Here's what I talk about in this podcast episode:

  • How to enjoy the process of seduction and lovemaking more
  • Why it's okay to be silly before being sexy
  • What EXACTLY you need to do (practical tips and more!)

A lot of people say that DATING SEX is BETTER than MARRIAGE SEX. Well, that is what Delight Your Marriage wants to change.  It is our mission and we want to change it so that marriage sex is hotter, more enjoyable, and the best sex that anyone will ever have! 

Absolutely NOTHING in this life stays the same. If you choose to change and stretch yourself to become more seductive, then it's definitely okay! And you will actually ENJOY sex more. 

If that's not where you are in your marriage right now, it's okay to be gentle with yourself. God is a God of new beginnings. We can always start over and change and grow your marriage into something you enjoy and look forward to! 

Resources:

I’d love to receive your answers to this VERY QUICK survey which will help me give you the kind of content you want to hear! Go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/seductionquestions

Also! Get 5 fantastic and practical tips to amazing seduction here!:

www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips

Nov 07 2019

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227-Love Your Body TO Love Sex

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I used to think "if I just got thin enough then I'd be confident." But, then I did. And I didn't. 

Our society tricks us into thinking beauty is only a certain thing. But God made us beautiful. And when you don't love your body your chances of loving sex is far lower. 

On this episode I want to help you see more clearly and not have the inappropriate expectations of yourself that is inhibiting your joy and passion in sex. 

I also have some help for husbands on how to help their wives in this area. 

I used to be bulimic when I met my husband. He has loved me through lots of different shapes of my body and I gotta tell you, that kind of love encourages a wife to be sexually free and pleasured.

I answer:

  • How can you feel more confident in your body
  • Why the negativity is stealing your sex drive
  • How you can conquer the inner critic
  • The balance between loving your body and being healthy
  • What the FIRST step is to getting there

If you'd like more specific tips on how to seduce, here's a FREE resource for you: The 5 Tips On Amazing Seduction PDF

Love, 

Belah

Also, if you are looking to get clear on what's really blocking you from having incredible intimacy, I'd like to invite you to a FREE 40-minute Clarity Call ($500 value) with me to help you uncover what is really going on. If I think you'd be a good fit for one of my programs then we can talk about that. But you'll get fantastic value either way! Schedule here!

Nov 01 2019

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A quick favor? Which do you prefer?

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Do you prefer Option 1 or Option 2? I'd like to hear your vote and to do that, I'd so appreciate a 5-star review and comment on iTunes!

As you're one of the 680,004 listens we've had of the podcast so far, it would mean so much to hear from you!

How do you review on iTunes? Even if you're already subscribed, here are the steps:

A-In the iTunes app on your phone or computer, Search "Delight".

B-Then click the "Delight Your Marriage" icon.

C-Once it pops up, then scroll down a bit.

D-And you'll see the stars.

E-Hit 5-stars, and

F-Click "Write a Review", type in a review that tells me something you've learned from the podcast and whether you prefer Option 1 or Option 2.

Thank you so much!

I'll tally these up after several weeks and it will be the new podcast! Of the 680,004 downloads we've had to date, I'm hoping we'll have at least 300 votes!

This means a lot to hear from you, your thoughts on the podcast, and which you prefer!

Oct 29 2019

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A prayer for you

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Oct 23 2019

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Low Drive? Discover "The 9 Lies Undermining Your Sex Drive" audio & pdf

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For the free resources The 9 Lies Undermining Your Sex Drive audio & pdf go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/desire

Do you have low drive? Discover the blocks that may be holding you back from a stronger desire for your husband! 

Oct 18 2019

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226-"My Husband's A Sociopath. Really." Interview with Marie Wood Part 2

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When she found out he went to jail because he almost killed his father and was a diagnosed sociopath... a thought struck her: “I will trust him with the lives of my future children”.

There are so many amazing topics for this week's podcast, I'm not sure which ones should I write here! Marie and I talk more in depth about her relationship with God and her relationship with her husband.

These are just some of the things we talk about:

  • what life with a husband who is a sociopath looks like -- and no, it's not what you may think!
  • the defining features of a sociopath and how they got a "psychological miracle"
  • how her husband tried to kill his father and landed in jail
  • her husband was a devout atheist until he started reading the Bible and now millions watch his Apologetics debates defending Cheistianity
  • Marie was back to being a Christian after reading an Apologetics book
  • how their complete honesty helped solidify their relationship
  • how reading the Bible helps David in his daily life

Other topics that we talk about

  • how sex should be treated as a spiritual bond and not just as a physical bonding between married couples
  • how there's no aspect of YOUR story cannot be touched by God's grace
  • how deeply and truly God's love can transform and change our perspective about ourselves and our marriages

Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular myopathy. You can find out more about the non-profit that connects families here at: www.mtm-cnm.org

You can watch David Wood’s videos here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy5H0uunC2qMk0iOF4SHKUw

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Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah u-- a $500 value! She is offering that free to her audience--men or women. Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

Oct 16 2019

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225-Loving During Your Child's Suffering. Interview with Marie Wood Part 1

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I had a wonderful and extremely inspiring chat with Marie Wood, who is raising 5 children (a basketball team, according to her!) with her husband, David Wood--the very famous Apologist. Two of their sons, Reid and Paley, both have a rare, life-threatening condition called myotubular myopathy. It’s so rare that it only affects 1 in 50,000 male live births. It causes problems with muscle tone and dangerously affects muscles that control necessary functions like breathing and swallowing.

In this interview, I was moved to tears more than once because of the story of Marie and her children. She is an incredible woman who clearly loves the Lord and is such a force for good even in the face of suffering. 

I know if you listen to this conversation you’ll come away in awe that our God can even raise the dead in this day and age! I’m amazed and I pray this will be an empowering and affirming message for you as well.

Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular myopathy. You can find out more about the non-profit that connects families here at: www.mtm-cnm.org

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Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value! She is offering that free to her audience--men or women. Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Oct 08 2019

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By Closeststingray - Jan 06 2020
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So helpful! It is difficult to find someone that I can agree with when it comes to marriage and family. Thank you

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By jaybugsmom - Jul 05 2019
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What a blessing you have been to me! Thank you so much for helping us wives! 💜