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Elayne Fluker

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Latest 28 Jan 2023 | Updated Daily

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Up On Game Presents: Stay A While With Tommi Vincent Take Off Your Superwoman Cape With Elayne Fluker

Up on Game Presents

***SUBSCRIBE TO THE FASTEST-GROWING NETWORK UP ON GAME PRESENTS PODCAST CHANNEL*** https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/up-on-game-presents/id1596136129 “Sometimes, the support doesn't come from the universe, from our husbands, from whoever, because you didn't ask them.” - Elayne Fluker Welcome to Stay a While with Tommi Vincent! Aren’t you tired of doing it all by yourself? You’ve carried the whole team on your back for too long - whether that team is your family, your work, or others’ problems - and it’s time to put it all down. On this episode, Elayne Fluker host of Support Is Sexy Podcast drops by to share some pointers on letting go of the Superwoman cape. You don’t need it because it is wearing you OUT, sis! Take some notes and remember you deserve to be supported. Workshop Facilitator, Speaker and Leadership Development Consultant for corporations, organizations and professional women. Creates engaging workshops that shift the mindsets of professional women around the stigma of asking for support and empower them to effectively make "empowered asks" to achieve for success, fulfillment and work-life harmony. Companies get actionable solutions for creating a more supportive and psychologically safe work culture. ➜ Speaker at the UN, LinkedIn, Columbia, NYU, Spelman College, Howard University, the Women Presidents' Organization, Essence Fest, National Urban League and more ➜ Facilitated 200+ in-person workshops in the U.S., Spain, South Africa and Morocco and virtually online, including leadership development and DEI workshops for global firms and Fortune 50 companies ➜ Interviewed and coached more than 500+ women around the world about challenges they encounter when asking for support. ➜ Featured on "Today" show, "Nightline," "Extra," CNN, VH1, BET, Sirius XM and in Forbes, Essence, and 100+ podcasts ➜ Author of the book, “Get Over ‘I Got It” published by HarperCollins Leadership Specializes in topics related to: Professional women, Women leaders within organizations, Black women. In this episode we cover [00:01 - 05:05] It Is Alright to Take the Cape Off[05:06 - 10:06] Food and Happiness: Building Long Lasting Memories[10:07 - 31:18] “I Got It” Syndrome - Why We Struggle to Ask For Support[31:19 - 41:48] The 5 Rs: How to Make an Empowered Ask[41:49 - 51:06] Crafting the Safe Environment for Vulnerability Warriors[51:07 - 56:13] Closing Segment  Key Quotes “Pause for a second and take a deep breath and say, ‘Am I really creating space for support in my life?’ And sometimes, usually, the answer is no. And it might not be something that is deliberate or conscious. It might be just because you're moving so fast.” - Elayne Fluker “Sometimes, ask isn't ‘I need support’. Sometimes the ask is ‘I need space,’ or ‘I need time,’ or ‘I need rest’.” - Elayne Fluker Connect with Elayne FlukerBook: https://www.amazon.com/Get-Over-Got-Superwoman-Remember/dp/1400213797Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/support-is-sexy-podcast-with-elayne-fluker-interviews/id1129580395 Connect with Me! You can reach Tommi on Instagram @cheftommivVisit https://vincentcountry.com and get connected with us on Vincent Country’s Instagram @vincentcountry  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.


13 Jul 2022

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8. Learn How to Get Over "I Got it" with Elayne Fluker

Anabolic Mind

In the 8th episode of Anabolic Mind Show, Mark Jenkins interviews someone not afraid to ask for assistance. Life lessons from author/ lifestyle Coach and fitness enthusiast Elayne Fluker.Elayne grew up in a home where support was generously given but rarely accepted.So, for as long as she can remember, she’s viewed asking for and accepting support as a sign of weakness, neediness and failure. This ultimately resulted in years of anxiety, depression, and feeling unfulfilled as I struggled to figure things out on her own.But once she learned how to make empowered asks and accept support, her life transformed! Since then, she’s helped thousands of high-achieving women embrace support as a superpower for success and fulfillment through my podcast, Support is Sexy — which has more than one million downloads; through my book, Get Over ‘I Got It’ (published by HarperCollins Leadership) – selected as a Forbes “Book of the Month;” and through more than 200 workshops I’ve facilitated across the U.S., in Spain, Morocco, South Africa and globally online.By learning her tools for accessing support, ambitious, high-achieving women learn how to… Shift their perspective, stop struggling and start connecting Embrace a possibility mindset and explore new opportunities Courageously ask for and accept support with confidence and ease Now, she delivers customized, dynamic workshops for Fortune 500 companies and top organizations to create psychologically safe, supportive cultures where high-achieving women stress less and thrive more!Connect with Elayne: Website – Facebook – Instagram – Twitter – LinkedInConnect with and JOIN FREE COMMUNITY  Community Content About Mark Jenkins Anabolic Mind Show Booking Work with Mark Already have an account? Log In First Name * Last Name * Password * Confirm Password *


29 Mar 2022

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Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker

See The Light Of Day

Go check out Elayne Flucker new book and Support is Sexy podcast.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/andrea-lashea/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/andrea-lashea/support


24 Mar 2022

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Releasing the Need to Say “I Got It” with Elayne Fluker

Unconditionally Worthy Podcast

Ladies, it’s time to let go of the need to have all your shit together. In this episode of The Unconditionally Worthy Podcast, I welcome Elayne Fluker, Speaker, Author, and Host of the Support is Sexy podcast. Elayne’s new book, Get Over "I Got It", encourages ambitious women to learn how to embrace support not only for their success, but also for their peace of mind. Together, we explore what it means to overcome the “I got it” syndrome and how that intersects with self-worth.IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…Elayne’s self-worth journey: Not knowing she had self-worth issues, attempting suicide at 15 years old, & learning to live with depression and anxiety.Consciously using and not using social media, keeping in mind its negative effects on mental health.The intersectionality of self-worth, “I got it” syndrome, and intergenerational trauma in BIPOC families.Elayne’s experience with “I got it” syndrome & How she overcame it as an adult.How to implement the acronym H.E.L.P. to embrace and invite support into your life.Stream & Download The Unconditionally Worthy Podcast NOW for FREE on Apple Podcast, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, and Spotify!To connect further with Elayne Fluker:Visit her website: www.elaynefluker.comFollow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/elayneflukerFollow her on Twitter: www.twitter.com/elaynefluker Connect with her on Facebook: www.facebook.com/elayneflukerConnect with her on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elaynefluker Listen to Support is Sexy Podcast: www.elaynefluker.com/podcast Pre-order Get Over “I Got It”: www.getoverigotit.comTo connect further with me:Visit my website: www.dradiagooden.com Connect with me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/dradiagooden Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dradiagooden Connect with me on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/adia-gooden-4b26751b Watch the full interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/lJmfimAckII 


22 Feb 2022

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-65: Getting Over the “I Got It” Syndrome with Elayne Fluker

The Emerging Women Podcast

Elayne highlights how she got into her work by attending a Momentum workshop that completely transformed her life. By posting positive messages on her social media pages, she was able to reach women entrepreneurs. She encourages women to seek support, and not only when in crisis. While on the entrepreneurial journey, people get so fixated on the goal that they forget to enjoy the moment’s joy. She recommends that it is important to talk to people about the journey and take care of oneself. It is important to seek help and not only when we are in crisis. Have a list of people, resources, or organizations that you might reach out to for help or people to put your product in front of the right audience. About Our Guest Elayne Fluker is a media entrepreneur, and host of the Support is Sexy podcast for women entrepreneurs and the CEO of Chic Rebellion Media. Chic Rebellion Media is a firm that is built on the notion of women supporting women, particularly along the entrepreneurial journey. She has interviewed more than 500 women entrepreneurs from different cultures, backgrounds, and experiences on her podcast. She has a book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support, and Remember That Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” Insights from the Podcast — Unlearn that support does not necessarily mean that someone is in crisis. Also, support should be an ongoing process. We should not wait until we are in crisis to seek support. — Understand how important it is to give yourself time to fall back and reflect. Assess the season you are in and what is set to bloom without forcing it or making it happen. You will discover that some things that are not as important as you thought they were. — Discover how H.E.L.P must be used in the art of asking for support H- Having it all does not mean doing it all alone E- Ask Empowering questions L- Let go of the how and leave the question P- Believe in the Possibilities — Insights on how to have an empowered ask through the 5Rs 1- Be Ready when you show up 2- Reason: why is it important to you or the other person? 3- Receipts: what have you done? What are you doing? What is your value? 4- Why are you making the Request: be very direct because the other party does not know what you want, and it will not magically show up 5- Show Reciprocity: be ready to give and receive Quotes from the show: “We need to stop associating support with a crisis. This is a thought and behavior that we need to unlearn” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “Do not miss out on the joy of this moment. Remember why you started and the intention. It is easy for us to get distracted, just fall back and remember why you started your journey and take care of yourself ” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “If you knew how, you would have done it already. It will happen when we leave the questions that we do not have answers to” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “All the movements in the world were based on belief possibilities. All the things that are magical in this country all started with a belief” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “An exceptional life is a life of low probability. If we get caught in what’s probable, we will not believe in the possibilities” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “To adopt a possibility mindset, one needs to think of what’s possible and not what’s probable. This makes one open to the magic that is out there and one that is available. Believing in possibilities opens one up” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “Success does not mean that we have to toil or be drained. Imagine the impact of success that has to be resourced and filed with ease and grace. It does not have to involve being away from family” –Chantal Pierrat Emerging Women Podcast. “Success is what happens when you close the gap between reality and possibility” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. “What would this look like if it were easy? For some of us, it would involve getting some help!”–Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast. Resources Mentioned Momentum workshop Dr. Srini Pillay: “An Exceptional Life is a Life of Low Probability.” Tim Ferriss podcast Stay Connected: Chantal Pierrat Twitter: @chantalpierrat LinkedIn: Chantal Pierrat Elayne Fluker Website: http://elaynefluker.com/ Facebook: Elayne Fluker Twitter: @elaynefluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Emerging Women Website: https://emergingwomen.com/ Twitter: @emergingW Facebook: @EmergingWomen Instagram: @emergingW LinkedIn: Emerging Women Youtube: Emerging Women Subscribe to our podcast + download each episode on Stitcher and Apple Podcasts.


28 Oct 2021

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404: Asking for Support as a Coach, Consultant, or Business Leader With Elayne Fluker

Moxielicious with Alexia Vernon

Elayne Fluker is an expert in asking for support, and she is the author of the new book, Get Over “I Got It” – where she encourages unapologetically ambitious women to learn how to embrace support not only for their success but also their peace of mind. As a speaker at organizations such as LinkedIn, the United Nations, the Women Presidents’ Organization, NYU, Columbia, Spelman College and Howard University, she gives women a roadmap for making empowered asks and living a fulfilled life. Elayne is host of the Support is Sexy podcast where she has interviewed more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs around the world, and she is the founder of SiS.Academy – an online learning platform educating and empowering Black Women entrepreneurs. Most recently Elayne was named a “Founder of Change” for SiS.Academy as part of the American Express “100 for 100” program featuring 100 innovative Black women entrepreneurs. During our conversation on asking for support, Elayne and I discuss: Top areas where “helpers” (aka coaches, consultants, and business leaders) struggle to ask for support and Elayne’s suspicion about why that is Native American social worker Maria Yellow Horse Brave Heart’s model for historical trauma – and why asking for support is both an individual act of self-empowerment AND a way to disrupt systemic oppression Unique ways of asking for support when you know you need support but you aren’t clear on what support would actually look like The 5 Rs for making an empowered ask The extra book chapter Elayne would write if she could Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Learn more about Elayne Fluker and her new book (and grab book bonuses!) at GetOverIGotIt.com The Harvard Business Review (HBR) article – Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome Sign-up for my free virtual workshop – Amplify Your Voice, Visibility and Influence While Getting Paid to Show Your Clients (or Employees) How to Do the Same Please leave a review and subscribe to Moxielicious® via Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, or Spotify so you never miss an episode!


19 Oct 2021

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Episode 243: Elayne Fluker | Getting Over ‘I Got It’ Syndrome

Beyond the Business Suit with Kailei Carr

In many of the programs. and experiences I lead, especially for women of color, I ask them to do two things: remove your masks and and your capes. For many of the women I work with, they feel obligated to mask who they are (which...


3 Sep 2021

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S04E05 Get Over I Got It With Elayne Fluker

Amplify Your Brilliance

"Things That Are Hard For All Of Us To Ask For, Are; Love And Support" - Elayne Fluker After working in media as a journalist for more than 20 years, Elayne Fluker launched a business that is firmly planted in the notion of women supporting women, particularly along the entrepreneurial journey. She found her sweet spot: doing what she loves and what she does best—a blend of personal development and personal branding... is the host of the Support Is Sexy Podcast featuring interviews with more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs, and the author of her soon to be released book Get Over "I Got It" In this episode we discuss about what inside of us holds us back and how we can learn to ask God and others for help and how we can discover new ways to push past our obstacles and find our All with her new book "Get Over "I Got It” "We Are All, As Human Beings, More Connected Than We Ever Imagined" - Elayne Fluker Timestamps: 1:50 Elayne's start with Momentum workshop and personal development 2:18 "Things that are hard for all of us to ask for, are; Love and Support" - Elayne Fluker 4:02 Understanding support, when we feel either Defiant, Defensive or Defeated 9:24 "We Are All, As Human Beings, More Connected Than We Ever Imagined" - Elayne Fluker 15:10 Nicole Roberts Jones' Annual Brilliance School Business Course 17:52 Ways to say YES and ask for and find H,E,L,P 18:38 "Having It All, Doesn't mean Doing It All Alone" - Elayne Fluker 25:16 How you can Get over "I Got It" with Elayne's new book and find your all! "Having It All, Doesn't mean Doing It All Alone" - Elayne Fluker Links: getoverigotit.com www.thebrillianceschool.com


2 Jun 2021

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CC: Get Over "I Got It!" with Elayne Fluker

Over It And On With It

If you are someone who prides themselves on "being strong" and not great at asking for support, this episode is for you!. Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, Get Over "I Got It" (HarperCollins Leadership) -- is the host of the Support is Sexy podcast featuring interviews with more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs, and founder of SiS.Academy -- an online learning platform for Black Women entrepreneurs.


8 May 2021

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How to Get Over the "I Got It" Syndrome with Elayne Fluker

Entrepreneurs on Fire

Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book "Get Over 'I Got It', host of the Support is Sexy podcast for women entrepreneurs, and founder of SiS.Academy. Top 3 Value Bombs: 1. You deserve it. That’s why you have to reach out for it. You deserve it. 2. It is your responsibility to step into whatever it is you feel you are called to do. 3. Remember that nothing is an implication of you and your value and what you have going on in the world. Find out more about Elayne’s book - Get Over I Got It Sponsor: Thinkific: Online training is skyrocketing across every industry, and thousands of entrepreneurs – just like us – are using Thinkific to create, market, and sell online courses. Launch your own online course and share your knowledge with the world today! Get started at Thinkific.com/eof.


28 Apr 2021