John Stoker's guest appearances

John Stoker

Leading Saints Podcast

Work that Matters by WorqIQ

Make It Happen with Michelle McCullough

Clint Pulver

Whitney Johnson

Vasavi Kumar

Brett McKay

Ann Handley

Jacob Hess

Kate Northrup

Emily Belle Freeman

Todd Olson

Mamie Kanfer Stewart

Kelly Thompson

Hilary Hendershott

Danielle LaPorte

Mark McConville

Jethro Jones

OwlTail

John Stoker currently lives in Springville, Utah and is the President and CEO of DialogueWORKS. John earned a masters degree in Organizational Behavior at Brigham Young University and has had an exciting career. His career has taken him all over the country and he even went back to Law school and practiced as a criminal defense attorney. DialogueWORKS helps leaders to develop communication and thinking skills that will help them be more effective with the people that they manage in the organizations that they lead. They help businesses to shift their paradigm by teaching courses on communication, leadership development, or emotional intelligence and critical thinking. In short, they help leaders get out of their "stinking thinking” by helping them achieve results, build relationships, and create respect. John is also the author of Overcoming Fake Talk.Episode Summary 	Served as a Bishop at BYU 2:50 	“What should I do with this person, having a difficult conversation” 5:08 	Worry/avoid the conversation and when they do have it they don’t do it well 	Avoid and compound the problemHandling poor performance 7:40 	Address the the issue one-on-one not with the whole team4 Steps in having a difficult conversation 12:00 	1st Step Initiate: Starting the conversation 	Identify the intent for holding the conversation. What do you want to happen? 	Create an Attention Check “Can we talk?” 12:43 	Share data that you have or are experiencing and interoperation of the data. “I noticed…I’m wondering, thinking, or believing…” 	Start with data and then share your perspective 14:252nd Step Discovery: Ask as many questions that you can 17:05 	Confirming Question: 	Have I or Is it accurate?Learning question: 	What’s going on?Write down questions: 	What do I not know? 	What do I need to know?3rd Step Connect: 30:32 	Summarize their perspective first, then add yours. “If I understand correctly… Does that make sense?" 	Share your expectations &amp; natural consequences4th Step Build: 38:00 Create Accountability 	Build Plan: It needs to be their solution 	What have you tried? What has worked? What hasn’t worked?Get commitment to plan 	Will you do this? Connects to motivation 	Can you do this? Connects to ability 	Is there anything you need from me? Connects to support 	The answers to these questions become the facts for the next conversation. “Last month when we talked you said…”Read the persons reaction to check their commitment levelGeneral encouragement for leaders 45:40 	Prepare: Sit down, think about the person and the context 	Don’t judge: Learn to suspend judgement and realize we don’t know as much as we think 	Ask more questions. 	Listen

John Stoker currently lives in Springville, Utah and is the President and CEO of DialogueWORKS. John earned a masters degree in Organizational Behavior at Brigham Young University and has had an exciting career. His career has taken him all over the country and he even went back to Law school and practiced as a criminal defense attorney. DialogueWORKS helps leaders to develop communication and thinking skills that will help them be more effective with the people that they manage in the organizations that they lead. They help businesses to shift their paradigm by teaching courses on communication, leadership development, or emotional intelligence and critical thinking. In short, they help leaders get out of their "stinking thinking” by helping them achieve results, build relationships, and create respect. John is also the author of Overcoming Fake Talk. Episode Summary 	Served as a Bishop at BYU 2:50 	“What should I do with this person, having a difficult conversation” 5:08 	Worry/avoid the conversation and when they do have it they don’t do it well 	Avoid and compound the problem Handling poor performance 7:40 	Address the the issue one-on-one not with the whole team 4 Steps in having a difficult conversation 12:00 	1st Step Initiate: Starting the conversation 	Identify the intent for holding the conversation. What do you want to happen? 	Create an Attention Check “Can we talk?” 12:43 	Share data that you have or are experiencing and interoperation of the data. “I noticed…I’m wondering, thinking, or believing…” 	Start with data and then share your perspective 14:25 2nd Step Discovery: Ask as many questions that you can 17:05 	Confirming Question: 	Have I or Is it accurate? Learning question: 	What’s going on? Write down questions: 	What do I not know? 	What do I need to know? 3rd Step Connect: 30:32 	Summarize their perspective first, then add yours. “If I understand correctly… Does that make sense?" 	Share your expectations &amp; natural consequences 4th Step Build: 38:00 Create Accountability 	Build Plan: It needs to be their solution 	What have you tried? What has worked? What hasn’t worked? Get commitment to plan 	Will you do this? Connects to motivation 	Can you do this? Connects to ability 	Is there anything you need from me? Connects to support 	The answers to these questions become the facts for the next conversation. “Last month when we talked you said…” Read the persons reaction to check their commitment level General encouragement for leaders 45:40 	Prepare: Sit down, think about the person and the context 	Don’t judge: Learn to suspend judgement and realize we don’t know as much as we think 	Ask more questions. 	Listen

Approaching Difficult Conversations as a Leader | An Interview With John Stoker

Communication is the key to building relationships both at home and at the office.  Author John Stoker talks about Overcoming Fake Talk and have REAL conversations.  Host Michelle McCullough also talks about how to enroll your spouse, children, employees and other in your business goals and dreams so that you get the support you want as an entrepreneur.

Communication: Overcoming Fake Talk & Enrollment To Get The Support You Want- with Guest John Stoker