We are so honored to be joined by our most long-awaited guest, Esther Perel -- psychotherapist, author, and one of the most insightful experts on relationships, sexuality, and infidelity. We cover cheating in depth, including why it occurs, why it hurts so badly, how to trust again, and whether relationships can come back from infidelity. And we're also discussing the expectations we put on our partners nowadays, why they may not be realistic, and how to navigate this for a healthy relationship. Before Esther joins us, we catch up on Rayna and her bf's first fight, and Ashley's Hamptons Hinge date. Hope you enjoy! Follow Esther on Instagram at @EstherPerelOfficial, and visit her website. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Calm: For a limited time, get 40% off a premium subscription at calm.com/gge. Daily Harvest: Get $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Rory: Visit hellorory.com/gge for a free online visit + free 2-day shipping. Nutrafol: Get $15 off your first order + free shipping at nutrafol.com, code GGE20.
Esther Perel ON: Finding Love & the Real Reason Couples Break Up
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Esther Perel talks with Jay Shetty about how the quality of our relationships affect our daily life, the right mindset when seeking love, creating a connection, or keeping a partnership, and the biggest relationship challenges during the pandemic. Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker and podcast host. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 30 million views and she is also the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?. Her newest project is Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories. Learn more at EstherPerel.com/TheGame What We Discuss with Esther: 00:00 Intro 02:17 The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives 04:37 Relationship challenges while in quarantine and lockdown 08:55 Approaching a relationship at times of pressure 13:26 Resetting expectations of ourselves and boundaries of our space 18:23 When you’re putting an effort but your partner is unresponsive 22:14 Skills we lost in the pandemic and the skills we gained 27:47 Playing the ‘Where Should We Begin?’ game 33:58 Asking boring questions makes you feel that people are boring 36:48 Relationships about death, sex, and money 39:48 The intention or mindset one should approach love and relationships when seeking out a partner 42:57 From feeling madly in love to then feeling out of love, when they weren’t truly in love 45:36 What are the deepest, truest root reasons that relationships fail? 52:00 Have you been affected by the experience of infidelity in your life? 57:21 When to break up and move, when to stay and hold on 59:55 Fill in The Blanks 01:01:30 Esther on the Final Five 01:06:30 Meeting people who are truly happy and purposeful Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | TED Speaker Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | LinkedIn Esther Perel | Amazon Esther Perel | Facebook Where Should We Begin? Podcast Where Should We Begin: A Game of Stories Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGeniusSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
After a year of collective trauma and private losses, stress, and heartbreaks, how do we even start to think about returning to a more normal working environment? Morra Aarons-Mele speaks with famed therapist Esther Perel, who also hosts the podcast “How’s Work with Esther Perel,” about how workers and leaders can rebound after the Covid-19 pandemic and take away lessons that we never forget.
Eros, Self-Awareness, and Being a Good Partner — with Esther Perel
The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway
Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and one of the leading voices on modern relationships. She discusses the challenges the pandemic has posed on our relationships, the importance of serendipitous moments, and why self-awareness is so important. Esther also shares how co-founders can overcome the various pain points they’ve experienced throughout the past year and parenting tips to ensure your children grow up to be great partners. Follow Esther on Twitter, @EstherPerelScott opens with his thoughts on Facebook developing an AR/VR device, why he’s bullish on Neeva (the subscription search engine), and why Pinterest looking to acquire VSCO is a smart move.Algebra of Happiness: make proactive investments. Esther’s podcast: “How’s Work?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Listen Again — Esther Perel: Building Resilient Relationships
TED Radio Hour
Original broadcast date: September 11, 2020. How do we build more trusting and empathetic relationships, even during a crisis? This hour, therapist Esther Perel shares ideas on creating lasting bonds in romance, family, and at work.
Psychotherapist on How to Avoid Pitfalls that End Relationships | Esther Perel on Impact Theory
Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu
Check out our Sponsors Caveday: Try a FREE 3 hour cave at caveday.org with promo code IMPACT Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/impacttheory for a free trial of Premium Membership. Indeed: Get a FREE $75 CREDIT to upgrade your job post at indeed.com/IMPACT Can you say with absolutely certainty that you are bringing your best self to all the important relationships in your life? Are you afraid you and your partner are slowly becoming more and more disconnected and aren’t sure how to identify the key problems that could be killing the relationship? Whether it’s at home or at work, we need to be mindful of what makes our relationships thrive and what poses a threat to them. On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by Psychotherapist, New York Times Bestselling Author, and host of the emotionally raw and tell-all podcasts ’How’s Work?’ and ‘Where Should We Begin?’ Esther Perelto discuss such matters and more as they explore the pitfalls you need to be on the lookout for that might be killing your relationships, connections, or marriage. They discuss the downfalls you need to be on the lookout for that pose a threat to your relationships, what complacency looks like, why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve their differences, the power of words and the meaning behind them, how culture comes into play in your relationship, how to understand other’s perspectives, and the tools you need to have a healthy and thriving relationship with anyone in your life. Order Esther’s book, ‘Mating in Captivity’: amazon.com/dp/0060753641/?tag=wwwestherpere-20 Order Esther’s book, ‘The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity’: amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1501045724&sr=8-1&keywords=state+of+affairs Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘Where Should We Begin?’: whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘How’s Work?’: howswork.estherperel.com SHOW NOTES: Downfalls | Esther reveals the things that kill relationships. [0:17] Complacency | Esther reveals the step-by-step process of how complacency creeps in. [2:36] Blind | Esther reveals why so many people in a relationship fail to see their mistakes. [6:14] Combativeness | Esther reveals the many dynamics of how couples blame each other. [7:33] Words | Esther reveals the power of your words and how you frame your problems. [10:03] Culture | Esther reveals how culture comes into play with relationships. [12:56] Contextualize Yourself | Esther reveals how we can value things differently. [13:58] Meaning | Esther discusses the importance of the meaning behind what you say. [17:47] Business | Esther reveals why so many business relationships fail. [19:54] Perspectives | Esther discusses how you can begin to see other’s perspectives. [21:47] Tea | Tom shares a story where he and his wife, Lisa, argued over a cup of tea. [26:06] Fighting | Esther reveals how we fight over lack of respect and recognition. [28:18] Roles | Esther discusses roles, expectations, and flexibility in a relationship. [30:27] Tools | Esther reveals the key tools you can use to get the most out of your relationship. [31:28] Connect | Esther shares how you can engage with her and continue to learn from her. [33:28] QUOTES: “So, you really want to make sure that you don’t assume. “I know what you’re saying.” Ask, remain curious at all times. “What does that mean for you and who told you that?”” [13:55] “The very thing people often come in fighting over is what was once originally very attractive to each other.” [24:13] “…people fight over three things primarily: power and control, trust and closeness, respect and integrity.” [25:35] FOLLOW ESTHER: Website: estherperel.com Podcast: whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com How’s Work: howswork.estherperel.com Twitter: twitter.com/estherperel Facebook: facebook.com/esther.perel Instagram: instagram.com/estherperelofficial YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC4eN7PS9mi8__4EYxy6VpFw
Ep. 291: Get Out of Your Storage Unit, a Hack for Reducing Unwanted Talk, and a Conversation about Relationships with Esther Perel
Happier with Gretchen Rubin
We talk about the benefits of getting out of a storage unit; we talk to relationship expert Esther Perel about love and work; and Elizabeth’s office treadmill-desk is finally set up.Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; email@example.comGet in touch on Instagram: @GretchenRubin & @LizCraftGet the podcast show notes by email every week here: http://gretchenrubin.com/#newsletterGet the resources and all links related to this episode here: http://happiercast.com/291Order a copy of Gretchen’s new book OUTER ORDER, INNER CALM here: http://outerorderinnercalmbook.comLeave a voicemail message on: 774-277-9336For information about advertisers and promo codes, go to happiercast.com/sponsors.Happier with Gretchen Rubin is part of ‘The Onward Project,’ a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts—Do The Thing, Side Hustle School, Happier in Hollywood and Everything Happens with Kate Bowler. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and tell your friends! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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