Jealousy, Compersion… Loving Without Boundaries with Kitty Chambliss
The Open Nesters
Jealousy, Compersion… Loving Without Boundaries with Kitty Chambliss(The Open Nesters Episode 14)If You Only Have a Minute For Us Push Play on the Red Button Kitty Chambliss - Episode 14 SummaryKitty Chambliss - Episode 14 SummaryKitty Chambliss - Episode 14 SummaryIn Episode 14 we Meet Kitty Chambliss from Loving without Boundaries. [Tessa] – Kitty is a coach, podcast host, and author. And let me tell you… simply an amazing woman! Her Loving Without Boundaries has been big inspiration to Amir and me. Kitty interviewed us many months ago just as we were launching our podcast. And I am so thankful for the work that she does, the path that Kitty has paved that has greatly enhanced our work with this Open Nesters Podcast. A “recovering Catholic” Kitty supports losing the shame and guilt that you may have attached to sex from your upbringing. I love how Kitty emphasizes each individual’s opportunity to speak their own truth. She shares some very interesting facts about the many people who have decided to pursue an open relationship. She says that this all starts with one’s own value system. What are your “cherished needs.” Once you understand these things about yourself you can begin to live your own authentic life. And if you ever schedule a consultation with Kitty ask her to describe her “Ninja Communication Tools” to help you have a beautiful meaningful conversation with your partner, vs. a drop down drag out fight. We cover so much ground in this expansive conversation. It is my hope that through this podcast, and Kitty’s wonderful work, you may be able to express compersion (see definition below) in your relationships someday. Five Jealousy Triggers Kitty takes us through the things that bring out jealousy in us. These present challenges for most of us when it comes to the people we care deeply about. Possessiveness Low Self Worth Control Rational Fear Vulnerability What is Compersion? A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. Compersion can be thought of as a positive emotional reaction to a loved one’s other relationship. The term was coined by the Kerista Commune. [Source: Urban Dictionary] Lack of empathy is the root of all evil. – Kitty Chambliss Resources for You We want to provide you with support and many many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook: Open Nesters Resource Page The Open Nesters Private Facebook Group ask to join and we’ll let you in Kitty’s Book: Jealousy Survival Guide Jealousy can have an enormous impact on some people, so it is no surprise that people (especially those who practice consensual non-monogamy) think, talk, and write about it quite a bit. In “Jealousy Survival Guide”, Kitty Chambliss does the homework for you and collects the best tidbits on life and emotions to give you inspiration and provide tools to gain and practice new skills. Combining her own life experience with these pearls of wisdom, Kitty focuses on jealousy in consensually non-monogamous relationships, what it is, how it expresses, and specific ways to manage it. Kitty’s frank discussion of her own struggles with jealousy and focus on specific skills and techniques — without a shred of blame — makes “Jealousy Survival Guide” a delightfully useful read for anyone struggling with jealousy or consensually non-monogamous relationships and polyamory. Jealousy Survival Guide Book One More Thing Is polyamory for you? Isn’t that a loaded question! Kitty Chambliss has given us a tool to help us find out if this is focus with her “Polyamory Quiz.” Click here to find out if this open lifestyle might be for you. The Polyamory Quiz.
#191 Jealousy, (Non) Monogamy, & Relationships - With Kitty Chambliss
Why do people experience jealousy? How can they manage it in both monogamy and non-monogamous relationships? And how can folks keep the fire alive in long term relationships? Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 14. About our guest: Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon Best Selling author of Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship. She is also a relationship coach, keynote speaker, polyamorous and sex-positive activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) - specializing in helping people in non-traditional relationships navigate the challenging emotions that often arise in such dynamics. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. She is also the host of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast - available on all of the apps. To learn more visit lovingwithoutboundaries.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Get 20% off and free shipping on some awesome sex toys with code Shameless20 at LikeAKitten.com Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get your Shameless Sex swag (t-shirts, tanks, masks, etc) here Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com
Ep 75: Consensual NonMonogamy: Triads, Polyfidelity, Jealousy Survival. Eve Eurydice Kitty Chambliss
Speak Sex with Eve
Eve Eurydice speaks conscious sex with Kitty Chambliss, founder of the Loving Without Boundaries website & fb community, & relationship coach & polyeducator. Her mission is to normalize ethical monogamy--a monogamy that partners who can speak Sex can negotiate & agree on. The patriarchy’s 'rule' has been that exclusive monogamy is ethical &, by partiarchy's law of opposites, all non-monogamy is immoral. By separating our moral from sexual practices, we can be true & honest to our partners & to our authentic evolving selves. Kitty has written numerous blog posts on these topics, incl. her "Jealousy Survival Guide," & interviewed folks who specialize in the field of emergent conscious sexuality on her podcast. Ethical non monogamy is a way to save marriages & long term partnerships. As we evolve out of our sexual oppression into experimentation with honest freedom, we must slow down our learned reactions so we can be sure we behave not as we have been taught but from authenticity. We can heal each trauma or jealousy or insecurity as we become aware of it. Uncomfortable feelings are engine lights that go on to tell us we need to heal something. Lasting intimacy is unconditional acceptance. The norm still insists on the old obsolete way of being a couple when most marriages end in divorce. The dominant culture glorifies & spotlights that tunnel vision of romance & true love. We haven’t had healthy role models in our parents who were deeper in the old social conditioning. So we all have to change our social conditioning to begin to approximate our truth. We owe it to our children first & then to our partners & to ourselves to bring awareness to the world. If you want a life of integrity, if you wanna be Sex positive in a Sex negative world, Speak Sex! For more on Kitty, go to https://lovingwithoutboundaries.com For more ways to Speak Sex, go to https://speaksexpodcast.com https://Eurydice.net Facebook.com/Speaksexpodcast/ or http://www.youtube.com/speaksexwithEveEurydice/ https://Woodhullfoundation.org @speaksexpodcast @lovingwithoutboundaries--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/speaksex/message
Kitty Chambliss is a truly amazing person, and as someone who practices ENM much the same way we do, her philosophies are a great match for our magazine and the message we try to convey on the world. In this episode Michael sits down with Kitty for an interesting and lively conversation about how people who are married can address a lot of the questions and scrutiny they get from people by being married and open. You can find Kitty Chambliss on the web by visiting her website at: www.lovingwithoutboundaries.com. There you can find her lifestyle and relationship coaching practice, as well as links to buy her book "The Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship" You can also join the Loving Without Boundaries Facebook group for some great community oriented interaction with others who are experienced in ENM, Swinging and Polyamory. You can find the home page for "Dear Kitty" with links to her previous articles and a form to use to submit your questions to Kitty at our Dear Kitty page on the ENM Magazine website. Otherwise you can submit your question via direct email by writing her at firstname.lastname@example.org --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/enmtalkpodcast/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/enmtalkpodcast/support
#143 Couple's Sex Toys & Non-Traditional Relationships - With Kitty Chambliss
The intro of the episode is about some of our favorite sex toys, as well as some awesome Valentine's Day activity and gift recommendations including as few that won't cost you a thing. The interview of the podcast is all about navigating non-traditional relationships including non-monogamy and anything beyond the traditional "get married to one person forever" way of being. Our guest also helps us answer some of your sex questions about non-monogamy. To checkout the Clone-a-Willy and Clone-a-Pussy go to www.cloneawilly.com and use code SHAMELESSSEX for 20% off. To checkout the We-Vibe Chorus and Moxie go to We-Vibe.com and use code Shameless for 5% off plus free shipping. Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip ahead to minute 34 (Note - our mic disconnected during the recording, so we apologize for the poor sound quality). Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon Best Selling author of Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship. She is also a relationship coach, keynote speaker, polyamorous and sex-positive activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) - specializing in helping people in non-traditional relationships navigate the challenging emotions that often arise in such dynamics. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. She is also the host of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast - available on all of the apps. To learn more visit lovingwithoutboundaries.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Meditators have better sex! Start meditating with the Calm app + get 40% off when you visit calm.com/shameless Get $20 your first coaching session with code SHAMELESSSEX at nicoleduke.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com
Loving Without Boundaries with Relationship Coach Kitty Chambliss
Sisters of Sexuality: Five Shades Of Play
Join Taylor Sparks and Parish Michelle Blair as we have the most open conversation with relationship coach, with a focus on polyamory and ethical non-monogamy relationships, Kitty Chambliss.If you want to know more about polyamory, jealously and even dynamics of polyamory, you don't want to miss this episode. Kitty tells her about her amazing journey into and through polyamory after spending many years as a “cheating serial monogamist” and recovering Catholic.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sistersofsexuality/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sistersofsexuality/support
Kitty Chambliss joins me for a real and raw conversation about coming out of depression as she mastered pole fitness, her personal journey in ethical non-monogamy as an ex-cheater, and her outreach/education/authorship tackling jealousy. Suggested Links: lovingwithoutboundaries.com lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/36358124-jealousy-survival-guide Suggested Hashtags: #lovingwithoutboundaries #kittychambliss #polytalkbykitty *Theme Song: "Somethin for Ya" by Mnage Quad--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/withpolyanna/support
Kitty Chambliss shares her insights on jealousy and the Jealousy Survival Guide 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat We’re on Spotify! 1:50 Poly in the news Polyamory in Sicilon Valley 4:10 Interview: Kitty Chambliss, author of the Jealousy Survival Guide Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon best selling author, relationship coach, polyamorous and sex-positive speaker, activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). Since 2012 LWB has over 200 blog posts and 70 podcasts to date. Kitty’s work has been featured in Stories From the Polycule, Multiamory, Swingtowns, PostModern Woman, the upcoming book It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships, and other publications around the globe. Kitty is a professional dual-certified (CPC and ELI-MP) relationship coach. Lastly Kitty is thrilled to be bringing her first book: Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship out to the world. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. Find her on her website. 33:40 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email email@example.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
140 - The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss)
This week we're speaking with Kitty Chambliss, coach, speaker, and author of the soon to be released Jealousy Survival Guide. Kitty shares with us the lessons she's learned as a polyamorous person who still struggles with jealousy and offers her insight and techniques for managing jealousy as it occurs in the moment with grace, ease, and compassion. You can find more of Kitty's work at lovingwithoutboundaries.com.If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more!Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to firstname.lastname@example.org, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com, or you can leave us a voicemail at 678-MULTI-05. We love to hear from our listeners and we read every message.
Episode 185: Loving Without Boundaries – What, Why, and How – Kitty Chambliss
Life (UN)Closeted: LGBTQ & Heterosexual Coming Out Stories & Advice for coming out of life's closets!
Who you love, how you love, and how you create your relationships is nobody’s business. Got it? Ok, I know. Easier said than done. Yet, it seems in this day and age there is still an overwhelming societal desire to be up in everyone’s busyness…yes I said busyness…because when you get into someone else’s relationship…