Heartrepreneur® Radio | Episode 230 | An Orgasmic Life With Xanet Pailet
Do you ever think about how the most private and intimate parts of your life affect everything on the outside? It’s often neglected by many people but sexual fulfillment plays such a huge component in the way we’re fulfilled in other aspects of our lives, but it’s time to be more conscious of it. Joining Terri Levine is Xanet Pailet, the bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure. Xanet and Terri discuss the role that sexual fulfillment plays outside the bedroom: in the boardroom and beyond. Let Xanet and Terri’s conversation help you shift the way you think about sex! Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join Heartrepreneur® Radio community today: heartrepreneur.com Heartrepreneur® Radio Facebook Terri Levine Twitter Terri Levine Instagram Heartrepreneur® Radio Pinterest Terri Levine YouTube Terri Levin LinkedIn
In this episode we chat with author, sex coach and Sexological Bodyworker Xanet Pailet all about sexless marriages and relationships. How common is it (hint - it's more common than you may think)? What are the signs that someone may be heading towards a sexless relationship? Why is this happening? What can partners do to keep the fire burning? Xanet Pailet, best selling author of the new book, Living an Orgasmic Life, is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach. She believes that pleasure is our birthright and is passionate about helping folks find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. She works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women and men who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their desire and sexuality. She offers 1:1 coaching and online group programs to empower women around their sexuality and strengthen couples’ relationship and intimacy skills. Learn more at powerofpleasure.com Some other links we chat about: Come to our June 29th, 2019 workshop at Diamond Adult World, Grover Beach Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com Learn more about sexological bodywork with River Drosera at riverdrosera.life
In this episode, Xanet Pailet talks with Bill about recovering from sexless marriages and challenges with sex in long-term relationships. Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. She is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach. Pailet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. Xanet Pailet works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women who have experienced abuse and trauma.
Xanet Pailet is a former New York City health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy coach, writer, blogger, and teacher. She works with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills.Xanet is a certified Somatica® Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatica Experiencing Trauma Practitioner. She is on the faculty of the Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute. She lives in Marin County, CA. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Brides, Sex with Emily, SheKnows, and Elephant Journal. Her website is www.powerofpleasure.com.
Are you a woman that finds it difficult to enjoy sex because it is painful physically or emotionally? You may find it challenging to ignite the sexual desire within yourself because of past sexual abuse, trauma, shame, body image issues, physical wounds or fear of intimacy. This can lead many women to living a life that is void of orgasms and frankly zero pleasure in the bedroom. They many even justify this terrible situation as a fact of life for them because they simply have a broken vagina. Some may even go as far as turning this unfortunate lack of pleasure into a positive saying things like “at least I don’t have to sleep in the wet spot very much or since I don’t think about sex my mind is free to think about other things”. I appreciate anyone finding the silver lining in a bad situation but you can live a life full of orgasms. There are tools and advice to help women awaken their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido. If you are living in a sexless relationship and think sex is just a waste of time because it’s too painful, keep listening because we have the guest for you. Our guest today, Xanet Pailet, is a recovered New York City health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full time sex and intimacy coach, writer, blogger, and teacher. She works with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills. Through her work, and the many tools that she offers, she helps them reclaim their pleasure and transform their relationships and their lives. Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, and Tantra Educator. She channeled all of this knowledge into the amazing book “Living an Orgasmic Life, Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure” to help as many people as possible. If you are living a non-orgasmic life and you feel that your broken vagina is beyond all repair, do yourself the biggest favor you could ever do and read this book. Don’t give up on your vagina just yet. This book will change your world! Before you run to Amazon and buy “Living an Orgasmic Life” we have the author herself on our podcast right now for you. So sit back and enjoy learning more about Xanet Pailet and why she is an expert on helping women discover and rediscover the pleasure of sex. www.powerofpleasure.com
Xanet Pailet and Sharifah Hardie interview Xanet Pailet is the best selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure. Xanet is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach. Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. Xanet works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality. Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. She is on the faculty of 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute, and the Somatica Institute Visit Xanet at: https://powerofpleasure.com/ To watch more interviews, to be a guest or for sponsorship opportunities visit: AskSharifah.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sharifah-hardie/support
Leading Edge Love - Xanet Pailet, Sex & Intimacy Educator, Coach and Author.
Leading Edge Love
Tuesdays, 9 pm Eastern, 6 pm Pacific: "Leading Edge Love," host Sumati Sparks:This week, her guest is Xanet Pailet, Sex & Intimacy Educator, Coach & Author (https://powerofpleasure.com/).Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach, (www.SumatiSparks.com) offers coaching sessions via video conferencing, telephone or in person in the San Francisco Bay Area.SUMATI WORKS WITH:• Professional Married Men & Women who have little or no intimacy in their long-term relationship.• Single or Divorced People who do not wish to have another traditional relationship.• Couples who want to successfully open their relationship.• Singles & Couples who don’t know where to find other polyamorous people to meet & date.• Heterosexual as well as Queer, Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgender, Intersex & Questioning Persons.COMMON CHALLENGES HER CLIENT'S FACE:• Frustrated and fed up with the loss of vitality that comes from being in a relationship with no intimacy.• Feeling like their partner would never go for it.• Confused, nervous and a little scared about how to open their relationship.• No idea where to meet other polyamorous people to potentially date.• Eager and hopeful but want to do it right.WHAT SHE DOES FOR HER CLIENTS:• Get CLEAR about what they want.• PREPARE to ask their partner for it, then SPEAK THEIR TRUTH.• CREATE the relationship of their wildest dreams.• Have FUN in the process.HOW SUMATI SERVES HER CLIENTS:With her signature program called: ADDING MORE LOVE, PASSION & JOY!
The Erotic Awakening Podcast is about BDSM, Sex & Sexuality, Polyamory, Kink, Sacred Sexuality, and more! This week on the Erotic Awakening Podcast we talk with author Xanet Pailet on bringing sexy back to sexless relationships! Plus they share some seriously geeky fantasies! Don't miss an episode! Click below to subscribe
#26 Discover Your Sexual Blueprint and Learn How To Enjoy Sex More With Xanet Pailet
The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice
On the show today we welcome Xanet Pailet, tantra educator, sex coach, and author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is here tell us all about her work and how accessing your sexual blueprint and core erotic themes can guide you to a more fulfilling sex life and transform your whole world. We discuss Xanet’s own journey and the events in her life that led up to her current vocation before launching into some examples of the difficulties that people can have accessing and communicating their sexual needs. We talk about lowered libido, sexless marriages, shame and how these relate to our early development and socialization. Xanet gives great insight into simple ways to approach these sensitive subjects and shows just what a difference these measures can make. We finish off the chat thinking about some pragmatic solutions to these issues and ways in which individuals and partners can make progress in this regard. Highlights Some of Xanet’s personal and professional background. The experiences that contributed to her pursuing a career in sexual therapy. An anecdote showing the damage an unspoken desire can do to a relationship. Some of the reasons for sexless marriages and lowered libido. The issue of shame and socialization related to pleasure. An example of the crippling effects of shame on our bodies. Core Erotic Themes and our underlying sexual emotions. How to go about communicating sensitive needs or fantasies. Using games or apps to start the process of communication. Redefining sexuality and finding ways around tricky needs. Explaining Attachment Theory and it’s different formulations. And much more! Tweetables “I think most women have never really had continuous great sex. I know that’s a big statement to make but I think it’s really true.” [0:08:35.9] “And I think that is what people really need to understand and to realize is that they really need to look at sex in a much, much wider spectrum than what we currently talk about it as.” [0:27:21.6] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode Xanet Pailet — https://www.ecstaticliving.com/teachers/xanet-pailet Power of Pleasure — https://powerofpleasure.com/ Living an Orgasmic Life — https://www.amazon.com/Living-Orgasmic-Life-Yourself-Pleasure-ebook/dp/B07BWKTWVT/ OkCupid — https://www.okcupid.com/ Jack Morin — https://www.linkedin.com/in/jack-morin-ph-d-0824851a The Erotic Mind — https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment-ebook/dp/B009YJYEKK MojoUpgrade — http://mojoupgrade.com/ John Bowlby — https://www.verywellmind.com/john-bowlby-biography-1907-1990-2795514
Xanet Pailet was in a marriage with zero physical intimacy for more than 15 years. Most people don't go that long, but many do wait years before they openly address these issues; however, by then, permanent damage to the relationship may have already been done. Sexuality is a definitive part of the human experience, and when it's not working, it's one of the top reasons couples split. So what's going wrong? Past trauma, self-esteem issues, guilt, shame, and a general lack of communication all contribute to the complexity of physical intimacy, so it's not surprising most people avoid the issue, if possible. Who wants to open up that Pandora's box? On this week's show, Xanet will share her insights and expertise based on both her personal experience and decades of coaching others. Listen & Learn: How a sexless relationship can harm your spirit and your life Why abstinence is a ridiculous idea, even in spiritual traditions Why the definition of 'sex' should be broadened to include many different ways of connecting on an intimate level How to navigate the challenges of modern pornography Links & Resources: Xanet's Website Living an Orgasm (book) ABOUT THE GUEST Xanet Pailet is a certified tantra educator, sexological body worker, and somatica-trained sex coach, who has worked in the therapeutic field for more than 25 years. She's the author of the book Living an Orgasmic Life, available on Amazon, as well as on her website. Nutritional Tip of the Week: Fish Oil Got Questions? Send me a voicemail here: Ask Lucas a Question Or write to us: firstname.lastname@example.org Like the Show? Leave us a Review on iTunes Thanks to our sponsor: Molekule has completely reinvented the air purifier. From the inside out, Molekule has reimagined what clean air ought to look and feel like—unobtrusive, portable, and 100% effective. Visit: MOLEKULE and use coupon code “Lucas” for $75 off your first order. Learn More