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Turn the embers of a distant and lonely relationship into a blazing emotionally intimate connection.Are you tired of conflict? Do you dream of a secure and peaceful relationship?Welcome to Relationship Psych, The Podcast. The goal is to teach you to create a strong and connected relationship, that withstands the test of time. Each week I share stories, practical strategies, and have inspiring conversations with guests to help you get and keep the relationship you and your partner dream of. Let's find out how to avoid relationship disaster and become relationship masters.

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Turn the embers of a distant and lonely relationship into a blazing emotionally intimate connection.Are you tired of conflict? Do you dream of a secure and peaceful relationship?Welcome to Relationship Psych, The Podcast. The goal is to teach you to create a strong and connected relationship, that withstands the test of time. Each week I share stories, practical strategies, and have inspiring conversations with guests to help you get and keep the relationship you and your partner dream of. Let's find out how to avoid relationship disaster and become relationship masters.

90. Why Couples Fight

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When couples are fighting, they say things like:

I would like to feel more connected to my partner
I want to feel understood by my partner
I’m unheard and getting resentful
I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff
I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight
We struggle to find a resolution
Tools to improve your communication and prevent fights

If you want more help on how to improve your communication, check out my self-paced course for couples, Communication Cures.  Click the link to learn more. 

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures

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Sep 20 2022

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89. Emotional Intimacy with Dr. Wyatt Fisher

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Do you want a deeper connection with your partner? Maybe your relationship started out with a close emotionally intimate connection, or maybe you’ve never had it but would really like it. In either case you’re in luck. In this episode Dr. Wyatt Fisher gives practical tools on how to create emotional intimacy in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss:

- what is emotional intimacy?

- what gets in the way of emotional intimacy?

- what to do if these things don’t feel natural or organic?

- what makes you feel more emotionally close to your partner?

- what are 3 things someone could do today to start developing a more emotionally intimate connection with their partner?

- the head heart intervention

- the bullseye intervention

Where to find Dr. Wyatt Fisher

https://www.drwyattfisher.com/pages/marriage-podcast-marriage-steps

https://www.instagram.com/marriage_drwyatt/

https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage_drwyatt

https://www.facebook.com/marriagedrwyatt

https://www.youtube.com/c/MarriageDrWyattShow



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Sep 06 2022

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88. Building Meaningful Relationships with Tamara Henningham

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If you’ve wanted to build a deeper connection in your relationship, feel safe with your partner, and repair past hurts, this is the podcast for you.


In this episode we discuss:

· How to prevent damaging your relationship

· Why ask yourself “is this helpful?”

· The difference between impact and intention

· How to repair your relationship after a rupture

· The importance of loving your partner the way they want to be loved

· How to increase safety in your relationship

· Why you will make mistakes in your relationship and why bother being willing to change

· Why friendship is important in long-term love

· How to deepen the friendship with your spouse


To find Tamara

IG: @h.associates https://www.instagram.com/h.associates/?hl=en

Website: https://hnapractice.com/


About Tamara:

Tamara is a healthy relationship therapist that covers the spectrum of relationships from individuals, to families to couples. All areas of our lives require us to have the tools to navigate the different types of relationships not just romantic ones. Repairing the unhealthy dynamics in her own family, she has definitely learned a thing or two about relationship repair and rebuilding, along with the importance of meaningful connection.


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Aug 23 2022

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87. 6 Signs You’re Compatible with Your Partner

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If you’re in a romantic relationship and found yourself wondering “are we compatible?”, “is love enough?”, or “what if we don’t have chemistry?”, this episode will help you understand the difference between compatibility and chemistry. It will also give you a framework to evaluate if you and your partner have enough in common to be compatible, with or without chemistry.

In this episode I discuss:

· The difference between chemistry and compatibility in a relationship

· Neurotransmitters involved in chemistry

· Why love isn’t enough

· 6 components of compatibility in a relationship


This episode is for informational purposes only.

Aug 09 2022

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86. When Pornography Becomes a Problem with Wendy Maltz

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Have you ever wondered “why would my partner rather watch porn than be with me?”, or maybe you’ve started to think your pornography use is becoming excessive and aren’t sure how to stop? If you relate to either of these things, this podcast is worth a listen. 


In this podcast we discuss:

Factors leading to compulsive pornography use

The impact of pornography of relationships

What to do if you think you may have a problem with pornography

Tips to make quitting pornography easier

Healing as a couple after betrayal 


Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized psychotherapist, sex therapist, and expert on healthy sexuality and sexual recovery. 


This podcast is for informational purposes only. 

Jul 19 2022

47mins

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85. How to have deeper conversations with your spouse

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What to do to feel closer, have a deeper connection and have conversations that can go on for hours.


FREE GUIDE the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet

This is a conversation guide with 36 questions designed to help you and your partner deepen your connection through conversation.


https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet

Click the link to get the free guide.


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Jul 05 2022

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84. 6 Common Relationship Problems with Isabella Gondek

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In this podcast we cover the top 6 reasons relationships fall apart. Listen up to gain insight on what to watch out for and repair so you can keep your relationship healthy and connected.


In this episode we cover:

· The ideal ratio of positives and negatives in a relationship

· How negative interactions breed more negative interactions

· What leads to emotional withdrawal

· What happens when you fail to accept influence from your partner

· The difference between negative and positive sentiment override

· How to make repair attempts


Isabella Gondek is a Registered Psychotherapist, and is Level 3 Gottman Trained. For more about her therapy services, you can contact her here: https://stradwickclinic.ca/contact/


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Jun 21 2022

44mins

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83. 2 Common Communication Struggles

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If you’re like me, you probably went to school for 12 years, but never learned a key skill for connection and belonging – communication.

Many of my clients tell me they struggle to

· share how they feel because they fear their partner will be defensive.

· Stay level headed enough to understand the other person’s point of view

· Clearly communicate their needs

· Feel like their partner cares about their needs

Do you relate?

In this podcast, we will cover some of the answers to these questions, 2 communication struggles, and 3 tips for better communication.

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Jun 07 2022

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82. How to Have Connecting Conversations with Dr. Jessica Higgins

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In this powerful episode, we cover communication strategies to help you connect with the person you love when you’re hurt, how to avoid criticism, and give you practical tools to help you convey your upsets in a way your partner is likely to hear.

No one gets into a relationship to have blowout fights with their partner. In this episode, we cover what is beneath the conflicts you and your partner have, and how to communicate so you feel safe and heard by one another.


Other topics covered include:

How to stop cycles of disconnection

What attachment means

How attachment impacts conflict

How childhood impact our attachment

How childhood experiences affect our deep love relationships

What gets activated when we get upset in relationships

How criticism hurts relationships

How criticism hurts conversations

How to talk about your hurts without criticism

Prompts to help you figure out what is upsetting you

How to understand conflict patterns in relationships

How to set up a heart-to-heart conversation

To get Dr. Jessica Higgins’ FREE GUIDE on criticism here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication

Dr. Jessica Higgins’ website https://drjessicahiggins.com/

Empowered Relationship Podcast https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/


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May 24 2022

57mins

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81. Betrayal Trauma with Liz Lacy

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This episode is the follow up to episode 73: How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz Lacy.
Betrayal Trauma is the impact that happens when there have been repeated betrayals in multiple ways by your partner. It is a “harsh violation of trust by someone you depend on.” This episode is all about what Betrayal Trauma is, the impact of betrayal trauma, and working through betrayal trauma as a couple.
In this episode we cover
-what betrayal trauma is
-how betrayal trauma is different than the trauma from an affair
-what the symptoms of betrayal trauma are
-what to consider when you’re wondering if you should stay or go after being betrayed
-the signs your partner is headed toward change
-how to help the betrayed partner feel safer
- the difference between an affair and a compulsion
- common mistakes therapists make in dealing with betrayal trauma with out-of-control sexual behavior
- what to tell the children after betrayal trauma

Liz Lacey website https://elizabethlacy.com/

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May 10 2022

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80. 6 Signs It’s Safe to Trust Your Partner

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Relationships require you to let down your armor and expose your heart.
Much of the time it doesn’t feel safe to take down your armor.
That could be because…
· You’ve been betrayed by your current partner in the past
· A past partner has broken your trust
· Or you grew up in a family where trust was nonexistent and you have never known how.
If you know you want a love that feels both safe and free, this is the episode to help you determine if you have a partner that can help you get there.
In this episode we cover 6 signs it is safe to trust your partner and other topics like…
· Warning flags that you should not trust someone
· Why trust might be hard for you
· Signs it’s safe to trust your partner again after betrayal
· The benefits of trusting someone
· Gottman’s research on trust

There is a free guide that outlines the 6 signs to trust your partner, and an exercise to help you evaluate if they are trustworthy. Download the free guide here:
https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/6-Signs-Its-Safe-to-Trust-Your-Partner

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Apr 26 2022

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79: Attachment Styles and Building a Happy Relationship with Stan Tatkin

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In this episode, Stan covers the basics of attachment, the neurobiology of connection, and practical strategies to create a safe and long-lasting love.
We cover:
· How attachment develops
· How attachment impacts future relationships
· What attachment has to do with safety and security
· What autonomy has to do with attachment
· Why people cling
· How come people feel not enough or insignificant
· Why you can be securely attached and free in relationships
· What secure functioning is
· How to build secure attachment in your relationship
· Why love isn’t enough in relationships
· Why creating a joint purpose in a relationship matters
· How you can change your attachment style

Stan Tatkin – the PACT institute https://www.thepactinstitute.com/
Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/?hl=en
@drstantatkin
Stan’s books https://www.thepactinstitute.com/books

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To have secure attachment is freedom

Apr 12 2022

49mins

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78. 3 Tips for Peaceful Conversations

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No one wants to feel disconnected, misunderstood or alone with the person they love the most.

Have you ever noticed you and your partner?

· Have blowout fights when all you wanted to do was share what was in your heart?

· Can’t stop interrupting each other because you have different views?

· Are afraid to share how you really feel and think in case it pushes your partner away or causes a fight?

No one wants to feel this way with the person they love the most.

I remember the early days of the relationship with my husband. I loved him so much but were had a lot of conflicts. And because of that – we worried we were incompatible.

We both had to make some changes so we could bridge the communication gap in our relationship.

Here are the 3 biggest mindset shifts I had to make to have a better connection with my husband.

1. Remember why you got together in the first place.

2. Tolerate different views

3. Repair


If you found this helpful, but you know you need a little more help with your communication so you and your partner can have more peace and get back to loving each other, check out my blog.

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/blog


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Mar 29 2022

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77. Strategies for Better Communication with Nancy Evan and Scott Aaron.

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Strategies for Better Communication with Nancy Evan and Scott Aaron. 

In this episode do a deep dive into what Nancy and Scott do to nurture their friendship and keep the lines of communication open. 

Whether your relationship is struggling because you feel like you’re disconnected, don’t know what to talk about anymore, or struggle to hear what your partner is telling you, there is a nugget of gold in this episode for you. 

In this episode we cover:

- Communicating the hard things before they bubble over

- The use of conversation cards keeps conversations flowing

- How to balance running a business together and being a couple

- Why they don’t yell at each other

- How to work together as a team 


To learn more about the online course Communication Cures click here: https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures


Nancy- https://www.instagram.com/thebyobagency/?hl=en @thebyobagency

Scott- https://www.instagram.com/scottaaronlinkedin/?hl=en @scottaaron 

Website- https://www.thetimetogrow.com/


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Mar 15 2022

56mins

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76. How Taking Responsibility Led to Deep & Authentic Love with John Romaniello

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Today John is in a loving relationship where he can be his authentic self… but that isn’t how his story started. 
In this episode, John shares how he put himself back together after a failed marriage, what he healed in therapy, how to own his sexuality, how he took responsibility for his mistakes, and how to let in deep and powerful love. 
John shares the secrets to what is he does differently in his current relationship that keeps the spark of passion alive. 
Whether you are wondering how to overcome the fear of abandonment, gain comfort with your own sexuality, take accountability for past behavior, be honest with yourself, or how to fall in love after loss, this episode will have a golden nugget that likely applies to you. 

In this episode we discuss:
Healing from divorce
Being honest with yourself
Overcoming fear of abandonment
Understanding your sexual needs
Taking accountability for bad behavior 
Falling in love 
What it’s like to find safety in romantic relationships 
The impact of getting reassurance from your partner
Why to give your partner words of affirmation 
Communication
Repairing the relationship after breaking rules

Great quote
“Better communication is on the other side of a mistake”

John Romaniello Instagram https://www.instagram.com/johnromaniello/?hl=en or @ johnromaniello
website https://johnromaniello.com/ 

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Mar 01 2022

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75. 3 Reasons You Should Care About Fighting Fair

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Do you want to stop feeling disrespected and unheard in conversations with your partner?
Whether it’s repeat disagreements about your in-laws, sexual intimacy, different personal goals, preferences in housecleaning or the budget, I know it can make your heart pound, your face hot, and your jaw clench.
In this episode, we talk about why bother fighting fair. We cover the impact of destructive conflict, the desire to be heard and understood, and how to prevent things from getting worse. A key idea we talk about is being willing to fight fairly. Because before you can fight fair, you have to be willing to try.
Do you have beliefs about conflict that get in way of changing? I know I did. Listen up to hear what they were and how come I changed them.
If you know you want some help fighting fair, and you need a strategy, get on the waiting list for the online course Communication Cures. Registration will be open for a week at the start of March. By joining the waiting list, you will also get $100 off the regular price.
The link to join the waiting list.
https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/communication-cures-waiting-list-2022

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Feb 15 2022

12mins

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74. Goal setting – More than New Years Resolutions

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If you want to have clarity and purpose in 2022 and feel confident that you can achieve your goals this year, then this episode is for you.

Do you relate to this?

· Have you ever had your soul whisper to you about something you might like to achieve in the new year?

· You started off the new year working towards a goal, but as the days passed by you lost your motivation, or maybe

· You feel spread thin like you have too many goals, too much to achieve, and you look at your year and wonder how on earth you are going to get it all done.


If you relate to any of these or all 3, listen up. We are going to talk about 3 tips to set goals you feel confident can achieve.

If you want more help with goal setting, check out the FREE video series, Goals Guide.

You get 3 videos to help you discover your big picture values, get clear on what you really want, set meaningful goals, and make a realistic plan to achieve them.


Click here to get GOALS GUIDE. 


https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/goalsguidesignup


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Feb 01 2022

9mins

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73. How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz Lacy

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Understand how sexuality drives us, how our sexuality becomes problematic or even addictive. In this episode, we especially look at what leads to problematic sexual behaviors, compulsive sexual behaviors or addiction.

Topics covered include:
● What is the role of attachment and sexuality?
● When do sexual intimacy problems develop?
● How can attachment heal sexual intimacy problems?
● How to change sexually compulsive behaviors?
● What happens to children sexually when their emotional needs are not met?
● What is sex addiction?
● How to determine the difference between infidelity and sexual addiction.
● How partners typically react when learning about their partner’s problematic sexual behavior.
● How the pandemic and COVID may have led to situations for someone to be unfaithful.
● What gets in the way of changing compulsive sexual behavior?

Elizabeth (Liz) Lacy is a licensed clinical social worker, advanced certified schema therapist, trainer, clinical supervisor, member of the Sexuality Attachment and Trauma Network in NYC and trains internationally on addictions. She has been working in sexual addictions and personality disorders since the mid-1990s.

Liz Lacy website: http://www.elizabethlacy.com/
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Dec 14 2021

48mins

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72. How to know if you’re compatible

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When couples are feeling unseen, unheard, resentful or unloved they commonly wonder if they are compatible.


In this episode, we cover 4 key ideas to consider when you are thinking about your compatibility.

1. Do you have the same beliefs and values about what a relationship is?

2. Are you facing a deal-breaker?

3. Are you willing to learn how to do conflict together?

4. Are you willing to accept/tolerate your partner’s flaws?


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Dec 07 2021

13mins

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71. Lightening the Mental Load with Elizabeth Earnshaw

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In this episode we are bringing to light the hidden mental load that exists in relationships. Whether it’s remembering doctor’s appointments, booking the dog in for it’s vaccines, or cleaning up the kitchen, there is a way to restore fairness and respect in your relationship.

· How to work better as a team.

· What mental load is in a relationship.

· Tips to explain mental load to your partner.

· How mental load could be impacting your relationship.

· How to ask for what you need without blaming your partner.

· What it takes to make your relationship fairer.

· That willingness is key to making your relationship work.

· Why it is important to change, even if, you partner doesn’t change first.


Tag a friend in the tile of Liz and I and be entered to win 1 of 6 books.

@emberrelationshippsychology https://www.instagram.com/emberrelationshippsychology/?hl=en


Liz’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/?hl=en


Book I Want This to Work https://www.amazon.com/Want-This-Work-Navigating-Relationship/dp/1683647955


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Nov 30 2021

49mins

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I miss the old content

By Briva0309 - May 21 2020
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I’m pretty bummed that you took down all your dieting content. I found your podcast and really fell in love with all the advice. I understand that you are trying to rebrand and exploring different avenues but can you at least make the old content available?

What happened to yo-yo dieting?

By bbritt - May 15 2020
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Why are all the episodes from the breaking up with yo-yo dieting podcast gone? That is the podcast I subscribe to and loved. If you wanted to stop making them that’s fine, but at least leave them up instead of deleting them all and starting on a new topic that I’m not interested in. Your old podcast really helped me and now it’s all gone.