The Pirates interview their first guest on the podcast, Host of the "Livin the DREAM" podcast, Matt Scoletti. Find out what "DREAM" means, all about Matt, and what he's about, as he laughs and learns about the Pirates, as well.
E64: Building a better mindset and the key to positive self-talk with Matt Scoletti
Connect & Move Radio
In this episode, we invite fitness enthusiast and motivational speaker, Matt Scoletti onto the show. We talk about how to reshape your mindset for success and developing positive self-talk as a tool for conquering the impossible. Heres how to reach Matt Scoletti : Instagram:@mattscoletti Website: www.mattscoletti.com Books mentioned during the episode: The First 15 - Matt Scoletti The Untethered Soul - Michael Singer Can’t Hurt Me - David Goggins The Compound Effect - Darren Hardy ------ Thanks for listening! Follow Andy and Tim at the links below: Instagram : @af_move / @tim_langer73
Today's episode features Motivational speaker, author, life coach athlete, Matt Scoletti. Matt is an incredible human with an incredible story. Having once been a functional alcoholic, Matt woke up one day and decided to change his life. Hear what he did and the steps he took to change his life one day at a time! Follow Matt for daily motivation at @mattscoletti
Episode 173: Matt Scoletti, Forming great habits for a morning routine.
The Fuel Your Legacy Show
Matt was a basketball player in high school, captain of the team, fun and outgoing kid. Then, in college, he got exposed to alcohol and enjoyed it. The problem was, he couldn’t stop drinking. Matt drank heavily for 10 years of his life from age 18-27. Finally, he had enough. Matt was so disgusted with who he had become that he felt he had to change his life!
Episode 173: Matt Scoletti, Forming great habits for a morning routine.
Fuel Your Legacy
This weeks guest is Matt Scoletti. Matt was a basketball player in high school, captain of the team, fun and outgoing kid. Then, in college, he got exposed to alcohol and really enjoyed it. The problem was, he couldn’t stop drinking. Matt drank heavily for 10 years of his life from age 18-27. Finally, he had enough. Matt was so disgusted with who he had become that he felt he had to change his life! He went from being addicted to alcohol, to being addicted to healthy living, working out, and eating right! Since giving up alcohol, he has been on American Ninja Warrior, run 3 marathons, is a 2-Time World Record Holder, won the Physique Athlete Of the Year, been in Flex Magazine, and done countless obstacle course races and endurance races including biking 250 miles in 24 hours in Australia last year! Matt is now a professional speaker and love using his story to inspire people to GO FOR IT in life and create urgency in your life to reach your potential!Links: www.MattScoletti IG/TikTok/FB - @MattScoletti YouTube: Matt ScolettiWelcome back to the fuel your legacy podcast. Each week we expose the faulty foundational mindsets of the past and rebuild the newer, stronger foundation essential in creating your meaningful legacy. We've got a lot of work to do. So let's get started.As much as you like this podcast, I'm certain that you're going to love the book that I just released on Amazon if you will, your legacy, the nine pillars to build a meaningful legacy. I wrote this to share with you the experiences that I had while I was identifying my identity, how I began to create my meaningful legacy and how you can create yours. You're going to find this book on Kindle, Amazon and their website Sam Knickerbocker. comWelcome back to fuel your legacy. Today we have an incredible guest called Matt Scoletti. And I first reached out to him or who reached out to but I saw him on Instagram. I love this story. Luckily, he's been able to accomplish without that man, this would be something Somebody who can share a passion share a dream about what it's like to make some transformations in his life. And his story is one of somebody hitting rock bottom and then turning it around. He was an alcoholic for a decade. What I love about that phrase is he was an alcoholic for a decade's so many people they think once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. I don't believe that. But after hitting rock bottom in 2011, he completed some crazy crazy fitness feats. He ran multiple marathons been on the 24-hour bike races obstacle courses, set to world records, is now a motivational speaker who travels his country speaking in schools, businesses, nonprofits, to inspire audiences to push past their limiting beliefs, and attack your potential. I know he's going to get into this because I'm going to ask him but he also was on American Ninja Warrior. And that is cool. I mean, some people you see it I watched that show. I think it's a fascinating show. But do you think man I'm never meeting That person? So why does matter, right? But the cool thing is with social media now, if you see somebody in the public eye that you want to meet, just use Instagram and then start a conversation and most of them are just like Matt are super down to earth, super willing to chat and even willing to add value where they can. So with that, Nat super excited for you to be here, be on the show and to be able to share your nuggets of transformation with us and what it's been like building your legacy. Go ahead and introduce yourself. Tell us your backstory, your dark points in your life and how you came to the light.Sure, and thanks for having me on sam. I appreciate it. I'm excited. So yeah, I'll give you a little background first. So growing up, I'm from just outside of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Go Steelers. I'm a diehard Steeler fan. Hopefully, you don't hate the Steelers and we didn't talk about that yet. No, I don't hate them. Okay, good.I have a team? Okay.Maybe I can make you a Steeler fan and annexed by the end of the podcast. I don't know like that.My business coach is a Patriots fan. He's got aconvention kind of says in multiple national championships.The Patriots, that's the one team. All right, we got to move on because I don't want to start talking about Yeah, Igrew up just outside of Pittsburgh, and had a great childhood. I mean, my parents were awesome. I have an older brother two years older than me. I was so blessed because, in my opinion, high school was awesome. I mean, I worked my butt off. I got really good grades. I was captain of the basketball team and looking back at high school, maybe I didn't realize it at the time, but basically, everything was going really good for me. I mean, I was healthy, somewhat athletic, had great friends, close family and had it all. And then I went to transition into college. I went down to Richmond University of Richmond down in Virginia, and for the first time really in my life, I was exposed to what the partying scene College was like, and I won't forget my first time going out freshman year, my parents had just driven away and I thought, you know, freedom, I get to do whatever I want now. And the first thing I did was drink two, three beers with friends. I never really drank before. So I started having this feeling of being drunk, which was new to me. And I noticed that I was even more outgoing. I was louder, I started to not care and be carefree, doing whatever I wanted to do. And I thought it was a cool feeling. And from that point on for the next four years of my college career, that drinking instead of becoming a fun thing to do with friends, became something that I had to do in order to be social and I didn't realize that really until senior year that I basically got to the point where I could not have in my head now. This is the story I was telling myself. I cannot be fun without being drunk. And that's a scary six-story that I was telling myself. And I don't think I knew at that point how serious this problem was becoming so senior year, basically, I was just happy to graduate because it got to the point of drinking four or five, six nights a week, if not more, even sometimes during the day, and it got out of control. Now, at that point, I told myself, this is just college everybody does is in college. I'll get out of it once I get into the real world. What I didn't realize was I couldn't get out of it. I had this poor mindset and bad habits. And for six years out of college, my drinking did not get any better. I told myself the same story of if I'm not drinking, I'm not fine. And it hit it eventually hit the ultimate low in 2011. So to give you a little story, what happened in the summer of 2011, I started journaling about how I felt in the morning waking up with a hangover. And I don't even know the reason why I started journaling. But it turned out to be a really good thing. So I wake up in the morning on typically Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday morning, come over. And I would write these raw feelings on how bad my head hurts and how I didn't want to do anything and how I felt like a loser. And I just wanted to lay on the couch all day. And it was, it was this pattern that began to happen. So October of 2011. It's a day after a Halloween party. I wake up on the floor of my living room which is not abnormal. By the way, it's embarrassing to say, but I woke up on my floor quite often. And for the first time, I open up my journal that I had been writing in for about five months, straight beforehand. And I started reading the journal entries. So I saw my handwriting, the pattern that my life had become and for fun Months span when I journaled those journal entries would have been the same had they gone back 10 years because I was doing the same thing I was drinking to try to make myself feel better. And it was turning into this life that had no purpose. So I had no goals, I had no drive, I had no ambition. I didn't know what I wanted to be, I didn't know what I wanted to do. So I use this constant drinking to just kind of get me to the next day. So that morning, when I read all those journal entries, I'm crying my eyes out, but in a good way, because I realized I was the one that put myself in this situation, which was empowering because that meant that I'm the one that can change it. And from that day, in October 2011, I promised myself that I wouldn't let alcohol ruin my life anymore. And it was to the point where I looked myself in the face that morning in the mirror and I was embarrassed that who was looking back for the first time I was, I didn't even want to look at myself in the mirror because I know how empty I was inside. So the first thing I tried to do what I call it, I came up with a keystone habit that I wanted to change, which is getting alcohol out of my life. That was the Keystone habit. What I didn't realize were all the different things that would happen. Once I focused on that one Keystone habit of getting off a lot of my life. And to give you the snapshot of what happened was, first I got alcohol out of my life. Secondly, I started going to bed earlier because I wasn't drinking and staying up late, which meant I started getting up earlier in the morning, which meant I started working out. In the morning before I even went to work. I started eating healthier. And my whole world started changing because of this one Keystone habit that I decided to get out of my life which was alcohol. The first let me just tell you a funny story. The first funny thing that happened, we'll talk about American Ninja Warrior if you want to talk about that. But the first cool thing that happened was Shawn getting healthier and this is going on for about six months or a year at this point, I'm feeling good, my body's changing. I lost like 40 pounds, looking much more muscular and I started shooting videos for my Facebook page. And I had a, I was I had the camera stacked on a bunch of books facing me using resistance bands and I was trying to show my audience, the proper way to do a bicep curl using resistance bands. My foot slips off of the resistance band, the band comes up, hits me right inside of the face. And I catch this all on video. So I have a massive red mark across the side of my face. I can't shoot any more videos that day because I look like an idiot. And what happened was I uploaded the video anyways to Facebook even though it was silly. People started laughing somebody said you should send this into America's Funniest Home Videos. I thought I don't even know it was still playing but I figured I would send it in I don't they call me like to months later and say, Hey, Matt, this is, I think your name was Sasha from America's Funniest Home Videos, we just saw your video, we loved it, we want to fly you and a friend out to Los Angeles for the taping of our show. So it was one of it was weird because it's kind of like a negative thing you slap yourself in the face with a resistance band, but it turned out giving me a free trip to LA with my brother and some prize money. So it was like in my thinking it was like the good Lord's way of saying you're on the right path things are finally starting to happen that is good for you. So continue on this path. And my drive my driver has been I was telling you about when I look myself in the face and that was embarrassed October 2011. That person that I can still picture of my head drives me every day because I want to be the opposite of him. He was somebody that would quit. He was somebody that wouldn't get out of his comfort zone and My Drive is to be the opposite of who that person is. And it's worked. I mean, I've gone on and had a lot of fun fitness things happen in my life that will probably get into but that's kind of the backstory I don't know if I went into too much detail or not, but there you go,No, no, I love it. I'm gonna pull some of the things out here because I think it's important to recognize and highlight the key transformational moments in somebody's journey and my belief and what I've seen over interviewing, now hundreds of people and time and time again in my own life and other people's life observing success listening to books, is once you find a key principle, kind of like you said, a keystone habit right once you find these things, that whatever that is, the principle behind it is applicable everywhere. And that's what's so important is for him it was alcohol and it led to X amount of things maybe for you, the Keystone habits not alcohol, but it's TV. If you're going to turn your TV off, maybe whatever your Keystone habit is, everybody has a different Keystone habit. But if you are all to find out what is happening every night or almost every night for you to feel XYZ, right, because the feeling is what we're chasing. And then you change that one thing if you started going to bed four hours earlier, I will nearly guarantee you eventually, you're going to start waking up earlier. Yeah, you start waking up earlier, you're going to find something to do. When you're up earlier, whether that's reading more good books, studying whatever for him. It was working out and I think most people that I've met with and interviewed and talked to, that's kind of how it starts, they start exercising more. And the funny thing is when you start exercising more, the natural reaction to exercising more whether it's planned or unplanned, and I've talked to people who intentionally Try not to have this happen, but it just doesn't work. You start eating healthier, you start being more conscious about what's going your body Regardless of it's not even like you're trying, it's just like your mind your endorphins. Everything happens to whereas your body starts getting healthier, it starts wanting healthier things. And without even realizing it, you change what you're intaking, because your body starts asking and responding to different stimulants so that those Keystone habits, I'd invite you, whoever's listening, what are your Keystone habits? What are you doing for the last two to three hours before you go to bed, and if you altered those or remove some of that stuff, you just need to straight-up remove. But if you altered it, what would happen the next day? Yeah, and if you just do it one day, you won't recognize it. But if you do it consistently for a week, a month, you remove that you're going to find some major transformation in your life. The other thing that I love about this story is journaling. And if you listen to my podcast before, you know like me, journaling is my favorite form of meditation. It's something that I have committed to having journal entry for every day of the year, this year and moving forward, I had that for a long time, my life, I lost it after the birth of my first son. And I'm committed to it because it's just it changes my life and helps me process through so much through journaling, I think and I don't know if you've thought about this ever, but I would love to read that book. Right? The cool thing about experiences because we were talking a little bit before this about like, how have you written all these books? Or what books are you writing, Sam? These are the types of things that I'm publishing things about my life. I'm publishing stuff that for X amount of time I've spent already writing in you have a book written the amount of transformation of people who could read that identify with those feelings, and read it compound over and over and over and kind of highlight that the mindset shifts, and then the, the transition, the aha moment of Wow, this is my life. Everybody can go through that. If that was a book, I don't care if it's 50 pages long hundred pages long, whatever. And to then hear where you're at now, that's a truly inspirational book that I think could hit the New York Times bestseller, right? Because it's a story of something that millions of people in America can relate with.I hear you and you know what? I don't even know. I don't know if you notice, Sam. So I'm excited to bring it up. I actually, and I was going to get into this too. I wrote a book about exactly what we're talking about.I didn't know that. ButI know I didn't. I didn't know if you didn't know, I was kind of excited to drop that bomb on you. Soit's called, it's called the first 15. And the reason it's called the first 15 is and you alluded to it perfectly. I talked about owning the first 15 minutes of your day and how that can propel you through the rest of the day, the rest of the month, the rest of the year, the rest of your life. So it's all things that I strongly believe in, which is a morning routine. And just like you said, Sam, I think that's so cool about a lot of people, in my opinion, have amazing stories. And I would ask your audience and anybody who's listening, don't dim your light on your story, because I've talked to so many people I'm sure you to have to Sam. And they say, they tell you their story. And they say, well, it's not that big of a deal. Is that big of a deal? Like there are some incredible stories out there. And I challenge and ask any anybody listening to this, don't dim your light on your story, you probably have a really good story and if you want to tell it, tell it and self publish it and put it out there to the world because it's probably more awesome and you give yourself credit forthat. So even if you think you're telling your story is terrible. If your story, whatever it is, your story could change one person's life of your story could help one person find love could help one person not kill themselves. If your story could have one person better their life, find the right person, whatever it is. You could impact one person, would it be worth sharing your story? And that's the question I asked myself. And it just is like, it's worth sharing because if I can help one person, it's worth sharing if I can help million, I'm thrilled. Right? But if I can help one, that's important. So that's one thing the other. I want to bring up one more thing that he said before we dive into some more, asking more questions about the story. But have you ever and I'm asking anybody, your audience, right. But you so many people think they can't be someone without substance or without something happening, right? Their story is not good unless they have a tragedy, right? There are so many things where we think we can't be somebody we're no fun unless given a certain set of circumstances unless we're put in a certain situation. We can't be fun. It's interesting. I spent eight. I was on an eight-day cruise with some friends A while back and they were all drunk all the time, right? And that's fine. Like I know most of them and they don't drink regularly. So it's not like a bad thing. But, interestingly, that's how they choose to unwind. And their exam, are you going to try this or you like, don't you want some I'm like, I don't need that. to enjoy myself. I don't need that to relax. I don't like everything that you're saying you're doing this for, for me is not I do that. Without it. Right. So it comes down to and you nailed it on the head. It's a limiting belief that you need something out. So you need something outside of yourself, to be who you want to be. You can be who you want to be right now, deciding to be that person. And if you're questioning that, please reach out to Matt, reach out to me reach out to somebody who can coach you through that mentality shift. Because the unfortunate thing is, people always ask, Well, why do I need a coach? Why do I need to pay somebody to help me? The reason is, it's an old saying, I believe Albert Einstein, but the same mind that created the problem, I can't solve it. Right? All the inconsistency is in your thought processes, and I still pay for a coach. Because I'm still learning and growing, right? And I as much as I think I progressed. So I'm so off based on so much stuff that I talked to my coach and like, Well, why do you think that Sam Why do you think that right? It's a natural process, we always are going to be naturally limiting ourselves and so we need somebody to help us break out of those limiting beliefsfor others there too because I have a coach for the business side of it. And also since I do a lot of speaking I have a speech coach. So I'm with you, I consider myself a half-decent speaker, but I'm never going to be perfect and that's one of my favorite parts of speaking or business or anything. You could always keep learning and growing and getting better. So I'm with you 100% on that. Yeah,absolutely. So I mean, without giving away too much, right? I'm not here to like have you share your whole book with us. But as far as morning routines we, everybody hears they're important. I mean, there's going to be tons of people listen to this. And they're going to say, Oh, yeah, I know, I should have a morning routine, but I don't. What is it, that you found help you get like, really stick to your morning routine?You know, I think I think to see the success of the morning routine and the first I mean, you got to be a little bit patient, right? Like you need to give it at least a month or two probably to feel the full effects. But what I noticed in the main thing I was focusing on, as you said it was working out. And what I noticed was, not only was I looking better physically but my energy throughout the day completely shifted. And I went from, as you know, drinking until, let's say, 11 or midnight, waking up Just enough time to go to work and just kind of making it through the day instead of owning the day and crushing it and being excited to be out there in the world, to somebody who woke up earlier and then got in my 45 minute hour workout. And then people that saw me throughout the rest of the day could tell that day whether I work out or not, if I had the energy, if I had a pep in my step, if I look like I was healthy, they're like, Oh, you got a good workout in this morning. And then the days and it didn't happen often, but the days where I was kind of lazy or just didn't have that same energy, they knew that they would call me out and say, Matt, you didn't work out this morning. And I said, No, I didn't. And it's I think feeling that energy. Once I started working out and just feeling the difference in my body. It just it maybe it's a probably different person. It started to make me believe in myself more once I started seeing that success and realizing I can wake up earlier in the morning. I did it. I'm conquering alcohol while also making myself healthier. It's just, you can't help it build confidence in yourself because you're making these positive changes. And I would say to anybody who's looking to start a morning routine, I mentioned this to everybody. You don't have to start by waking up an hour and a half earlier. I mean, you could wake up 10 minutes earlier and do journaling, do a meditation practice, just do something to help you gain a sort of taking action on the day, instead of waking up and flipping on the news and reacting to all the negativity that's happening in the morning.Yeah, now Absolutely. So along those lines, and you talk about having a smile file, kind of explain that and share how we can each build one ourselves.I would love to explain it That's like my favorite part of anything I talk about. So the smile file is something that you know, as I said, waking up in the morning and just feeling more energized. Instead of looking at your phone or seeing something negative, I encourage people to do something positive. And a smile file is examples of how individuals have positively impacted other people or the world. Or let me give an example. Let's just say somebody in the workforce. And they have their yearly review. And their boss says that they did a great job like they appreciate the work they're doing. Or if you volunteer and one of the fellow volunteers or people that you're helping say, hey, thanks a lot for coming out. Like I appreciate you spending the time write that stuff down and put it in what I call the smile file, which is just a binder or folder or something where you keep examples of all these ways you've positively impacted other people. And it will probably take time to build it up. I mean, I've been doing mine for years. And the coolest part is what I encourage everybody to do. Is it in the morning, read one of these examples. of how you help the world become a better place. And you can't help but just feel better. And just think, Wow, like I, I did that I positively impacted the world. And it helps in twofold it helps you, your energy is much better, you're standing up straighter, your posture is probably better, who's more confident, and then you will most likely This is what I've heard a lot of people that have coached happen is you start looking for more ways that you can positively impact other people. It just happens because you've had this routine now and you're thinking about the smile file, how can you help other people? And it's a completely as you said, it's a mindset shift that can be powerful.Yeah, and I think it's a simple thing. To recognize that the more you focus on something, the more that's what you become. Yeah. And that's a huge and I without going into the religious talk conversation, I think that that is one of the most powerful things in our lives is what you choose to focus on, you become. Yeah, I agree, kind of gets into the idea of creation. There's a lot of people who are scared of the idea of creation because they think, man, I don't want to. If I have to accept that I'm the creator of everything that's happened, then that's terrifying to me. And for me, it was terrifying. At one point in my life, when I realized man, I kept the potential to create whatever existence I want in my life. It's daunting, right? I don't want that ability, right? But the point where I Okay, I see it now how do I do it? And how do you do it kind of is daunting. Once you understand that. It's an exciting thing. And then just like you when you're reading your journal, and you found out Oh, man, this is terrible, right? This is crazy. But on the other hand, like everything that happened was your own creation and yeah, nation that everything that happened was your creation comes with the realization that you can create whatever you want because you already created and so understanding that that's the the the thrilling, probably one of the most thrilling things in my life that I could ever share with somebody is that you're a creator and what you create is yours. Now, whether you like that or not, it's kind of up to you. Yeah. But the fact that you were able to create an can create that's, that's fulfilling and exciting.One. Yeah. I love I agree. And I mean, I thinkthink about it is like a lot of people asked me if something goes wrong. I try to blame myself first. And what I mean by that is, to me, that's empowering to me. If I think of how I can change myself to fix whatever the issue is, then I'm empowering myself. And some people will say, Well, Matt, as you blame yourself all the time. Like doesn't that like, doesn't make you feel bad and I say no because that means I, I have the power to change myself to change whatever is going on. It's a problem around me versus what I used to be like was pointing the finger at everybody else. It's his fault. It's her fault. It's their fault. And that's just empowering all them. I can't change who they are, but I can change who I am. Sure. And I think that comes down to what, what your definition of the word blame is or fault is I had a conversation with my brother, and he's like, Oh, it's their fault. It's their fault. And I'm just like, Okay, well, I think it's, like, sounds like we have a different definition of the fault, or at least the meaning and what the implications of it are me. I'm with you blame or fault. That's a fantastic thing to have. If you can blame me for everything in my life. I'm thrilled because that means it's mine to change. Yeah, but the moment you start saying, Oh, well, that's not your fault. That's that person and you're trying to take power from me by saying that my situation is somebody else's fault. I don't allow that right. My situation is my responsibility. And I love that I can have control over Nobody can take that away from you. So with that being said, what, what kind of led you then to start competing in all these different things? Like there's a, there's a level of like, I like to get fit. And then there's a level of Okay, I'm going to go compete with the world on how fit I am. Yeah. What became the like, how did you get onto American Ninja Warrior? How did you go about setting these two World Records like what exactly transpired that made you even think about doing that?Yeah, I mean, that's a great question. I think the first one is, I have been competitive from a very young age. And I think to have an older brother who beat me in a lot of things growing up, it just helped me with my competitive drive to keep it you know, I figured if I could beat him like I could beat anybody. So it was fun. And I think I had that ingrained in me at a young age. But the other thing I think the combination of that and getting these small wins that I had after I stopped drinking and just seeing the positive effect. That my body and mind and energy we're having. It's just made me start to think, well, what else can I do? You know, if I can stop drinking and I can start working out, then you know, that's a good start. It's a good base. But how far can I take this thing and the American Ninja Warrior thing happened? Because I love the show. And my cousin loves the show. And she said to me one day, just kind of like, out of nowhere. Hey, man, you want to try out for that show. And I hadn't even really thought about being on the show before as you said, you see some of these shows and you think you're I don't know how that person got on there. But it's cool to cool to see him on TV. But I never thought until it's really till she said that that I could be one of those people on TV. But I started looking into it. You see, really you just you fill out a bunch of stuff online and then they have you send in a three-minute video where you kind of show off some of your physical abilities, but also it is a TV show so they want to make it very entertaining. And I played the angle of I'm a die-hard Pittsburgh fan as we joke around before I'm a Steeler fan. I love my city. And I played up the angle of this sort of Mr. Pittsburgh, and I had a terrible towel for those of you that know that or know the Pittsburgh Steelers, we swing around this terrible tower Pittsburgh Steeler games. And they must have loved it because I will say this after I sent him the video and I sent in my form. I thought I was going to hear back within a month or two. And it took I think it took four months. I almost forgot about even submitting videos and stuff. And I finally am randomly I'm driving home from work one day, and I get a phone call and she says it's you know, Leslie from American Ninja Warrior. I was driving the car off the side of the road because I couldn't believe they called me and it was really funny because they said you know, we love the video with sorry, it took us a while to get back to you. We'd love to have you run the course and be on the show. And I said to them, that's great. I don't train every day like an American Ninja Warrior. Like I don't have our something set up in the backyard. It's American Ninja Warrior asked. So I said, How many months Do I have to train before you take the show? And she started laughing and she said, we're coming to Pittsburgh in a week and a half. I kind of had a crash course. I went to this gym. It's like a gymnastics gym. I think I went seven times and nine days to try to get my skills up to be on the show. But I guess one of the takeaways I would say is, I know it's cliche, if I can do it, anybody can do it. But it's so true. I mean, if there's something that you want to do, and you want to go after, the first step is putting yourself out there and submitting the video or sending in the form or shooting a Facebook Live video, whatever it is. I being on that show helped me stretched my comfort zone because I didn't consider myself quote an American Ninja Warrior. You're but then you get asked to be on the show after you submit the video and it becomes real so really if I can submit a video and beyond anybody out there in your in your world should definitely go after whatever they think they might not be able to getyeah I love that there are so many things in life that we can just like kind of think about doing may be put in a little bit effort but if we're not focused on it will forget that we forget that even happened right it wasn't really a goal wasn't a passion project yours you're just something that you did but it's those little things that you can be a yes man, for now, there are some people say yes to everything other people say there is no to everything. I think there's a healthy balance and first check and say Hey, is this in alignment with my values? I would say yes to as much as you can. That's in alignment with your values and say no to everything else because it doesn't matter. It's on alignment. And, and this not only helped him help Matt get out of this comfort. But this, I mean, I don't know at what stage you became a public speaker, but like being able to get out of your comfort zone, that's like one of the number one fears of people, which is weird. I love speaking in front of people, but it's, it's one of the number one fears. But when you step out of your comfort zone enough times, you start to say, okay, whatever, I'll do whatever. And I'm going to be successful, whatever, because I'm willing to do it confidently, even if I blow it, you know, I know that.So I didn't even know we're going to go here. And I'm so glad you brought that up. Because that's so as you said, public speaking up, maybe you've been blessed with just always liking public speaking, I'll be completely honest, I used to hate it and be scared to death of it. And it took me a lot of as you just said, getting out of my comfort zone to feel comfortable in front of four people, let alone 400 or 4000 people so, but as you alluded to Sam, I think one thing if you are trying to get better at public speaking or anything that's out of your comfort zone, keep stretching yourself and pushing yourself outside of the comfort zone and I, I actually coach some people to become better speakers. And the first thing is, speak, speak speak. Just keep getting on stage finding places to speak. I love Toastmasters, a great organization that helps you get out there. You're nodding your head. You might bespeaking tomorrow in Toastmasters. Oh,yeah, that's awesome. Toastmasters is that organization is changed my life. But keep speaking, but also, as you said, do other things that are outside of your comfort zone. It doesn't have to just be speaking, you know, sign up for a show, shoot that live video that you want to do whatever pushes you outside of the comfort zone. Yeah, it starts to become normal after a while.Yeah, for me, the one thing that I'm working on right now it's still it's karaoke. I'm super confident in my singing voice. If I close my eyes, so this is interesting. I have one of my business coaches, he throws you put people through this experience, where you get a chance to kind of dance, create a dance and go dance in front of everybody, and they cheer for you, which is great. And they're all doing the same thing. Sothat's awesome.But I have no problem going crazy dancing, however, like just really losing it. Like, I know a lot of people do when they're drunk or a high or whatever. I have a lot of fun, but I keep my eyes closed. And because it's coming, it's like the ostrich in the sand. Right? It's like if I can't see you, you can't see me I'm just having myself a good time. Right. And so something I've been working on through karaoke is being able to not just stare at the TV screen or, or close my eyes and sing the song but engage with the audience while I'm singing. And it's terrifying for me I still to this day, it is terrifying. And my family and many of my siblings have recorded CD out like this. They're good at singing my family. It's not something that I've ever felt that I even remotely match up to on that level. And so I don't sing a lot. But that's where that's currently if you're listening wondering where Sam stretching himself, karaoke is something that stretches me every time I do it, and it's terrifying. And I still choose to go do it. Because that's awesome.I think that's so cool. Okay, I gotta ask you a question now. So you're stretching yourself with karaoke? Do you feel more confident now in Toastmasters? Or when you're giving a presentation because of stretching yourself so far in karaoke?Oh, yeah, totally because it helps you be more comfortable with the sound of your voice, and more confident projecting, doing different tonalities speeds, everything it helps you gain more command over and more comfortability with it. So it has enabled me to engage with my audience more, get more emotional, get more excited about everything. The more that I've done karaoke. So it's a good thing, but ever, that's where it comes down to kind of Keystone habits are principles that are applicable everywhere. And when you start making one change in one area of your life, it bleeds into all the other areas of your life. And that's what's so cool about transformation and being able to identify those smaller things. I'm curious as you transition because I know you have a nine to five that we're not going to talk about. Okay, but on the side of your nine to five through this transformation, you've started a whole nother kind of personal brand for yourself through different things. Tell me a story of or tell us a story rather of your biggest naysayer, the person who just like didn't believe in you the most and how are you able to silence them and just still go forward and do what you know that you wanted to do?Oh, that's a really good question. And I am going to, I'm going to answer the question. I'm not going to skirt around it but I'm going to use it. Because it was tough for me. So I had when I was in this party mode. In my mid-20s, I had four really good friends. And these four friends were my drinking buddies, they were my buddies that I would Friday after work, they would meet up at my house, or I go to their house at 6 pm. And we would start until we all passed out that night and then do the same thing Saturday, and a lot of Sundays. So these four people, in my mind became my close friends. And what I didn't realize was, you know, you the way you act, you attract people like how you're acting, or that's how I believe in the law of attraction. So, I was drinking Friday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, I'm going to attract people that are doing what I'm doing. So one of the most powerful things that happened to me was once I stopped drinking, and I told These four guys that I have to stop, like, I'm going in the wrong direction, I need to do this. And they did not believe me that I was going to stop. And they thought, Oh, no, you know, he'll stop for a week or two or whatever. And then he'll be right back out with us. So they did not believe I was going to do it. I don't they didn't know how serious I was about it. And I'll say two things. The first thing I'll say is, I wish I would have taken them aside, maybe even one by one and had a really tough Heart to Heart about. It's not their fault. I mean, it's my fault that I'm putting myself in this situation. I want them to still be in my life, but I just can't drink anymore with them. So that may have even empowered them to decide to make changes themselves. But the other thing I'll say is, as I think this is where your question is going, if you make changes in your life, I don't care what change it is, you're probably going to have some people that are pretty close to you, if not very close to you say come down on you and why would you change? Why are you doing this? You know, it'll never last you know. And I think people that say that maybe they're scared that you're going to get ahead of them and leave them behind. Or maybe they're just not comfortable in their skin. I don't know what it is. But if anybody is if you're listening and you want to make a positive change, make the positive change, you will never regret it in the long run. But be prepared for some of those people that that may challenge you, even if they're not even trying to, they may just be trying to keep you around or keep you quote-unquote safe. Whenever you need to fly, you need to let yourself go and make these positive changes. So the naysayers would be those three or four close friends that I had that I still talked to two of them, I don't see him very often, but what I noticed was my whole group of friends started shifting. Once I started getting healthier. I became friends with people who wanted to be healthy, who ate healthily who worked out who did marathons and obstacle course races so that she In close friends was really helpful and I almost upgraded the people that I was hanging out with.Yeah, no, that's, I think that's the key is being willing to, to step away and be committed to the change and recognize that they're not dissuading you or telling you to know, you're can do it out of it's not out of disbelief for you, it's out of protection for themselves at and that's a, something we all have to deal with. And that's what I would encourage you to do is think about the people listening. Where in your life are you currently being a naysayer?That's a good question.Yes. Because we think oh, yeah, all these people are naysaying us. Right. But hey, wherein your life? Are you currently inviting other people not to achieve their dreams? Where are you currently not believing in somebody else's ability to do what they say they're going to do? And then write a note. And start today to change your level of support and start believing in them. Because as you start to believe in others kind of goes back to the very beginning of your smile, your smile, right? You start to believe in others, you're naturally going to start believing in yourself. And that's the key. So, even if you can't believe in yourself yet, start by believing in others, and start becoming somebody who is a yes, say, or somebody who believes in somebody rather than a naysayer, because it means it's a progression. In fact, in my book, the fuel your legacy nine pillars to build a meaningful legacy that starts with haters and goes right into believers like what, that the transition is a natural transition to go from, and part of growth. So I'm curious if you were to focus on a specific habit, mindset or behavior that you have used to create your meaningful legacy what would that be and then how can we adopted into our lives, smartphonesOh, that's a really good question. And actually, I'll answer that I'm thinking about this naysayer thing. You got me thinking now if I'm being a naysayer anywhere in my life, I wrote that one down. That's good. But habit, a habit to fuel your legacy. I would say I think one of the most powerful habits and I think it does go along with journaling is having a gratitude practice. I think, being grateful and focusing on what you're grateful for. What I'm grateful for, is it's a mindset shift that I didn't even fully believe in instead until I started doing it, and I'm mine is my gratitude practices really simple. Right after I meditate, I sit, I'm typically sitting on the floor sitting in a chair, eyes closed, and I just try to put myself in a situation where I felt extreme gratitude in my life. And I typically do two of those scenarios where I feel that gratitude and then the third one was Three things I'm grateful for. And the third one is typically something very small. It's not some massive thing like a big vacation or something. It's just the fact that I was able to see the sunrise that morning or I got a chance to work out or I woke up on the I got another chance at life, I'm alive. So I think having a gratitude practice, it doesn't have to be the not the last 10 or 15 minutes. I mean, it could be one minute just helps you helps me anyways, get my mindset, right. And then as I go throughout my day, as you're saying, we become what we focus on. If you do a gratitude practice in the morning, as you go about your day, instead of thinking about things that upset you or you don't like you start thinking things about what you're grateful for because you have this practice already started. So I'm a workout nut. So the two things I'll say our gratitude practice and exercising in the morning just because I think if you don't do it in the morning, there are too many things use later on in the day that we can make up to avoid the exercise. So, Julie, your legacy, I'll go with gratitude and working out.Awesome. I love that. So when people are transitioning this I know you're coaching speak on, on stage about helping people kind of chase their best self and become as much as they can chase their potential. How important is understanding how money works in that transition?I think it's huge. Yeah, I mean, I think that's, yeah, that's a great question. Because I think if you can't, I mean, that's the difference between I guess making it a hobby and making it a business right. I think if you can find a way to do what you're passionate about, and also, you're earning enough income to let you do it, then you basically have it made and I think the cool discussion is, you know, I'm sure you have friends like this to Sam or we probably both have friends that earn $50,000 a year working for themselves and they're the happiest people in the world. And you probably know people that make $300,000 a year and they hate their lives and they come home miserable every day. So to me, if you can, if we're talking about entrepreneurs or even if you work for a company, and you are completely fulfilled and happy and what you're doing, like I am when I'm on stage like you are Sam, probably when you're coaching and doing your podcast, and if you're making enough income to support you and your family I think you got it made and you know, you want to put some aside for later down the road for your kids school and your retirement and all that. But um, yeah, I think you need to find away. If you're serious about your passion and whatever you want to go after in life to monetize it, at least to some extent or else it just becomes an expensive hobby. ProbablyYeah, no, I completely agree. And I think that's part of that is understanding how money works and the role that it plays in building your legacy. It's not that your legacy is financial and that's a common thing that I get well, what do you mean by legacy? Because legacy is a financial word like no legacy can be financial, it can have a financial legacy, but almost always money needs to fund your legacy, but your legacy is not necessarily the money, your legacy. It could be I mean, there are people who I would say their legacy is the money. I would think the Rockefellers is somebody who likes people know them for the money even though like the Rockefellers, we, this is crazy, but we probably would not have gasoline engines right now. or gasoline as a whole without the Rockefellers that was their business was Trent the transferring and that the creation of gasoline-like everybody uses it you nobody knows the rock, rock fellers for oil and gas with All know them because of the financial legacy they left which is fine. But as we have, we should be eternally grateful for their society, right. And so you get to choose what people will remember you for. And that choice should be lived now. So we're getting into the final fun things about this. But I'm curious how could we support you? How can we get access to your book? Is it Where do we find that? What's the best place to find Matt and kind of participate in your vision and your legacy that you're building?Yeah, I mean, the book is on Amazon, it is called the first 15. Yeah, feel free to check that out. I'm very active on Instagram if anyone wants to follow along, and as Sam already said, if you have questions or comments reach out to me, as he knows, I try to respond as quickly as I can. So on Instagram, it's just my name at Matt skullet a co le TTI. And I'm happy to hopefully inspire some people to help some people and interact with all of you on there.Yeah, awesome. Cool. So this is called legacy on rapid-fire this next section. Now the one thing that the caveat that I'm happy to put in here is the first question you have to clarify. Okay, fair enough. The legacy of rapid-fire, what do you believe is holding you back from reaching the next level of your legacy?myself?Everybody says that's what you have to clarify. Oh,wait, ask me the question. Again. I think I got a good answer. But what is holding you back from reaching the next level of your legacy?I think myself because I need to continue to as we're talking about upgrading the people that you surround yourself with. I think I need to keep stretching my comfort zone in who I get in front of as far as is speaking opportunities. So I want to I do have a coach, I'm going to join at least one organization of all speakers. And I think being around other individuals that are playing the game at a higher level than me, I think the only way to grow is if you know, you want to get better at tennis and you're playing against the worst tennis player, you're not gonna get any better. So I want to keep getting in rooms with people like yourself, Sam that is playing the game at a high level, in our in, in their business in their lives there where I aspire to be. I don't want to be ahead of everybody that's in the room as me so I think continuously pushing myself out of my comfort zone to surround myself with people that are much more successful than I am because that's where I want to be.Yeah, absolutely. I love it. So what is the hardest thing you think you've ever accomplished?I think the hardest thing I've ever accomplished is becoming a professional speaker. And that's because of kind of go back to the same question I was holding myself back. I'll tell you, I'll tell you a quick story is this may help Iraq is in fifth grade. I was, I got volunteered to give a speech to run for student government. I didn't want to run for student government. I didn't want to give this speech, but my class volunteer means fifth grade. So I get up in front of the whole school. There's like 400 people in this room. My whole speech was five sentences. It was like a minute long. I memorized the speech, I thought I had it down. I left the piece of paper in my locker, but I thought I had memorized it enough. So I can go out there and give it I got the first four senses down and then I blanked on the fifth sense, and I stood there like a dope in front of 400 people. And the reason I'm telling this story is I told myself the story of I suck as a public speaker for the next 20 years of my life, because of a sample size of one screw up when if I had just had my speech in front of me, I'm sure we've gone fine and I wouldn't have thought that so I told myself as you said, This limiting belief, I told myself the story that I was not a good public speaker. So to get over that story, to me build confidence like I couldn't even imagine once I started succeeding in front of a group.Yeah, I love that. So what do you believe your greatest success at this point in your life has been thegreatest success isI think my greatest success is the relationship that I've helped build with my wife. So that was, I'm a family man. So we don't have kids yet or dogs yet, but I'm sure in the future, who knows, but I think the relationship that we share has been the greatest feeling and the greatest success. I don't think any business or public speaking success could compare to the relationship I have with ourawesome I love that's, I think, before this conversation we were talking off-camera. And he asked me Hey, what do you want your like, what do you get excited about in the morning? And I said you know right now probably not what I want to get excited about. I said, most excited about waking up and helping to help clients I love helping people make the mindset transformation about how they do and their relationship with money. I think it's the most fulfilling thing for me. And but I want to wake up and get excited about that I get to see my kids and then I get to see my wife. So I love that that is your great success to this point in your life to I would say my family is my greatest success right now. But I don't know that I am mentally treating in that way, which is an issue.But that's great that you acknowledge it. I mean, that's how you can buildon that right? Yeah, for sure. So what are two or three books that you would recommend to fuel your legacy audience?Oh, two or three bucks. So actually, I have my button.I'll give you three books. So these are my three favorite books. Two of them. One of them has been around for a while two of them are newer. Thinking Grow Rich is one of my favorite books that has ever been written I have that there's like three or four books that I will reread once a year and thinking Grow Rich is one of them. the second book I'll give you is called the 5 am Club by Robin Sharma. And he basically as you know, I'm a morning routine guy, and he is he talks about how waking up early can completely change your life. And the way that he writes the book is cool because it's almost like a fictional fairy tale style that he writes the book and he tells a great story while also giving you awesome tips on personal development and business development. So 5 am Club, the last one I'll give you, which is an intense book is called can't hurt me. And it's written by a guy named David Goggins, who was a former Navy SEAL. And he is he's one of the most intense crazy guys are you ever hear about, but hearing his story of just really difficult childhood, he was extremely overweight turned Navy SEAL badass guy is it's a strong powerful story I think a lot of people will enjoy.Awesome. We'll have some links to those in the show notes here. And then also links to where you can get ahold of and find Matt on social media and his website there. So here's my favorite question. I think this is pretty much why I do this podcast because we get to pretend that you're dead. And that's exciting. No, all right. Good. You're dead, right? So so we're in pretend you're dead. And you are now kind of view into the future six generations from now. So your great-great, great, great, great-grandchildren. They're sitting around a table, discussing your life, man. They're talking about what your legacy is. What do you want your Sixth Generation great, great, great, great-grandchildren? What do you want them to be saying about your legacy?Wow, that is a good question right there. I like this question. What do I want them to be saying about me six generations down the road? Um, I think one of the things I want them to be saying is, no matter how many setbacks you have in your life, you can still succeed at anything that you do so I mean, I consider myself to have failed. I don't even know how many hundreds or thousands of times but all at all, if you look at the whole picture, I feel like it's been a pretty darn successful life and I expect to do the same in the future. Meaning that when we do these things I want to try to improve on I'm going to fail 1020 times, but if you succeed once, then it seen as an insane, insanely huge success overall, so I would say, down the road that would be one of the things that I would want them to say is, is to basically keep failing, keep failing. And don't be afraid to screw up because in my opinion, I don't think you can do anything great if you never fail and you never continuously fail and finally figure out whatever it is to have the right success. So yeah, I think that's, that's what I would want to say to I mean, the never give up style attitude. But even more than that, don't be afraid to be yourself. Don't be afraid to fail. Because if you keep going after your passion, eventually you'll get there.Yeah, awesome. Love it. Thank you so much for taking the time to be on this show and sharing your words of wisdom, your story. I'm excited for everybody who has the opportunity or takes the opportunity rather than goes get his book and to learn from him beyond social media. She is somebody who's Excited early in the morning on Instagram, so if you're looking for people who are gonna like you, you're gonna open your phone most people do it. The first thing you see is the excitement of Matt Scoletti, then you're on a good track because he is he's up and moving. AndI love doing those videos about okay.I appreciate that.Awesome.Well, catch you guys next time on fuel your legacy.Thanks for joining us. What you heard today resonates with you please like comment and share on social media tag me and if you do give me a shout out I'll give you a shout out on the next episode. Thanks to all those who've left a review. 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The Survivor Series with Stephanie and Matt Scoletti
This Exceptional Journey
Good People! Happy New Year, I am so grateful you have stuck around to hang with your girl into 2019! This year with the podcast, you won't be lulled by just my sultry vocal tones, you will also hear the personal journeys of other cancer survivors whose stories I am sure will touch your heart. My hope is that these amazing people inspire, empower and ignite you to go out there and live life fully despite what hand you are dealt. So, welcome to the first look into The Survivor Series of This Exceptional Journey Podcast!! In this episode, the eleventh of the podcast, you will meet the phenom power couple Stephanie and Matt Scoletti. Stephanie is the fearless leader of the Young Adult Cancer Support Group (YACS) with the Cancer Cancer Caring Center in Pittsburgh, PA. She shares her own exceptional journey with cancer and how she managed to turn her diagnosis at 19 years old into founding the only cancer support group specific to young adults. And her hubby Matt is nothing short of incredible with his own unique survivorship from alcoholism to being a sober, world record holding, published author who uses his exceptional journey to motivate others to live their best lives. Listen as they share their highs and lows and everything in between! Don't forget to subscribe, rate and review! Let's dive in! Check Out Matt & Stephanie here! Stephanie Social: https://www.instagram.com/stephscoletti/ Articles: https://www.wtae.com/amp/article/local-woman-talks-about-creation-of-cancer-support-group-for-young-adults/14753714 https://kdkaradio.radio.com/blogs/kdka-radio-morning-news-larry-richert-and-john-shumway/larrys-heroes-leukemia-survivor-makes Matt Social: https://www.instagram.com/mattscoletti/ Website - www.MattScoletti.com (find his book here!!) Articles: https://www.post-gazette.com/local/south/2014/11/13/South-Side-man-battles-obstacle-course-to-raise-money-for-cancer-support/stories/201411130034 https://triblive.com/local/hamptonshaler/12950486-74/hampton-man-to-bike-for-24-hours-to-benefit-young-cancer-survivors YACS (Young Adult Cancer Support Group) Website: www.cancercaring.org/YACS Social: https://www.instagram.com/yacspittsburgh/ Article: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.pghcitypaper.com/pittsburgh/wig-out-for-young-adult-cancer/Content%3foid=11365676&media=AMP%2bHTML ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow me on Social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yolanda.murphy.5895 https://www.facebook.com/thisexceptionaljourney/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisexceptionaljourney/Twitter: https://twitter.com/tejpodcast Website: https://thisexceptionaljourney.com/ Organizations I'm a Part of: Young Survival Coalition https://www.youngsurvival.org/ Living Beyond Breast Cancer https://lbbc.org/ PA Breast Cancer Coalition https://www.pabreastcancer.org/ Cancer Caring Center http://cancercaring.org/ Music By The Passion HiFiwww.thepassionhifi.com