BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how.

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In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and…

• His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything
• That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad
• The Tiny Habits Method
• The technique of Celebration
• Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly 
• When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk
• The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior
• Stop judging yourself
• Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors
• Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward
• Golden behaviors
• The problem of “all or nothing thinking” 
• The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits
• That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit.
• The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt
• Troubleshooting a behavior change problem
• The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation
• Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator
• Ways we can make a behavior easy to do
• That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing

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Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee.

Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona.

In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss…

• The One You Feed parable
• Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness
• How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful
• That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it
• How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us
• Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals
• How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important
• That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity
• That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts!
• That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life
• The vicious cycle of failure
• The sustainable cycle of self-care
• That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time
• The self-care hierarchy

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Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist who is passionate about researching self-awareness and translating that research into practical, actionable information to aid in our discovery and improvement of our own self-awareness. In this interview, you'll be introduced to fascinating scientific research about self-awareness and you'll end up being equipped with some very helpful tools to gauge and grow your own. Since research shows that 95% of people think that they're very self-aware but in reality, only 10% actually are, statistically speaking, you're probably going to want to listen to this episode.

 Tasha Eurich is a workplace psychologist, speaker, author, and principal of The Eurich Group. She helps organizations succeed by improving the effectiveness of their leaders and teams. She works with executives in Fortune 500 organizations and serves on the faculty of the Center for Creative Leadership. Her articles have appeared in several magazines and journals including Chief Learning Officer Magazine, The Journal of Business Psychology, and The Work Style Magazine. Her first book, Bankable Leadership: Happy People, Bottom-Line Results, and the Power to Deliver Both, was published in 2013.

Her latest book is called: Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life 

 In This Interview, Tasha Eurich and I Discuss...

• The Wolf Parable
• Her book, Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life 
• How self-awareness is the single most important but least examined determinate of success and failure
• The meta-skill of the 21st century
• That it took a year to review 800 studies and subsequently define self-awareness
• How self-awareness is made up of 2 types of knowledge of ourselves: internal self-awareness (how we see ourselves) and external self-awareness (how others see us)
• That 95% of people think that they're very self-aware but the research shows that we're not as self-aware as we think we are - about 10% actually are
• The 7 pillars of self-awareness:
• They understand their values
• They understand their passions
• They understand their aspirations
• They understand their "fit"
• They understand their patterns
• They understand their reactions (momentary reactions to the world, our strengths, and our weaknesses)
• They understand the impact they have on other people
• How to do an audit on the 7 pillars to determine your levels of self-awareness
• That a lot of us actually don't want to know the truth
• Braver but wiser
• 3 blind spots: Knowledge blindness, Emotion blindness, and Behavior blindness
• The cult of self
• Self-absorption vs self-awareness
• How it's easier to feel great about ourselves rather than taking the steps to actually become great
• Pairing self-awareness with self-acceptance
• The role of rumination
• Asking what instead of why
• The role of our past in self-awareness
• A daily check-in

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Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.

He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

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In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss…

• The One You Feed parable
• His book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life 
• The ACT approach to therapy
• That you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bear
• The difference between pain and suffering
• The importance of putting the human mind on a leash
• That suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelings
• The meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughts
• The importance of and various types of contemplative practice
• Various diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)
• The concept and practice of experiential avoidance
• The full impact of acting for “short term gains with long term pains”
• The idea of creating larger behavioral patterns
• The role of values based action

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Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. In this paradigm-shifting interview, she explains what she means by claiming that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder. It's a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing. As a result, it has different implications for how it should then be treated. Some of what Maia has to say is polarising and some will immediately make intuitive sense and you'll ask yourself why you haven't thought that way before. Take a listen to what she has to say and let us know what you think.

Maia Szalavitz is one of the premier American journalists covering addiction and drugs. She is co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her book, Help at Any Cost is the first book-length exposé of the “tough love” business that dominates addiction treatment. She writes for TIME.com, VICE, the New York Times, Scientific American Mind, Elle, Psychology Today and Marie Claire among others.

Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction

 In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss...

• The Wolf Parable
• Her book, Unbroken Brain: Why Addiction is a Learning Disorder and Why it Matters
• That your brain becomes what it does - that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes
• How addiction is a developmental disorder
• That learning is critical to addiction
• The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease
• Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing
• How addiction resets your priorities and therefore you'll make very different decisions
• Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences
• How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences
• The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing
• The developmental history that gets you to addiction
• How the drug isn't the problem and our efforts to simply get rid of it isn't a helpful solution
• Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment
• The problem with "rock bottom" is that it can only be identified retrospectively, it's not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop
• What the motivation is that turns people to recovery
• How addicts keep using because they can't see how they can survive any other way and recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options
• That people with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness, so the role of hope and other ways of managing their life is critical to recovery and it can start before they quit their drug(s) of choice
• Addiction as a coping mechanism
• The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast
• Wanting vs Liking
• Different motivational states
• Addiction as escalating wanting
• Stimulants and an escalating cycle of never being satisfied and chasing that satisfaction
• 12 Step Programs: are they effective? are they useful?
• The role of medicine in a developmental disorder
• Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent
• That people who are addicted are PEOPLE and we need to treat them that way

Judson Brewer MD PhD is widely considered an expert in the areas of habit change, the "science of self-mastery" and mindfulness training for addiction. He has published a number of peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, he has trained US Olympic coaches, and his work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TEDMED, Time, Forbes, BBC, NPR, Businessweek and others. So - you get the idea...this guy knows what he's talking about and what he's talking about is fascinating. It's a very different approach to ridding yourself of addiction and it works. it works much better than even currently accepted "gold standard programs" and it's something you can learn how to do today. In fact, you can learn how to do it by listening to this episode.

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In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss...

• His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits
• Trigger, Behavior, Result
• Rewards and Punishments
• Habit Loop
• Subjective Bias
• Addiction: Continued use despite adverse consequences
• Addiction: a way to avoid something
• Every time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loop
• Cravings are like stray cats
• If you don't feed a craving it will burn itself out
• Surfing a craving
• The way cravings feel like they're going to crush us and last forever - cognitive distortion
• Craving Wave: come - crest - go away\
• Awareness helps us surf these craving waves
• What does this feel like in my body right now?
• Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go away
• RAIN
• This method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation program
• Substitute behavior
• In their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happiness
• Investigate the craving and the reward
• Excitement brings contraction
• Get curious about your experiences - it helps you remain open
• Default mode network
• Conceptual vs Experiential Self
• The contraction of ego
• How we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the difference

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Scott Kiloby is a non-dual teacher who wants to help you and others experience awareness and no self in this lifetime. He helps people recover from addiction and has published a powerful book, the contents of which he discusses In this interview. Specifically, he describes portals to recognizing awareness that you can try immediately. It's a different way of approaching a transformational way of life and you won't want to miss it.

Scott Kiloby is a noted author and international speaker on the subject of freedom through non-dual recognition (authentic spiritual awakening as it is taught in the East).

He is the author of seven books and has traveled the world extensively giving lectures, workshops and intensives on spiritual awakening and the healing of addiction, anxiety, depression and trauma.

Scott is the co-founder of the Kiloby Center for Recovery in Palm Springs California, the first addiction, anxiety, depression, and trauma Intensive Outpatient Program to focus primarily on mindfulness. Scott is also the co-owner of the Natural Rest House, a detox and residential center in La Quinta, California.

His books include  Living Realization: A simple, plain English guide to non-duality, Natural Rest for Addiction: A Radical Approach to Recovery Through Mindfulness and Awareness and The Unfindable Inquiry: One Simple Tool to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness and Find Inner Peace

 In This Interview, Scott Kiloby and I Discuss...

• The Wolf Parable
• His book, Living Realization: A simple, plain English guide to non-duality
• The definition of non-duality
• Non-dual awakening
• That the ego is a suffering mechanism
• The false self
• The possibility of waking up from a separate self mentality
• How we are not our thoughts, we are the thinker of our thoughts
• The necessity of experiencing awareness
• Portals to recognizing awareness
• Let all appearances be as they are
• The power of not resisting what is happening
• Suffering = Pain + Resistance
• Seeing that all appearances are inseparable
• Life as a seamless reality & the thoughts that break things up
• The fact that seeking has resistance in it
• Self-inquiry
• The persistence of trauma, shame, addiction and the core story

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Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship.  

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In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss…

• Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
• The wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples.
• Relationships are often stuck in fear and anger
• Emotional disconnection causes distress in relationships.
• Humans are wired for close connection with others.
• Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships.
• Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”.
• Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”.
• “Freeze and Flee”means one person gives up on the relationship. 
• “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, It’s not me, it’s you” 
• Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in.
• Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other.  
• The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship.
• Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection.
• Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond
• “ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement.
• Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding.
• Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength.

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Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Along with speaking and consulting, Susan is also the author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life.

In this episode, Susan David and Eric examine how we can experience, interpret, talk about, and relate to our emotions so that we live a life that is more intentional and deeply rooted in what we value. 

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In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss Understanding Emotions and…

• Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and Life
• The problem of going on autopilot through our habitual actions
• The problem of going on autopilot through the habits of our internal world
• The benefits of taking time to think about what we value and then examining our habitual patterns to find ways they might be out of alignment
• That we own our emotions, they don’t own us
• Values as qualities of action
• Engaging with choice points in life Actions as votes towards the person we want to be
• The mistaken view of emotions as good or bad
• Emotions as signposts for the things we care about
• That emotions are data, not directives
• How to decipher whether emotions are old habitual patterns or present-day valuable signals
• Asking, “Is my believing this emotion opening me up to thrive or shutting me down into something small?”
• Being compassionate and curious with difficult emotions
• Hearing yourself when you describe your emotions
• Utilizing emotion granularity to more accurately label and better understand emotions
• The skill of noticing our emotions so that they don’t define us
• Differentiating emotions from thoughts
• Emotions during times of uncertainty
• Gentle acceptance as a prerequisite to change

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A. H. Almaas is the pen name of A. Hameed Ali. He is the founder of the Diamond Approach to Self-Realization which is a contemporary teaching that developed within the context of both ancient spiritual teachings and modern depth psychology theories. He has authored eighteen books about spiritual realization, including the Diamond Heart series, The Pearl Beyond Price, The Void, The Alchemy of Freedom, and his newest book, Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart.

In this episode, A.H. Almaas and Eric explore how to use curiosity, inquiry, courage, kindness, and love to discover our true nature, which he refers to as our “essence”. It is a deep and freeing approach to achieve healing and wholeness within ourselves. 

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In This Interview, A.H. Almaas and I Discuss Discovering our Essence and…

• His newest book, Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart
• The Diamond Approach
• What he means when he talks about our “essence”
• The difference between personality and essence
• Seeing our children’s essential nature and loving them for it
• The Theory of Holes
• The role of inquiry in feeling your emotion
• Accessing your emotions by seeing what’s in the way of feeling them
• Principles that ground us in inquiry so we might see the totality of our experience in the present moment
• The difference between and integration of psychology and spirituality
• The result of staying with our direct, immediate experience
• How wanting to change ourselves interferes with our ability to study and learn about ourselves
• Including our desires in our inquiry
• That “allowing things to be exactly as they are” is the highest teaching there is
• Becoming consistently curious about what’s happening
• How to learn to stay with emotional pain
• The similarities between sadness and kindness
• Inquiring about our essence 

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Sarah Blondin is a writer and videographer from British Columbia, Canada. She’s also the creator and host of the well-known podcast “live awake“. In this episode, Sarah and Eric discuss her book, “Heart Minded, How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love”, where she shares how we can learn to train our minds to listen and follow our hearts.

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In This Interview, Sarah Blondin and I Discuss Being Heart Minded and…

• Her book,  “Heart Minded, How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love.”  
• Listening to the longing that guides us to the dark place
• How grace is like the wind that comes from within lifting us up from the mire
• Creating a mainline to the heart will move you forward, but we must learn to be aware of it.
• How taking responsibility for our pain becomes our strength
• Seeing from the perspective of the heart and learning to see beyond the pain
• Feeling and giving yourself permission begins the healing process
• Addressing and not avoiding your afflictions
• Becoming empowered to stop choosing to go to the dark place comes with time and practice
• Bringing the mind down to the heart
• How the unharnessed mind is frantic and is an ungrounded companion
• The call of the heart is living and leading with love
• The heart gives us a strength to help us maneuver difficult times
• Training the mind to start following the heart’s agenda
• As the heart grows, it infiltrates our consciousness and moves us into a more harmonious state.
• Creating boundaries for yourself when suffering and struggle show up
• “Inner hospitality” comes from learning how to stay and allowing your feelings to move in then out.
• How achievements and pursuits hold little value compared to what we create within ourselves

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In this mini-episode, Eric discusses the importance of having a spiritual practice so that you can have a strong foundation from which to build upon in your life. This has never been more important than right now as we face the seemingly unending coronavirus crisis we are currently in.

• The realization in his recovery that he didn't have anything sustainable or grounding in his life
• Discovering a spiritual life when you don't believe in God in the traditional sense
• Finding spiritual principles such as acceptance, mindfulness, generosity, kindness, and love as a way to orient his life.
• Learning to make these principles the center of your life
• Liminal space as waiting space
• Using this space as a fertile ground where transformation can happen
• Learning to engage with what is here, right now.
• Using this time as an opportunity to let go and surrender to a greater potential
• Choose growth over stagnation
• Choose thriving or surviving
• Learning the key spiritual principles and changing our habits to incorporate these key principles in our daily lives.  

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Justin Michael Williams is an author, a top 20 recording artist, and a transformational speaker who is using music and meditation to wake up the world. With over a decade of teaching experience, Justin has become a pioneering voice of color for the new healing movement. Between his podcast, keynotes, and motivational online platforms, Justin’s teachings have now spread to more than 40 countries around the globe. His new book is, Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us.

In this episode, Eric and Justin Michael Williams explore the connection between meditation and activism, which is to say, the work we do to heal ourselves and then the work we go do to help heal our world. 

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In This Interview, Justin Michael Williams and I Discuss Meditation and Activism and…

• His new book, Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us
• The role, place, and importance of inner work and outer work
• That out of all the healing modalities he’s tried, meditation has had the biggest impact on his life
• How it’s not always our thoughts that create our reality
• That awareness calls us to get up off of our meditation cushion and take action
• That the real reason we meditate is to become more alive
• That we meditate not to disconnect but to reconnect
• That actions create our world
• The two things that co-create our reality: What happens to us and our reaction to it 
• That privilege isn’t about what you’ve gone through, it’s about what you haven’t had to go through
• De-colonizing the oppression that lives within us and de-colonizing the external structures that hold us back in the world
• Calling people forward vs calling people out
• How we can’t shame people into long term change
• The type of meditation he teaches: Freedom Meditation
• That the guru is within you

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Jeff Warren

Ellen Bass is a poet, non-fiction author, and teacher. She is the author of many collections and books including Like a Beggar, The Human Line, and Mules of Love. Ellen’s poems also appear frequently in The New Yorker, American Poetry Review, and many other journals. She’s been awarded three Pushcart Prizes, The Lambda Literary Award, The Pablo Neruda Prize, and The New Letters Prize. Ellen also teaches in the MFA Writing Program at Pacific University. Her newest collection of poetry is entitled Indigo. This is Ellen’s second time as a guest on the show.

In this episode, Ellen and Eric discuss the power of poetry – how it can change us and deepen our experience of and attention to the world around us. Ellen reads some of her incredibly beautiful poetry and as a result, we are indeed changed.

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In This Interview, Ellen Bass and I Discuss the Power of Poetry and…

• Her new book of poetry, Indigo
• How gratitude and love help her combat fear
• Her practice as a poet is to take suffering and make art
• The poem that took her 12 years to write
• That worthwhile things are hard to do – even for experts
• Wanting to be changed after writing or reading a poem
• Her poem, Taking My Old Dog Out To Pee Before Bed
• Her poem, Enough
• What she thinks about when she hears someone else read her poetry as well as how poetry is to be read and heard “out loud”
• Her poem, The Long Recovery
• Trying not to resist the life we have and instead, hurl ourself more deeply into it
• Great poets and their poetry teach us to observe the world more closely and see it as sacred and beautiful
• Her poem, Any Common Desolation

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Marilyn Nelson

Lisa Mosconi holds a PhD degree in Neuroscience and Nuclear Medicine and is a certified Integrative Nutritionist and holistic healthcare practitioner. At Weil Cornel Medical College in New York, she is the Director of the Women’s Brain Initiative in the Department of Neurology, Associate Director of the Alzheimer’s Prevention Clinic, and Associate Professor of Neuroscience in Neurology and Radiology. She has published over 100 peer-reviewed papers in prestigious medical journals and is the author of 2 books, both of which she and Eric discuss in this episode: Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease.

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Join Eric in this virtual, live group program to learn powerful Spiritual Habits to help you access your own deep wisdom and calm steadiness - even when the world feels upside down. Click here to learn more and sign up. Enrollment is open now through Sunday, July 19th, 2020

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In This Interview, Lisa Mosconi and I Discuss the Eating for Brain Health and…

• Her books, Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease
• How the foods we eat contribute to our brain health
• Neuronutrition: the science of how to nourish our brain via the foods we eat
• How in our health, genes load the gun but lifestyle pulls the trigger
• Foods you eat have an almost immediate impact on the health and function of your brain
• The damage that results to your brain from eating a Western diet
• The brain health benefits of a Mediterranean diet
• The importance of drinking water – especially to support your brain
• That the human brain is 80% water and therefore is very sensitive to dehydration
• The most important foods and nutrients for brain health
• The beneficial role in the brain of Omega 3 fatty acids in addition to antioxidants
• Nutritional benefit of whole foods vs supplements
• Detrimental nature of regular consumption of processed food
• That health should not be a privilege of the wealthy
• The energy production and protective roles of estrogen in the brain
• The unique properties of women’s health and women’s brains
• How to reduce your risk of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia through the foods you eat
• What women can do to support their brains  
• The detrimental nature of chronic stress on women’s brains

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Jamia Wilson is a feminist activist, writer, and speaker. As director of the Feminist Press at the City University of New York and the former VP of programs at the Women’s Media Center, Jamia has been a leading voice on women’s rights issues for over a decade. Her work has appeared in numerous outlets, including the New York Times, the Today Show, CNN, Elle, BBC, Rookie, Refinery 29, Glamour, Teen Vogue, and The Washington Post. She is the author of Young, Gifted, and Black, the introduction and oral history in Together We Rise: Behind the Scenes at the Protest Heard Around the World, Step Into Your Power: 23 Lessons on How to Live Your Best Life, ABC’s of AOC, and the co-author of Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All.

In this episode, Jamia and Eric discuss many aspects of how we can work to develop a deeper understanding of one another, specifically in the realm of racism. Through a path that involves deep listening, allyship and activism, we can find our way to a better world together.

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

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In This Interview, Jamia Wilson and I discuss Allyship, Activism, and…

• Her book, Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All
• How to disagree with people and get comfortable with conflict
• Her experience with racism
• When it can be a mistake to give people the benefit of the doubt
• The way your lived experience can impact your worldview
• White Allyship
• Deep Listening
• The importance of involving the people closest to the problem when finding a solution
• White fragility
• The processes of learning and unlearning as lifelong processes
• Recognizing that we can have privilege in some areas and not in others
• A beginners guide to White Allyship
• Simple steps to take for local activism

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Dr. James Gordon is an American author and psychiatrist known for mind-body medicine. Dr. Gordon is internationally recognized for using self-awareness, self-care, and group support to heal population-wide psychological trauma. He is the founder and executive director of The Center for Mind-Body Medicine as well as the director of Mind Body Studies and clinical professor at Georgetown Medical School at Georgetown University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma.

Click here to schedule a free 30-minute intro coaching call with Eric to see if working 1-on-1 with him is a fit for you to help you build habits that ground and support you in these times of uncertainty. 

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In This Interview, Dr. James Gordon and I Discuss Healing Trauma and…

• His book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma
• The two common and dangerous misconceptions about psychological trauma
• That trauma comes to everyone sooner or later
• How everyone can access the path to healing after trauma
• Post Traumatic Transformation
• The antidote to the fight or flight response
• Ways to experience your own ability to shift feelings of anxiety to calm
• The best time to start healing trauma
• How to heal population-wide psychological trauma
• His wartime work of healing trauma
• Mind-body medicine
• Techniques and expressive meditation for healing trauma
• The role of drawing in dealing with trauma
• The wise guide technique for accessing wisdom and healing trauma

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We’re re-releasing another episode this week as we continue to be in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States. Ruth King is another leading voice on this important issue and we hope that you find wisdom and healing in her words.

We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able. 

To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take. 

Donate to or get involved with:

Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org/

NAACP Legal Defense Fund- The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. https://www.naacpldf.org/

Campaign Zero- Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide. https://www.joincampaignzero.org/

Ideas of other ways to get involved:

Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.- https://www.change.org/p/mayor-jacob-frey-justice-for-george-floyd

I found this to be a great article that had lot’s of action to take- 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice

So many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have more impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:

There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:

“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo

“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi

“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt 

“Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey 

“So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo 

“The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris 

“The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin

“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge

“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery

“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II

“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates

“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi

“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle Alexander

The End of Policing- Alex S. Vitale (free book)

In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss Healing Racism and …

• Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside Out
• The value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of us
• Racism being a heart disease that is curable
• Her open heart surgery at the age of 27
• Rage being an exit route
• Rage being energy moving through the body
• Habitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can’t tolerate – they are defense mechanisms
• Racial affinity groups
• 6 hindrances
• The structure of racism
• Racism vs Prejudice
• Racist vs Racism
• Understanding our own experience with racism and talking about it
• What it’s like to be “membered”
• Individual vs group identity
• Diversity within the body of color

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Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who “navigates whiteness on a regular basis”. After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion – regardless of where you are on that spectrum today. 

We’re re-releasing this episode because as we’re in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States, Austin Channing Brown is a leading voice on racial justice and her wisdom and perspective can benefit us all. 

We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able. 

To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take. 

Donate to or get involved with:

Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org

NAACP Legal Defense Fund- –https://www.naacpldf.org/–  The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. 

Campaign Zero- https://www.joincampaignzero.org/– Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide.

Ideas of other ways to get involved:

Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.

75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice

So many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have moe impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:

There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:

“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo

“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi

“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt 

“Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey 

“So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo 

“The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris 

“The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin

“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge

“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery

“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II

“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates

“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi

“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle Alexander

In This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss Racial Justice and…

• Her book, I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for Whiteness
• The importance and value of anger
• How we can fight the monsters without becoming the monsters
• That anger reveals something is wrong
• White fragility – sadness and anger
• Naming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happens
• Realising racial bias
• Transformation comes after a moment of realization
• The idea of “whiteness being normal”
• Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injustice
• Disunity in Christ
• Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race
• How to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injustice
• Check out “Be the Bridge”
• The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliation
• Skipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you’ll take next
• What reconciliation means to her
• Racial justice and reconciliation
• Radical Reconciliation
• How reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each other
• The celebration of blackness that is throughout the book
• Cultural misappropriation

Austin Channing Brown Links

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Nir Eyal is an author whose writing on technology, psychology, and business has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, and many other renowned publications. Previously, he taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Design School. In this episode, Nir and Eric discuss his new book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. 

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Nir Eyal and I discuss Becoming Indistractable and…

• His book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life
• How what we pay attention to determines our quality of life
• The importance of being in control of how you spend your time and attention in life
• When it comes to being distracted, there are the blamers, the shamers, and the claimers
• That the root cause of distraction is uncomfortable sensations
• Time management is pain management
• How you can’t stop emotions but you can respond to them
• The 4 key steps of becoming indistractable
• Traction and Dis-traction
• How anything can become a distraction
• That you can’t call something a distraction unless you know what you are distracted from
• The tyranny of the to-do list
• Deciding with intent when you’re going to do something
• Timeboxing
• Mastering our internal triggers: Learning to work with our uncomfortable emotions
• The 3 reasons we get distracted
• The antidote to impulsive behavior
• Using an identity to help us become indistractable

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Laura McKowen is an author, award winning blogger and host of Spiritualish, a show that provides an irreverent take on self help. She has been featured on WebMD, the New York Post, Bravo, the Today Show, and more. Laura also hosts sold out retreats and courses teaching people to say Yes to a bigger life. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her newest book, “We are the Luckiest, the Surprising Magic of a Sober Lfie”

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Laura McKowen and I Discuss the Magic of Being Sober and…

• Her book, We Are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life
• Addiction isn’t about will power or being bad
• How we as humans are “magnificent monsters” in that we all have light and dark inside of us
• Being in a liminal space is where transformation takes place.  
• Looking at challenging times and asking “What is this trying to teach me?”
• Embracing the mystery of not knowing
• How addiction demands everything
• Having a “split mind” – the conflict of wanting to drink and knowing that you shouldn’t
• The cognitive dissonance between who we think we are and what we’re doing
• Being afraid of how you’ll feel when you’re not drinking
• Understanding that sobriety gets better, then it gets worse, then it’s different
• Her experience with AA and the positive and negative aspects of this recovery program
• The importance of dealing with the physical body in recovery
• The fear of “aloneness” and not having a home within ourselves 
• Dealing with the ongoing struggle and need to be fixed or saved by someone
• Learning to not being afraid of herself and starting to build self esteem and dignity

Laura McKowen Links:

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Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist interested in the development of intelligence, creativity, and personality. He applies a variety of perspectives to come to a richer understanding and appreciation of all kinds of minds and ways of achieving greatness. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization. They discuss many ways in which we can go beyond coping and, instead, set our sights a bit higher to thrive in our day to day life, regardless of the circumstances. Scott Barry Kaufman shows us how the ordinary life is always, at its heart, the extraordinary life.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

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In This Interview, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss Living a Transcendent Life and…

• His book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization
• That the way you frame a question can influence how you feel
• How to take the leap towards growth so that your focus is no longer on simply coping
• The idea of spending our days in transcendent ways 
• What it means to cope
• The detrimental path of Experiential Avoidance 
• The importance of integrating everything that’s happening right now within yourself
• How to view your personal growth opportunities while others are suffering
• The difference between those who are creative amidst uncertainty and those who struggle to be creative in the same conditions
• Being open to embracing new experiences by letting go of the need for control
• Going right to the heart of the fears that you have so that you can make peace with them
• That we don’t grow all at once and in a linear way

Scott Barry Kaufman Links:

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Sue Monk Kidd was raised in the small town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that deeply influenced the writing of her first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Her 1990 book, When the Heart Waits, has become a touchstone on contemplative spirituality. Sue serves on the Writers Council for Poets & Writers, Inc and is well known for her work in feminist theology. Her new book is a novel called, The Book of Longings.  

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

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In This Interview, Sue Monk Kidd and I discuss Longings of our Heart and…

• Her book, The Book of Longings
• That what you pay attention to will either devour you or save you because we become what we pay attention to
• The particular genius that dwells in every person
• How she first decided that she wanted to write fiction when she was in her 40s
• Asking the prayer that’s at the bottom of your heart
• How being visible and being audible in the world is a choice to express the largeness that’s inside each of us
• That we can nurture the largeness in another person, even if the largeness is inconvenient for us
• God as an essence that lives everywhere, the being-ness in our midst
• The many ways we conceptualize and thereby connect with God
• Why suffering results in increased kindness in some while it hardens others
• The role of vulnerability in our personal growth
• When her therapist told her that the pain won’t kill you but the running from it might.
• What it means to “let life be” when both beautiful and terrible things happen
• Radical acceptance
• How the path to healing is right through the wound
• Facing our pain so our soul can metabolize it and we can move through it and move on
• What it means to be a mother beyond having actual children
• The middle places in life where the waiting and the work happens
• Her writing process
• The silence beneath her words
• Her life as a prayer
• How letting go is not a one-time thing
• That life is like a spiral

Sue Monk Kidd Links:

SueMonkKidd.com

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Henry Shukman is a poet, writer, and Associate Zen Master who lives in New Mexico where he teaches at Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has published eight books to date of fiction, poetry, and non-fiction. He writes regularly for Tricycle, The New York Times, and other publications. In this episode, Eric and Henry discuss his beautifully written book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Henry Shukman and I discuss Paths of Spiritual Awakening and…

• His book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir
• How to work with the 3 poisons that we all have: Greed, Ill Will, Delusion
• Opening up to pain (rather than turning away from it) so that we can heal
• His experience with dysthymia 
• The awakening experiences he has had in his life
• Learning how to be with his pain and wounds in order to heal
• A major myth of meditation
• How he knew he was ready to work with a spiritual teacher
• His realization that awakening experiences are doorways and we must then step onto the paths they open up to in order to continue our spiritual growth
• The value of community in spiritual growth
• The trouble with thinking you have to do things alone
• Discovering for ourselves the deep experience of the ordinary moments of our lives
• The wisdom of cherishing the normal and finding beauty in ordinary things
• Poetry as the practice of paying very close attention to things
• The different levels of love

Henry Shukman Links:

Mountaincloudzencenter.com

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Many of us are staying at home right now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and if you live with people, chances are you have had moments of feeling irritated, frustrated, or annoyed as a result of being cooped up in close quarters together. This special episode has all-new interviews with 5 previous guests of the show, each offering you tips to help you navigate the difficult feelings and situations that come with spending so much time at home with loved ones. The guests of this special episode are Susan Piver, Lodro Rinzler, Rosalind Wiseman, Ralph De La Rosa, Rick Hanson

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

You can also access a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times by going to www.spiritualhabits.net

In This Episode, We discuss Tips for Living in Close Quarters and…

• That we are all subject to unbidden moods in these circumstances
• How to grow closer through experiencing the ups and downs together
• Resisting the urge to solve the “problem” of difficult feelings
• To be with each other we need to be comfortable being with ourselves
• Strategies to help you avoid snapping at your loved ones 
• Turning towards your feelings rather than your thoughts 
• How we’re face to face with our own minds right now
• Feeling what we feel without judgment and without a storyline
• What to do when you feel highly triggered 
• The simple question we can ask ourselves before acting on a feeling
• What to do to prepare before having a difficult conversation with someone you live with
• How humor can help
• Ways to cultivate a warmer heart
• That listening is being prepared to be changed by what you hear
• A helpful structure for family or household meetings
• How we can prepare for difficult emotional experiences
• Taking ownership of our own emotions
• How to relate to our irritation
• Remembering the people you live with are suffering, too
• The phrase, “Like me, you, too, ____”
• How to reduce the way we take things personally
• The neuroscience of why tuning into internal bodily sensations works
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Dr. Christian Conte is one of the country’s most accomplished mental health specialists in the field of anger and emotional management. He specializes in working in the prison system with people convicted of violent crimes. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World. If this conversation about radical anger management rubs you the wrong way in the beginning, we invite you to get curious about your reaction and stay with the conversation – you may feel and think differently by the end of the episode.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

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In This Interview, Christian Conte and I discuss Radical Anger Management and…

• His book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World
• Working with our own anger 
• The relationship between our ego and our anger
• Anger management
• That our expectations influence our experience of the world
• Hindsight bias
• How anger is a wonderful motivator
• That if we loosen our grip on being right, we can humble ourselves to receive other perspectives
• The metaphor of only being able to see one side of the box
• Switching to a position of curiosity 
• That certainty is an emotion, not a cognition
• Leading humility and curiosity lessens the intensity of a situation
• By saying, “here’s what I’m seeing, please teach me about what you’re seeing”, you can change the energy of the conversation
• How we can drain our own limbic system in the midst of feeling angry
• What it means that our mind wants to match our body
• Why he recommends that we go to bed angry (instead of following the old adage that says otherwise)
• That when we understand something intellectually, we think we’ve mastered putting it into practice in our lives
• That extreme language produces extreme emotions
• How we’re not disturbed by things – we’re disturbed by our view of things
• That certainty is at the heart of a lot of anger

Dr. Christian Conte Links:

drchristianconte.com

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You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

In this mini episode, Eric shares helpful advice and many suggestions on how to deal with strong emotions during this global pandemic. He also offers a hopeful message about the personal growth that can come from such challenges.

• Allow yourself to be where you are
• Lower your expectations if you need to
• Be kinder to yourself and practice self compassion (see Kristin Neff episode)
• Journaling can be a helpful practice
• Post traumatic growth - turning adversity into something better
• Allowing ourselves to explore thoughts and feelings can help not only cope, but create meaning in our lives
• 7 areas of growth that can come from adversity
• The importance of routine and structure in our days

Mark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for 40 years. Mark is a New York Times #1 selling author who has published numerous books and audio projects. In this episode, Eric and Mark discuss his book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters. This episode is a tonic to the suffering that we are facing right now in the midst of a pandemic. This conversation offers some of the most liberating wisdom that, when connected to, releases us from the grip of fear so that we are living from a place of presence, peace, and connecting to what matters. 

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Mark Nepo and I discuss Connecting to What Matters and…

• His new book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters
• The value in cooperating, listening and working with things (rather than trying to bend them to our will)
• That “sin”, as literally translated, is the same as “opaque” or, “not seeing”
• That when we lose sight of the vastness to which we belong, succumbing to our narrow condition, we paint everything with the color of our trouble
• How the surface of the ocean is what’s choppy and as we go down below the surface, we connect with the depth that is less tumultuous
• “Rightsizing” our perspective on troubles by putting them in a larger perspective of vastness and wholeness
• How to move at the pace of what is real: synchronizing the moving pace of mind, heart, and body 
• That the power of reading out loud is like the difference between reading sheet music and hearing it in our heads vs. actually playing the music
• That we meditate not to be great meditators, but to be clear vessels
• How we’ve become “addicted to the noise of things falling apart”
• That things are always simultaneously falling apart and coming together
• We are challenged to honor what we’re going through while at the same time remembering that what we’re going through doesn’t define us
• Asking “What is actually happening?” so we might identify right action
• Waiting for the cloud of fear to pass so that you can decipher what is actually dangerous 
• How in the modern world we have catastrophized our relationship to the unknown
• That the unknown can produce love and beauty just as it can produce difficulty and hardships
• The truth that there is no “there”, there’s only “here”
• That often, when you can’t leave a difficult situation, you realize that everything you need is right here
• The menacing assumption that life is somewhere other than where we are
• That out of fear, we make a god of survival. But without thriving, what’s the point?

Mark Nepo Links:

marknepo.com

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