Victoria Prooday's guest appearances

Victoria Prooday

ON BOYS Podcast

In Conversation with Stephen Hurley

Dave Lee

Lisa Lewis

Erin Davis

Heather Chauvin

David Frum

Vicki Saunders

Carol Jones

Michael Ian Black

Katherine Reynolds Lewis

Seth Perler

Stuart Miller

Steve Brown

William Deresiewicz

Steve Kaufmann

Mike Domitrz

OwlTail

Chores, Victoria Prooday says, are the most efficient way to build our boys' emotional muscle.  Prooday, a psychotherapist, occupational therapist and speaker, is convinced that self-regulation is the key to success -- and science backs up her assertion. As early as 1998, psychologists were publishing papers and chapters stating that, "Self-regulation has major, important implications for success in life...People who are good at self-regulation show a multitude of advantages over other people, in both task performance and interpersonal relations."  Meanwhile, our best parenting intentions led us astray. "Even thought we know the the key to success in life is self-regulation, what we offer our children is a lifestyle that promotes the exact opposite," Prooday says. "They are constantly entertained. There is not a moment of boredom. No responsibilities, no chores."  The answer, she says, is to "educate our children about what will actually make them successful," Grades and popularity don't guarantee success or satisfaction. Instead, our children need to develop the ability to work hard and persist despite challenges and boredom.  Chores can help our children develop self-regulation, but (as you've likely already learned), simply telling your child (OK, yelling at your child) "You need to help me around the house!" is not effective. That's why Prooday explains the why to children.  "Your brain is just like a muscle," she says. "You train it the same way you train a physical muscle; you train your emotional muscle." Prooday emphasizes that fact that regular chores -- which must be done even though they're boring and regardless of whether or not one feels like doing them -- help the brain develop persistence and the ability to delay gratification.   In this episode, Jen, Janet &amp; Victoria discuss:   	How good intentions can lead us astray  	Regulation vs. dysregulation  	How chores build self-discipline  	Why parents should talk to children about the effects of technology on the brain  	Balancing physical activity with screen time during the pandemic  	The 20-20-20 rule -- when using screens, look away every 20 minutes, for 20 seconds, to a distance of 20 feet  	Setting kids up for success  	How frequent breaks can fuel productivity (&amp; decrease fighting about online school!)  	The importance of handwriting  	Benefits of handwritten assignments vs. screen-based assignments  	Tapping into boys' desire to contribute to the greater good  Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: yourot.com -- Victoria's website  The Silent Tragedy Affecting Today's Children -- Victoria's 35 million download blog post  Screens and Boys -- ON BOYS episode LIKE THIS EPISODE? Share it with your friends (and thanks!): Twitter:   Use this link  Facebook:  Use this link  Linkedin:  Use this link STAY CONNECTED WITH JANET &amp; JEN: Join the Building Boys FB group and the Boys Alive! FB group  Be sure to opt-in at  Boys Alive! .com for your free report “3 Simple Tips to CONNECT with Your Boy.”  And opt-in at  BuildingBoys.net, too!  Follow us on Instagram:  @on.boys.podcast and @boys.alive  Twitter:  @ParentAdvisor and @BuildingBoys   LinkedIn:  use this link for Janet and use this link for JenniferOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy &amp; Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Chores, Victoria Prooday says, are the most efficient way to build our boys' emotional muscle. Prooday, a psychotherapist, occupational therapist and speaker, is convinced that self-regulation is the key to success -- and science backs up her assertion. As early as 1998, psychologists were publishing papers and chapters stating that, "Self-regulation has major, important implications for success in life...People who are good at self-regulation show a multitude of advantages over other people, in both task performance and interpersonal relations." Meanwhile, our best parenting intentions led us astray. "Even thought we know the the key to success in life is self-regulation, what we offer our children is a lifestyle that promotes the exact opposite," Prooday says. "They are constantly entertained. There is not a moment of boredom. No responsibilities, no chores." The answer, she says, is to "educate our children about what will actually make them successful," Grades and popularity don't guarantee success or satisfaction. Instead, our children need to develop the ability to work hard and persist despite challenges and boredom. Chores can help our children develop self-regulation, but (as you've likely already learned), simply telling your child (OK, yelling at your child) "You need to help me around the house!" is not effective. That's why Prooday explains the why to children. "Your brain is just like a muscle," she says. "You train it the same way you train a physical muscle; you train your emotional muscle." Prooday emphasizes that fact that regular chores -- which must be done even though they're boring and regardless of whether or not one feels like doing them -- help the brain develop persistence and the ability to delay gratification. In this episode, Jen, Janet &amp; Victoria discuss: 	How good intentions can lead us astray 	Regulation vs. dysregulation 	How chores build self-discipline 	Why parents should talk to children about the effects of technology on the brain 	Balancing physical activity with screen time during the pandemic 	The 20-20-20 rule -- when using screens, look away every 20 minutes, for 20 seconds, to a distance of 20 feet 	Setting kids up for success 	How frequent breaks can fuel productivity (&amp; decrease fighting about online school!) 	The importance of handwriting 	Benefits of handwritten assignments vs. screen-based assignments 	Tapping into boys' desire to contribute to the greater good Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: <a href="http://yourot.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">yourot.com</a> -- Victoria's website The Silent Tragedy Affecting Today's Children -- Victoria's 35 million download blog post Screens and Boys -- ON BOYS episode LIKE THIS EPISODE? Share it with your friends (and thanks!): Twitter:   Use this link Facebook:  Use this link Linkedin:  Use this link STAY CONNECTED WITH JANET &amp; JEN: Join the Building Boys FB group and the Boys Alive! FB group Be sure to opt-in at  Boys Alive! .com for your free report “3 Simple Tips to CONNECT with Your Boy.”  And opt-in at  <a href="http://BuildingBoys.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BuildingBoys.net</a>, too! Follow us on Instagram:  @on.boys.podcast and @boys.alive Twitter:  @ParentAdvisor and @BuildingBoys  LinkedIn:  use this link for Janet and use this link for Jennifer Our Sponsors: * Check out Factor: <a href="http://factor75.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://factor75.com</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href="https://redcircle.com/brands" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy &amp; Opt-Out: <a href="https://redcircle.com/privacy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Why Boys Need Chores – with Victoria Prooday

Victoria Prooday is a Registered Occupational Therapist with an extensive experience working with children, parents and teachers. Victoria connects with Stephen to talk about, among other things, the impact of today's lifestyle on the brain development of children and young people.Find out more about Victoria at yourot.com

Victoria Prooday is a Registered Occupational Therapist with an extensive experience working with children, parents and teachers. Victoria connects with Stephen to talk about, among other things, the impact of today's lifestyle on the brain development of children and young people. Find out more about Victoria at <a href="http://yourot.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">yourot.com</a>