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10 of The Best Podcast Episodes for Joe Kort. A collection of podcasts episodes with or about Joe Kort, often where they are interviewed.

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10 of The Best Podcast Episodes for Joe Kort. A collection of podcasts episodes with or about Joe Kort, often where they are interviewed.

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Mothers Who Abuse Their Sons with Dr. Joe Kort

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Today’s episode comes from a listener to the show who wrote to Ameé ask if she had any resources for men who have been abused by their mothers. He then shared that he has been researching on his own and can’t find anything on the topic. During her research, Ameé found today’s guest, Dr. Joe Kort.  Joe is a Detroit area-based Psychotherapist, life coach, author, and podcaster who specializes in tackling the taboo as well as the norms about our sexual health.

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In this episode, you will hear: 

  • The taboos and societal messages responsible for the lack of information and resources for survivors of mother-son incest 
  • Understanding how women can tip the scales and assault men or their sons 
  • Understanding the differences between covert and overt abuse
  • How to make room in society for men to share their abuse experiences
  • The resources available for men who have been abused by women and/or their mothers


Mother-Son Incest: The Unthinkable Broken Taboo, An Overview of Findings by Hani Miletski

The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health





Jul 26 2020 · 49mins
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Sexual Health and Intimacy with Dr. Joe Kort

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When we’re talking about marriage, sex is an important topic. So in the month of July,  we are talking ALL about sex and intimacy. I’m kicking off the month with Dr. Joe Kort. Dr. Joe is a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist who is trained in Sex Therapy and Imago Relationship Therapy (you know I love my Imago peeps!). Dr. Kort specializes in working with sexual dysfunction, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ and presenting issues.

Something I see a lot in my work is when someone gets caught cheating, and then they claim to be a sex addict. One of the reasons I wanted to talk with Dr. Joe was to ask him, “What is a sex addict?”  Dr. Joe shares why he thinks there is no such thing as sex addiction and what he sees within his work instead. We also explore whether or not porn is a sexual health crisis, how to negotiate erotic differences, and maneuvering through a mixed-orientation relationship. 

Some deep stuff here, folks!

Show Highlights

  • There is a difference between sex addiction therapy and sex therapy - not all therapists are created equal. (9:00)
  • Why the term sex addiction boxes people in. (12:00)
  • How to broach the subject of porn, open-relationships, and other vulnerable conversations about sex. (15:14)
  • How erotic orientation differs from sexual orientation. (20:00) 
  • Is porn a sexual health crisis? (23:22)
  • Negotiating erotic differences with your partner and having erotic empathy. (34:09) 
  • How you can recover from infidelity. (36:00)

Learn More About Dr. Kort:Dr. Joe Kort is a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist. He is trained in Sex Therapy and Imago Relationship Therapy. Dr. Kort specializes in working with sexual dysfunction, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ and presenting issues. He is the author of four books: 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men. Dr. Kort is a blogger for Psychology Today. He is also the Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes’ LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy Certification and the Couples and Sex Therapy Certification Programs. He works with Modern Sex Therapy Institutes to provide Certification trainings including Sex Therapy Certification and continuing education to mental health and medical professionals around the world. He also has a podcast, www.SmartSexSmartLove.com. His website is www.JoeKort.com

Resources & Links:

Dr Kort’s websiteDr. Kort’s  on TwitterDr. Kort’s  on Facebook Kate on Dr. Joe’s Podcast The Ultimate Divorce Survival GuideShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group

Jul 07 2020 · 49mins

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130: Joe Kort on When the Other Woman is a Man

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In this episode, Dr. Joe Kort talks about when a straight spouse finds out that her husband has been with other men. He talks about the problems with defining acting out sexual behaviors as sex addiction as well as how to work with people in a sex positive way.

Joe is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor of Sex Therapy. He is the author of several books, lecturer, and facilitator of workshops for therapists. He is also the Director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. Find out more at www.JoeKort.com. Find him on twitter @drjoekort

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May 26 2020 · 45mins
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S3 Ep 4: Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? with Dr. Joe Kort

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Today on the show, marriage and sex therapist Dr. Joe Kort discusses whether or not straight men can want gay sex, a controversial position among straight spouses. When a wife discovers her husband’s gay porn, explicit chats with other men, of evidence of infidelity, she rightfully asks if her husband is actually straight. We dive into the nuances of straight men who, for myriad reasons, might seek sexual contact with other men. Dr. Kort gives his assessment for determining if men who are troubled by their same sex interest are gay, straight or bi, and advice for women concerned about their men

Mar 15 2020 · 48mins

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40. Exploring Bad LGBTQ+ Therapy (with Dr. Joe Kort)

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Today’s guest Danny shares his outrageous experience of being told to urinate in a cup so his therapist could test if he was really gay. And that’s just the beginning of the story. We also speak with Dr. Joe Kort to explore best practices for working with the LGBTQ+ community, the need for humility and curiosity in a time of rapidly changing relationships to identity, and the diagnoses that stigmatize and marginalize members of this population.

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Feb 17 2020 · 1hr 4mins
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Gay & Lesbian Relationships - Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. Joe Kort

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Gay & Lesbian Relationships- In this segment of the Innervoice show, Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. Joe Kort,  A Sex Therapist, Author, and Professor.  A dialogue about the myths and the reality of the gay and lesbian relationships, vulnerabilities, strengths.  How to converse and communicate about needs and desires. Ways for the family members of the LGBTQA to communicate and deal with their own dilemmas. www.joekort.com Please contact me with your suggestions and questions at www.foojan.com 

May 17 2018 · 50mins
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#4: Dr. Joe Kort - "Is My Husband Gay?" | Male Sexual Fluidity

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What are we talking about? Men who have sex with men, have done it in the past or who are interested in it, but still identify as straight or mostly straight. However, their behavior or their interest makes their partner wonder about their sexuality.

Sometimes someone will wonder if their husband is gay because they have no interest in sex with them. Or they don't show a strong libido or a high sex drive.

Or, maybe their partner has had sex with men, either recently or in the distant past or maybe they've got an interest in them. And it really makes them wonder, "Is my husband gay?" Seems like a reasonable question.

But the truth is that sexuality is on a continuum. There's fluidity in our lives and our behavior is different than our identity. So you can't say just because somebody has done something that it defines who they are. You have a stable sexual orientation throughout your lifetime, but you may have romantic or sexual episodes long your path with someone outside of your sexual identity.

Sometimes these can be frightening and confusing. Especially since as children and adolescents, we are only given permission to know that there is heterosexuality. People who discover a different sexual identity usually are much older.

Dr. Kort describes his four questions that can help lead you to discover your own, personal sexual identity.

He also explains what may be happening with these incidents and experiences, and how this can be an opportunity to have a conversation you might not ever have.

Dr. Joe Kort is a licensed sex and relationship therapist. He specializes in sex therapy, LGBTQ issues, and Imago Relationship Therapy.

He is the author of four books: 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives: Revised and Updated, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men.

A regular blogger for Psychology Today and The Huffington Post, he’s on the teaching faculty of the University of Michigan’s Sexual Health Certificate Program. Dr. Kort is also in partnership with Modern Sex Therapy Institute offering an LGBTQIA Affirmative Certification for helping professionals working with this population.

Dr. Joe Kort: http://www.joekort.com
Book - Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: https://www.amazon.com/My-Husband-Gay-Straight-Concerned/dp/1442223251/

More info:

Web - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/
Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/

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Jan 15 2018 · 30mins
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Joe Kort – The turtle and the hail storm

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Dr. Kort is a leading expert on sex and relationships. 

He specializes in Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors (OCSB)/“sex addiction”, Relationship Problems & Marital Conflict, Sex Therapy, Sexual Identity Concerns, Depression, Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. 

He has authored 4 books and his latest book is, "Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi: A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

With the small boy that you once were, look up to the man you’ve become.

When You Tripped Up

It is the story of the turtle and the hail storm. 

You’re going to love this analogy.

How did you find balance in your partnership so you were not loosing you?

Joe had to learn how to talk with his husband differently. And it took a lot of work and it is ongoing work. 

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever 

Joe’s DUH moment was the day he realized that his husband has high-functioning Asperger’s Syndrome. He was watching a movie called Adam about an adult male with Asperger’s and then the Big Bang Theory came out and the character Sheldon clearly has Asperger’s and it became clear to him.

He realized that probably 50% of their fights were because their brains work differently.

Once he realize how hard Mike tries to be in a relationship, Joe was able to calm down about things that used to frustrate him. And it has been a very different marriage since then. Way better!

Proudest moment in partnership

Being two gay men who got married before it was even talked about and that Mike was equally invested in having a legal kinship with Joe and being out and proud of their relationship together is definitely that moment.

This was not a political statement. It was a humanistic statement.

Current partnership that has you excited

That he and Mike now resolve arguments instead of just getting past it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Do unto your partner as they want to be done unto them.

Best Partnership Book

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition

The Payoff of Partnership

Joe’s husband really taught him how to be flexible. And how much Joe can be relational and have a relationship. And not just leaving when things got hard.

Mike’s ability to stay calm when Joe is not, allowed him to ride out a lot of storms. Mike taught him that it was safe to stay.

Interview Links -

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Jun 14 2017 · 28mins
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BB 23 Building a Sex Therapy Practice with Sexologist and Relationship Therapist, Dr. Joe Kort

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Dr. Joe Kort works with clients who have a wide range of sexual issues - sexuality issues for straight, gay, and lesbian people, sexual abuse, out of control sexual behaviors, fetishes, kinks, sexual dysfunctions, issues around the use of pornography, etc. His clients are primarily men and couples, but he also works with women helping them understand their male partners.

Dr. Kort has a unique perspective on out of control sexual behaviors and does not use the term "sexual addiction" because he finds it to be "sex negative" and pathologizing. Instead, he focuses on the sexual health of his clients helping them understand their relationship to their sexual behavior.

Dr. Kort also trains therapists in working with clients around issues sexuality and offers groups on sexuality and relationship success for the public. He has several associates in his practice and is the author of several books.

You can get the show notes for this episode at http://www.julietaustin.com/bb23

May 18 2016 · 30mins
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052: Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? In Conversation with Dr Joe Kort

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Male sexuality can express itself in ways that may be difficult to understand to the general population.

Many marriages have been hurriedly terminated when couples (and their therapists) have lacked the information they needed to understand their current situations when male sexuality is being expressed in alternative ways.

Dr Joe Kort, who joined us in episode #8 speaking about gay affirmative therapy for the straight clinician, has recently written the book: Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? A Guide for Concerned Women as a guide to help couples understand how male sexuality.

This book provides the clarity, describes the choices, and (in many cases) offers hope for relationships and marriages that have been brushed off as doomed.

In our latest podcast interview, Dr Kort discusses:

  • What inspired him to write his new book Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Concerned Women
  • Whether we can clearly differentiate sexual orientation between bi, gay and straight
  • The four question test  he uses to determine a person's sexual orientation
  • What the term heteroflexible means and how recent generations are embracing this new sexuality
  • If it's possible for a person’s sexual orientation to change throughout their lifetime
  • Advice he gives women who discover their husband or partner is watching gay porn or having sex with men
  • The psychology of men who express their sexuality through having sex  with men, but don't consider themselves gay
  • Whether women’s sexuality is more fluid than men, or if this is just a myth
  • If a marriage can survive when the husband has been discovered secretly having sex with men
  • How he works with couples when there is concern about the sexuality or sexual orientation of the male partner
Sep 18 2014 · 25mins