148. Oren Jay Sofer – Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach To Nonviolent Communication
School for Good Living Podcasts
Oren Jay Sofer is a long-time mindfulness teacher, coach, and author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach To Nonviolent Communication. Oren has spent many years studying and practicing Buddhism, Yoga, and Mindfulness. He has since used those skills to lead trainings in various companies on a wide range of mindfulness topics. Oren joins … Continue reading "148. Oren Jay Sofer – Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach To Nonviolent Communication"The post 148. Oren Jay Sofer – Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach To Nonviolent Communication first appeared on School for Good Living Podcasts.
How To Master Non-Violent Communication, with Oren Jay Sofer
Explorer's Mind Podcast
Our guest today is Oren Jay Sofer a Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and non-violent communication teacher, and author. In this episode, we talk about his journey with meditation and mindfulness, how can we communicate to create deeper understanding and connection, and the three steps to have better and more meaningful relationships. To learn more about Oren and his journey, visit: http://palmamichel.com/explorersmind36/ Resources Mentioned In The Show: http://www.orenjaysofer.com/ Oren Jay Sofer´s Up-coming Donation-based course on Non-Violent Communication Oren Jay Sofer - Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication Oren Jay Sofer - Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents His LinkedIn Living Fearlessly With Change And Uncertainty Course On RoundGlass Palma’s course on Expert Academy Palma Michel - The Authority Guide to Mindful Leadership www.palmamichel.com firstname.lastname@example.org Continue Your Journey Now it is time to find your own unique path. We can help you to connect with your innate wisdom and create an inspiring vision for a deeply fulfilling and meaningful life. Apply for a discovery session on our website, palmamichel.com. Learn to meditate with Palma on the MUSE brain-sensing device and receive a 15% discount (will be shown at checkout only) with this link! Thank You Thank you for joining us on this journey of the Explorer’s Mind Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, there are a few things we would be very grateful for if you would do right now: SUBSCRIBE to the Explorer’s Mind Podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts Please RATE & REVIEW and let us know what inspired you in this episode Finally, we invite you to JOIN the Explorer’s Mind Facebook Group and continue the conversation Please share this episode with someone you think would be inspired by it. Until next time, We truly appreciate you listening and look forward to continuing this journey together.
Speak Up Now and Say What You Mean | Oren Jay Sofer
Have you ever thought about walking a balance beam, or a gyroscope, or a tightrope walker? One is continually thrown off balance, but is every time instantly hit with the need to readjust and maintain poise. Equanimity is just that- the practice of balancing one’s mind to contain and open up to pain and discomfort while tuning it to revert to calmness. In a moving episode today, Traci is joined by Oren Jay Sofer, founder and Guiding Teacher of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online course focused on bringing the tools of meditation to daily life, and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare. He is also the author of the book “Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication”, and has created mindfulness programs for a number of organizations, companies, and apps. Growing up with a mentally ill-family member, Oren was faced with the obligation to stay pretentious of his feelings and needs. And when things started falling apart in multiple ways, Oren turned to meditation and spirituality. Listen in as Oren expounds on his directional journey learning from his Buddhist teachers in India, understanding pain, empathy, humanity and non-violent communication, and housing the deep well of pain inside ourselves while generating equanimity to stay from decentering our thoughts. Oren has also shared how important it is to be willing to hold discomfort- for if we are seeking to transform the society, then no part of our action should come out of control and reactivity. Understanding society for its diversity and disproportion, and sitting down to listen to each other could phenomenally transform our relationships with people. We hope the power of Oren’s words reflect in each of your lives, and modulate all your thinking for the better! Episode Timeline: [00:09] Intro [00:58] Meet Oren Jay Sofer [03:32] Understanding Oren’s early life [08:11] How Oren was introduced to Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s works [16:20] How Oren sees the injustice happening around American culture today [12:34] Maintaining balance between the relationship and her business [21:04] Understanding the need to house discomfort [23:46] Understanding equanimity [27:19] Training ourselves to see beyond the surface perceptions and judgments [31:43] How to view differences and diversity [36:25] Oren’s advice for you [38:07] Outro Resources Mentioned: Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg: Non-Violent Communication Standout Quotes: “It's an awareness practice that helps us to transform the way we understand and relate to ourselves, other people and the world, through the lens of language and thought, and in many ways, it helps us to unlearn a lot of the socialization process that I was referring to earlier.” – Oren Jay Sofer [08:24] “My practice is finding enough nourishment in life through anything and everything, moments with my partner, my own meditation, practice gratitude to my teachers, the beauty and nature.” - Oren Jay Sofer [18:06] “If we can't be with our own discomfort, then there is a part of our action in our response that is coming out of reactivity and control.” - Oren Jay Sofer [21:52] “And part of being deeply in touch with life means opening to discomfort and pain because that's what it is to be human.” – Oren Jay Sofer [24:48] Connect: Find | Sidewalk Talk Podcast At sidewalk-talk.org On Instagram: @sidewalktalkorg On Twitter: @sidewalktalkorg Find | Traci Ruble At Traciruble.com On Instagram: @TraciRubleMFT On Twitter: @TraciRubleMFT On Facebook: @TraciRubleMFT Find | Oren Jay Sofer At orenjaysofer.com On Instagram: @orenjaysofer On Facebook: @OrenJaySofer On Twitter: @orenjaysofer On YouTube: @Oren Jay Sofer
Oren Jay Sofer - Nonviolent Communication, Behaviour vs Character, and “Lifting Up The Goodness”
How do we understand each other, especially when we disagree? This week, I sat down with one of the leaders in nonviolent communication, or NVC, Oren Jay Sofer. If you're unsure of what nonviolent communication actually is, you'll have a solid grasp after this! For Oren, language runs deep. It’s intimately connected to universal, fundamental human drives, social structures, and even our physicality. We chat about the basic framework of mindful and nonviolent communication, our current “attack based” online culture, and some of Oren’s personal journey and defining moments. Oren was an incredible guest. The word that came up for me was “sincere”. He’s incredibly well-read, intelligent, honest, and his desire to create a world where everyone is respected and in harmony rings clear in everything we spoke about that. Oren Jay Sofer teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and Nonviolent Communication nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and co-author of Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents. Oren is co-founder of Mindful Healthcare and the founder of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online program that helps meditators integrate their retreat experiences into daily life. Find him on social media @Orenjaysofer. Connect with Oren Website: www.orenjaysofer.com Latest books: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication Instagram: @orenjaysofer Facebook: facebook.com/orenjaysofer Twitter: twitter.com/orenjaysofer Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sometimes it's hard to say what you mean. Oren Jay Sofer says, "Communication is a learnable skill and it’s one of the most powerful levers for making change in your life and the world." Non-violent communication is about taking responsibility for what we are experiencing using empathy, deep listening, know how to make requests. Author and renowned meditation instructor Oren Jay Sofer regularly teaches a mindful approach to non-violent communication. spent two and a half years of living as an Anagarika (renunciate) at branch monasteries in the Ajahn Chah Thai Forest lineage. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness. Since the early 2000s, Oren has had a deep interest in the relationship between contemplative practice and communication. A graduate of the BayNVC North American Leadership Training, he has taught classes and workshops in Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (NVC) nationally since 2006. His innovative retreats and online programs in Mindful Communication offer one of the only opportunities in the U.S today to explore the intersection between formal meditation practice, Right Speech and NVC. Oren is the founder and Guiding Teacher of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online course focused on bringing the tools of meditation to daily life, and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare. Oren has created mindfulness programs for organizations, companies, and apps including Apple, Kaiser Permanente, Lumosity, Calm, 10% Happier, Simple Habit and others. I loved his book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In the book, a main theme is that every thought or feeling is there to try to meet a need. If you can try to figure out what need your thoughts are tied to, it's easier to articulate what you need to those around you. It's also useful when listening to someone in a disucssion or conflict to tease out what need they are trying to have met. I also enjoyed learning about conflict and viewing it as a way to deepen relationships. I also learned that non-violent communication and conflict resolution isn't necessarily to try to get someone to do things your way, it's about deepening understanding of one another because sometimes we simply can't agree to have the same viewpoint. Non-violent communication has a framework of observation, the feeling, the needs and values to be met, and the request. Three questions you can ask yourself are what happened, how do I feel about it, and why? I also loved learning about how to use mindfulness in listening and communication as well as how to ground yourself in your own body when tensions rise. Topics Discussed in the Podcast from childhood actor to meditation instructor 4 types of conflict avoidance self-empathy tools for internal pressure No mud, no lotus addressing the voiceless and gender constructs how to make requests of others Listen Now Resources Oren Jay Sofer's website Get Oren's book: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication ______ 2 Ways to Give Back to the Show __________ Don’t Miss an Episode: Subscribe!
Oren Jay Sofer on Meaning What You Say and Choosing Mindful Communication
Jump Start Your Joy
Oren Jay Sofer is a communication expert and mindfulness teacher at Spirit Rock in Woodacre, California. He recently wrote the book “Say What You Mean: A Nonviolent Approach to Communication,” and I’m delighted to have him as a guest on the podcast. In this look back episode episode, Oren and I talk about: -Mindful communication -That language is an inherited phenomenon -How to stop ruminating over anger when you are upset -The work of Marshall Rosenberg around non-violent communication -Active listening and how to build understanding in communication -His thoughts on how to Jump Start Your Joy: find ways to be kind and generous, attune to beauty, connect to meaning and purpose, and play more Read the full show notes on the website. Sign up for "Three Joyful Things" Newsletter on my website. Resources Say What You Mean: A Nonviolent Approach to Mindful Communication by Oren Jay Sofer (on Amazon) Oren Jay Sofer’s Website Sign up for Oren’s class that starts October 17, 2019 Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
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Buddha and Baseball with Don Lopez / Walking Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer
The Lion’s Roar Podcast
Big-league baseball is on hold thanks to the coronavirus but a new book by Dr. Don Lopez captures the feel of the game in Buddha Takes the Mound: Enlightenment in 9 Innings. Rod Meade Sperry talks to him about the book, which combines Lopez's love of both baseball and Buddhism. Then, a chance for fresh air: Oren Sofer shares a 10 minute guided walking meditation. Find more meditations from his website at OrenJaySofer.com.