EP 41 - Leave Your Light On - With Shelley Buck & Kathy Curtis
Hard Beautiful Journey
I had the honour to speak with Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis about the book they wrote called “Leave Your Light On”. This book is about Shelley’s son Ryder Buck. I read the book in about 3 hours, I couldn’t put it down and from the description I give now you will understand why: Rarely does someone so joyfully authentic come along and flash a light so bright you can’t help but feel a rush of hope. Ryder Buck was such a guy. He was charming and hilarious, ornery and aggravating, and he delighted in his love of music. Nothing more and nothing less than himself, his self-acceptance fueled his audacious dreams and taught him to have faith and just let go. Ryder lived a magical life, but he was also tested in ways many of us never will be. He endured the pain of a cancer diagnosis and the hardship of chemo treatment. And when the disease that should have beaten him didn’t, his unimaginable fate showed up on a dark highway. Then his light began to shine even brighter. It led his mother out of the dark tunnel of her grief. It cradled a family, heartbroken by his silent guitar, to find healing together. It has given people throughout the world the encouragement to be who they really are, to discover their own purpose- to wake up to the magic in their own hearts. Ryder’s story will inspire you to see your own light – no matter what life or death throws your way. The book can be found on Amazon & Barnes & Noble or at www.leaveyourlightonbook.com, Ryder's music can be found at www.ryderbuckmusic.com and the Facebook account is www.facebook.com/RyderBuck. Shelley can be found on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shelraebuck/ and Twitter www.twitter.com/shelbuckeroos5Follow me on Social! Instagram - mstiffvaughanFacebook - mstiffvaughan Facebook Private Group for Hard Beautiful Journey is HERE. Please come join us!
Leave Your Light On: Friendships & Continuing Bonds After Loss with Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis
The Mindfulness & Grief Podcast
In episode 46, lifelong friends Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis share their journey of childhood friendship, staying in touch through college, and the comfort that Kathy provided to Shelley following the devastating loss of her son, Ryder. Ryder was a talented musician and world traveler who continued to live his life to the fullest even after his Stage IV cancer diagnosis. After Ryder’s death, Shelley felt extremely lost and unsure of her next steps in life. So Kathy helped Shelley write the book “Leave Your Light On,” inspired by a song Ryder wrote, to share Shelley’s journey through the process. The book is filled with letters, journal entries, poems, and memories. Shelley found that writing was very cathartic for her, and she hopes her journey encourages others.
Grief, Loss, and Surviving with Shelly Buck and Kathy Curtis
Coaching Through Chaos Podcast
We all know we will lose people we love during our lifetime, but there is a special kind of pain when you lose a child. Shelly Buck's son, Ryder, got diagnosed with cancer when he was 22. He recovered quickly from that, only to be killed in a roadside accident some months later. Shelly talks about surviving the unthinkable loss of a child, while still being Mom to her other kids and about how the family survives. Shelly wrote a book about her experience with her best friend, Kathy Curtis, who happens to be a grief coach. The book is Leave Your Light On: The Story of An Illuminating Spirit. Join us to hear her story and ways people cope through grief. The timing of this episode was that it was recorded just 2 days after losing one of my brothers to cancer. I think just going ahead and keeping the recording appointment was helpful to me in my own grieving process. Please take a listen. The book combines the reflections of Shelly Buck, along with entries from Ryder's own journal and commentary from his friends. Ryder was a talented and creative young man, who was only moments into adulthood when his life was taken. You can find the book, as you can with all the authors who have appeared on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, on the CTC Bookshelf. If you'd like to work with Kathy Curtis for some assistance through your grieving process, you can find her at: Kathy Curtis Ink Thank you for taking te time ourt of your day to listen to this episode. If you have any suggestions of topics or guests you'd like to hear from, just reach out to me on Instagram or Facebook If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:1. Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!2. Leave me a review You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.3. Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.
Kathy Curtis is a healing artist who teaches us how a simple Haiku habit can bring new peace to each day. She talks about how she discovered the healing power of words, and how the power of writing helped her to overcome grief and loss. In This EpisodeHow writing brings peace of mindKathy’s sweet and sometimes unexpected experiences introducing new students to the world of wordsHer book, Invisible Ink, which has inspired others to write to their lost loved ones through a simple exercise that brought peace to people who thought they’d never find it. The life and death of Ryder Buck, and how his light shines onHow writing helped her comfort a friend in need (Shelley Buck)Connect with Kathy Curtiswww.kathycurtisink.comFollow Gentle FindsWebsite: www.gentlefinds.comInstagram: @gentlefindspodcastSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/gentlefinds)
Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis: How to Find Inner Light After Loss
Open to Hope
Shelley Buck moved from the Midwest to California to follow her dream of working for Disney. When her first son, Ryder, 22, was diagnosed with cancer she began to write […] The post Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis: How to Find Inner Light After Loss appeared first on Open to Hope.
In 2020, Disney+ released the mini series detailing the behind the scenes of Frozen 2. There we also learn of the story behind the song, "The Next Right Thing" as it was dedicated to the late son of co-director Chris Buck and his wife Shelley. In episode 197 of the Animation Addicts Podcast, Chelsea talks with Shelley about that time in her life as well as the lessons that she learned from her son. Find all the show notes and links at rotoscopers.com/197 Join the community on Patreon and get ad free episodes and bonus content! Follow Rotoscopers.com and on social media with Instagram and YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Grief And Writing, With Guests Shelley Buck And Kathy Curtis
WE Have Cancer
On this episode of WE Have Cancer, Lee is joined by Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis, co-authors of “Leave Your Light On: The Musical Mantra Left Behind by an Illuminating Spirit.”The grieving process can look dramatically different from person to person and situation to situation. For Shelley, it took the form of writing a book with her son Ryder, and her friend Kathy. Shelley opens up about how her son’s cancer diagnosis changed their relationship and even her parenting style, and was a catalyst to share his spirit with the world. Shelley and Kathy talk about writing the book as a way to extend Ryder’s legacy while also using it as an essential part of their grieving process.Guest biographyShelley Buck and Kathy Curtis are co-authors of the book “Leave Your Light On: The Musical Mantra Left Behind by an Illuminating Spirit.” After Shelley’s son Ryder was diagnosed with cancer, she poured her heart into writing their story. With the help of a lifelong friend and healing writer Kathy, Shelley was able to work through her grief with a creative outlet, letting her son's light shine on.Table of contents:IntroductionWhat’s it like to hear your child has cancer?So often, the focus is on the cancer patient themselves. As Shelly talks about, receiving the diagnosis from her son left her breathless but put her into a spin of activity.How did a cancer diagnosis change the relationship?With her son being 22 at the time and Shelly needing special permission to get information from the doctor, she had to learn how to let go and let him take the lead.ExasperationFrom more of an outsider’s perspective as Shelly’s lifelong friend, Kathy talks about Ryder’s personality and how exasperating he could be, even during treatment.Telling Ryder’s storyKathy, one of the authors of the book, saw it as an honor and big responsibility to portray Ryder the way he saw himself. Kathy also saw it as an opportunity to help Ryder leave a lasting legacy.Light onShelley gives some background about the title of the book, “Leave Your Light On” and where the term came from.How Ryder would feel about his legacyWith the book and a character being named after him in the movie “Frozen 2,” Shelly talks a bit about how she feels Ryder would feel about how he’s being portrayed and remembered now.The finality of the word “lose”Echoing a similar sentiment as Lee, Shelley talks about how she feels about words like “lose” and “dead” in this context.Helping a friend through griefKathy was there to help Shelley and the rest of the family through the grieving process, both as a counselor of sorts and as a lifelong friend. She talks about some of the things they dealt with while writing the book and grieving over Ryder.Friendship and supportShelley talks about her friendship with Kathy and discusses what her support meant to her throughout this process.Grieving through writing and the hole that has been leftBy going through everything to write the book and with Kathy’s guiding hand, Shelley was able to use the process to grieve over Ryder. Shelley also talks about how the family is coping with Ryder’s passing.Using music to copeRyder was well known for his love of music, even from a young age. So when he was diagnosed with cancer, he naturally turned to music. Shelley tells a story about how Ryder played and wrote music throughout his treatment.How Kathy came to use writing to healKathy dealt with her own pain and grief as her mother was diagnosed with cancer and passed away. That’s where she found the power of writing through the grieving process, using it to say everything she felt she wanted to say to her mother.Helping others Shelley and Kathy give their insight on how to open up your heart again after losing a loved one -- From embracing the process to being open to a continuation of the relationship inside yourself.Ryder Buck Scholarship FoundationAs a music lover, it only made sense for the scholarship foundation to be about music as well. As a part of Ryder’s legacy, the foundation has awarded 17 scholarships since 2014.Fond memory - KathyKathy, who is hearing impaired, was overwhelmed when she first got her hearing implant. One of her fondest memories of Ryder was that day and how his light and enthusiasm when talking to her made everything better.Fond memory - ShelleyShelley doesn’t have a single fond memory but remembers how Ryder lit up the room when performing on stage.Links mentioned in the show:Subscribe to the “WE Have Cancer” Podcast - Follow WE Have Cancer on Social Media:Like our Facebook pageJoin our private Facebook groupFollow us on TwitterFollow us on InstagramFollow us on LinkedInCheck out Luxe BidetsLeave Your Light On - WebsiteLeave Your Light On - BookShelley Buck - TwitterShelley Buck - InstagramRyder Buck Scholarship Foundation - WebsiteKnow someone touched by cancer who has an inspiring story? Email Lee
Leave Your Light On: Navigating the Lighthouse of Life After Loss w/Shelley Buck & Kathy Curtis
Aging GreatFULLy with Holley Kelley
Aging GreatFULLy brings listeners a heartwarming show on an important topic for everyone, especially those who have endured loss of any kind. Join us for “Leave Your Light On: Navigating the Lighthouse of Life After Loss,” as we welcome special guests Shelley Buck, Kathy Curtis and honor the illuminating life of Ryder Buck in this transformative hour that will endear all. This year in particular, has been one where we as a world have endured losses of all kinds and in this episode, our guests share firsthand how to come back out of the dark tunnels of despair from the most devasting losses one can imagine. We also talk about the mysterious emotion grief— and how it can cripple us, empower us, and at times, be a major motivator in what changes us. Kathy and Shelley talk about using the light from our passed loved ones to shape that recovery and how to use it as a tool to live with more energy and purpose. We bring this show to our global family of listeners as we enter the holidays knowing it is a time of challenge for many, as we are certain the lessons of parenting and tribulations, combined with the power of Ryder’s larger-than-life spirit will hold promise and bring profound messages to others for living in the light and ultimately being the lighthouse keeper once again for others. And we will celebrate light, love and learn how to find our way back living after experiencing loss as we explore in depth the book, Leave Your Light On: The Musical Mantra Left Behind by an Illuminating Spirit, by Shelley Buck & Ryder Buck with Kathy Curtis. Our guest, Shelley Buck moved to California after college to follow her dream of working for Disney. It was there she met and fell in love with her husband, Chris, who worked in Animation. After they married and had their first child, Ryder, she stayed home to be a full-time mom to him and the two brothers who followed. Shelley is a storyteller and artist which she expresses through her original jewelry at www.Shelrae.com. Shelley shares her journey of having a child diagnosed with cancer, what it was like to experience that and then to suffer the most unimaginable loss. But her story is one that brings a lifeline to others and some essential messages for those who have ever been in the darkness. And that is, how exploring the light that our loved ones leave behind can be the bridge between that light and our own healing. Ryder Buck lived a short but charmed life west coast, where he fell in and out of love, and formed an indie band, Ryder Buck & the Breakers, that made waves all across the LA area. After a 9-month battle with cancer, Ryder emerged disease-free and fearlessly followed his dreams of changing people’s lives through his music. When tragedy met him on a dark highway, the light he had so fiercely protected throughout his life became limitless. His words and songs continue to carry that light forward. Ryder received the Flame of Hope Award (posthumously) from a local cancer facility where he and his band played for cancer survivors. Ryder’s dad, Chris Buck, is the producer of the film, Frozen and Frozen 2. Ryder became the inspiration for a new character in Frozen 2 and for one of the films songs. You can learn more about Ryder Buck’s infinite legacy and music by visiting www.RyderBuckMusic.com. Kathy Curtis moved into Shelley’s neighborhood when they were both 12 years old and an instant, lifelong friendship took root. She has worked as a healing artist and writer since 1991. Her programs support the transformation of grief, illness, and emotional barriers through creative expression. She is the author of Invisible Ink, a memoir about her own journey through grief. The unique writing process that brought her so much healing has since become a successful program, online and at various venues in the Midwest. Kathy’s intimate connection to the Buck family, combined with her writing and healing background, made her the perfect person to partner with Shelley on the creation of this book. To connect with Kathy or learn more about her work, visit: www.KathyCurtisInk.com. To learn more about or purchase Leave Your Light On: The Musical Mantra Left Behind by an Illuminating Spirit, it is available on amazon, book retailers or visit: www.leaveyourlightonbook.com. If you enjoy this show and feel it can provide help and feeling for friends, family or loved ones, please share it and pass it forward. Thank you for listening to the Aging GreatFULLy show, the listeners show, you rock, you role model and we appreciate YOU! To connect with, download, subscribe or share the show, visit our official host page at www.CTRNetwork.com/holleykelley. If you love the Aging GreatFULLy show we value and appreciate your amazingly awesome show reviews!
AYA Cancer: Best Friends Shelley Buck & Kathy Curtis on Ryder Buck's Journey and Legacy
Living With Scanxiety: Cancer Podcast
Season 2 Episode 17-The wife of the director of Frozen I and Frozen II, Shelley Buck, dives deep into AYA cancer alongside her best friend, Kathy Curtis. You will hear about anticipatory grief, personal stories, and grief itself. Everyone’s way of grieving is different; as you will hear in this episode, hearing others' stories can sometimes jumpstart a healthy way for our own grieving. But this episode also does more than that; it discusses sharing a story through a book the two best friends authored about AYA warrior Ryder Buck, "Leave Your Light On.” His legacy will leave a permanent imprint in the world, listen and find out why.For Show Notes:www.livingwithscanxiety.org/shownotesSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/livingwithscanxiety)
Ep. 266 Leave Your Light On: The Life and Afterlife of Ryder Buck with Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis
Learn about the journey of a remarkable young musician through cancer, death and the afterlife and how he continues to inspire people. My guests Shelley Buck and Kathy Curtis are the co-authors of the book Leave Your Light On, which details the journey of Shelley’s son Ryder through cancer and his subsequent death in a terrible accident. They discuss the process of writing this book as a healing practice for grief, the spiritual transformation experienced by Ryder after his cancer diagnosis, and how people around the world have been inspired by his story both before and after his death. They have turned a tragic story into transcendence that lights the way for all of us who are feeling lost in the darkness right now. Learn more at these websites: www.ryderbuckmusic.com and www.kathycurtisink.com Get the book Leave Your Light On here Listen here: This episode includes: How writing can help us heal grief, illness and lossRyder’s story and how music became a medium for him to share his message with the worldHow his cancer journey accelerated Ryder’s spiritual growthThe challenges of being a mother to a young adult facing cancer and wanting his independenceHow Shelley negotiated being “cancer mom” and also caring for her two younger sons at the same timeThe amazing and synchronistic ways Ryder has communicated since his death and how those experiences have helped his parents with their griefTips for using writing as a healing mediumThree mantras for navigating these times of darkness from songs Ryder wrote or inspired Links mentioned in this episode: Register for FREE Level 1 Doula Training hereRegister for Certified End-of-Life Doula Training hereFind Ryder Buck’s music hereGet the book Leave Your Light On hereGia’s song for Ryder: Ryde This Wave – Listen hereSong from Frozen 2: The Next Right Thing – Listen here Subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Stitcher RadioCheck out the Series I’ve recorded in the past hereJoin the team at Patreon.com/eolu and get access to the EOLU mug: “Mind if we talk about death?” (only Patrons can purchase it). PLUS get our new bonuses: the monthly EOL News Update, movie reviews from 2 Doctors and a Movie, and automatic access to A Year of Reading Dangerously! If you enjoy this content please share it with others and consider leaving a review on iTunes! Thanks again to all supporters on my page at Patreon.com/eolu! Your contributions make all the difference!