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James-Olivia Chu Hillman

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people pleasing + when other people don't like you with james-olivia chu hillman

Be Real with Eliza Reynolds: Conversations About Mental Health, Friendship, Body Image & More for Big-Hearted Preteen & Teen Girls

Hey loves -- I used to reaalllllyyyyy not like it when people didn’t like me (ok, it’s still not the most comfy) and I’d spend whole days (ok, years) devoted to trying to get everyone to like me so I could have a ‘good’ day and feel like a ‘good’ person. If that feels icky and layered… it’s because it is -- and if that feels relatable at all (or you’re interested in why some people might feel that way) then today’s episode might be for YOU! James-Olivia is an ‘avid maker of mistakes’ and a ‘fellow work in progress’ who facilitates extraordinary, uncomfortable, life-changing conversations… and today’s episode was one of those for me! I mean I knew I was excited to talk to this amazing human… and then kind of whole universes opened up in my brain ;) You’ll hear us talking about disappointing others, why ‘good’ and ‘bad’ isn’t helpful, why being liked can feel linked to safety, caring about how others feel, and other things (amazing things!!). Come listen :) xoxoxo, Eliza The Badass Academy Membership is opening again in July! Get on the waitlist today: badassgirls.me/academy Find show notes and links from the episode at badassgirls.me/podcast/58!

1hr 5mins

8 Jun 2021

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MOTM #298: Self-Judgement, Hard Work, and Suffering with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Maestro on the Mic

I’ve had James-Olivia Chu Hillman on the podcast before (side note: go listen to our previous episode RIGHT. NOW.) but I needed to have them on again. Everything they say is pure gold, and if you aren’t following them yet, get on it.James-Olivia is a self-described inquisitive human. They are a lover and facilitator of uncomfortable conversations for those of us who want to suffer less and have more joy in our important relationships. James-Olivia is one part of the origin of MOAR you and their wisdom is unmatched by anyone else.When we recorded this episode, I truly had no agenda. Just wanted to sit down and chat and what followed was so, so, SO good. Is anyone surprised?In This Episode You'll Hear:What James-Olivia has been up to since July 2020Giving yourself the gift of starting smallCoaching as activismThe problem with mastermindsCreating a 3-year programWhat being a facilitator looks likeSetting boundariesSelf-judgement, hard work, and sufferingThe feeling isn’t the decision, the commitment isPutting people on pedestalsThe origin of MOAR YouWhat it means to be an introvertWhat James-Olivia has coming upLinks & Resources For This Episode:Find James-Olivia on Instagram: @inquisitive_humaninquisitivehuman.comMOTM #225: “Relational Fuckery”MOTM #228: Relational Fuckery, Antidotes, and Minding Your Business with James-Olivia Chu HillmanThe post MOTM #298: Self-Judgement, Hard Work, and Suffering with James-Olivia Chu Hillman appeared first on The Movement Maestro.

1hr 12mins

17 May 2021

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Moving Through the Journey of Relating with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Done Apologizing

James-Olivia Chu Hillman is a facilitator and enthusiastic advocate of necessary, uncomfortable, and life-changing conversations. They work with humans (mostly in small groups) who want more joyful connection and less suffering in their relationships with themselves, the people they love & lead, and the world. James-Olivia has a passion for asking questions that make us squirm a bit and point us back to who we are and what we care about most. In this conversation, Tami and James-Olivia jam on: *Recognizing our inherent and natural dependence and connection to others *Distinguishing between our needs and our desires *Being willing to readjust our boundaries and commitments by reflecting on how each experience lands *Tuning into our own resourcefulness to get our needs met *Knowing that we all have different ways of relating; that isn’t bad or wrong *Unlearning the story that when someone doesn’t meet all of our needs or expectations, it means that we are unworthy of love *Owning the responsibility of no longer having to fix yourself for someone else *Not apologizing for being where we are, even when it is unfinished and messy To connect with James-Olivia: Follow them on Instagram @inquisitive_human, visit their website www.inquisitivehuman.com. To connect with Tami: Follow her on Instagram @tamisasson_, visit her website www.tamisasson.com, or email tami@tamisasson.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tami-sasson3/support

1hr 1min

6 May 2021

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Ep. 4: Choice and Decision with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Creatively Relating with Vyana Novus

In this episode, Vyana talks with their mentor, James-Olivia, about the distinction between choice and decision, as well as some nuance around privileged. Full show notes can be found (free) at www.patreon.com/vyananovus where you can also contribute to supporting the show.Call into Creatively Relating to share your thoughts, questions, and stories anytime at 1-833-2RELATE / 1-833-273-5283

2hr 1min

17 Mar 2021

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Meaningful Disobedience, with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Real Talk Radio with Nicole Antoinette

James-Olivia Chu Hillman (they/them) is a facilitator and enthusiastic advocate of necessary, uncomfortable, and life-changing conversations. Our chat is filled with good squirmy questions—particularly about what it means to be in right-relationship with ourselves and others, and what can be gained by meaningful disobedience. To view a transcript of this episode, click here. More from Continue Reading…

1hr 6mins

1 Feb 2021

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Ep. 138 Unpacking Relational Healing with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

RECLAIM with Thais Sky

In this nourishing conversation with James-Olivia, we explore relational healing including what it means to be in right relationship with ourselves and others, how to make decisions with other people, and how to navigate righteousness. To grab the show notes including all the information on today’s guest, go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/138. If you like what you heard, it would mean the world to me if you took a moment to leave a review and share this podcast with your community. Thank you for your generous attention. XO Thaís Socials // Website: www.ThaisSky.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/IamThaisSky Instagram: www.instagram.com/IamThaisSky

55mins

19 Jan 2021

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On Relational Fuckery at Work with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Sustainably Human at Work

Right Relationship specialist James-Olivia Chu Hillman discusses the ways workplaces are set up to keep us from connecting as humans, and what we can do about it.James-Olivia Chu Hillman is a relational, life, and leadership coach, a mediator, facilitator, and enthusiastic advocate of necessary, uncomfortable, and life-changing conversations. They work with people who want more joyful connection and less suffering in their relationships with themselves, the people they love and lead, and the world.James-Olivia has a passion for asking questions that make us squirm a bit and point us back to who the fuck we are and what we care about most.Connect with James-Olivia:InstagramWebsitePatreonTension Holds Possibility (Holiday 2020)For full show notes and transcripts visit: 4needs.work/podcast/episode-13

13mins

25 Nov 2020

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18.0 Relational F*ckery with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Fierce Authenticity

Have you ever engaged in strategies to try and "win" another person over in your relationships at the expense of true intimacy?If so, you're engaging in what this episode's guest, James-Olivia Chu Hillman calls: Relational Fuckery.Listen in as James-Olivia and I speak about the ways we participate in losing strategies and relational fuckeries in our relationships with each other and ourselves. Some of my favorite highlights are:Asking yourself is there room for you in your relationship and is your relationship sustainable?What is right relationship, as defined by both James-Olivia and myself.The importance of regard in our relationships.How belonging cannot be conditional: We belong because we exist.And, that the root of all our relationship pain comes down to one thing: contempt.Resources James-Olivia and I talked about are:-White Supremacy Culture article by Tema Okun-Desiree Adaway-Dr. Jenn McCabe-James-Olivia's website and Regard programFollow James-Olivia on InstagramFollow Shirani on InstagramLet's have a convo! Take a screenshot and share this episode on Instagram letting me know what you got out of it, and be sure to tag me @shiranimpathak so I can respond!Contribute to the Sustainability and Accessibility of the Podcast over at: www.ko-fi.com/shiraniJoin the conversation: The Fierce Authenticity Newsletter Community over at www.fierceauthenticity.com/newsletterFor a complete transcript of this episode or to purchase Fierce Authenticity the book, visit www.fierceauthenticity.com

58mins

22 Oct 2020

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Episode 209: James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Work Alchemy: The Impact Interviews

As a relational life and leadership coach who wants people to be more joyful in their connection with themselves, with less suffering, James-Olivia Chu Hillman brings a societal perspective to relationships to this conversation.

42mins

12 Aug 2020

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Rooting into Right-Relationship in Uncertain Times with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Everything Belongs with Madison Morrigan

Today on the Everything Belongs podcast, we are in conversation with James-Olivia Chu Hillman. James-Olivia is a Relational Life & Leadership Coach and a mediator, facilitator, and enthusiastic advocate of necessary, uncomfortable, and life-changing conversations. They work with people who want more joyful connection and less suffering in their relationships with themselves, the people they love and the world. James-Olivia has a passion for asking questions that make us squirm a bit and point us back to who we are and what we care about most. In this flowy and deep conversation, Madison and James-Olivia discuss the idea that “in right-relationship there is room for you” from numerous perspectives, including systemic oppression, family systems, love relationships and our overall sense of belonging. They dive down the rabbit hole on the hierarchies of worthiness we have created in society and, in particular, the coaching and marketing industry. Madison and James-Olivia also take on the question: “How do we use our differences to relate to each other instead of punish and destroy each other?” Listen to this expansive episode here…In This episode We Talk about:How contempt actually looks more like believing we are either above or below other people, rather than that we dislike or hate themWhat is the lie of superiority?James-Olivia explores how "cutting people off" as a boundary practice doesn't actually end the relationshipThe privilege of being told and shown that you belong and are worthy, plus a nuanced discussion of what to consider when being in relationship with the current systemJames-Olivia and Madison talk us through breaking unspoken but accepted "rules" and how to be disobedient without being in oppositionWhere to find James-Olivia:James-Olivia's WebsiteJames-Olivia's Instagram

49mins

5 Aug 2020

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