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Ian Kerner | Is Predictable Sex Killing Your Marriage?

Front Row Dads | Family Men with Businesses

She called me a sex god.  I laughed, but knew I may have earned it!   Gents... this show is going to get seriously personal.  We’re talking oral sex, bedroom routines, easing anxiety, ethical porn and more.  A few years ago, my friend Lance Salazar, author of The Miracle Morning for Couples, gave me a copy of Dr. Ian Kerner’s book, She Comes First.  Long story short: six months later, my wife was telling all our friends that I’d become some sort of sex god (not kidding).   It wasn’t until I was in my early 40s that I started to learn how to really light up my wife.   We cover a lot of ground on the show, including a look into the work behind his new book, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives. Some of the topics I discuss with Dr. Ian Kerner:  What does variety look like in a healthy sexual relationship? The $2.00 purchase that saved my sex life The one thing that needed to happen, for my wife to beg for sex. Are your routines (sex scripts) killing your love life? What are your core erotic themes? How do you create variety in a sexual relationship? Is there ethical porn and has porn become problematic? Do men need to manage masturbation? If you’re kids bust you having sex, is that traumatic? Why our cultural norms surrounding sex leave people dysfunctional, depressed, and without sexual self-esteem. Why dominant cultural narratives fail to honor female sexuality. Why guys should be talking about sex more often. Why do sex scripts fall into predictable patterns or just get boring? The common threads of sex scripts that work. Why anxiety is the enemy of arousal When should we talk to our kids about sex and pornography? Is there more trauma for a child in seeing their parents have sex, or feeling that their parents lived in a sexless marriage? Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/277 Want to learn more about Front Row Dads? We are in the business of building better families. While most dads would say that family matters most, the challenge is they feel guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. Subscribe to the Front Row Dad podcast to learn about fatherhood, marriage and how to level up your game at home, or if you’re ready for the best coaching and true brothers to grow with, Join The Brotherhood! Are you getting all the shows? Subscribe today! Want to leave a review? THANK YOU! http://FrontRowDads.com/review


1 Jul 2021

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How to Get Your Couple Sex Groove Back with Ian Kerner

Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes)

For the 55th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome Ian Kerner for a relationship sex rut reboot. Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist, and author of the smash hit She Comes First and the recently released So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He's also a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not fucking like they wish they were.  For more Ian Kerner: Order Ian's new book So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex Follow Ian on Twitter @IanKerner Check out Ian's website iankerner.com Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: The OhMyG is a super-silent internal G-spot massager for bodies with a vagina. OhMyG is offering our listeners 30% off when you go to IobaToys.com and enter code PRIVATE at checkout. Lorals are the world's first oral sex panties; they're single-use natural latex panties designed to be worn during oral sex & rimming. Get 15% off your first Lorals purchase at mylorals.com with code Private. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review!  —> ratethispodcast.com/private 


12 May 2021

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Reviving, Repairing, and Revving Up Your Sex Life feat. Dr. Ian Kerner

Girls Gotta Eat

It's episode 169 (!!) and we brought back one of our favorite and most impactful guests, psychotherapist and best-selling author Dr. Ian Kerner, for another important discussion about sex. This time around, we're discussing the "sex script" and some of the main issues that plague couples including lack of sex/sexual satisfaction in the relationship, mismatched sex drives, boredom in the bedroom, and more. And we're tackling topics applicable to everyone regarding foreplay (and getting the kind you want), orgasms (or lack thereof), oral sex, and communication. Plus, we catch up on our Florida trip. Hope you enjoy! Order Ian's book here and see more on his website. Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Native: Get 20% off your first purchase at nativedeodorant.com/gge or use the code GGE at checkout. Buffy: For $20 off your first purchase of $80 or more, visit buffy.co and use code GGE. Ritual: Get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. Rory: Try out Nightly Defense for just $5 at hellorory.com/gge.

1hr 45mins

10 May 2021

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Ep. 382: Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex with Dr. Ian Kerner (She Comes First)

The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex-Positive Quest

Author Dr. Ian Kerner! Mentioned: ManwhoreCon Details Join us in The Champagne Room! Reddit Success Story Follow Ian! Website Twitter: @iankerner So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives Follow Billy! TikTok: @thebillyprocida Twitter: @TheBillyProcida Instagram: @billyisprocida Facebook fan page 0nlyFans: @callmebilly Venmo: @BillyProcida Cash App: $manwhorepod PayPal.Me/bprocida Amazon Wish List Join me on AltPlayground to start your next nonmonogamous adventure! Subscribe to Hot Movies Select for unlimited access to over 30,000 titles! Use promo code manwhore at hotmovies.com. Try Promescent risk-free with a money-back guarantee! Click here to get 15% off with code MW15! Join our fanwhore community on Patreon and gain access to over 200 bonus episodes! Click here to become a member! Email your comments, questions, and criticisms to manwhorepod@gmail.com. Pleasant Porridge by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/7614-pleasant-porridge License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license www.ManwhorePod.com

1hr 22mins

5 May 2021

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Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner

Sex With Emily

Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph.D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So, Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. We cover a lot in this interview including what has changed in his last 20+ years as a practicing sex therapist. Hint: erectile dysfunction in younger men is real. Dr. Kerner (“the man who made oral sex into an art form”) walks us through his latest book and explains how you can decode and rewrite your relationship’s sex script and bring your erotic self into the bedroom to transform your sex life. We discuss the importance of psychological arousal, what happens to your body during the honeymoon phase, when to challenge the monogamy script, what to do when there is a “desire discrepancy” in a relationship and so much more. “When it comes to sex and relationship problems, many of us are leading lives of quiet desperation. Sometimes you can be lying in bed next to someone and feel a million miles apart. Talking about sex and relationships is hard, but self-silencing can be even harder in the long run.” – Dr. Kerner Show Notes: Ian's New Book: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex Getting Cliterate w/ Dr. Ian Kerner Rosemary Basson Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. The Kinsey Institute Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this show FREE: Yarlap, Foria, Jordan Harbinger For more information about Ian Kerner, visit: IanKerner.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com


23 Apr 2021

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356 Gross Sex is Good Sex (w/ Dr. Ian Kerner)

Sex Talk With My Mom

☎️ Text us! 310-356-3920 ☎️ Legendary sex therapist Dr. Ian Kerner (author of She Comes First) returns to unpack our sex lives. My mom shares a step-by-step description about her sex script. It's the most detail she has shared about her sex to date. 😬 Ian helps me brainstorm how to overcome my obstacles with regard to casual sex. We discuss who tends to initiate sex in a couple and how to generate arousal – all topics that Ian dives into in his phenomenal new book "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex." You can check out more of Ian's work and snag his new book at IanKerner.com. Make sure to listen to our previous episode together, E210 She Comes First w/ Dr. Ian Kerner! Please support our show by supporting our sponsors! OhMyG – Have you met your G-Spot? The OhMyG is our favorite internal sex toy that will introduce you to this special part of you. Get 30% off with code MOM at IobaToys.com. HELIX – An excellent mattress is essential for fantastic sex. Our pick is Helix Sleep because they're super comfy and custom to your needs! Right now you can get up to $200 off and two free pillows when you got to www.helixsleep.com/sextalk. DIPSEA – Want to get turned on? Dipsea is an audio app that features short, sexy stories and guided masturbation sessions. Get a 30-day free membership when you visit dipseastories.com/mom! If you've enjoyed the show, please consider leaving us a review at RateThisPodcast.com/Mom. Also, it would mean the world if you'd support us through Patreon.com/sextalkwithmymom – a platform where you can get exclusive STWMM bonus episodes, access to our Discord, and Zoom chats with us! Grab some Sex Talk w/ My Mom swag at sextalkwithmymom.com. Get close with us on socials at: Text us - 310-356-3920 Facebook/Instagram - @SexTalkWithMyMom Twitter - @SexTalkPodcast Website - www.SexTalkWithMyMom.com Our podcast's music was crafted by the wildly talented Freddy Avis! Check out his work at http://www.freddyavismusic.com/ Sex Talk With My Mom is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts, a podcast collective revolutionizing the conversation around sex.

1hr 5mins

22 Apr 2021

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#219 How to Have More Sex and Better Intimacy - With Sex Therapist Ian Kerner, PhD

Shameless Sex

Ian Kerner, PhD, joins us to talk about why he asks all of his clients the question, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (also the title of his new book), and how this question helps uncover couple's repetitive sex scripts. He also shares tips on how to re-write old sex scripts for more sex and better intimacy, as well as ways to "turn off" to really turn on.  We also answer a sex question: My wife has never had an orgasm. How can I help her achieve one + open up more sexually?  Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He is also the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and many more, including his latest book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex, helping couples achieve more intimacy and better sex. He is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists; certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (where he also sits on the board); the Society for Sex Therapy and Research; and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. To learn more visit iankerner.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off delicious, organic, ready to eat meals with code SHAMELESS at sakara.com/shameless Get 15% off of some of our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast


13 Apr 2021

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Kickstart Your Sex Drive Feat. Dr. Britney Blair, Dr. Ian Kerner and Reba the Diva

Future of Sex

Have you ever experienced a low sex drive? What is a normal sex drive? And how can couples who have differing libidos maintain a healthy sex life?  This week Bryony interviews two leading sex therapists and a sex coach on the topic of libido and how to kickstart your sex drive. Answering all of these questions and more, Dr. Britney Blair co-founder of Lover app is joined by best selling author Dr. Ian Kerner and sex educator and entrepreneur Reba the Diva. Each giving their own take and practical tips to help manage your libido,  Dr Blair also  goes into detail  on how the Lover app can help with this, see link below to download the app today! To learn more about this show, visit FutureOfSex.org. To keep up with all things Future of Sex, follow us on Twitter (@) futureofsexshow and Instagram (@) futureofsex Guests - Dr. Britney Blair - Dr. Ian Kerner - Reba “The Diva” Corinne Thomas Sponsors - We-Vibe http://www.we-vibe.com - Lover http://www.lover.io Find Us Online - Website: http://www.futureofsex.org - Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/futureofsex - Twitter: http://twitter.com/futureofsexshow - Merch: http://www.futureofsex.org/store Credits - Host: Bryony Cole. Twitter: @bryonycole, Website: http://www.bryonycole.co - Producers: Bryony Cole/David Lamb Instagram: @davylamb - Editor: Chad Michael Snavely Twitter: @chadmichael Website: http://www.chadmichael.com


18 Nov 2020

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EP204 - Rekindling Your Sexual Spark with Ian Kerner, PhD


Welcome to episode 204 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Ian speaks with me about the psychological reasons men have low desire, the negative consequences shame can have on your sex life and learning to reconnect with your sexual self.  Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities.   In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and he is also a member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR) and The American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he maintains a private practice and lives with his wife and two sons, and their beloved dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar.    In this episode, you will hear:  Looking the psychological reasons men have low desire?  Why we as individuals want to self-actualize more   Learning to expand your erotic space that will lend itself to desire  How your self image can affect how you are in the bedroom  Looking at the sexual boredom study Ian previously conducted  The negative consequences shame can have on your sex life  Why we might have become disconnected from our sexual selves  Learning to reconnect with your sexual self   The role that porn plays around this issue  Find Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT online  https://www.iankerner.com Find Promescent Online  https://www.promescent.com Discount Code – sexology15   Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  


17 Nov 2020

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Papa Pig & Sport F*cking (w/ Sex Therapist, Ian Kerner)

The RearView

Sexuality counselor, Ian Kerner, talks with the panel this week about everything from the queer community’s biggest sexual concerns to tips and tricks for pleasing your partner. Plus, we discuss Trump’s COVID diagnosis, the season premiere of SNL, and the bizarre reason why Madonna refuses to work with David Guetta.Listen to The RearView Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus:foreverdogpodcasts.com/plusTHIS EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY HELIX AND DO THE WORK:*Get up to $200 off your order at helixsleep.com/rearview.*Do The Work is a new weekly podcast hosted by actor and activist Brandon Kyle Goodman, that invites us all to have honest conversations about race. Check it out wherever you get your podcasts.Leave Your Question on the Grindr Hotline: (424) 235-4430FOLLOW MONIQUEtwitter.com/iammoniqueheartinstagram.com/iammoniqueheartFOLLOW JAYinstagram.com/jayjurdentwitter.com/jayjurdenjayjurden.comFOLLOW CHESTERinstagram.com/chesterlockhartchesterlockhart.com/twitter.com/chesterlockhartFOLLOW PATRICKtwitter.com/patjrogersinstagram.com/thepatrickrogersThe RearView is co-produced by Grindr and Forever Dog Podcastsforeverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/the-rearview/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1hr 11mins

8 Oct 2020