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Dear Sugars

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Rank #87 in Society & Culture category

Society & Culture
Relationships
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Radically empathic advice

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Radically empathic advice

iTunes Ratings

4808 Ratings
Average Ratings
3605
535
280
177
211

Don’t Gooooooooooooo

By Izzy0708 - Feb 24 2020
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This podcast will be so missed!!! 😢

“Oh dear Sugar, won’t you please”...get a new theme song!!!

By audiobookie - Jan 15 2020
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OMG I cannot stand one more minute of that “...send some sugar my way...”

iTunes Ratings

4808 Ratings
Average Ratings
3605
535
280
177
211

Don’t Gooooooooooooo

By Izzy0708 - Feb 24 2020
Read more
This podcast will be so missed!!! 😢

“Oh dear Sugar, won’t you please”...get a new theme song!!!

By audiobookie - Jan 15 2020
Read more
OMG I cannot stand one more minute of that “...send some sugar my way...”
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Dear Sugars

Latest release on May 29, 2020

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Rank #1: Introducing Safe for Work

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Safe For Work is an advice show that reminds you that while your office may be crazy, you don’t have to be. Office MVPs and corporate veterans Liz Dolan (ex-CMO, Nike, NatGeo, Oprah Winfrey Network) and Rico Gagliano (audio host, producer, print reporter and author) will help you make the big decisions, sort through the small stuff, and get more fulfillment from your work life.

Dec 19 2018

3mins

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Rank #2: Episodes We Love: Love In Doubt

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How many times have you heard this: "I love him, we're great together, but..."? There's always room for doubt, even in the happiest of relationships. So this week, the Sugars take on some of those doubts in rapid-fire fashion. This episode was originally published on January 5th, 2017.

Feb 08 2019

41mins

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Rank #3: Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work (Most) Women Do

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Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. Women from across the country wrote in to the Dear Sugars inbox echoing identical inequalities in their relationships with their husbands and boyfriends. The Sugars commiserate with this aggrieved chorus, along with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her …

May 05 2018

44mins

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Rank #4: Redux: Should I Stay Or Go?

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The Sugars bring you another "Rapid Fire" episode, where they give brief answers to a handful of letters that are all centered around a theme. The theme for this episode is "stay or go" -- people who have a voice in their head telling them to leave their relationship, but who aren't sure it's the right move. This episode was originally released on September 9, 2016. 

Apr 17 2020

34mins

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Rank #5: The Power Of No, Part 1: Oprah Winfrey

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There’s incredible power in saying “yes.” It opens up avenues and allows us to be brave. In Cheryl's case, it’s what led to her becoming Sugar. But saying yes to life's opportunities can also have its risks. This week, the Sugars are joined by Oprah Winfrey to discuss when to say no, how to say no, and what happens in the wake of that.

Jul 15 2017

35mins

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Rank #6: Episodes We Love: Sexless Relationships, Part 1

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A sexless relationship is often a symptom of deeper dysfunction. The Sugars, along with couples therapist Esther Perel, advise a letter writer whose loving partner is erotically absent. This episode was originally released on September 9th, 2017.

May 31 2019

32mins

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Rank #7: Sexless Relationships, Part 1: Esther Perel

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A sexless relationship is often a symptom of deeper dysfunction. The Sugars, along with couples therapist Esther Perel, advise a letter writer whose loving partner is erotically absent.

Sep 09 2017

33mins

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Rank #8: Episodes We Love: Lovers & Friends

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It’s healthy to cultivate friendships outside of your romantic relationships. But sometimes, they can be the source of jealousy and resentment. So when is jealousy actually justified? In this rapid-fire episode, the Sugars weigh in on this question and offer ways to confront and neutralize feelings of jealousy. This episode was originally released on March 31st, 2018.

Sep 16 2019

42mins

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Rank #9: Episodes We Love: Dark Fantasies, Part 1

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Orgies. Sex in public. Incest. These are the things that some of us think about in the dark. Taboo fantasies can be exciting, but they can also be the source of our deepest shame. In the first chapter of this two-part series on sexual fantasies, the Sugars read letters from people who want to turn off the thoughts that turn them on. This episode was originally released on January 13th, 2018.

Jul 12 2019

32mins

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Rank #10: Episodes We Love: Emotional Abuse

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Reema Zaman, our guest in this week’s episode, was in an emotionally abusive marriage. Although her husband’s abuses never left any physical mark, it took her years to repair the damage he inflicted upon her. Ms. Zaman describes some of the telltale signs of an emotionally abusive relationship and helps the Sugars answer two painful letters from women who are struggling to disentangle themselves from their abusive partners. This episode was originally released on August 4th, 2018.

Mar 27 2020

48mins

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Rank #11: Episodes We Love: Body Weight And Romance

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It’s never easy to talk to our romantic partners about their bodies, especially when it’s about weight. The Sugars, along with the writer Ashley C. Ford, answer letters from people questioning their relationships because of major changes in their partners’ bodies. This episode was originally published on August 19th, 2017.

Apr 12 2019

34mins

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Rank #12: Episodes We Love: Emotional Labor

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Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. The Sugars commiserate with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her viral article in Harper’s Bazaar, “Women Aren’t Nags — We’re Just Fed Up.” This episode was originally published on May 5th, 2018.

Dec 13 2019

44mins

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Rank #13: Episodes We Love: Moving On, Part 1

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The Sugars have been thinking about what it means to say goodbye and let go. In this first episode of their two-part series on moving on, the Sugars and Claire Bidwell Smith answer two letters from people struggling to move past their grief after the death of their loved ones. This episode was originally released on August 18th, 2018.

Feb 21 2020

46mins

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Rank #14: Episodes We Love: In The Shadow Of Damaged Parents

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A damaged parent can cast a dark shadow over our lives, especially when we inherit some of that damage. Steve’s father, the psychoanalyst Dr. Richard Almond, joins the Sugars to answer letters and offer a way out. This episode was originally released on September 2nd, 2017.

May 26 2019

33mins

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Rank #15: Episodes We Love: Just Say It

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Words can be wielded like weapons. On today’s episode, the Sugars hear from people who have something to confess but are afraid to hurt others with the power of their words. This episode was originally released on December 9th, 2017.

Nov 15 2019

28mins

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Rank #16: Emotional Abuse — With Reema Zaman

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He removed her makeup when he thought she was wearing too much. He refused to put her name on the leases for their car and their house. He told her that she had a green card only because he chose to marry her. Reema Zaman, our guest in this week’s episode, was in an emotionally abusive marriage. She helps the Sugars answer two painful letters from women who are struggling to disentangle themselves from their abusive partners.

Aug 04 2018

47mins

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Rank #17: Rapid Fire: A Wealthy Sister, An Impatient Girlfriend, An Unshakable Love

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The Sugars are back for another batch of rapid-fire questions and answers. In this round, the Sugars take on six questions, ranging from a letter writer who is jealous of her sister's wealth, to a young woman who is growing impatient for a proposal from her longtime boyfriend, to a person wondering if people ever really change.

Jul 08 2017

39mins

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Rank #18: Episodes We Love: Haunted By Ghosting

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The term "ghosting" may be relatively new, but the concept -- someone suddenly and inexplicably disappearing from your life -- is not. In the past, a total halt to communication with a friend might leave you feeling concerned that something bad happened to him/her. But in a time where our devices have made us more accessible than ever, it can leave the person who's been ghosted feeling rejected or unworthy. This episode was originally published on March 16th, 2017.

Mar 29 2019

37mins

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Rank #19: Episodes We Love: The Ugly Truth

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Most of us have days when we don’t feel attractive. But in this episode, the Sugars read letters from people whose faces are at odds with conventional ideas of beauty. The writer Ariel Henley joins the Sugars to talk about her own facial differences. Henley was born with Crouzon Syndrome. As a child, she underwent dozens of surgeries that permanently changed the shape of her face. This episode was originally released December 16th, 2017.

Sep 21 2019

34mins

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Rank #20: When Bad Things Happen

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In this episode, the Sugars grapple with a difficult question — how do we make sense of the fact that very bad things can happen to people who have done nothing wrong? They discuss a letter from a visual artist who has just learned he is losing his sight, and another from a woman whose life has been transformed by her daughter's life-threatening condition.

Jul 03 2017

33mins

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Redux: Friendships

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Everyone has had a friendship quandary of some sort in the past, right? This week, the Sugars take on frequently asked questions in "rapid fire" fashion – from hating your best friend's significant other, to hating her politics.

May 29 2020

41mins

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Redux: How Do I Find the Courage to Be My Own Guide?

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The Sugars often discuss letters dealing with very specific problems or struggles. This week, they take on a broader, more existential question -- how to follow your heart. This episode was originally released July 28th, 2016.

May 22 2020

26mins

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Redux: What About The Stepchildren?

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When the Sugars answered a letter from a woman who felt trapped in the role of "wicked stepmother," dozens of listeners wrote in asking the same question: what about the stepchildren, who have no control over the restructuring of their family? The Sugars respond with an episode devoted to the other side of the story. They're joined by Jane Alison, author of the memoir "The Sisters Antipodes," which tells the story of how her parents swapped spouses with another couple when she was 4 years old.

This episode was originally published on November 18th, 2016.

May 15 2020

40mins

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Redux: May-December Romances

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Age is just a number in many contexts, but when it comes to finding long-lasting love, an age gap between partners can greatly impact the course of the relationship — both in positive and challenging ways.

May 08 2020

29mins

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Dear Sugars Presents: Madness

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"Madness" is a new investigative series from our fellow WBUR podcast, Endless Thread. Told in 5 parts, "Madness" unravels the shocking history of CIA-funded mind-control experiments.

In the first episode, Endless Thread presents powerful accounts of abuse at a psychiatric hospital in Montreal, and introduces the renowned doctor who conducted these disturbing experiments on his unwitting patients.

May 04 2020

27mins

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Redux: Step Into Your Spotlight

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We find out what happened to two letter writers who let self-image sabotage their love lives. The Sugars find out if “Scared to Choose Wrong” married her fiancé, and they give “Aspiring Warrior for Love” a call to see how he’s changed since hearing the Sugars’ advice more than a year ago. The episode was originally released on February 3rd, 2018.

May 01 2020

36mins

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Redux: Change Is A Work In Progress

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In today’s update episode, we check in with some of our most memorable letter writers from previous episodes. The Sugars find out if “Struggling” was kicked out of his mother’s house, and they give “Bad Mom” a call to see if and how her views of motherhood have changed since hearing the Sugars’ advice more than two years ago. This episode was originally published on January 27th, 2018.

Apr 24 2020

35mins

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Redux: Should I Stay Or Go?

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The Sugars bring you another "Rapid Fire" episode, where they give brief answers to a handful of letters that are all centered around a theme. The theme for this episode is "stay or go" -- people who have a voice in their head telling them to leave their relationship, but who aren't sure it's the right move. This episode was originally released on September 9, 2016. 

Apr 17 2020

34mins

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Episodes We Love: Saying Goodbye

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It's never easy saying goodbye to our loved ones, but it can be especially painful when a goodbye is drawn out by illness. This week, the Sugars answer two letters dealing with the guilt and heartache involved in a long goodbye to a parent. They're joined by Robin Romm, author of the memoir "The Mercy Papers," which tells the story of her mother's death from cancer. This episode was originally published on September 16th, 2016.

Apr 10 2020

33mins

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Dear Sugars Presents: Sugar Calling

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Hear the first episode of the New York Times podcast “Sugar Calling,” featuring our own Cheryl Strayed.

Apr 10 2020

9mins

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Episodes We Love: The Great Reckoning

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Dear Sugars returns to Portland, Oregon, for another epic live show. Special guests Mitchell S. Jackson and Rebecca Skloot share the stage with the Sugars to tell stories of personal reckoning and answer letters from the audience. This episode was originally published on July 28th, 2018.

Apr 03 2020

51mins

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Dear Sugars Presents: Good Life Project

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Every week, the Good Life Project podcast from Jonathan Fields and Wondery shares inspirational, intimate and unfiltered conversations about what it really takes to live a good life. Host Jonathan Fields chats with world-shakers like Elizabeth Gilbert, Brene Brown, Cleo Wade, Adam Grant, Glennon Doyle, and Gretchen Rubin as well as everyday guests. Subscribe today.

Apr 03 2020

8mins

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Episodes We Love: Emotional Abuse

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Reema Zaman, our guest in this week’s episode, was in an emotionally abusive marriage. Although her husband’s abuses never left any physical mark, it took her years to repair the damage he inflicted upon her. Ms. Zaman describes some of the telltale signs of an emotionally abusive relationship and helps the Sugars answer two painful letters from women who are struggling to disentangle themselves from their abusive partners. This episode was originally released on August 4th, 2018.

Mar 27 2020

48mins

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Dear Sugars Presents: A 'Kind World' For Troubled Times

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Take a listen to our sister podcast, Kind World.

Mar 20 2020

12mins

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Dear Sugars Presents: Family Ghosts

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Dear Sugars wants to tell you about another great podcast: Family Ghosts, a show where people tell stories about experiences that transform their understanding of familial legacy.

On this recent episode, a storyteller named David Crabb took a unique approach to that concept, telling the story of three dogs in his life and how they've shaped his perception of what it means to start a family and be a part of one.

Mar 13 2020

49mins

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Dear Sugars Presents: WorkLife With Adam Grant

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Dear Sugars wants to tell you about another great podcast:  WorkLife with Adam Grant from TED.

In the episode, Adam Grant speaks with Cheryl Strayed about getting and giving advice about our work lives. Season 3 launches next week, so get ready for ideas about how to procrastinate less, fight burnout, fix broken job interviews, and negotiate better.

Mar 06 2020

33mins

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Episodes We Love: Moving On, Part Two

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In this second part of our series on moving on, the Sugars discuss how we can release ourselves from our past mistakes. Dr. Harriet Lerner drops in to answer a letter from a woman who calls herself a "serial codependent," as well as a woman who is haunted by her abortion. This episode was originally published on August 25th, 2018.

Feb 28 2020

43mins

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Episodes We Love: Moving On, Part 1

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The Sugars have been thinking about what it means to say goodbye and let go. In this first episode of their two-part series on moving on, the Sugars and Claire Bidwell Smith answer two letters from people struggling to move past their grief after the death of their loved ones. This episode was originally released on August 18th, 2018.

Feb 21 2020

46mins

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Episodes We Love: A Night Of Bad Stories

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Dear Sugars returns to Portland, Oregon, for another raucous and uplifting live show. The Sugars get a surprising update from a letter writer from their past; discuss a new letter with a special guest, Omar El Akkad; and ask the audience, “What’s the ‘bad story’ you tell yourself?” “Bad Stories,” the title of Steve Almond’s new book, are the false narratives we tell ourselves that undermine our happiness. “You’ve got to revise those narratives,” encourages Cheryl Strayed. “You have the capacity for change and transformation.” This episode was originally published on April 12th, 2018.

Feb 14 2020

41mins

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Episodes We Love: The Long Goodbye

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After four years of ministering to the lost, lonely and heartsick, the Sugars say farewell on this final episode of the podcast. We take a look back at some of our most powerful advice, hear from former guests, and talk to listeners about how the show has affected their lives. This episode was originally released on September 1st, 2018.

Feb 07 2020

28mins

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iTunes Ratings

4808 Ratings
Average Ratings
3605
535
280
177
211

Don’t Gooooooooooooo

By Izzy0708 - Feb 24 2020
Read more
This podcast will be so missed!!! 😢

“Oh dear Sugar, won’t you please”...get a new theme song!!!

By audiobookie - Jan 15 2020
Read more
OMG I cannot stand one more minute of that “...send some sugar my way...”