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Religion & Spirituality
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Connecting you with people and resources to remind you that you aren't alone. An invitation to withness. . .

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Connecting you with people and resources to remind you that you aren't alone. An invitation to withness. . .

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The Podcast that got me hooked on podcasts

By kristinlouise80 - Nov 18 2019
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I always recommend this podcast to friends and describe it as “MOPs” in your ear buds. I have learned so much from Heather and her guests!

Encouraging!

By Miss_Elissa - Oct 17 2019
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Thank you for the encouraging conversations, Heather! So nice to hear from other Moms! ❤️

iTunes Ratings

1551 Ratings
Average Ratings
1465
42
17
8
19

The Podcast that got me hooked on podcasts

By kristinlouise80 - Nov 18 2019
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I always recommend this podcast to friends and describe it as “MOPs” in your ear buds. I have learned so much from Heather and her guests!

Encouraging!

By Miss_Elissa - Oct 17 2019
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Thank you for the encouraging conversations, Heather! So nice to hear from other Moms! ❤️

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Setting Healthy Boundaries with Family :: Dr. John Townsend [Ep. 250]

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As moms, we are like a life support system for our kids. To keep our families healthy, we need to be healthy. A key part of our overall well being is setting healthy boundaries.

But boundaries are hard. They require uncomfortable, direct conversations. We may need to put a limit on really good things or draw a line in the sand with our in-laws or parents.

My guest, Dr. John Townsend literally wrote the book on boundaries and he shares some deep wisdom on how to set healthy boundaries while honoring our family members and others.

You've got to take care of your energy, your heart and your emotions. You've got to take care of yourself and your health. If you don't guard that heart, then the wellsprings of life won't come out from it. Boundaries are basically about how to set healthy, loving limits in our life. So we have something to offer to our children.

Townsend answers your tough questions about set limits with in-laws, making healthy boundaries for the holidays and even models having a tough conversation with a parent about a boundary.

This is an episode packed with great information and Townsend has several books and resources available if you want to go deeper. Let’s make setting healthy boundaries a priority and guard our hearts and our time to bring life to our family!

What we chat about:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23Setting boundaries is guarding our wellspring of life so we can love our kidsHis book, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeIs setting boundaries biblical? YES!The difference between hurting and harming someone when it comes to setting boundariesHonoring vs obeying your parents as an adultWhat it looks like to have a boundary setting conversationConveying love in hard conversations and not getting hijacked with emotions or blameGiving three chances when you set new boundaries and how to have consequences when they aren’t respectedTurning to spiritual family when biological family isn’t what your kids needKeeping the lines of communication open with grandparents and communicating boundaries in love Looking for mild, moderate and severe reactions to suggestions and boundary settingSuggestions for setting healthy boundaries for the holidaysThe idea of people fuel and relational nutrients that help us fuel up

Connect with Dr. John Townsend:

Website: https://drtownsend.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/DrTownsendsPageInstagram: www.instagram.com/townsendnow

Links Mentioned:

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeRelational Nutrients: http://relationalnutrients.comPeople Fuel: Fill Your Tank for Life, Love and Leadership Pre-order now

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It doesn’t matter how much we want to pray more, making it actually happen is hard because it’s noisy out there. Even behind closed doors of our prayer closet, our mind can still keep us distracted. Maybe these are your goals for your prayer life too:

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Jun 03 2019

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Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234]

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Whether you’ve been married for a short time or you’re nearing a milestone anniversary, a healthy marriage takes a lot of work. A marriage is made up of thousands of small moments and habits that over time result in God-honoring, joyful marriage or a self-centered, strained marriage.
Speaker and author Paul David Tripp joins me to lay the groundwork for how to cultivate healthy habits in our marriage and identify the ones that need to be uprooted. He shares what he’s learned in almost 50 years of marriage and how to look at our marriages in light of the gospel.
What's a biblical view of marriage? Well, it's a sinner married to a sinner in a fallen world. Are you encouraged yet? But with a faithful God. Now that means we can't just coast in our marriage because there are things inside of me and things inside of my wife that are potentially destructive to marriage because we're not perfect people yet. And we live in a fallen world that is a threat to our marriage.
Paul also calls us to take a new view of our spouse’s differences and see how God created us for unity, not uniformity.
There is no call anywhere in the Bible to uniformity. The call is for unity. Unity is only ever needed in the face of difference... We have to stop making those differences a matter of right and wrong, If it's not named as sin by God, then it's just a difference and God actually glories in those differences because those differences point to his grandeur as a creator.
I hope you are encouraged and equipped from this conversation to re-engage with your spouse with fresh faith for experiencing all that God has for you in your marriage.

What we chat about:

Marriages are made up of thousands and thousands of little moments
The kind of relationship we have built in those moments determines how we handle the big moments
We naturally structure our marriages around habits
How to identify good and bad habits in your marriage
Sin makes us self-focused and anti-social, but marriage is a covenant of community
Helping our spouse access what God wants for them instead of arguing or nagging them
We will always be working on our marriages. There is no place for coasting
Confession and forgiveness can change the direction in disagreements
Jesus did not just bare our guilt. He bore our shame
God made us for unity, not for uniformity
A look at why we are so vastly different from our spouse
Even when we are formed into the image of Jesus, we will still be different from our spouse
Tips for showing gratitude in your marriage and fostering joy
The fruits of the Spirit are key for a good marriage
If you are struggling in marriage, engage with community and your church family. Isolation is the enemy of a healthy marriage

Connect with Paul David Tripp:
    
Links Mentioned:

Gospel Parenting Paul David Tripp [Ep 176]
Opportunity vs. Disruption Paul David Tripp [Ep 212]
My Favorite Paul David Tripp Devotional: New Morning Mercies (Great gift for a spouse)
Sinners Married to Sinners Cheryl Scruggs and Jae Carpenter Ep 195
I Do Again-- Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs

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Feb 11 2019

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The Enneagram & Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [Ep 232]

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You’ve definitely heard about it. You’ve probably talked about it with girlfriends or you’ve read books or articles discussing the nine types, but what is the Enneagram all about and what does it mean for your motherhood?

Suzanne Stabile joins us to share her motherhood story and a lot of information about the Enneagram, an ancient typology system that is finding new popularity as a tool that can transform the way you interact with others and understand yourself.
The Enneagram is about how you see and you can never change how you see. All you can do is change what you do with how you see. And I think we expect other women to be more like us than they are. And I think we struggle to accommodate difference because when we're tired, insecure, amd over-committed, then we settle for sameness. But, there needs to be recognition that there's not one right way to do things. There's not one method to follow. There's not one way of being a mom.
Suzanne is an internationally acknowledged Enneagram master. She has authored acclaimed books on the topic and has her own podcast that goes in-depth on the different types. But, as a believer and a mom of four adult children, she brings wisdom and perspective to parenting in light of the Enneagram.
Parenting is really, really tricky. I don't think we ever know what the loudest voice in (our kids’) day is. Often it's not ours. And I think grace is covering all of us and it falls on all of us equally. There are moments when we just need to stand under that grace and with an open heart and pure intentions and do the best we know how to do for ourselves and for one another.
We can’t possibly answer all of your Enneagram questions, but I hope this episode excites you for how this tool can bring unity and grace to relationships with your kids, with other moms and with your spouse. If you want to go deeper in learning about the Enneagram, Suzanne has you covered with her trainings and online resources available at her website.

What we chat about:

Suzanne’s family background and experience with divorce and living as a single parent of three. How she met her current husband of 31 years and her parenting journey.
Enneagram types as they relate to mothering
Type 3, 7 and 8 are aggressive numbers on the Enneagram. They think/do dominant and their challenge is to bring up feelings.
How to use the Enneagram to unite moms and not increase divides
The Enneagram is about how we see. We cannot change how we see, only what we do with what we see.
Types 4, 5 and 9 are withdrawing numbers
Types 1, 2 and 6 are dependent numbers
Discussion of the nine types and how they act/react
Your Enneagram number is determined by motivation and not by behavior
It’s not a good idea to try and type your children on the Enneagram or to tell them what you think they are.
Thinking of the Types as Animals: Ones are Worker Bees. Twos are Kangaroos. Threes are Eagles. Fours are Butterflies, Fives are Owls, Sixes are Bunny Rabbits. Sevens are Monkeys, Eights are Lions and Nines are Turtles.
The three stances: aggressive, dependent and withdrawing. The triads: feeling, thinking and doing.
Knowing more about the Enneagram won’t keep us from making mistakes
Grace covers the places we fall short

Connect with Suzanne:
    
Links Mentioned:

The Enneagram Journey Podcast https://www.theenneagramjourney.org/
Road Back to You [Book] get $14 off with the code: dma (expires Feb 28,2019)
The Path Between Us [Book] **
Courses and Products from Suzanne: https://www.lifeinthetrinityministry.com/store/
Know Your Number mp3 75% off with the code: DONTMOMALONE (expires Feb 28, 2019)
Episode with Jenn Jett: https://dontmomalone.com/2018/02/12/how-god-personally-pursues-redeems-jenn-jett-ep-193/
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth** by Christopher Heuertz

How Each Enneagram Type Reflects God's Character :

Jan 28 2019

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Preparing Now for Future Puberty & Masturbation Questions :: Megan Michelson & Mary Flo Ridley [Ep 243]

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Depending on your personal background with puberty, sex and the often avoided topic of masturbation, having open conversations with your kids on these topics may feel daunting.

You may want to avoid it or get “the talk” over and done with as quickly as possible. Or maybe your kids are really young and you don’t want to think about it right now. My guests Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson walk us through why starting early talking with our kids about body awareness and establishing our family story about sex is so important.

What we're trying to get rid of is this idea that this is a one-time conversation in parenting. The world that we are raising our kids in has changed so drastically that the way we as parents talk about sex has to change drastically as well. We can have multiple age appropriate conversations and a little-by-little approach where we establish a conversation pattern where we are the loving authority in our child's life on this topic.

They have great book recommendations and advice on talking with your pediatrician so you know when puberty is imminent for each child. We cover ways to pursue conversations with your kids and how to talk to them calmly without overreacting.

Finally, we dive into the deeper waters of talking to your older children about masturbation, dealing with our emotional baggage when it comes to sex and how to strike the difficult balance of teaching what is normal and beneficial.

We're hearing from a lot of youth ministers and pastors that work with college kids that this is an epidemic of a great addiction. So there needs to be more of a warning of how this is normal, but not beneficial. That why it's such a difficult topic. You can say, yes, honey, this is absolutely normal. You're learning about your body and how it works, but it can become a habit of comfort. And if this is where you go when you're upset or when you're angry, if this is how you comfort yourself, then this is not beneficial to you in your future.

What we chat about :

Introducing Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from birds-bees.comWhy we need to have consistent, intentional talks with our kids when they are young to lay the foundation for them to learn about sex and their bodies from us as parentsStarting with our young kids will make the conversations leading up and into puberty less awkwardGiving your child space to read an age-appropriate book on puberty and changes and chatting with them about itBooks and resources the Mary and Megan recommend so you can have a game plan to stay ahead of where your kids is developmentallyTalking with your pediatrician about puberty and where your child is in the processPursuing these conversations even if your child wants to avoid themUsing a matter-of-fact, calm tone when we talk about touching their bodies and not overreacting Addressing masturbation. Normalize the behavior, but talk about how it isn’t beneficial for it to be a habit or a comfort measureThese hard topics of puberty aren’t just one-time conversations, we want to keep an open dialogue and focus on relationship over rulesMasturbation can train you in selfish and false intimacy which will affect your future relationshipsBringing these topics to the light takes away the guilt and shame

Previous Episodes with Birds and Bees:

Birds and Bees? Oh, help me please :: Mary Flo Ridley {GCM Ep 25}When to Have “The Talk” :: Mary Flo Ridley {Encore}Birds and Bees (Continuing the Conversation) :: Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson [Ep 153]

Connect with Birds and Bees:

Website: https://birds-bees.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeshelpplease/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birds__bees/

Links Mentioned:

Birds and Bees Shop: https://birds-bees.com/ BOOK: The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls BOOK: The Boys Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing Up YOU!BOOK: God's Design for Sex Series**BOOK: Wild Things: The Art of Nurtur...

Apr 15 2019

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Idols of Motherhood :: Elyse Fitzpatrick [Ep 219]

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We’ve all been there. Your kid throws a fit in public and you feel the sting of embarrassment and the subtle lie that you aren’t a good enough mom. You fear what others will say and feel like the entire day is ruined in this one encounter.

My guest Elyse Fitzpatrick has lived in this place of fear and presents another way to view your worth as a mother -- resting in the righteousness of Jesus. She shares about the very common and subversive idols of motherhood to slip in when we try to control our children’s performance.
But see that's absolutely soul destroying because you either end up in fear and despair or pride and despair. That's where you always end up when you're living for your own righteousness. So in the days that I can lay down and in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah nailed it,’ then I am in pride.
If you’ve struggled to feel “OK” in your own power or have found your personal joy tethered to your kids’ behavior, this episode is for you. Elyse gives us the simple reminder that we have the power through Jesus to topple the idols in our life.
I began to understand this is really idolatry and I'm driving my kids insane trying to prove that I'm really an OK person. That I'm OK when they're good and I'm a complete train wreck and bad and a loser when they're not. But, when Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, then idols lose their power to entice us.
What we chat about:

Elyse’s blended family structure and her son’s adoption
The balance of the disciplinarian and the more fun parent
Insecurity about our own faith and the lie of trying to control our kids
The danger of looking for identity in the way our kids behave
Looking for the places in our lives where we feel afraid, angry or worried as a barometer for where we aren’t believing God
Identifying idols in our lives and what they can look like
How our children make us look or feel in front of others can bring up anger in us
Elyse’s relationship with her mother and the background of her perceived need for control
When Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, our idols lose their power
Not letting our joy be tethered to our kids’ behavior, or even our behavior
Our self-centered struggle to feel “OK” in our own power
How living for our own self righteousness leads to a soul destroying cycle of pride and despair
Resting in the righteousness of Christ and remembering we are forgiven

Connect with Elyse:
 
Links Mentioned:

Front Porch with the Fitzes Podcast
Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick **
The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers**
No Other Gods Bible Study Book by Kelly Minter**

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Not Alone Community
Are you looking for more support in your motherhood? We have good news! You can become a member of the Not Alone Community and connect with people and resources to help you feel less alone.
As a member you get:

Special access to Heather doing video interviews (archived and live)
Curated content on each month's topic (in October--'Not Alone in Overwhelm')

past podcast episodes
articles written by Heather
book list
Downloadable #CenteringTruth printable
Community groups to chat with other moms looking for encouragement

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girlmoms
single moms
moms of children with special needs
a group to post the funny moments from our days
Idols of the Heart with Elyse Fitzpatrick
Do you feel trapped under the weight of your own sin? Are you dismayed or surprised by the situations that bring out your fear, anger, or distress? In this year's Vertical Women Conference, trusted Bible teacher and counselor Elyse Fitzpatrick delves into the heart of the problem: deep down, we're all putting our loves, desires, and expectations in God's place — and we continue to suffer the consequences of our mispl...

Oct 01 2018

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How to be Calm and Kind Under Pressure :: Candace Cameron Bure [Ep 223]

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Candace Cameron Bure is an actress, producer, New York Times bestselling author, beloved by millions worldwide from her role as D.J. Tanner on the iconic family sitcoms Full House and Fuller House and of course Hallmark Channel movies. (Christmas is coming and she has a new one coming out Nov. 25)
But, she’s also a mom of three children ages 16 to 20 and an outspoken Christian in the entertainment industry. She shares what it was like to grow up working in entertainment and the values her parents passed on to her. And about how she walks out her faith now as a busy working actress, a career she returned to after choosing to be a stay-at-home mom for 10 years.
Now sometimes I literally have to roll out of my bed and onto my knees every morning and start my day. I don't feel connected if I don't do that. But throughout my day I'm constantly having conversations with God. It might just be under my breath asking Jesus to help me because I want to snap at that person right now or I'm going to lose it with my son who just talked back to me. It's a constant dialogue and I trust that he hears me.
We talk about her new children’s book “Candace Center Stage” and how it focuses on the values of hard work and courage, especially for our strong-willed children.
It’s very reflective of my own life growing up and the lessons that I've really tried to instill in my own children. Like don't be afraid to fail just because you'll never know what you're capable of unless you try. And don't be afraid to work hard at it. If you quit too early you may not realize how good you can be and if you're not, that’s OK. You can pick something else, but you’ve got to try.
As she takes us into her world, she talks through how she stays calm and kind under pressure and lives for Jesus as she juggles the roles and the callings God has put on her life.
I want to be that influencer for positivity and kindness and showing my love for Jesus. And I would love for people to know Jesus because of me because I've shared a good word.
What we chat about:

Candace’s strong foundation from her own parents
Fostering a good work ethic in your kids without pressuring to perform for your love and approval
Candace’s family and what her older children are up to
How she and her husband share the responsibilities of raising their children
Maintaining balance with changing priorities and calls on your time
Learning to say “No” without feeling bad about it
It’s really more about juggling priorities and trusting that God partners with us as we make decisions
Candace’s walk with the Lord and how she lives out her faith in San Francisco
Praying throughout the day and how Candace talks with God through all she does
How to work with people who have anti-Christian sentiments and responding with kindness
What it was like growing up in the entertainment industry
Her new children’s book Candace Center Stage and the background on why she wrote it
Preparing for the teenage years now and looking forward to them

Connect with Candace:
    
Links Mentioned:

Candace Center Stage**
**Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast.
Not Alone Community
Are you looking for more support in your motherhood? We have good news! You can become a member of the Not Alone Community and connect with people and resources to help you feel less alone.
As a member you get:

Once a month, special access to group chat with Heather via live video
Curated content on each month's topic (in November--'Not Alone in Shame)

past podcast episodes
articles written by Heather
book list
Downloadable #CenteringTruth printable
Community groups to chat with other moms looking for encouragement

boymoms
girlmoms
single moms
moms of children with special needs
a group to post the funny moments from our days
Idols of the Heart with Elyse Fitzpatrick

Oct 29 2018

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Become Fully Alive–Mind, Body, & Spirit :: Susie Larson [Ep 218]

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It's all too easy slip into believing lies over God’s truth. My guest today shares that healing is possible and opens up about her personal healing journey from both physical and emotional abuse and chronic illness.

An author, radio host, and national speaker, Susie Larson, talks about how intertwined our emotional, spiritual, and physical health are. We talk through stories that are in her new book, "Fully Alive", and she shares about some powerful experiences she’s had with the Lord.
“The Lord whispered through the chaos in my bathroom. The storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need. The enemy's railing and saying I'm going to get you. I've got you by the throat and I felt like my throat was starting I could swallow and my esophagus was spasming. It's just horrifying to hear the whisper again. Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth who need.”

There’s so much hope and truth in this episode for all of us who are believing for healing this side of heaven. For more inspiration from Susie, I highly recommend her book, "Fully Alive"**, which is available for pre-order right now.
What we chat about:

Susie’s experiences with abuse both physical and emotional
How our bodies hold onto trauma and hindrances to the healing process
Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need
The idea of blessing guilt and surrendering to God for healing
The lie of learned helplessness and the truth that we’re not helpless with Jesus
Rejecting the lies of the enemy and addressing unbeliefs in our soul
Confronting the scar tissue of our past and the life that’s on the other side of it
God absolutely heals and it isn’t specifically a lack of faith that keeps us from receiving healing
Jesus entered in to other’s pain and suffering, that’s our calling too
The dangers of over medication and distraction that can keep us from being healed
The integral role of rest in the healing process

Links Mentioned:

The Uncommon Woman
Fully Alive: Learning to Flourish--Mind, Body, & Spirit**
Your Powerful Prayers**

**Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast.
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Sep 24 2018

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Adventures of a Boy Mom :: Monica Swanson [Ep 254]

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Fellow boy moms, this episode is for you! This chat with Monica Swanson another mom of four boys and author of the new book Boy Mom dives into a lot of your questions about how to raise your boys to be godly men. 

We talk about encouraging strong friendships between brothers, teaching boys to be strong AND gentle, and about the importance of giving our sons ways to experience excitement and adventure while getting some of their natural aggression out in safe physical activities.

I am a big believer that boys were made for adventure that they need to have some excitement in their lives I think is just how God wired them. They're little warriors who need to experience some thrills. A lot of the trouble boys can get into is related to when they're lacking authentic adventure, when they're not facing challenges and overcoming obstacles.

Monica has two boys out of high school and two still in the nest, so she offers a lot of hope for those of us in the trenches of parenting to keep pressing into relationship with our sons and to make the practicals of faith an anchor in all that we do. 

God is so big and so powerful and he can move mountains on behalf of your son. He wants your son's heart more than you even know. We get our boys plugged in everywhere we can. We want them to have so many positive spiritual models in their life that there's no denying that God is the best way to go. It about coming alongside them and saying, ‘This is for your best. God is for you. Let's walk this life with him.’

What we chat about:

Monica’s four boys and working with very different personalities Building healthy brother relationships and dealing with kids who hitBoys need to let out their energy with exercise and physical activitySetting healthy boundaries for your kids with manners and learning to laugh with them about it tooTeaching boys how to balance strength and kindness by pointing them to the stories of godly menThe power of shoulder to shoulder conversations with boys and why to keep pressing into conversation with themMotivating boys to get excited about school and finding hobbies and interestsIdeas for how to foster adventure for your boys and learning not to parent from a place of fearFostering faith in your sons through time in the Word, prayer and modeling

Connect with Monica: 

Website: monicaswanson.comPodcast: monicaswanson.com/podcastFacebook: facebook.com/TheGrommomInstagram: @monicaswanson_Twitter: @thegrommom

Links Mentioned:  

Boy Mom: What Your Son Needs Most from You [BOOK]What Your Kids, Marriage and Ministry Need :: Monica Swanson [Ep 82] PODCASTStrong: How God Equipped 11 Ordinary Men with Extraordinary Power [BOOK]Knights in Training: Ten Principles for Raising Honorable, Courageous, and Compassionate Boy **[BOOK]20 Ways to Make Your Son Feel Loved [PRINTABLE]

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Along with me and people like Kirk Cameron, Dr. Kathy Koch, Andy Crouch, and Chris McKenna plus more will bring relevant information concerning Gen Z and their technology. We will share the "How To" on starting conversations about the role technology has in your home and child’s life.

Aug 26 2019

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Calming Angry Kids :: Tricia Goyer [Ep 220]

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Tricia Goyer is an author, speaker and homeschooling mom of ten. She also knows what it's like to parent children with chronic anger. If you've ever felt alone in how to calm your "angry kid(s)," Tricia has a lot of wisdom to share from parenting both biological and adopted children.
In true Don't Mom Alone fashion, Tricia and I answer several listener questions about how to respond in love and help kids of all ages process their anger and emotions. We talk about how much harder it is for the current generation of moms who have to factor in busier schedules, social media and more as a part of their children's environments
My oldest is 29 and my youngest is 8. It is so much harder now. I feel like I'm on the second generation of kids. Now there is social media. There is more television. There are more video games. The access that they have to all these things brings so much anxiety and tension. Not only do they have to go to school, but then they would come home and see on social media that people were talking about them. It's just so much more involved now even than it was when I had my first generation of kids.
But it's not impossible! Tricia shares so many great practical tips and suggestions for how to help our kids (and ourselves) work through anger in a healthy way. But beyond all the tips, it all comes down to leaning into God and praying for the Holy Spirit to fill them that will make the biggest difference.
It's really the Holy Spirit in them and the fruit of the Spirit is God in them that's going to change them. I could try all these activities. You know, we could do calming bags or coping skills. I mean we do all the things too. But really it is God in them. And the more they lean on God and the more they depend on him that they'll truly change.
What we chat about:

Tricia's family, career and unique calling as an adoptive parent
Her new book, Calming Angry Kids
Determining if your child is struggling with how to process anger in a healthy way
Giving our kids time, attention and praise is a powerful antidote to anger
Everyone gets mad, what we do with the anger makes the difference
When they are in the middle of the emotions, it's not the time to discipline them
Kids learn to apologize when we model it for them
Anger is often a secondary emotion from a deeper wounding like shame or feeling unloved or anxiety
Family schedules are busier than ever before and it heightens anxiety in kids and parents
Take time to process emotions with your kids and say "No" to more activities or events if they need a break
Tricia shares both how we can process our own anger and how to help our angry kids
The idea of an anger log to help track anger over time
Calming bags and items you can include in them
Give your kids time and space to calm down
Specific tips for pre-teens and teens and helping them with anger and hormones

Connect with Tricia:
    
Links Mentioned:

Calming Angry Kids: Help and Hope for Parents in the Whirlwind **
Prayer Journals

Big Kids **
Little Kids **
An Interview with Tricia Goyer {GCM Podcast Ep. 7}
How to Discern God's Will Stick With It :: Tricia Goyer [Ep 179]

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Oct 08 2018

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The Enneagram, Marriage and the Gospel :: Beth McCord [Ep 259]

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It’s a popular (and sometimes controversial) typology system that can help you understand yourself and others better, but how can we use the Enneagram in light of the gospel to help our marriages thrive? 
Beth McCord of Your Enneagram Coach is here to walk us how to look at our marriages and close relationships through the lens of the Enneagram and the Gospel. 
With the Enneagram, you can see that we all struggle. We all need Jesus. It's just we need it in different ways. And he makes us more like him in different ways as well. It's called the body of Christ and we reflect Christ differently. We all need to bring our uniqueness to glorify him and bless each other.
We talk about how using the Enneagram can improve communication and compassion in our marriages and what to do if your spouse has no interest in learning his type. (hint: the answer isn’t to bug him about it) 
Beth shares that no one pairing out of the 45 possible Enneagram matches in marriage is better than any other, but it’s our surrender to Christ that makes all the difference. 
I can guarantee you there is not a combination that is better or worse. Any two types that are surrendering and depending on the grace of God through Christ’s work on the cross on our behalf will be a blessing to one another.
What we chat about:
The origins of the Enneagram as a personality tool and why it matters how we use itLearning where we need to depend on Christ more as you understand more about your Enneagram typeUsing the Enneagram to help relate better in your marriageWhat to do when your spouse is resistant to learning about the Enneagram Learning about all nine types can help you have more compassion for your close relationshipsEmbracing the unique ways Christ made each person can help put an end to comparisonThe resources Beth has for using the Enneagram within marriage
Connect with Beth:
Website:  www.yourenneagramcoach.comFacebook:  facebook.com/YourEnneagramCoach Instagram:  @yourenneagramcoach 
Links Mentioned:
Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage [BOOK]**Ep. 232: The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [PODCAST]Enneagram Type Summaries from Your Enneagram Coach [WEBSITE]FREE Marriage Assessment from Beth [WEBSITE]Becoming Us Marriage Course [WEBSITE]
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Sep 30 2019

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Raising Worry-Free Girls :: Sissy Goff [Bonus]

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For a variety of reasons, childhood anxiety rates are soaring, especially among girls. My guest Sissy Goff is here to share some of her insights on how to recognize worry and anxiety in your daughter and empower her to overcome.
We talk about tools we can use to help us understand why our brains are often working against us in times of anxiety and grounding techniques to slow and stop the emotional spiral that often ensues. 
We always want her to know she's stronger than her worries and that she has a voice to talk back to the worry. A lot of people who work with kids call it the worry monster because that separates it out from her voice. We don't want her to think it's the truth, which is what kids are going to think when they have voices in their heads telling them things.
This is a short, hope-filled bonus episode that just scratches the surface on all that we can learn about equipping our kids to work through anxiety. For more encouragement, follow Sissy and her team at https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com and watch for her book Raising Worry-Free Girls coming out September 17. 
What we chat about:
1 in 4 kids are dealing with anxiety of some kind and girls are twice as likely to feel itAnxiety is hard to recognize in kids. Sometimes it comes out as anger or meltdowns and other times it’s deeply buriedPeople whose personalities lean toward Type A tend to have baseline anxiety at all times. If your child’s personality leans that direction, it’s important to give them tools to deal with itAnxiety is always an overestimation of the problem and an underestimation of ourselvesTechniques to help a child with anxiety calm down and redirect blood flow to their prefrontal cortexIntegrating our faith as we teach our kids to fight back against fear and worry
Connect with Sissy: 
Website: raisingboysandgirls.comPodcast: raisingboysandgirls.com/listen Facebook: facebook.com/raisingboysandgirls Instagram: @raisingboysandgirls
Links Mentioned:  
Raising Worry-Free Girls [BOOK] Releases September 17, 2019[Ep 160] Emotional Milestones:: Sissy Goff and David Thomas [PODCAST][Ep 141] Raising Girls:: Sissy Goff [PODCAST]
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Aug 30 2019

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The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260]

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As parents, we are keenly aware of the peaks and valleys of our kids’ emotions. Anger, sadness, excitement, and all the other feelings can make us feel like our child is on a roller coaster we’re just trying to slow down. 
It’s true that we all feel highs and lows throughout our day, but we rarely talk about what it feel like when we’re “in the zone” and feeling calm and ready to go. My guest today is sharing about the window of tolerance and how to regulate ourselves and our kids to help stay in that window. 
If I am dysregulated, I cannot regulate my child. So if I'm in fight or flight and I'm yelling. There's no amount of yelling that brings my child back into the window. And sometimes parents think the yelling is working, but what you're doing isn’t getting your child in the window. They're going into collapse and into a place of fear.
Charissa Fry is a Licensed Professional Counselor and believer. Her passion is to come alongside those who are hurting and struggling to help them find truth, hope, healing, connection, and growth. She shares some eye-opening information and statistics to get us on the path to helping our kids build resilience and stay in that window of tolerance. 
Charissa shares from a faith-perspective that we as believers are not alone. She reminds us that we can lean on God to regulate our emotions as we love on our kids and go through the hardships of life. 
God himself through Jesus is the ultimate attachment figure. He is always reaching for us. He never fails to respond to our needs. He always loves us. He's never judging us and never shaming us. So to know that when we need to be co-regulated, that when I am feeling like I'm going to leave the window, I can remember the truth of who God is and I can reach out to him in prayer.
What we chat about:
The window of tolerance is when our brains function well and effectively process input to make rational decisions calmly without feeling either overwhelmed or withdrawnWhen we’re out of the window of tolerance, our thinking brain is not in control and we don’t register consequences Many of us don’t live in the window of tolerance, but we’re too busy and stressed to stop and assess how we’re feeling at any given momentHyper-arousal, otherwise known as the fight/flight response, is often characterized by hypervigilance, feelings of anxiety and/or panic, and racing thoughts.Hypo-arousal, or a freeze response, may cause feelings of emotional numbness, emptiness, or paralysis.Learning how to stay in your window of tolerance builds resilience, both for us and our kidsWhen our kids live outside the window, they become “masters of survival” and often turn to negative coping strategiesWhat our children's emotions look like when we are co-regulating Philippians 2:13 “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” We can lean on God to bring us to that window of tolerance and into the fruits of the spirit
Connect with Charissa:
Website:  charissafry.comFacebook: facebook.com/CharissaFryCounseling
Links Mentioned:  
Window of Tolerance Infographic -- FREE resource [WEBSITE] Regulation Pack -- FREE resource [WEBSITE]Rosie’s Brain [BOOK]
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Oct 07 2019

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Discipline 101 (LIVE Event–Friday Night) :: Jim & Lynne Jackson [Ep 221]

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For the first part of our 2018 Don’t Mom Alone live event, Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, joined me & my husband Bruce to answer listener questions about discipline and how to use their framework for biblically-based parenting.
We share lots of stories of how we have failed as parents and learned along the way.
But then I started to realize maybe my humility was my greatest currency for influence to help her learn the lessons and the values and the things that mattered most… Our kids need to know we're not perfect. They need to know that we'll come back to them and say, ‘Hey I blew it. I'm sorry. Would you forgive me?’ And get back to reconciliation in those relationships. -- Jim Jackson.
So good!

Jim and Lynne talk us through the parenting framework they’ve developed and redefining how we view discipline with our kids. Ultimately, it comes down to connecting with their hearts and leading them to Jesus instead of trying to control their behavior.
We can help kids embrace the wisdom of the righteous. And that really prepares the way for the Lord to come in our family in a strong way. Because in today's day and age with all the craziness that's going on, these kids need a form of discipline that's not just about punitive correction but that's about a whole way of life that teaches our kids how to be followers of Jesus. -- Lynne Jackson
And it’s not just vision for how we want to parent, the Jacksons also share some super practical tips and give us some ways to respond to our defiant, strong-willed or sensitive kids.
What we chat about:

The basis for Jim and Lynn’s parenting framework
How do you parent proactively instead of reactively when you feel like you're just surviving minute
What is our goal in parenting? Is it immediate obedience from our children or fostering their ability to make wise choices?
Bringing God’s grace into our messy moments
Why connecting with God is so essential to how we parent
Go into a situation asking, “Lord, what is the opportunity here?”
Helping our kids build wisdom instead of feeling the need to express our disappointment when they mess up
Trusting that our kids really want to do better
Separating behavior from identity in our kids
Humility and apologizing well may be our greatest currency as a parent
The idea of a parent do-over
Tips for parents of younger kids and encouragement for parenting kids who bite or hit
We tend to think of behavior as either all good or all bad
When our goal is to control their behavior, it doesn’t build trust
You don’t have to be mean to be strong as a parent
Big, loud, and loving energy can make a big difference in the middle of conflict
Luke 1:17- "And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.”
Strong-willed kids and the importance of calling out their giftings and how God made them
Sometimes it’s sensitive and intense children are labeled as strong-willed
Psalm 73:21-24 "When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory."

Connect with Jim & Lynne Jackson:
    
Links Mentioned:

Previous Episodes with Jim & Lynne -- Ep 80 , Ep 81, Ep 98, Ep 200, Bonus Sibling Conflict
Connected Families Blog Post -- It's Not Defiance, It's Science 
Connected Families Blog post- Danger, Obedience, and Teaching Kids Traffic Safety

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Oct 15 2018

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Become What You Behold :: Ruth Chou Simons [Ep 255]

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My guest today is Ruth Chou Simons. She’s a mom of six boys and an author and entrepreneur. You may know her best from the beautiful watercolor prints and products she creates for her business on Gracelaced.com

In her newest book, Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship**, Ruth shares about how every day is an opportunity to be shaped and formed by what moves our hearts and captures our gaze. 

We dive into what that looks like in Ruth’s life and how choosing to focus on Christ changes everything from our perspective on our parenting and work to how we look at others. 

The most unhappy I get is if I get preoccupied with somebody else's story. And I don't give thanks and I don't jot down reminders of how he's provided for the ultimate story of redemption in my life. And also how he's working that out day by day and writing my story anew.

We talk about how our fast-paced, hustle culture steals the joy and the beauty away from the everyday faithfulness of growing in God. My favorite reminder she shared is, “You don’t have to be blooming to be growing.”

So true. How often do we start something and expect instant gratification and quick wins? We want easy-to-share glossy images of success. But God looks at our hearts. At the slow growing happening under the surface. We are all in process with God until we see him in heaven. 

Let’s celebrate the small wins and focus on turning our eyes toward God and away from the distractions and hollow gratification of social media. As Ruth reminds us, we become what we behold. Those small, unseen decisions really add up to who we are. 

Because at the end of the day, every action we have is really stemming out of our belief in our worship. And so how you think, and how you believe, and what you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do next. What your little moments every day are accumulating to be for a lifetime.

What we chat about:

Focusing on the beauty of what God has created vs comparing our lives to someone else’s on social mediaAt the root of dissatisfaction in our lives is an underlying struggle with identity. Is our identity found in Christ or is it found in everything going our way?Growing our appetite for the things of God by choosing to fill our time with his Word.The struggles women have with wanting to do something perfectly or not at all Celebrating the process of growing vs seeing immediate fruit in our livesWhat you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do nextThe goal isn’t just to experience God’s provision, but to trust that his presence in our lives is enough“Nearness to God brings likeness to God. The more you see God, the more of God will be seen in you.” - C.H Spurgeon

Connect with Ruth: 

Website: gracelaced.comFacebook: facebook.com/gracelacedInstagram: @ruthchousimons and @gracelaced

Links Mentioned:  

GCM Ep 23: Beauty creator. Unity builder. Mom. –Ruth Simons [PODCAST]Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship [BOOK] Releases September 1012 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You [BOOK]

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Sep 02 2019

37mins

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Must Have Conversations :: Vicki Courtney [Ep 239]

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Our kids are growing up in a culture that is less friendly to the Christian faith than ever before. As moms we have a choice to parent from fear or to bravely engage with our kids and make time and space to have hard conversations.

My guest Vicki Courtney walks us through why it’s worth it to help our kids wrestle with their questions about faith, culture and learning to trust God. She shares about her experience raising three kids of her own as a newer believer and the power of parenting with humility and love.

We are going to have to learn as parents to have conversations in such a way that we teach our children to walk in truth, but we need to lead with love. In past generations as parents, we could teach our children, 'Well, here's the truth. And the Bible says this, so you need to live this way.' And a lot of times we forgot about the love part.

While we may tend to look at culture and our children’s generation and feel hopeless, Vicki reminds us that Jesus is the hope the world is looking for and keeping an open, loving line of communication with our kids can make all the difference in how they own their faith.

Now nothing is different about this generation in the sense that they are chasing after something to feel the void. We all have that void, right? We all have chased after things along the way and that nothing will fill that void other than the love of Christ and his Gospel. And so for our children, they are going to feel an awareness of that void sooner. But the hope is we have the answer and the hope is I feel like we are ripe for massive revival out there.

For more on the Must Have Conversations to have with your kids, check out Vicki’s books.

What we chat about:

How Vicki came to know Jesus and God's direction to her ministry Her books 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your SonThe culture our kids are growing up in isn’t friendly to the Christian faithAs we have conversations with them about God’s truth, we need to lead with loveMaking room for these important conversations by giving your family margin Avoiding triggers that make you as mom feel like you aren’t doing enoughIt’s ok if your kid doesn’t do all the activities like sports and musicIf it’s God’s plan for your child to be gifted in an area, it will happen for them regardless of our actionsLetting our kids have room to fail and learn from failureParenting from an place of humility and not shaming or finger waggingStaying open to our kids and helping them feel comfortable sharing anything with youThe different mentalities of the prodigal son and the older brother from the parable of the Prodigal Son in the Bible and how both see God’s grace from the wrong perspectiveViewing God’s grace rightly and understanding the fear of God helps us lead with loveHow to help your kids wrestle with the idea of “hipster Jesus” and losing the idea that God should be feared/awed

Connect with Vicki:

Website https://vickicourtney.comFacebook https://www.facebook.com/vjcourtneyInstagram https://www.instagram.com/vickicourtney  Twitter https://twitter.com/vicki_courtney

Links Mentioned:

BOOKS: 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your SonEpisodes with Mary Flo Ridley covering when to talk to your kids about sex BOOK: The Prodigal God: Recovering the Heart of the Christian Faith by Timothy Keller Revolutionary Parentingby George Barna

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Mar 18 2019

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Thriving as an Introverted Mom :: Erin Morgan [Ep 245]

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I’m so excited to share my dear friend Erin Morgan with you in this episode! We go way back in friendship and in motherhood.
She is the introvert to my extrovert and in this chat we’re diving into how to thrive as an introverted mom. When she and I had younger kids, the constant togetherness of parenting was very draining for her.
I was just completely overwhelmed, which causes me to withdraw and isolate big time. I just had no energy for other people. I wanted to pursue my friends and my relationships with other people, but there was just no margin for that in my mind.
We talk about how she learned more about herself as she learned about the gift that introversion can be. As she asked God where she should invest her life, he encouraged her that focusing on motherhood and a few deep friendships was his best for her.
I had to get with the Lord and be reminded that what I'm doing in this season of life with my children and my family is a true ministry and is where God has me. And I really felt like he was impressing on me this kind of motto for my life, which is that a small and faithful life is pleasing to the Lord.
I’m so thankful for Erin and her introvert “super powers” of listening and passionate, faithful prayers. She is a thoughtful friend who has a lot of wisdom and encouragement for other introverted moms out there. Extroverts can learn a lot about their introverted friends by hearing what she shares too!
What we chat about:
Some background on Erin’s and my friendshipHow Erin introduced me to Kat Lee of Hello MorningsWhat Erin learned about being an introvert after she started having kidsThe validation she feels knowing who God made her to beWhere introverts fit into the modern Evangelical churchHearing God for what you are called to and not focusing on what others are doing“A heart at peace gives life to the body” Proverbs 14:30 Introverts can isolate themselves too much and miss out on investing deeply in friendshipBeing present in someone’s life to listen to and empathize with them is a super powerIntroverts and extroverts process information differently and a different speedsGod’s design for the different types of personalities is good
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BOOK: Introverts in the Church** Podcast Episodes with Francie WinslowFamily Camp Erin and I attend: Pine Cove Family Camp
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Apr 29 2019

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Women Can Be All-In for Jesus :: Kat Armstrong [Ep 253]

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Kat Armstrong, the guest from one of my most popular episodes is back on the podcast to share the message of her new book, No More Holding Back. The first question we talk about is, “Can a woman learn too much about Jesus?” A light topic, right?

The greatest commandment says we have to love God with our heart, soul, mind and strength — all of it. And it's the priority. It's the priority over anyone's role in our home. We have to be all-in for Jesus. We can't let our fears, our insecurities, our roles, our titles, or anything to do with our spouses impede our progress to learn about Jesus.

Kat shares powerfully about our role as an image bearer of God, the importance of elevating women’s voices in our communities of faith and living completely into the assignments God gives us.

We also talk about giving what we have to offer even if feels imperfect or broken in the same way that the widow in Mark 12 gave out of her need.

If you have a broken heart, it counts. I have a broken heart right now about my dad. I still want to love God with it all and I don't have to have it all together or healed yet to apply it to the Great Commission. And if you have a weary soul and you're questioning your faith, you can give that to God and he counts it as worthy. If you have a confused mind. If you're struggling with anxiety, depression, decision making, and things don't make sense in your world, you can give that to God.

What we chat about:

Kat walking through the grief of losing her dad and how her family dynamic has changedThe refining process of book writing and about her new book, No More Holding Back.The false idea that a woman can learn too much about JesusMen and women are not in competition when it comes to serving GodLiving completely into our calling or our assignment and what God's given us to doFully embracing the way God made us and how we can purposely live into our callingsWomen can be strong and submissive at the same time because Jesus was tooThe story of the widow’s mite in Mark 12 reminds us that what we have to offer Jesus is enough even if it’s a broken heartJesus runs his economy on love. When we give, even out of our need, it’s more than enough through JesusBarriers Christian women face and how to deal with competing assignmentsInviting family and friends to be on your team when God assigns you something new and hearing God for the timing of an assignmentAsk: Who are my neighbors? Am I loving them well? How can I be equipped to love them better?

Connect with Kat:

Website: https://www.katarmstrong.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/katarmstrongauthorTwitter: @katarmstrong1Polished Ministries: https://www.polishedonline.org

Links Mentioned:

Previous episode with Kat Armstrong: Motherhood, Career, and Identity [Ep 171] BOOK: No More Holding Back by Kat Armstrong**

BOOK: Wonder Women: Navigating the Challenges of Motherhood, Career, and Identity by Kate HarrisBOOK: Are Women Human? By Dorothy Sayers

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Jun 24 2019

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Porn-Proofing Our Kids :: Kristen Jenson [Ep 256]

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Access to the internet is everywhere in our modern world. And that means access to pornography and sexual imagery is everywhere too. Rather than bury our heads in the sand or cross our fingers that our kids won’t see porn, we can choose to be proactive and to give them a plan for how to react. 

Kristen Jenson, the best-selling author of "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures", joins me to share some simple ways to talk with our kids about porn and protect their minds. 

Pornography makes a child more vulnerable to sexual abuse. So if you porn-proof your child by starting these conversations early, you are actually helping your child to be more protected from child sexual abuse. When you start these discussions it's not as hard as you think. And once you do, you've begun this journey with your child to trust you for answers. You tell them, ‘Don't go on Google to ask these questions. Come and talk to me.’

This may feel like a super heavy topic, but I promise it’s worth taking the proactive approach now vs waiting till you have teenagers. Kristen shares a lot of resources and makes it easy to get started. 

What we chat about:

What led her to write Good Pictures Bad Pictures, a book that helps porn-proof young kids, and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.How pornography is a public health crisis and the negative effects it has on children and adultsTaking the proactive parenting approach helps kids be more resilient when they see pornWhen a child has any exposure or access to the internet you need to warn them about the dangers of the internet in simple, age-appropriate waysThese conversations are the same as talking to your kids about why we don’t eat or drink poisonous chemicals-- it’s all about safety. Helping kids learn about their “thinking brain” and their “feeling brain” and how to use them appropriatelyTeaching your kids a simple plan for how to respond when they see pornCAN DO: Close your eyes, Always tell a trusted adult, Name it when you see it, Distract yourself, Order my thinking brain to be the boss.

Connect with Kristen:

Website: protectyoungminds.orgFacebook: facebook.com/ProtectYM Instagram: @protectyoungminds 

Links Mentioned:  

Episodes with Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from Birds and Bees [PODCAST]Birds and Bees Curriculum [RESOURCE]Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids [BOOK]Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds [BOOK]Resources and a Quick-Start Guide for Proactive Parents [WEBSITE]

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Sep 09 2019

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Cultivating Friendships in a World of Isolation :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 233]

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Even though it seems like you are never alone, motherhood can feel like a place of deep isolation. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. My guest Sally Clarkson shares her insight on how she learned to invite others into friendship and into her home to build a community of girlfriends in the midst of multiple moves and parenting four kids.
I think finding really true, deep, godly friendships is hard. But I think that the more I realized that other women felt like I did, they felt insecure. They felt like they were failing. Sometimes they felt like they were isolated. And I realized that if I was ever going to have friends, I was going to have to reach out because it's rare that somebody comes to me and says, I want to be your friend.
Whether you have recently moved to a new community or simply want to connect with more women in your own hometown, Sally shares so much practical wisdom and encouragement to be brave and invite others into your life so you won’t mom alone. Loved what she shared in how extroverts vs. introverts cultivate friendships. 
We've got to fight for it because I feel like the home is disappearing. Relationships are disappearing. One-on-one is disappearing. And I feel like if God really wants us to show his love to the world, we've got to keep going and trying to find a way to love women and to care for them just to keep our own souls alive. 
What we chat about:

Sally’s story of coming to faith and inviting other women into friendship
What she’s learned along the way about cultivating friendship
How to keep going when no one you invite shows up
Hospitable = taking care or considering the someone else’s needs
We hope friendships will just happen, but we have to create ways for inviting people over
Extroverts might choose to invite groups of women over and introverts can start with one or two
Look for women who call you to your best self
Fostering mentor relationships with women
Don’t worry about having lots of playdates for your elementary-aged kids. Invest in friendship with your kids as a foundation.
Making friends is a messy process and it doesn’t always mesh
Jesus wanted us to go out into the world and love people
Building a foundation with whoever you want to relate to with unconditional love and speaking words of affirmation in their lives
You will have a legacy of relationships if you continue to cultivate life in such a way that relationships can be formed
Managing disagreements between your kids to keep the lines of friendship open between them

Connect with Sally:
    
Links Mentioned:

Don't Mom Alone Podcast Clubs
Loving Your Different Child -Sally Clarkson [Ep 149] 
Girls' Club: Cultivating Lasting Friendship in a Lonely World [BOOK]
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Do you struggle with using anger in response to your kids' misbehavior? Would you like to grow in patience but don't know where to begin? Well, I've pulled together several past podcast episodes and resources to help...

Feb 04 2019

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Summer Strategies :: Laura and Courtney [Ep 249]

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Whether your kids are school age or not, summer typically brings a big shift to our family routine and to our mindset. Joining me today to talk through strategies to thrive this summer are Laura Hernandez and Courtney Cleveland.  
We talk about systems, tips and plans for making the most of the time you have with your kids this summer. Laura even shares an acronym for how to plan with the word ENJOY. That’s right! We can absolutely enjoy the summer and these ladies have some great ideas to get you started.
It doesn't need to be a family bucket list and it doesn't need to be a hundred goals. It's just a simple focused looking at your summer and saying, what do I want it to feel like? What do I want it to look like for our family? And you will reap the benefits of it.
If you’re like me and want to figure out a way to involve your kids in household jobs without the whining and complaining or make a plan for using screen time effectively, we cover it all in this chat. We also talk about summer road tips and ways to stop entitlement behavior when it rears its ugly head.
There is so much life in slowing down and spending time with our kids in the summer. Whether you are on summer number 2 or summer number 14 (like me) with your oldest, I pray that you embrace the time you have and ENJOY your summer!
What we chat about:
Laura Hernandez, her family with nine children (and one on the way) and how she started you business called Mama SystemsCourtney Cleveland, her family with three children and her takeaways from implementing systems in her lifeENJOY the summer with a handy acronym from LauraEvaluate last summer-- what was stressful? What was life giving? What did your kids enjoy?Note things down. Set up your calendar with the needs first and write down your big priorities and dreams from your summer.Jot down your kids’ dreams for the summer. Who do they want to have come over? What activities do they want to do?Order. Choose and order for your days, your weeks and your summer. You. Make a priority to take care of yourself so you can care for your people.Delegating household jobs to your kids-- how and why it’s importantTaking time to intentional plan your summer and prioritize blessing others vs just doing fun things and making it all about your kidsAlarms and ticket systems to help your kids stay on task with various jobs and managing screen timeRoad trip tips from Courtney and her podcast All the Best DaysEnjoying your summer with your kids and feeling free to take the ideas that work for you that may not be what works for others
Connect with Laura Hernandez:
Website: https://www.mamasystems.netFacebook: www.facebook.com/mamasystems.netInstagram: www.instagram.com/mamasystems
Connect with Courtney Cleveland:
Website: www.allthebestdays.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/courtclarkcleve
Past Summer Help Episodes:
Summer (and Sibling) Survival Guide with Kirk Martin [Ep 77]When Someone Makes Your Summer Awesome
Links Mentioned:
Mama Systems: www.mamasystems.net All the Best Days PodcastWalker Goods Duffel Bags "Just 18 Summers" **-- A novel by Michelle Cox and Rene Gutteridge A review post by my friend Amanda White: Just 18 Summers. Jess Connolly's Summer to ThriveMaster Your Motherhood Summer School Series
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May 27 2019

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Broken Crayons Still Color :: Toni Collier [Ep 267]

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Toni Collier’s short childhood ended in third grade when her mother had a stroke. Toni carried many heavy emotional burdens in her childhood and felt deeply that she had to protect herself because the world was not a safe place. 
Fast forward several years and Toni’s strength of will to avoid the emotional trauma she experienced as a child finally ran out. Now a mom and reeling from an emotionally abusive first marriage, Toni sought counseling and therapy for the healing she so desperately needed. 
I was so blind to how unhealthy my life actually was. And the unveiling, the unwrapping of this emotional onion made me worse. But there was a healed Toni that I had to get to. Not just for me, but for my daughter and my new marriage. The only thing that brought me through was the hope that there is a God who said he could trade my weakness for his power.
Toni opens up about the “treacherous” process of facing intense emotional trauma, the shame and stigma that surrounds therapy and what it’s like to parent in the midst of facing your own brokenness.
Now as a powerful communicator and host with North Point Ministries, Toni has learned that God can take our broken, painful pasts and use them to minister to others. 
I hopped on stage at North Point and my entire life changed in weeks. It was the first time in a long time that I had been in a ministry that's celebrated my gifts, wasn't intimidated by them, and also welcomed my brokenness. It is as if I had experienced a new Jesus.
What we chat about:
Toni’s difficult childhood and how she had to grow up quickly to take care of her mom and herselfWhat led her to get help through counseling and trauma therapyThe challenge of therapy after years of emotional traumaParenting while going through intense therapy and healing The process of identifying her daughter’s mental and emotional strugglesHow she is working through school and behavior with her daughterHer new marriage and how she met her husband
Connect with Toni:
Website: https://tonijcollier.com  Facebook: facebook.com/tonijcollier and facebook.com/brkncrayonsInstagram: @tonijcollier and @brkncrayons
Links Mentioned:  
So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us ** [BOOK]Broken Crayons Still Color [WEBSITE]North Point Ministries [WEBSITE]
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Nov 25 2019

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Gratitude with Every Bite :: Melissa d’Arabian [Ep 266]

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Melissa d’Arabian is a winner of “The Next Food Network Star,” a celebrity chef, author, and mom of four girls. She’s an expert on affordable and healthy family home cooking who has inspired people with her shows on the Food Network. 
A few years ago, God inspired Melissa to do a deep dive into scripture and prayer to evaluate the meaning of food in her life. What she discovered is our relationship with food reflects our understanding of God and his creation. 
In her new book, Tasting Grace, she invites readers to appreciate food as not only a gift from God but also as a deeper invitation into his love.
Every meal we have can be an invitation into creativity, community, and patience. The fact that I could sit there and even for a moment and marvel and at least to honor everything that's gone into my food connected me more to God and it made me enjoy the food more.
We talk about how meals can bring us closer to God and how he created a food system to nourish us and delight our palates. Melissa is passionate about separating food and body image and saying no to the negative perspective often put on food. 
I want my children when they are young women going out there in the world to have the joy of a great relationship with food. And so if I talk about myself in a way that is unkind, not only are my kids hearing it, but God is hearing it. Speaking in terms of body image and all of that, I think it must make God feel sad when I reject the body he has given me.
What we chat about:
How Melissa studied food and what God was saying about foodThe wonder of food and gratitude we can feel toward it if we consider all that went into making itMeals can bring us closer to God with every bite we takeGod created a food system for humans that nourishes us and delights our palatesFood and body image and how they need to be separated How we relate to food greatly affects how our kids relate to foodGrowing food in a garden gives us another level of gratitude“Food is God’s love made delicious.”Saying no to the idea that exercise is punishment for foodThe spiritual winter Melissa walked through after her mother committed suicide
Connect with Melissa: 
Website: www.melissadarabian.netFacebook: facebook.com/darabianmelissaInstagram: @melissadarabianTwitter: @melissadarabian
Links Mentioned:
YouVersion AppIt’s Not About the Food :: Carrie and Angie [Ep 173]  [PODCAST]Food and Faith: A Theology of Eating [BOOK]**Videos and Recipes from Melissa on FoodNetwork.com
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Kids Faith Krate is a monthly craft subscription box to help cultivate your child’s faith! Every month your family will receive a new box (or Krate as they call them) filled with weekly family Bible lessons and coordinating crafts. Kids Faith Krate provides convenience, fun, and gives direction in family discipleship. Their Krates target ages 4-10, and there’s an option to include craft supplies for up to 3 children. Go to www.kidsfaithkrate.com (“krate” is spelled with a K) and use the code mentioned in the middle of the podcast to get $10 off any subscription!

Nov 18 2019

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6th Podcast-iversary :: Heather MacFadyen [Ep 265]

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Wow! Six years into podcasting and the 265 episodes of this show have been downloaded 8.7 million times across 204 different countries. Today we are celebrating our podcast-iversary with a “best-of” show featuring clips from your favorite episodes. 
We’re also featuring testimonials from listeners who share how the podcast has helped them not mom alone. Like these quotes from moms:
This podcast has really become my one-stop show for all things parenting. I love how you cover such a wide range of topics and how all of your guests are filled with grace and grounded in God’s word and his truth.
It has totally changed my perspective on motherhood. I’ve gone from feeling quite frustrated and alone to knowing that other moms are dealing with the same things. I don’t feel quite so lonely. All the encouragement is really changing my life.
Thanks so much for listening to the Don’t Mom Alone podcast. I’m thankful it’s made an impact in your lives. When I started this six years ago, I couldn’t imagine where it would take me. As for the future? Well, we’ll just have to see where God takes us!
Special shout-out thanks to my production team--Sarah-Jane Menefee and Rachael Jamison. Could NOT produce this show each week without their help!
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Episodes Mentioned:
Announcing the God Centered Mom Podcast ::  Leslie Johnson [Ep 1] The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [Ep 232]Become Fully Alive–Mind, Body, and Spirit :: Susie Larson [Ep 218]Shame, Perfectionism and Smiling Depression :: Misty Persefield and Stephanie Coker [Ep 154]Motherhood, Career, and Identity :: Kat Armstrong [Ep 171]Women Can Be All-In for Jesus :: Kat Armstrong [Ep 253]Overcoming Barriers to Sexual Intimacy :: Nancy Houston [Ep 206]Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234]What’s Your “Wifestyle” ? :: Jen Weaver [Ep 155]All of Kirk Martin's Podcasts Episodes10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns and Arguments :: Kirk Martin [Ep 139]Grace-Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150]All of Paul David Tripp’s Podcast Episodes
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You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)
Featured Sponsor: Kids Faith Krate
Kids Faith Krate is a monthly craft subscription box to help cultivate your child’s faith! Every month your family will receive a new box (or Krate as they call them) filled with weekly family Bible lessons and coordinating crafts. Kids Faith Krate provides convenience, fun, and gives direction in family discipleship. Their Krates target ages 4-10, and there’s an option to include craft supplies for up to 3 children. Go to www.kidsfaithkrate.com (“krate” is spelled with a K) and use the code mentioned in the middle of the podcast to get $10 off any subscription!

Nov 11 2019

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Compassion Changes Everything :: Jonathan Almonte [Ep 264]

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Jonathan Almonte’s story shows how sponsoring a child through Compassion International (or other similar programs) can change the course of a child’s life. 
However, it is the compassion of the people in his story who loved him when he fought back and wrote him letters calling out his identity and inherent worth as a child of God that may have made the biggest difference.
That letter changed my life. I was believing that I was a mistake. I was believing that God was not good for me. This letter helped me to understand that God provided a woman called Jamie thousands of kilometers away in a place called Michigan celebrating Thanksgiving. This woman wrote a letter to say, I am thankful for you. You are special, you're not a mistake.
As a child of a single mom in the Dominican Republic, Jonathan’s prospects were greatly limited. From a young age, he worked to earn enough money for each day’s food. The cost of getting into a school, a uniform as supplies, was nowhere near his grasp. 
His mother applied for him to join the Compassion program and (after a wait) he was accepted. For the first time in his life, all of his educational, nutritional, medical, and physical needs were taken care of, and Jonathan felt believed in like he never had before. 
I was selling juice on the streets. I was diving in a garbage area without hope. So this ministry for me meant my life. My life is before and after the ministry of Compassion in partnership with the local church in my community.
If after listening you feel led to sponsor a child through Compassion International, I'd love to make it super easy for you. Simply text the word: "Heather" to 83393 and a child's picture will be sent to your phone. Please let me know if you do!
What we chat about:
Jonathan’s childhood in the Dominican Republic and the extreme poverty he experiencedHow his life changed when he was accepted into the Compassion International’s programThe people who loved Jonathan and shared Christ with himThe sponsors Jonathan had in Compassion and the importance of their lettersHis hard relationship with his father and the powerful moment when he forgave himImmigration of people from poverty-stricken nations vs empowerment of those people to stay and fight for their communities
Connect with Compassion International: 
Website: www.compassion.com/dontmomaloneFacebook: facebook.com/compassionintl Instagram: @compassion
Links Mentioned:  
Learn more about sponsoring a child with Compassion: www.compassion.com/dontmomalone
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You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)
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Nov 04 2019

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Foster Care Story of Hope :: Victoria Petersen [Ep 263]

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On the surface, Victoria (Tori) Petersen’s story doesn’t sound full of hope. Her growing up years were filled with abuse, a mom who struggled with drugs, and more than 10 foster homes with no hope of adoption.
But God’s heart for Tori wasn’t death; it was life. Through a series of relationships and her own study, Tori learned about God. She experienced sacrificial love and community in the church and through her foster parents. It changed her whole future.
“The encouragement, the support, and the ability to see that through their words, through God's speaking through these people and acting through these people in love showed me that I did have a future, that God did have a plan for me and that if I trusted in him, that plan would blossom into something.”
After emancipating from the foster care system, Tori’s life has had more ups and downs. But, she is confident in her identity in Christ and learning more every day. Now as a mom and wife, God is redeeming her story and using it to encourage others who are a part of the foster system.
“I think foster parents remembering that they are image-bearers and in those hard times to be able to humble themselves and say,’ I am weak and I'm going to call on God's strength to love this child.’ Also communicating to the child that they're made in God's image. They are loved despite any kind of behavior or any saddening event that they have been through. Identity in Christ is crucial to the relationship between foster youth and foster parents.”
What we chat about:
Tori’s experience in and out of foster care and how she found hopeHer faith journey and the people who were examples of Jesus in her lifeThe hope she found in Jesus and learning about God as her heavenly fatherWhy she chose to emancipate from the foster system at 18How she handled unexpectedly becoming a motherGetting to the root of sin in her and her new husband’s life and why the needed the churchThe paradox of the church and why we need each other even though we often wound one anotherEncouragement for parents who are considering fosteringWhy understanding our identity in Christ (outside of our performance and abilities) is the most important thing
Connect with Tori: 
Website:  https://torisstoris.wordpress.comInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/torihopepetersen/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/torihopepetersen/
Links Mentioned:  
7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey**"Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, 'So shall your offspring be.'" Romans 4:18
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You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)
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The Laugh and Learn Bible for Kids will guide readers from Genesis to Revelation, retelling beloved Bible stories AND tackling tricky questions like “What is sin?” and “What is the Trinity?”
Each story is vividly illustrated, takes just five minutes to read,

Oct 28 2019

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You Deserve a Mentor :: Susie Davis [Ep 262]

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Susie Davis is a mentor of mentors. She’s the author of several books and host of the Dear Daughters podcast. I’m so excited to share our conversation with you as she answers your questions about mentorship, marriage and meeting with God. 

I think you deserve a mentor. I think it's God's will for your life to have an older woman that you can talk to who has wisdom for you and your specific situation.

In her book and podcast, Dear Daughters, Susie seeks to bring together younger women and spiritual moms. Each of us has valuable insight for one other, but getting started with mentoring can be a hurdle. Whether you have a mentor, are a mentor or want to start, Susie shares encouragement and insight into establishing and maintaining a healthy mentor relationship. (including what not to say!)

We also talk about marriage and how to love your man without losing your mind about the little things that can drive us crazy. 

I think marriage is the greatest opportunity for sanctification, which is just becoming more like God. It is the one relationship that is never supposed to end. You're ‘trapped’ in it and you have to work it out with them.

Talking with Susie is such a gift. She shares a wealth of wisdom from the perspective of someone who has experienced a lot of growth in her own life and marriage over the years. Grab a cup of coffee and listen in as Susie mentors us all!

What we chat about:

How to find a mentor and why we need them.Mentors are not perfect people. They are people who are just a bit ahead of you who can encourage you not to make the same mistakes they did.What to say (and what not to say) to a potential mentor.The difference between an evangelist, discipler and mentor.Establishing a rhythm of mentorship and talking through expectations with your mentor.It’s normal to be irritated by the differences in a marriage.Marriage is the greatest opportunity for sanctification.Working through parenting and discipline differences in marriageGet together with a counselor. An outside person can really help your marriage.Finding joy in day-to-day life and in the everyday tasks before us.What to do when you are struggling to hear God

Connect with Susie:

Website: https://susiedavis.org Podcast: Dear DaughtersFacebook: facebook.com/davis.susieInstagram:  @susiedavis

Links Mentioned:

Dear Daughters: Love Letters to the Next Generation [BOOK]Loving Your Man Without Losing Your Mind [BOOK]Uncovered: Revealing the Secrets of a Sexy Marriage ** [BOOK]

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Oct 21 2019

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Racial Healing Starts with You :: Latasha Morrison [Ep 261]

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Racial tensions in America are as high within the church as outside of it. My guest Latasha (aka Tasha) Morrison believes Jesus followers must become the leaders in the conversation. That we must, “build a bridge” to bring justice, healing and transformation.
It starts with awareness and then acknowledging the pain and brokenness. We didn't create it, but it is all of our responsibility to be a part of the solution. And no one gets an ‘out’ here.
Tasha founded the organization Be the Bridge in 2016 'to encourage racial reconciliation among all ethnicities, to promote racial unity in America, and to equip others to do the same.' Now she’s written a book of the same name that comes out this week. 
We talk in depth about racial healing, biblical justice and the diversity of God’s kingdom. It’s not an easy conversation, but it’s a necessary one. I pray you will listen with an open mind and heart for all God wants to do to bring unity to the body of Christ. 
Every culture is an expression of who God is and not one ethnicity can represent the totality of who God is. We serve a diverse God. If you’re thinking that God looks just like you and talks just like you, remember, Jesus didn't speak English. Sometimes we need a reality check on that. Just because something is different doesn't make it wrong.
What we chat about:
How Tasha became an advocate for racial reconciliationThe inherent racial lines and segregation of cities that persist from Jim Crow lawsWe serve a diverse God and no one race or expression on humanity is the “right” way to beHow lamenting and crying out to God about injustice can cause God to move Social justice vs biblical justiceDefining privilege from a historical perspective and why we can’t ask others to ignore past injustice and just “move on”The history of racism in America pre-dates independence. The first slaves arrived 400 years agoBe aware of the many facets of history and who is writing the history booksDon’t insulate your kids from people who are different from themTasha invites us to: listen, learn, lament and leverage.  
Connect with Tasha:
Website: latashamorrison.comFacebook: facebook.com/latashamorrison Instagram: @latashamorrison and @beabridgebuilder
Links mentioned:
Be the Bridge organization [WEBSITE]The 1619 Project [WEBSITE]Be the Bridge by Latasha Morrison [BOOK]EP 216: Help Your Children Embrace Differences [PODCAST]ColorFull by Dorena Williamson [BOOK]Book List from Tasha's WebsiteKid President Returns -- Part Two in Selma, AL
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Oct 14 2019

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The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260]

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As parents, we are keenly aware of the peaks and valleys of our kids’ emotions. Anger, sadness, excitement, and all the other feelings can make us feel like our child is on a roller coaster we’re just trying to slow down. 
It’s true that we all feel highs and lows throughout our day, but we rarely talk about what it feel like when we’re “in the zone” and feeling calm and ready to go. My guest today is sharing about the window of tolerance and how to regulate ourselves and our kids to help stay in that window. 
If I am dysregulated, I cannot regulate my child. So if I'm in fight or flight and I'm yelling. There's no amount of yelling that brings my child back into the window. And sometimes parents think the yelling is working, but what you're doing isn’t getting your child in the window. They're going into collapse and into a place of fear.
Charissa Fry is a Licensed Professional Counselor and believer. Her passion is to come alongside those who are hurting and struggling to help them find truth, hope, healing, connection, and growth. She shares some eye-opening information and statistics to get us on the path to helping our kids build resilience and stay in that window of tolerance. 
Charissa shares from a faith-perspective that we as believers are not alone. She reminds us that we can lean on God to regulate our emotions as we love on our kids and go through the hardships of life. 
God himself through Jesus is the ultimate attachment figure. He is always reaching for us. He never fails to respond to our needs. He always loves us. He's never judging us and never shaming us. So to know that when we need to be co-regulated, that when I am feeling like I'm going to leave the window, I can remember the truth of who God is and I can reach out to him in prayer.
What we chat about:
The window of tolerance is when our brains function well and effectively process input to make rational decisions calmly without feeling either overwhelmed or withdrawnWhen we’re out of the window of tolerance, our thinking brain is not in control and we don’t register consequences Many of us don’t live in the window of tolerance, but we’re too busy and stressed to stop and assess how we’re feeling at any given momentHyper-arousal, otherwise known as the fight/flight response, is often characterized by hypervigilance, feelings of anxiety and/or panic, and racing thoughts.Hypo-arousal, or a freeze response, may cause feelings of emotional numbness, emptiness, or paralysis.Learning how to stay in your window of tolerance builds resilience, both for us and our kidsWhen our kids live outside the window, they become “masters of survival” and often turn to negative coping strategiesWhat our children's emotions look like when we are co-regulating Philippians 2:13 “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” We can lean on God to bring us to that window of tolerance and into the fruits of the spirit
Connect with Charissa:
Website:  charissafry.comFacebook: facebook.com/CharissaFryCounseling
Links Mentioned:  
Window of Tolerance Infographic -- FREE resource [WEBSITE] Regulation Pack -- FREE resource [WEBSITE]Rosie’s Brain [BOOK]
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Oct 07 2019

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The Enneagram, Marriage and the Gospel :: Beth McCord [Ep 259]

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It’s a popular (and sometimes controversial) typology system that can help you understand yourself and others better, but how can we use the Enneagram in light of the gospel to help our marriages thrive? 
Beth McCord of Your Enneagram Coach is here to walk us how to look at our marriages and close relationships through the lens of the Enneagram and the Gospel. 
With the Enneagram, you can see that we all struggle. We all need Jesus. It's just we need it in different ways. And he makes us more like him in different ways as well. It's called the body of Christ and we reflect Christ differently. We all need to bring our uniqueness to glorify him and bless each other.
We talk about how using the Enneagram can improve communication and compassion in our marriages and what to do if your spouse has no interest in learning his type. (hint: the answer isn’t to bug him about it) 
Beth shares that no one pairing out of the 45 possible Enneagram matches in marriage is better than any other, but it’s our surrender to Christ that makes all the difference. 
I can guarantee you there is not a combination that is better or worse. Any two types that are surrendering and depending on the grace of God through Christ’s work on the cross on our behalf will be a blessing to one another.
What we chat about:
The origins of the Enneagram as a personality tool and why it matters how we use itLearning where we need to depend on Christ more as you understand more about your Enneagram typeUsing the Enneagram to help relate better in your marriageWhat to do when your spouse is resistant to learning about the Enneagram Learning about all nine types can help you have more compassion for your close relationshipsEmbracing the unique ways Christ made each person can help put an end to comparisonThe resources Beth has for using the Enneagram within marriage
Connect with Beth:
Website:  www.yourenneagramcoach.comFacebook:  facebook.com/YourEnneagramCoach Instagram:  @yourenneagramcoach 
Links Mentioned:
Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage [BOOK]**Ep. 232: The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [PODCAST]Enneagram Type Summaries from Your Enneagram Coach [WEBSITE]FREE Marriage Assessment from Beth [WEBSITE]Becoming Us Marriage Course [WEBSITE]
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Sep 30 2019

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Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues :: Lynne Jackson [Ep 258]

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When a child processes sensory information just a little differently than his or her peers it can mean BIG emotions, meltdowns and a huge struggle for us as parents. 

Often these kids are labeled as “sensitive” or “intense” and they might cause us to avoid playdates and public places because we’re never sure what seemingly small issue will cause the next explosion. 

Lynne Jackson of Connected Families joins me to uncover the mysteries behind our kids with sensory struggles and how we can help them thrive. We talk about Sensory Processing Disorder and the wide range of sensory processing symptoms.  

As a mom who had two kids with sensory processing needs and as a licensed occupational therapist, Lynne encourages us to become a student of our kids and try to understand their point of view.

Imagine if the volume on all your sounds and the sensations in your body was turned up and you were to trying to fall asleep, that would be really hard. Car rides and meals are often torturous. So then what are the kids doing? They're trying to cope. They're jumping down. They're complaining about the food and squirming in their seats. They're trying to do something so they feel in control.

We talk about what to do if you suspect a sensory processing problem in one of your kids and where to seek help. I share my story of working through this with one of my boys and why I wish we’d gone to see a therapist sooner. 

What we chat about:

Sensory processing disorders and what they look like in younger kids20% of kids have nervous systems that process information differently than their peersThe differences between over-sensitive and under-sensitive sensory processing Some indicators that your child may struggle with sensory processingLearning what helps calm down the sensory overwhelm and staying connected with them to help them regulate during stressful situationsHow to learn more about sensory processing and when to seek professional help

Connect with Lynne: 

Website: connectedfamilies.orgPodcast: Connected Families PodcastFacebook: facebook.com/ConnectedFamiliesInstagram:  @connectedfams

Links Mentioned:  

Solve that After-School Crabbiness [BLOG]Viewing your child through a different lens [BLOG]Equipping Kids to Calm [BLOG]Sensory Processing Questionnaire [Child] [PDF]Sensory Processing Questionnaire [Ages 12 –18] [PDF]Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller [BOOK]Out-of-Sync Child by Carol Stock Kranowitz [BOOK]STAR Institute for Sensory Processing Disorder [WEBSITE]Similar pyramid to the one I reference in the show: https://kids-first.com.au/how-your-childs-sensory-system-sets-them-up-for-life/ [ARTICLE]Discipline that Connects Course -- Use DMA15 to save 15%

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Sep 23 2019

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Forgiving My Alcoholic Mother :: Sarah Mae [Ep 257]

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Author, blogger and podcast host Sarah Mae joins me to share her story of working through the generational bondage of alcoholism and the verbal and emotional abuse she suffered from her mother. 
I remember yelling out, 'I'm going to kill myself,' and her saying, 'Go ahead, I dare you.' And that was it for me. I just bawled because I felt so unloved and so confused.
In her new book The Complicated Heart, Sarah takes us into her painful past and all she experienced with her mom. She also shares the hope and victory of how God wooed her heart and changed the direction of her family forever. 
Dysfunction does not have to be your legacy. It does not have to be your identity. And you do not have to pass it on to your kids. It doesn't matter if you were born into it, married into it or you created it yourself. There is always victory on the table. We just have to be willing to pick it up.
Throughout our chat, Sarah is candid and encouraging. She shares openly about the abortion she had at 16 and the healing she’s experienced from bravely speaking out against the shame of past sin and accepting God’s grace as all-sufficient. 
What we chat about:
How Sarah learned to love and forgive her alcoholic motherPractical advice for daughters who are hurting from parental woundings and hope for parents who have failedThe verbal and mental abuse that Sarah endured as a teenagerHonoring Sarah’s mom’s story by including her journal entries in the bookSarah’s path to healing and the many ways God wooed her heart The story behind Sarah’s abortion at 16-years-oldCreating a new legacy for your family by bravely working through the places of sin and shame in your lifeWounds from your parents are valid things to grieve
Connect with Sarah Mae: 
Website: www.sarahmae.comPodcast: The Complicated Heart PodcastFacebook: facebook.com/sarahmaewritesInstagram: @sarahmaewrites
Links Mentioned:  
The Complicated Heart: Loving Even When It Hurts [BOOK]EP 93: I Am Restored :: Stacy Reaves [PODCAST]Forgiven and Set Free: A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Women [BOOK]
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Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS!
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Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it.
Don’t miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code mentioned in the middle of this episode so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99!

Sep 16 2019

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Porn-Proofing Our Kids :: Kristen Jenson [Ep 256]

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Access to the internet is everywhere in our modern world. And that means access to pornography and sexual imagery is everywhere too. Rather than bury our heads in the sand or cross our fingers that our kids won’t see porn, we can choose to be proactive and to give them a plan for how to react. 

Kristen Jenson, the best-selling author of "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures", joins me to share some simple ways to talk with our kids about porn and protect their minds. 

Pornography makes a child more vulnerable to sexual abuse. So if you porn-proof your child by starting these conversations early, you are actually helping your child to be more protected from child sexual abuse. When you start these discussions it's not as hard as you think. And once you do, you've begun this journey with your child to trust you for answers. You tell them, ‘Don't go on Google to ask these questions. Come and talk to me.’

This may feel like a super heavy topic, but I promise it’s worth taking the proactive approach now vs waiting till you have teenagers. Kristen shares a lot of resources and makes it easy to get started. 

What we chat about:

What led her to write Good Pictures Bad Pictures, a book that helps porn-proof young kids, and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.How pornography is a public health crisis and the negative effects it has on children and adultsTaking the proactive parenting approach helps kids be more resilient when they see pornWhen a child has any exposure or access to the internet you need to warn them about the dangers of the internet in simple, age-appropriate waysThese conversations are the same as talking to your kids about why we don’t eat or drink poisonous chemicals-- it’s all about safety. Helping kids learn about their “thinking brain” and their “feeling brain” and how to use them appropriatelyTeaching your kids a simple plan for how to respond when they see pornCAN DO: Close your eyes, Always tell a trusted adult, Name it when you see it, Distract yourself, Order my thinking brain to be the boss.

Connect with Kristen:

Website: protectyoungminds.orgFacebook: facebook.com/ProtectYM Instagram: @protectyoungminds 

Links Mentioned:  

Episodes with Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from Birds and Bees [PODCAST]Birds and Bees Curriculum [RESOURCE]Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids [BOOK]Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds [BOOK]Resources and a Quick-Start Guide for Proactive Parents [WEBSITE]

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Who else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don’t already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is truly fabulous.

Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it.

Don’t miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code mentioned in the middle of this episode so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99!

Sep 09 2019

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Become What You Behold :: Ruth Chou Simons [Ep 255]

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My guest today is Ruth Chou Simons. She’s a mom of six boys and an author and entrepreneur. You may know her best from the beautiful watercolor prints and products she creates for her business on Gracelaced.com

In her newest book, Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship**, Ruth shares about how every day is an opportunity to be shaped and formed by what moves our hearts and captures our gaze. 

We dive into what that looks like in Ruth’s life and how choosing to focus on Christ changes everything from our perspective on our parenting and work to how we look at others. 

The most unhappy I get is if I get preoccupied with somebody else's story. And I don't give thanks and I don't jot down reminders of how he's provided for the ultimate story of redemption in my life. And also how he's working that out day by day and writing my story anew.

We talk about how our fast-paced, hustle culture steals the joy and the beauty away from the everyday faithfulness of growing in God. My favorite reminder she shared is, “You don’t have to be blooming to be growing.”

So true. How often do we start something and expect instant gratification and quick wins? We want easy-to-share glossy images of success. But God looks at our hearts. At the slow growing happening under the surface. We are all in process with God until we see him in heaven. 

Let’s celebrate the small wins and focus on turning our eyes toward God and away from the distractions and hollow gratification of social media. As Ruth reminds us, we become what we behold. Those small, unseen decisions really add up to who we are. 

Because at the end of the day, every action we have is really stemming out of our belief in our worship. And so how you think, and how you believe, and what you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do next. What your little moments every day are accumulating to be for a lifetime.

What we chat about:

Focusing on the beauty of what God has created vs comparing our lives to someone else’s on social mediaAt the root of dissatisfaction in our lives is an underlying struggle with identity. Is our identity found in Christ or is it found in everything going our way?Growing our appetite for the things of God by choosing to fill our time with his Word.The struggles women have with wanting to do something perfectly or not at all Celebrating the process of growing vs seeing immediate fruit in our livesWhat you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do nextThe goal isn’t just to experience God’s provision, but to trust that his presence in our lives is enough“Nearness to God brings likeness to God. The more you see God, the more of God will be seen in you.” - C.H Spurgeon

Connect with Ruth: 

Website: gracelaced.comFacebook: facebook.com/gracelacedInstagram: @ruthchousimons and @gracelaced

Links Mentioned:  

GCM Ep 23: Beauty creator. Unity builder. Mom. –Ruth Simons [PODCAST]Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship [BOOK] Releases September 1012 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You [BOOK]

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Sep 02 2019

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Raising Worry-Free Girls :: Sissy Goff [Bonus]

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For a variety of reasons, childhood anxiety rates are soaring, especially among girls. My guest Sissy Goff is here to share some of her insights on how to recognize worry and anxiety in your daughter and empower her to overcome.
We talk about tools we can use to help us understand why our brains are often working against us in times of anxiety and grounding techniques to slow and stop the emotional spiral that often ensues. 
We always want her to know she's stronger than her worries and that she has a voice to talk back to the worry. A lot of people who work with kids call it the worry monster because that separates it out from her voice. We don't want her to think it's the truth, which is what kids are going to think when they have voices in their heads telling them things.
This is a short, hope-filled bonus episode that just scratches the surface on all that we can learn about equipping our kids to work through anxiety. For more encouragement, follow Sissy and her team at https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com and watch for her book Raising Worry-Free Girls coming out September 17. 
What we chat about:
1 in 4 kids are dealing with anxiety of some kind and girls are twice as likely to feel itAnxiety is hard to recognize in kids. Sometimes it comes out as anger or meltdowns and other times it’s deeply buriedPeople whose personalities lean toward Type A tend to have baseline anxiety at all times. If your child’s personality leans that direction, it’s important to give them tools to deal with itAnxiety is always an overestimation of the problem and an underestimation of ourselvesTechniques to help a child with anxiety calm down and redirect blood flow to their prefrontal cortexIntegrating our faith as we teach our kids to fight back against fear and worry
Connect with Sissy: 
Website: raisingboysandgirls.comPodcast: raisingboysandgirls.com/listen Facebook: facebook.com/raisingboysandgirls Instagram: @raisingboysandgirls
Links Mentioned:  
Raising Worry-Free Girls [BOOK] Releases September 17, 2019[Ep 160] Emotional Milestones:: Sissy Goff and David Thomas [PODCAST][Ep 141] Raising Girls:: Sissy Goff [PODCAST]
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Loaded with fun activities and engaging content, the Treasured Study and the Treasured Journal will help moms and daughters talk about things they both care about. Things like: Identity, body, emotions, friendships, technology, and faith. You can get the Treasured journal and go through it alone with your daughter, or you can invite a group of moms and daughters to go through the same amazing content using the Treasured Study.  Go to Treasuredstudy.com to find out more about the interactive experience that both moms and daughters are raving about.

Aug 30 2019

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Adventures of a Boy Mom :: Monica Swanson [Ep 254]

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Fellow boy moms, this episode is for you! This chat with Monica Swanson another mom of four boys and author of the new book Boy Mom dives into a lot of your questions about how to raise your boys to be godly men. 

We talk about encouraging strong friendships between brothers, teaching boys to be strong AND gentle, and about the importance of giving our sons ways to experience excitement and adventure while getting some of their natural aggression out in safe physical activities.

I am a big believer that boys were made for adventure that they need to have some excitement in their lives I think is just how God wired them. They're little warriors who need to experience some thrills. A lot of the trouble boys can get into is related to when they're lacking authentic adventure, when they're not facing challenges and overcoming obstacles.

Monica has two boys out of high school and two still in the nest, so she offers a lot of hope for those of us in the trenches of parenting to keep pressing into relationship with our sons and to make the practicals of faith an anchor in all that we do. 

God is so big and so powerful and he can move mountains on behalf of your son. He wants your son's heart more than you even know. We get our boys plugged in everywhere we can. We want them to have so many positive spiritual models in their life that there's no denying that God is the best way to go. It about coming alongside them and saying, ‘This is for your best. God is for you. Let's walk this life with him.’

What we chat about:

Monica’s four boys and working with very different personalities Building healthy brother relationships and dealing with kids who hitBoys need to let out their energy with exercise and physical activitySetting healthy boundaries for your kids with manners and learning to laugh with them about it tooTeaching boys how to balance strength and kindness by pointing them to the stories of godly menThe power of shoulder to shoulder conversations with boys and why to keep pressing into conversation with themMotivating boys to get excited about school and finding hobbies and interestsIdeas for how to foster adventure for your boys and learning not to parent from a place of fearFostering faith in your sons through time in the Word, prayer and modeling

Connect with Monica: 

Website: monicaswanson.comPodcast: monicaswanson.com/podcastFacebook: facebook.com/TheGrommomInstagram: @monicaswanson_Twitter: @thegrommom

Links Mentioned:  

Boy Mom: What Your Son Needs Most from You [BOOK]What Your Kids, Marriage and Ministry Need :: Monica Swanson [Ep 82] PODCASTStrong: How God Equipped 11 Ordinary Men with Extraordinary Power [BOOK]Knights in Training: Ten Principles for Raising Honorable, Courageous, and Compassionate Boy **[BOOK]20 Ways to Make Your Son Feel Loved [PRINTABLE]

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Aug 26 2019

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Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Six :: Shontell Brewer

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Small is the new huge.
With the ability to connect with anyone, anywhere in the world, feels like we’re more isolated and ineffective than ever. But what if we worried less about making a big impact.  And focused more on doing the things in front of us with quality and depth?
I’m a big fan of today’s guest, Shontell Brewer. She’s a wise mom to five kiddos (some she's launched out into the world). And she has an excellent sense of humor. More than that, she has discipled her children to love and serve others around them.
Discipleship can be organic. Keeping your ministry small enough. To be present wherever God has placed you.
In this episode, which originally aired in October of 2016 (Ep 140), Shontell and I talk about discipleship during dinner conversations. She shares her method of asking really specific questions. And giving her kiddos a challenge for the day to love others in tangible ways (e.g., encouraging a 4 year old to compliment his preschool teacher).
My most favorite thing we talk about is Taco Tuesday. The last Tuesday of the month, the Brewer family serves up meat & tortillas. They invite coaches, teachers, friends, neighbors (any one who interacts regularly with their kids) into their home.
We love on our community one taco at a time.
I shared the idea with my boys and they wanted to do it the next night (“Taco Tuesday, but on a Monday”). I’ll let you know how that goes. We may go the Pizza Friday route (love our community one slice at a time).
Shontell also inspired me to help open my boys’ spiritual eyes. And to encourage them to fight over who is going to put the other one first.
What we chat about:
How women apologize for their carpetKeeping your ministry smallSpecific questions to ask during dinner time conversationsHow Shontell helped her daughter minister to her Starbucks’ managerSending your kids to school with a basic challenge to bless someoneSetting the habit of conversation and other family “norms”Learning to not be offended when our kids aren’t performingParenting small with intimate corrective conversationsThe BEST idea to invite people into your home monthly–> Taco Tuesdays!
Connect with Shontell:
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Aug 19 2019

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Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Five :: Lynn Hoffman

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Being a mom reveals your most broken places.
I often think motherhood would be easy if my boys behaved better. Or maybe if I read one more parenting book. Or if I finally caught the magical contentment unicorn just beyond my grasp.
Of course, none of those options really pan out (especially the unicorn). It’s my own junk. Every day the yuck in my heart rises to the surface. But with the pace of life and needs of my people, it’s hard to stop and examine the “yuck” more closely.
A few years ago our small group attended a recovery program at our church. Through some honest self-examination and community, God showed me where I’ve held wrong beliefs. And how they impacted my relationships.
Today’s podcast guest, Lynn Hoffman, helped start our church’s recovery program 15 years ago. And God also led her to write “Steps into God’s Grace”, a bible study based on the 12 steps of recovery.
In this episode, Lynn shares her own struggle with performance, people pleasing and codependency. She gives insight into why recovery isn’t just for addicts. And she encourages us to identify our own emotions so we can teach our children to do the same.
Recovery became a safe place where I could go and be with other people who were willing to be honest. Stop pretending and start talking about the reality of the problems in their life. And lean on God to change and discover new realities in their life.
Connect with Lynn:
Website: StepsintoGodsGrace.com
What we chat about:
Lynn’s divorce/remarriage and struggle with wanting to do everything right.How she got her significance from her work and struggled to lean on God.The discovery of recovery and God’s call for her to write a 12-step based Bible study.Learning the lies Lynn believed and how they controlled how she behaved.The lies that go along with “working hard”.Why should anyone consider going through a 12-step recovery program.The spiritual/Biblical roots of recovery.The value of identifying your emotions in the moment.The difference between shame and guiltWhen we feel like a “mom failure” and how our worth is tied to our kids’ behavior and performance.Getting in touch with our own emotions to help our kids with their own emotions.
Links Mentioned:
“Steps into God’s Grace” by Lynn Hoffman **Jim & Lynne Jackson “You are Safe. You are Loved” (Ep 80)Feelings chart:
Celebrate RecoveryRecovery for Life at Northwest Bible**As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!
The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.
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Aug 12 2019

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Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Four :: Helen Smallbone

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Ever want to hear from the woman behind literal rock star kids?
In this episode, Helen Smallbone, mother of 7 grown children including Christian music stars Joel and Luke Smallbone (For King and Country) and Rebecca St. James, shares stories of motherhood and practical advice she’s learned along the way. She and her husband moved their family from Australia to America more than 25 years ago. It was a faith-building journey that changed their family forever.   
Sometimes when you face life crises what God’s doing is setting a new foundation. In this time, he took everything away from us. We had no money, no resources, no family and no friends.  But in that refining process, he gave everything back to us, but with a new foundation where he was the provider. He showed himself to be faithful for providing all our needs.
This episode originally aired in May of 2017 as episode 166.
What we talk about:
Stories of living by faith and God providing for the Smallbone family when they moved from Australia to AmericaHomeschooling a large family and fostering responsibility and work skills in your kidsTeaching family values while dealing with bad attitudes and behaviors in your kidsTaking a “time out” as a mom to pray for your children and waiting on the Lord for breakthrough for specific ways to resolve behavior problemsFocusing on the eternal value of building relationships with our kids versus the temporary focus on everyday tasksSpending time with children who may be acting out because they need more attentionHow quantity time often becomes quality time with our familiesTaking a traditional nap time or quiet time after lunch with fill yourself up to finish the day strong as a momKeeping the communication line open with your children no matter their age.
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You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!
The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.
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Aug 05 2019

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Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week 3 :: Kim Fredrickson

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As a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, Kim Fredrickson counseled and taught others about self-compassion for years. When she received an unexpected terminal diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis, a rare side-effect of the treatment she had received for breast cancer, she wrote a book to leave for her children on giving that same compassion to the grandchildren she will never meet.

On June 3rd, 2019, Kim passed on to be in the presence of her Savior. We want to honor her legacy by re-releasing this fantastic mentoring which originally aired in January of 2018.

When people feel ashamed, they blame other people because they feel like if I really look at my shame then I’m going to collapse inside. That’s why self-compassion is desperately important because kids feel shame a lot. They fail at everything at the start.

What we chat about:

Kim’s story of receiving a devastating diagnosis after completing treatment for breast cancerHow she’s chosen to spend the years she has left with her family The new book she wrote for when her children have kids called “Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children”How it’s a process to develop a compassionate inner voiceApplying grace and truth to every situation in our livesVariety of temperaments--some that are harder on themselves than others.The difference between self-compassion and self-pityEncouraging your children to practice self-compassion and reinforcing it by showing ourselves that sameGiving our kids the language to identify their failings and separate them from their self- worthMoms have a really hard job. It’s ok to acknowledge that.The importance of taking care of ourselves as momsHow to talk to your kids after you’ve been hard on yourself and reframing it with self-compassion

Connect with Kim's Legacy:

Links Mentioned:

Kristi Clover -- Simply Joyful PodcastGive Your Kids a Break : Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children Give Yourself a Break  Compassionate Self-Statements and Self-Soothing Exercises (CD and download)Kind and Compassionate Words to Soothe Your Soul  (Download)

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Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust.

You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!

The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.

Don't Mom Alone LIVE EVENT 2019

This year Kate Duff and her MomComm groups (DMA podcast clubs) are hosting our Live Event in Dallas. AND my featured guest is my good friend Chrystal Evans Hurst.

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Jul 29 2019

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Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Two :: Lisa-Jo Baker

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Oh friendship! A gift that can bring incredible joy and cause great pain. If female relationships weren't tricky enough, our wounded selves bump into each other causing even deeper hurts.

But what are we to do? How do we heal, move forward and develop lasting friendships?

Thankfully, my friend, Lisa-Jo Baker came on the show back in April of 2017 to help. With content from her book, "Never Unfriended", on episode 159 we talked about friendship wounds. And Lisa-Jo pointed us to Jesus, the only One who promises to heal and never leave us.

Jesus is never tired of me always needing Him. Instead, He is delighted by how desperately I need His validation and He never, ever withholds it from me. Or from you. - excerpt from "Never Unfriended" by Lisa-Jo

What we chat about:

What do we fear most in friendshipHow to include the new girl and ignore the "cool kid" liesHow to heal past friendship wounds.Turning to Jesus for meat and potatoes soul-filling.Not blaming social media for our heart issues.How do you survive a friendship break-up.The hope of reconciliation and knowing when to let go.

Connect with Lisa-Jo Baker:

Website Facebook TwitterInstagram

Links Mentioned:

"Surprised by Motherhood" book  by Lisa-Jo BakerShaping of a Mother: Episode 21Incourage CommunityCarey Bailey--Life CoachHallowed Places by Tim Keller"Never Unfriended" by Lisa-Jo Baker"The Middle Matters" by Lisa-Jo Baker --available now

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Jul 22 2019

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