Jackie Melfi

How do you know if monogamy is right for you? Ever been curious about what it would actually be like to be a swinger, or date other people while still being in a healthy marriage?Jackie was actually married twice, in two traditional, monogamous relationships (with kids), before she connected with John — or, in fact, reconnected with him, since they actually went to high school together.By that point, John was running several clubs for swingers, and Jackie was curious to hear more. She went on a deep dive in researching monogamy, ethical non-monogamy (open relationships), how people "do" swinging and/or other sexual exploration in a way that feels authentic and true to them, and more.The two then built a beautiful relationship based on openness, trust, and true vulnerability.If you've ever wondered how exactly it "works" in a relationship that's more open, where you can play with other people (i.e. have full-on sex or just to be sexual some way), listen to this. According to Jackie and John, it can actually bring you closer, with tremendous personal growth.In particular, when you don't have to cut off that part of you that engages with the spark of life, things get fun and fiery. Flirting, ethical non-monogamy, jealousy, fulfillment, love, and healthy relationships can all coexist, and bring even more joy and magic into your world.Notable quotes from this episode:“I assumed that once I got married, my partner and I would be 100% satisfied.” “Monogamy never really felt like ‘me.’”“If you’re able to walk through your fear you become a stronger person — more whole.”“One of the greatest gifts was it allowed me to get in touch with how I viewed myself, how I can grow, how I can feel confident in my relationship.”“We’re very conscious of what we do in our relationship. We want both of us to be operating from the best place.”

In Episode 55 of the 4OURPLAY Swinger Podcast, Bella and Jase sit down with John and Jackie Melfi, the owners of Colette Clubs! They talk about how they got their start in the swinging lifestyle, breaking down the stigma of swinging, Colette Clubs, and more!Mentioned in this episode:Jase’s song of the week: Malibu by Kim PetrasJase’s obsession of the week: The Witcher Bella’s obsession of the week: MaidJackie’s obsession: Atlas Of The Heart by Brene BrownWhere else to find us:Website: http://4OURPLAY.com/4OURPLAY The Game: http://4ourplay.com/gamesSubscribe to our Youtube!Shop our swingers merch : http://4ourplay.com/shop?category=Swinger+LifestyleE-mail: 4ourplaypodcast@gmail.comAsk us a question: http://4ourplay.com/askJoin Our Discord Server!: 4OURPLAY Swinging CommunityFollow Bella on Snapchat!: @HeyBellaLunaJoin Our Facebook Group!: 4OURPLAY CommunityTwitter: http://twitter.com/4ourplaypodcastInstagram: http://instagram.com/4ourplayofficialTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@4ourplayBella’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/heybellalunaJase’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/heyjasebBella’s VIP OnlyFans: http://onlyfans.com/bellalunavipBella’s Free OnlyFans: http://onlyfans.com/bellalunafreeSign up for OnlyFans!Get SDC Full Membership for 30 days FREEGet Kasidie Full Membership for 30 days FREE*Some links may contain affiliate links!

Y'all are in for a special treat this week FOR SURE.  John & Jackie Melfi of Colette Clubs  (https://coletteclubs.com/) and Open Love 101  (https://openlove101.com/) to talk all about swingers, swingers clubs and the swinging lifestyle in general... all while being INSIDE an actual swinger's club!Here's just a little taste of what we talked about:An intro to swingingThe swinger's lifestyleGroup sexThreesomes as a starting pointJohn's first threesomeThe definition of swingingGetting soberHealthy, happy sobrietyFamily/friends reactionFinding the swinging lifestyle through your partnerSwinging can help you lead a peaceful and loving lifeHow to handle a swinger's relationshipDating while already in a relationshipHow to focus on the fun instead of the fearWhat is the difference between dating and having sex?Hearing about your partner's dates can be a turn onPolyamory is not as common in the swinging world as you'd thinkSwingers freak out sometimes tooThe foundations of a good relationshipGetting support from yourselfNot forming attachmentsAND Beth, Aaron and Tina's feelings about how swinging'd work for them!Got some thoughts on this week's episode? Share them with us at comewithusconfessions@gmail.com!WANT A GRADUATE DEGREE IN LOVE?Are you looking for some guidance or direction on taking your relationship to the next level? From love, sex, intimacy, and self-love, Beth can help!Love, Sex and Relationship Coaching: https://bethtalks.com/coaching-with-bethFor Romantic concierge booking, or  virtual shopping appointments, email Info@darlingway.comShop online 24/7: https://darlingway.com/L I N K S  &  S O C I A L   M E D I A - Follow us on social media for updates, Come With Us podcast episodes, Sexy Ed School & more!!Website: https://darlingway.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comewithuspodcastCoaching: https://bethtalks.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/comewithuspodcastContact Come With Us:comewithusconfessions@gmail.comSupport the show (https://comewithuspodcastmerch.myshopify.com/)

John and Jackie Melfi are swingers in an open relationship. Together they are the driving force behind coletteclubs.com, a swingers' club brand with locations in Dallas, New Orleans, Houston, and Austin. John has been in the swinger club industry for 20 years, and when he and Jackie met, they expanded the business in order to reach and educate more couples and singles curious about the lifestyle.  Their first venture together was the award-winning lifestyle blog, Openlove101.com. Today this swinging powerhouse coaches couples on the lifestyle, provides video content, blogs weekly on the topic, and have been the recipients of numerous industry awards.In this episode we discuss:What it looks like to have a play partner How jealousy and fear don’t enter the equationWhat are the benefits and repercussions of this lifestyleWhat betrayal looks like for Jackie and JohnHow being in an open relationship and swinging lifestyle has created far more emotional intimacy in their relationshipHow the taboo of open relationships can create unfair treatmentHow their kids view their lifestyleWhat the different levels look like in an open/swinging relationshipConnect with John and Jackie:coletteclubs.comopenlove101.comworldlovesummit.comhttps://www.instagram.com/openlove101/https://www.facebook.com/openlove101https://www.youtube.com/user/openlove101https://twitter.com/openlove101Connect with Ashley:Website: www.ashleyrivard.comInstagram: @ashleydrivardTwitter:@ashleyrivard

Intro: The key here is to be with someone who has the same goals as you in a relationship. In this situation, John and Jackie are both into the open relationship scene, and giving each other this freedom actually brings them closer, because they are genuinely enjoying it together. Show Notes: John and Jackie have coached thousands on their decision if the open lifestyle is right for them They own multiple clubs for open-minded couples and singles (www.coletteclubs.com), or the evolved version of what used to be called “swingers’ clubs” How John and Jackie discovered the swinger lifestyle, and how guys can explore open relationships The difference between men who know how to approach women and those who don’t What swinging can teach everyone about relationships How to deal with judgemental people in your life The best way to handle conflict in relationships, and the key to success in a long-term relationship Why living your life freely is the best example you can set for others What spilled ice cream can teach you about relationships How to counter the fear of loss The post 27: Navigating Open Relationships appeared first on Inner Confidence.

http://curiouscouple.podbean.com/mf/web/b3fnk4/TCC024.mp3 John and Jackie Melfi, owners of Colette Clubs in Dallas and New Orleans, join us for this episode.  We ran into them on our last trip to Dallas while at Colette.  They discuss with us their story of getting into the lifestyle, having a business in the lifestyle, and how they define the lifestyle for them at this point in their lives.  They are one of the few couples open and in the public eye about who they are and what they do.  They hope to lead other couples to a happier and more fulfilled relationship, by sharing their experiences and advice on their website openlove101.com. Check out their clubs: coletteclubs.com Check out their website for answers about the lifestyle: openlove101.com (Vanilla) Dating App: Tinder.com SDC.com – Promotional one month Free – 25648 Vote for us on best lifestyle podcast at: www.annuallifestyleawards.com/vote-here/