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Tristan Taormino

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Ménage à What? Tristan Taormino on the Myth of Equality in Relationships

Feast of Fun: Gay Talk Show

How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness.We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life?As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?Tristan Taormino - Opening UpTristan Taormino, award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book “Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.”BUY THE BOOK: https://amzn.to/3ykpzBbTristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships.She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle “exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.”Tristan Taormino loves her FOF tSo how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy?Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn’t? Is coming out as polyamorous like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author Thomas Pynchon, so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools.

1hr 7mins

19 May 2021

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Butt Stuff, Role Playing, + The Ultimate Guide to Kink with Tristan Taormino

That Sex Chick

Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, filmmaker, the host of Sex Out Loud, and author of 8 books, including The Ultimate Guide to Kink. Today’s juicy and dynamic conversation is all about anal pleasure, kink, and BDSM. Tristan gives tips for exploring anal play, sheds light on the different types of kink, and gives insight into opening up to these different forms of sexual expression.Today on That Sex Chick:How Tristan began teaching & writing about sexTips and insights for anal sex (hint: there should never be pain)Normalizing prostate stimulation & massagingThe different forms of physical & psychological kinkHow to use nipple clamps!Where to start in exploring BDSM & kinkFollow Tristan:Instagram: @tristantaormino Twitter: @tristantaormino Website: tristantaormino.com Podcast: Sex Out LoudCheckout Tristan’s books hereConnect with Alexa:thatsexchick.com IG: @thatsexchick Click here to Own Your OrgasmThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

58mins

17 Feb 2021

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Tristan Taormino - Promotional Rescue Talk Show with Melanie Vesey

Promotional Rescue Talk Show with Melanie Vesey

In this episode, I talk with Sex Educator, Award-Winning Author, and host of Sex Out Loud Podcast, Tristan Taormino! We talk about how she took her newsletter list from 25 to 8000 people and how she got on and dealt with being on HOWARD STERN! PHEW!!  To support this show and get the full versions of audio and video, please visit https://www.patreon.com/melanievesey More info about Tristan Here -> http://tristantaormino.com/ To see More of Melanie Vesey visit her at https://www.MelanieVesey.com To Find Out More about Melanie's Biz as a Promotions Consultant visit https://www.PromotionalRescue.com Thanks for Listening and Share with a Friend that could use some Promotional Rescue!!--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/melanievesey/support

39mins

6 Jan 2021

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Ep. 10 Butt Stuff with Tristan Taormino

Honeydew Me

In this episode, we go deep with Tristan Taormino, sex educator, feminist author, and anal pleasure expert! We talk all about anal play, what you can stick up there (as well as what you can't), and POOP, because let's be real… aren't we all a little nervous about what might come out when something goes in? Tune in if you're curious about "taking the back road" OR if you're ready to learn some new tricks for when you're there! We also talk about: Myths and misconceptions Positions for anal play Butt plugs Prep Connect with Tristan: @tristantaormino on Instagram tristantaormino.com Sex Out Loud Podcast If you love us, check out: Honeydewmepodcast.com @honeydewmepodcast on Instagram Join our email list to receive our "10 Favorite (Sex) Things" download for FREE!

1hr 2mins

11 Nov 2020

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141: Doing Non-Monogamy Well – Tristan Taormino

Better Sex

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

52mins

8 Sep 2020

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141: Doing Non-Monogamy Well – Tristan Taormino

Business Innovators Radio

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

52mins

8 Sep 2020

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Basics of BDSM w/ Tristan Taormino | Ep 36

Sex Therapy with Dr. Jones

You’ve asked for it and now we’re going to give it to you! Special guest Tristan Taormino joins us to discuss BDSM. Dr. Jones responds to a listener who wants advice on how to end a relationship and we review the LELO Anniversary Collection BDSM kit.

49mins

24 Aug 2020

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Kink 101 with Author and Activist Tristan Taormino | S1:E8

Dear Sex

S1:E8 | July 16, 2020 | 45 min. Wendy talks to award-winning author, columnist, sex educator, speaker, media maker, and podcast host, Tristan Taormino. Wendy and Tristan discuss the liberation that comes from infusing your sex life with the fantasy of surrender. Listen in to learn how you can use your boundaries as a trustworthy guide while you explore kinkier sex. The pair also talk about how having breakthroughs in your sex life can manifest into deeper physical, erotic, psychological, and spiritual experiences.

45mins

23 Jul 2020

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117 - Tristan Taormino - Creating Shame-Free Inclusive Spaces with Sex Out Loud

Conversations with a Wounded Healer

“You've got to set up the dynamic, which is, we can talk about absolutely anything here. I'm not going to judge you. I'm not going to shame you. I can take it.” ~Tristan Taormino Sex episode! Sexpisode? You decide. Either way, educator, author, and media-maker Tristan Taormino talks about the joys of her DIY career and what she wishes therapists knew about sex.  From her first book, The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women (published waaay back in 1997) to her current podcast, Sex Out Loud, Tristan’s dedicated her life to creating shame-free, inclusive spaces where knowledge and straightforward advice flourish. She’s also a prolific maker of feminist porn and erotica and a champion of marginalized voices. She uses her various platforms to amplify the views of her LGBTQIA peers and other groups who are consistently excluded from the CIS male-dominated mainstream conversations around sex and pleasure.  Tristan’s gained plenty of cognitive insight into the client-therapist relationship. She’s participated in years of dialectic behavioural therapy (DBT) to address her own childhood traumas and in continued support of her severe depression. She’s witnessed firsthand how therapists’ inherent sexual biases or avoidance tactics inhibit authentic therapeutic conversations. She urges therapists to stop waiting for clients to lead on the subject of sex. With a little grace and a lot of sex-positive education, therapists can gain competencies that support their clients’ sexuality even if they themselves don’t fully embrace every kink or intimate desire on the spectrum.  *** Tristan Taormino is an award-winning sex educator, media maker, and speaker. She is the author of eight books and editor or co-editor of 25 anthologies. She keynotes, lectures, and teaches workshops around the world on sexual pleasure and health, relationships, and social justice. She is the host of the podcast Sex Out Loud. She is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program, and she runs a coaching and consulting business for sexuality professionals. For full show notes, guest information, and resources, visit: http://www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast Conversations with a Wounded Healer is a proud member of @mhnrnetwork. Let’s be friends! You can find me in the following places… Website: www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr/ https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy/ Instagram: @headhearttherapy Twitter: @WoundedHealr @HeadHeart_Chi

54mins

17 Jun 2020

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EP181 - Your Ultimate Guide for Anal Pleasure with Tristan Taormino

Sexology

Welcome to episode 181 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Tristan Taormino to the podcast. In this episode Tristan speaks with me about anal pleasure, how we can start our journeys into the world of anal play, recommendations on sex toys and understanding to not put pressure on yourself as you start this journey.   Tristan Taormino is a sex educator, media maker, and speaker. She is the author of eight books and editor of 25 anthologies including the award-winning The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and The Ultimate Guide to Kink. She keynotes, lectures, and teaches workshops around the world on sexual pleasure and health, relationships, and social justice. She is the host of the long-running podcast Sex Out Loud. She is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program, and she runs a coaching and consulting business for sexuality professionals.  In this episode, you will hear:  How can you introduce anal pleasure into your sexual life?   Exploring anal sex as a couple   The myths and misconceptions around anal sex   How anal sex can be more intense than vaginal sex   What does anal play involve?  Recommendations for the best anal sex toys to use   How to make anal sex non-painful   Understanding to not compare yourself to porn stars   Learning the best practices for anal   How to start your journey into the world of anal   The best ways to communicate you’re interested in anal sex to your partner  The importance to take your time and not put pressure on yourself   Find Tristan online  http://sexoutloudradio.com The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/ 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist Celebrating One Million Downloads  To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

33mins

16 Jun 2020

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