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Ashley Merryman

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Nurture Shock - Ashley Merryman [248]

Mindful Mama - Parenting with Mindfulness

Sometimes truths about parenting go against the grain—against what we assume is natural or normal. Ashley Merryman loves to find research that debunks conventionally held truths. Learn about the problem with praise, and what are some of the best ways to respond to kids. If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to  Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Takeaways: Kids who are overpraised underperform. Little kids lie because they don’t want to disappoint. You can catch bad behavior from others. With Po Bronson, Ashley Merryman is the New York Times bestselling author of NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children and Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong! Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out this deal from this week’s sponsor: Get your first PAIR for $48 when you use code Hunter on paireyewear.com

1hr 5mins

27 Oct 2020

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The Science of Winning and Losing with Ashley Merryman

Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us

Welcome to Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science and the therapy world. Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support this show by buying my new science-based and darkly funny book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence.

1hr 1min

14 Jan 2019

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Social Contagion Online -- Talking Tech w/ Ashley Merryman

CDT Tech Talks

Ashley Merryman is the best-selling author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, and Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children, and she recently wrote about how our President’s incivility can infect society like the flu (https://wapo.st/2HOT5IO).She joins Brian to discuss what social contagion is, whether or not the internet and social media's making this worse, and what, if anything, social media companies should be doing to combat this? More about Ashley: https://www.ashleymerryman.com/More on our host, Brian: bit.ly/cdtbrianAttribution: sounds used from Psykophobia, Taira Komori, BenKoning, Zabuhailo, bloomypetal, guitarguy1985, bmusic92, and offthesky of freesound.org.

28mins

7 May 2018

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The Science of Winning and Losing with Ashley Merryman

Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us

Welcome to Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science and the therapy world. Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support this show by buying my new science-based and darkly funny book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence.

1hr 1min

26 Mar 2018

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Ashley Merryman: Science of Competition

Finding Mastery

The origin of the word "compete" emphasizes the notion of striving together (as compared to striving against).Author Ashley Merryman takes a deep dive into the science of competition - and reveals practical strategies people can use to "become better."There's an art to bringing the mechanics of science to life, and Ashley uses storytelling to illuminate the application of good science.Show Notes:12:11: The quest to always be better16:27: How she became interested in what she does today21:19: Extroverts vs. introverts27:58: Different types of risk-taking"Women are really good at calculating their odds of success and men are really good at ignoring them." 32:36"The benefit of competition isn't the win...the benefit of competition is improvement... it's improvement in the moment" 37:2344:01: Why competition is important50:58: Relevant neurotransmitters for competition"I always thought that motivation was sort of the gas in your car that got you to your goal" 53:121:03:43: Why trophies shouldn't be given away for participation1:12:18: Challenge and threat"It's not whether or not I'm going to be successful with the task, it's can I learn from this? And if I can learn from this, it should always be a challenge" 1:20:181:24:31: Putting in work to become skilled in a certain thing and viewing it as a challenge rather than a threat1:30:40: Most important mental skill for competitors1:44:25: Defining mastery"Pursuing and acquiring technical skill but using everything in your arsenal, psychological, cognitive, physical, peer support to help you achieve those goals" 1:45:14

1hr 49mins

25 Nov 2015

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E27 Ashley Merryman: The Science Of Winning & Losing

inspireland podcast

In this episode I was joined on the phone from LA by New York Times bestselling author, Ashley Merryman. Merryman, along with her co-author Po Bronson, have written two award winning popular science books; NurtureShock: New Thinking About Parenting, and Top Dog: The Science Of Winning & Losing. Both books are a brilliant blend of storytelling and accessible science but during the episode we focus on her most recent book, Top Dog. Some of the topics covered in our conversation were: Merryman's experience as a young attorney and speechwriter with the Clinton administration. How the co-authoring process works. The difference between seeing competition as a challenge or a threat. Why women are less likely to engage in competition but slightly more likely to succeed when they do. Home field advantage. The difference between playing to win and playing not to lose. Does competition improve skills or effort? Ashley was a really enjoyable guest, with a great sense of humour and an obvious love for the work that she does. At some stage in the future Ashley will be back on the show to discuss NurtureShock, her book that changed the American narrative on parenting. All the books etc mentioned in the episode can be found in the detailed episode notes at inspirelandpodcast.com. Enjoy the episode. Dave

51mins

5 Aug 2015

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Ashley Merryman on using the science of winning and losing to be our best

Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.*NOTE: "Best Of" replay. Live shows again starting in July!Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.My show's sponsor is Audible.com. Get a free audiobook download and support this show financially at no cost to you by signing up for a free 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/amya (It's $14.95 after 30 days, but you can cancel before then and have it cost you nothing.)Please support the show by ordering my book, the science-based and funny "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," -- only about $10 at Amazon.

1hr 1min

29 Jun 2015

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Ashley Merryman on using the science of winning and losing to be our best

Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.*NOTE: "Best Of" replay (for Superbowl Sunday). Live shows again starting next Sunday, Feb 8!Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” (Barnes & Noble ships faster.)Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.My show's sponsor is Audible.com. Get a free audiobook download and support this show financially at no cost to you by signing up for a free 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/amya (It's $14.95 after 30 days, but you can cancel before then and have it cost you nothing.)Please support the show by ordering my book, the science-based and funny "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," -- only about $10 at Amazon.

1hr

2 Feb 2015

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Ashley Merryman on using the science of winning and losing to be our best

Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” (Barnes & Noble ships faster.)Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.My show's sponsor is Audible.com. Get a free audiobook download and support this show financially at no cost to you by signing up for a free 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/amya (It's $14.95 after 30 days, but you can cancel before then and have it cost you nothing.)Please order my new book, the science-based and funny "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," -- only $9.48 at Amazon.

1hr

18 Aug 2014

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1 - Ashley Merryman comes on to talk about her new book "Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing". 2 - Jack gets medically diagnosed via the text line; New shoe bomb terror threat. 3 - Marsh

The Armstrong and Getty Show (Bingo)

"Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing"; Jack gets medically diagnosed via the text line; New shoe bomb terror threat; Sitting may be bad for you; USA in the lead for medals at Sochi

20 Feb 2014

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