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ERP 250: How to Use the Blueprint of Pain for Healing and Growth with Lindsey Ellison

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Lindsey Ellison, and we discuss the ways we cope with trauma and pain. We all have pain points, and it is important to understand the origins of our pain points and why we are addicted to the pain itself. She talks about her personal battle with alcoholism, why she had a breakdown, and how she decided to take the next treatment step. Lindsey speaks about her journey with deep trauma work, her experience with relationship death, and how she previously diminished her pain. Trauma+fear+wounds=addiction is the formula that we are often working with. Lindsey helps us understand how this process plays out in our lives. Our fear and trauma fuel our addictions without even being aware of their presence. Listen in to learn about why it is critical to look closely and deeply at our pain and what it is teaching us about our underlying needs, our inner-child work, and our unresolved trauma.  (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio:  Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc., a coaching practice dedicated to helping people navigate their divorce or break up. Lindsey also specializes in helping people break free from narcissistic abuse, and is the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist. You can find Lindsey on her popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken.  In this episode, Lindsey and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  Why we are addicted to the pain in our relationship How we form habits to deal with the source of our pain The factors of co-dependency and how this affects who you are How Lindsey created her blueprint of pain The role of defense mechanisms in adulthood How our trauma feeds into the fear cycle The adult child and how we use habits to maintain our fear and trauma What Lindsey learned around her deeper need for trauma and fear How to manage the pain of your inner child daily Triggers and why we need to avoid them Why we need to give attention to, not judge, our wounds How the little “t’s” affect your emotional health over time The process of finding out the “I am nots” and how to overcome these false beliefs and triggers Mentioned: Hold Me Tight the book Hold Me Tight Workshop Connect with Lindsey Ellisen Magic Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist  Lindsey Ellisen on the web Magic Words workbook Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com Get access to my new group coaching starting in January. Sign up today! If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

53mins

12 Jan 2021

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41: Narcissism With Lindsey Ellison - Part 2

Husband In Law

In this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will share the second part of their conversation with Lindsey Ellison, a speaker, writer, and relationship expert whose main expertise comes from her experiences and studies dealing with narcissists. Lindsey specializes in narcissistic abuse, and is the author of the bestselling book, “MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist.” She comes on to share her inspiring story from growing up with a narcissist father, being married to a covert narcissist, being divorced and single at 35, dating a psychopathic narcissist, and grappling with an identity crisis, to discovering what narcissism is, and starting to help people understand it. She will also discuss her step-by-step formula for creating a communication plan and script of empowering magic words that can help neutralize the power struggle that one has when they are co-parenting with a narcissist, and detail exactly what to do, how to do it, and why it works. If you listened to part one then you definitely won’t wanna this one. And if you haven’t listened to part one then you should go back and have listen before you jump onto this one. Either way, you’ll wanna stay tuned. Highlights of the discussion: Being clueless about unconditional love and how narcissistic parents affect their children (00:53)Creating drama in her life so that she could get attention from her dad (06:14)The only way a narcissist can make things work in a codependent relationship (08:50)A classic narcissist move to identify one even when they seem to be a great guy (13:46)Teaching teenagers the consequences of narcissism to nip it in the bud (18:10)How narcissists get their supply from their own kids (20:01)The importance of teaching our children boundaries and to be okay with the consequences of the boundaries (24:01)It’s alway either outsmarting them or neutralizing the power struggle (25:44)A dysfunctional relationship is when someone doesn't respect your boundaries (30:40)Additional Resources:Magic Words By Lindsey EllisonUnbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken Podcastwww.LindseyEllison.com/Lindsey on Instagramwww.Linktr.ee/TheBoldLogic--Be sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook!--You can find the podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to podcasts.If you haven’t already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

36mins

11 Mar 2020

Similar People

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Ep 173: Are You In Love With A Beautiful Narcissist? with Lindsey Ellison

SISTERHOOD OF SWEAT - Motivation, Inspiration, Health, Wealth, Fitness, Authenticity, Confidence and Empowerment

Have you ever been in a bad relationship?  Have you been worried that you’re in love with a narcissist?  In this episode, we discuss how to spot narcissists, and how to deal with narcissists in our lives, and how to leave your narcissist relationship behind. In this episode, I talk with Lindsey Ellison, Relationship coach and founder of Start Over. Find Happiness, a coaching practice that helps women navigate through their divorce or breakups, joins us to discuss her personal journey, how she left her marriage because she realized something was wrong, and her journey to become the relationship coach and expert she is today. We discuss how to spot a narcissist, how to get out of an unhealthy relationship, and even how to get into a new healthy relationship. So much value in this show! Questions I asked: What really is a Narcissist? What is gaslighting and how can we protect ourselves from it? Do gaslighters and narcissists believe their own stories? How did you leave your relationship? Why is a narcissist threatened by someone being who they are? What are some tools for someone to survive a narcissist? How to explain why you’re leaving a narcissist? How do you avoid getting into another bad relationship? Is there any hope for a narcissist to change? Topics Discussed: How to know when someone is a narcissist. How to live and work with a narcissist. Leaving an unhealthy relationship. How to protect from gaslighting. The subtle abuse from a narcissist. How to notice the red flags early on. How to get your power back. Knowing who you are. The importance of meditation and getting help. Parenting with a narcissist. Quotes from the show: “Narcissists are a master of manipulating.” @startovercoach @SisterhoodSweat “Self-love is kryptonite for narcissists.” @startovercoach @SisterhoodSweat “It was just reprogram my brain like “I can do this”.” @ startovercoach @SisterhoodSweat “Just remember who you are.” @startovercoach @SisterhoodSweat “A true narcissist cannot tap into any pain.” @startovercoach @SisterhoodSweat How you can stay in touch with Lindsey Ellison: https://lindseyellison.com/ https://www.facebook.com/ThriveWithLindsey/ https://www.instagram.com/lindsey_ellison/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDQRnkwWkOxZcTNbSEx_q8w https://www.pinterest.com/lindsey_ellison/ https://twitter.com/startovercoach Grab her book: to/2DbdBiV Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unbreakable-you-breakup-without-being-broken/id1464567583 How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T" Essential Formulas My daily energy stems from mushrooms... mushroom coffee that is! Have you checked out Four Sigmatic yet? If you want a coffee that contains superfoods and adaptogens like rhodiola, eleuthero, and schisandra to help you live a healthier, more enhanced life, then you need Four Sigmatic mushroom coffee in your daily routine! Check out their products here and be sure to let me know what you think of it!

1hr 15mins

11 Mar 2020

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40: Narcissism with Lindsey Ellison - Part 1

Husband In Law

In this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will have a conversation with Lindsey Ellison, a speaker, writer, and relationship expert whose main expertise comes from her experiences and studies dealing with narcissists. Lindsey specializes in narcissistic abuse, and is the author of the bestselling book, “MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist.” She comes on to share her inspiring story from being married to a covert narcissist, being divorced and single at 35, dating a psychopathic narcissist, and grappling with an identity crisis, to discovering what narcissism is, and starting to help people understand it, so they can stop being victims and take charge of their own lives. She will also discuss her step-by-step formula for creating a communication plan and script of empowering magic words that can help neutralize the power struggle that one has when they are co-parenting with a narcissist, and detail exactly what to do, how to do it, and why it works. If there has ever been a resourceful episode not to miss, it’s this one. So stay tuned. Highlights of the discussion: Lindsey amazing backstory and her experience being with a narcissist (03:43)How she became a narcissism expert and found out that her ex-husband was a covert narcissist (06:27)Helping people understand narcissism and how skilled narcissists are at making their partners feel crazy (08:14)Levels of narcissism and the physical, financial and emotional abuse that comes with each (09:51)Boundaries are kryptonite to narcissists (15:44)The real tragedy of the narcissism disorder (19:22)Matt’s classic parental alienation experience with his ex (23:34)The work you have to do on yourself is to not be afraid of them (27:06)We attract our partners who reflect the parent that wounded us the most (32:11)Additional Resources:Magic Words By Lindsey EllisonUnbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken Podcastwww.LindseyEllison.com/Lindsey on Instagramwww.Linktr.ee/TheBoldLogic--Be sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook!--You can find the podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to podcasts.If you haven’t already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

36mins

4 Mar 2020

Most Popular

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How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist with Lindsey Ellison

Doing Relationships Right

Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc., a coaching practice dedicated to helping people navigate their divorce or break up. Lindsey also specializes in helping people break free from narcissistic abuse, and is the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist. You can find Lindsey on her popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken or on her website lindseyellison.com.  Today we’re chatting about:  How Lindsey has dealt with Narcissism in her life. How to spot a Narcissist. How to break the Narcissist pattern in your life. Advice for co-parenting with a Narcissist. Who Narcissists really are, the truth. Connect with Lindsey:  Website: https://lindseyellison.com/ Podcast: https://lindseyellison.com/podcast/ https://www.amazon.com/MAGIC-Words-What-Want-Narcissist-ebook/dp/B07L465JK8 Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

51mins

25 Feb 2020

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"MAGIC Words to Get What You Want from a Narcissist with Best-Selling Author, Lindsey Ellison" Part Two of a Special Two-Part Episode on The Divorce & Beyond Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq. #111

The Divorce and Beyond Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq.

In Part Two of this very special Two-Part episode, Susan Guthrie, top family law attorney and mediator, and the former host of Breaking Free: A Modern Divorce Podcast, continues her talk with Author and Coach, Lindsey Ellison about her Best-Selling Book, "Magic Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist" which lays out a simple and effective program for managing your relationship with your high-conflict ex!  If you haven't listened to Part One of this Two-Part episode, you can take a listen here:  Part One of "Magic Words for Getting What You Want from a Narcissist with Best-Selling Author, Lindsey Ellison." Divorcing a narcissist is hard but co-parenting with one after divorce can feel impossible!  Author, speaker and coach, Lindsey Ellison went through the crazy-making process herself and struggled for years to try and co-parent with her narcissistic ex until she couldn't take it anymore.  She sat down and using her impressive research skills, she plotted the path to success in dealing with and managing the narcissist in your life.  Luckily, she shared her formula, in a basic and easily digestible format in her best-selling book, "Magic Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist" and she shares the details with us in these two episodes.  Her MAGIC words have worked for her and they will work for you so be sure to listen and get what you want from your narcissist!  Lindsey told you her story in Part One and shared the first two steps in her Magic Formula for getting what you want from a Narcissist.  Get ready to take notes on the final three steps and get out of that constant conflict cycle with your ex and find your freedom.  All you need to know is here in these episodes! Highlights from Part Two:  What emotion is a Narcissist's driving force and how can you use that knowledge to help you manage them? Why does your narcissistic ex blow up your phone and what can you do about it? What are Lindsey's favorite "magic words" and what is the best way to use them? What are the best words to use when you want something from your narcissist? How do you hit the reset button on your relationship with your ex and move forward in a better way? About Today's Guest: Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc., a coaching practice dedicated to helping people navigate their divorce or break up. Lindsey also specializes in helping people break free from narcissistic abuse, and is the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist. You can find Lindsey on her popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken or on her website lindseyellison.com.  SPECIAL OFFER:  To get Lindsey's special offer for listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast, "The Magic Words Downloadable Workbook" please click here.  The workbook is designed to help you to go through the Mapping Their Persona exercise and the Assessing Their Fears and Insecurities exercise from Lindsey's book so be sure to download your copy today! ******************************************************************** SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************************** THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION: HELLO DIVORCE: Hello Divorce is a first-of-it's-kind DIY divorce website that allows individuals in California to complete the necessary forms for divorce as well as provides invaluable help with informative videos, articles, affordable legal advice and services all in an online platform and easy to use app!  Listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast can use the discount code "DIVORCEBEYOND" to receive $50 off the cost of any service or subscription!  Find out more at www.hellodivorce.com. LEARN TO MEDIATE ONLINE:  As one of the leading online mediation experts in the country, Susan Guthrie has created a simple and efficient online training program that allows mediation professionals to quickly and easily add an online platform to their practice!  The two hour online program covers the basics of conducting mediations through an online platform like Zoom, and reviews the ethical and practical considerations that arise in this format.  You even receive a copy of, and the right to use, Susan's Online Mediation Guidelines and Ground Rules to make your online mediations even easier for mediator and clients alike!  Learn more at www.learntomediateonline.com or reach out to Susan directly at susan@learntomediateonline.com.  Listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast receive $50 off the cost of the one-on-one training so be sure to mention that you heard about it here! ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ********************************************************************* Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook Susan on Instagram Susan on Twitter Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Instagram Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Twitter If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can also get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.  Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ***************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

31mins

24 Feb 2020

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"MAGIC Words to Get What You Want from a Narcissist with Best-Selling Author, Lindsey Ellison" Part One of a Special Two-Part Episode on The Divorce & Beyond Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq. #110

The Divorce and Beyond Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq.

In Part One of this very special Two-Part episode, Susan Guthrie, top family law attorney and mediator, and the former host of Breaking Free: A Modern Divorce Podcast, chats with Author and Coach, Lindsey Ellison about her Best-Selling Book, "Magic Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist" which lays out a simple and effective program for managing your relationship with your high-conflict ex!  Lindsey has lived the nightmare herself and her formula is so important that we had to make this a special two-parter so that we could share it all in detail with you! Divorcing a narcissist is hard but co-parenting with one after divorce can feel impossible!  Author, speaker and coach, Lindsey Ellison went through the crazy-making process herself and struggled for years to try and co-parent with her narcissistic ex until she couldn't take it anymore.  She sat down and using her impressive research skills, she plotted the path to success in dealing with and managing the narcissist in your life.  Luckily, she shared her formula, in a basic and easily digestible format in her best-selling book, "Magic Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist" and she shares the details with us in these two episodes.  Her MAGIC words have worked for her and they will work for you so be sure to listen and get what you want from your narcissist! Highlights from Part One: Lindsey tells the story of her journey through marriage, divorce and co-parenting with a narcissist and how her Magic formula has helped her to break the conflict cycle with her ex. Find out what Lindsey calls Kryptonite for Narcissists and how to use this information to get out of the tornado of dealing with your Narcissist. What are the most common issues that arise when co-parenting with a Narcissist? How does codependency mix with Narcissism and how can you get off the hamster wheel of conflict? How do Narcissist's view their children and how does that affect the co-parenting paradigm? About Today's Guest: Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc., a coaching practice dedicated to helping people navigate their divorce or break up. Lindsey also specializes in helping people break free from narcissistic abuse, and is the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist. You can find Lindsey on her popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken or on her website lindseyellison.com.  SPECIAL OFFER:  To get Lindsey's special offer for listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast, "The Magic Words Downloadable Workbook" please click here! The workbook is designed to help you to go through the Mapping Their Persona exercise and the Assessing Their Fears and Insecurities exercise from Lindsey's book so be sure to download your copy today! ******************************************************************** SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************************** THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION: HELLO DIVORCE: Hello Divorce is a first-of-it's-kind DIY divorce website that allows individuals in California to complete the necessary forms for divorce as well as provides invaluable help with informative videos, articles, affordable legal advice and services all in an online platform and easy to use app!  Listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast can use the discount code "DIVORCEBEYOND" to receive $50 off the cost of any service or subscription!  Find out more at www.hellodivorce.com. LEARN TO MEDIATE ONLINE:  As one of the leading online mediation experts in the country, Susan Guthrie has created a simple and efficient online training program that allows mediation professionals to quickly and easily add an online platform to their practice!  The two hour online program covers the basics of conducting mediations through an online platform like Zoom, and reviews the ethical and practical considerations that arise in this format.  You even receive a copy of, and the right to use, Susan's Online Mediation Guidelines and Ground Rules to make your online mediations even easier for mediator and clients alike!  Learn more at www.learntomediateonline.com or reach out to Susan directly at susan@learntomediateonline.com.  Listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast receive $50 off the cost of the one-on-one training so be sure to mention that you heard about it here! ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ********************************************************************* Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook Susan on Instagram Susan on Twitter Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Instagram Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Twitter If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can also get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.  Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ***************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

34mins

17 Feb 2020

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[Rebroadcast] How To Co-Parent with a Narcissist with Lindsey Ellison

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

This week I am taking some time off to celebrate the Christmas holiday. If you celebrate Christmas, well then, Merry Christmas to you!  A break this week means no new podcast episode. But, I still got you covered.  Instead, I am re-airing my interview with Lindsey Ellison.  Lindsey is the author of the book, MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist.  Navigating co-parenting any time of the year can be difficult, but during the holidays it can be especially hard. In this episode, Lindsey and I discuss her step-by-step formula for creating a communication plan and script of empowering magic words that can help neutralize the power struggle that you have when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. She details exactly what to do, how to do it, and why it works. After you listen to this episode (and maybe even grab her book) you’ll be armed with information you can use to engage with your narcissistic ex with confidence and authenticity.  Here are just a few of the topics we touch on in this episode:  Providing your children with the tools to empower them and help them communicate with a narcissistic parent, without labeling the parent as one (to your children) Breaking the cycle of narcissism No contact messaging and why it’s confusing For show notes and more visit:  https://www.kateanthony.com/podcast-1/co-parent-with-narcissist-lindsey-ellison

58mins

24 Dec 2019

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106 Lindsey Ellison Interview

Loving Without Boundaries

EPISODE 106: Interview with Lindsey Ellison. Lindsey Ellison is founder of “Start Over Find Happiness”, a coaching practice dedicated to helping people through a divorce or break-up. She can be found at LindseyEllison.com, on Facebook @ThriveWithLindsey, her online course BreakFreeFromYourNarcissist.com, and on iTunes at “Start Over Find Happiness”. If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

53mins

12 Apr 2019

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How To Co-Parent with a Narcissist with Lindsey Ellison

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

This week my colleague, Lindsey Ellison is joining me to talk all about how to co-parent with a narcissist.  She is the author of the book, MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist. If you have an ex who’s a narcissist, you've probably read every book out there about communicating with one. And the advice always given is, go no contact. But for those of us who have to actually co-parent with a narcissist, that’s not an option. So what do you do if you have to continue to have a relationship with someone with whom you’ve struggled to have a relationship for, like, ever?In this episode, Lindsey and I discuss her step-by-step formula for creating a communication plan and script of empowering magic words that can help neutralize the power struggle that you have when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. She details exactly what to do, how to do it, and why it works. After you listen to this episode (and maybe even grab her book) you’ll be armed with information you can use to engage with your narcissistic ex with confidence and authenticity. Show Highlights Lindsey’s divorce story, how we’re divorce twins and when she realized she was married to a narcissist (4:00) What drove Lindsey to write a book about narcissism (7:27) No contact messaging and why it’s confusing (10:12) Act as though every engagement with your narcissistic ex as if it were a business transaction (11:09) Realizing you are the CEO of your life, the captain of your ship and in charge (12:53) Lindsey’s book and the MAGIC formula for getting what you want from a narcissist (17:45) You can have guarded compassion and boundaries with empathy (24:04) Assessing their fears and mapping their persona; and why doing so is in service to your children (27:06) The importance of identifying goals in every engagement you have (28:17) Narcissists and mom issues and how nurturing phrases can help with communication (31:03) Providing your children with the tools to empower them and help them communicate with a narcissistic parent, without labeling the parent as one (to your children) (46:33) Breaking the cycle of narcissism (45:53) Learn More About Lindsey: Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people navigate their divorce or break-up and also helps people break free from narcissistic abuse. Her newest book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, offers a step-by-step formula on how to create a communication plan, and provides a script of empowering “magic” words that can neutralize the power struggle.   Links: Lindsey on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ThriveWithLindsey/?ref=bookmarks Lindsey on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/startovercoach Lindsey on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDQRnkwWkOxZcTNbSEx_q8w Her book, MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist: https://amzn.to/2WfARDF Start Over and Find Happiness Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/start-over-find-happiness/id1074313116?mt=2 Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/shouldistayorshouldigo/

56mins

8 Apr 2019

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