Ep. 050 PARENTING THROUGH DIVORCE - Carl Pickhardt
Are you waiting to get divorced until your kids are a little older in the hopes that they’ll handle it better? You may be surprised to hear that kids in early adolescence have MORE of an adjustment to make when parents divorce than at any other age. Whatever your child’s age, parenting through divorce is difficult territory.
EP20 Step-Parenting Adolescent Children Dr. Carl Pickhardt
There is no 'one magic pill' we as parents can take that will suddenly give us the secrets to all things adolescent. Today's episode deals with several things most if not all Step-Parents struggle with in Blended Family Homes where Stepchildren are already in their teenage years. Well known author and Adolescent expert Dr. Carl Pickhardt stops by to chat with Tim about keys to successful Step-parenting of Adolescent Stepchildren.
Are you waiting to get divorced until your kids are a little older in the hopes that they’ll handle it better? You may be surprised to hear that kids in early adolescence have MORE of an adjustment to make when parents divorce than at any other age. Whatever your child’s age, parenting through divorce is difficult territory.Carl Pickhardt PhD is a psychologist in private practice out of Austin, Texas. He has written an impressive 15 books on the subject of parenting as well as columns for the Austin American Statesman, Marriage and Family Living and Psychology Today, just to name a few. Carl has appeared on ABC, NBC, CNN and NPR, and he holds degrees from Harvard and the University of Texas at Austin.Carl joins Katherine to explain the importance of emotionally reconciling your differences and creating an alliance with your ex-spouse based on common concern for your children. He walks us through the reasons why adolescence is an especially vulnerable age for kids dealing with divorce, offering his advice around keeping the lines of communication open. Listen in for Carl’s insight on providing your kids with clear, consistent messaging as you navigate parenting through divorce.Topics CoveredThe powerful adjustments kids make when their parents divorceCarl’s take on the first task for divorcing parentsEmotional reconciliation of differencesRecommitment to joint parentingCreating an alliance founded on common concern for your childrenThe cost of an unreconciled divorceKids caught in loyalty conflictsOngoing painWhy early adolescence is an especially vulnerable age for kids to deal with divorceHow divorce initiates an increased push for independence in adolescentsWhy adolescents need an increased number of salient adult relationshipsCarl’s guidance for divorcing parents around spending time with your preteen/teenStop and listen (accessibility)Bridge to kid’s emerging interestsInclude friends in visitationHow to maintain constant positive choice points with your adolescentCarl’s insight on providing kids with clear, consistent messagingConnect with Carl PickhardtCarl’s Website: http://carlpickhardt.com/Surviving Your Child’s Adolescence in Psychology Today: www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescenceResourcesThe Everything Parent’s Guide to Children and Divorce by Carl Pickhardt: amazon.com/Everything-Parents-Guide-Children-Divorce/dp/1593374186/ref=la_B001IZV7GW_1_12?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1519439350&sr=1-12Books by Carl Pickhardt: www.amazon.com/Carl-E.-Pickhardt/e/B001IZV7GWConnect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1