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Do you worry that your child isn't eating enough...or is eating too much?Do you wish they would eat a more balanced diet...but don't want to be the Vegetable Police?Do you find yourself in constant negotiations over your child's favorite snacks?You're not alone!Join me for a conversation with Ellyn Satter MS, MSSW, author of many books including Child of Mine: Feeding With Love and Good Sense. Ms. Satter developed the approach to feeding children that's known as Division of Responsibility, which means that the parent is responsible for the what, when, and where of eating, and the child is responsible for whether and how much.It all sounds pretty simple, but when you're actually navigating eating with your child it can seem a whole lot more complicated: Should we worry about our child's eating in the long term if they won't eat vegetables now? Should we restrict access to children's food? What should we do about picky eating?Ms. Satter helps us to understand her ideas on these important questions and much more.In the conversation we discussed some questions that you can answer to identify whether you are what Ms. Satter defines as Eating Competent:Do you agree or disagree with these statements? I enjoy food and I am comfortable with my enjoyment of food and I take an interest in unfamiliar food. I eat as much as I am hungry for. I plan for feeding myself. Agreeing with these statements indicates you are likely Eating Competent. Disagreeing means you are missing out on eating as one of life’s great pleasures and putting up with a lot of unnecessary misery. Do you have to be miserable to eat well and be healthy? Not at all. People who are Eating Competent eat better and are healthier: they weigh less, have better medical tests, and function better, emotionally and socially.
5: [Repost] What does healthy really mean? with Jennifer Harris, RDN, LD, CEDRD of the Ellyn Satter Institute
The Full Bloom Podcast - body-positive parenting for a more embodied and inclusive next generation
Jennifer Harris of the Ellyn Satter Institute helps us understand why healthy has more to do with how we feed our children than what we feed them. We discuss the evidence-based Satter feeding dynamics models, how to build eating competence in our kids, what parents vs. children are responsible for when it comes to mealtime, and the value of family meals. Get our ABC Guide to Body-Positive Parenting. Read the full show notes here.
2:30 - The Importance of Family Mealtime with Carol Danaher of the Ellyn Satter Institute
The Family Culture Movement
Carol Danaher is Board President and Faculty at the Ellyn Satter Institute. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist with a Master in Public Health from Johns Hopkins. She co-founded the Childhood Feeding Collaborative, of Santa Clara County, CA, creating partnerships and training in feeding dynamics for pediatric service providers of all kinds. Carol worked at the national level at the United States Department of Agriculture evaluating child nutrition programs. She consults with childcare programs helping them design and establish positive feeding policies and environments. She is an experienced educator. Volunteer work in the 1970s in Jakarta, Indonesia led to her interest in Public Health. Carol was a Girl Scout leader for 12 years. Carol has two married child, and a toddler aged grand daughter. Ellyn Satter has established an understanding of the "Division of Responsibility" when it comes to feeding our children: Parents' role: WHAT, WHEN, WHERE to eat. Child's role: IF, and HOW MUCH to eat. Competent eating has to do with our ability to listen to our bodies' needs, perceiving satiety (fullness), and appetite. Social cues, or parents dictating whether a child should eat certain food, and how much, creates a power struggle. This pressure creates a dissonance between the parent-child relationship, and the child's capacity for eating competence. Most issues arise from either the parent or child taking over the other's role. When parents apply too much pressure, or when children are allowed to decide what and when to eat, there is confusion in the roles that make eating competence for effective. Families who eat together three to five times a week, regardless of what meal or what is being served, have been shown to be more resilient, and have a myriad of other benefits. Carol referred to a study done by Columbia University on the influence of family meals on adults likelihood toward substance abuse. And if you do a google search of the importance of family meal time, you will find lots of support! Here are a few references from the Ellyn Satter Institute site: "Not all family meals are perfect; eat together anyway" "How long should my child stay at the table" "Everybody does better with family meals" "Getting started with family meals" The definition of a family meal is just four key elements: People sit down and face each other the same food is offered everyone the conversation is pleasant no media distractions Meals can be breakfast, take-out meals, anything that meets these four criteria. Meals need to reflect your family's needs, be regularly spaced, and regulated by parents. In the Ellyn Satter model, foods are not labeled good or bad. Sweets and treats are neutralized as neither good nor bad. Parents limit the amount of sweets allowed during a meal, and allow them occasionally without labeling them or rationalizing. It's ok to let our kids eat their holiday treats for the first couple of days! Check out an article on Halloween candy: "The sticky topic of Halloween candy" Kids will outgrow the desire to binge on treats when they are a non-issue. Tune in to this episode for even more tips and tools. Where to Find Ellyn Satter Institute ellynsatterinstitute.org Facebook Instagram Ellyn Satter Institute Webinars (Particularly, the "ABCs of Child Feeding") Join the Family Success Toolkit Free Membership http://homeandfamilyculture.com
The Relational Dynamics of Feeding Your Child with Ellyn Satter
Safe Space Radio
This episode of Safe Space Radio features nutritionist and family therapist Ellyn Satter talking about the feeding relationship between parent and child. Ellyn describes what she calls “Division of Responsibility,” wherein the parent is in charge of the when, where and what of a meal and the child is responsible for the how much and ...read more » The post The Relational Dynamics of Feeding Your Child with Ellyn Satter appeared first on Safe Space Radio.
Interview with Ellyn Satter, registered dietician and author of Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense about starting solid foods.This book was a guide and comfort to my family when we started solid foods, and I hope you'll enjoy the interview. Ellyn answered some of my questions and a number that came from readers. You can listen to the podcast with the player below, or download it for free at the Motherwear iTunes store (available soon). Download Ellyn_Satter.mp3 (29261.4K) Want to get email updates from the Motherwear Breastfeeding Blog? Subscribe here. Want an RSS feed? Click here.