Shari Alexander. Helping bands Observe Connect and Influence
The Rock Star Today Podcast
Episode 2: Sharí Alexander is a communication specialist and founder of Observe Connect Influence, a Los Angeles based training and consulting firm helping leaders increase their influence through educational programs and private coaching. She sought out the worlds best influencers which include CIA field operatives, hostage negotiators, con artists, pick-up artists, and military intelligence officers to learn how they exert influence. During our discussion, we apply these skills to situations where a musician or band can use influence to further their career.Website: observeconnectinfluence.comFree download: mindreaderblueprint.comSharí's blogs is at Shari-Alexander.com Join our Rock Star Today Backstage Pass Facebook Group to continue the discussion. Show notes can be found on RockStarToday.com/podcast
The System For Influence & Persuasion with Shari Alexander
Business Processes Simplified Podcast
Guest’s Background: Sharí is a persuasiveness coach known for bringing the “dark arts” of influence into the light. She has built her career as a speaker, writer, trainer and coach by revealing powerful secrets behind the conversational influence. She has personally learned the best persuasive triggers and techniques from master influencers, including CIA field agents, hostage negotiators, con-artists, HUMINT officers, interrogators, trial attorneys, mentalists, undercover law enforcement, and even pick-up artists. Her mission is to put these powerful skills in the hands of entrepreneurs and leaders so that they can effectively be a positive influence in their businesses and lives. Sharí has designed numerous communication training courses and speeches that cover these enlightening areas of enhanced communication, along with self-study programs. Sharí is certified in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), microexpressions, and body language. Her clients include CEOs, politicians, professional athletes (NFL, NBA), television and movie producers, news commentators (ESPN, HLN, NBC), and New York Times Bestselling authors. Sharí is also a regular contributor to Entrepreneur and guest lecturer at USC. Website: www.shari-alexander.com System Overview Ask yourself “what do I need to know?” instead of “what should I say?” One common mishap that an aspiring influential person makes when he/she’s about to engage in a very important conversation, is to ask him/herself the question “what should I say?”. This question only puts you in the back foot and sets you up for potential failure. With this question, you’re only figuring out the things to say based on your knowledge, perspective, values, and background. Instead, a good influencer should ask himself/herself the question “what do I need to know?”. It will give you a glimpse of the receiver’s knowledge, perspective, values, background, and context. What is important to them? What motivates them? What puts them in a positive/negative mood? Start focusing on the people you’ll talk to and know more about them. Before you communicate, get to know who’s going to be your audience. The core three-step process of influence: Step 1: Observe. Step 2: Connect. Step 3: Influence.Support the show: https://www.systemhub.com/podcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Art of Making Things Happen (Bluefishing) Steve Sims
Shari Alexander is a former actress, worked as a presentation skills coach and then became a speechwriter for the corporate world. Looking for a change of pace, she started learning communication techniques from spies, CIA agents and hostage negotiators to become the powerhouse she is today.
336: Shari Alexander — Bringing the “Dark Arts” of Influence into the Light
The Less Doing Podcast
This session features Shari Alexander, a persuasiveness coach who helps others to bring the “dark arts” of influence into the light. Shari shares her experiences with working with CIA agents, hostage negotiators, attorneys and many other professionals in their field to master the techniques of influence and how she uses them in business. She shares her framework for creating connections with others, as well as some common pitfalls in communication and how best to address these. Tune in to find out more. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lessdoing/message
YBT Podcast 87 Observe Connect Influence Shari Alexander
Young Business Leader Podcast
Evan Uyetake sits down with Sharí Alexander. Shari is a persuasiveness coach known for bringing the “dark arts” of influence into the light. She has built her career as a speaker, writer, trainer and coach by revealing powerful secrets behind conversational influence.She has personally learned the best persuasive triggers and techniques from master influencers, including CIA field agents, hostage negotiators, con-artists, HUMINT officers, interrogators, trial attorneys, mentalists, undercover law enforcement, and even pick-up artists. Her mission is to put these powerful skills in the hands of entrepreneurs and leaders so that they can effectively be a positive influence in their businesses and lives. To connect with Shariwww.Mindreaderblueprint.com Free Downloadwww.observeconnectinfluence.comfacebook: /alexandersharitwitter: @sharialexanderLinkedIn: /sharialexander/To learn more about The Young Businessmen of Tulsa:Facebook: /YBTOklahomaTwitter: @ybTulsaOKLinkedIn: Young Businessmen of TulsaWebsite: www.ybtok.comTo connect with Evan Uyetakewww.patreon.com/yblpctwitter: @utalkieinstagram: @utalkieLinkedIn: /evanuyetakeemail: firstname.lastname@example.orgThis podcast is sponsored by Trost Marketing www.trostmarketing.com
#23: Shari Alexander, expert in influential communications, garnered secrets from spies, hostage negotiators, and con artists
The Influencer Inc Podcast
Shari recognizes the power of a clearly communicated, influential, persuasive message. Without that, no amount of software or hardware tools will help grow your business. Tune in to hear Shari’s tips for giving a charismatic presentation.
10: Bringing Dark Influence Secrets From The CIA, NSA, and FBI Into The Light With Shari Alexander
The Make More Marbles Show
Time stamped show notes: [00:18] Introduction to Shari Alexander [02:11] What got her into this line of work [04:45] She loves this world of influence because it’s about mastering words. [06:19] Things people can do to start being influential. [7:51] Start by asking: what do I need to know? – if you want to be influential [10:35] Create the conversation ahead of time. [13:00] People want to hide behind the screen because it’s easier, safer and more leverageable, but people need to spend time when they’re selling to talk to people. [17:43] The lower the price, the less commitment the client has. [20:43] Ask: is this a tool or a solution? [20:49] Oftentimes in the entrepreneurial journey you will come across and if you don’t know how to use it, it won’t work. [23:09] Her ambitions and new projects. [28:42] Tools that can make someone influential [31:55] Influence is communication with a purpose. You have to get comfortable with the idea that you want something from people. [33:34] People should communicate in a thoughtful manner, instead of communicating on autopilot. [36:09] You have to be aware of being overly authentic cannot help you. Think of what is going to serve you best. [38:13] You have to be specific. [39:41] Influential triggers: (1) quid pro quo, (2) higher significance [41:50] The people you can turn into an asset, can be the ones that you give money to, but they will be the least reliable. [42:18] The person that you recruit that can be an asset are the people who do it for the higher significance. [44:05] Framework people can use right now- the influential vibes – five things you can look for in your mark [44:39] Five influential vibes: (1) Values: what are important to them? [45:11] You can’t influence someone that you’re judging. [45:29] Five influential vibes: (2) Identifiers – what are the labels they put on themselves? [46:17] Five influential vibes: (3) Beliefs – what are the stories they tell about their world? Very linked to values [47:01] Five influential vibes: (4) Emotional triggers – what puts them in a positive or negative space? [47:47] Five influential vibes: (5) Secret goals and desires – what are they aspiring to? What are their higher goals? Three key points: Influence is communication with a purpose. You have to get comfortable with the idea that you want something from people. You have to be aware of being overly authentic cannot help you. Think of what is going to serve you best. VIBES – Values, Identifiers, Beliefs, Emotional triggers, Secret goals and desires. Resources mentioned: Sean Stevenson Last Question: Sign up for the email list. There are different ways to sign up. If you get the emails and you like what you see, reply back and let her know.
Ep 39: How To Observe, Connect And Influence With Shari Alexander
Resist Average Academy | Tommy Baker
Shari Alexander is a persuasiveness coach known for bringing the "dark arts" of influence into the light. She has built her career as a speaker, writer, trainer and coach by revealing powerful secrets behind conversational influence. She has personally learned the best persuasive triggers and techniques from master influencers, including CIA field agents, hostage negotiators, con-artists, HUMINT officers, interrogators, trial attorneys, mentalists, undercover law enforcement, and even pick-up artists. In this episode, Shari and I discuss the practical tools you can put in your back pocket to make you a magnetic communicator, observer, and connector. Using her experience with body language and awareness, you will develop a skill set that will be invaluable in the way you communicate with everyone from your boss to a loved one. If you enjoyed this episode, I would absolutely appreciate you sharing it with your friends, subscribing and reviewing as well, this is so crucial to the long-term growth and exposure to the Podcast and would mean the world! P.S. Have you grabbed your free Resist Average Blueprint yet? This 10 page PDF is designed to help you achieve every goal in your life from years of learning in a document that is made for you!
You’ll learn how Shari Alexander became an expert in influence by mastering public speaking. She also talks about studying under linguistic masterminds, from CIA field operatives to hostage negotiators and interrogators. Shari goes over a myriad of influential techniques and the necessary steps to becoming an effective influencer of both individuals and groups.OUTLINEHow Shari went from aspiring actress to PR ace to speech writer to influence expertBridging the frustrating gap between knowing the benefits of what you offer and effectively communicating it to your audienceSetting the foundation of influence with individuals or groups by observing and connectingLearning the key influential VIBES-Why attempting to skip the steps of observing and connecting before influencing is such a riskWhy the Expectancy Effect is one of Shari’s favorite influential techniquesHow to get more information about learning how to become an expert influencerSUMMARYThen-aspiring actress Shari Alexander had stints in London and New York before an epiphany made her realize it wasn’t meant for her. From there, a fascinating path led her to become one of the foremost linguistic experts in the field of influential techniques for professionals and entrepreneurs. Shari now coaches the “Dark Arts” of influence to be used in a productive, ethical way. In this podcast, you’ll get an overview of Shari’s steps to becoming influential in a variety of settings, and even learn some specific proven techniques.RESOURCEShttp://www.shari-alexander.com/shari-alexander-about/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharialexanderABOUT THIS PODCAST Are you a wealth manager or financial advisor who wants to grow your clientele and attract more affluent clients? Join host Scott Sillari and producer Andrew Alix for in-depth interviews with wealth managers & Coaches/Trainers striving to help you build your business in the right way. You’ll learn the best client attraction and business building strategies working for your colleagues so you build a sustainable and profitable financial advisory firm. Interviews are 100% educational and packed with helpful, educational content. Brought to you by Vyral Marketing – a marketing firm for entrepreneurs in professional services. Learn more at www.getvyral.com.Like Us on Facebook: goo.gl/dxDEJl///The Entrepreneurial Professional PodcastsMeet Your HostScott Sillari is your host of the Entrepreneurial Professional podcasts. Scott is also the head of New Business at Vyral Marketing – a done-for-you video marketing firm helping entrepreneurial professionals in all industries get more clients with education-based video marketing. Scott hand selects your guests, prepares research in advance, and asks the “hard” questions you want to know the answers to during the guest interview.Meet Your ProducerAndrew Alix is an avid podcast listener and lead trainer at Vyral Marketing. He edits your podcast and works with Scott Sillari to record an informative introduction so you know what to expect during the interview. Andrew edits the podcast in Adobe Audition. The introduction is recorded using a Yeti USB microphone. The interview itself is conducted over the phone or via Skype using call recording software.Want to Be a Guest? Email us at email@example.comAbout Vyral Marketing Vyral Marketing helps you get more clients from your database. We interview you on a HD webcam to educate your customer database with video to grow sales - we do all the work. We build your video blog, edit your video, write your articles, send your email, update your social media, and more for a low flat rate. Download your marketing plan “The Database Reset: How to Reconnect with Your Neglected Contact Database to Increase Sales with Video & Social Media” for free atwww.TheDatabaseReset.com. To see client marketing examples, review case studies, and learn more visit www.getvyral.com to request a complimentary marketing strategy session.
Shari Alexander on Influence, Shakespeare, & The Power of Words
Side Quest Podcast
In this episode, I interview Shari Alexender of Observe, Connect, Influence. She prides herself on bringing the dark arts of influence into the light. She made it her mission to discover the techniques used masters of communication (CIA operatives, con-artists, interrogators, trial attorneys, etc) and help people apply those techniques to business. For more show notes check out www.sidequestfitness.com/podcast/