Ed McClune's guest appearances

Ed McClune

Life Check Yourself

The Hoffman Podcast

Anne Beaulieu

Terri Cole

Rick Hanson

Ron Ehrlich

Tamar Geller

Damona Hoffman

Marni Battista

Arielle Ford

Peter Walsh

Eboni K. Williams

Sheri Salata

Gary John Bishop

Elle Russ

Paige Smathers

Lisa Woodruff

OwlTail

Ed McClune, beloved Hoffman Process teacher and coach since, the ’80s, is our guest today. As Ed and Drew share at the end, this conversation is a good Hoffman geek-out.* Even though they geek out over all things Hoffman, Ed’s whole Quadrinity* shows up in this one. His love shines through as he speaks about the Process, and about how those who come to do this deeply transformational work are courageous heroes. Ed also shares a bit about how the Process now appears in his everyday life. He speaks to the reason he feels we come to this life – to enjoy life in a human body. Ed calls this the sensuality of spirituality. An entire swath of experience has been denied to us because of our patterns; the Process opens us back up to a truly luscious embodied life. MORE ABOUT ED McCLUNEEd &amp; BobEd holds a Master’s degree in counseling psychology from the University of San Francisco and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. What Ed likes about teaching the Process is: “Over and over again, through the years of teaching the Hoffman Process, I get to be present as people come into a greater experience of the Light that has always lived ‘far inside’ them.” “The summation of all the gifts of the Process comes down to self-love and self-compassion. I don’t need to be different, more refined, or successful to be lovable. The Light is the Light, and Ed is Ed. Falling down isn’t evidence that there’s something wrong with me, only evidence that I’m still alive.” Ed is the father of two sons and lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. MORE ABOUT THE SHOW * Geek out:  to become excited or enthusiastic about a favored subject or activity. First known use of geek out: circa 1990 * Quadrinity:  “I coined the word Quadrinity to represent the four aspects of a human being: the Emotional, Intellectual, Physical and Spiritual. The unique capacities and functions of each aspect can be considered separately, but it is the balance of all aspects working together harmoniously that fulfills us as human beings.” – Bob Hoffman Check out The Hoffman Connection, Hoffman’s radio show (2012) with Ed and Raz on Voice America.   https://media.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/content.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/Take_2_Drew_and_Ed_McClune_Podcast.mp3

Ed McClune, beloved <a href="https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/the-process/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Hoffman Process</a> teacher and coach since, the ’80s, is our guest today. As Ed and Drew share at the end, this conversation is a good Hoffman geek-out.* Even though they geek out over all things Hoffman, Ed’s whole Quadrinity* shows up in this one. His love shines through as he speaks about the Process, and about how those who come to do this deeply transformational work are courageous heroes. Ed also shares a bit about how the Process now appears in his everyday life. He speaks to the reason he feels we come to this life – to enjoy life in a human body. Ed calls this the sensuality of spirituality. An entire swath of experience has been denied to us because of our patterns; the Process opens us back up to a truly luscious embodied life. <h3>MORE ABOUT ED McCLUNE</h3>Ed &amp; Bob Ed holds a Master’s degree in counseling psychology from the University of San Francisco and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. What Ed likes about teaching the Process is: “Over and over again, through the years of teaching the Hoffman Process, I get to be present as people come into a greater experience of the Light that has always lived ‘far inside’ them.” “The summation of all the gifts of the Process comes down to self-love and self-compassion. I don’t need to be different, more refined, or successful to be lovable. The Light is the Light, and Ed is Ed. Falling down isn’t evidence that there’s something wrong with me, only evidence that I’m still alive.” Ed is the father of two sons and lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. <h3>MORE ABOUT THE SHOW</h3> * Geek out:  to become excited or enthusiastic about a favored subject or activity. First known use of geek out: circa 1990 * Quadrinity:  “I coined the word Quadrinity to represent the four aspects of a human being: the Emotional, Intellectual, Physical and Spiritual. The unique capacities and functions of each aspect can be considered separately, but it is the balance of all aspects working together harmoniously that fulfills us as human beings.” – Bob Hoffman Check out <a href="https://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2048/the-hoffman-connection" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Hoffman Connection</a>, Hoffman’s radio show (2012) with Ed and <a href="https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/podcast/episode-21-raz-ingrasci/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Raz</a> on Voice America. <a href="https://media.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/content.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/Take_2_Drew_and_Ed_McClune_Podcast.mp3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://media.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/content.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/Take_2_Drew_and_Ed_McClune_Podcast.mp3</a>

S3e10: Ed McClune – A Good Hoffman Geek Out

Marni welcomes Master Coach for the Hoffman Institute and Licenced Marriage and Family Counselor, Ed McClune into the Den. Ed is also the relationship therapist for Dating with Dignity’s one-year program. During this episode, he shares information about the physical effects of grief and how to keep a relationship healthy. Key takeaways from this episode:   The biggest challenges to overcome after a breakup Why women need to train their partners Why self-compassion is the key to healing How to learn from past relationship mistakes How to maintain dignity when dating    Dealing with the Pain of a Breakup [3:05]  When something we invest our heart in doesn't work out it hurts us emotionally and physiologically. For many of us, we marinate in pain for a long time. When we become impatient with the grieving process and don’t give ourselves the time we need to heal we add to the hurt. We spend a lot of time in the 'no one will ever love me again' story.  Ed says that it is easy and natural to make up a narrative about sadness. We create a ‘woe is me’ story, or we believe something is wrong with us. We wastefully spend a lot of time in the 'no one will ever love me again' story.  But, when we change our internal narrative we can move through the pain and gain a healthy lesson from past relationships. It’s a good idea to give grief time even schedule it. Why allow pain to bleed into your entire day? It’s healthy to allow sadness to flow through you but at a scheduled time so the body can heal itself.  Learning from our mistakes is what helps us to become a better offer to the next potential lover.   The Myth of the Good Queen [10:50]  Ed uses the analogy of the Good Queen to describe what doesn’t work in relationships. To be a good partner, we can’t just sit back in our thrones and let things come to us. We need to play an active role and train a man to be what we need him to be. He says that women often think that if a man loves them he will do ‘X’ but the guy probably needs to be trained to do it first. In general, a man just doesn't know. We come into relationships with different needs and skill levels. None of us are wrong or defective. There is so much pressure on a man to know what to do and how to take care of his partner. Men don't have any relationship education and there is no formula How responsible are women to train their guy? Marni asks Ed how a woman can take a leadership role without being masculine, bossy, or over-functioning.   Ed says women should own their dignity, beauty, and soulfulness and help their partners love them. Maturity in a relationship is key.  The right guy, the quality guy wants to know how to make you happy, not just in the bedroom but in the relationship.    Dating with Dignity [20:39] For the sake of maintaining your own dignity, if there is chemistry in a relationship but a guy is unwilling to step up and take responsibility for how a relationship is evolving women need to pull their hand away from the cookie jar and say chemistry is not enough. When you tire of surrendering your dignity to a recurring breakdown you have to say enough is enough.    Both people go in blind when starting to date. Trust and commitment must be built as we incrementally let the other person in. Partners have different talents and different skill levels. We date people to bring more into our lives. Every time we fall in love it happens with a ton of variables and as learners, we are going to get some things wrong.    A healthy relationship is one in which each partner is committed to their individual growth and the growth of the relationship.    Make a Connection: Visit Our Website Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here! Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here! Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP  Get a Free Coaching Session with Marni on Our Podcast - Sign up Here to Be a Guest On Our Show Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates Ed McClune at the Hoffman Institute

Marni welcomes Master Coach for the Hoffman Institute and Licenced Marriage and Family Counselor, Ed McClune into the Den. Ed is also the relationship therapist for Dating with Dignity’s one-year program. During this episode, he shares information about the physical effects of grief and how to keep a relationship healthy. Key takeaways from this episode:  <ul> <li>The biggest challenges to overcome after a breakup</li> <li>Why women need to train their partners</li> <li>Why self-compassion is the key to healing</li> <li>How to learn from past relationship mistakes</li> <li>How to maintain dignity when dating</li> </ul>   Dealing with the Pain of a Breakup [3:05]  When something we invest our heart in doesn't work out it hurts us emotionally and physiologically. For many of us, we marinate in pain for a long time. When we become impatient with the grieving process and don’t give ourselves the time we need to heal we add to the hurt. We spend a lot of time in the 'no one will ever love me again' story.  Ed says that it is easy and natural to make up a narrative about sadness. We create a ‘woe is me’ story, or we believe something is wrong with us. We wastefully spend a lot of time in the 'no one will ever love me again' story.  But, when we change our internal narrative we can move through the pain and gain a healthy lesson from past relationships. It’s a good idea to give grief time even schedule it. Why allow pain to bleed into your entire day? It’s healthy to allow sadness to flow through you but at a scheduled time so the body can heal itself.  Learning from our mistakes is what helps us to become a better offer to the next potential lover.   The Myth of the Good Queen [10:50]  Ed uses the analogy of the Good Queen to describe what doesn’t work in relationships. To be a good partner, we can’t just sit back in our thrones and let things come to us. We need to play an active role and train a man to be what we need him to be. He says that women often think that if a man loves them he will do ‘X’ but the guy probably needs to be trained to do it first. In general, a man just doesn't know. We come into relationships with different needs and skill levels. None of us are wrong or defective. There is so much pressure on a man to know what to do and how to take care of his partner. Men don't have any relationship education and there is no formula How responsible are women to train their guy? Marni asks Ed how a woman can take a leadership role without being masculine, bossy, or over-functioning.   Ed says women should own their dignity, beauty, and soulfulness and help their partners love them. Maturity in a relationship is key.  The right guy, the quality guy wants to know how to make you happy, not just in the bedroom but in the relationship.   Dating with Dignity [20:39] For the sake of maintaining your own dignity, if there is chemistry in a relationship but a guy is unwilling to step up and take responsibility for how a relationship is evolving women need to pull their hand away from the cookie jar and say chemistry is not enough. When you tire of surrendering your dignity to a recurring breakdown you have to say enough is enough.  Both people go in blind when starting to date. Trust and commitment must be built as we incrementally let the other person in. Partners have different talents and different skill levels. We date people to bring more into our lives. Every time we fall in love it happens with a ton of variables and as learners, we are going to get some things wrong.  A healthy relationship is one in which each partner is committed to their individual growth and the growth of the relationship. Make a Connection: <a href="http://datingwithdignity.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit Our Website</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/506287890073492/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here!</a> <a href="https://joinnow.live/s/phaC0j" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here!</a> Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at <a href="http://dwdvip.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">DWDVIP</a> <a href="https://marni-battista.squarespace.com/podcast-application" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Get a Free Coaching Session with Marni on Our Podcast - Sign up Here to Be a Guest On Our Show</a> <a href="https://datingwithdignity.com/book/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates</a> <a href="https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/ed-mcclune/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ed McClune at the Hoffman Institute</a>

With Ed McClune: What Did You Learn from Past Relationship Mistakes that Will Make Your Next One a Success?