190. Wendy Capewell: On Comparison, Not Feeling Good Enough and Panic Attacks
Psykhe Mental Wellbeing Podcast
In this episode, we're joined by Wendy Capewell. Wendy is a qualified psychotherapist with more than 16 years of professional and a lifetime of personal experience. The personal experiences include contracting polio aged 4 years old from which she made a full recovery, two divorces, one of which was with an abusive partner, redundancy, a period of depression, being a single partner, breast cancer 30 years ago. She now uses these experiences together with her professional ones to help individuals and couples who are stuck in old negative patterns of behaviours often due to a traumatic event in their lives. She helps them to get to the root cause and then supports them to move forward to create healthy relationships with themselves and others. In this episode, we explore: trauma relationships patterns comparison not feeling good enough panic attacks and loads more. Mentioned in this episode Gabor Mate - In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Wendy’s podcast: Love, Listen, Talk, Repeat Connect with Wendy on Instagram, LinkedIn or via her website Connect with Hannah @hannah.stainer on Instagram or Twitter. Follow our podcast @psykhecoaching on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or connect with us via our website where you can download your gratitude journal by signing up to our mailing list. Support the podcast by sending us a coffee via Ko-Fi If you've loved this episode as much as we have please do share it on social media and tag us in your post. And we always love to hear what you think so please rate and review on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts. Thanks for listening! Hannah & the Psykhe Podcast team x--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/psykhe/message
#116 - Unrealistic Expectations We Have on Ourselves and Our Relationships - With Wendy Capewell
Love-Listen-Talk-Repeat Podcast with Wendy Capewell
Usually, I am the host of this podcast, but this episode is about thoughts I have had as we start 2020. Instead of interviewing a guest, I am offering my thoughts and perspectives, on life, the way we are in the world, as well as in our relationships. CONTENT The things I will be talking about are whether you have made New Year Resolutions, and what happens if you don’t keep to them? Unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves and on our partners and relationships, The effect of social media and advertising on our sense of satisfaction Comparison is damaging I ask - What is perfection? I also suggest that it’s more helpful to focus on the positives that our partner brings to our relationship, rather than the negatives. ABOUT WENDY CAPEWELL Wendy is a qualified psychotherapist with more than 16 years professional and a lifetime of personal experience. The personal experiences include contracting polio aged 4 years old from which she made a full recovery, two divorces, one of which was with an abusive partner, redundancy, a period of depression, being a single partner, breast cancer 30 years ago, which included a mastectomy, radiotherapy and chemotherapy. She sees herself like a cat having nine lives. She now works with individuals and couples who are stuck in old negative patterns of behaviours often due to a traumatic event in their lives. She helps them to get to the root cause and then supports them to move forward to create healthy relationships with themselves and others. Wendy Capewell Connect with Wendy Here...... If you would like to have a chat to see how I can help you. you can book a call here- https://live.vcita.com/site/wendycapewell/online-scheduling?service=xswb7wemkadz1g23 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Copewelltherapies Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendycapewell/ Website - https://www.wendycapewell.co.uk/ Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/wendycapewell/ Book –‘From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship’- Link to Amazon Email – firstname.lastname@example.org Email me if you would like to receive my newsletter. which contains my latest news, articles and special offers. If you have enjoyed this show then please leave a review.
Mental Health and well being has been touched upon by almost every one of our podcast guests. The Pandemic, the lockdowns, social distancing, no work and no play. This episode discusses the impact the above has had on relationships. Wendy Capewell is more than just a Life Coach, Psychotherapist or Counsellor. In this episode Wendy guides Scary and Gary through the emotions to seek the root of the problems, looking at childhood issues, self esteem, confidence, gender issues and even neuro pruning! For more information and to connect with Wendy: wendycapewell.co.uk email@example.com Buy the book – From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship Facebook - www.facebook.com/Copewelltherapies Linked in - https://uk.linkedin.com/in/wendycapewell Podcast – Love~Listen~Talk~Repeat
TILP 051 - How to change those limiting beliefs that are holding you back with Wendy Capewell
The Intuitive Listening Podcast
Wendy Capewell grew up believing she wasn't good enough. She lacked confidence and always felt she was an outsider. By her own admission, she was a people pleaser, always trying to second guess how to behave so that she would 'fit in'. In this episode, Wendy shares how she has managed to challenge these beliefs, how she has shifted her mindset to a stronger place and the impact this has had on her own happiness. About Anne-Louise: I spent most of my life appearing confident, chatty and in control. In my early 40’s – 3 engagements, 2 marriages and 1 divorce in, I realised this façade hid the fact I had spent years undervaluing myself, playing small and not believing I deserved a successful life. Impacting my life dramatically. Feeling frustrated and unfulfilled, I committed to doing whatever it took to deepen my relationship with myself and The Universe and discovered how to feel vibrant, alive and create a life I really loved. Now as an Intuitive Coach, host of The Intuitive Leaders Podcast and founder of The Intuitive Leaders Mentorship, I tap into what Female Entrepreneur’s need to change to connect with their infinite potential and rise up to be the best version of themselves. Also a lover of prosecco, partying and keeping it real. I am as happy sitting meditating as I am dancing around the kitchen with a glass of fizz in my hand! Anne-Louise's Links: Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Website About Wendy: Wendy has a passion for helping people get to the root cause of what is getting in their way of achieving the success they crave in their personal, professional and romantic lives. Using her 15 years professional experience together with a lifetime of personal experiences. From surviving polio, a period of depression and beating breast cancer, being a single mum following divorce, and an abusive relationship, help her relate to her clients. Wendy has built a successful business, written ‘ From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship’, is a regular contributor to a woman's magazine, and a podcast host. Wendy's Links: Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Website Podcast - Love~Listen~Talk~Repeat Link to book -‘From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship’
Candid Interview with Psychotherapist, Counsellor and Coach Wendy Capewell
Emerging into Greatness With Sade Popoola
Wendy Capewell speaks on Emerging Into Greatness candidly about her challenges and how they helped shape her decision to help others. After suffering from breast cancer, failed abusive marriage and low self esteem Wendy tells how she picked herself up from a simple advice from her husband while facing abuse from him. This is an interesting episode. Contact wendy via her website or Instagram page- www.wendycapewell.co.uk Instagram- @wendycapewell.
Ep11 There is ALWAYS a way! In Conversation with Wendy Capewell
Happy Healthy Minds Podcast with Sarah Swanton
"There's always a way. Nothing's impossible! I don't give up easily. I know I can do it, and it's the coaches that keep me on track.” (Wendy Capewell, Relationship Coach )Wendy Capewell is this week's guest on The Happy Healthy Entrepreneur Podcast, and she is a Relationship Coach, specifically working with couples who know that they love each other, they’ve just lost some of their spark, and are really invested in getting it back again and ultimately having a happy, healthy relationship with one another.Wendy is also a regular contributor to magazines and is the author of a book called 'From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship'Now, like many business owners who set up on their own, Wendy did have another career before re-training as a Relationship Specialist. She worked in finance and admin, and was also a Housing Officer for 5 years in a Local Authority, so, this has been a complete change for her, not only in starting her own business but also in a very different type of business.So when I asked Wendy to reflect on the three words that best describe her entrepreneurial journey so far she said:Exciting. Frustrating. Freedom.What you’ll learn by listening to this episode:How Wendy really makes the flexibility of working for herself, work for her. How she spent 5 weeks visiting friends in Australia and New Zealand, because she could!;How when you start up in business, you have to wear every single 'hat' in the early days, and the sheer frustration of getting everything done, and the shock of qualifying as a therapist, but not having the business or marketing skills to attract clients;How she wishes she brought on VA support systems in place, earlier on in her self-employment journey;How people in the self-employment community are so helpful, supportive and full of advice if you just ask;Self-care comes first. Being able to recognise when to ask the question "What do I need to take care of myself, today?";The power of online community, and friendships that have developed from the social media world, and helped with overcoming self-employment isolation.Recommendations and Resources:Oprah WinfreyNick Vujicic www.lifewithoutlimbs.org www.catherinewatkin.com of Selling From The HeartAngela Harkness www.high-heelers.comWhere you can learn more about Wendy CapewellFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/CopewelltherapiesLinked in - https://uk.linkedin.com/in/wendycapewell Twitter Account - @CapewellTherapy www.yourrelationshipspecialist.co.uk
Wendy Capewell on Show #12: Living in the Moment, Being Positive, Self Care, Social Media, Toastmasters and Powtoon
POWER to Live More with Jo Dodds
Living in the Moment, Being Positive, Self Care, Social Media, Toastmasters and Powtoon with Wendy Capewell, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Counsellor at Copewell Therapies.What We Recommended:Tools & Apps Asana – “I use that for my own tasks, but I also use it in conjunction with someone who helps me with my online marketing. He will set up the tasks, remind me what I need to do, and then I can put that, whatever I’ve done, into the app. It means that all my tasks are listed, and you can list them under different projects too.” Scannable – “It’s an app that I have which means that I don’t have to collect business cards at network meetings. I can just scan it. It then goes into my contact details. If they’re on LinkedIn, you actually get the LinkedIn connection on your phone too.“ Periscope – live video recorded and broadcast on your Smartphone “The other thing I’ve just got, and I haven’t really used it, although we did use it at a workshop that I ran with a couple of others a month ago now.” PowToon – “It’s an animation program, and you can use it free. I’ve got it as an introduction. I’ve made an introduction on my website. It’s fun to use. If you enjoy technology and using these little characters and so on, it’s great fun.” Facebook – “Some people frown on Facebook, but I find that some of the groups there can be really good. I’m actually part of a therapist group. There’s lots of people exchanging information and offering advice. Those kinds of things I can pick up from there.“ Twitter – “I’ve started using Twitter more, and the one thing that I’ve started doing is I’ve got my own hashtag. It means that whenever you put a post on, say, Facebook, social media, Twitter, then if they click on that hashtag, it brings up all the articles and posts that are under that hashtag. My hashtag is #unstoppableconfidence” Other Resources Toastmasters – “I’ve also joined a Toastmasters group, which I’m going to … I’m doing my first talk this evening. I wanted to be able to present public speaking better, which I’m doing more of now, so I thought I’d join the Toastmasters. Whilst it can be quite formal and very, very structured, and I had to get my head around it a bit, but I also find it great fun.” POWER to Live More Newsletter – “I always find your newsletters fascinating. I really enjoy. I look forward to reading them, so they’re great. I also pick up your tips, because you’ve usually got a little nugget in there somewhere in your newsletter. I search for it.” Music Spotify – “I’ve recently discovered Spotify. I really love that, because you can just pick from an era or a particular artist or just choose the type of music, so that you want relaxing music or if you want dance music. It’s free. Tips Working three days a week – “Generally I found that I was trying to satisfy my clients’ needs rather than … and work around them, which made my life pretty disjointed. I wasn’t very focused then or very organised. I would find that I didn’t get things done particularly well. By having more focus and organising my week better, I find that I get more done, and I’m better organised too.” Health Routines – “I do have breakfast every morning. I do do some exercise. I may go for a walk. Yes, I like to get myself prepared for the day. I guess not meditation, but those positive thoughts about how my day is going to be and looking forward to it. I like to start my day feeling positive, and generally I do, because I do love my life and I’m really passionate about what I do too, so that all helps.” Painting and Drawing – “One of my hobbies is painting or drawing. I believed as a child, I was hopeless at art. About 7 years ago, I decided to join an art class and see if I could be taught how to paint and draw. I really, really love it. I find it’s a great way of unwinding. Speaking Tip (from Jo) – Ian Hughes spoke at a conference and gave a lot of information about how to prepare for speaking and so on. He’s an actor, as well as a speaker, but one of the things he talked about was about, firstly, about when you get that adrenaline when you’re really nervous before you speak, to go and press against the wall as if you were trying to push the wall over, and do that 3 or 4 times. Speaking Tip “The other thing that they say is really good is to do a power stance, a bit like Wonder Woman, so that you really pump yourself up and get yourself in that frame of mind that you’re positive” Opening your Heart and Mind to New Things – “I love exploring, just going to different events and trying new things. Yeah, bring it on. It’s almost like everything is new, everything’s exciting, and I try not to say, “No, I can’t do it.” I say yes, and worry about it afterwards. I find that I’ve had so many opportunities that have come to me just by opening my heart and my mind to new things and trying them out.” Mindful Eating – “I set aside a time to have lunch and try to eat it without doing things, because I think we get into that habit of multitasking, and then we don’t notice what we’re eating. That can lead to eating all the wrong foods as well.” Sleep – “I love my sleep anyway, so I do go to bed at a reasonable time. I make sure that I get a good healthy sleep in as much as possible. I don’t function if I’m really tired, so it isn’t worth it.” Learning – “I think from a learning perspective of my business, then I do attend workshops and read and so on to improve my knowledge, because I think that’s really important, to keep up to date so that I can provide the best possible service. Continued professional development is really important for me. I do belong to associations and have memberships, and they demand that too.” Don’t Beat Yourself Up – “I’ve learnt not to beat myself up. I can get frustrated, but I also recognise that that doesn’t help. Sometimes it’s a case of, I just have to let it go and prioritise. Self Care – “I’ve learned that, if I don’t feel up to it, then it’s probably better that I take the time out to look after myself, and then start again when I’m feeling fresher, because otherwise I just ruin the rest of the week. If I have a day when I’m just not feeling well, and I try and push myself through it, I know that I’m going to take longer to heal. I’ve learnt that lesson over the years. It’s been a hard one, because I know when I was working full-time as an employee, that I would push and push and push myself until I really wasn’t well. It just isn’t worth it.” Be in the Moment – “that just being in the moment for me is really important, enjoying every moment, and staying in it, not worrying about what happened yesterday. I really found that living in the moment and enjoying it and just noticing what is around me, and even if it is a black cloud that I’m looking out at the sky when I’m talking to you, even that, the movement in the air, the trees swaying in the breeze, they’re things that sometimes we forget to do because we’re so busy rushing around.” To Contact Wendy http://www.wendycapewell.co.uk The Relationship Therapist on Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Tweet: “I find in my work that a lot of the problems that people suffer is based on lack of self-esteem and confidence.” http://ctt.ec/Na5VF+Tweet: “I love travel. It’s one of my real passions. I do have quite a lot of adventures. @capewelltherapy http://ctt.ec/6S38r+Tweet: “I do enjoy my life and I make sure that I enjoy my life.” @capewelltherapies on the podcast http://ctt.ec/7bYeb+[spp-transcript] The post Wendy Capewell on Show #12: Living in the Moment, Being Positive, Self Care, Social Media, Toastmasters and Powtoon appeared first on POWER to Live More.