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A must-listen for all parents!

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Great content for parents of children of all ages!

Really great stuff

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Great tips for me as a parent! Keep them coming.

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144 Ratings
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A must-listen for all parents!

By Aunt Ray-Ray - Mar 30 2019
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Great content for parents of children of all ages!

Really great stuff

By brittanycalifornia - Jul 14 2018
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Great tips for me as a parent! Keep them coming.
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Latest release on Jan 31, 2019

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Rank #1: PCL 84: How to Raise Motivated Kids

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YOUR CUE

  • Communicate your family’s values. Your kids can begin to shift from extrinsic motivators to intrinsic ones when you, as a parent, communicate why the task or behavior is important to the family as a whole. When a kid understands they’re a part of something bigger than themselves, your family’s value system becomes their personal value system.

  • Get to know your kids. One of your kids may be extrinsically motivated while the other naturally leans toward intrinsic motivation. Know who your kids are at their core, and it’ll help you tailor how you approach this whole motivation thing. One of your kids may be motivated by things, while the other is motivated by fun and quality time. Notice the differences and act accordingly.

  • Focus on the season you’re in and prioritize accordingly. Ask yourself, “Why am I hyper-focused on my child completing this particular task I’m asking them to do?” Sometimes, we’ll find our requests are selfishly motivated. Take a step back and away from perfection and focus on one thing you can do this week or month to help nurture motivation in your kids.

EPISODE RECAP

As parents, we all want to raise motivated kids who will one day grow up to be adults with great work ethics and values. Sometimes, however, we do things that undermine the ultimate goal of having motivated kids by focusing on short-term outcomes.

On today’s episode, we hear from Dan Scott, a father of four, ranging from high schoolers to an elementary-aged child. Together with our podcast host, Kristen Ivy, the two share their personal stories on what it’s like to motivate kids in the preschool, elementary, middle school, and high school phases. They also discuss how to encourage healthy habits in kids (and discourage unhealthy ones), and how parents should be aware that our hyper-focused requests for that loaded dishwasher or cleaned bedroom to be done perfectly may actually be detrimental to our kids’ motivation growth.

Even more, they answer questions such as:

  • How do I help my kids move from extrinsic motivation (money and other reward-based prizes) to becoming more intrinsically motivated?
  • How do I fairly motivate kids who have different personality types?
  • What are the types of motivators and how can I use them to help my kid grow?

We can’t wait for you to dive into this subject with us. If you found after listening to the podcast that you’ve got another question about parenting, we want to hear it! Click here to ask your question and you might hear it answered on the podcast.

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Dan ScottDrive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates UsThe 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children EffectivelyThe 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively

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“Parents, ask yourselves, “Am I motivating my child in the moment for my own sake? Or do I have a long-range perspective?” —@kristen_ivy
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“Fun is a motivator for all kids.” —@danscott77 
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“Parents, ask yourselves, “What’s the one thing I want my kids to be motivated to do in this season?” —@kristen_ivy
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Sep 20 2018

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Rank #2: Best Of PCL: Discovering Your Child’s Love Language

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YOUR CUE

  • Observe your kids. Take some time this week to pay close attention, ask questions, and begin to discover your child’s love language.  Then do something intentional to communicate love in the language they understand best.
  • Check in on your kids regularly. Ask your kids this question, “On a scale of one to 10, how full is your love tank? What can I do to help fill it?”
  • Wrap discipline in your child’s love language. Your child will receive your discipline better when they understand they are loved. When disciplining your child, make sure to use that opportunity to still show them love in the way they understand.

EPISODE RECAP

It’s likely most of us have heard about Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, and some of us would dare to reveal its contents helped save our marriages. So naturally, being a podcast to help parents do life better with our kids, we’d jump at the chance to talk to Dr. Chapman about how we can extend that knowledge loving our kids better.

All of our kids experience and show love differently, and for families with multiple kids, it’s likely one kid has a way of understanding love that is different from their sibling. As parents, it’s easy — and sometimes safer — to treat all of our kids the same way, but Dr. Chapman says it’s imperative parents communicate love in the specific way their child understands it.

“The question is not, ‘Do you love your children?’ The question is, ‘Do your children feel loved?” Dr. Chapman asks.

The five ways children and adults interpret love fall into these five categories (or love languages):

  • Words of affirmation
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service
  • Quality Time
  • Physical touch

In today’s episode, Dr. Chapman shares how parents can discover what their child’s love language is, how to discipline while using your kid’s love language, and what parents have to lose if they don’t start showing their kids love in the way they understand it.

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The 5 Love LanguagesThe 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children EffectivelyA Perfect Pet for Peyton: A 5 Love Languages Discovery BookA Teen's Guide to the 5 Love Languages: How to Understand Yourself and Improve All Your Relationships

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“It’s exceedingly important as parents that we learn to keep the love tank full and that will help our child feel love — that will help them process the rest of life much better.” —@DrGaryChapman
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“If a child feels loved by their parent, they are far more open to their correction and discipline.” —@DrGaryChapman
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“The question is not, ‘Do you love your children?’ The question is, ‘Do your children feel loved?’ —@DrGaryChapman
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“What your kids request of you most often will give you insight into their love language.” —@DrGaryChapman
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Jul 05 2018

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Rank #3: PCL 54: How To Teach Emotional Intelligence To Your Kids

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Sofia Dickens, creator of EQtainment and the Q Wunder show and app, shares her important findings on how our kids’ emotional intelligence directly affects their success as adults in today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast.

YOUR CUE

  • Make waiting a part of your kid’s everyday life. Patience is a learned skill. Factor in ways to make your kid practice waiting calmly.
  • Teach them to distract themselves. Help your kid think creatively during waiting times through fun songs and games.

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EPISODE RECAP

Ask any parent how they measure their kids’ success and they’ll likely mention something related to their development or academic achievements. Sofia Dickens, a mother of four and founder of EQtainment and the Q Wunder show and app, challenges us to define success by something simpler: Our kids’ social and emotional skills.

A former student at Harvard, Sofia spent years studying emotional and social development. Using the 40-year research lead by Daniel Goleman, she learned social and emotional skills have a greater impact on life’s success than anything we teach our kids.

“We spend so much time toiling over the academics and stressing about all the things our kids can learn when it’s much more simpler than that,” Sofia says.

She looked for tools she could use to strengthen her kids’ social awareness, creativity, and focus and didn’t find much, so she used the concepts and ideas she studied in school to create EQtainment, which helps develop children’s social and emotional skills through games, books, and their Q Wunder show and app. The company focuses on equipping parents to nurture their kids’ sense of responsibility, manners, and empathy.

Controlling impulses

The secret to your kids growing up to become successful adults is their ability to distract themselves, Sofia shares. How effectively your kids are able to control their impulses and emotions is a clear indicator of what type of adult they’ll be.

You might be thinking your kid isn’t wired that way, that they’re just the impatient type. Instead of labeling your kids, think of them as coachable, Sofia tells us.

“Impulse control isn’t something that you are necessarily born with, but something that can be taught.”

QUOTES IN THIS EPISODE

“We spend so much time toiling over the academics and stressing about all the things our kids can learn when it’s much more simpler than that.” —Sofia Dickens

“Impulse control isn’t something that you are necessarily born with but something that can be taught.” —Sofia Dickens

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Dec 07 2017

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Rank #4: PCL 48: How To Raise Financially Responsible Kids

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Former NFL player-turned pastor and financial expert Lee Jenkins talks about how to talk to your kids about money in today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast.

YOUR CUE

  • Talk to your kids about money. Your kids can’t grow up to be financially responsible if they don’t understand the concept. Let them hear from you what it means to earn, save, and spend.
  • Teach your kids to be responsible. Put your kids in an environment where they have to be conscious about earning and spending. Invite them into some financial decisions when they’re older.
  • Set boundaries. Talking to your kids about money has a deeper meaning — you’re teaching them about the power of no and setting limitations.

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EPISODE RECAP

For whatever reason, many parents tend to shy away from talking to their kids about money. Whether it’s because you’re embarrassed by your past money-making decisions or simply haven’t carved out time to explain just what a mortgage is, money talk is pretty low on the list of priorities.

If you want your child to grow up to be a financially responsible adult, however, it’s time to start talking to your kids today. Lee Jenkins says the talk should happen as early as four or five years old.

You might be asking yourself, “My kid’s too young for that, right?”

Lee says no. In fact, he shares a telltale sign your kids show if they’re ready to learn about finances and how to handle them responsibly: Place a dollar bill and a quarter in front of your child and ask them which one they want. If they choose the dollar, they likely understand its higher value and are ready to start a conversation.

How to teach financial responsibility in each phase

Financial responsibility doesn’t just happen, it has to be taught, Lee says.

For younger children, start making a habit of pointing out how much items cost. Give them money to purchase something they like, such as candy or a toy. They’ll likely see something else they want to buy, but you can remind them they only have enough to purchase one item.

During the middle school years, it’s important for them to realize there is no such thing as an unlimited supply of money. This is when you begin to explain to them the importance of earning, saving, and then spending. You can reinforce these ideas by giving them jobs around the house to earn their own money.

For high schoolers, Lee recommends every child this age gets a job so they can have an opportunity to manage their money on their own. At this point, Lee shares, parents need to share their personal financial journey — the good and the bad. Sharing both sides serves a purpose, despite your personal feelings.

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Money magnifies who we are. It brings out the best in us or the worst in us. – @leejenkinsgroup
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The desire for money is really a symptom of the problem. The problem is discontentment.
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Financial responsibility doesn’t just happen. You have to be trained. – @leejenkinsgroup
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Oct 26 2017

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Rank #5: PCL 83: How To Raise Self-Reliant Kids

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Lifetime Television’s, “America’s Supernanny,” Dr. Deborah Tillman, talks with host, Kristen Ivy, about the skills parents should nurture in their kids to help foster their self-reliance skills.

YOUR CUE

  • Let your kid lose. When our kids are younger, we think it’s cute to let them win games most of the time. Stop doing this. Your kid needs to know there are times they will win, and times they will lose. When your child loses while you’re around, you can help them process these emotions in a constructive, mature (for their age) way. If they don’t ever lose, they’ll always expect to win, which doesn’t happen in real life.
  • Let it go. Release the notion that perfection is right around the corner. It’s not. Allow your kids to do the tasks you want them to do on their own one day, even if it’s not done to your standards. They’re practicing, and practicing leads to growth. Allow your kids to be who they are while they’re learning.
  • Start a gratitude journal. We can think of hundreds of things we’ve done wrong in our lifetimes, but rarely do we celebrate the good things we’ve done. Dr. Tillman suggests parents start a gratitude journal and write down all the things you did well that day. She says when you reflect on the things you do well, you’re bound to repeat them.

EPISODE RECAP

It’s natural for parents to want to protect their children from harm, whether it be from physical, emotional, or relational pain. But too much protection can lead us to raising our kids in the opposite way we truly desire, and if left unchecked, an abundance of protection can cause a lack of self confidence and an inability to handle adversity in our kids.

Dr. Deborah Tillman, a child development and parent educator, and Lifetime’s “America’s Supernanny” has seen countless cases where parents thought they were being a good parent by overly cushioning their children’s fall (even she says she fell victim to this with her now 25-year-old son). She strongly discourages this, in fact, she says parents should let their children fail more. When a child does something on their own, even if they fail, it’s a chance for them to learn and grow.

Now, for the perfectionist parent, this advice will likely cause a mild spasm of some kind—the age-old adage, “If you want something done right, do it yourself,” is a motto most perfectionists live by. Do it to your own detriment, Dr. Tillman warns. Many times, your kids’ growth starts with an inward look at yourself and some self reflection on why you view parenthood the way you do and if that view is indeed what’s best for your child.

Today’s episode is full of helpful—and at times, convicting—advice to help you better parent your child and increase their self reliance. Tune in!

Got a particular question about parenthood or grandparenthood that’s been particularly mind boggling? We want to hear it! Click here.

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A Perfect Pet for Peyton: A 5 Love Languages Discovery Book

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“Self-reliant kids are responsible, can problem solve, and can independently think.” @DeborahLTillman
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“We can show our children the way, but we must allow them to be who they are created to be.” @DeborahLTillman
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It’s easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Frederick Douglass
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Time to a child is spelled, “L-O-V-E.”  —@DeborahLTillman
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Sep 13 2018

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Rank #6: PCL 59: How To Talk To Your Younger Child

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Sarah Jensen, founder and educator of KIPP Memphis Preparatory Elementary School, shares her insight on how to effectively and supportively communicate with younger children in today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast.

YOUR CUE

  • Remember your kids are learning in every moment. You’ve had your chance to learn and form your own opinions, now it’s their turn. Your kid has only been on this planet for a few months, so they’re processing absolutely every experience. Give them the space to explore.
  • Take a step back and put yourself in their world. You might think you have the answer to the current problem, but your answer is likely one of many alternatives. Get on your kid’s level and try to see the experience from their view. In this way, you honor their feelings and they feel heard and supported.
  • Experience everything with your child. Instead of focusing on doing things for your child, try doing things with him or her instead. Be curious about them and play with them. Try to meet them where they are as much as possible.

EPISODE RECAP

Trying to communicate with your toddler or preschool-aged child often feels like running full speed into a brick wall, backing up, and doing it all over again. You want so desperately for them to understand the feelings they’re experiencing aren’t that big of a deal, but in the end, your kid’s even more frustrated and you find yourself looking at the clock wishing it was bedtime already.

What if we told you there was a way to not only communicate with your young child but also eliminate some of the frustration that comes along with getting through to them? You only need a few tools in your parenting arsenal to tackle this mission and the main one? Changing your perspective.

Managing your expectations

The way Sarah Jensen, founder and educator of KIPP Memphis Preparatory Elementary School, talks to and understands kids is nothing short of magical. She says the key to not losing your mind while trying to better communicate with your kid is to remind yourself they’re learning in every moment. It’s easy for parents to forget our children have only been on the planet for a few months, so they’re bound to react in a way we deem unnecessary. Instead, we should change our expectations of them.

And what about those times when our kid flings themselves to the floor in a fit of rage in the middle of Target and your reaction to their tantrum is more #parentingfail than #parentgoals? Sarah says we should look at these reactions from our kids as a good sign — they’re communicating with us (albeit loudly), which we should view as healthy and constructive.

Also in this episode, Sarah gives tips on how to communicate effectively while maintaining discipline, what common mistakes parents make when communicating with their kids, and how to build your child’s vocabulary so you can understand each other better. Tune in!

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KIPP Memphis Preparatory Elementary

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QUOTES IN THIS EPISODE

Kids are brand new social beings who are learning in every moment.
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For a child, your voice will likely become their inner dialogue.
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“The way you speak to them is the way they’ll learn to talk to themselves, the way they’ll learn to talk to their future partner, the way they’ll talk to their best friend, and it’s the way they’ll make a friend.” —Sarah Jensen

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Feb 01 2018

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Rank #7: PCL 49: How To Pass On Big Faith To Our Kids

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Louie Giglio, pastor of Passion City Church in Atlanta, GA, joins us on today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live Podcast to talk about how parents can share a big faith in a big God with their kids.

YOUR CUE

  • Focus on one big idea for the month to reinforce your faith in God. Invite your children into the process of something you’ve been bringing to God. Pray together and talk about ways God is working on that big idea or challenge.
  • Be in awe of God. Your children are watching and learning by the things you do. Show them your wonder of God and how big He is.

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EPISODE RECAP

As Christian parents, we often have an added sense of weight on our shoulders in the upbringing of our children. Not only do we have to worry about our kids’ mental, physical, and emotional development, we also have the added challenge of nurturing the growth of our children’s faith. Overwhelming, right?

But Louie Giglio challenges us to think about this responsibility from a new angle: Instead of focusing on educating your children on the vastness of God, why not show them instead?

Kids rarely remember what their parents teach them, but they hardly forget what they see their parents do. It’s the tiny moments kids observe in the lives of their parents, Louie says, that will matter most to them as they grow older. Your challenge now is to show them your awe of the bigness of God right where you are — whether you’re in the carpool line or in your home office.

Living out our faith as parents, the good and the bad parts, will reinforce in our children that perfect parents on Earth don’t exist, but we have a perfect Father Who sees them, Who knows them, and Who desires to have a personal relationship with them.

To help grow kids’ faith and bridge the gap between God and science, Louie has written a devotional, Indescribable: 100 Devotions For Kids About God And Science. The book combines two of Louie’s popular messages, “Indescribable” and “How Great Is Our God” to reveal the the majesty of God’s creation with scientific findings, photos, and illustrations. We’ll be giving away one copy of the devotional to one lucky winner. Head over to our Instagram account to learn how to enter!

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“The memory may be even more important than the lesson.” — @louiegiglio
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God is knowable. He’s approachable. He’s someone you can have a relationship with.
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“You don’t have big faith unless there’s a big God.” — @louiegiglio
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Nov 02 2017

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Rank #8: Best Of PCL: Six Gifts Every Kid Needs

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Reggie Joiner, founder and CEO of The reThink Group, joins hosts, Carlos Whittaker and Kristen Ivy, to talk about six gifts every child needs to feel loved, gain perspective, and be successful in today’s Best Of Parent Cue Live podcast episode.

YOUR CUE

  • Choose one way to love your kids better this week. You probably already do some of the six gifts mentioned, but there are likely areas where you can improve. Choose just one to focus on this week.
  • Make sure you prioritize joy in your house. Playing with your kids shows them you like them. Make sure to have some undistracted fun with them this week! You’ll increase your connection with them when you enjoy spending time with them in recreational companionship.
  • Find another adult you trust to speak into your child’s life. Depending on your kid’s age, you’re probably the last person they want to gain wisdom from. Find another adult you trust to speak the same wisdom you would to your child and ask them to be consistent in your child’s life.

EPISODE RECAP

Given the title of this podcast alone, you probably rolled your eyes thinking, “Great! Let me add six more things to the already growing list of things I’m not doing well as a parent.”

But before you click away from this podcast, let us ease your mind — you’re likely already doing some of these six things with your kids on a daily basis. With intentionality and consistency, you’ll start noticing positive changes in your kids week after week. Even more, these six things, over time, will prove time and time again to your children that they matter not only to you, but to God.

“Ultimately as a parent, we want you to know the ordinary things you do make a difference. You are making history,” Reggie Joiner shares.

The six gifts are:

  • Love
  • Words
  • Stories
  • Fun
  • Work
  • Tribes

To learn the details of how each one of these gifts will give your kids a sense of belonging, hope, and perspective, tune in to this week’s Best Of Parent Cue Live podcast episode!

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“The ordinary things you do make a difference. You are making history.” —@reggiejoiner
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“The more words you know, the bigger dreams you can imagine.” —@kristen_ivy
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“The words you speak to a kid shape the way they view themselves.” —@kristen_ivy
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“Kids don’t believe you like them if you don’t play with them” —@reggiejoiner
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Jul 12 2018

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Rank #9: PCL 58: Josh Lovelace On Young Folk

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Josh Lovelace, singer, songwriter, and keyboardist for rock band, NEEDTOBREATHE, discusses his debut album, Young Folk, on today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast.

YOUR CUE

  • Be present. Whether you’re a traveling musician like Josh, someone who works outside of the home during the day, or a stay-at-home parent who finds themselves distracted by technology or the day’s tasks, it’s important to be intentional — distraction-free — with the time you spend with your kids. Being present communicates to your children your desire to connect with them on a meaningful level and that the time you have with them is important to you.
  • Be honest. Kids can sense when you’re aren’t being completely honest with them. While it may be difficult, always choose honesty when talking to your kids — those instances are full of teachable moments they’ll carry with them well beyond the years they live inside your home.

EPISODE RECAP

When Josh Lovelace was searching for music he and his kids could enjoy together, he couldn’t find much. Where were the songs inspired by the folk influences he grew up listening to with his parents and grandparents?

Josh, keyboardist for Grammy-nominated rock band, NEEDTOBREATHE, has released his debut album, Young Folk. The album features 15 original songs Josh wrote with families in mind — the playlist is a collection of music that makes everyday activities more fun and musical, he shares.

An honest conversation through song

When Josh first started recording the music that now appears on the album, he didn’t write them with an album in mind. With two young kids, a four-year-old and a one-year-old, he wanted his kids to be able to hear his voice while he was on tour with the band.

What it turned into, Josh says, is an ongoing conversation between kids and the adults they look up to.

“I wanted it to be honest,” he says. “I didn’t necessarily want to come in and throw paint on the wall and write songs about anything. All of these songs came from organic spaces and organic times in my parenting.”

To find out more about the album, visit https://www.joshlovelacemusic.com/store.

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“Music paves a pathway inside of our hearts.” —@loswhit
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Jan 25 2018

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Rank #10: PCL 65: How To Recognize When Your Kid is In Crisis

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Dr. Chinwe Williams, a licensed professional counselor, shares ways to identify if your child is experiencing personal crisis on today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast. This will be part one in a two-part series.

YOUR CUE

  • Take your kid’s shift in mood seriously. Our experiences are all different and it’s easy for parents to dismiss their kids’ feelings because whatever they’re upset about seems trivial in the scheme of life. Don’t do this. Your kid’s feelings are very real to them. Talk to them and seek help if the change in behavior persists.
  • Seek support. Having a child struggling with a tough time or mental health issues is difficult to bear for a parent. Find people you trust to confide in who will encourage you and give you sound advice. There is a long road ahead and you’ll need all the support you can get.
  • Therapy doesn’t have to be expensive. The cost might often deter you from seeking counseling. Many companies offer different types of employee assistance programs where the first few counseling sessions are free. Also, do your research — many counselors do pro bono work, making it that much easier to talk to someone.

EPISODE RECAP

Being a parent means you’re no stranger to your kids’ fluctuating moods. Whether they’re a toddler who has just discovered the magical word, “no,” or a teenager who spends more time in angst and sullenness than not, moodiness and kids of all ages seems to go hand in hand.

But parents should be mindful of what’s normal for their kid versus if they’re experiencing a behavior that is out of the ordinary —while your child might appear as if they’re functioning on the outside, their world may be crumbling on the inside.

How do I know if my kid is in a crisis?

Dr. Chinwé Williams, a licensed professional counselor in Roswell, Ga., describes a crisis as any psychological, environmental, or social shift that your kid may have trouble coping with. They may react externally or internally, and for each child, their personal crisis is different.

Parents often miss the signs their child may be experiencing inner turmoil, chalking it up to them simply being a kid. But according to statistics, depression is on the rise amongst kids of all ages and often goes unaddressed and untreated.

The first step in identifying whether your child is experiencing a crisis is simple: Be a student of your child. Get to know them, especially their moods. If their mood and behavior changes, such as separation anxiety and becoming withdrawn from activities they enjoyed in the past, and if it persists for two weeks or more, this is a clear sign something bigger is going on and that you need outside help, whether from a pediatrician, youth pastor, or counselor.

Tune into today’s episode to learn specific signs of crisis based on specific phases in your child’s life and stay tuned for next week’s continuation of this important and timely topic.

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Any sort of distress or crisis comes from psychological, environmental, or social components. Every child will be different. —@drcuwilliams
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When you’re stressed, support helps. —@drcuwilliams
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Mar 15 2018

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Rank #11: PCL 82: Bridging the Gap Between the Home and the Classroom

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Host Carlos Whittaker and former Overall Teacher of the Year of Fulton County Schools, Pamela Padak, talk together about how parents and teachers can partner together to strengthen their relationship for the sake of their students.

YOUR CUE

  • Ask your students questions. The best way to engage your child is to ask open-ended, clarifying questions about their day. Their answers will not only give you insight into what happened when you were apart from each other, but will also give you something to talk about with their teacher.
  • Read what teachers send home. Teachers send emails so parents can keep up to date on what’s happening with their student. Read this! Not only will it keep you in the loop and decrease teacher frustration, but it’ll also allow you to have a more rich conversation with your kid about their school life.
  • Give teachers feedback. As parents, we’re quick to send feedback when something goes wrong. But how often do we send feedback when things go well? Send a quick email or text to your child’s teacher telling them how much you appreciate something small they did this week in your child’s classroom. They’ll be appreciative!

EPISODE RECAP

Here’s the thing: There aren’t many people who will spend as much time with your kid than their teacher does. With that in mind, it pays to have a positive relationship with the person who will be pouring so many hours into our children when they’re not in our care.

It’s not uncommon, however, for there to be tension between teachers and parents. Parents often find themselves frustrated by the amount of homework sent home (I mean, come on! Don’t they know how many sports practices my kid has each week?). Teacher sometimes get annoyed when parents aren’t as engaged as they’d like them to be (Would it kill you to open and read the emails we send?). There’s often miscommunication on both sides, leading to mutual frustration that don’t benefit the student.

So we were happy to sit down and talk to Pamela Padak, teacher-turned-assistant-vice-principal, who knows all too well the benefit of a healthy, functional relationship between parent and teacher. Voted Overall Teacher of the Year of Atlanta, Ga.’s Fulton County Schools during the 2012-2013 school year, Pamela shares ways parents can stay engaged at school no matter how much time they have, how to build a relationship with teachers by simply sending an email, and how parents can build positive connections with their kids. Tune in to this week’s episode and let us know what you think!

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Sep 06 2018

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Rank #12: PCL 71: How to Teach Your Kids Patience in an Impatient World

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Founder and CEO of The reThink Group, Reggie Joiner, joins hosts Kristen Ivy and Carlos Whittaker to talk about the importance of teaching your kids patience despite the fast-paced, instant gratification society we live in today.

YOUR CUE

  • Be in the moment. Pause intentionally with your family. Limit distractions and give your family your undivided attention. During family time, everything else can wait.
  • Become aware of your pace. In our fast-paced world, you often feel like you have to keep up with the rapid pace just to stay afloat. Notice your speed and then deliberately slow down. It might feel strange to do so, but remember, you’re leading your children by example. They need to see the power in the slowness.
  • Understand the best things in life take time. Try not to fast forward through the hard phases — they’re there for a reason.

EPISODE RECAP

Impatience permeates our very existence in today’s age. From microwaveable meals to Amazon Prime (or even better, Amazon Prime Now!) to the ability to binge-watch our favorite shows all in one sitting, we are conditioned to get what we want right now.

As instant gratification not only becomes expected, but demanded, anxiety, depression, and the overall feeling like something is missing also continues to increase amongst adults and kids alike.

Patience leads to a fulfilling life

There’s a fundamental belief that if we can just get what we need faster, we’ll be happier,” says Kristen Ivy in today’s episode.

But here’s the thing that everyone knows, but tends to forget: The best things in life take time.

This is a difficult concept to teach our kids when we’re so impatient ourselves as parents. We often want to rush through the hard parts — like when our newborn still wakes up every two to three hours throughout the night — to the good parts that await on the other side of the struggle.

But if we don’t teach them the value of waiting, our kids can miss out on the richness of life.

Listen to today’s episode to learn how your impatience may be robbing your kids of essential life skills, how a lesson in patience is right outside your front door, and how to start living out patience right now as a family.

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Apr 26 2018

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Rank #13: PCL 56: How To Parent Annoying Kids

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Josh Shipp, award-winning teen expert featured on MTV, CNN, and in The New York TImes, shares honest, helpful tips on how to parent effectively through some of your kids’ most annoying traits.

YOUR CUE

  • Make an honest effort to see the annoying trait positively. It may be hard in the moment, but remember the trait that annoys you most now will likely be what will make them a successful teen and adult. Pause and remind yourself this trait serves a purpose.
  • Nurture the annoying traits. Create boundaries and opportunities for your kids to express these traits in a constructive way.
  • Empathize with parents who are going through the same thing. The best thing you can say to a parent who is annoyed with their child is, “I understand.” Provide some perspective on how their child’s behavior will serve them well in the future.

EPISODE RECAP

Sometimes, kids are annoying.

Admitting that fact doesn’t make you a bad parent, but an honest one. Although you love your kids immensely, it’s difficult not to get overly frustrated and react when they’re pushing buttons you didn’t even know you had. On good days, you’re able to keep your eyerolls and sharp responses inside your head, but on bad days . . . well, we all have them.

Josh Shipp, a father to an eight-year-old son and six-year-old daughter, is all too familiar with annoying kid traits. His son is unbelievably persistent and his daughter is bossy and stubborn. He finds himself regularly annoyed with their behaviors.

But what if instead of getting angered by our kids’ behaviors, we look at them as traits that will help them grow into successful adults? In today’s episode, parents will learn:

Why it’s easy to empathize with a kid’s behavior if it’s similar to their own

  • How to see their kids’ annoying trait from a positive perspective
  • How to empathize with other parents
  • How to preserve annoying traits

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Annoying Traits  –  Strength in Disguise

Bossy  –  Leadership Defiant  –  Determined
Demanding  –  Assertive
Fearful  –  Thoughtful
Impulsive  –  Bold
Liar  –  Creative Writer
Loud  –  Confident
Manipulative  –  Negotiator
Mean  –  Powerful
Quiet  –  Learner
Stubborn  –  Persistent
Sensitive  –  Caring

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Jan 11 2018

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Rank #14: PCL 62: Why Teaching Your Kids Kindness Is Important

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Founder and CEO of Orange, Reggie Joiner, along with Greg Payne, a creative director at Orange, and podcast host, Kristen Ivy, talk about why teaching kindness to your kids helps them become happier and healthier in today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast.

YOUR CUE

  • Identify illustrations or stories in your family that demonstrate kindness. Your kids need to see kindness in action, both the giving and receiving ends. Talk openly about how someone was kind to you and think of ways to show kindness to others outside of your family.
  • Look for something kind to do for someone and cue your kids to do something kind, too. As the old saying goes, “Practice makes perfect.” Each week, sit down as a family and plan out ways you can show kindness to other family members, friends, and complete strangers. Make showing kindness a habit for your kids through repetition.

EPISODE RECAP

Ask a parent at any given time what they’re thinking about and nine times out of 10, they’re usually mulling over some aspect of their kids’ development. While thinking about when your kid’s first steps will be taken or how their test scores rank according to state and national averages, there’s one aspect of your kid’s life you should be very intentional about: How your child values kindness.

Kindness doesn’t often land near the top of parents’ list of priorities, but it should be. According to research, showing kindness to others impacts positively the brain, the heart, general health, and has been proven to curb depression. Other research tells us people who practice kindness are 25 percent happier than those who don’t.

But even more, showing kindness can potentially change the world.Think about it: What would the world look like if Christians started treating everyone as if they believed they were created in the image of God?

In today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast, you’ll learn ways you can start cultivating kindness in your own family and what your kids have to lose if they don’t start making kindness a habit.

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“You don’t have to feel like being kind to act kind.” —Greg Payne [tweet this]

“The world would just be a different place if Christians would start treating everybody who breathes like they’re made in the image of God.” —Reggie Joiner [tweet this]

“If you want to raise healthy kids, teach them to be kind.” —Greg Payne [tweet this]

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Feb 22 2018

13mins

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Rank #15: PCL 93: When is the Right Time to Give My Kid a Cell Phone?

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Think preparedness over protection. Maintain the mindset that you’re preparing your child for technology versus protecting them from it. One day soon, your child will have free reign of technology without your guidance. You want to make sure your child is mature enough to handle that responsibility when they’re not with you. Have conversations with your kid about the good and bad sides of technology, and how its use (and overuse) can impact their lives..

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The truth is, our kids will never know a world without technology in it, and at the heart of this constantly connected, ever-evolving world is the cell phone.

For some of us, the idea of giving our kids a cell phone seems a ways off, but the time is coming faster than you think. These days, kids are getting phones earlier and earlier, and with busy school and extracurricular schedules, sometimes a cell phone seems to be the only way parents can keep everything together.

So this week, we’re talking specifically about cell phones and how to introduce them to your kids (And here’s a hint: You need a plan). When you give your kid a cell phone, everything changes and some important conversations need to be had in hopes your children handle this new responsibility with maturity. With a phone in their hands, our kids’ worlds instantly expand, letting in the good and not so good parts we’ve tried to shelter them from.

Today, we hear the wisdom of Kara Powell, executive director of Fuller Youth Institute, and Tom Shefchunas, a former coach, teacher, and principal who has worked with students for more than 20 years. Kara talks to listeners about her personal experience of when she and her husband gave their kids a cell phone, the boundaries they set around its use, and the good sides and downsides of introducing a new cell phone user into the family. Tom gives us his perspective on cell phones as a dad and someone who has led middle schoolers during the height of smartphone usage, how to prepare yourself as a parent as you enter this new phase, and signs to look for to know if your child is ready for the responsibility of a cell phone.

If you’re in the stage right now with your kids, you’ll want to take a listen to this week’s episode, and if you’re not quite there yet, grab your pen and notebook and get ready to take some notes — you’ll be here sooner than you think!

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Nov 29 2018

31mins

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Rank #16: PCL 94: Navigating the Dangers of Online Connection

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Write down one thing you fear about your kids and technology and one thing you’ll do to proactively combat that fear.

EPISODE RECAP

As much as we all enjoy the internet and can’t imagine our lives without it, as parents, we all feel a bit uneasy about it, too. With the world at our kids’ fingertips through the use of smartphones and other internet-based devices, sometimes, it feels like our hands are tied when it comes to protecting our kids from the dangers of the internet.

This is why today’s conversation is so important and so relevant — studies show suicide and depression among our teens is at an all-time high thanks to the pressures of social media and the feeling that they can’t quite measure up to the lives of others. And for parents of younger kids, you’re not exempt from the dangers either — internet access is exposing kids of all ages to things we got exposed to once we were well into adulthood.

So how do we protect our kids from the dangers that lurk online? Well, today’s guests share their insights on this very topic. Today, we’re joined by Titania Jordan, chief parent officer at Bark, an app that helps adults keep kids safe online across various social platforms; Dave Adamson, a photographer and social media and online pastor at North Point Community Church; and Kara Powell, executive director of Fuller Youth Institute

We’ve got to remember our kids are grappling with their identity, where they belong, and what their sense of purpose is. While social media gives positive answers to these three questions, it also answers them negatively, plummeting our kids’ self-worth and increasing their sense of self-doubt. Because social media and the internet are so easy to get addicted to, it’s not uncommon for our kids to become defined by technology.

There’s one thing today’s podcast guests all agree parents can do right now: Start having conversations with your kids about who they’re talking to online, what they’re seeing, how they’re responding to it all. Some of these conversations will be hard, but we want our kids to come to us first with the hard stuff, especially since their peers aren’t mature enough to handle the weightiness of tough situations.

For more insight, tune into this week’s episode, the final installment of our three-part technology series on the Parent Cue Live podcast!

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Dec 06 2018

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Rank #17: PCL 92: Technology Series: How to Navigate Healthy Online Engagement (Part 1)

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YOUR CUE

  • Have a direct conversation with your kids about technology. Ask them questions about what they think about what they’re viewing online and how it’s affecting their lives. Keep an open mind and remain judgment-free — we want our kids to share their thoughts instead of shutting down.

EPISODE RECAP

Let’s face it: As parents, we’re in way over our heads when it comes to technology and how to help our kids navigate it in a healthy way. Heck, we’re all trying to learn how to set some personal boundaries with technology for ourselves — how many nights this week did you spend aimlessly scrolling instead of getting to bed on time?

When we were our kids’ age, we didn’t have nearly as much access to technology — we had Super Mario Brothers and Sonic the Hedgehog on our Sega Game Gear, and if we were lucky, our parents would take us to our friend’s house if they achieved a higher level while playing the game. Now, there’s so much more to contend with: Our kids have the internet (cue ominous music). There’s so much they’re able to access right at their fingertips and if you think about it too long, it’s a little scary.

This is why today’s conversation is so important because there is so much at stake. According to research, technology is both speeding up our kids’ development while simultaneously slowing it down. Our kids are spending more time on websites and apps designed for adults, thus getting exposed to things way beyond their years, yet at the same time, are developing slower socially — because they’re so plugged in, they’re not learning social skills as fast.

First, we hear from Kara Powell, executive director of Fuller Youth Institute. A mother of three, Kara talks about how our kids are wrestling with three big questions: Who am I? Where do I fit? And what difference do I make? Answers to these questions are often shaped by technology and she discusses why boundaries with technology are important to establish with your family.

Next, we hear wisdom from Jelani Memory, CCO and co-founder of Circle Media, Inc., the company behind Circle with Disney, a device that helps parents enforce rules and restrictions on technology in their homes. Jelani, a father of six, helped create the device with his kids in mind — he wanted his kids to be able to get the most out of technology rather than getting the worst from it. He shares his ideas behind the concept and some common concerns parents have when it comes to their kids and technology.

Finally, we hear from speaker and entrepreneur, Matt McKee. A father of two, Matt challenges our way of thinking about technology: Instead of solely viewing technology as something to battle over with our kids, how about we see it as a means to help our kids express their creativity? Matt shares what it looks like to have a healthy relationship with technology and ways to approach a technology conversation with your kids at every phase.  

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Nov 21 2018

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Rank #18: PCL 88: What Every Son Needs to Hear from His Father

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  • Tell your son, “I love you.” This may seem a bit superfluous, especially if you’re the type to express your love often, but sometimes we all need a little reminder. Many parents of today were raised by fathers who didn’t hear they were loved very often, and habits are often passed down through the generations. This is the single most important thing your son needs to hear from you, so say it often. They need to know they are loved, respected, and cherished at all times.
  • Get to know your kids’ love language. It’s one thing to tell your kid you love them, and it’s another to show them. Take Gary Chapman’s “The Five Love Languages” quiz to determine how your son interprets love and act accordingly.
  • Parent in the small moments. Use meal times, car ride times, and bedtimes to pour into your son emotionally, asking questions and speaking truth over their lives. As your son gets older, the moments of heartfelt conversations may be few and far in between, so use these moments to get in some quality time.

EPISODE RECAP


Everyone needs a hero, and for boys—especially those who are middle school aged—their dad has the potential to be their greatest hero of all, guiding and shaping the way they will ultimately view manhood.

If this sounds like a heavy responsibility, it’s because it is—the middle school years have proven quite critical, especially for boys on the horizon of manhood. They’re asking serious questions about their identity and forming bonds with others who will ultimately play a part in who they will become. But it’s also a time when boys at this age begin talking less and creating more distance between themselves and their parents. So what’s a parent to do?

Express love

Nick Salyers is a co-founder of Champion Tribes. This is a program that equips fathers with the necessary tools they need to position themselves as not only their son’s most trusted ally but to also include a group of trusted mentors to guide sons along their journey toward manhood.

Though Nick isn’t a dad, he is the product of an intentional father, David, who leaned into their relationship even further when Nick was 12 years old. Now 24, Nick shares some of the moments that stick out to him most and discusses the lasting impact those moments left on him even through adulthood.

Many fathers today can’t remember a time when their own fathers told them or showed them how much they meant to them. But that’s what’s missing, Nick says. We need more fathers today who will continuously remind their sons of their love for them. If fathers start a new trend in this way, Nick explains, fathers can tap into their potential to shape the next generations to come.

You don’t want to miss this important episode. In it, Nick shares just how important mentors are to the process of raising boys, why rites of passage should be extended to the transition from boyhood to manhood, and the exact thing every son should hear from his dad. And as a special treat, we’re giving away a Champion Tribes program to one lucky listener!

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Oct 25 2018

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Rank #19: PCL 67: How to Help Your Kids Resolve Conflict

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Founder and CEO of The reThink Group, Reggie Joiner, joins hosts Kristen Ivy and Carlos Whittaker to discuss how to help kids resolve conflict properly in today’s episode of the Parent Cue Live podcast.

YOUR CUE

  • Talk about difficult issues in a non-confrontational setting. Sometimes tough conversations are better received when they’re not happening in a formal setting. Create a moment or environment to have this conversation during a car ride, a bike ride, or a hike.Write it down. Encourage your kids to write down what they’re thinking, especially if they’re not very verbal. Sometimes kids (and adults, too) find it easier to express themselves in ways other than talking.Learn to ask the right kinds of questions. The right kinds of questions give your child the freedom to express themselves. Asking questions such as, “What did I do to make you feel that way?” and “Are there things you wish were different that we can work on together?” show you are considering their feelings.

EPISODE RECAP

As much as we’d like to enclose our kids in a protective bubble and keep them away from all conflict, the reality is, we can’t do that. Conflict is a very real part of life and it’s something kids experience quite early.

As parents, it’s our responsibility to equip our kids with the life skills to handle life’s challenges properly. One of the most important lessons we can teach our kids, then, is how to resolve conflict well. If you think about it, poor conflict resolution is at the heart of many adult issues. If we teach our kids to resolve conflict in a peaceful way now, we could help them avoid some big heartache later on.

The important key to conflict resolution

Before we go any further, know one thing: Conflict is healthy. Now, most of us might cringe at the thought of something so uncomfortable being healthy based on our past experiences, however, it’s important for you to embrace this idea when approaching the topic with kids.

Now that we’ve embraced the healthiness of conflict, let’s dive right in: How in the world are we supposed to help our kids handle conflict well?

The first step is teaching our kids how to listen. There’s an old phrase that says, “We have two ears and just one mouth for a reason.”

“The power of listening could be a key in how we resolve conflict and that’s going to be learned first at home with a parent,” Reggie Joiner says.

Intentional listening is what parents should aim for. This means you’re not formulating a rebuttal in your mind when your kid is talking, but truly listening to them instead. If your child is having trouble expressing himself or herself, maybe that’s a cue that you need to switch up the environment, having the important conversation during a car ride or a hike, or ask them to express their feelings through writing or drawing a picture (for younger kids). When your child feels heard by you, you are creating a safe space for them to keep the conversation going.

Tune into the podcast to hear even more helpful tips and pieces of wisdom about conflict resolution from Reggie, Kristen Ivy, and Carlos Whittaker.

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Mar 29 2018

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Rank #20: PCL 90: Does Church Really Matter for Your Family?

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There are five things Reggie Joiner shares in today’s podcast that parents can do to be more intentional at home — meet people, add experiences, prioritize time, identify needs, and talk together (MAP IT). Today’s CUE is simple: Download the free printable that asks you one question related to one of these five areas to help you be a more intentional parent this year.

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EPISODE RECAP

We’ve all had seasons in our lives where we just didn’t feel the desire to go to church. Whether you had a church experience that left a bad taste in your mouth or you had a time in your life when you felt confused about God and whether or not He had any real purpose in your life, times will come when you question the importance of church.

We get it. We also aren’t in a position to judge — all of us on the Parent Cue podcast team have felt this way at one time or another.

But as parents who have been raised in church or who got introduced to church later in life, we’re preoccupied with a lot of things when it comes to our kids, and their faith is a big one on our lists. You might be wondering whether or not church is relevant to your family.

You and the local church

Ask any parent if they think they have this whole parenthood thing down and most will respond with an emphatic, “Absolutely not!” This generation of parents are some of the most lonely, stressed, and overwhelmed, often asking themselves questions such as, “Is my kid doing OK? Am I doing OK as a parent?” A Google search does nothing to quell their sense of hopelessness and often, parents don’t know where to turn for help.

The Church used to be that place. And the Church can be that place still.

But it seems like the Church’s reputation is only getting worse — a quick search on the Internet yields all kinds of cringeworthy results that seem to drive a wedge between the church and the community its meant to serve.

If done correctly, the church in your community can serve as one of your greatest parenting resources. Parenthood was never meant to be done alone — not only do our kids need positive adult relationships (outside of their parents), but us parents need that community, too.

With the help of the Church, parents can learn how to use everyday moments to be more intentional with their kids, building them up to be successful adults. Together with the Church, parents can be more intentional at home by:

Meeting people.
Adding experiences.
Prioritizing time.
Identifying the needs of their kids.
Talking together.

Wondering how you’ll ever remember all of these things? Just remember the acronym MAP IT. MAP IT helps us take the focus off the things we can’t control and put our focus back on the things we can.

Tune in to today’s podcast to hear more wisdom about the MAP IT areas and how you can better serve your children with the help of your local church.

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Nov 07 2018

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