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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 9, Well...That Was Unexpected!

Janessa After Dark

We've been gone for a hot minute, but Miss Jaye is back with the next installment of The Renovation - she's reached the halfway point in her project, but is she wiser...or just older? PART ONE: So What Happened?Miss Jaye talks about what this project was supposed to be at the beginning and how it started to change. Self reflection is never easy - but this trip has been bananas!PART TWO: The Story So FarTo understand where you're going, you've got to understand where you've been! Miss Jaye gives a rundown of the 7 books in #TheSquad that she's read do far, with some of her thoughts - the good, the bad, and the extremely ugly! Plus, she loves any excuse to make a SEX & THE CITY reference!PART THREE: You're Doing Great Sweetie!Are you though? Are you really? In this section Miss Jaye talks through some of the feelings that were coming up as she worked through the early episodes of THE RENOVATION and how the project continued to change and morph the deeper in she got!PART FOUR: The Shit Hits The Fan!Personal growth is hard enough without a global pandemic throwing a wrench into the works! In this section, Miss Jaye talks about how the arrival - and very long stay! - of Mean Miss 'Rona intensified her feelings of loneliness and isolation - but also helped her gain perspective in rather surprising ways!PART FIVE: Let's Marie Kondo This Shit!She's got a new focus, and she's ready to go! Miss Jaye sets up what she wants to achieve in the second half of this series and talks about the next book in #TheSquad - we're not exactly sure what it's about, but we know that she's already halfway there!PART SIX: The World Turned Upside DownOnce again, we are so fortunate to have this episode's Brene Brown quote read by none other than Ash from The Upside Down Podcast! Find out more about where you can hear the show - they helped get Miss Jaye through lockdown, and they keep coming out with great content while we all wait patiently for season 4!While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.

44mins

20 Mar 2021

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 8, Jesus Take The Wheel

Janessa After Dark

Miss Jaye is back with the next step on her journey for healing, wholeness, and hot-mess-reduction: Lysa TerKeurst's UNIVITED: LIVING LOVED WHEN YOU FEEL LESS THAN, LEFT OUT, & LONELY. The first book in #TheSquad presented from a Christian perspective, Miss Jaye needed to unpack a few troubled memories from her past to get through this one!Part One: The First Cut Is The DeepestMiss Jaye opens up about some of her feelings about organized religion, and Chirstianity specifically. Like many queer people, Miss Jaye's experiences with the church have been at time...troubled. But a lot of that trouble can be traced back to one person: Pastor Ken.Part Two: The Ick FactorAs she's reading the book, there is something about the language that doesn't sit quite right with her - and it starts to bring up other less wholesome references!Part Three: Being Right Vs. Ending RightMiss Jaye starts to "drink the Koolaid" (I know, I know, not exactly a great reference when it comes to trusting religions, but here we are) and gets drawn in to a section about bitterness, and choosing grace instead.Part Four: The Power of Positive DelusionWell, that ended quickly! In this section, Miss Jaye comes back down to earth as she contemplates the difference between humility and humiliation, and how certain religious teachings always seem to work out better for those with a certain amount of privilege.Part Five: All Good Girls Go To HeavenFurther questioning the balance between privilege and oppression the author represents, Miss Jaye wonders why this is so clearly targeted at women...and what that says about the role of women in religious life.Part Six: Never Saw That ComingShe thought she had this book figured out - until it through her a real curveball! Maybe this perspective has more in common with Miss Jaye's "woo woo" beliefs than she first thought...but that may not be a good thing.Part Seven: Everything Was Beautiful & Nothing HurtA beautiful lie is still a lie. Miss Jaye ponders faith and compliance, and tries to explain her view of the world, creation, and religion...through a beach ball?Part Eight: The Porn Star Next DoorNever one to turn down a juicy juxtaposition, Miss Jaye asked none other than fellow UND alum, boylesque dancer, and adult film performer Chris Harder to read the opening Brene Brown quote for this episode! He's sweet and sexy, smart and spicy - he's just the porn star next door!While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.

55mins

5 Apr 2020

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 7, I Can Take A Hint...Maybe

Janessa After Dark

It's been a hot minute, but Miss Jaye is back with yet another attempt at fast-tracked self improvement. This time she's reading ME MY BIGGEST SOLUTION by Dakon Green - a book that made its way into #TheSquad in a very unusual way!Part One: When Self Published Authors AttackMiss Jaye talks a little bit about how she came to find this book and include it in the squad...for better or for worse!Part Two: Mr. Green's Wild RideFrom the very beginning, things aren't right: Miss Jaye's first WTF moment happens on page 3 - and things only escalate from there! What has she gotten herself into?Part Three: And So It BeginsThis section covers chapters 1-3 and goes into some depth of the material covered in those chapters. In fact, there may be more depth in the commentary than the actual book!Part Four: Testing My PatienceMiss Jaye's reaction to the book continues to mount with chapters 4-6...but is it possible that her rising anger is just a symptom of her wrong thinking? And when, we wonder, will the bass drop?Part Five: Maybe You Shoulda Kept That SecretChapters 7-9 start to get into THE SECRET and the Law of Attraction. Miss Jaye can't help but wonder how she happened to manifest herself into this mess!Part Six: Eat, Pray, Love...For F@#$-WitsThe last three chapters in the book really put our intrepid heroine through it. Maybe she's missing the point...but then again, maybe YOU should have just shut up and picked your grandma up at the airport like a decent person!Part Seven: I Don't Think I'll Be Getting A Christmas CardAs she reaches the conlusions of both the book and her patience, Miss Jaye takes a moment to reflect - is she just being a Regina George, stopping Dakon Green from making "fetch" happen? Isn't wanting to contribute to others' improvement a noble thing, even if the attempt is a little haphazard?Part Eight: Howdy Strangers!The opening quote was once again contributed by Miss Jaye's friends over at the Upside Down Podcast, Ash and Tori! Miss Jaye once again gushes about these amazing women and their show, tells you her favorite episode, and gives you their socials. #FriendsForever!While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.

1hr 5mins

17 Nov 2019

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 6, Drag Queen Heal Thyself!

Janessa After Dark

Miss Jaye is back with another episode filled with self-care and her search for enlightenment! This time she's got a book that was gifted to her by a very special someone and takes a walk on the "woo woo" side!Part One: Mama Said There'd Be Days Like ThisThis book is the first of three that were gifted by none other than Miss Jaye's mother, Mama Champagne! We take a few moments to interview Mama and ask her a couple of questions and talk about why this book seemed like a good addition to the #Squad.Part Two: Getting EnergizedMiss Jaye was excited to see a self help book that engaged with her more spiritual side! Published by Llewellyn, perhaps the largest source for metaphysical books and materials, the book is all about energy work! Miss Jaye talks a little about spirituality and how energy work has been a part of her life for over two decades.Part Three: Here's the RubAs exciting as this project seems, Miss Jaye can't help but feel a little bit unsettled by how the book portrays negativity - and how we might be willing (if unconscious) participants in our own suffering.Part Four: Graceful BeggingThis section is all about prayer, and what it means to reach out for guidance and support in a way that doesn't tie you down to restrictive traditions or specific practices.Part Four: You Blockhead!Just like Charlie Brown, Miss Jaye has some blocks in her head! And try as she might, she's having trouble conjuring up the sort of unconditional love of self that's required to fully seek healing and wholeness. And it's never a wrong time for some shameless self-promotion, with a little plug for one of her recent blog posts, "Swimming," available on JanessaJaye.com!Part Six: Living on Fear StreetMiss Jaye has to come to terms with the fact that she's been living in fear - and not the good kind like creepy movies or young adult novels by R. L. Stine! Miss Jaye contemplates the meaning of fear - and how it may have infiltrated her life in insidious and unexpected ways.Part Seven: The Practical Queer's Guide To WellnessMiss Jaye discusses the main appeal of this book compared to others from this series: more than any other book in the #Squad so far, this book gives her something to DO! Plus there's a little nod to a another kind of connection Miss Jaye feels with the author beyond their energetic practices.Part Eight: The Good Kind Of Fear!Miss Jaye may be trying to conquer her fear in how she lives her life, but when it comes to entertainment, keep the thrills and chills coming! And know does indie horror better than Wretched Productions' own, Heidi Moore! Not only did Moore provide the intro quote for this episode, but she was also the featured interview on Season 2, Episode 1 of Janessa After Dark! The director of indie cult hit DOLLY DEADLY, Moore recently launched the streaming service TruIndie, a source for amazing independent entertainment in a wide variety of genres!While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.Promo image by Miranda Roen, Roen Photography.

45mins

24 Jun 2019

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 5, Nobody's Perfect

Janessa After Dark

Miss Jaye is finally back with another episode of The Renovation - this time featuring the book LITTLE VICTORIES by Jason Gay. Part advice book, part memoir, part "we're not sure exactly what to call it!," this book actually turned out to be the perfect thing at the perfect moment.Part One: The Elephant in the RoomMiss Jaye talks about what took so long between episodes 4 and 5 - it's not what you think. Well, maybe not exactly what you think. Miss Jaye gets into what her original plan for the series was and how those plans have changed early on in the 17-episode series.Part Two: Self Care On A BudgetMiss Jaye interviews her friend Angela, of Beautiful Eccentric. Angela is the friend who picked out this particular book, and they talk about where she found it and why she decided to pick it up for Miss Jaye's self-transformation project. Part Three: The Bait & SwitchMiss Jaye dives into the book...and it's not what it first appears to be! Is this going to be a bait & switch? Is this going to be like the workbook from episode 2? Will Miss Jaye even get to the epilogue?!Part Four: Under This Umbrella...ella...ellaIn this section, our intrepid heroine ventures further into the book and dissects one of her favorite stories, all about a high-flying interview with pop star Rihanna! The story is surprising and funny, and Miss Jaye ruminates on what it has to say about the nature of "cool."Part Five: Enter The English MajorOnce an English major, always an English major! Self-improvement aside, Miss Jaye isn't afraid to roll up her sleeves and get petty! She talks about one of Gay's writing quirks that drives her absolutely bonkers, compares it to one of her favorite authors, and relates it all back to one of Gay's salient observations about manners and internet trolling! She even takes a moment to troll herself...Part Six: What I Didn't Know I NeededAll kidding aside, Miss Jaye takes a few moments to reflect on how this book, originally meant to be a funny break between more serious episodes, actually ended up touching on some rather touchy areas in her personal history. It wasn't what she planned, but it was exactly what she needed...Part Seven: The King & IMiss Jaye quickly talks about the special guest who kicked off the episode...and did so at a moment's notice! Drag King BJ Armani is a drag performer and show director that Miss Jaye has known for more than a decade, and is always ready when needed...even at the last minute!While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.Promo image by Miranda Roen, Roen Photography.

38mins

10 Apr 2019

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 4, The Crazy Cat Lady's Guide To Life

Janessa After Dark

Miss Jaye is back and ready to dive back into the Renovation, this time focused on her tortured history with the males of the species. Opening up with a story about a Tinder match gone right...and then really, really wrong, Miss Jaye working with Jennifer L. Taitz's book, HOW TO BE SINGLE AND HAPPY. Is such a thing possible? Grab a seat and see how Miss Jaye does with this newest volume.Part One: Who's Afraid of the Crazy Cat Lady?Before she gets into either the book or her tumultuous love life, Miss Jaye spends a little time asking the question, "What so bad about being single anyway?" She explores the stereotype of the "crazy cat lady" and gets ready to dive in and found out if her future is filled with hearts and flowers...or bulk orders of Meow Mix.Part Two: Opening the Ex FileHere we get a little bit of perspective from Miss Jaye about her 7-year relationship with her ex-husband, what it taught her, and why she never should have gotten married in the first place.Part Three: The Pilot & The PuppyMiss Jaye breaks down the two primary relationships she's been in since her divorce and explores the boundaries of non-monogamous relationships, and how polyamory might fit into her future...and how it relates to her inability to be both single, and happy.Part Four: So...We're Just F@#$%ed?!Finally getting to the book, Miss Jaye learns what science has to say about being single...and finds out that she's probably doing everything wrong in her search for love.Part Five: The Magic 8 BallIn the second half of the book, finally some hope - practical exercises and things you can do if you're single and not happy about it, or if you're in a bad relationship but are too scared of dating to leave. Is this practical advice enough to keep Miss Jaye from running off to join the nunnery?!Part Six: Song For The LonelyMiss Jaye gives her final thoughts and wrap up of the book, including how it might be useful for everyone regardless of their relationship status. You'll find out why she can barely say "emotional intelligence without spitting" and who really IS afraid of the crazy cat lady.Plus, this episode gets a very special dedication.Part Seven: If God Is A DJFind out more about the special guest who read the opening quote for this episode. He's Miss Jaye's "heterosexual, non-sexual life partner," and he's pretty great.While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.Promo image by Miranda Roen, Roen Photography.

1hr 3mins

3 Feb 2019

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 3, All Out Of Bubblegum

Janessa After Dark

In the latest installment of THE RENOVATION, Miss Jaye finally gets all the way to the end of a book! But will this sense of completion lead to any sort of lasting change? What will she learn on the roller coaster ride this book took her on?Part One: A Little Help From My FriendsMiss Jaye interviews photographer Jenny Brezinski who recommended this book for inclusion in "the squad." They talk about when and how self books are useful (as well as when they aren't), and Jenny shares what she most wishes Miss Jaye gets out of this book.Part Two: The Secret For DummiesMiss Jaye's first reaction to the book is skeptical, as there is more than a little similarity to another famous self help phenom from a decade or so ago.Part Three: I'm Just Not That Into YouDespite finding a few nuggets of wisdom, Miss Jaye just hasn't been won over by Sincero's tome. Is there hope for this relationship?Part Four: Starting To Drink The Kool AidMiss Jaye is finally giving in to what this book has to offer. But will it be enough to harness her inner badass?!Part Five: Little Critter, Big LessonHalfway through the book, Miss Jaye stops to share an observation that she had on Christmas Day, away from home, as she interacted with a very small creature...that taught her a big lesson.Part Six: It All Comes Crashing DownJust when she though she was on the fast lane to personal transformation, Miss Jaye hits a fork in the road...and has a minor breakdown in the process.Part Seven: Mo' Money, Mo' ProblemsMiss Jaye powers through the end of the book, and percolates the book's messages as well as what it might mean to apply the information found within to less physical, financial situations.Part Eight: Ready to Kick Ass & Chew Bubblegum...Maybe?!Miss Jaye ends with another short clip from her interview with Jenny Brezinski and talks about the importance of having a mentor or a guide...but the bigger importance of know how to properly fit that mentor or guide into your life.Part Nine: A Picture Is Worth 1000 WordsFind out a little bit more about the wonderful woman who contributed to this episode, Jenny Brezinski, and her work as an actress and photographer.Portions of this episode were recorded on location in a hotel in Chandler, Arizona. While Audacity does a great job of cleaning up and enhancing audio, please know that there may be some minor inconsistencies from segment to segment.While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.

54mins

20 Jan 2019

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 2, Lowering The Bar

Janessa After Dark

Miss Jaye is back, and her road to self discovery is off to a rocky start! For this episode, she's reading Lee Crutchley's HOW TO BE HAPPY (OR AT LEAST LESS SAD)...and things are not going well. Is it just that Miss Jaye is a little too *ahem* mature for the book's intended audience, or is this just not the right fit for her? Find out all of her thoughts on this creative workbook for growth and self-discovery!Part One: Can You Judge A Book By It's Title?Miss Jaye talks about her reaction to this book's title, why she decided to include it in the Squad, and considers whether it might be saying more than she first thought.Part Two: Grab Your Crayons & Get To Work!Miss Jaye presents us with her reactions to the book itself, how it's structured, as well as some of the exercises.Part Three: The Gap, or, Transformation for Millennials Is Miss Jaye too old and bitter for this book to reach her? Are millennials ruining self help (I mean, we already blame them for ruining everything else, right?!)? Miss Jaye explores her reactions to the book, and what it says about her as a candidate for personal rehabilitation.Part Four: Throwing In The TowelIs Miss Jaye abandoning her project already?! There are 15 more episodes yet to come, so we sure hope not! Find out exactly what Miss Jaye is giving up...and what she hopes to gain.Part Five: Strangers & FriendsThe opening Brene Brown quote this time was provided by Ash from The Upside Down Podcast! Miss Jaye gives Ash and her sister Tori a shout out, and talks about their "almost meeting" at Days of the Dead in Atlanta 2017. Find out more about their show in this section!This episode was recorded "on location" in a hotel in Chandler, Arizona. We definitely pushes Audacity to its limits to clean up and refine the audio, but please know that there are some inconsistencies and some noise issues. The next couple of episodes will also be recorded, in whole or in part, this way, so please bear with us as we work to improve the audio as much as we can. While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.

35mins

29 Dec 2018

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Miss Jaye: The Renovation - Episode 1, Not Living My Best Life

Janessa After Dark

Miss Jaye hasn't been living her best life. So what's a sassy, snarky, been there done that drag diva supposed to do? Turn to the Self Help aisle, of course! In this new 17 episode limited series, Miss Jaye has gathered a collection of 14 books (her "Squad") to help her fast track some positive change and personal growth! This first episode presents the layout of the project and introduces you to the books that will be a part of the journey.Part One: Please Excuse Our Mess During ConstructionWhat is "The Renovation" anyway? Miss Jaye explains the project and a little bit about how it came about. She's ready for a change...as long as she doesn't have to work too hard! Part Two: What's Your Deal?What is Miss Jaye's deal with Self Help books? She talks a little bit about her history with the genre and explores her skepticism, as well as why she's willing to set that aside and give this project a shot.Part Three: But...Why Though?If she's not a fan, why put all of this effort into reading 14 different self-help books? Miss Jaye gives us a little insight into why this project makes sense for her, and begins to explore the vulnerability necessary for the project to work.Part Four: Introducing The Squad!Miss Jaye gives you a full list of all 14 books that are set to be a part of the project. This gives you a chance to look them up and see what's coming down the line...anyone wanna start a book club?!Part Five: #SquadGoalsSo what's the point? Miss Jaye talks about what she hopes to get out of this experiment...and what she hopes you the listener gets out of this as well! Through storytelling, we all can come closer together and foster connection.Please note: segments of this podcast were recorded on different computers, using different equipment, sometimes weeks or even months apart. Miss Jaye has been percolating this intro episode for a while, and it shows in some minor audio inconsistencies in this episode only. While it shouldn't impact your ability to listen and enjoy the episode, we wanted you to be prepared for some of the audio segments to be quieter than others. Ahh, technology!While we're going to be serving up some humor and plenty of snark, mental health is no laughing matter. Nothing in this series is meant to constitute medical advice, and is presented for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit SuicidePreventionHotline.org. We love you.

26mins

17 Dec 2018