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"This podcast saved my life"- Amy WConversations about Creating a Life Worth Living. Open minded discussions of habits, meditation, wisdom, depression, anxiety, happiness, psychology, philosophy, and motivation.

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"This podcast saved my life"- Amy WConversations about Creating a Life Worth Living. Open minded discussions of habits, meditation, wisdom, depression, anxiety, happiness, psychology, philosophy, and motivation.

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Thanks for being really real, and really helpful!

Great podcast on improvement!

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Perfect for gaining and keeping perspective on a variety of topics.

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1274 Ratings
Average Ratings
1018
138
46
23
49

Real

By StevenEtien - Sep 25 2019
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Thanks for being really real, and really helpful!

Great podcast on improvement!

By Dabbler420 - Jul 03 2019
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Perfect for gaining and keeping perspective on a variety of topics.

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"This podcast saved my life"- Amy WConversations about Creating a Life Worth Living. Open minded discussions of habits, meditation, wisdom, depression, anxiety, happiness, psychology, philosophy, and motivation.

136: Michelle Segar

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This week we talk to Michelle Segar about making lasting change Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee. Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona. In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss... The One You Feed parable Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness How considering a different "why" for starting to be more physically active can be helpful That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it How too many "whys" dilute their positive effect on us Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals How answering the question, "What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?" can be important That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity That any physical movement is better than none at all - Everything counts! For more show notes visit our website   A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.  One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?” The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable. This parable goes by many names including: The Tale of Two Wolves The Parable of the Two Wolves Two Wolves Which Wolf Do You Feed Which Wolf are You Feeding Which Wolf Will You Feed It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

Jul 20 2016

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113: Rainn Wilson

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This week we talk to Rainn Wilson about the courage to be hopeful
Rainn Wilson is best known for his Emmy-nominated role as Dwight Schrute on NBC’s The Office. Wilson also voiced the alien villain Gallaxhar in Monsters vs. Aliens (2009) and starred in the police procedural Backstrom
Today he’s equally well-known for his millions of Twitter followers and the philosophy website he founded, SoulPancake, which creates media about life's big questions. and wrote a New York Times bestselling book of the same name.
He just released a memoir called The Bassoon King: My Life in Art, Faith, and Idiocy.
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In This Interview Rainn Wilson and I Discuss...
The One You Feed parable
His new book The Bassoon King
How spirituality got a bad name
How spirituality is everything that we don't have in common with the monkeys
How happiness is not an if then proposition
The difference between happiness and joy
The balance between ambition and acceptance
How cynicism robs us of the gift of joy
How much easier it is to be cynical than to be hopeful
Bombing on Broadway
How success doesn't mean the end of the difficulties of life
The Baha'i faith
How the Baha'i faith encourages equality between women and men
Thomas Merton
Reconciling a loving God with the terrible things that happen in the world

Feb 01 2016

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305: David Richo on Navigating the Five Givens in Life

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David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you.

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In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and…

  • His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges
  • That perfection is not a human option
  • How a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been granted
  • Navigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion
  • Life is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s life
  • The importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our life
  • Accepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensions
  • How we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what is
  • His words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.”
  • The ego tries to control the givens
  • That love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givens
  • How the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is control
  • Building the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at grief
  • His words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.”
  • Live with the questions and notice where they take us
  • Act with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulness
  • Spirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassion
  • Happiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishment

David Richo Links:

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Nov 05 2019

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132: Dr. Norman Rosenthal

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This week we talk to Norman Rosenthal about transcendental meditation Dr. Norman Rosenthal is a world-renowned psychiatrist, public speaker and best-selling author who is known for his innovative research and inspirational writings. He is currently clinical professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University School of Medicine. He is most known for his discovery of Seasonal Affective Disorder. He is currently clinical professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University School of Medicine. His new book is Supermind: How to Boost Performance and Live a Richer and Happier Life Through Transcendental Meditation.    In This Interview,Norman Rosenthal and I Discuss... The One You Feed parable Transcendental Meditation vs Mindfulness meditation His latest book, Supermind: How to boost performance and live a richer and happier life through Transcendental Meditation That whatever we practice, we succeed at  Seasonal Affective Disorder: What it is and how he discovered it That you cannot become a master sailor in calm seas For more show notes visit our website Norman Rosenthal Links Homepage Twitter Facebook   A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.  One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?” The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable. This parable goes by many names including: The Tale of Two Wolves The Parable of the Two Wolves Two Wolves Which Wolf Do You Feed Which Wolf are You Feeding Which Wolf Will You Feed It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

Jun 22 2016

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166: Adyashanti

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Please Support The Show With a Donation   This week we talk to Adyashanti about waking up Adyashanti, author of The Way of Liberation, Resurrecting Jesus, Falling into Grace, and The End of Your World, is an American-born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire, and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Asked to teach in 1996 by his Zen teacher of 14 years, Adyashanti offers teachings that are free of any tradition or ideology. “The Truth I point to is not confined within any religious point of view, belief system, or doctrine, but is open to all and found within all.” Based in California, Adyashanti teaches throughout the U.S. and in Canada, Europe, and Australia.   In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss... That our work as humans is on the journey from a walking contradiction to a walking paradox That if we see something out of alignment with our value system we feel it in our body as tension That our bodies are our best aid when it comes to navigating our inner consciousness That there are different types of awakening That awakening is a fundamental shift of identity The primary task of any good spiritual teaching is not to answer your questions but to question your answers What to do when you WANT to change but then you can't seem to change The 5 foundations of spirituality What is my aspiration? That wanting to feel pleasure can only take us so far When we start feeling better we'll stop looking deeper Never abdicate your authority That "true" meditation is the art of allowing everything to be exactly as it is That meditation is there for us to get experiential insight into the nature of our being, our consciousness The importance of bringing your intelligence along for the ride in meditation To let go of what the outcome should be in meditation Our whole body is a sensory instrument through which we experience life That self-inquiry is joining the intellectual mind with the contemplative spirit An unresolved deep question is often what sparks an awakening How contemplation is different from meditation and inquiry The three means of evoking insight: contemplation, meditation, and inquiry The Jesus story is a map for awakening How the Jesus story is so compelling What life is like for awakened people That awakening can be sudden and/or it can be a gradual unfolding How enlightenment is the end of one game and the beginning of another The difference between exploration and seeking Whether or not psychedelic drugs play a role in awakening Please Support The Show with a Donation

Feb 21 2017

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123: Steven C Hayes

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This week we talk to Steven C Hayes about getting out of our minds and into our lives
Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.
He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
 
In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss:

The One You Feed parable
His book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life
That you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bear
The ACT approach to therapy
The difference between pain and suffering
The importance of putting the human mind on a leash
That suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelings
The meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughts
The importance of and various types of contemplative practice
Various diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)
The concept and practice of experiential avoidance
The full impact of acting for "short term gains with long term pains"

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Apr 19 2016

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158: Dr. Dan Siegel

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Please Support The Show With a Donation   This week we talk to Dr. Dan Siegel Daniel Siegel, MD is a graduate of Harvard Medical School and completed his postgraduate medical education at UCLA He is currently a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, and executive director of theMindsight Institute, an educational center devoted to promoting insight, compassion, and empathy in individuals, families, institutions, and communities. His books include Mindsight, The Developing Mind and Parenting from the Inside Out  He has been invited to lecture for the King of Thailand, Pope John Paul II, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Google University, and TEDx. His latest book is called Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human   In This Interview, Dr. Dan Siegel and I Discuss... The One You Feed parable His new book: Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human That where attention goes, neuro-firing flows and neuro-connection grows in the brain The mind is not only what the brain does, or brain firing The mind is more than merely energy and information flow The mind is a self-organizing, emergent and relational process that is regulating the flow of energy and information both within you and between you and the world The role of differentiating and linking in a healthy mind That an unhealthy mind is too rigid and/or too chaotic The importance of integrating rigidity and chaos in the brain The Connectone Studies The fact that integration of the brain is the best indicator of a person's well-being That when we honor the differences between us and promote linkage between us and others, we foster integration in our brains That people with trauma have impaired integration memory What "mindsight" is and how it differentiates from mindfulness How mindfulness can help foster mindsight and well-being The wheel of awareness That change seems to involve awareness That energy is the movement from possibility to actuality through a series of probabilities     Please Support The Show With a Donation

Dec 28 2016

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168: Richard Rohr

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Please Support The Show With a Donation   This week we talk to Richard Rohr   Fr. Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He is a Franciscan priest of the New Mexico Province and founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation (CAC) in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Fr. Richard’s teaching is grounded in the Franciscan alternative orthodoxy—practices of contemplation and self-emptying, expressing itself in radical compassion, particularly for the socially marginalized. Fr. Richard is the author of numerous books, including  The Naked Now, Falling Upward, Immortal Diamond, His newest book is The Divine Dance: The Trinity and Your Transformation. In This Interview, Richard Rohr and I Discuss... Non-dualistic thinking That non-dualistic thinking is not a balancing act, but rather it's about holding the tension of opposites The difficulty of living without resolution The human psyche identifies with things - it searches for an identity The story of the tree from the garden of Eden is a warning against thinking one knows what perfect good and perfect evil is. It's a warning against dualistic thinking. Trans-rational thinking is beyond access to the rational mind The 6 things that require trans-rational thinking How we can be active in our world but not hate our enemies That we've confused information with transformation Soft Prophecy That the message of the prophets is only about 2% about foretelling Jesus How important it is to change your mind How we've confused cleaning up, growing up, waking up and showing up in our lives That the ego wants 2 things: to be separate and superior Projectors vs Introjectors That prayer is about changing you, not changing God You'll be as hard on other people as you are hard on yourself     Please Support The Show with a Donation   .

Mar 08 2017

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The #1 Mistake People Make When Trying to Change Behavior

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The #1 Mistake Most People Make When Trying to Change Behavior Starting Too Big The key to making lasting change is to break things down into really small steps. Most people want to start at point A and jump to Point Z but you don’t get there overnight. Break the new habit down into the smallest possible increments and be specific when planning each step along the way. In the beginning the most important part of behavior change is to be successful. This increases your motivation and makes you want to do more. If you start small it is much easier to “succeed” and build from there. For example, let’s say you want to take up a meditation practice. Instead of trying to meditate for 30 minutes a day, start with 3 minutes. Then once that becomes a daily habit increase it to 5 minutes, etc. As Leo Babuta of Zen Habits says “Make it so easy you can’t say no.” On one of our earlier episodes Dan Millman discussed the importance of “starting small and connecting the dots”. You will be amazed at what a series of small steps done consistently over a period of time will accomplish.     The Tale of Two Wolves A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.  One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?” The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

May 14 2016

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304: Tony Wrighton on Managing Your Energy

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Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being.

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In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …

  • Trying to meditate with a 4-month-old
  • How there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolves
  • His training in NLP
  • The role of control in our lives
  • Parenting
  • Why he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to him
  • The idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the world
  • The thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.
  • Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exercise
  • The thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%
  • How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levels
  • His books: Confidence in a MinutePersuade in a Minute, and Relax in a Minute
  • The NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.
  • How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things up
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Authenticity


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Oct 29 2019

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107: Kristin Neff

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This week we talk to Kristin Neff about self compassion
Kristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher, author, and Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She got her Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley in 1997 in the field of moral development.
While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.
In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she has developed an 8-week program to teach self-compassion skills. The program, co-created with her colleague Chris Germer, affiliated with Harvard Medical School, is called Mindful Self-Compassion. Her book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself was recently released in paperback.
She and her family were recently featured in the documentary and book called The Horse Boy.
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In This Interview, Kristin and I Discuss...
The One You Feed parable
The difference between self-esteem and self-compassion
What self compassion is
The research on self-compassion and its benefits
How self-compassion increases motivation
The more self-compassionate you are, the less afraid of failure you are
How self-compassion reduces performance anxiety
The three pillars of self-compassion
Learning to soothe and comfort ourselves
Remembering that all people struggle and suffer
The damaging psychological effects of isolation
Learning to turn towards our own pain in order to work with it
How to practice self-compassion
Learning to talk to ourselves like we would a friend

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Dec 22 2015

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223: 223: Rick Hanson on Growing Positive Qualities

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Rick Hanson, PhD is a Neuropsychologist, teacher and author of many books. He is the founder of the Wellspring Center for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley. This is the 2nd time Dr. Hanson has been a guest on the show and we invited him back because of how great his work really is. In this episode, he talks all about the fact that who we become is a result of what we grow inside of ourselves. Using the analogy of tending a garden, he teaches us very practical ways to grow and enrich ourselves through the experiences in our lives. Get a pen and paper - you'll probably want to take notes on this one!


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In This Interview, Rick Hanson and I Discuss...

  • The Wolf Parable
  • His book, Resilient: How to grow an unshakable core of calm, strength, and happiness
  • Who we become is a result of what we grow inside ourselves
  • How you manage your challenges, protect your vulnerabilities, Increase your resources: out in the world, in the body, and in the mind
  • Growing resources in our mind is a good focus
  • Converting an experience into lasting change
  • Slowing down content delivery so that the nervous system in our brains has a chance to receive it and rewire accordingly
  • 5 ways to enrich a beneficial experience:
  • Extend the experience (make it longer)
  • Intensify the experience (really lean into it)
  • Embody the experience (how does it feel in your body and your mind)
  • Freshen the experience (see what's novel about it? Bring a beginners mind)
  • Value the experience (see the relevance to you)
  • Asking what is the challenge? What resource would be the most beneficial?
  • The mind is like a garden - to grow things, focus on:
  • Mindful witnessing
  • Mindful releasing of what's negative
  • Mindful receiving (replace what we release or simply receive what would be beneficial)
  • Fighting what's negative only makes it work
  • Growing a fundamental core of resilient wellbeing
  • Safety, Satisfaction, and Connection are basic needs we have
  • How it takes time to tend a garden
  • How adversity isn't the only way to grow in life
  • We have to experience what we want to grow inside
  • We have to turn that experience into some kind of lasting change in the brain

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Mar 27 2018

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241: Judson Brewer: Addiction and the Craving Mind

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Judson Brewer MD PhD is widely considered an expert in the areas of habit change, the "science of self-mastery" and mindfulness training for addiction. He has published a number of peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, he has trained US Olympic coaches, and his work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TEDMED, Time, Forbes, BBC, NPR, Businessweek and others. So - you get the idea...this guy knows what he's talking about and what he's talking about is fascinating. It's a very different approach to ridding yourself of addiction and it works. it works much better than even currently accepted "gold standard programs" and it's something you can learn how to do today. In fact, you can learn how to do it by listening to this episode.


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In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss...

  • His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits
  • Trigger, Behavior, Result
  • Rewards and Punishments
  • Habit Loop
  • Subjective Bias
  • Addiction: Continued use despite adverse consequences
  • Addiction: a way to avoid something
  • Every time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loop
  • Cravings are like stray cats
  • If you don't feed a craving it will burn itself out
  • Surfing a craving
  • The way cravings feel like they're going to crush us and last forever - cognitive distortion
  • Craving Wave: come - crest - go away\
  • Awareness helps us surf these craving waves
  • What does this feel like in my body right now?
  • Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go away
  • RAIN
  • This method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation program
  • Substitute behavior
  • In their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happiness
  • Investigate the craving and the reward
  • Excitement brings contraction
  • Get curious about your experiences - it helps you remain open
  • Default mode network
  • Conceptual vs Experiential Self
  • The contraction of ego
  • How we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the difference


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Aug 08 2018

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229: Adyashanti on the Process and Experience of Awakening (part 1)

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Adyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.our inner life.


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In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss...

  • Eric's awakening experience
  • The awakened state in perpetuity
  • The shift in perception that happens with awakening
  • The paradox of wanting something like awakening yet wanting it stands in the way of having it
  • Will gets you to the cushion and once there, it's important to let go of it
  • Does one need a spiritual teacher when seeking awakening?
  • The teacher evoking something from vs the teacher giving something to the student
  • How people work with unconscious patterns
  • How you can't not be awakened - even if you don't feel it, it's there
  • Emotional conflict
  • Paying attention to what's recurring in you
  • Anything that's happened to us that was too big for us to remain conscious while we experienced it, gets trapped in our system - turned into some other emotion or it just gets stuffed and is now just there waiting for you. The universe is now asking, "can you experience this now?"
  • Being fine with being sad
  • Let everything be exactly the way it is
  • How dealing with life's experiences as they come transforms you
  • A clinched fist vs an open hand metaphor
  • "Let" vs "Let go"
  • If you can't let it go, can you let it be
  • Failure as part of triumph
  • Failing your way through something consciously can cause a sort of transformation
  • What it looks like to build a spiritual practice
  • Daily quiet meditation, Engage in some precise self-inquiry (a wonderment of "being")
  • How spirituality is the direct investigation of YOUR experience
  • The only way to get self-inquiry wrong is not to be ruthlessly honest about what's happening in your experience
  • The fear of getting something wrong
  • Think of your spiritual teacher kind of like a college professor


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May 09 2018

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228: Mark Epstein on the Intersection of Buddhism and Psychotherapy

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Mark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in NYC and the author of many books about the intersection of Buddhism and psychotherapy. He's currently the clinical assistant professor in the postdoctoral program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University. His most recent book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself is what he talks about in this episode. His wisdom is so incredibly practical, applicable, and helpful. Ideas like whether or not naming your feelings would be a helpful strategy for you and how to work with clinging in its many forms - even the clinging to inner peace - abound in this discussion. Take a listen and enrich your inner life. 

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In This Interview, Mark Epstein and I Discuss...

  • The Wolf Parable
  • His book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself
  • The duality that we all struggle with
  • Freud and the Buddha's nearly identical conclusion
  • What it means to take personal responsibility for our selfish concerns
  • The clinging to that which gives us a sense of control over life
  • The clinging to that which nurtures our ego
  • The eightfold path of the Buddha
  • The conversation with his terminally ill father that inspired this book
  • Right View - being realistic about one's self and the nature of things
  • How change and death is happening all of the time, moment to moment
  • Trying not to try as it relates to meditation
  • "Take the backward step" in meditation
  • FInding balance in "right effort"
  • Exploring the feelings that we are otherwise afraid of through psychotherapy
  • The link between being with uncomfortable feelings and empathy to others
  • How anything that's happening in the body or mind can be the object of meditation
  • How useful it is to name a feeling
  • Making a feeling "intelligible" by naming it
  • How useful it can be to find where feelings show up in the body
  • When your mind is not aware of what's making you act this way (in addiction, compulsive behaviors etc) it's important to put the words on the feelings
  • Whether or not all emotions show up in the body
  • How clinging takes many forms - even the desire for inner peace
  • "Don't chase her, let her find you."
  • That our lives are made dull by our efforts to over control things


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May 01 2018

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129: Russell Simmons

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This week we talk to Russell Simmons about being a giver   Russell Simmons is an American entrepreneur and author. He began his entrepreneurial career in his youth, but on the wrong side of the law, selling marijuana to make money while an active member of a local gang. He then partnered with Rick Rubin to create Def Jam Records, and signed artists like the Beastie Boys, LL Cool J, Public Enemy and Run-D.M.C. He is also The Chairman and CEO of Rush Communications, he cofounded the hip-hop music label Def Jam Recordings and created the clothing fashion lines Phat Farm, Argyleculture, and Tantris. He is also a vocal proponent of meditation and veganism. His latest book is called The Happy Vegan: A Guide to Living a Long, Healthy, and Successful Life In This Interview, Russell Simmons and I Discuss: The One You Feed parable How good givers are great getters Giving before you get Dissociating ourselves from the results of our labors How success and fame don't necessarily make us happy Improving our health through veganism Improving the health of the planet through veganism Corporate greed The horrors of factory farming His experience with Occupy Wall Street The corruption in politics His daily yoga practice Combining yoga, meditation, and veganism Remaining useful and active as we age For more show notes visit our website

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259: Steven C Hayes- Getting Out of You Mind

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Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.

He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

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In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life 
  • The ACT approach to therapy
  • That you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bear
  • The difference between pain and suffering
  • The importance of putting the human mind on a leash
  • That suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelings
  • The meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughts
  • The importance of and various types of contemplative practice
  • Various diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)
  • The concept and practice of experiential avoidance
  • The full impact of acting for “short term gains with long term pains”
  • The idea of creating larger behavioral patterns
  • The role of values based action

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Dec 26 2018

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224: Cheri Huber On the Impact of Our Mind on Our Direct Experience

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Cheri Huber is the author of 20 books and has been a student of zen for 35 years. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center and the Zen Monastery Peace Center, both in California, where she and other monks teach workshops and hold retreats. She is also a truth telling, light hearted delight to listen to. In this interview, she talks all about what is going on in our mind and how we can better work with it to produce a better experience in life. Her wisdom is so practical and so powerful. See for yourself in this transformative episode.

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In This Interview, Cheri Huber and I Discuss...

  • The Wolf Parable
  • Her book, I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about it
  • How the process IS the outcome
  • That now is the only moment there is
  • How the quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention
  • Everything comes into being, together
  • She doesn't believe that there's anything that ISN'T God
  • Our dualistic thinking
  • All of the ways to refer to the ego
  • The unique ability that humans have to experience themselves as other than life
  • The ego is a survival system
  • Believing we are not connected to life
  • Everything is a verb! A gerund
  • The illusion of being separate from life
  • My ego is the no to life's yes
  • Always asking what's lacking, what's missing, what's wrong keeps the ego as the center of the universe
  • How we are deeply conditioned for negativity
  • Awareness being able to watch the conditioned mind
  • I hear it in my head, it sounds like me, it must be me, it's who I am
  • Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying it
  • Recording and Listening
  • Make recordings of what's true, what I appreciate, what I love
  • Hearing what's true for you in your own voice
  • Talking ourselves into a life that's true
  • How we direct our attention is the be all and end all in life
  • We have these tendencies to see what's negative so we need to bring ourselves to what is true that isn't negative
  • We transcend the conditioned mind, we don't resist it
  • The key is to turn your attention away from the negative voices not to change what they are saying
  • The habit of going with the conversation in your head is so powerful
  • If we can wake up out of it, we can decide to go somewhere else in our attention
  • Hear Cheri Huber talk about her book,  I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about it
  • Cheri Huber teaches that the process IS the outcome
  • Cheri Huber explains what she means by this: your ego is the "no" to life's "yes"
  • Do you believe that we are deeply conditioned for negativity or hardwired for negativity?
  • Here's a tip: Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying it
  • The quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention


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Apr 04 2018

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65: Maria Popova of Brain Pickings

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This week we talk to Maria Popova about Brain Pickings and living a good life. 

Our guest today is Maria Popova: a writer, blogger, and critic living Brooklyn, NY.  She is best known for Brainpickings.org, which features her writing on culture, books, and many other subjects. Brain Pickings is seen by millions of readers every month. Maria’s describes her work as  a human-powered discovery engine for interestingness, a subjective lens on what matters in the world and why, bringing you things you didn’t know you were interested in — until you are….

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222: Jeff Warren on How to Meditate with a Busy Brain

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Jeff Warren is a former journalist and more recently is a researcher, writer, and teacher of meditation and personal growth practices. His most recent book, written with Dan Harris, is called, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to Book. Jeff is a likable, relatable guy who carries a lot of practical wisdom in his conversational style of communicating. If you've ever felt like you're not good at meditating or that meditation just isn't for you because your brain never turns off, this interview is for you because that's how Jeff would describe himself, particularly at the beginning of his practice years ago. We all know that meditation is good for us but for many, it just feels inaccessible and out of reach. If that is how you feel, what Jeff has to share in this interview will make that gap shrink in size so much so that you can hop right over it and try again.


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In This Interview, Jeff Warren and I Discuss...

  • The Wolf Parable
  • His book with Dan Harris, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to Book
  • The role of meditation in living with depression
  • The voice in our heads
  • Not identifying with the voices in our heads
  • Coming out of the conversation in our heads
  • The idea of "I can't meditate"
  • Thinking we're supposed to stop thinking when we meditate
  • Changing the relationship with your thoughts
  • Focusing on an anchor, getting lost in thought, realizing you're lost in thought and coming back to your anchor = mediation
  • How quick we are to conclude that meditation isn't for us
  • That meditation is a practice
  • Celebrating the coming back from thought in meditation
  • Training affability during meditation
  • Finding enjoyment and curiosity during meditation
  •  Asking "What's the attitude in my mind right now?" during meditation
  • That attitude is what you're training during meditation
  • Looking at the world with interest
  • Equanimity = a lack of pushing and pulling on experience
  • Opening to experience so that there's no friction
  • When everything has permission to express its self fully


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Mar 20 2018

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310: Liz Fosslien on Embracing Emotions at Work

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Liz Fosslien is the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. She leads interactive scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging to help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Liz is the co-author and illustrator of the book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. In this episode, she and Eric dive into the important and fascinating topic of the role of emotions in the workplace. You may think being “cool, calm and collected” at work is the right way to be but after listening to this episode, you will likely think differently.

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In This Interview, Liz Fosslien and I Embracing Emotions at Work and …

  • Her book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work.
  • How we underestimate the emotions we bring to work
  • Tools to help with embracing emotions in the workplace
  • How we make really bad decisions when we don’t reference our emotions
  • The danger of being a “feelings fire hose” at work
  • The “Skill Swap” exercise at work
  • The New Rules of Emotion
  • Caring about yourself more than you care about your work
  • Your Support Network and your Challenge Network at work
  • Communicating what you need in the moment to another person 
  • Social Distancing
  • Why we lack motivation at work
  • Relevant Emotions vs Irrelevant Emotions

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Dec 10 2019

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309: Greg Marcus on the Spiritual Practice of Good Actions

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Greg Marcus is a practitioner, facilitator, and innovator of American Mussar which is a 21st-century spiritual practice for an authentic and meaningful life. He has a B.A. in Biology from Cornell University and earned his Ph.D. in Biology from MIT. He worked for 10 years as a marketer in the Silicon Valley genomics industry, after which he became a stay at home dad, writer, life balance coach, and biotech consultant. His latest book is called The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar. 

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In This Interview, Greg Marcus and I Discuss Spiritual Practice of Good Actions and …

  • His book, The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar
  • The Jewish Spiritual Practice of Mussar
  • Taking mindful action in everyday life
  • The Soul Trait of Enthusiasm
  • Too much of a Soul Trait vs not enough of a Soul Trait
  • The middle way as it relates to Soul Traits
  • Focusing on a Soul Trait for 2 weeks
  • How to move head knowledge into heart knowledge
  • The Morning Mantra
  • Picking 1 specific action to take
  • Journaling
  • The Great Wall of Mussar – and how to overcome it
  • Handling significant emotional disruption
  • How our free will isn’t always accessible to us
  • How to slow the train of emotional disruption
  • Shadow Soul Traits
  • Inverting the Shadow Trait: What is the light that’s casting the shadow?

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Dec 03 2019

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308: Dr. John Norcross on the Keys to Successful Behavior Change

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Dr. John Norcross is an internationally recognized expert on behavior change. He is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Scranton and a board-certified psychologist. He is the author of the acclaimed self-help book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, has authored over 400 publications and has co-written and edited 22 books, principally in the areas of psychotherapy, clinical psychology, professional training, and self-change. In this episode, he and Eric discuss what the science of behavior change tells us when it comes to the do’s and don’t’s of creating new behaviors and putting an end to problematic ones. This episode is full of practical wisdom and is a must-listen for anyone looking to create meaningful, lasting change in their lives. 

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In This Interview, Dr. John Norcross and I discuss Behavior Change and…

  • His book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions
  • One of the colossal mistakes people make when trying to change their behavior
  • Motivation & willpower versus learnable skills
  • Harnessing the power of the science of behavior change as well as the 5 stages of behavior change
  • The power of doing the right things at the right time
  • Preparing to follow a behavior change program
  • The 90-day commitment for lasting behavior change
  • Chronic Contemplation as well as what to do when you slip up
  • The findings from the New Years Resolutions Study
  • Energy sources
  • The importance of a “change team” or a “support team”
  • The common “countering” methods using “healthy opposites”
  • How to apply the “healthy opposites” approach to emotional eating
  • The truth: what is measured, improves
  • Dealing with urges as well as cravings

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Nov 26 2019

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307: Loch Kelly on Effortless Mindfulness

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Loch Kelly is an author, meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and the founder of The Open-Hearted Awareness Institute. Loch works to help people access awakening as the next natural stage of human development. by offering in-person retreats, workshops, and online video and audio courses. He has served on the New York Insight Teachers Council and has collaborated with neuroscientists at Yale, U Penn and NYU in the study of how awareness training can enhance compassion and well being. Loch also studied extensively with Mingyur Rinpoche and was invited to teach direct realization by Adyashanti. As a licensed psychotherapist, Loch has been teaching seminars, supervising clinicians and practicing awareness psychotherapy in New York City for 30 years. His latest book is called, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life.

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In This Interview, Loch Kelly and I discuss Effortless Mindfulness and…

  • His book, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life
  • The good wolf & the bad wolf: how there are no “bad” parts of us
  • Feed the one who is aware of the two wolves
  • How he defines “effortless mindfulness”
  • Flow consciousness
  • Deliberate mindfulness vs effortless mindfulness
  • Objects of consciousness vs the space that objects are in
  • Mindfulness is about awakening rather than it just being about stress management
  • Relieving suffering at it’s root
  • Small glimpses, many times and the practice of the “small glimpses” techniques.
  • Dropping from head mind to heart mind
  • Non-dual awareness
  • How to practice the "small glimpses techniques
  • Awareness-based knowing

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Nov 19 2019

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306: Judith Blackstone on Healing Trauma Through Consciousness

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Judith Blackstone is an innovative and experienced teacher in the contemporary fields of non-dual realization and spiritual, relational, and somatic psychotherapy. She developed The Realization Process, which is a direct path for realizing fundamental consciousness. She also teaches the application of non-dual realization for psychological, relational, and physical healing. Judith has taught The Realization Process for over 35 years throughout the United States and Europe. She currently has 6 books in publication including her latest book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness.

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In This Interview, Judith Blackstone and I discuss Healing Trauma through Consciousness and …

  • Her book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness
  • Uncovering fundamental consciousness
  • Attuning to the 3 components of fundamental consciousness: awareness, emotion, and physical sensation
  • Defining trauma
  • The way we hold back things that won’t be met with approval
  • How traumatic events cause us to be divided – driving us out of our fundamental nature of wholeness, which is fundamental consciousness
  • Inhabiting our body vs scanning our body
  • Releasing trauma through our bodies
  • Healing trauma through consciousness
  • Psychological healing in addition to spiritual awakening
  • The role of memory in healing trauma
  • Accessing memories through somatic connections
  • Healing trauma in relation to other people as well as with other people

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Nov 12 2019

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305: David Richo on Navigating the Five Givens in Life

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David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you.

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In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and…

  • His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges
  • That perfection is not a human option
  • How a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been granted
  • Navigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion
  • Life is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s life
  • The importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our life
  • Accepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensions
  • How we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what is
  • His words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.”
  • The ego tries to control the givens
  • That love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givens
  • How the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is control
  • Building the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at grief
  • His words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.”
  • Live with the questions and notice where they take us
  • Act with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulness
  • Spirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassion
  • Happiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishment

David Richo Links:

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Nov 05 2019

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304: Tony Wrighton on Managing Your Energy

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Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being.

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In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …

  • Trying to meditate with a 4-month-old
  • How there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolves
  • His training in NLP
  • The role of control in our lives
  • Parenting
  • Why he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to him
  • The idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the world
  • The thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.
  • Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exercise
  • The thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%
  • How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levels
  • His books: Confidence in a MinutePersuade in a Minute, and Relax in a Minute
  • The NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.
  • How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things up
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Authenticity


Tony Wrighton Links:

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Oct 29 2019

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303: James Finley on Contemplation and Awakening

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James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present. 

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In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and …

  • The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do?
  • How it’s love that feeds the good wolf
  • His book, Merton’s Palace of Nowhere
  • His violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton 
  • Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize that
  • That we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flame
  • How truth transcends religions
  • The True Self and False Self
  • The lie that the ego is all that we are
  • Identity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are.
  • The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identity
  • His book, The Contemplative Heart
  • To contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefully
  • Contemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with love
  • His book, Christian Meditation
  • Taking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakening
  • The welling up of that which sustains us in the brokenness
  • Removing complexities and distractions to be present in stillness
  • The mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it. 
  • The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self.
  • The true self embraces both solitude and communion with others
  • The metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving arms
  • Being sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdom

James Finley Links:

jamesfinley.org

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Oct 22 2019

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302: Reba Riley on Post Traumatic Church Syndrome

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Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following.

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In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and …

  • Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing
  • Her chronic illness
  • Facing her anger and bitterness
  • 30 religions before she turned 30
  • Life being grey when religions answers are often black and white
  • That love is bigger than everything
  • Love healing us and bringing us together
  • Her mothers love through her journey
  • That wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found God
  • How love and forgiveness have to start in each of us
  • Looking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that exists
  • If love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happen
  • Kindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of love
  • Kindness is love made visible
  • Her battle with dark, debilitating depression
  • Feeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to live
  • Using kindness to battle depression
  • How she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her life
  • The story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression 
  • The alchemy of kindness to transform your pain
  • Couraging = brave as a verb

Reba Riley Links:

rebariley.com

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Oct 15 2019

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Introducing The Next Big Idea

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Ideas are coming at you every day from all directions. How can you process it all? You can start with The Next Big Idea. Host Rufus Griscom and legendary thought leaders Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Dan Pink, and Susan Cain, will be your personal “idea” curators. Open your mind and get ready for something big, because the right idea--at the right moment--has the power to transform your life. Listen now at http://wondery.fm/TNBIWondery

Oct 15 2019

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301: Robin Hanson on Motives and Human Behavior

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Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others.

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In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and …

  • His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life
  • How often, we keep our true motives hidden from others
  • That we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselves
  • Modularity
  • The things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious level
  • The left brain interpreter being like a press secretary
  • Needing to tell a story about our motives
  • Questioning whether or not you know the motives of others
  • That we have multiple motives for doing things
  • Understand others and then assume you’re a lot like them
  • Cynicism and Misanthropy
  • Perspective
  • The evolution to protect ourselves from each other
  • The need to have others like us and think well of us
  • Obliviation
  • What if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy?
  • That we pay a lot for variety
  • Proximate and distal causes
  • That evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them?

Robin Hanson Links:

elephantinthebrain.com

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Oct 08 2019

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300: Charlie Gilkey on Getting Things Done

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Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done.

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In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and …

  • His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done
  • How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone
  • The Tao Te Ching
  • Focusing on your input and letting go of the results
  • Why finishing is so important
  • That we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing them
  • We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them
  • Creative constipation breeds toxicity 
  • We’re either creating something or destroying something
  • We don’t do ideas, we do projects
  • How it feels good to think about our ideas
  • How doing our best work is often really hard
  • The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy
  • That when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get better
  • The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it
  • Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it
  • The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work
  • Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not
  • The problem with automatically believing our thoughts
  • How discipline limits decision fatigue
  • Action expresses priority
  • Being sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it matters
  • That big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s ok

Charlie Gilkey Links:

productiveflourishing.com

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Oct 01 2019

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299: Mark Henick on Suicide and Depression

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Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy. 

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In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and…

  • The duality of life and death
  • Mental Health and Suicide
  • His suicidality at 12 years old
  • The message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicide
  • The complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to him
  • His realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be different
  • The myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do it
  • The right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depression
  • How freeing it is to talk about something
  • When others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depression
  • His recovery through a newfound sense of purpose
  • The healthier relationships he pursued
  • Getting clear about boundaries
  • The toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a child
  • Not having the language to express the feelings he had
  • The perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable.
  • How depression limits the options you can see 
  • Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakening
  • Something good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do.
  • His depression and social anxiety disorder
  • The danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism.
  • Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good.
  • Getting good at re-lapsing with his depression
  • His misguided thought that he was failing at getting better
  • Learning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughts
  • The truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass)
  • How depression hates a moving target

Mark Henick Links:

markhenick.com

Ted Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide”

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Sep 25 2019

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298: Essential Concepts: Key Strategies to Making a Change

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This mini episode is about the tactical and emotional aspects of changing behavior.  

Sep 21 2019

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298: Sarah Shockley on Living with Chronic Pain

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Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain.

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In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and…

  • Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain
  • How it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with pain
  • The good wolf aspect of pain
  • Feeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic pain
  • Her experience with debilitating pain
  • The many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical component
  • How isolating chronic pain can be 
  • Chronic emotional pain
  • Seeing pain differently
  • Turning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?”
  • What you resist persists
  • Becoming partners with your pain
  • Thinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healed
  • Creating a different relationship with pain
  • We lock pain in place when we get into a resistant mode
  • Giving pain a lot of space
  • Breathing into the pain
  • The messages that pain brought her
  • Asking pain, “What do you need?”
  • How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic pain
  • That she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with pain
  • That being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healing
  • Living with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking like

Sarah Shockley Links:

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Sep 18 2019

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297: Eric Kaufmann on Conscious Leadership

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Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace.

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In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss…

  • How he interacts with his shadow side
  • The key to not making a situation worse
  • His practice of refrain and return
  • Conscious leadership
  • Unrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spirit
  • What someone says they want vs what they need
  • The courage it takes to say no
  • The 3 building blocks of our egoic state
  • The 3 pillars of being a conscious person
  • Wisdom = mistakes + time
  • Wisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obvious
  • That being wise means being present and aware
  • How cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom.
  • Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away from
  • Have the courage to Speak Up, Care, Commit
  • How sarcasm can be a mask of fear
  • Bringing the weird
  • How it takes energy to withhold
  • Love is wanting to do well for others
  • Love is expansive, inclusive, and connective
  • The things that get in the way of love


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sagatica.com

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Sep 10 2019

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296: Brent Williams on Recovering from Depression

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Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it.

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In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss…

  • His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety
  • How subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything 
  • All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering from
  • His resistance to taking depression medication
  • How he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed him
  • His resistance to taking help from others
  • His experience in therapy
  • The metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shore
  • The components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleep
  • How fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well being
  • Doing small and manageable things when you’re depressed
  • How the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressed
  • How it took him a while to find the right therapist 
  • The potential danger of meditating when depressed
  • That mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him most
  • The impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the time
  • That sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing them
  • Looking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeing
  • Depression showing up as irritability in men

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Sep 03 2019

39mins

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295: Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigating Romantic Relationships

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Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship.  

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In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss…

  • Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
  • The wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples.
  • Relationships are often stuck in fear and anger
  • Emotional disconnection causes distress in relationships.
  • Humans are wired for close connection with others.
  • Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships.
  • Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”.
  • Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”.
  • “Freeze and Flee”means one person gives up on the relationship. 
  • “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, It’s not me, it’s you” 
  • Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in.
  • Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other.  
  • The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship.
  • Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection.
  • Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond
  • “ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement.
  • Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding.
  • Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength.

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Aug 27 2019

42mins

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294: Gabe Howard on Mental Illness

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Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness. 

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In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss…

  • His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations
  • What bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his life
  • His compelling story
  • The myth that people with mental illness come from bad families
  • When he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughts
  • How he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorder
  • The 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illness
  • How you have to learn what works for you – and how that takes time
  • The role of medication in the treatment of mental illness
  • How it stings when your body lets you down
  • Eric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depression
  • Whole health wellness
  • Suicide
  • Don’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem
  • How suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone else

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Aug 20 2019

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293: A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem

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Hi Everyone!

Here is a mini episode that was made for our Patreon members called A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem (and sometimes a bad joke!)

Teaching: We Can Always Grow and Change

Poem: The Trees- Philip Larkin

Song: Tomorrow- James

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Aug 16 2019

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