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26 of The Best Podcast Episodes for Oren Jay Sofer. A collection of podcasts episodes with or about Oren Jay Sofer, often where they are interviewed.

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26 of The Best Podcast Episodes for Oren Jay Sofer. A collection of podcasts episodes with or about Oren Jay Sofer, often where they are interviewed.

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Oren Jay Sofer on Meaning What You Say and Choosing Mindful Communication

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Oren Jay Sofer is a communication expert and mindfulness teacher at Spirit Rock in Woodacre, California. He recently wrote the book “Say What You Mean: A Nonviolent Approach to Communication,” and I’m delighted to have him as a guest on the podcast.

In this look back episode episode, Oren and I talk about:

-Mindful communication

-That language is an inherited phenomenon

-How to stop ruminating over anger when you are upset

-The work of Marshall Rosenberg around non-violent communication

-Active listening and how to build understanding in communication

-His thoughts on how to Jump Start Your Joy: find ways to be kind and generous, attune to beauty, connect to meaning and purpose, and play more

Read the full show notes on the website.

Sign up for "Three Joyful Things" Newsletter on my website.


Say What You Mean: A Nonviolent Approach to Mindful Communication by Oren Jay Sofer (on Amazon)

Oren Jay Sofer’s Website

Sign up for Oren’s class that starts October 17, 2019

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

Sep 11 2020 · 1hr
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Ep. 42 – We White Men Have a Lot to Learn w/ Oren Jay Sofer

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Mindfulness and meditation teacher Oren Jay Sofer returns to the Road Home Podcast for a conversation with Ethan around what they as white men still have to learn about unseen bias and the roles they play in systemic injustice.

Jun 23 2020 · 1hr 5mins
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Buddha and Baseball with Don Lopez / Walking Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

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Big-league baseball is on hold thanks to the coronavirus but a new book by Dr. Don Lopez captures the feel of the game in Buddha Takes the Mound: Enlightenment in 9 Innings. Rod Meade Sperry talks to him about the book, which combines Lopez's love of both baseball and Buddhism. Then, a chance for fresh air: Oren Sofer shares a 10 minute guided walking meditation. Find more meditations from his website at

May 09 2020 · 22mins
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Oren Jay Sofer: Devotion: The Heart of Practice

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(Insight Meditation Society - Forest Refuge) Without a full heart the practice becomes rote, dry, and uninspired. Without the sacred, we lose our way in the world and misplace our heart's faith in things like money, success, and pleasure. The path invites us to tap into a deeper aspect of the heart/mind and live with a quality of reverence.
Apr 28 2020 · 49mins
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Oren Jay Sofer: Living from Moment to Moment: Reflection & Guided Meditation

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(Insight Meditation Society - Forest Refuge) A short reflection with instructions on samatha and vipassana practice (calming and insight), followed by a guided meditation.
Apr 27 2020 · 31mins
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Dharma in a Pandemic Era with Roshi Josh Bartok and Oren Jay Sofer

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Social distancing has become the new buzzword but it doesn’t mean you need to stop caring and communicating in a social way. Buddhadharma editor Tynette Deveaux talks to mindfulness teacher Oren Jay Sofer about how and why we can deepen our understanding of our relationship to ourselves, one another, and the world – an approach that the COVID-19 pandemic seems to urge us to take.  

Then, from Roshi Josh Bartok of the Greater Boston Zen Centre, a dedication to sentient beings (and even non-sentient beings) we depend on to help stop the spread of coronavirus. 

Apr 04 2020 · 53mins
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If you’ve ever wanted to communicate better than do we have the Say What You Mean show for you!

Today I’ll be talking with Oren Jay Sofer, retreat and workshop leader on mindful communication, a member of the Spirit Rock Teacher’s Council, and the author of a beautiful new book on mindfulness and non-violent communication skills, "Say What You Mean."

And that’s just what I want to talk with him about today, about how to find your voice, speak your truth and listen deeply.

Key Points Discussed:

  • What was Oren Jay Sofer’s early life like, and the trauma he experienced?
  • How did he turn to India and Buddhism?
  • What was Oren’s fascinating with language?
  • What did Oren learn from Thich Nhat Hanh?
  • What is Thich Nhat Hanh’s “right speech”?
  • What is non-violent communication?
  • How’d the idea to bring meditation to non-violent communication?
  • What is somatic experiencing?
  • Why does kindness often disappear in conversation?
  • What is mindful communication?
  • How does mindfulness give us back our lives?
  • How do we cultivate presence?
  • What can we learn from Godwin Samararatne about “where does it hurt”?
  • What’s the anacronym “WAIT stand for”?
  • What’s the importance of “space” in a conversation?
  • What’s the important of a pause and what does that mean?
  • What does kindness and compassion toward oneself mean for conversation?
  • What’s the zulu greeting Sawubona mean for us?
  • What’s the importance of consciously choosing our intention?
  • What can we learn from Daryl Davis about his communication with the KKK?
  • What’s enlightened self-interest and what’s its importance?
  • What’s the importance of curiosity and care?
  • What can we learn from Aikido teacher Terry Dobson about non-violent communication?
  • What’s the importance of being aware of our emotions?

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Jan 31 2020 · 1hr 17mins
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Say What You Mean...And Speak To Our Shared Dignity - Mindfully Communicating w/ Oren Jay Sofer | Ep. 56

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Happy 2020! The podcast is starting off the year with a very special interview on the transformative power of mindful communication. Truly listening, understanding, and speaking to what's really needed can make the humblest of interactions feel truly alive. And my discussion with Oren Jay Sofer, the subject's most definitive voice, was bursting with such aliveness at every moment. So many insights. So much value.

Oren Jay Sofer is also a very dynamic social servant. With a focus on teaching meditation and communication throughout the world, Oren is a member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council. He is also a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is the founder of Next Step Dharma and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare. He is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and co-author of Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents.

Recommended pairings: Intro to Non-Violent Communication (though here we get deeper into the mindfulness and Buddhist principles of this topic)

All of this is true:

As people, we have more in common than with others than aspects that separate us. If we pay attention, we can relate to anybody and understand our shared humanity.

Oren shares a three-step mindful communication technique that is an absolute top-tier service success (and basic survival!) tool: 1) Engage 2) De-escalate 3) Set limits. 

Everyone has a different recipe of disempowered conditioning that needs to be both honored and overcome so that we can find agency, empowerment, aliveness and freedom in your work and whole life experience. Sounds easy, but is a tall order because of the modern hypnosis of human value = their performance and worldly success.  Oren Tells us how to reclaim our innate value and dignity as people.

Someone’s criticism is a reflection of their own needs rather than an assault on your particular ego. Develop awareness of this and nothing seems as personal. (Wow, so actually take your own needs out of it? Well, kind of). 

The drive to “get things done” is a powerful one in people...but can be the source of untold tension. Oren tells us how to refine our relationship to “ticking boxes” so that we can remain present while we work and find joy in even the most mundane of tasks.

A powerful non-attachment principle allows you to simultaneously have powerful emotions and needs come up and come to peace with them without having to “scratch the itch” (especially when scratching such an itch can get you into trouble.

All Roads That Lead to Oren:

Upcoming “Say What You Mean” Course
Get his book: “Say What You Mean”
Instagram (@OrenJaySofer)

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Jan 02 2020 · 1hr 4mins
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Episode 319 :: Oren Jay Sofer :: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication

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Oren Jay Sofer joins us to speak about Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.
Oct 12 2019 ·
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How To Disagree - Oren Jay Sofer

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The communications trainer, meditation teacher and author talks about his history of stuffed anger and how he learned to use non-violent communication to better his life and relationships. They also discuss Somatic Experiencing for releasing trapped trauma from the body.  He is the author of the book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.   Oren’s website: The book: Twitter: Facebook: Instagram:   To participate in his guided meditations text "guided" to 44222  

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Oct 11 2019 · 1hr 39mins