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Julie Lythcott-Haims

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Your Turn: How to Be an Adult | Julie Lythcott-Haims

TED Talks Daily

By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren't actually helping. At least, that's how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children's success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love. After the talk, stick around for a discussion on how you can be a grown-up, too, as Elise and Julie discuss her new book, "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." This episode is part of the TED Talks Daily summer book club, a series featuring talks and interviews to inspire your next great read. And if you'd like to learn more from Julie, you can enroll in her new TED Course, which builds off the ideas from her book. Whether you're just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question what adulthood even is, you'll learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you. Enroll at tedtalks.social/bestself.

20mins

2 Aug 2022

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100: Supporting Kids On Their Journey To Adulthood With Julie Lythcott-Haims

Parenting The Adlerian Way

I am bringing you a special guest to celebrate my 100th episode! Julie Lythcott-Haims joins me to talk about “adulting”. She is the New York Times best-selling author of “How To Raise An Adult”, and today she and I discuss her latest book, “Your Turn: How to Be An Adult”. Enjoy!   You can find Julie on social media at: @jlythcotthaims Her books can be found at:  https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn And her TED course:  https://ed.ted.com/lessons/uX3soXgB

42mins

25 Jul 2022

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Julie Lythcott-Haims talks about being an adult

The Science of Psychotherapy

We talk to Julie Lythcott-Haims, who believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, which we talk about in this interview, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Thanks for listening! Support us by becoming a subscriber to The Science of Psychotherapy Academy! Or you can simply buy us a cup of coffee! Please leave a review! (Reviews are fabulously important to us! On your podcast player you should find an option to review at the bottom of the main page for the podcast - after the list of available episodes) - Here's a link for iTunes. And please subscribe to our show!  You can also find our podcast at: The Science of Psychotherapy Podcast Homepage If you want more great science of Psychotherapy please visit our website thescienceofpsychotherapy.com Grab a copy of our latest book! The Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Psychotherapy

38mins

13 Jun 2022

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How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims PART 1

Kindred Conversations

We’ve just added another must-read to our collection! How to Raise an Adult presents us with the over-parenting dilemma and the hard-to-face consequences that have come with it. As the freshman dean at Stanford University, the author of this book had her eyes opened to the problems of over reaching parents (which are much greater than you might initially think). We loved the principles taught in this book about connecting meaningfully with your children while stepping back and allowing them to take charge and responsibility of their own life. Julie presents a number of thought provoking chapters that coach parents in how to raise an adult. We hope you enjoyed this episode of Kindred Conversations! You can join in the conversation on Instagram @kindred_conversations.

53mins

3 Jun 2022

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(Replay) Your Turn: How to Be An Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims

The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

This episode is with Julie Lythcott-Haims and we talk about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, which is about how to be a good person and have a good life. We also talked about how to raise kids so that they don't need a book to learn how to be an adult. Julie also shared some really great tips about truly seeing our children.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.  We go into: How Julie’s new book is changing the narrative around the heaviness of living in today’s society What fending is and how can you best prepare your kids for when they do get to the fending stage The four step method to teaching any kid any skill How to parent our kids the way they need us to parent them Unpacking privilege in gentle parenting She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women’s Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Julie’s Books How to Raise an Adult Real American: A Memoir Your Turn: How to Be An Adult Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com Book a short consult or coaching session call

46mins

5 Apr 2022

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#174 What It Means to be an Adult & Live An Authentic Life with Julie Lythcott-Haims

Beyond Influential

I loved chatting with this week’s Beyond Influential guest—it’s easily one of my favorite interviews I’ve done for the show because it dives into the highly relevant topic of what it truly means to be an adult in today’s world. This is an important conversation as many millennials and more and more Gen Z-ers are currently trying to be an adult while simultaneously starting to raise the next generation of adults.  New York Times bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims is a speaker, teacher, mentor, and activist who brings so much value and experience to the table and delivers insight after insight in this conversation.  As the former Stanford dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising, Julie has encountered countless twenty and thirty somethings who feel they’re just playing the part of “adult,” while internally struggling with anxiety and stress. She has written multiple books that I can highly recommend. Her first book, How to Raise an Adult, led to a popular Ted Talk on How to Raise Successful Kids Without Overparenting. And now her most recent book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, examines and answers the question, “What does it really mean to be an adult today?” and includes practical strategies for living a more authentic adult life.  In Ep. 174, we cover: Julie’s journey from lawyer to creating her own role at Stanford to acclaimed author The overparenting phenomenon and its effects Why many millennials don’t feel confident in their adulting skills What it actually means to be an adult (and why it’s a process, not a checklist) Why you need to stop “playing it safe” in order to live your most authentic life, and more!   Books by Julie Lythcott-Haims How to Raise an Adult https://amzn.to/36Qw7yi Real American: A Memoir https://amzn.to/3DsaeBK Your Turn: How to Be an Adult https://amzn.to/3Nx1lew Want to Support the Podcast for free? Leaving a rating goes a long way and allows me to continue putting out quality content! You can leave one on Apple (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-influential/id1264581842) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/0Z55W0OeqRN9VHhVVDQaMD)! Take a screenshot while listening to the episode and share it in your Instagram Stories—and make sure to tag me @brittanykrystle!   To connect with Julie: Website: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/jlythcotthaims   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims/   Watch Julie's TED Talk on How to Raise Successful Kids–Without Overparenting: https://youtu.be/CyElHdaqkjo     To connect with me, Brittany Krystle: Website: https://www.brittanykrystle.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanykrystle/ Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/brittanykrystle/   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brittanykrystle/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brittanykrystlexoxo/   Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/brittanykrystle/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1f0uI6wzWqp58n7fk-7-1g Don't want to miss an episode (or valuable free resources!)? Get on my list here: https://www.brittanykrystle.com/subscribe *Disclosure: These show notes may contain affiliate links. If you choose to purchase through them, I may earn a commission which helps me continue to create this content (at no extra cost to you). Thank you so much for your support.

1hr 1min

29 Mar 2022

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Episode 75: Julie Lythcott-Haims – Raising Independent Kids

Why is Everyone Yelling?

Julie Lythcott-Haims is the NYT Bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to her popular Ted Talk. Her newest book is coming out, it is called Your Turn: How to be an Adult. Julie is also the author of a poetry memoir called Real American which illustrates her experience as a black and biracial person in white spaces. Julie worked at Stanford University as the Dean of Freshman for over a decade and she noticed a rise in parental involvement in students’ lives. That is where the book, How to Raise an Adult, came from. Julie has two children. What we talked about: 6:40- Introduction to Julie 9:00- Her role as a dean at Stanford and how it shaped how she parented her own kids 18:20- Allowing your kids to roam freely 26:55- Balancing structure and free play  32:00- The methods to encourage kids to do things on their own 39:35- Benchmarks for various ages 46:25- Parents helping too much with their kid’s homework 49:00- Giving your kids agency 56:45- End of podcast questions Show notes: Julie’s Website Julie on Instagram Julie’s Ted Talk How to Raise an Adult Your Turn: How to be an Adult Real American Read Until You Understand by Farah Jasmine Griffin Connect with Lindsey:  Lindsey on Instagram Lindsey on Twitter Follow SandyBoy Productions: Sandyboy Productions on Twitter Sandyboy Productions on Instagram SandyBoy Productions Shows:  Why is Everyone Yelling? The Up and Running Podcast The Illuminate Podcast The Herban Farmacy Podcast Sponsors: Previnex Use code “Lindsey15” for 15% off your first order or “Immunity15” for 15% off Immunity Health Plus Portland Bee Balm Use the code “sandyboy” for 20% off your first order

1hr 2mins

15 Mar 2022

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New View EDU: Schools as Practice Zones for Adulting (with Julie Lythcott-Haims)

Member Voices

Listen to an episode from our sister NAIS podcast, featuring bestselling author, speaker, and former Dean at Stanford, Julie Lythcott-Haims.Julie joins NAIS Chief Innovation Officer Tim Fish and author and futurist Lisa Kay Solomon to share her insights on the role of schools in creating capable, responsible adults -- not just high-stat students who achieve academically but struggle to "adult" beyond the classroom.

45mins

7 Mar 2022

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TSOW 23: Raising Adults with Julie Lythcott-Haims

The School of Wellbeing with Meg Durham

"Parents who feel the need to intervene in the life of their child, also seem to have children who are less capable." Julie Lythcott-Haims Learn how to support and guide children into becoming highly capable and resilient adults. In this episode with author and educator Julie Lythcott Haims, Meg chats to Julie about how much parenting has changed over the years. You’ll hear about the effects of overparenting and how to help children transition into adulthood and pursue their true passions. So what’s this episode really about? - How to raise confident, capable and resilient young adults. - How to guide young people, rather than manage and control. - Re-thinking the idea of ‘success’ and allowing young adults the space and freedom to find what they’re genuinely passionate about. Episode 23 Shownotes  Subscribe to the Thought of The Week newsletter to be the first to know what Meg is working on and loving. Connect  Julie Lythcott-Haims - Website | Books | Instagram | Facebook Meg Durham - Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | Bookings

53mins

24 Feb 2022

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037: Your Turn: How to Be An Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims

The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

This episode is with Julie Lythcott-Haims and we talk about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, which is about how to be a good person and have a good life. We also talked about how to raise kids so that they don't need a book to learn how to be an adult. Julie also shared some really great tips about truly seeing our children.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.  We go into: How Julie’s new book is changing the narrative around the heaviness of living in today’s society What fending is and how can you best prepare your kids for when they do get to the fending stage The four step method to teaching any kid any skill How to parent our kids the way they need us to parent them Unpacking privilege in gentle parenting She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women’s Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Julie’s Books How to Raise an Adult Real American: A Memoir Your Turn: How to Be An Adult Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com Book a short consult or coaching session call

46mins

16 Feb 2022

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